21 Life-Changing INFJ Tips for 2024

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In this video I discuss 21 of the most life-changing tips I've learned as an INFJ. I believe that if you apply even just a handful of these, they can transform your INFJ life for the better.
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@tylerviidici 5 ай бұрын

In case you need them. 1. Don't feel guilty of who you are 2. Don't rely on others to know how you feel 3. Try journaling (writing things down) 4. You may fit in with more than one group 5. Being alone is good 6. Try not to be alone too much 7. You must learn to say no 8. You're probably clumsy and that's ok 9. Watch out for perfectionism 10. Watch out for procrastination 11. The INFJ door slam is real...and normal 12. Try not to burn bridges 13. Take time for self-care 14. INFJs learn differently than other people 15. Don't be afraid to ask for help 16. Don't over explain 17. Don't help those who don't want it 18. Don't share your opinions with randoms 19. Beware of overthinking 20. Be on the lookout for narcissists 21. Practice self-compassion Thank you The INFJ Circle!

@imnoel8214 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the list!

@peacockLife 5 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing this..

@DH-oh1zr 5 ай бұрын

Many thanks, our INFJ hero

@Iriska151 5 ай бұрын

Thankyou for the list ❤

@nedsantos1415 5 ай бұрын

Love it. Thank you.

@NorthToSouthChannel 5 ай бұрын

Fitting in but not belonging is such a good way to put it. I have always felt that the only place I really ever feel I belong is in nature.

@CornerCastCrew 5 ай бұрын

I too feel at home in nature

@vivien681 5 ай бұрын

I totally agree ❤

@NorthToSouthChannel 5 ай бұрын

we need to make an INFJ nature meetup hahahaha I feel like it could be amazing@@vivien681

@insight_marketing 5 ай бұрын

Totally agree it is so weird

@intuitiveimprints 5 ай бұрын

Same! And I try to communicate and express this through my videos.

@user-wp5qo2cv1x 2 ай бұрын

I am a highschooler and i swear when I'm in school i end up in different groups each lunch time it may seem like i fit in but i know i dont belong. Too cool/not smart enough for the nerds and too smart/not as cool enough for the cool kids. Wow it feels nice to finally get this out of my chest and know that u guys can relate❤

@annmowatt7547 5 ай бұрын

Has taken me till my 70s to learn to say no. The sooner INFJs learn to do this, the better for us. Caring for others is a delight but we must remember ourselves. This is all so accurate, thanks.

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Perfectionism hides the facts so late... I was 55. But I need both hips replaced so I had to let perfectionism go...

@misupport6735 5 ай бұрын

62 and still working on it.

@66el 4 ай бұрын

Took me until my 60s, your not alone. We didn’t have access to all the information the internet provides in the past. Better late than never.

@damothepianist 2 ай бұрын

59 and still struggling

@66el 2 ай бұрын

@@damothepianist keep your chin up! Too bad we didn’t have a chat hang out.

@lesliethurston2151 5 ай бұрын

"Fitting in, yet not belonging." -- Could not have been stated any better. Thank you for your hard efforts crafting this channel.

@annmowatt7547 5 ай бұрын

Think we all feel like this as we are chameleons but never feel, wherever we are, that we are with others who understand us.

@bearofverylittlebrain 4 ай бұрын

In the world but not of it...instead of not fitting in I learned I can fit in anywhere

@tthomas1111 2 ай бұрын

Dang. That hit pretty hard. 51 yrs old. Still don't fit in. 🥸

@Dmo12618 Ай бұрын

The ‘door slam”. Wow this describes a tendency of mine over the past 10 years. I’m early 60s. I have slammed doors on several friendships. I can see the pattern. I feel toxicity, games, lack of respect. There is always a trigger, a confrontation of sorts and by then I’m worn through managing my conflicted feelings. Boom. I’m sad about the loss of some ‘friends” but I feel better that I have stood up for my values. I know there are 2 side to every story and as an INFJ I know I’m hard to read for a lot of people. Im working on that too. As I get older I’m more careful about the slam. I try to leave words of compassion and love and let the ‘slamee” (?) know that what I’m doing is based on my need for my space. The popular term is ‘boundaries’…..

@jaggedlittlepill100 5 ай бұрын

It's the first time I've heard anyone talk about being clumsy. I get so frustrated sometimes I could just scream. Running into things, dropping things, cutting my fingers when I'm crafting. It's unbelievable!

@meagiesmuse2334 5 ай бұрын

I've actually broken bones twice due to my clumsiness. I even bite my lip painfully when chewing food!

@orang3hill 4 ай бұрын

Yeah first time calling out the clumsy! I think it's because we are often so detached from the present moment?

@PrincesslilBB 7 күн бұрын

I had a real problem with this until I decided to look at it differently, I started to laugh at myself when it happens. It sounds silly, but we tend to overthink if we get angry at ourselves as to the why of it all. So I will laugh and walk away, it works.

@VictoryStarr 2 ай бұрын

I am not clumsy BUT I’m easily startled because I’m deep in thought!

@kernzyp 3 ай бұрын

As a fellow INFJ, you're freaking awesome, dude. Scarily accurate !! We are secret super heroes. Excellent work.

@INFJcircle 3 ай бұрын

Yes. We are. ;) Thank you my friend! Jay

@hannw7 3 ай бұрын

The only worst thing than being married to a narcissist is trying to divorce one. They are awful and can be very dangerous.

@melissaschmitt4415 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely! 💯💯💯💯💯

@pioneer1133 5 ай бұрын

How I see my clumsiness: I am absent and far far out sometimes. Let's say my partner asks for the knife in the kitchen, I will hand it while already having turned my head to the other side away from him and I even already started moving away BEFORE I really handed the knife, which results in it falling down. I am always already at the next project, in the far future, always ahead, ahead of everyone's reaction. The "doing" bores me, I am a visionary to the core. This is what results in my clumsyness, it is rather that the density of this matrix is not fast enough for my internal software hahahahahaa or I often hit the door frame with my left shoulder, cuz I get up in my room but already see myself sitting in the livingroom, so, the door was kind of too slow to follow my vision lool

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Yes, I relate to this. We are future oriented (far more productive than past oriented) but causes us to run into these kind of issues. Jay

@boblossie3192 5 ай бұрын

My WORST is taking care of everyone - and there's nothing left for me. I'm 67 and still continually destroy my life. I keep thinking I've realized I shouldn't, but I keep doing it. And after listening to the rest of the video - I need to set this up so it can play in a repeating loop so I can play it all night. Sadly - most would think these traits are noble - but I think I'm a stupid jerk. Jerk to myself - not anyone else. BUT I'm thinking that 2024 is my year of transition. Still want to help others - but want to have a little something left for me. Oh yeah - you mentioned over explaining. This was my short version....

@SimoneWhippArtist 5 ай бұрын

Same!

@boblossie3192 5 ай бұрын

Good to know it's not JUST ME! But at least you seem to have the part about not "over explaining" in control ! ! !@@SimoneWhippArtist

@SimoneWhippArtist 5 ай бұрын

@@boblossie3192 I'm learning! 😄

@92pianokeys40 5 ай бұрын

Yes! as INFJ's we definitely are prone to take those "noble traits" to unhealthy extremes that actually can destroy us. We are often too conscientious. I'm seeking the healthy balance. This has been quite a year for me. Just now learning these things at almost 60. Praying that 2024 will be a healthier year for both of us. Oh, and I wanted to write several more paragraphs, but I'm trying to work on that "over-explaining" thing too. :)

@SimoneWhippArtist 5 ай бұрын

@@92pianokeys40 😊

@user-xl4zr1xw1o 2 ай бұрын

I’m alone ALL THE TIME! I love it. I occasionally go somewhere just to be alone somewhere else. Spot on for the clumsiness, perfection and procrastination are my Trinity!

@jaggedlittlepill100 5 ай бұрын

The door slam!! I haven't done it often and I couldn't do it at all until I spent three years with a really good therapist. It's easier to say no now that I'm older, but it took me years to learn how.

@Metdiva1 2 ай бұрын

Fitting in but not belonging hits harder than I'd like to admit. So many things made sense once I realized that I was an INFJ. I'm so clumsy that I have tripped over shadows on the floor. Absolutely love my "boring" life.

@Whatever-xr3mu 5 ай бұрын

Incredibly clumsy, we are at times. Could be due to mulling over existential questions or analysis of the way we answered to a Starbucks worker. But also creative and clairvoyant I would say.

@johnmichaelrichards 5 ай бұрын

As an INFJ-T, I identify with all of this though not the clumsiness. I did attract one narcissist and made the mistake of staying in a relationship with her on and off for six years. Each time she clipped my wings more and caged me. Not only did she destroy my very being but tried to kill me before I eventually slammed that door for good.

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

A relationship with a narcissist can get really, really bad. Glad you came out of it. Jay

@lindastrehlow295 5 ай бұрын

Great video! Thanks❤❤❤ Heck, I will be 67 this year. I grew up totally in the dark on all this...had to figure out all these things on my own. Stoicism WORKS! I trip over invisible things. Not good at my age...hehehe And most definitely learn to set boundaries early! It will save your sanity...so will not over thinking.. still a perfectionist though...oh well...

@meagiesmuse2334 5 ай бұрын

Yes, please set boundaries early! INFJ needs to remember to put yourself first. My life would've been so different if I hadn't felt too guilty to do that. Age 72 here.

@brothermaynardsbrother 5 ай бұрын

Please do thrive in '24, young one! And perhaps start donning hockey pads daily 😉. Sincerely yours, Fellow utter klutz

@brothermaynardsbrother 5 ай бұрын

@@meagiesmuse2334I hope that you are highly successful at defenestrating loitering, unwarranted guilt during your next quarter century.

@buckleymordecai9605 5 ай бұрын

67 here as well. Ya, clumsiness is a 'thing' chuckles.

@Effin_the_Chat Ай бұрын

On the clumsy thing, I'm not clumsy, but I'm also not athletic. I've always sucked at sports. However, I do like being physical. I like lifting weights. I used to climb mountains. I used to ride my bike 13 miles to work. I've been practicing yoga on and off since I was a teenager. The thing is, everybody else who works half as hard at any of these things as I have, totally leaves me in the dust.

@mandasmovingcastle 5 ай бұрын

Thank you - I needed to hear this. I wondered my whole life why I felt so different from everyone despite generally getting along with my peers, but failed to truly connect on a deeper level and feel at 'home'. I also have been suffering from procrastination due to perfectionism. It's such a hard habit to kick. The struggle is real even at 35...

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

You are welcome! Will have videos up in the future about procrastination. Thanks so much for watching and hope the channel will help you become the best INFJ you can be! Jay

@Kelsbell 3 ай бұрын

Feeling belonged, brings out expectations from the ones you belong to.

@joemiller1312 5 ай бұрын

Clumsy hits right on me very obvious. I was always the one that spilled their milk carton in elementary school, and it has not stopped. You are one of the best explainers of INFJ. Thank you!

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

I feel your pain! 😆 Thank you so much! Jay

@INFJparadox 5 ай бұрын

Excellent video! As you get older you do become more selective and therefore, more isolated. I hate drama and have had so much in my life with narcissists, one being my mother. At 53, I have become content to being alone forever. Of course, I would love to be in a committed relationship, but it's too late for me and my heart has been shattered countless times. I'm beyond tired. Also, people always think I *missed the point on things because I have a different perception so I just get ignored, especially at work. Oh, and yes, I'm so clumsy! Always have been--hahaha :) Happy New Year and many blessings for 2024!

@safetyfirst2345 4 ай бұрын

"I like him already!" I laughed out loud and found this so endearing 😊

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

Thank you - lol. Jay

@michaeljode4350 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for making these videos. It's very nice to have an actual face behind videos like this and not an AI voice like other INFJ channels. Love your content

@coachvaughnhelps 2 ай бұрын

Officially apart of the circle. Done not perfect. Thank you man. Felt crazy till I did the MBTI test and realized I was an INFJ-T. Finally felt like I wasn’t an alien. Bless

@TrayOfKimbap 5 ай бұрын

Fitting in but not belonging: whoa this explains why even though I'm introverted, I manage to happily be part of many diverse friend groups throughout stages of my life-- and yet not connect too deeply with any because I'm different. The one group I feel most connection and are always in my thoughts and for whom I truly feel love and caring... are a pair of married couples about my age whom I see only once a year! And yet I consider them my lifelong friends! 😅

@robynwells8249 5 ай бұрын

One more idea… the door slam. What I’ve learned is to wish “those” people well but at a distance. Sometimes a long distance. Also, I’m from the south. Just noting on your accent. Or a southern would say “ Bless their little hearts” but at a distance.

@dlcarbonneau3750 5 ай бұрын

definitely how the door slam goes best for me, no announcements, dramas, letters,... still friendly if crossing paths (smile and wave) but no time for sit down, phone calls, emails,...

@GlennaRedcliffe 5 ай бұрын

@@dlcarbonneau3750 That is the perfect door slam in the south.

@justinwhite2725 4 ай бұрын

11:28 another tip - dont assume itd about you. We are empathetic and can sense somekne elses frustratioon, sometimes it has nothing to do with us. I was out with a friend and i could sende a growing frustration in them, completely nonverbal but i picked up on queues. Later when we were eating he shared that his spouse was supposed to pick him up soon and he hasn't been able to get a hold of him. Thats why he was frustrated. He was frustrated at his hisband, not at me.

@Effin_the_Chat Ай бұрын

What freaks people out about the conclusions I come to, is that I figured it out myself, and wasn't told these things by someone in "authority."

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Exactly unstable emotional life.... setting boundaries very hard... procrastination the worst... to much time alone... to many narcissists around. Burn bridges deleted contacts... smh

@Jacei_i 5 ай бұрын

Yay! This video is perfect for me, who is a teen INFJ. I have family issues and people around me are not mentally stable or they're often not very happy. I understands that we all lives in a hard life right now, and we all have our problems and demons. But the fact that sometimes I look at other people who is struggling from work, school, daily life is just a harsh truth for me. (And it made me sad too :C) Especially when nowadays, most teenagers and friends around me is just addicted to their phones, and it is making them feeling worse, not making their mental health any better at least. I am also part of them, which is I'm also addicted too, to my phone. Is it where I found people like all the INFJs here, and Jay who made this video, who understands and help me get through my life. I hope that I'll keep on improving and find a way to distract myself from spending time on my phone too much. Thank you Jay for sharing! And wish me the best of luck haha (´▽｀)ノ♪

@angeladawn805 5 ай бұрын

Jacei _i. Please take heart, all of this personal identification wasn't the norm for my teenage years in the 80s (where 1950s values were still expressed) . I'm so happy for the gen Zoomers in that aspect. (Please accept my sincerest condolences regarding the environment, economy, political landscape- the legacy of your elders). But you Zoomers, when not shackled to the Matrix - are superior in kindness. Might I suggest reading a few books, and watching a few movies to switch the brain to "Critical Thinking Mode". My go-tos are George Orwell Animal Farm, 1984 (Probably more resonant with millennials) sci-fi is great for "what if" questions.... seriously, devote 50% of your online time to books, you won't regret it 😊

@Jacei_i 5 ай бұрын

@@angeladawn805 Thank you very much for your detailed reply!! It's so heartwarming that someone took time to wrote this. ♡ I admit, it is difficult for me to sit down, and read a book without getting distracted. I think I can read for about 5-10 minutes, and in the end getting bored or getting distracted by something else. Or that I would think, 'that's all for today' and move on. Because I don't wanna push myself to read if I don't like or want to. For me, it's like a task. Which made me feel like it's a task, that I *have* and *need* to finish. It stressed me out if I doesn't get to finish or accomplish what I wanted in the first place. Plus, when sometimes the content is too hard or complicated for me to understand, (for example, something that requires you to think deeply or isn't written straightforwardly.) I found myself spending time on trying to get what's the meaning of the texts, and eventually got overwhelmed, ending up giving up. My phone is the easiest way to kill time + it comforts me + a way (probably only way) of reaching to my real life friends + it understands me the most. And it's there with me when during lonely, hard times. I often spend most time alone, and I don't dare to seek help, just wanna try on my own. Because it would takes time to explain my problem with other people, which make me rather deal it with myself. In this not so good situation, (+ environment?) I still believes in myself, even just for a tiny bit, that I can be a health state someday. It's what keep me moving on now… Thank you *so* *so* much, if someone actually read through to here, I know it is long haha. And I appreciate you for reading my venting comment ♡.

@Txtholic_MOA0405 5 ай бұрын

Sup mate! I am a teen INFJ too and yeah I feel you, we may be struggling with all the things around us whether its school, home or your inner-self, but time-to-time we learn how to face these struggles if we try to become our best selves i.e. being confident and believing in yourself. You could try having a cozy time, talking to your parents about normal things, picking up a hobby, do something you like, read a book or inspiring stories about people, and believe that you can reach your ultimate goal in life.

@Jacei_i 5 ай бұрын

@@Txtholic_MOA0405 Ayy supp! Thank you so much for replying and giving suggestions. ♡ I'm now trying to distract myself with other things like playing chess? And I think I should really try reading… at least for a while, even if I can't focus for long. I'll definitely keep on trying and improving!! *\(^o^)/* Thank you again! And I wish things are going well for you too! If not, it's okay and I believe you'll keep on fighting. Don't worry I'm with you if you're struggling. xD Go INFJs!~ ^^

@brookhuffmanpainting 4 ай бұрын

I feel you so hard when it comes to seeing the problem (addiction) very clearly and also being the problem. It results in some self-hatred if you aren't careful. Also, I have struggles when it comes to reading, and you described it well. Feeling like it's a task and then feeling dumb when you don't comprehend what you've been reading. Books are written by people, and in the same way that people are difficult to process, so can their books be, unless it's that rare one that's different. For me, I really started to "exercise my demons" when I took up painting in my 20s. I learned that I was a visual learner and I could understand the world more easily when took the time to just play with colors and shapes and create "vibes" on canvas and paper that I could relate to or at least see as something I had produced that was outside of myself. I'd love to talk more with you about getting into art if your interested. Its great therapy for us lonely souls.

@cvonsutphen 5 ай бұрын

I did not learn I was an INFJ until I was almost 50. It's been life changing and has helped me overcome childhood traumas and have better relationships with others. My partner learned that he is an INTP and learning about each others type and how we think and process information and emotions has improved our understanding of each other 100%. Great video.

@Txtholic_MOA0405 5 ай бұрын

Many comments in here are written by INFJs who are more than 50, which made me realize how people took it too late to find about this, so I better giddy up and try focusing on how to utilize my "INFJ Energy" on what and what not to because I am young. Welp thanks to this amazing man Jay, for letting us know about these great life changing facts, May this year will go great for everyone❤

@SophieBird07 4 ай бұрын

Truly. I don’t know how or why Jay popped up on my feed, but he summed up my entire life (of 70+ years!) in a flash. I’m centering a bit these days, but things shouldnt have had to be so crazy. I was an “aim to please and understand…”narc magnet” for far too many years. And raised by an ESTJ, as well. Though I think my Dad was an INFJ, and I always connected with his “life philosophy” I think. I don’t have lots of years ahead of me now, but I feel validated of late and am so happy for anyone finding Jay’s thought processes earlier than I could. But I have a calmer life these days finally understanding “how the world works”. So…trust yourselves fellow INFJs. The big mouth, bossy people are faking it. Listen to your self. You have your answers you need.

@Txtholic_MOA0405 4 ай бұрын

@@SophieBird07 same for me, I had been a narc magnet and a therapist for everyone .... Even A stranger would come and tell me about his/her hardships and I just couldn't help but giving advice to him/ her, eventhough, I am not appreciated by those who know me, or they don't see how I helped them while overcoming their emotional wounds, they just care for those who are just wild card in their life, and gave a little bit of support.... Now cuz of Jay as an INFJ, I am learning to say no, learning to never expect something from someone, and sometimes being rude is good, Thanks for your wishes and I hope you are doing well and fine

@wangyiming9207 5 ай бұрын

It was been a tough year for myself who declared as INFJ back 2023. I found the issue of myself who struggled in life was due to self-limitations defined by other ( etc, walked in to relationship or parents expectation restricted your self decision process). I would say the best way for INFJ to succeed in life is to trust your intuition while considered life path you have been succeed in the past! INFJ is a gift of our world, who balanced so well in combined fulfill heritage while take risk to experiment different opportunities in life. I see INFJ life is to discover the true meaning of living! “Life is exciting journey” defines INFJ!

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Others influence our beliefs about ourselves so much. But it's what you believe about yourself that counts. Stay strong! Jay

@goontubeassos7076 3 ай бұрын

Door slammed someone I deeply loved (probably a narcissist), I’ll never be happy again. But I’m not miserable anymore. I’ll also never enjoy female companionship again, Now that I know it’s just my turn with her.

@carlharmeling512 3 ай бұрын

1. Empathy is the vicarious experience of another’s thoughts and emotions. If your friend has a headache you think you need to take an aspirin. Sympathy on the other hand is the realization in thought about how your friend is feeling in which case you will suggest your friend take an aspirin if he has a headache. Those two words have gotten conflated since I was in school and hypocrites will often use empathy without realizing the true meaning of it. Empathy is useless for the sufferer. What sufferers need is true sympathy. 2. Over thinking is not possible. What you describe is obsessive emotional fixation. Emotion directs thinking. You think about what you care about. What one should watch for is emotional dis regulation where unwanted emotions rule your thoughts leading to obsessive fixation. Obsessing is not thinking any more than spinning your wheels in the sand is traveling.

@audreyhepburn2790 5 ай бұрын

Starting to read the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephan Hanselman today. I highly recommend it for all INFJs. It has an entry for each day of the year ❤ Thanks so much! Looking forward to more videos 😀

@annicks7385 5 ай бұрын

Lol i forget to socialize

@INFJparadox 5 ай бұрын

😂 Same! I don't do it at work either!

@madeinpinas215 3 ай бұрын

I hate to socialize talking to people when I can already see through their soul. And Ive never met anyone who truly gets my ideas and thoughts

@jimmyjr977 Ай бұрын

@@madeinpinas215 YESS so true!

@moonpie7400 5 ай бұрын

I was feeling hopeless. All these 21 tips are exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

You are so welcome and you are not alone. Glad the video helped you at this time.🙏 Jay

@nobita_pov 5 ай бұрын

"Fitting in, yet not belonging" always felt that ...glad that it's not only me. Thank you ❤

@rolandgervais154 2 ай бұрын

...one you realize that "you belong to yourself"...wow! what a feeling!

@jimmyjr977 Ай бұрын

its so true

@shelteredsparrow2736 5 ай бұрын

I am an INFJ who emotionally broke because people refused to see that I could not do one more thing.

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

When you say yes to things some people will literally pile more on you until you break. It's about proper boundaries, but this is difficult for us. Sorry this happened to you (I've been there). Jay

@anneheerdt8701 5 ай бұрын

oh the clumsy thing, Still recovering from a broken leg back in May. I was just clumsy, but ready to heal up

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Everyday thank Him... Psalm 37:4 delight yourself in the LORD He gives you desires of your heart He's always watching... Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Lol... that's alot of yous... 😅

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

God does NOT like religion... John 2 Jesus Cleanses the Temple 13Now the Passover of the Jews was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14And He found in the temple those who sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the money changers doing business. 15When He had made a whip of cords, He drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen, and poured out the changers’ money and overturned the tables. 16And He said to those who sold doves, “Take these things away! Do not make My Father’s house a house of merchandise!” But He says you must be born again John 3 The New Birth 1There was a man of the Pharisees named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews. 2This man came to Jesus by night and said to Him, “Rabbi, we know that You are a teacher come from God; for no one can do these signs that You do unless God is with him.” 3Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” 4Nicodemus said to Him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born?” 5Jesus answered, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. 6That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. 7Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Romans 10:8-13... 9,10 is all that's needed... 8But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” 12For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. 13For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

@richardjohanson6421 5 ай бұрын

Isaiah 45:4-7 4For Jacob My servant’s sake, And Israel My elect, I have even called you by your name; I have named you, though you have not known Me. 5I am the Lord, and there is no other; There is no God besides Me. I will gird you, though you have not known Me, 6That they may know from the rising of the sun to its setting That there is none besides Me. I am the Lord, and there is no other; 7I form the light and create darkness, I make peace and create calamity; I, the Lord, do all these things.’

@66el 4 ай бұрын

Every one of these points is so spot on, it is comforting to hear them articulated. It took me forever to figure out why I attract narcissists. During Covid lock down, I took a long deep dive into narcissism to the point of obsession. I truly wanted to get this lesson so that I could protect myself in the future. So glad I found this channel. Thanks for the video.

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed the video! Yes, the narcissist is one of our worst enemies. Great to know the details of them to protect yourself. Jay

@rolandgervais154 2 ай бұрын

...one of my favorite listed tips, #7: "learn to say no" ....always remember that: "No" is always a boundary "No" can be a one-word sentence. "No" doesn't need further explanation "No" is always a positive (because you are saying "YES" to yourself)

@roberttrough6439 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for being so clear. I found myself laughing out loud in agreement with you. That’s a pleasant experience!

@irregularmom1236 3 ай бұрын

It took me years to understand myself and I'm 40 now, living my hsp infj story in the best possible way

@kyerinn 5 ай бұрын

You’re very relatable and personable and your content is on point. I like you. 😊 I’m an INFJ and I’ve heard a lot about our kind. I appreciate your concise suggestions. I agree with everything you said. As you predicted, there were a handful of reminders that really hit me right now. I need to get back into my journaling. I used to journal weekly and it really does help to get my thoughts onto paper. I’ve been neglecting that. As someone who works from home, it’s been heaven to have that introvert solitude. But I know social interaction is encoded into us humans and I need to curb this self imposed hermitting… The narcissist is something I’m currently dealing with, so thank you for that video as well. I think I need to learn more about stoicism. Thank you for your thoughtful content!

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos and that they are helping you. It’s certainly great to work from home as an INFJ! Jay

@spmoran4703 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this I am what i am . And I like it.

@ashleylarsen5294 4 ай бұрын

“The way you said goodbye to the barista at Starbucks” lol why is this me? 😂

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

I get it, trust me, I get it ;) Jay

@bradleyhoffman5896 5 ай бұрын

This is on point. I usually find I'm only clumsy because I'm in my head either contemplating or over thinking. Thanks for the tip on the extroverted feelings...I need to work on this. I have been Journaling lately and it helps so it was cool to understand why.

@RotharTheUncaring 5 ай бұрын

Fantastic video, you really nailed it! I thing the clumsiness you talk about, which I get only sometimes, is when we feel that we're being watched. When I'm alone or unconcerned about what others are thinking I don't seem to have the dropsies as much as when someone is watching me work or do something.

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Great point. It happens more in stressful situations like that. Jay

@robynwells8249 5 ай бұрын

That really nailed down some things I’ve experienced. The fitting in but not belonging is a concept I’ve been attempting to describe for a long time-thank you. And when you said INFJ’s are clumsy I laughed out loud. I’m so clumsy I’ve got the bruises to prove it. Which is odd because yoga comes naturally for me and as a child being a ballet dancer was easy for me.

@gailnichols842 15 күн бұрын

I'm 74 and had to learn all of this advice on my own because these videos were not on the internet when I was 20. Reading other people's emotions - I even knew my son's recently even though he was miles away in another city. A voice inside compelled me to call him and I learned he had been witnessing his 20-year-old cat's dying moments. He was very upset. The advice to avoid Narcissists - my son's father qualifies as one. Fortunately I did not marry him because I saw while I was pregnant his true personality. I've always been very independent so raising my son by myself was difficult but manageable. Clumsy - show me a group of people who are not clumsy and maybe I'll agree. I fell backwards down 7 wood steps recently and didn't break anything - thank God. I tripped over a dictionary on the floor while writing a book and broke my arm - could happen to anybody. Mama says "Look for and pick up the trip hazards before they cause you harm!"

@donnellallan 5 ай бұрын

It’s so great to have you back. Thank you for another encouraging video. 💜

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Happy to be back, and you are very welcome! Jay

@johnthai5251 29 күн бұрын

This video pissed me off because of how accurate it is and how accurate every little thing was to me. Dude what the fuck man.

@remhk6672 5 ай бұрын

I can vouch for the clumsiness..😅 this video is very helpful. Thank you for all the work that you do brother🙏

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome, yeah, I believe the clumsiness is real lol.😂 Jay

@thewatcher2270 5 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle Oh it's real alright!! I've learned to accept it, but sometimes, I still get aggravated when, out of no fault of my own, my Hoodie Pocket grabs a Drawer Handle in the Kitchen when I'm walking by, with a Plate in my hand and jerks me around! All I say to myself is, yes this is so me!!!😅😅

@buckleymordecai9605 5 ай бұрын

The only thing that's improved my natural clumsiness is 'Mindful Meditation'. If I focus on my movements, keep my mind on my task, then I knock over thigs MUCH less! Lol.

@orang3hill 4 ай бұрын

it is so real but this is the first time I've heard it associated with INFJ! 😅

@Frmeli Ай бұрын

I love my alone time. That’s why I am so nervous about having kids and that being taken away. Yes I drop my phone and stub my toe too often. Love the helpful tips, thank you!

@kerstingravel8160 2 күн бұрын

I absolutely can understand. We decided to not have kids. It’s not because of that reason, but sometimes I think it was better for me because of this too. Having alone time is really difficult when you have children, especially as a mom.

@luutzenvanderwey1627 5 ай бұрын

I think about 19 of these are 100% bang on for me and things I needed to hear. Thank you so much... It feels so good to find a place where I finally feel understood. Learning about my INFJ personality has helped me make so much sense out of the world around me. This channel has helped me learn and grow so much! A mature and confident INFJ is unstoppable! Thank you for your content and I will keep watching every thing you put out in 2024 to keep me going on my journey of self discovery and understanding. Thank you for using your skills, talents and abilities to make the world a better place for all us INFJs!

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you so much. I’m glad the channel is helping you. One thing to remember is we all are slightly different even as INFJs - but the tendencies are very similar among us. I have a lot of things planned for 2024. Thanks for watching! Jay

@boss-fh6oz 5 ай бұрын

My best takeaways from this: 16. Don't over-explain 19. Beware of overthinking These are the two main things that I have suffered from this past year. I had to learn that over-explaining doesn't work the hard way. I'm grateful that I've got a reminder on that today, and I'll do my best to keep that in mind next year. Also, I've pretty much never stopped overthinking in my whole life. I'll make it one of my main goals to ensure I reduce overthinking as much as possible this next year. All other tips were very helpful too, but these were the ones that really hit home for me.

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

Two great ones that INFJs know well. It’s a great time of year to take inventory on what we can work on in 2024! Jay

@Iriska151 5 ай бұрын

Agree, over explaining wastes so much energy too. Most people don't know how we tick. Overthinking is harder to crack but past year have managed to do so.Takes a lifetime

@mjamyotte8469 25 күн бұрын

This is a extremely rare occasion where I feel completely understood and represented. Of course I relate to everything you said but wanted to say thanks for saying « many other personality types are not as good as helping as INFJ »… I’ve been trying to explain to others how much unhelpful help I’ve gotten in my life and why I’ve stopped asking for it. Most people don’t get it, but as the rarest personality type who is constantly misunderstood, getting true ‘helpful’ help is rare occurrence and so meaningful when you get it. So thanks for touching on that.

@wordswithyoda6360 2 ай бұрын

You were SPOT ON when you said watching INFJ videos (this is happening for me big time watching you!) is like bathing in our own energy. This is AMAZING! Thank you so much!! 🫶🏽🌟🫶🏽🌟🫶🏽 -🌹

@tearabell6465 Ай бұрын

Yes we are clumsy. I stub my toes and bump into things, sometimes even drop things

@sandyedwards2681 5 ай бұрын

Insightful Don’t over explain 100% it over plan or over think-good advice! And yes the clumsiness comes from not being grounded in sensory experience but it can be overcome with mindfulness.

@rusgenmaetampus5478 4 ай бұрын

I am INFJ and there is no day that I haven't hit my toe at an edge at least 2 times

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

I understand lol! Jay

@vivien681 5 ай бұрын

I don’t think I’m clumsy tbh. I am an over thinker though! It’s really tough trying to quiet my mind sometimes. I can fit in but I never feel like I belong..it’s good to know I’m not alone thank you ❤

@awakenwithmark 5 ай бұрын

All helpful onscreen quotes: 1. Done is better than perfect. (Sheryl Sandberg) 2. Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity. (General George Patton) 3. Before you heal someone, ask him if he's willing to give up the things that make him sick. (Hippocrates) 4. Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems. (Epictetus) Signs of a Narcissist: - Lack empathy - Insensitive to others - Never admit they are wrong - Act entitled - Lack of guilt over bad behavior 🙏🏾

@angeladawn805 5 ай бұрын

Lol.... over-thinking - that tenacious spectre is your constant companion..... there's gotta be a way to turn it into a superpower...but after half a century, I'm lost for ideas....lots of ghosts though!!!! Maybe it's to make us not fear our mortal demise...we'll welcome death's sweet release😂

@lynnejames2806 Ай бұрын

Wow. Drop things, bump in to things. I break a lot of drinking glasses. I clean up broken glass, often. I’d prefer being deep in thought, and not -paying attention to the little everyday things.

@Nick-Nasty 3 ай бұрын

I've been struggling so much lately, that I was starting to become convinced that I'm autistic. While I suppose it's still possible that I could be very mildly autistic, I think that most of my problems are coming from the difficulties that INFjs have fitting into the world.. this channel has been very comforting for me, thank you

@INFJcircle 3 ай бұрын

You are welcome. Yeah, INFJs have some similarities with autism, but I think it’s totally different overall. thanks for watching! Jay

@existence75-xm7co 5 ай бұрын

Guilt, guilt, guilt, guilt... I think I ended up with riding the perpetual merry go round of guilt 😅😢😢 Hello darkness my old friend 😮 Radical acceptance🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@PsiloFoxVR 5 ай бұрын

i wonder if it's normal that listening to your advice actually makes me cry... ? Thank you so much for making these videos. They really help. I door slammed a "good friend" of mine, for the first time this year, I'm fitting in somewhere where i don't feel like I belong, so I decided I start my New year by taking my January off from that place. self care is super high on my list as well...

@Brittwhales 5 ай бұрын

I’d be very interested in knowing if INFJs like me also have many autistic traits as well. It seems there is quite an overlap with many characteristics, and it is not popularly mentioned.

@akferren1 5 ай бұрын

Autism is heavy metal poisoning

@hugmc 5 ай бұрын

Yes we are so complex it’s always possible we have multiple traits

@bibiclark3042 4 ай бұрын

I researched it briefly, we have many overlapping characteristics with autistic people, but that doesn’t mean we are autistic.

@user-js8xo3wx8m 4 ай бұрын

In other words when you've had enough, what you say are right on the dot. Thumbs up

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Jay

@lizzzy6905 Ай бұрын

I am a massive overthinker but I am getting better. Also very clumsy 😭 I relate a lot. I think it has to do with being in our thoughts so much (even without realizing it) that we forget about sertain movements (not fully being present in our body sometimes).

@MizzNee796 Ай бұрын

listening to this is making me feel like that Rockwell song: I always feel like...somebodies watchiiiiiing meeeeeeeeee🎹🎶🎵🎼

@margarethaines9310 3 күн бұрын

I appreciate your "#18 - Don't share your opinion with randoms." I have learned this the hard way, even when contributing an idea that is "on topic", I find it is helpful to anticipate whether other people are ready to hear or find a perspective useful before weighing in - I ask more questions instead 🙂

@MHG742 12 күн бұрын

Wow, I am clumsy. I never knew that that was actually part of being an INFJ. There’s not a day that doesn’t pass by where I didn’t walk into a desk and get bruised or slam a drawer on my finger or some thing of that nature. Glad to hear I’m not the only one😂

@charisholloway4116 15 күн бұрын

Thanks to your videos, I have now finally discovered that I'm an INFJ after years of wondering. It's the triggered rage mixed with clumsiness that has cinched it for me. Me at Age 5: an older boy insults my sister so I begin to chase him down to--I'm not sure--beat him up?--when I fail to notice an open window which I immediately smack into and land on the pavement, fracturing my skull. I've blamed that incident for my clumsiness all these years--now I know that my INFJ caused that whole situation in the first place! 😂💡

@luckydr2623 5 ай бұрын

Yo INFJs, my advice, do 2 types of door slams: Friendly doorslam: _Bye but I will see you later/again, you're annoying but you're cool._ THE doorslam: *Bye for reals!*

@INFJcircle 5 ай бұрын

I like it! Jay

@phillipreilly1091 4 ай бұрын

I am gobsmacked. I have seen many shrinks over my lifetime and none ever came up with this diagnosis which is perfectly me! All these years thinking I was “weird” and I am just me and INFJ through and through. I really am glad I stumbled onto your podcast while researching. I am going to watch all your videos now. Thanks.

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

It is a very big day when you figure out that you are an INFJ. I’m glad you found my videos as well, and I truly hope they help you! Jay

@angela777K 15 күн бұрын

#16 Dont over-explain is really gold 🥇

@angeladawn805 5 ай бұрын

You can't pour from an empty cup❤

@audreyhepburn2790 5 ай бұрын

Soooo clumsy as an INFJ 😂! Mostly when my mind gets distracted and I do not focus on what I do. I also just do practical things in the most difficult way sometimes! 🙈 Learning to drive was a nightmare!! At the same time I am good at playing the piano though 🤷‍♀️ Thanks for the wonderful video! Going to re-watch in the year to keep following these amazing tips. Happy new year 🎉

@Deadpoolhead888 2 ай бұрын

I always feel drained and I literally can’t get away and get alone ever. I live with other people so after a 13 hours working and talking to people I have to come home and be around people. I’m trying really hard to make enough money to live alone because I feel like being alone would make me feel so much better but it’s nearly impossible to live alone in this economy and it’s really killing my spirit and soul not having any alone time.

@brookhuffmanpainting 4 ай бұрын

Adore this video and agree with all of it whole-heartedly. Its so good to not feel alone. You make a lot of points about not wasting energy on people who do not want to change, but also to keep on looking for your peers (my own words). As someone so different from everyone else I know. It leads to a lot of lonliness. I don't want to have to reach out to "randos" but sometimes the desire for safe human connection is so strong that I feel like I don't have any other choice. I'm 43, and if no one I know gets me, sometimes, I just need to put the feelings somewhere for any sort of random feedback. All that to say, I'm glad I found here. I'll keep checking back and trying to connect.

@INFJcircle 4 ай бұрын

Yes, please stay here in the circle. I am working to establish as much connection as possible for us here. Stay tuned :) Jay

@lukula2934 2 ай бұрын

On point #14, "We learn differently than other types". At 70 yrs., I've come to terms with my learning style, (if it can even be described as such). Intuition can be a fickle friend, by which I mean, A vision, feeling, or whisper from someplace deep inside can provide a laser sharp understanding of an otherwise complex problem or challenge. However, the equally clear expression of this insight is often a dismal failure. Linear or Quantum type thinking seems to be the accepted form of figuring things out and expressing knowledge in this world of ours. But I'm convinced that intuition can often come from a place of much deeper comprehension. The most challenging part of this understanding is a damaged self-esteem and/or fear of rejection, coupled with and made much worse by what could be a "soul crunching" perfectionism. IMHO

@1valerie_oakley 5 ай бұрын

So good! I’m not necessarily clumsy, but I’ll pay more attention to the tendency. Yes on the alone time to recharge!👍🏽💯 When I door slam, it’s the other person or persons that seem to burn the bridge by not speaking to me anymore at all. (I didn’t cut you off, I was just done 😂). Good to hear that self care, healing and empathy are our jam. I’m a health and transformation coach! 🎯🎯🧡 Thanks for the review

@user-ys7ll8kj1h 5 ай бұрын

I'll probably get backlash for this but I overthink and will overthink 'til the cows come home. Can it be bad? Yes but that's where I learn a lot about myself and make changes that will help me in the future. If I'm overthinking, then I know something didn't sit right with me. Find the problem, fix the problem. That's just how I roll. Make the most of what I got.

@sunset9729 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for the video Happy new year

@scissorcize 5 ай бұрын

I agree the clumsiness is part of it. Lots of stuff hitting home in this video.

@janetmcbee 4 ай бұрын

💜Hi, After all that's happened in my past,, well, I could say 20yrs, but in the shorter version,the past 10yrs. I'm struggling to re-find my Balance .My structure I had. I'm 63yrs old but with so much life and clarity, energy! ~ I know Whatever has happened , it's all in the past. But I want my life back as you have shared in your videos . This is what I want back. People really do try to mess Us up . I don't know why they do that 😶.

@buckleymordecai9605 5 ай бұрын

Re #8; ya- unless I focus on movement, I am dangerously (to myself) clumsy! Lol. #19, oh hell yeah- my default is to entertain worst case scenario's. I have to actually MAKE myself stop and re-direct that energy waste and tell myself I just imagined a 1% possibility. This was good! Thanks!

@justathought7221 3 ай бұрын

Omg I’m always being clumsy. I thought I was messed up. And yes very much so a perfectionist

@justinwhite2725 4 ай бұрын

Coordination and awaewness of surroundings is Extraverted Sensing, which we have last.

@jamesdryburgh4155 5 ай бұрын

Thank you . I’m a yoga enthusiast , caring for my best version . Soothing influence your words. Grateful

@guarionex4672 4 ай бұрын

Brother you’re on fire! 🔥🎯😎

@lukula2934 2 ай бұрын

Of the many infj podcasts out there..(Why is that so?). I keep coming back to your's. You really do seem to have an authentic and experiential perspective and a no nonsense way of expressing it. You are appreciated...