He wanted love and a relationship ..started to complain from the first time we were together but kept on coming back and going on and off saying he was sorry to come back and sorry to leave ...he drove me crazy !

Jon is so honest. 😳. I love it 👍🏾

Thank you Jonathan for the great knowledge on relationships and self learning....😊♥️🇨🇦🙏💯, ty also the great books tips to read up on....planning to purchase them all for healing self...

@@TheTulina c cfc sd5zpa8

True appreciation & gratitude for each other and our best interest at heart, I totally agree with.

Uh oh. I have the triple threat situation with my guy

Yes, since when did I become a part time relationship and not included in your personal life? I'm a good woman, I deserve to be put in front row not on a back burner

Thank you🙏🏻♥️

Thank you!

Lol so true .. until they want something or got refused by someone else they are treating the same way .. Can't stand people who expect your sincerness yet don't do the same in return .

You go honey!

Good for you girl . Loved them and leave them /move on .

Yes, this woman has said the right thing.

Exactly!👍

Word! 👍

Men say they want a relationship so they can have sex with you…it’s just game very few genuine people out there

Perhaps you have to look closely at what you think is a good relationship. Maybe figure out your standards in different areas. Not what they say, but what they do!

@@AngelWingzzz I think you misunderstood my post. The moral of the story was - don’t always believe what people tell you, but always ask.

@@lucythepug3116 but they lie so look at his actions

​@@samboriboun2213 I'm just not sure if people don't read my posts, or don't understand my posts. Again I will say - the moral of the story is - don't always believe what people tell you, but always ask.

May I ask why you’re listening to this KZfaq if you’re settled and happy? 🌷

the key is finding a man who respects my values...no...a person who shares your values.

@@caroshmarow she helps the rest of us have hope

@@caroshmarow maybe she listens to help her friends, family or daughter- he gives a different perspective and way of talking about the issues of relationships. Not sure 🤔 but thats why I listen and for future reference.

@@caroshmarow just because someone listens to this, doesn't mean they're not settled and happy. Like me, I was scrolling on KZfaq and seen this video and was just interested on what he had to say so I listened. I am happily married and been married for 13 years. Some of us just get curious when we see a title like this.

Kimberly Loftus well said.

That sounds like me

It's insulting to put someone in the friend zone. That's the end of any romantic involvement. I don't think men and women can be true friends. Sex always comes up, esp if they've slept together before. They can be friendLY acquaintances, say hi when they run across each other. But they're not going to pal around together, go to lunch with each other to meet their new significant others, go on out of town trips together whether a fishing trip or to the beach. When a man says "let's be good friends," he's telling you he knows you're not "the one." You've been friend zoned. He wants to "be friends" so he can keep your number and possibly have sex with you again in the future. Women also say "let's be friends" to let the man down easy. She knows they won't be real friends. If he or she wants to be "friends," the romantic involvement is over. I wouldn't accept being friends, because you can't really be friends, so why pretend. You can be friendLY. No need to be hostile.

I’ve chosen all of my guys, walked right up and asked them out. One of them was “the one”, I knew it from the start but he didn’t and that was fine…it took a while for him to figure it out and I respected that. Two of the others were relationships for years, I chose a few duds, they didn’t last long- I just walked away bc it just wasn’t happening so never went further than a couple of dates with them. Been together with my husband almost 30 years, married over 20.

Agreed w/no sex and seek friendship first!

It's true. Many men can't handle that. What's worse is when they carry on in the beginning as if they DO get it, and ARE being transparent or deep, but as time goes by, it's hard for them to keep up the façade, it's too much work for a guy to keep up the ruse, and things begin to fall apart -- and the unraveling generally begins with his behavior towards me. That is the most heartbreaking, being led to believe we're a match, we're meant to be, led to believe he loved me deeply and truly, only to be crushed when it crashes all because he couldn't fake it anymore. I'm done for awhile. I'm getting back to taking care of myself and loving Me. Perhaps, if/when I heal someday from the last 40 years of toxicity, then perhaps a real guy, a true match to my energy and values, will enter my life. If he never does, I'll still be happy and content, because I validate and love and honor myself. Still, it's been heartbreaking, because it's been nearly all my life.

You perhaps say too much about being deeply spiritual. Hold this back and just be a woman who respects herself. Perhaps less of a daunting challenge. Mention spirituality later on when you get to know him.

@@AngelWingzzz sorry I’m not changing the good that I offer that’s what makes me

So true --- when we are spiritual and self aware - it's so much harder to 'lower standards' - just to be with someone who is 'halfway' there... sigh --- ughhh ---

@@phoenixmode6909 At least you know now.

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Well said Veronica 👏🏾❤

Hahaha.. yup you said it ! Wasting time and MONEY ! ..

You shouldn’t be giving men money at all

@@helena3631 Yes, many that are narcs want the women to pay for things and then when they get good jobs after you take care of kids, your costing too MUCH money...go figure, when He said to My Mom if she dies she will not suffer anymore because she left ME...lol...this is after I'm begging for help...two months..I had pancreatitis and gastroparesis and he didn't want to go to the hospital...kid you not, Telling my attorney he treated me like a QUEEN...

Mom’s right

Mine wants me to stay with an adulterer for financial security 😒. Nope, not doing it.

Loved this. Very funny and informative😁

I am one of the kind. It’s hard to take back control and let go and forget…

Good for you Helen it's ok to love again 💕

@@Sharon-777 several widowed friends of mine married other widows they had known for years. They are happy.

Why waste time trying to vet strangers when someone with whom there is mutual trust and care is right there?

WOW, thank you 😊

Watched a video about childhood neglect crappy childhood. Hooked on breadcrumbs means you're like the kid waiting for your mom or dad to come home & pay attention to you. Many do this and when a person is good to you then they get labelled as too nice ! Make sense ??

I don't understand when you say "he paid for my tickets and everything" Did you expect otherwise?

@@Cekatu in the past relationships I always had to pay something

@@tammycooper625 Tammy sweetheart, please don't do that anymore. Dating is a man's opportunity to court yOu. HE wants yOu, and he proves himself through courtship... which includes, being a gentleman; treating you with respect and kindness; using HIS resources and spending HIS money on you; planning dates; wining and dining you; going out of his way to earn your love, respect and admiration; initiating contact between dates; allowing you to peacefully be the glorious woman you are while he works to be the winner of all men.... so that HE can win the prize - that's yOu! Paying for dates is helping a man to court and win yOu. Why would you do that? Your role is to look good, be fun, playful and a little firtatious... and be engaging and pleasant company.... all while evaluating him. Thats it. If he can't or not willing to pay for dates how can you trust he will provide for the family (one day)? How do you judge his level of generousity? Unfortunately many male dating coaches advise women to pay their share of dates. (They will also tell you to put out on first date) They are trying to make things easy for men. Earning a woman should never be easy for a man, so don't buy into it. Here is a script next time you are expected to pay for e.g dinner. Say it in your sweetest most feminine voice, with the saddest look in your eyes: "I'm sorry, but I was under the impression that you really liked me; thought highly of me, and saw me as a valued woman, that you were attracted to. So now I feel completely disappointed that you don't want to pay for our date. (Pause. Take out your money. Put it on the table) Guess I had the wrong impression. (Get up and leave.)

@ Tammy Cooper You're a lucky gal. Good for u. !!!!!!

When a man will never let you know where you're going and only wants to take you to places that he wants to take you to, it makes me wonder a bit if he's taking you to places that he wants to go to, but is looking for someone to go with him so he doesn't have to go by himself. That may not necessarily be his true reason, but there's a possibility and it is worth thinking about and either decide which way it truly is: one way or the other.

That’s what I did.

Feminine doesn’t mean weak any guy who needs that to feel manly is nit someone to stick around with. You don’t need to lean into weakness. That’s just pure Sexism. Not everything everyone tells you is good just bc they say it. Even parents.

Well, I was married for 14 years and the my husband startet to change so much, until I finally couldn't bare it anymore and I just had to leave. I needed to bekomme myself again.

I compare the iceberg to a volcano.. The unresolved issues, anger,etc underneath,subconscious and is the lava eruption.lol

Heart S, This is classic. It is what most women want. Men also but sometimes are skittish.

You are very lucky to have met such a man!

What a blessing God gave to u. I am sorry for your loss also 🙏

Awe... thank you 😊

The hell with the book

Thanks... 🤗

Jonathan, I'm married and my husband has moved out of my bedroom physically and sexually and is blaming this situation all on me! He treats me like a bad child. And punishes me if he thinks I have misbehaved! I'm about to be 65 years old and I think that he's going mental

HELLO LOVELY I CAN INTRODUCE YOU TO THE SAME POWERFUL RELATIONSHIP RESTORER WHO HELPED ME TO RECOVER BACK MY EX FIANCEE. HE CAN ALSO HELP YOU GET BACK WITH YOURS AND MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO BLOSSOM FOREVER...

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Thanks...

Omg best coaching truth to point..Open your ears Ladys.. I love your Directness...

Offering to pay for dinner, shows care and investment into the relationship.

Just being a warm body can look desperate to a narcissist.

Me 2

Thanks for sharing...

@@JonathonAslay you’re welcome Jonathan 🙏🏽

Me too. I like courtship.

I believe in Karma, 😎

WOW, thank you 😊

Sex is not a big deal ...friendship and respect for each other is better when you get older

The man I date is passive and I love conversation we have fun he kind sincer I have none him for 29 years but the last few years we got closer……..but he is married but it’s been like that for years he is a Businessman Ann I don’t want to be tide down but I do have a lot of filling for him he says why I need u.so this is where iam at I new what I was getting to .Ian never dated a marriad man and I no it’s wrong I have been divorced for 28 years.like I said we were friends

@@gloriamasana976 Pack it in

@@gloriamasana976 don't date a married man. You are only asking for a heartache. Do NOT SLEEP WITH HIM If he wants to still be friends, than do that or tell him to call you when he is DIVORCED. Don't settle for being the side chick.

Glad it was helpful!

I think we all want to be SEEN and then, chosen. The guys who move so fast are in a hurry to meet THEIR needs. They are being intentional about their needs only. No "we" at all.

I agree.

I feel you Lisa

Definitely don’t give up. I was the one who made the first move. He’s older & had no problem with it. If he’s the right one it will work out.

Hi Lisa 😀. That totally sounds like frustrating scenarios. Have you ever mentally prepared yourself for a date to go well? I wonder what stories your mind is telling itself, subconsciously? I promise that my curiosities are coming from a heart-centered space, to help you bring awareness of your own mental status, in setting it up for what you truly desire. Having a growth-mindset or knowing that everything is going to work out for you, while being unattached to outcome, brings a whole different essence on a date, allowing you to be more of yourself, while being able to be comfortable with uncertainty.

What about calling the next guy youre interested in, rather than texting. I'm 52 and I would sooooo rather talk than text, any day!!!

Were you planning to take him to dinner?

Jennifer Telfer It's good that you did that, but this is TMI, unless I'm just getting old! ☺

@@cyndigooch1162 I agree. TMI . Not for social media platform but in the bedroom domain . Not low self esteem 😌 behaviour .

@@cyndigooch1162 Im a very open honest person sorry if that is to much for you.

Thanks for sharing...

Yes !