As soon as i accept the situation and acknowledge what has happened to me I can start healing myself. Also, I took my power back as soon as I am not waiting for his apology for hurting me instead I forgive myself . I am RESPONSIBLE for any good or bad feelings i am going thru in my life. Instead of feeling regrets of meeting him, I turn it to be my lessons so i can grow stronger . I am in process of getting to know my wounds since these caused of my triggers . Thank you Stephanie for the video you are awesome and very helpful.

Realizing that they dumped their garbage onto me and no longer accepting it is powerful

Once you start to heal up you will love the new you, you must learn to let go in order to receive 👍 up Michelle

I needed this. Trauma is so evil. It rips apart your very essence and you find so much of your life is spent reliving, hurting, healing those broken parts of yourself. Especially when it happens over and over again. I woke up this morning so angry that there were so many parts of my life that were damaged. I’ve given up on the hope for peace because I have experienced tremendous disappointment, rejection, and abandonment. The most frustrating and sad part is doing all those things to myself. Stephanie, you’re right... owning my healing, emotions, and actions are critical. I’m trying to get there to getting control of my life.

Very important point I think that grief comes and goes. You can get stuck in a mindset of "I should be over this already". But it's like an injury that can flare up even years later if it was severe

Being sad is hard. When you feel angry you can feel more in control; when you’re sad, you are weak. It’s the only emotion out of all of the ones you mentioned that leaves you feeling low and vulnerable and at times needing another person to support and be there for you. When you’re angry, healthy people are gonna leave you alone because, well, you’re angry, and communication while you’re angry is usually not that productive. Being sad is hard, and takes a lot of strength, ESPECIALLY around other people.

I needed this. 1. Don’t watch tarot readings lol 2. Work through the reality of healing for sure. Thank you for this. I feel physical heartbreak pain. It is not easy and it sucks so much.

You probably won’t read this Dr. Stephanie, but your words have been so helpful to me recently. So much fruit here to take up. Thanks so much for all you’re doing!

I own that what happened to me is part of my story and life experience to grow to where I am. Although I feel anger (sadness/grief) and bitterness and want to blame others for not rescuing me from a toxic situation, I know I need to own my feelings (vs victim mode) and take responsibility in order to go out and find the partner I am supposed to be with. The relationship served it's purpose and now I am a better person as a result of it :) - self-worth, boundaries, intuition, vocalizing my needs, closer relationships, more compassion etc

I have been obsessing over the ‘how’ of healing, so this was ideal ☺️

This is so true! I am currently in the process of healing from a toxic manager, she moved departments but she still stops by and visits. I used to regularly vent to my two close coworker friends about what this lady used to do to me. I realize that no amount of venting and reanalyzing the situation will help me feel better. This person along with other ugly people I have dealt with in my life carry hate in their heart and expect me to take their garbage, I realize that it is my responsibility, like she said to get off this trauma rollercoaster! Reliving my past is inflicting pain on myself for no reason. I realize one of my triggers was that she used to ignore me a lot or exclude me, it used to make me feel sooo self conscious.

Taking responsibility for whatever happened with you in order to heal and not staying in the state of victim does make sense. But sometimes, until things don't make sense to you, you are going to be stuck in one stage and it will be very hard to move on. Its because you are looking for closure. Just give yourself some time. Feel everything. Let it pass may it good or bad. Thats all I can say. :)

I can’t believe that a smart and beautiful woman like yourself was caught up in a abuse relationship

The pain is there to teach us ❤

I’m really depressed, was discarded 4 months ago after 3 years out of the blue. She’s blocked me so silent treatment as well, I thought we loved eachother so didn’t see it coming, I also changed her life for the better, I really miss her it’s killing me, she’s been so nasty and I’ve done nothing wrong, I’ve never known someone be so evil

Great video. Absolutely true. Somebody else my have dug the hole we fell into but we're the ones who have to get our selves out of that hole. So healing our wounds, triggers etc. is the only real way out if we want a different experience and to be able to build a different life.

I have been watching your U-tube videos about 2 weeks now and WOW. I am working through my most deep issues and notice a very big improvement in every aspect of life. I have always been very anxious with panic attacks. I just took it upon myself thinking this is the way I am and there's no change. there's always medication but medication has side effects and the side effects cause additional issues. by watching and listening to your KZfaq videos I am now digging my way out of this extremely deep rabbit hole. I've been stuck in this rabbit hole with doubt self-pity and guilt Etc. you have given me the tools with validation that I am on the right track. it has taken me 58 years to get to this point and like you said there is no quick solution. with that being said I'm going to have good days and not-so-good days but these past two weeks I am beginning to see the light. the light is giving me the power to keep on going keep on digging and just knowing and seeing there is a way out makes it so empowering. I do thank you so very much for each and every video. Barry

Hey Stephanie, I’ve been following your videos since 2020 (which was a very tough year for me). I finally brought myself to move on from a painful and toxic relationship through the help of your videos. Lately I’ve been having some fragments of the past resurfacing but your videos have been so helpful. Thanks for all you do. ❤️

You are so incredibly helpful!!! So often I have felt like “well my ex did this to me a million times” without ever thinking about why I let it happen a million times and why I let myself stay and react in ways o was so ashamed of!! Totally believe in accountability and acknowledging how my part played in my life while also understanding it’s ok to feel sad that I stayed so long and reacted in ways I normally wouldn’t. You’re great, thank you!!!

Be accountable vs a victim is life changing

I like that you mentioned to step away from verbally reacting to triggers. I'm working on saying "I don't know why (so-and-so) said or did that thing" and it stops the story from playing out. Then I examine what story was playing out in my thoughts that caused me to feel the perceived offense.

Yes my counselor said this it’s like a rollercoaster ride you’re doing so good enjoying then boom something triggers you and you get emotional down sometimes feel depressed but I tell my no I’m not going to be like this forever it’s just a motion also she said when you don’t get triggered anymore you healed

Accepting that (it) happened and holding yourself accountable to start your healing it’s important. Deciding to (want) to heal and taking actual steps (micro steps) can truly make all the difference. From a self love content creator to another, great video Stephanie! 💗

THIS! This is the kind of video that I will come back to and share with others. It covers so much and has helped me to understand some areas for me that still need awareness and compassion. I am proud to say that I am much better at catching unhelpful stories (from past hurts) in their tracks. Wishing everyone peace and thanks again Stephanie for your time! 🌹

The only thing I want to say after watching this video is - Thank you soooooo much from the bottom of my heart, love you so much for showing the way. Wish me luck ♥️

My mom & grandma were addicts so effected from abandonment & neglect 👌

This was fire!!!!!🔥🔥🔥 Thank you! 🙏🏼

Thank you for doing these videos. So good!

Amazing video!

Thanks & good job!

Great vid, keep flowing 🙂

Golden truth! You are amazing!

I love this video; really really helps

Thank you for your help. Invaluable .

This was really good 👏🏻

This was a great video. Thanks :) Please keep on sharing more

Thanks Stephanie 🥰

Stephanie I just want to say thank you much. I was diagnosed with GAD(Generalized Anxiety Disorder) in Feb 2022 and I needed resources in between my Therapy sessions and came across your vids and I must say you have helped me more than my Therapist has🌹thank you thank you and I have came a long way and feel so much better and now I can finally say that I love myself and the woman I am becoming.

Thank you for your help😉

I think the pain was worth it. I'm still in it but I had to see the narcissist friend do her worst. Then at least I reached the point of being done with this person. I am free but still a bit wounded. Needs some time.

you are my fav coach

Thanks yet again, Stephanie; great teaching!

Love how you went through that step by step. Appreciate it Stephanie

Thank you for your videos. So appreciative of you.

Thank you ❤️

I really resonated with this message today!!! I am very appreciative of receiving this message, and I will share this with others!!👍🏽

I gotta watch this about 2 more times!

Thank you for sharing this beautifull insights with us Stephanie!i need healing.

Thanks Stef Thats some real good advice.

This is absolutely amazing!!! You are so amazing sharing this with us for free!! Thank you so so much xxxx

Brilliant! Thank-you!

I am so glad you are making these videos, thank you

Thank you so much🙏🏻. I really appreciate your videos💗.

Thanks!

You are a godsend!

This is so exactly what I need to hear right now as I come out of intense trauma therapy and feel a bit lost figuring out what to do next. Thank you so much:) ❤️💖🙏💕💝🥰

Thank you for this video

What an empowering vid - such great, clear info - thank you❤️

Wise as well as enchanting, much obliged

Thank you so much for putting everything in order!! It is very helpful for me to follow the steps you have mentioned - they work!

I love your videos and especially these very practical ones! Thank you for braking it down into small chunks and guiding us through the process. 💕😊🙏🏻

Wanted to let u know that I follow ur videos weekly, they absolutely help, please continue as long as you're able to Xoxo

Powerful and helpful message.

If you feel it, do it. Go girl!

Stephanie! Thank you.❤

Damn Stephanie, you mention a lot of good things in this video. Thank you!

This isn't a video that says, hey let's get over the abuse instead of through it.. here's a video I think says, yes, you're experience was very real (validation) but let's rise from it.. good stuff!! 💯

Hi Stephanie, thanks for your channel and for sharing so many ideas and tips. I wish you all the best for your life.

Seriously in love with your content and so beyond appreciative. ❤️✨🦋

Thank u much appreciated

Loving your flow and I am responsible for my own flow of healing thank you

Aww😍😍.. Much love for you. Acknowledging and owning it all by yourself is the foundation, it's the only way that will lead us to light of self forgiveness and loving ourselves unconditionally

This is So Good!!! Thank you for the reminder about being gentle with myself and letting this healing process be natural.. I noticed it's been hard when I'm feeling so good and feeling strong about the decision I made to walk away from a spiritual narcissist about 8 months ago and then I wake up feeling sad and anxious and all these thoughts and emotions flood through my heart and my mind and all the memories and the confusion.... And so this is reminding me that the healing is going to come in waves and then it's just going to take time and there's no rushing it and to just keep things for my self that bring me peace and happiness and my healing will continue everyday until hopefully this whole messed up situation will just be a distant memory💖

Beautiful. Thank you so much 💓 I felt as if you were just sitting next to me and explaining it like a dear friend 🙂

Im still learning that

Thank you Stephanie , your videos rocks 👍😊🌼♥️

I love you.. for all the help you givings us.. it making a difference.. in my life.. i need it this

Stephanie, you’re so good. Your videos have been blessing me 🙏🏾

Very powerful! Thank you for this priceless information! ❤

Really enjoyed it! Your videos are extremely validating they are my go to whenever whenever I am feeling too stuck. They fill me with hope and lots of positive energy 🥺❤️thank you 🙏🏻

It's easy to feel stuck in life, but we can get through it! I know that i will get through my hardships, thank you Stephanie!!

I love you Stephanie, your videos and presentation. You've helped me tremendously on topics I never knew very little about. Would like to meet you one day. Thanks

All of the above, was learned

Excellent video. Thank you.

You are great

I keep thinking of my ex of 30 yrs ago. I'm 5'7 and weighed 125 at age 22. He was older than me by 3 years. He would call me fat. I took it to heart. I would take diet pills and became bulimic. I then weighed 112 lbs just for him. He is a trigger that pops up. I'm just now realizing he was a narcissist. Thank you for this information.💗

Thank you

These are brilliant concepts and very helpful, thank you.

You are smart thank you very much

Very helpful video! Thank you 🙏🏼

Wow really love the trigger piece to this video 🙏 this is something I am dealing with now and have become very present too as my ex lives in the same town and is very well known in the community so while I'm healing in Great strides there's these words and people and things that keep getting thrown around and I'm definitely feeling it in my body... When this happens my stomach sinks but I start breathing deeply and telling myself that I am okay now & that I am safe and then I get out in nature and take a walk and work through all that sticky energy 💖

This really helped me. Praise God.

Thank you for great advice. Different wounds need to be dressed differently. It is better to walk around the rabbit hole and be able to think rationally, rather than fall into the rabbit hole, get emotionally triggered and suffer from flashbacks. It is hard stuff when you have many different wounds to heal but getting emotionally healthy is worth it all.

Your video are great! Has been very helpful and refreshing listening over this Christmas. I’m feeling good. You present this info very clearly and nicely. Thanks

Love this video 💕 such great information

At around 9:25 ish, she just opened my eyes up…in a good way!

ty stephanie

Somehow I had the strength or weakness to forgive the 1st 2 flags and stay years n years...spot on.

Thank you , appreciate you so much, God bless your wonderful heart. 🙏

You are so true thanks I am learning a lot more me thanks I feel I can't grow up