Bonjour lovelies. What did you learn from your grand mother? Lots of love frederique xx

As a little girl I asked my Mother why she always slathered her face and neck in moisturiser at bedtime and she said "Because I never know who I'll be meeting in my dreams!"😉

My maternal grandmother worked hard to raise 5 children after her husband abandoned her. I don’t remember many things she told me and she was ill for the later part of her life and died when I was about 10. I do remember her humming hymns all the time. I remember my mom telling me that at one time, my grandmother only had 2 dresses; one she wore to work cleaning other people’s houses and one she wore to church on Sunday. From that I learned to appreciate and care for everything I had. I learned that family is everything. I learned from my grandmother’s life that a woman can be strong and feminine at the same time. I learned from my grandmother that you don’t have to talk a lot to leave a legacy.

I left the house ONCE without lipstick on. And ran into someone I knew. Never again. I always say 'dress like your going to meet the love of your life....one day you will be right'

My grandma's number one rule for all women, including me, was to always have/earn my own money and something saved on the side. She taught me that I have to use moisturizer, hand cream, and lip balm every day, plus clean my skin every night. That you have to wash your privates and change your underwear every day (I thought everyone did that), and find your perfect rouge and perfume (she used to say that if you find one ideal lipstick and perfume, you're all done with the makeup) and never go out without them. Also, since she was a dressmaker, she told me to always be aware of the trends but dress for my body type and not the fashion. Grandmas are great

My mother, her nails were always manicured, always polished she always had her lipstick on ,she may not have had much money, always clean, always a smile on her face, always class, you can be very classy and not be rich, we were not rich we were poor but my mother had class and I learned so much from her. I agree with all you said. We in America sure need more class.

My grandmother was from France. She was a HUGE influence in my life. She treated me like a princess in so many ways. She gave me perfume(age appropriate). She gave me a doll size mink stole! And the sweetest rhinestone French poodle pin that I have to this day! Oh her classy French ways are with me to this day!💕 Her name was Alphonsine! My beautiful grandmama!

My grandma taught me that putting yourself together in the morning was self love , but also a kind of respect towards people you were going to meet during the day.

Frederique, THIS is exactly what I needed to lift my spirits today. My mother was adamant about 1) no elbows on the table, 2) do not talk with food in your mouth, 3) Always carry your lipstick and a compact to touch up your powder, 4) classy women are NEVER catty and 5) Don't ever show up at someone's door empty-handed. Even if the hosts advise that all the food is covered. ALWAYS have something for the hostess, beautiful flowers, wine, excellent chocolates. What I wouldn't give to hear her life lessons just one more time. Thank you Frederique, for helping us all to the acknowledge the wonderful women who have influenced our lives...and that includes you. Cheers from Canada!

My mother was so refined. There were no elbows on the table, when you were chewing food you never spoke, you did not hold your silverware, you set it down until you were ready to take another bite. She wore very light make up, but it was always there. Always lipstick. Always kind. I miss her.

This video sparked so many memories of my mother. She was very much like your grandmother…all the same rules and lessons. When she was dying from Alzheimer’s, the doctors couldn’t understand why she wouldn’t let go. She wasn’t eating or drinking, but she was agitated. I was 1200 miles away, and it was difficult to think of her like that. I went to bed, and the next morning, I called and asked the nurses to put on her lipstick. She settled down quickly, and later that morning, passed away looking her best.

My godmother, who worked for Vogue in London, was my style icon. She used to bring us Vogue magazines and cosmetic samples. She was very stylish and always fashionable but in a way that suited her. She never went out without lipstick and her nails (not very long) were always beautifully varnished (no chipping). She wore a few simple pieces of jewellery which suited her perfectly.

Totally on point Frédérique! I never leave the house (even at 6am to walk my dog) without earrings and subtle lipstick. We should always look our best but not overdone.

My grandmother too never left the house without her red lipstick, Chanel perfume, and her blonde hair immaculate. Now that I am getting older, I’m so thankful for the way that she brought me up and taught me to be a woman. I do get such a shock sometimes when I look in the mirror without thinking, and there is my beautiful grandmother looking back at me. I am so thankful for her genetics, advice and DNA. Much love ❤️

I have an older sister and there's 20 years difference between us. She taught me from a young age of how to be classy and what to wear, she has a lot if knowledge of skincare and perfumes. She'd always take me to nice sophisticated places to have coffee or lunch, and id love it and I still do, its probably why I don't feel uncomfortable in these places. I agree with all those things you said, especially about not loosing your cool in tricky situations - attracting the wrong attention is not good.

I got lazy about lipstick and gloss when we wore masks all the time. Now I am back to lipstick wearing. My dog used to bark when he saw me putting on lipstick as he knew we we going somewhere.

Thank you for this video! I actually attended a baptism and I wore a pleated skirt, tweed jacket with a small polene purse, closed toe heels, earrings with my hair tied back. I was so shocked at how casual everyone dressed! We were all in church too! Someone said they loved my outfit but alluded to how I may have been overdressed. I respectfully disagree. My paternal grandparents passed away before I was born. I’d like to think everything feminine in terms of looks, presentation came from my paternal grandmother through my dad. He was very strict about making sure our clothes were ironed, we had spritz of perfume, our hair was neat, etc… that was her influence.

My grandmother was classy, educated, and very much a lady. She was dressed in the morning for anything that might happen that day. I never saw her in casual clothes - without earrings or lipstick. 😊💕

One of the things I learned from my Nan was that elegance is BASED on simplicity. She was also strongly against make up. I did not and do not agree with it but I do agree with her that nothing looks cheaper than too much of it.

One of my grandmothers was always styled to the T and looked like she wore haute couture. She loved to sew and draw. On all her travels she window shopped the classiest clothing stores, sketched the designs, hunted for the right fabrics, then sewed her outfits. She also sewed many of my sister's and my clothes, growing up. From her I know the importance of matching your clothes in a very classy way, down to your shoes and accessories. It has served me well, no matter how little money I had at a given time. Greetings from Austria 🇦🇹

I didn’t learn from my grandmother, but my mother never left home without lipstick and her diamond studs that my father bought her when they married. She had me caring for my skin by the time I was 11. I appreciate her “pretty is as pretty does” admonitions as well although growing up in the 70’s, I really didn’t want to hear it. To this day I love beautiful, well made styles with flair. Rest In Peace, mama!

My Godmother was French. She was a huge influence in my life as I spent many, many weekends with her and her daughter as I was growing up. She was a pharmacist and had impeccable beauty standards, selling beautiful products in her pharmacy. I have so many fond memories of her very particular ways and high standards. Every Friday was her "beauty day" and she would take time and money to take care of herself. I was truly blessed to have her in my life! ❤️❤️

Love it! Yes! All true. The lipstick story reminds me of my mom. Whenever my dad would come home she would hear him in the garage, she would rush to her room to put on lipstick before he saw her. I always thought that was funny. But she always wanted to look classy for him. She truly was a classy women in all respects. 💕

My mother never left the house without makeup. My grandmother would say you're not fully dressed without earrings. Thank you for bringing this up. I think we've lost some of this.

Oui, oui, oui! My husband and I are Cajun French and my grandmother was exactly the same. I always loved her straightforward attitude and little bit of sass. She was always telling my sister and me those same things.

My mother still is extremely classy! When I was 4, she and my father both worked. This was 1960. My mother always looked so classy! She wore seemed nylons and the seem was perfectly straight! Her clothes were always stylish. She made many of her clothes by copying designers. She also got me ‘hooked’ on Shalimar! I have been weary Shalimar for 52 years! My grandmother was also a classy woman. I learned style from both of these amazing women!

I think this is excellent advice, especially controlling temper! When we chose to rage, it can also affect our health. So, staying calm makes us look classy and stay healthy. :-) love your videos!

Love all these tips! When I was pregnant, a lady bumped the back of my car in traffic. We pulled over and got out to see if there was any damage (there wasn't). But when I got out with my big pregnant belly, she fell apart "Oh my gosh! Of COURSE I hit a pregnant woman!" She started to cry. I said "Hey hey...its ok....this baby is in bubble wrap. Everyone is ok!" I gave her a hug and we went our separate ways. Stay classy girls!

I taught my daughter what my mother taught me, always look your best when leaving the house. Too many people today believe it doesn't matter anymore, but it sure does.

I loved my grandma and she taught me all the lessons I apply when it comes to style and good manners. She took etiquette and fashion lessons with a French lady and therefore I learned from from her. She always said “you can buy luxury but not class” and “vulgarity is just an extra accessory or a chewing gum away from elegance”. Beautiful video as always!

Great video, My mother who used to work in one of londons fashion houses during the end of war 2 always told me to wear mascara to enhance your eyes and NEVER pluck the tops of your eyebrows and even dont pluck your eyebrows as they frame your face, she also told me to walk tall and have very good manners. Also I never knew my grandmother.

I'm a goth, and my mom died when I was young but I'm still mindful of what she was able to teach me.

Every woman needs to hear this! My grandmother taught me similar things, she was always dressed to the nines, makeup and hair done, always smelled amazing and had impeccable manners. She was the one who raised me and I miss her everyday. Watching your video felt like she was giving me a little nudge...Thank you Frederique🙏💖

Ladies, no cheap perfume, please. A good quality perfume is a must. I've never received a complaint about my perfumes. However, cheap perfume is much like being around cigarette smoke, one must escape to untainted air. Save up and find a beautiful quality scent that you love. And wear it for others to enjoy and remember you by.

Really great video as it highlights that wearing expensive clothes does not make you 'classy'. What makes you classy is what you said - your manners, not eating with your mouth open, clean nails, being calm. My mother never me let me eat unless I was sitting down, so never walk and eat - very unclassy. Also make sure your shoes are clean and not curled up at the end (shoe trees when not being worn). Never wear clothes that are dirty or need mending. Great video as it shows ANYONE can be classy!

My Grandmother was a seamstress. she had rules for dressing and etiquette I constantly broke. The other day I threw on black loafers, a belt of questionable color and a simple canvas tote to go grocery shopping. I could hear my grandmother go..tsk, tsk..I told you to make sure your belt and shoes match color and then your handbag can be what you want...lol. I changed my belt. TY for sharing your memories!

I love this video! Great reminders 😘My grandmother was the same ! I never saw her without lipstick and earrings. She always wore Chanel #5 .. I find myself following in her footsteps.. her home was elegant.. her name was Jewel .. how appropriate..❤️

Three cheers for being KIND! We need more of that in the world today! Love you bunches for putting it out there!♥️♥️💋♥️😊

My French Mother was a huge influence! From the way to dress, wearing proper undergarments, to manners and posture! Chanel No.5 was her fragrance and Norel❤️ Pure class.

My mother was terminally ill at the time of my daughter’s high school graduation. We had a huge party planned and she bought a trendy, fun dress. I took her to her dr appointment just prior to the party and will never forget it. She told the dr. to remove her portable chemo because it would be visible with her party dress. The dr. refused but she persevered and won out. She looked great in her party dress as she danced the night away. What an example of courage and class.

Love this!! The women in my family were always so put together!!! Yes!! Their hair, makeup, nails clothes shoes accessories everything all the time. And fragrance was a necessity!! I am 55 and I still do not ever leave the house unless I am put together because like my grandmother used to say you get up and get ready for your day no matter what because you never know what might happen or where or if you may need to go out. The women of today have lost their way 🤷🏻‍♀️ pjs in public no makeup hair a mess I don’t understand it.

You are so right, smells are very evocative. If I smell burning garden leaves and twigs it takes me back 65years to my grandfathers vegetable garden in the autumn. I was always told good manners cost nothing but mean everything.

My grandmother was an amazing role model! She was always put together, never left the house without lipstick. Loved a red lip! Love your videos! Thank you!

1-Thank you for sharing who the great woman was in your life. 2-I think it was their generation...even though my grandmother was in a different nation she said all the exact same things. I think all over the world how you presented yourself and manners was valued more than it is today. 3-My dad used to say not having money does not equal to being dirty. You may not have a lot but can be presentable.

I loved this video. It made me think of my mother who always said, "when you go out, you never know who you will meet!". There are so many, like always smell nice like you say. Even if it's not perfume, just be clean. There is some nasty hygiene seen in some women. Also another one is wear good underwear, not only will you feel good but you will feel confident. I also think a great haircut does wonders too. Great video, thanks.

All great points and I do wear perfume in San Francisco. I think as long as it’s subtle, no one except someone super close to you will / should notice, and then, I frequently get complimented for smelling nice. Regardless of location, strong scents are always a bad idea. Scents definitely create long lasting memories just like Proust’s madeleines, a scent triggers a flood of memories subconsciously associated with a particular scent, whether a flower or your grandmother’s perfume.

Frederique I loved this little "chat" to remind us of our strengths and to embrace it all 😘😘 I am putting the lip gloss back in my purse.😉🙂

I do all of these things because I feel this is the way I want to live my life. I was not brought up this way, however, I just somehow figured it out! 😅

Oddly enough the person who taught me to be a woman and more lady-like was my grandfather. He always told me to look polished, wear makeup that compliments me, a style that flatters my body, and above all confidence. He used to tell me that confidence is the final touch to a woman's look, if she believes that she is classy everyone else would too.

My father always told us (me and my sister) to cross the leg when we sit, no sound and close the mouth while eating, always shower and change pyjamas as soon as we woke up in the morning. In my early 20s one of my grandmother told me to put make up even if you are at home, just light face powder or eyebrow. Now looking back I thank them to be tough when we were little.

My grandma she had the most influence on me she was a skin care addict & loved perfumes a very classy fashionista 😂

Great video as always! It melted my heart when you talked about your grandma because mine was kinda like that too, such a classy lady. All i know about style and manners are because of her. Please appreciate and honor your grandmothers everyday🖤

Wow F. These were all on point. I totally agree with the lipstick 💄 (cutting the grass, shoveling), my earrings and my beloved perfume. Eyebrows are also a must when going out. You always look amazing. Your exceptional personality and smile always shines. I love this. 🥰❤️

My paternal and maternal grannies 👵🏾❤were cosmetologist who owned their own salons, one in Philadelphia and the other on Brooklyn. Check up from the neck up!!! From head to toe you betta know!!! I love all these beautiful comments of women paying homage to the matriarchs....I thank God for mine. Great video FB👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯💯💯

My grandma passed away one year ago next month. She was the most gracious person. She would have loved your channel. She did everything you said to do before leaving the house. Thank you for reminding me of her "checklist before going outside your house!" I love your imitation of people chewing gum or food with their mouth open! My personal pet peeve!

My grandmother was the greatest influence in my life, a true “gentlewoman” and of French extraction btw. :)

It depends which country you come from or which class. I was brought up in the UK, middle class and the main advice was always dress appropriately for the event/situation. I live in the countryside and no one wears lipstick to clean up after the dogs or mucking out a stable. Also the weather plays a big part so warm and good quality clothing in natural colours is de rigour

I lived with my grandmother for a little while and she taught me the importance of impeccable hygiene, particularly neat and clean hair and properly cared for hands and feet. All these years later, I still dedicate my Sunday afternoons to giving myself a manicure and pedicure because I am absolutely miserable if my hands are not perfect for the week ahead. (By the way, I relate so much to you in all your videos and realized that it is because my birthday is only 3 days after yours [04/01/1973] so it is like you are my "spirit sister". I am so grateful to have discovered your channel and you have genuinely motivated me to work on becoming the very best version of myself from now on. Merci.)

My Granny was born in Victorian times, so her attitude was that only wicked women painted their faces and bleached their hair! She was a working-class woman from Glasgow, Scotland, and she did not have a lot of money for clothes, but she was always neat and tidy, and never left the house without a hat and gloves, woollen gloves in winter and cotton ones in summer, because it was just not ladylike to do anything else. She was “of her time” as they say. She died when I was quite young, but everyone says I am like her, not just in looks but in attitude, so there must have been some influence passed down. I think that looking well-presented is both self-respect and respect for others - you feel good yourself and others feel happy that you made an effort to please them. Now, of course, times have changed and while Granny might not have approved, I feel it is much better to wear makeup and do your nails than to look like you just could not be bothered. The trick is to be subtle and know when to stop - you don’t want to look like one of those wicked women!

I would never leave the house without my makeup on. My mum was like a model, and she never left the house without being all put together, and I have always done the same. I wish more people did it just to be nice for other people to see you; it makes a huge difference and always good manners. Thank you for the reminder. :)

Just found you Frederique! I love your videos and you’re so right about manners! They’re definitely dying out in the UK! 💗

I liked the video very much, Frederique. It's so light, optimistic but at the same time down to earth. I absolutely agree that 'class' is good attitude, good habits, good manners, good grooming and confidence and not remotely expensive clothes or cosmetics. Although good sense of esthetics doesn't do any harm either.💕

Another wonderful video! I never knew my mother (she passed when I was a baby). I also never knew my grandmother. Thank you for sharing your stories with all of us. Love, love, love you Frederique! See you next time! ❤️ Suzy

Love the stories & photos of your grandmother….thank you for sharing your memories while sharing the tips. I totally agree with these tips. Merci ❣️

I LOVE your grandmother! Mamie.... my mother always wore lipstick & mostly heels & skirts. She & her family were really stylish. I am trying to be more attentive to this & to "use & abuse femininity".. thanks Frederique that was a brilliant video (what a beautiful pair your grandparents were)

I loved this one. The only section that made me sad is that I have a back deformity and I don't like having to explain to people who comment, how I unfortunately cannot sit up straight and neatly anymore. My grandmother always said if you use vulgar language people don't listen to the message. By you saying, " you scared me!", the message really sinks in.

I have started using coconut oil on my skin which has gotten very dry. I don't want to smell like coconut however so I added a few drops of rose essential oil and it's lovely!

Love it! My grandmother didn't get the mail without lipstick. When she was older and going for chemo, she'd show up with classy clothing and "her lips on." All of the docs and nurses loved her!

Great video! What reveals your character is how you react in situations and how you respond (don’t react) to others. Preach!

I grew up in Peru and my mom would never leave home without a little make-up and her hair perfectly brushed. She taught me to do the same and said you never know who you are going to run into. I also always wear a little perfume before I leave the house.

My grandmother was French as well and would never be caught anywhere, even in the house without lipstick. My high school best friend's mother would say 'no southern woman leaves the house without earrings' I have obeyed these rules ever since! 😊

Yes! So thankful for my classy ( and straight to the point) Grandmother and all she taught me! ❤️

I love the story of the lipstick 💄 my mum used to never go out without her lipstick even just going to the shop , lovely video thanks

Love it! Been abiding by to many of those rules already but it's lovely to see those simple rules reiterated. Love your content!

Frederique, je t'adore!!!!!! 😍 The woman who influenced me the most was an aunt. She was and is stylish and sooo classy! I aspired all my life to have her style but with my little touch!

You are very beautiful, and I love the thought about not giving in to road rage, etc. I’m a huge fan of women like your grandmère, who believed in wearing lipstick before she left the house. ❤️

Oh, chere Frédérique😍, what a touching video again! We will remember our precious older ladies always, indeed! My grandma was asking me to wear dresses👗, to smile😊 and to take a good care of myself💃🏻, and "to share my secrets only with the pillow"😅... Thank you for sharing your experience with us and wishing you a wonderful new week ahead! Love, love, love! ❤

My Grandmother was the same. Such a lady till the end! I learned my beauty routine from her. She would do such delicate lady like things every day. She smelled like a woman. I can't describe how lovely she smelled but almost like a flower that was on fire! I never leave the house without lipstick and mascara. I love being a woman because of her! I miss her every day! You inspire me as well! Love you !

Agree with You. Im french Parisian as well. I had Grandmother's and Auntie's and Mum very beautiful. I carry it on. 😊💜💐

My Mum was a very elegant & poised lady, who was a cross between Audrey Hepburn & Elizabeth Taylor. She made casual look chic. I wish I had her knack.

I learned a lot of things from my grandmother 👵 but she never said anything about fashion she alway told me to be kind,helpful,loving. I always remember her calling me in Italian smiley i was always smiling even when I had a bad day. Until now I always think of her love for me and I miss her. Thank you for reminding me of all those years ago. God bless.

Love watching all your videos, your giggles and your ideas. THANKS so much 😃

My grandmother always made sure our clothes were clean and ironed. No gum and yes!, always lipstick and dressed for the day. Even when she was sitting in her porch her dress complimented her shoes.

I've just recently subscribed to you and I think you are wonderful and your video today was on point, my late mother was very glamorous and taught all my sisters and I to have high standards, I never leave home without checking my hair, makeup etc. Talking of bad habits, I don't tolerate lound eating and bad manners to staff in restaurants shops or anyone who is serving their community, my mother used to say always treat people they way you would like to be treated with respect & of course with love. Thank you, I love your videos.

Love love this video, class is the optimal word ! Thanks for the reminders .

Wow, your Mamie was a looker! Loved the first photo of her, and how classy she looks in that swimsuit that makes the most of her figure. My grandmother was strict on being polite and using good language (no slang), and also never left the house without lipstick. If family was expected for lunch, she would put lipstick on. She wore corsets all her life until her mid-70s, when she finally decided that in winter she'd wear slacks and a jumper rather than a fitted dress, and the corset wasn't so necessary. Because she kept out of the sun, she had the creamiest, most beautiful skin. I never saw her lose her temper; she was a lady through and through.

I agree with everything on your list, especially neat nails and good manners!

I love you Frederique!!! You are so fun!!!

There is nothing wrong with emphasizing your looks and being feminine. Sure, we are smart but that doesn't mean we can't also be pretty....

I also feel more put together if I put an item of jewelry on, usually a necklace or earrings.

I wasn’t allowed gum! My mum sounds like your grandmother! Always beautifully made up, always manicured and always slightly understated but well dressed. I’m a big lippy fan, never without it I keep coloured lip balm in my car, have different lipsticks in each handbag for emergencies! Always a touch of fragrance even to go ride my horse! Your hair looks nice in this video, nice and bouncy. I have really long thick hair but it goes frizzy really easily so I pop it in a bun if it’s damp weather.

Love this video to the max ❤️ i will rem what u mentioned and put into practice

I love your grandmothers swimsuit. She had a wonderful sense of style.

GREAT VIDEO!! My grandmother was my rock❤️❤️ she never went out without being put together from head to toe!! That was daily for her. I still miss her wisdom and common sense🙏🙏 she was an amazing woman and I learned a lot from her that I practice in my daily life. Love you my friend❤️❤️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙏😘

You’re speaking my language- my mother always taught me to look neat and put on lipstick before leaving the house and also make sure you look good when your husband comes home. Agree with everything you’re saying - and I’ve tried to teach my daughters the same. 😊

I would love to see a video on femininity. I believe, at least here in America that it is a lost/not taught art. Some women seem to confuse dressing overtly sexy with femininity. Too much of. . .everything, I suppose? (Makeup, cleavage, tight jeans with underwear hanging out. I am not prudish but any stretch of the imagination, but less truly is more. I love love love your videos!

Great advice as always. Keep up the great work!

Yep! Had a grandmother the same way. Classy, independent lady.❤

Love the illustrations in the corner boxes! They encapsulate everything in just a moment.

I agree about the lipstick; I even wear it to walk the dogs in the woods. I also always wear perfume, I think it's only fair to smell nice for the Sherman as for the office.