The girl who abstained for 10 years, is doing an amazing thing that they should have promoted and encouraged a lot! Abstinence is better than three baby daddies in a lowered standard!

Why is it as Christians, we try to find some loopholes to go around God's word? Especially dealing with Sexuality. The Lord is crystal clear on the boundaries he has set before us. Not to restrict us from " fun" but to protect us.

When pastor Zai said that God gave you the desire to be married and he didn’t give it to you to torture you, although I know that, I just needed to hear that like that gave me so much hope to know that although sometime I get fearful of jumping back in this dating world that he got me 100% I just got have the faith to keep going 💗

I cannot believe how people thwart the Bible and totally misquote scripture. The Bible clearly says fornication IS a sin!!!

“Fear will always keep you from what God has for you” AMEN!! Don’t let fear paralyze you from going after what’s rightfully yours.

30:37 "Every time you sin, it cuts off access you something you would've had before. You get kicked out of the Garden of Eden." Wow, Pastor. That's a whole word right there.

I have to respectfully disagree with the statement “the longer you’re single, the more indication that you’re too picky”….some of was are waiting for someone of like faith…at least they profess to have accepted Jesus as their personable Savior and a desire to please God…every thing else is negotiable…there is a shortage of saved men, in most circles there are more women than men…even men of different cultures and ethnic backgrounds.

Long distance relationships... If your partner is coming to visit, ask one of your brother/sisters in church to host them.

Sometimes the zeal of new believers is greater than that of those of us who were raised in church.

This was good!! "Just because they are in the church doesn't mean they are a option" really blessed me

I always enjoy every singles, marriage, men, and women nights. All love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

The lukewarm are those who claim to know God but live as though He doesn't exist… sin cannot and should not be romanticized no matter how tempting.

Transactional relationships don't end in good marriages❤

This is cool. There should be a church like this, for us everywhere .

That message was for Anthony about debt and that he will stay single…he even had a comment about it! He loves his money sooo much and so choicey.😢

My sister and I have created a tradition of watching this panel together every year for the last 4 years or. so. It is always so eye.-opening, insightful, and gives us guidance on navigating. singleness and dating. Thanks so much for another great panel!

So so so good! Grace and love above all for each other and most importantly, for ourselves! Praise Jesus!

This really blessed me. I wrote on your IG that the church neglects singles and then wonders why it's so challenging for us to find partners. And then when they do speak to us, it is minimal at best and there's no practical and realistic advice. But I found that this session and the sermon a couple weeks ago on singleness is really laser focused on helping those of us who find this area challenging, and I am grateful for that. I wish there was a church like yours in my area. I live in Canada.

God put Union Church on my TL for a reason 🙏🏽 currently in my single season after becoming a single mom and Y’all have keep my hope and faith alive because in due time God shall deliver as Pastor Zai said he didn’t put that desire on my heart to torture me it’ll happen 🙏🏽 ❤

I totally did NOT know what to expect!! This was awesome

always enjoy singles night, marriage night, mens night, womens night videos every year😂, W Unionc Church

This blessed me so much! I’m so happy I ran into this video. It confirmed and renewed my faith as someone trusting and believing God for a compatible mate. Thank you!!

THIS WAS GOOOOD!

This is so good. I have been single all my life because of fear. And now it’s time for me to change my mindset about marriage

This was so so good!!! ❤️🙌🏻

1 Samuel 16:7 God says "do not consider his appearance or HIS HEIGHT for I have rejected him "Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.❤

I really enjoyed this!

Read I Corinthians 6:18, Fornication is a sin that is committed as well. Fornication is sexual intercourse between unmarried or unbetrothed people, including adultery.

This was absolutely dope! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

This was so good

This was such a marvelous experience. Great wisdom ànd a jovial atmosphere. Thank you! I love how close the pastor and his wife were on the couch, almost on top of each other.

There was a whole lot in there. We need more of this! Alot can be avoided when u get such mindsets. Yes, the Word of of God the Bible teaches us alot but such conversations are mind-blowing are absolutely needed!!!!

This was sooo good and hilarious!!!! ❤❤❤ wish yall were in Tampa!

I always enjoy watching Single’s Night.! There is so much grace & wisdom in Pastor Stephen & Zai ‘s responses. I love this church, I cannot wait to move and officially join Union ❤

YOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! 👏👏👏 around 50 minute mark... I am thankful you brought up the point about grace for others. If someone is not or has not been living like their past for many years and is walking with Jesus, have grace from what they did in the past. AND I agree, the past relationships should come up before the wedding day. How we respond to others' at all should be in the same grace and love we would want for ourselves - and esp. with love and grace that God has given to us. And you right pastor - that is the church God gave you - keep stewarding the people well - tell them what God has given you to tell them, not what they want to hear!!!!!

This what good. Thanks for sharing. I will keep hope alive! AMEN

Always 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 your single sessions. Awesome information and guidance.🥰

I love this church. Much love from South Africa 🇿🇦

OMG … I have been blessed. Thank you for such powerful message ❤❤❤

This was very good and I was truly blessed in learning and receiving wisdom and knowledge regards to being single and how to carry oneself in God through our singleness.Bless you all. Thank you 🙏🏾

The way I ran to watch thus😅I love these singles, married pannels always lives me leaving with a fresh perspective, questions and insights, but mostly a yearning desire for my life

Pastor Stephen Chandler praise God exhibiting wisdom in your responses.

This was so amazing and inspiring. I haven't connected with Union in awhile so this was much needed 🙏🏽

Thank you! Yes, we set ourselves up..... I'm not putting myself in a situation for the "set up" !!!

So good and needed to be heard as a Christian single. Thank you!

I am so grateful this came up on my KZfaq feed. Truly awesome. Thank you and God Bless! 🙏🏼🩶

STRAIGHT TO IT: terminate the marital exchanges before a ring and this will eliminate unnecessary heartache & burdens. SIMPLE.

This is so good, such wisdom here 🙌🙌

This is powerful 👏

Out of the whole thing, I latched onto the “no man would want me” the most because that's how I've been feeling, but for different reasons. Only I have been thinking, “It seems like no man wants me.” And him saying there's some man out there saying the same thing touched me.

Looooveeeee every minute of this!! So many gems hear and it’s so raw, real - and PRACTICAL! I would love to see this in my city (Hello from Houston)

Loved this ❤

🔥convos were too good!! 🔥👏

Don't settle for anything, because you want to get married because you might regret your decision make sure you're happy and comfortable in your decision making, some persons think that you're getting old and time is running out be careful

I'm missing pastor Zainab and her speech on your tube. Her jokes and teaching makes me want to know more about Jesus and I'm glad to watch this today❤

Amazing you should have this all the time ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🔥🔥🔥

I enjoy this panel discussions, always great.

One thing about this church❤. They will talk about life in all its possibilities

This was really good 👌🏾🙏🏾

My boyfriend and I tuned in and thoroughly enjoyed this discussion! Thank you PS and PZ!❤

This came up in my feed. I really enjoyed it. I’m waiting in anticipation and expectation for my destiny partner, a.k.a. husband from God.

love the way he addressed the single mom's question

Very glad that this ministry came across my timeline. I loved hearing both the questions and real life responses, along with the spiritual wise-counsel. I loved that the pastor knew himself enough and had desire to please God by remaining a virgin until marriage, and choosing to stay away from engaging in situations that he knew what cause him to "put his feelings over his faith". For the credit score question, as with some of the others.....the bible tells us about being "unequally yoked" and that covers just about every situation that will effect our future in marriage, building a family that is strong, emotionally stable, and God-centered. Advise for a person over 50....Take your time, pray and wait for God's reply because HE ALWAYS HAS BETTER FOR US. God's way and promise is "to bring us to an expected end that is good". God bless you for speaking to people at their level of need.

This was amazing!🤎🌱

“Fear will always keep you from what God has for you.” Amen! I love how the Pastor & his wife responded to the host saying he wouldn’t date a woman at his church. It’s time to grow up man. As Believers & grown adults, a man and a woman should be able to date & part in a mature manner if it doesn’t work out. Too many people are operating out of a fear based mindset & blocking their blessing. I really enjoyed this panel!

February 15th is my birthday also and I just wanted to say thank you for this singles night. I have never married and (I'm kind of like the women at the well but I thank God for restoration power) i still have hope for my 54 years young redeemed daughter of the Father. Y'all blessed me with this forum! Thank you!

This was deep. . me likey🔥🔥

I was skeptical about listening to another relationship panel discussion, but I must say this is really good. I appreciate the realness and practicality for Christians.

Good questions great answers !!!

Wow, this was a really good, powerful and much needed discussion in the church. Thank you for sharing this. Do you all have a video or program on how to put together an effective singles ministry in the church?

I’m in Charlotte. Had no idea there was a church here. I’ll check it out

I’m not single but I always get a good laugh when I watch Union. 😂 Less than 2 minutes in and I’m slapping my knee! 😭 😭

This was good.

I love pastor Stephen!!! So wise and take Gods word seriously the host I didn’t care too much for.

Preach pastor!

This good meat👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

This is a great conversation. I am going to share that I am a Christian, born and raised in the church. My ultimate goal is to get married but I also do not believe in settling. Now the word “settling” can trigger a lot of people. I can elaborate if anyone would like to know what that means for me… I do think the urge to encourage marriage for the sake of the inability to have self control may not be wise. I think it misses the mark on building relationship and often times people realize down the line that they are not compatible resulting in divorce. Divorce isn’t an option for me so while I am 37 years wiser, I prefer to be selective in dating to enhance the longevity of my forever relationship. Hope that makes sense. ❤

THE IS FIRE SO GOOG❤❤❤

Wait!!! We did not even get an intro AO! Looking forward to this.

This part tho! 1:36:58 🔥 Love that he said if your married friends don't care about your dating future, get new friends🎉🎉 Love that they care about singles. Great environment! I'll be honest some churches create this "magical bar" for marriage but don't even create environments for people who desire marriage to come together! This was great ❤

This is the first time I have heard a honest convo about church folks attitudes towards same gender experienced men, compassion towards one another’s life experiences, single mothers that have never been married now trying to date in a Christian context…so many good points

Pastor Zai asked a very good question at minute 24. Start praying and asking God to give you who HE has for you, because His choice is going to be better than anyone you could ever dream up.

This here is a MUST WATCH because the discussions didn't tip toe or brush the surface around the real issues that single Christians have concerns about. This give me hope to open up to dating again as mature woman who got tired of the disappointments...meeting men who play about and don't want to get marry.

Have the right conversations....don't waste time, we can't get time back!

I think we need to learn to manage our sexuality as single people. I made the mistake of losing my virginity at 19 & was stuck in a situationship on & off for 4 years. It was a mistake but it took me experiencing that mistake to realise the flaws in my family and how I was raise. I am 33 now and I have been on a journey of discovering my true self and unlearning the wrong things from my upbringing. I’ve been celibate for over 10 and a half years & have learnt from my dating experiences. We are so much more than sexual beings & there is so much more to connection than sexuality. We are intricately and uniquely made by God and the more we understand ourselves the more we will understand our needs in a partner. We are all broken to a degree but it’s about finding someone whose brokenness you can tolerate and work with. No one is fully healed and no marriage is perfect - even the most seemingly perfect Christian ones - but it’s about finding the God ordained partnership that works for YOU.

Don't set yourself up for failure!

Given that environment lm actually going to respond to my flesh , feelings than my faith❤

Interesting conversation 😎

As someone that is still trying to figure life in general out, I appreciate the transparency, oneness, and spiritual connection this pastor and First Lady has. Listening to the gems and wisdom they share from God is refreshing.

This was good

I loved this conversation so much. But one critic i have and i hate doing this is that i feel that we missed out on encouraging people who maybe God hasnt intended marriage for but also forthose whose waiting season maybe longer. The direction should be to God not marriage. the hope we need to have is not just to be married but in the Lord. That even if marriage doesn't come, we still get Jesus and he is far more worth it than anything. I loved it though. So much

Fruitful

Nice!... Well dang!

This pastor reminds me of pastor Mike Todd. 😂but loving this platform even though I'm married.

And sometimes....the season we are in does not align with our desire for a mate/spouse. To everything there is a time and season. Maybe the season is to grow closer in our relationship with God and our knowledge of ourself so we will recognize the mate that God has for us. Be patient, trust God, and don't rush His preparation process. Our timing is not God's timing.

Awesome

I’m torn about this entire conversation!! 😢😩😩I have so many questions!

1:20:10 In Jesus name my time is coming 🙏🏼 🙌🏽

Sometimes the church ones be the worst ones

I think some people wait for the person they are dating to catch up to their expectations of them and put more tension on the relationship by blaming that person for the delay. That is outside of them waiting to catch up to their own self imposed expectations with fragile timelines and self, social, or relational disassociation of priorities. My suggestion is be authentic even if it leads to rejection. You will thank yourself later and so will your future.