Avoidants come on very strongly. Then they literally fault find with no communication so u never have the ability to correct things. They are way way too secretive and if you try to get too close or ask normal questions that’s when they back away. Everything literally is on their terms. Honestly unless u are in a relationship with one you could not even imagine. It’s the most challenging relationship I’ve ever been in. Never ever again …

I use to be scared of going places and getting lost. I believe it stems from my parents arguing over the map . My dad drove and mom was reading the map. Many arguments. Better today but still get worried.

I just wanted to mention that Any secure person would feel insecure around an avoidant of either type. And because they’re concerned and want to find out what happened does not mean that they are to be labeled anxious. Just my opinion, but anxious avoidant is fallacy and not a personality type. I believe true Anxious attachment follows along the lines of borderline personality disorder. I think anyone who has spent any time around an avoidant, especially a fearful avoidant, (narcissist) would turn into an anxious mess. they are unpredictable… they lie, cheat, run away, are secretive and very messed up…. unhealed adult children. They inflict great pain in people and if you have been involved with one, you would know what I’m talking about. My heart goes out to anyone that has been subjected to being in a relationship with a fearful avoidant. All this talk about narcissists, I believe avoidants are narcissists , and that is why there are so many complaints from people. I have sympathy for FAs because their life must be living hell, but I would never ever want to be in a relationship with one again.

Would this be also known as the "Love Bomber"?

Here is what will help us in the clinical approach. ALL trauma responsive behavior is narcissistic. Period. We can stop being afraid of the word. Whether intentional or not, we have to highlight fear-based ego responses as they are without minimization. It doesn't help people to discount their undesirable traits. The main proponent of change comes through facing the shadow aspects. Avoidant behavior is fearful behavior and it is narcissistic. Anxiety-ridden control is narcissitic. It's self-preservation. It's okay to call it narcissistic so that people can make accurate decisions.