That's an interesting observation, thanks.

I 100% agree with you, I absolutely think theres a social expectation. I'm a man, but I present quite feminine and the gym has always been something I've avoided becsuse those expectations have always made me for the gym wasn't something 'for me' or people 'like me'. Maybe I should take a leaf from your book and give it a go.

Love the shirt!!! IF and when I go the gym, I don't like it if i feel like I stand out, or if there are people who are recording themselves and doing weird things that take up a lot of room and get others in their videos.

No, You're straight up overthinking. Thinking that you needed to compete with everyone is a YOU thing. I enjoy lifting heavy weights and doing better each time. Everyone is at the gym to work on themselves, you're the one who decided to conform to some social expectation when it never existed, "grunting and groaning" is just what happens when you actually push your body to go beyond how much effort it wants to exert, that is how you push your body to grow. If you dont care about that then it is fine, but dont push this unhealthy narritive that any guy has this expectations, it's just you.