10 Things: 1. Wasting time on nonreciprocal relationships. 2. Not prioritizing my friends sooner. 3. Trying to stay up on all of the things going on in the world. 4. Not placing strict boundaries around my time and energy. 5. " Shoulding" all over myself. 6. Overworking and staying "busy". 7. Not traveling as much as we could. 8. Not journaling as often as I should. 9. Not prioritizing alone time/quiet time. 10. Comparing myself to others all the time.

My dad once said something that I have found to be true. If someone doesn’t like you, great, if someone does like you, great, if someone blows hot and cold, don’t have anything to do with them.

The main resolution for 2024 for me it is to welcome and allow the company of people who like, respect and support me in my life and enjoying that energy together.

I know this video is about regrets, but I just wanted to chime in with a good thing that you did in 2023: your videos have helped keep me on track/in recovery (from several things) and I love how candid you are in all of them. 🥰 I even showed my own therapist some of your content, including a Q&A where you answered one of my ?s - & she thinks you’re great too lol 🙂 I hope 2024 goes amazing for you bc you deserve it ✨

Love how open and raw you can be. I love how you seem not to be scared to show your human side. This helps a lot especially since I haven’t been shown how to be a human correctly 😝

I'm thankful that you opened up about the non-reciprocal relationships! I'm joining you on that! Sometimes I feel like I'm a ghost when I'm reaching out. I was beginning to think I was the only one! Thank you for your realness.

I so relate. I moved to Austin in Aug 2020 after 28 years in the San Francisco Bay Area. At this point, I’m almost afraid to go visit, because I know I won’t want to come back. They made work from home permanent after I’d been here about a year and a half, so I’ve never met most of my coworkers in person. I didn’t know this before the pandemic, but what made my mostly hermit-like habits work for me was that I had people I socialized with at work. By the end of a day in an office, I’m ready to revel in my quiet alone time at home. Here, it’s the opposite. At the end of the day, I want to leave the house, but I really have no place to go. Lately it’s been movies, since the local theater does all-you-can-watch for $20/mo (since they make their money on concessions). I’ve seen everything, and some things twice, but I can feel that I need something more social. Wow, this sounds depressing. LOL! And it is, I guess, but I wanted to tell you you’re not alone. New location and no office is a bad combo.

I regret 98 percent of my life before 45 ...from 45 to 60 it's been acceptable even with cancer. Human Design has been a great help in discovering how I function at my best in life.

Number 1 is my biggest LIFE regret, not just 2023. I totally get it, and it really hurts to know I do this. Thank you for your videos, Kati. You've helped me so much over the past few years.

My regrets, isolating myself to the point of losing the people who actually care(d). Setting boundaries and then didn't uphold them. Stuffing my emotions down and when someone offered to help or listen, i turned it down. Not talking about my issues with C-PTSD like i promised myself i would. Not going no contact with my mother. Putting everyone's needs way before my own.

Thanks for sharing kati ❤

2023 was a rough year for me. Hope 2024 is different, but politics will be tough to navigate with it being an election year. Wishing you well, Kati

No1 is something I am totally guilty of. Not being able to respond to others in time. I try my best and then sometimes I feel overwhelmed and take my time to respond. Else, no real regrets, just plans for 2024. 2023 was a tough year, this will be better.

Thank you Kati Happy new year Don't regret a thing learn from it for future.

Can definitely relate to being overwhelmed by news. The last couple of years I've been consumed by news from Ukraine and how to best support people there and my brain just breaks off when new and horrible things happen in the world. Just "nope, can't take that in".

Thank you for finding the power to be vulnerable with us. It's truly therapeutic. I've cried with you a bit and now feeling somehow... reset to a more human state? Accepting my fragility and imperfection; assuming command over whatever I can improve, bit by bit. Thank you and happy new year ♥️

This is great advice ty no longer wasting time on nonsense

Dear Kati, thank you do very much for this video. So much of it resonated with me and I just feel a little less sad that I am not alone with similar dilemmas and regrets here. I too have made a few revisions about how I want to live in 2024 as opposed to 2023. I will journal more and I will go out for walks by myself hopefully every day or every other day. And sadly yes, I will have to stop to pursue fruitless friendships. I don't think that ppl I hoped to be close to don't necessarily dislike me. I just think they don't need my company nearly as much as I thought I needed theirs's. And it's ok. I don't want to waste time and get hurt anymore, so I'll just hope some day I do meet a true soul mate of a friend or two. I will make an effort though, just not chasing those same people. I will join a Spanish class or a book club or a pottery shop or something else that I actually enjoy and if I meet someone there it will be grand, if not - at least I wasn't completely wasting time.

I did the Artist's Way 3x. I know morning pages are very effective and life-changing. I will get back to the book, artist dates, exercises. Having photographed a lot in 2023 I felt creatively burned out around Christmas. Pages will be guidance ❤

#1….. spot on for me…. And making it not so personal…it’s ok… #4…..It.can. Be. Exhausting #6….. This can be so toxic… internally #7….. isn’t that the best… the world is amazing… all the history we have learned… then you look up at the sky, it’s the same sky, clouds, sun and moon you see at home These spoke to me. Bless you all. Hug yourself. You are enough.

no offence intended here lovely but i always get a sense of sadness from you, youre such a kind person but i just see sadness in your eyes, i always wish i can help in some way.. last year i found some things out about myself through the mistakes i made in the people i think i can handle, ego got away with me haha, and at the last part of the year, around my birthday i lost 2 friends and a friendgroup all over the stupid ignorance and selfishness of other people.. one friend who i was helping get over her ex and i shared her videos to you, shes likely watching this video too.. i wish i could reach out to you and be there for you as a friend, even if im a random british guy and time zones and just total differences in whoever we are.. i think the intent to want to help is enough to offer support in some way.. dont give up, keep being awesome and lets get through 2024 stronger than how we came in right? :D happy new year lovely.

A close friendship fell apart due to my friend’s hoarding and I kept second guessing all year if she really was being cold towards me or if she was just struggling. It had become necessary to tell her some true things and to set boundaries with her when she changed her goal of getting rid of both storage units by the end of the month to, “I’m just going to slowly sell things as I have the time and energy.” That’s not what I agreed to. I couldn’t keep making the hour drive there just to spend the majority of the time debating what was worth money. I thought she had maybe finally realized that she can’t take her stuff with her, but in the end, she couldn’t even part with obsolete computers or even floppy disks. 18 months later, she asked me to bring an object to storage because she had a buyer. She somehow didn’t remember that she gave me permission to donate it, so she yelled at me for doing so. 🤦‍♀️ So that’s why she tolerated me all year - because she still thought I had something she needed. I regret all the time I spent trying to make things better with her. She has become totally irrational.

Katie, after listening to your video, I purchased airline tickets to visit a good friend who has been wanting me and my wife to visit her. Thanks again for this important message.

I appreciate the concept of regret to assess what went wrong. It helps keep check. I also think it is important to simultaneously, diligently look at the things that are good and what we did right. It helps keep #5 in check because we need to keep reminding ourselves of what goes well. It also keeps a big picture about what is going on.

I've worked from home for 15 years. It definitely helps to have a place or room in your home for work, and you leave that space when you aren't in work hours.

Learnings. Not regrets.

Something that got very clear this past year (through journaling) is that I have a limited amount of capital to spend. I’ve therefore promised myself that in 2024 - “I’m spending my mental and emotional capital on things that are important and on people who deserve me.” This phrase is now on repeat reminders on my phone.

My regrets? Still isolating. Need to find the courage to be vulnerable

No regerts 😅

You need boundaries for sure. Also stop shoukding on yourself. Your such a lovely person and we ❤ you Katie

Thank you for being authentic and transparent with us. Thank you for sharing what you are going through and what you are learning about yourself, during this difficult time you are going through, with us. We are all human and we will continue to learn, critique, enquire, heal and work on ourselves till the day we die. You are my hero! I see so Much of you in myself. It has made me a little sad seeing you struggle lately, the sparkle isn’t in your eyes right now. I totally understand that feeling and I’m sure this work you are doing will pay off soon. As I have gotten a lot of tools, insight and help from your teachings and insights. Thank you for being you, for not being perfect (non of us are but you are not afraid to let us see your vulnerability and it brings authenticity to your messages) for sharing your thoughts with us and what you are doing to get on top of this difficult time. Cheer up darling, you deserve to have peace in your life, let people in and say no! lol hugs darling x

Okay, one more...I will be 75 this year. After 2016, through 2018, I was diagnosed and treated twice for cancer. Surgery and radiation "did for" my intestines. (Long story.) Since that time, my body has begun rejecting what foods I can consume. I'm down to 6 foods now--in miniscule amounts. I decided that I would do what I was willing/able to do. ( I believe only those who have had this and other life threatening diseases understand my perspective.) Family and friends who thought they could fix me by urging me to take specific (unrealistic) actions fell by the wayside, including one of my children. Some folks, even those who believe they love you, aren't willing to listen or understand. I may not see the end of 2024, but I'm not afraid any longer, or trying to appease any one who's invested in saving me or unwilling for me to stand within my own truth.

Wow, I can’t believe someone wouldn’t want YOU for a friend! Their loss!

I agree with #1 and I can't imagine you being a sales rep but blasting music in your car is always awesome

Kati i been a fan of yours since middle school and i’m currently 25 years old. Thank you for making mental health fun :) Also thank you for the work that you do. You help a lot of people including me want to live again. Let me clarify: Like for a lot of years especially my teenage years, i was suicidal and i felt no hope. But watching your videos has helped me tremendously. Through watching your videos, it helped me realize that I am okay. I regret feeling forced to live up to everyone’s expectations. And in 2024 i will not do that anymore. I can’t thank you enough because you truly have helped me. Having been a psych major myself, i felt a lot of pressure to be there for everyone when i’m the one truly hurting. But I realize that it’s okay to take breaks from that and focus on myself. Love you Kati💛 Keep being a queen!

Happy 2024, Kati! Thanks for all your hard work.

Like the ‘taking stock’, it encourages me to do that, yet it isn’t a negative shame on me! Thank you for your honest wisdom!

10:08 Journal people. It's one of the things that kept me sane, checked in with myself, and kept my goals in check.

Love your realness. When we're not hard on ourselves, but intentional, we cut ourselves a break and just learn and grow.

Today I realized I need to limit my media + news exposures. I realized the news, particularly the political, is driving me nuts & pulling me away from more important, life-enriching experiences + plans.

I don’t comment ever, but one none-regret you can have is this channel. Thank you. In fact I’m going to do my version of this episode right now. Re journaling - I find I can’t journal when I’m overwhelmed either. I’ve wondered if writing at that time cements the issues somehow (makes me sit too deeply in them) when i need to dissociate just that little bit for that little time. I’m learning to be kinder to myself when my core just won’t let me do something (like journaling) that I think I “should” be doing. Again. Thank you ☺️

I’m in total agreement with you about not making resolutions. I feel like it’s just setting yourself up to fail, and then beating yourself up and blaming yourself for those things. I could probably find more than 10 regrets from 2023- it’s been an incredibly difficult and sad year for my family. My biggest regret might sound simple to some, but believe me when I say that it’s larger than you’d expect. My biggest regret of 2023 is not taking all the photos. All of us, (or at least many of us) feel weird about having our pictures taken, whether it’s because of shyness, or not wanting to draw attention to ourselves, or body image issues. Whatever our reasons, we avoid it. Maybe it’s because we don’t want to be in the same picture with someone you’re not particularly fond of.. or maybe it is none of those reasons. But the thing I learned this year, is just what an important part photos play in our lives. Of course provides a visual representation of an event, or a special time in our lives , no denying that. But it also serves to evoke memories, and feelings, and to realize and remember that they’re a physical representation and reminder of our past, as well as our present, and of the relationships we have shared with each other. I have always been one of those people-hated to have my picture taken, and avoided it all costs, for many reasons. But this year, more so than any other, the reality of why it is so necessary, and why it matters, was brought home to me in a huge way. On May 30th, my youngest brother passed away, without warning, and under questionable circumstances. Obviously, it was a huge shock, and we’re still trying to understand it, and still grieving. My sister and I, now all that’s left of our family, we’re sitting together trying to put together a power point of pictures of his life, our family, etc. (she’s the keeper of the photos). We went through the entire collection, and there was NOT ONE single picture of he and I together- not one! And it broke my heart, that I would never have that physical piece of remembrance of our relationship. I have many wonderful memories, of course, but nothing I can actually hold in my hand, and say, “I remember…”. I will always regret it. So….. even if you don’t want to…..TAKE THE PHOTOS!!!

I gave up reading the news years ago and my life is better for it. I highly recommend. ❤

I hope to find effective care for my daughter who struggles with severe OCD and cPTSD as a wonderful person on the autism spectrum. Thank you Kati, and have a wonderful Happy New Year!🎉

It's all learning and growth. It's also okay to admit if moving was out of alignment with what you want.

Two years ago I moved by myself to a different state for work. With a few exceptions, I could say most of your list reflects how 2023 went for me. Thank you for sharing. Means a lot to me and quite a few others here I'm sure.

I don’t fully agree with number 1. Sure some people might just not like you but I have ADHD and replying to messages feels extremely mentally and emotionally exhausting. I overthink everything and put off replying until I have enough mental energy but then I never have the energy. I ghost people I love above everyone else. It’s one of the things I hate about myself. With that being said, if I lived near these people I would spend time with them in person because I find that much less exhausting.

Thank you Katie. ❤️

Love to Kati...You must learn to stop thinking so much all the time.

Life is about the journey not the destination. Thank you Katie!

My mom got taught. Say No 1st & you can always change your mind and say yes. To any requests or commitments. If you say yes right away, it's harder to turn that into a No.

First, I love the sweater you're wearing. The color is so great on you! I'm reading Know My Name by Chanel Miller right now (highly recommend to everyone), snd while introducing herself, she said, "I will put on four sweaters before I ask you to turn the heat on." That resonated with me. It's less a 2023 regret than a whole life regret, but in 2024, I plan to prioritize myself and instilling in myself the truth that I am worthy of being warm. 🥰

Yay for 2024! We got this!

To: Kati Morton. Happy New Year! “On this wonderful year, I wish you the best that life has to offer! May you be surrounded by love, laughter, and everything that makes life beautiful. Here is to another year of improving the world by being you!" "Wishing you a year as vibrant and full of life as you are. May your day overflow with happiness and unforgettable memories!" “I may not be by your side celebrating your special year with you, but I want you to know that I am thinking of you and wishing you a wonderful new year.” “I wish for all of your wishes to come true.” 💖

Thank you Kati!!!

I love that you show your emotions,it makes you real and real honest , your husband has a great lady 😉👍🏼

I appreciate how real you are in these. Protecting my energy and not wasting it on people and things I can't change is a major lesson this year

I hope you get back to your city a ton this year, Kati! ♥️

So true. Have learned a lot from last year. Not actually hanging out with people who don't like me. Even people who want to tell me who I am. I actually know myself. I have also worked a lot on myself. In every relationship there is a give and take. Without it there is nothing. Looks like I gave and gave to nothing. So I have stopped giving and giving. Quit my programming for nothing. Then they quickly disappeared. But breaking that pattern was no easy feat. But did the job. When I stopped being a people pleaser and codependent. I got hate mail. That I was fat, disgusting and ugly and have disgusting energy. I used to take everything to heart. Then became an inner voice that told me this. But know today that they are more about them than me. Turning 50 this year and being true to myself. I had to get real how I feel so I could heal. Also express myself. Communicate. Say stop and no. That has never existed in my life. Be a doormat. No more ever. Now the disgusting and the fat have taken revenge. Trains regularly. Found myself. I disappeared from myself as a 7 year old. Became a servant and fixer. Now I fix myself. Gives everything to myself first. Likes myself. Also wants to spend time with others who like themselves. But this job was the toughest I've done. Started August 2021. Fell into it. But got up. Took life as an experience. Also became an adult. Better late than never. Changed everything. Became who I was meant to be. Without programming.

A bit late here, but my goal at the beginning of the year still holds true 4 months later: mediocrity is underrated. Doing the bare minimum to just check the box - I still get credit. This mentality has actually helped me curb some of the perfectionist tendencies that allow me to get lazy (if I can't do it 100% then why even bother, right? WRONG.). Now i actually take a lot more steps - small ones, sure, but that's better than the ZERO effort I used to give.

Thanks for putting yourself out there, Kati, your videos are helpful and affirming. Happy new year!

Thank you for being so real with us. I hope this year is better for you and the rest of us. ❤

I need to hear this. again. Thank you Kati

I appreciate you. Thanks for all of the valuable content you produce. You change lives!

You are so real Kati. Thank you. 🙏

Listening to you is so helpful. Thank you so much!❤

Thanks for sharing girl Love and value your content so so much ❤❤❤ Happy New year

oh Kati, thank you. I will listen to this video again because you said a couple of things I really needed to ear. Wish you all the best for thi new year.

Happy new year, Kati! I hope this year brings you wonderful peace and happiness. Thank you for all the incredibly supportive, knowledgeable videos you constantly put out! ❤

YES!! THIS!! Why the Enthusiasm? Exactly because THIS video, in particular, (please use this one as future "model"/example): 1. gets right to the point of the Title/topic 2. stays focused ON it/doesn't ramble 3. is specific in its 1. 2, 3, "list" style. to say it yet another way: Focused Specific No Rambling Informative DO-able....................thats what makes "content" even EXTRA-valuable. Thanks much! 😄

Wishing you all the kindness and gentleness you can give yourself. ✌️😌💜✨

Thank you for sharing, you're so helpful💜 Happy New Year beautiful😊

I have watched your videos and have used your information in the podcast/ KZfaq show that I have with my husband. I wanted to thank you for that. You are a great person/ therapist and a lot of the self care regrets you are addressing are very important and it’s wonderful that you have recognized them and are taking steps to correct them in the new year. I’m sending you lots of positive energy and love for the new year.

Love this video

On your #1: I'm at a place in my life where I understand what drives me to seek out certain types of people. What even makes me interested in having them as friends? Why do I think they have something to offer me, when it comes to my emotional needs? And it turns out that is one very intersting thing to look into, in detail.

Happy New Year, Kati

Thank you so much ❤

Beautiful! I’m going to share this with my friend who is also a gorgeous therapist like you! I know it will resonate with her!!

Loved this! Great reminder. Journaling now.

Happy New Year Kati- God bless, we love you❤ Thanks so much for all you do!💙 2024 will be wonderful for all of us, God willing!💙💙💙💙

Thankyou ever so much Kati, You are so good at verbalising your own feelings and the reasons behind them and helping us come to a better understanding collectively. Be assured, you're not alone. And you will see birghter days soon as well! Keep safe, enjoy the simple, be blessed in everything you do this year. Take care ❤

Thank you, Kati, for all that you do!! Your channel has helped so many people. I know you have given me so many different ways to look at things, and you are helping me on my healing journey! And, for 2024, I agree-- I am not going to waste time on nonreciprocated relationships...it won't be easy, but, it will free up time and energy to enjoy the people I love who love me. Thank you for the reminder! Happy New Year!

Happy New Year 🎉

I appreciate you so much. Thank you for these videos.

I worked on boundaries in 2023. I'm getting good at saying no but I'm worried about saying no too much and missing out on some positive memories and meeting new quality friends. Side note, I found it easier in the beginning to say sorry in my head vs not saying it at all. One of the things I'm working on right now is inner child work. I'm almost done going through your Inner Child Workshop videos for the first time then I'm going to start on the homework. It seems like that might take a long time to get through.

Love your honesty.

I figured out 1-5 in 2022 and I used 2023 to implement it! Thank you for sharing yourself with us, it validated me, my choices and you indirectly let me know that I’m on the right path! Please be kind to yourself, I think that you are sometimes hard on yourself (as am I! Absolutely zero zero judgement) especially with filming late and not journaling! I didn’t journal as much as I wanted to last year and thats okay, I was in the present and you filming late was due to factors out of your control and I bet that you were still on schedule with uploading this video on the day that you wanted it! You are doing great Kati! Thank you for being a friendly voice to my inner child 🩷

I don't regret watching this channel! Happy New Year! 🎉

I want to let myself feel feelings without besting myself up about them. I am in a healthy relationship after a very long toxic one and I constantly find myself not speaking my mind because in the past showing my emotions made me "difficult". Letting myself be angry when I'm angry and talking about it rather than getting quiet and becoming resentful.

Hi Kati! Happy New Year : ) Thank you for this video. We love it when you share like that. I really appreciate the approach you took in making your list, and the role baby steps can play. Same. In addition to reflecting on what did not go well, and what I can work on / improve on and/or explore... I also find it really valuable to do a similar annual accounting of what went well; where I succeeded; what I am grateful for; where I did really well. I know you know the value in this.... but I also hear you sharing that you shit talk yourself, etc. (same) - so this is an area we also need to cultivate through clear thinking and self-compassion. I know I do not show myself more than a fraction of the patience and compassion I show my students, who I love so much. I suspect you can relate to that with your viewers & audience. Be nicer to our Kati! : ) We love you. *I* love you. I am glad you have some good friends from LA you can still count on - but I hate to hear you are having trouble connecting with like-minded folks : ( Who wouldn't want to be your friend?! I wish I could be your friend! You are smart, interesting, kind & funny : ) Anyone would be lucky to call you friend.

Love you Kati. You have no idea how much you have helped us all out here in Internet-land. Thank you for all that you do, and for all that you are. xx

Thank you so much for everything Kati! Your video’s and podcasts are really helping me through the toughest months of my life. Especially during the moments when I miss and can’t be with my therapist. Yes, I have attachment issues. Haha!

2024 is going to be wonderful. Filled with adventures and less regrets, I couldn't agree with you more! Thanks for sharing this. One of my New Year resolutions is to be more assertive. I've already started, it's going well 🙂

Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty ❤

Being vulnerable to ourselves and others is pertinent for growth and happiness. Happy New Year!🎆

Thank you for beiing you, with all your talents, doubts, dreams, emotions, givings, regrets and challenges. You being human leans me to accept beiing human. That's exactly wat I need. Wish you a fullfilling Katy-year 💚

Excellent goals. You’ve got this.

"good safe place" is code for "not going to find this for at least 3 years"

You’re good girl! Don’t entertain these negative thoughts! You’re goooooodd!!!!

Great topic!! Happy new year!! Great tips for the new year!!❤❤