20 Harsh lessons I learned at 38 but wish I knew at 20

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Ай бұрын

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Hi lovelies, today I'm sharing with you 20 life lessons and harsh truth about life that I know now in my late 30 that I really wish I knew back in my 20s because it would have save me so much time, headache, heartache and money. Enjoy!
Love, Poppy xx
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@danirogerc Ай бұрын

1) No one is coming to save you: life is consistency 2) A good relationship takes sacrifices 3) Building wealth is about owning assets: real estate, equity 4) Pros and cons don't work, what will you regret not doing? 5) Health is the main priority, not aesthetic 6) Black swans happen 7) Don't be afraid to change 8) Be able to lose your old self 9) Lifetime learning 10) Don't blame others, learn to work around, how did your actions contribute to this? 11) Grass is always greener 12) Try and fail 13) Be the partner that you want to have 14) No one thinks about you as much as you 15) All your actions compound over time 16) Internet keeps lifetime archive 17) Fuel your body accordingly (food choices) 18) Shed people 19) Wedding is for a day, marriage is for life 20) Control your reaction to outcomes and events

@lisashikuku Ай бұрын

thank you

@imenebni5854 Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@funnygirlever 23 күн бұрын

❤

@YJo1223 29 күн бұрын

"No one thinks about you as much as you think about yourself"

@HerNewHabits Ай бұрын

After 3 years of marriage I've come to the conclusion that comparing your relationship with others is a waste of time. Everyone is different and as you said, everyone creates their own boundaries. My partner and I create a unique union that will never be the same as other couples in social media or even real life. Thanks for sharing this! I love your videos!

@MsPinkyyy717 27 күн бұрын

Do you mind giving examples of what you mean by creating a unique union?

@JenniferAguilera 19 күн бұрын

thats super beautiful! and honestly a really important lesson and learning that i feel we need to implement more of. comparison robs us of the beauty to actually CREATE and shape our own relationships into whatever we want them to be. 💗

@joyfullysimple 28 күн бұрын

Wonderful video. We are about the same age (I am 37) and I agree with all of these. Another one I want to add is: You are responsible for your own happiness. You cannot expect your partner, friends, family or children to make you happy.

@mindy1670 5 күн бұрын

Lesson I learned over the years "stop looking for yourself in others"

@YJo1223 29 күн бұрын

I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. -i felt that.

@ya9321 29 күн бұрын

The "no one is coming to save you" hit me hard. I'm 26 and in my culture I should've been married but I'm not. A man is expected to take care of the woman which I am not against but when you also tie in the the factor that marriage is lifelong and not just a wedding night , you realize being with a partner that you actually see eye to eye with is hard. I am now going to be going back to school for my masters in counseling and aiming for a career to take care of myself.

@JenniferAguilera 19 күн бұрын

good luck with your masters!!!! 💗

@ya9321 19 күн бұрын

@@JenniferAguilera oh thank you🥹🤍

@JenniferAguilera 19 күн бұрын

@@ya9321 absolutely!!! 💗

@armyengene888 6 күн бұрын

Are you Indian?

@NoneYa-pg6dk Ай бұрын

The opportunities will arise when it is time. -work hard, but don’t beat yourself up to achieve your goals. You’ll own that house or that car as long as you continue to make conscious decisions. You don’t have to have those things all at once. Trust yourself is the key to peace. -do not rely on what you have, income, status, job title, etc. to define who you are. Trust that whatever comes your way, you will figure it out.

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Love these thanks for sharing!

@nari1071 Ай бұрын

38 😦 i dunno about u guys but she looks 27

@user-ul8tn3nt4x Ай бұрын

Yes I agree

@bugra320 27 күн бұрын

makeup

@jivan5843 26 күн бұрын

It's the Asian genes

@alwaysdisney2665 17 күн бұрын

@@bugra320 she looks even younger without make up lol didnt you watch the clips?

@bugra320 17 күн бұрын

@@alwaysdisney2665 no she doesnt

@flourishwithzel Ай бұрын

Hello dear, I just would like to thank you for sharing these content with us. At 33, whenever I listen to motivational talks don’t inspire or motivate me anymore, unlike when I was in my 20’s where I get inspired and start going for my dreams. However now in my 30’s, nothing excites me anymore. I learned that learning new things, and other people’s stories inspire me more to create my own, and to rediscover myself and what I love to do. Knowing more about myself, and the purpose of my life keeps me going more than aspiring to become rich and successful. I don’t know.. but I just became lowkey and relaxed nowadays, simple things make me happy. Oh and I don’t have a partner yet, but somehow I’m still at peace and happy I have so much time to do all the things I wanna do and just focus on becoming a better version of me. I realized that before someone commits to me, I must commit to myself first. Your videos help me realize these things. Thank you for doing what you do. ❤

@Uncommony Ай бұрын

Best thing I learned is that not everything is possible but so so much is possible. Stay Uncommon!

@pamfan221 Ай бұрын

It's a humble admission of yours that in the past, you expected romantic overtures from your partner while not stepping up equally to do the same. It's something we, as women, are conditioned to expect -- to always be the recipients of these lovely gestures. And the occasional unexpected gift IS lovely! But it's absolutely poor taste to keep upholding a higher standard for your partner than you yourself can satisfy. I try to be very aware of this in my personal life, and it's good to see you share this so others can be aware too.

@Pharaoh_The_Great 24 күн бұрын

Fake it til you make it… don’t ever show your cards. 🃏 Instagram is a prime example. Everyone looks happy, taking trip pics and looking rich.

@jessicabird5189 24 күн бұрын

This was lovely to watch, thank you for sharing!

@joshwim8 Ай бұрын

Needed this today ❤

@alinerichter Ай бұрын

Thankss! You gave me some very important fundamental aspects and advice for life. I recently realized I need a big change and in order to change I need to let go of things. Thanks to your insights I regained motivation in order to do so and become the main character in my own life again!! 😊

@snobgoblinDK Ай бұрын

This was the kick in the butt I needed today. Thank you! And I have come to the same conclusions just turning 40 💪🏻

@GoldenKay19 Ай бұрын

This video is perfect and straight to the point thank you very much 💖

@RealBoravann Ай бұрын

Appreciated and thank you for sharing ❤

@northguy2367 Ай бұрын

Poppy - very happy to see your new 'life reflections' videos are getting you the following that you deserve.

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Hey there, thank you! I think the universe listens when doing what feels right. Hope you're doing good!

@astrostar49 Ай бұрын

Hey boss. Thanks for another biscuit of wisdom. I think a lot of us folks feel just a tad bit more courageous, and maybe even invincible with your insight in our pocket. Happy weekend. Already looking forward to the next video :D

@GoodVibesOnly76 Ай бұрын

Thank you Poppy !

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Anytime ❤️

@jonpauldelange Ай бұрын

Wonderful insights! But why did you call them harsh truths? May I suggest #21? Remember to integrate your wins and give yourself grace. Integrating your wins improves confidence and empowers you to reach for more. Giving yourself grace is so important when things don't go as expected. I wish I'd had the insights in my 30s that you have now (and really lived by them). You're exactly where you need to be in your life right now, and on your way to the next best version of yourself. Enjoy the ride. Based on what I've seen in your content, you're doing great! 🎉 P.S. Thanks for the SkillShare suggestion! 🙏🏼😊

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Thank you for the 21st tip! 🙌 And I do agree, appreciating the wins and giving yourself grace is certainly something we all should learn to do more. I'm trying to practice gratitude every night before bed and that's kind of my version of integrating the the daily wins and it really helps me having a better mindset about the day and gives me strength to deal with the next 😃

@jonpauldelange Ай бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy I so agree. Having an attitude of gratitude - even for the things that don't go well - makes a big difference. What a wonderful practice to have at the end of the day. 👏🏼 If you haven't seen Wayne Dyer's talk about programing our subconscious mind, you might enjoy this: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gdyjYMJjl9LbmnU.htmlsi=CV3ZlHFgWogTs-my 😊

@sereneshen6576 28 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing these honest truth❤. Recently a lot of things has been happening in my life and i really need some encouragement in an honest way rather than saying honey coated words.

@RealandRelatablePodcast 8 сағат бұрын

Love your videos babe ❤ keep up the great work

@shanaj74 Ай бұрын

Thanks for being here and sharing valuable lessons. It’s a good reminder. Sometimes we have done the work and are doing the work but we still need to change our mindset to positive. Make changes if need be but keep pressing forward. And find the positive if you are doing the work. Appreciate the things you are doing and have already done. 💕

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@Alexander-rn7pv Ай бұрын

Thank you for this vlog👍

@산림치유 Ай бұрын

Thank you!

@ko_grindz Ай бұрын

I’m in my twenties trying to embrace everything I have in the moment. Making the best out of my twenties is so important. Your video gives me that motivation❤

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that - thank you!

@IAmChosen9925 Ай бұрын

Life is a journey... Embrace everything, the good and the bad life will be worth living.

@JenniferAguilera 19 күн бұрын

thank you for sharing 💗 lets get our dream lifes yall

@M.Sweatha Ай бұрын

Me being a soon 26 year old adult,feeling behind my peers and wasted my entire youth with no talent and overwhelmed to restart my life😢 kindly do comment, if you have something to tell me ❤

@GoldenKay19 Ай бұрын

You are not behind focus on you and what’s important you will get there 💖

@M.Sweatha Ай бұрын

@@GoldenKay19 Thank u so much for your kind words 💛 God bless u 🙏

@nia.gregory Ай бұрын

You are still young. Start the life you want to live right now. I am almost 38 and my youth was wasted. I have to start over in certain ways too.

@M.Sweatha Ай бұрын

@@nia.gregory thank u nia💛

@DNA350ppm Ай бұрын

All your life-experience up to now, have prepared you for what is ahead of you. Think about the lessons you've learned. Be brave and take new steps towards what really matters for you! The word "talent" is a trap. Clear misson, grit, humility to learn and improve and change, being mindful about where to put in one's energy, and what to let go - these are better assets than talent. Keep an out-look for a mentor, which even could be a video or a book to start with. If you procrastinate, baby-steps are the way out of the rut, and not over-thinking (self-criticizing) too big. Sometimes breaking down tasks into five minute portions release the overwhelm-blockades - you don't need to like that little portion, just do it, if you know it would be more meaningful than doing nothing, and you do know it. OK? Feelings are not our best guides, but our core values are. Write your core values, for example on your bathroom mirror, and do smile and nod when you read them, do say Yes! aloud. You are not quite adult, yet, and needn't be. For many the best years come after 50, but don't drag your feet, just because of that statistic. Allow yourself to be fully alive, just as you are in this phase of your life. Ask yourself what that would mean, make a guess, and try it out. You can do it - keep guessing and trying, the picture of who you are, what you want, what you are capable of, it all gets clearer, by and by. And then it also might change when needs be. All the best wishes. Thank you for opening up to asking for suggestions. One day you are going to be a very good mentor yourself, with that honest and open mindset!

@Uma.May1 Ай бұрын

I agree, definitely better to try and fail than not at all. Love this video Poppy. Hope you’re settling in well 😘

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Hey it's getting easier as the week goes by. Hope you enjoyed the video hun, thanks!

@romansoehuazelei1925 Ай бұрын

Absolutely right. I agree

@yashodararajapakse3181 Ай бұрын

Great content Poppy.. as always 😍

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Thank you!! 😁

@djceddy6945 27 күн бұрын

Thanks for making us be real. Love it Poppy. Its kiff.

@danakuoch6221 2 күн бұрын

Thank for the video. It helps me a lot on the decision dilemma. lesson learnt "Pros and Cons list are useless when it comes to life decisions"

@brighterwithnzu392 21 күн бұрын

This is a good listen

@stefa22 9 күн бұрын

8:26 Love it 💁🏽‍♀️👏🏽

@sathomas7 2 күн бұрын

I wish I knew that it takes more than love to sustain a healthy relationship. You have to truly do the work for yourself.

@alinabelousova 11 күн бұрын

I wish I knew in my 20s that "done is better than perfect".

@victorcretu7741 4 күн бұрын

I knew these things at 20. However, our lives are rather driven by the choices we made than things we did not know.

@foolproofmethods 28 күн бұрын

Im also in my 38.. good info..

@Chris-hp2gg 27 күн бұрын

With age comes wisdom.😂

@SweetAesthete 22 күн бұрын

Did we just become best friends? Lol i am married happily for almost 10 years but I can so relate! Youre so right! Comparison is the thief of joy!!

@californiapopy Ай бұрын

Jesús is. ❤

@bhonorable_ 6 күн бұрын

My favorite life rule no. 12 better try and fail than live in regrets

@transcendencestein 25 күн бұрын

What you haven't mentioned is that I've always wanted to find an Asian woman to be my life partner and based on your example I'll start looking among Thai girls now. Thank you for that hint. And good luck at your new place!

@banksarung 15 күн бұрын

Menyimak

@Chick0714 29 күн бұрын

Tq ❤

@Elijahbsexy96 Ай бұрын

New subscriber. Enjoy your videos.

@mv848 29 күн бұрын

One should marry a filthy rich person. Sad, but true. Brutal truth. It's kinda conniving, immoral......call it as you see fit. But if you're by yourself or (even worse) married to a _regular_ person - life is gonna be *hell* .

@Chb342 15 күн бұрын

You’re 38 and glowing ✨

@amonratchaingam8404 26 күн бұрын

Love your video and I also watched other videos of you, you mentioned living in Thailand before, are you Thai? ❤

@reinventingpoppy 25 күн бұрын

คนไทยค้า 😊

@amonratchaingam8404 25 күн бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy ว่าแล้วเชียว ☺️ ชอบเนื้อหา และะโทนเสียงมากเลยคะ

@Shamika-rx2nm 4 күн бұрын

If no one is coming save no me, then no one should keep blocking me

@Sofia__901 Ай бұрын

Wow so nice

@reinventingpoppy Ай бұрын

Thanks Hun 💞

@Mervemerve387 27 күн бұрын

You look 25 ! Go girl :)

@user-uc6vw6vq7y 22 күн бұрын

Mam i am your new subscriber😮😮

@smilesmile1237 Ай бұрын

I constantly save people^^"

@tahaderraji7376 12 күн бұрын

You're wise and beautiful

@reinventingpoppy 11 күн бұрын

Thanks darling.

@MrsAlexandra Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@kakashi2801 23 күн бұрын

Hi What do you use to record your videos? Thanks

@reinventingpoppy 22 күн бұрын

Everything is in the description :)

@kakashi2801 21 күн бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy Thanks!

@user-nu7uz2te8f Ай бұрын

❤

@curlywillowflowerfarm7705 2 күн бұрын

Why would anyone need to be saved?

@wendymurangi 27 күн бұрын

You are my age mate

@preranab3627 19 күн бұрын

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

@chandrabahadurthapamagar2646 Ай бұрын

Ilu dear ❤

@eyerusm721 23 күн бұрын

Unbelievable you look end of twenty or beginning of thirty age .. 🤔 regarding your content i found its very useful so I decided to subscribe you now .

@tvr286 Ай бұрын

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@okbiahmed9703 11 күн бұрын

You look 20 for me

@user-jc5ny1dd4u 26 күн бұрын

JESUS LOVES YOU HE CARES ABOUT YOU READ THE BIBLE❤❤❤

@amar.vivian Ай бұрын

💯.…. Hermosa(Beautiful) Plus , move! Live in a like-minded enviroment... So we can have , build ; maintaining our familia, tribe, village - commuinty... Union. Vida es Familia. While evolving in your gift, gifts, purpose. -poetaV. Vivían

@oneowner5948 26 күн бұрын

I invite you come to my place ..come silient inside ..don’t look around… just helping me

@kristinemayflores7881 Ай бұрын

🤍

@koloby7111 56 минут бұрын

I'm confused. Are you 18 or 38?

@DrLusEnglish 27 күн бұрын

You can marry a decent man and he can help you

@nadia7472 19 күн бұрын

I thought you‘d be like 28 years old😳

@antoniodragonheart8965 19 сағат бұрын

I'm sorry, you said you were 28?

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