“You will be first, you are first, everything is first”.... finally someone who has a sensible view. It’s disheartening to hear single parents say “my kids will always come first”. Why can’t the new partner AND the kids come first together and equally?? That type of comment is mortifying and off putting. Who would want a relationship where you will forever be seen as 2nd. Kids and step parent are both as deserving of the #1 spot and I believe it is possible.

I tried dating a single dad. Thought he was worth it, but his baggage wasn't. I won't date a man with kids again. It's now a deal breaker for me. It was before, I broke my rule, and I won't do it again

lol im a single woman with no kids, Im not even friends with people who have children. I mean, I dont mean that I avoid them or anything, I just think our life styles and interests are so incredibly different we dont often cross paths. Being a single parent sounds exhausting honestly... I often hear single parents saying they ONLY would date single people with no kids, and im like "sir, unless you're a dead beat, we dont even exist in the same world... go find someone that has the same priorities as you"

I personally know some amazing single dads, but for me personally the problems that come with dating a single parent when you’re childless, are never worth it.

I don’t date single dads because I don’t want to help raise his kids. I also don’t want the headaches and drama of parenting. There is nothing in it for a childless lady unless she is dying to be a mom and most often there already is a mom. I don’t want my life revolving around someone else’s kid/s.

As a single woman with no kids, I would not date a single dad. However, I loved your video...great explanation and you seem like a great father!! 👏👏👏👏

This applies to both sides. Let's be honest, single dad's kids will not respect you as their biological mom. I like this video, its honest.

I will not be sacrificing myself for other people's responsibilities. No thanks. It's incredibly stupid.

I don’t date single moms because I’m always gonna rank below her kids I would think it’s similar for a woman dating a single dad

I am a childless woman leaning towards childfree and I had dated a single dad before. I felt bored with him talking about the problems of parenting and he seemed to think that I was actually interested and was showing off to me what a good parent he was. (I was not interested, but I listened to be polite) Another thing about dating someone who already has kids, as someone who is considering of having my own kids, is that I keep wondering if his projected income will be enough to support the hypothetical future children, because his current financial resources is already allocated to existing children. Kids are expensive, if you want to raise them right they have to be expensive. Not only financially but also in terms of time and attention. Even if a single dad is particularly rich, he still only has 24 hours just like everybody else. He won't have enough time to spend with our hypothetical child if he has to divide his time with his children from previous marriage. So yeah, whether I decide to be completely childfree or have one child, dating someone who already has kid(s)will not be beneficial to me. EDIT: adjustment of grammar into past tense.

Okay so I am never gonna date a single dad 👍

Step kid “ you are not MY mom!” or “you are not my dad!” But as the the partner of your parent I’m expected to provide for you and pick you up from school? 😂 no thanks kiddo !

SOLUTION: Single dads should date single moms. Theyll be perfect for each other!

I’m a childfree woman and refuse to sign up to help raise a single father’s kids. Dealing with all the drama that comes with it sounds like a complete nightmare and a waste of my hard earned money. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard single parents say they only want to date childfree people because they think their kids are soooooo great or grown and won’t be a problem. Oh please, all kids are difficult regardless of their age. Childfree people can and should keep their standards high and avoid single parents like the plague.

A flip side.... My now fiancé was a widower.... I was so afraid that his children wouldn't like me. I'm unable to physically have children but I wasn't sure if I could take on the challenge of children let alone 3. That's 6, 8 and 11. But fast forward 3 years later.... I love his babies as if they are my very own. I feel so lucky! To have a silly very lovable husband to be, and 3 beautiful children. There were times where I thought maybe I can't do this... But one day... I stopped and just watched... And one of the babies held my hand and said I need you🥺and hugged me so tightly. What a gift children truly are. These tips are very helpful.

#1 reason- They had kids with someone who wasn't going to last and therefor you have to question their thinking process, if they even have one. Second reason, they typically get defensive about their kids as if the women are trying to "be their mom". Reason # 3, if the kids are small just dont, meet a man with teenagers or adult kids. Single parents should date other parents in my opinion. Cherish your child free life! Leave the normies be with their dysfunctional families and baby momma drama (not saying all do but many do)..

When a woman says: the child will always come first, she means that if an event or situation happens that involves the child, yes, you will choose the child, for example: you’re about to go out for dinner with her and then get a call about your son being sick, which one do you think you will cancel? That’s what we mean when we say that.

I dated a single dad once, and while I don't regret it (despite the very painful heartbreak in the end), I would be much more cautious about it next time. Specifically, I would be extra cautious about a newly single dad where there is a lot of emotional enmeshment/engagement with his co-parent/ex. I ended up feeling excluded, unwanted, not committed to, and like the "other woman" (a far less important/valued one). I don't know for sure, but I think he and his co-parent/ex may have reconciled. I realize all relationships involve risk, but there are some added risks to dating single dads. I might be willing to take the risk again with a single dad, but I would be far more careful next time and choose someone who has clear, distinct boundaries with his ex/co-parent.

“You get to love my son.” - I have an issue with that. No one is ever going to feel the same way about your kids as you. No matter how cute and wonderful you think they are. Most single people can learn to tolerate or even really like your child but for the majority, they aren’t thinking “wow! I get to love kids that aren’t mine!”

Your mindset is so dope. Love all of this and 111% agree. You're wise beyond your years my friend. My daughters and I have just discovered this channel as we're a familia with myself being a single mother and their father has chosen not to be in the picture at all. As we cannot control the actions and choices of others I try to teach them that no's are simply just not your door...but by forcing the door we do a disservice to ourselves as well as the other individual. Navigating the future and wanted to show my girls a family on the opposite spectrum-with a single Papa. It's so beautiful how you're raising Lincoln with such a healthy perspective on life. My daughters Atlas and Mavis are fans of Lincoln :) and it's made them really happy to see a Dad so present and loving toward his child. Beauty is all around us :) Keep fighting the good fight.

I honestly have huge respect for you for telling truth. My aunt who was just 25 dated a single dad who was 37 year old with one kid and that was her biggest mistake! She suffered mentally and thankfully she got over it. I'm not being mean but dating single dad and single mom comes with huge responsibility.

I'm dating a single dad right now and this was SO helpful! I appreciate your advice and pov! Do you think you could give more content on dating a single dad? How to navigate the dynamics of going from no kids to having a kid around, having time alone (but not making the kid feel left out), intimacy, dates, how to navigate coparenting while dating, the relationship with the kid, everything. Lol I would GREATLY appreciate it

Definitely don't date a single dad if you don't want kids at all. I've been childfree for as long as I can remember. I don't mind kids (AHEM not every childfree person hates kids!) and I was a nanny for 12 years (kind of helped to further my no kids stance lol) but I would rather occasionally spend time with my nephews or my friends' kids than have them full (or even part) time. And dating a single dad (whether he has full or split custody) is a challenge. They have a lot of time restrictions and don't have the same amount of freedom as a non-parent. That isn't meant to be rude. It's just the truth. I actually prefer a lot of alone time (more than most guys I've dated) but even then there was almost always an issue with working around schedules and having plans canceled on a regular basis (and some single dads are ridiculous. They coddle their kids and give them whatever they want and sometimes an 'emergency' is literally something stupid). And I think it's common for a lot of people to want to spend time doing their own thing, so the 24/7 bit seems somewhat deflective. I've always preferred men without kids but I've dated a few single dads just because it worked out that way. Plus none of them had full custody and I was pretty naive as well. I was young, I liked them, and wasn't really aware of the issues that could arise. Not to mention if you prefer men 5-10 years older a good chunk of them have kids... But I usually never met the kids. After 6 months my ex asked when I wanted to meet his. I said "After we've been dating a year" but honestly after I broke it off I realized that I NEVER wanted to meet them. Not because I thought there was anything wrong with them (his ex, his issues, and how he ended up treating me were the actual problem and why I ended things) but because they just didn't fit into my life plan. I chose to have a life without kids and if I wanted them in it I would have had my own. I think maybe a childless woman who can't have biological children but still wants them would be a good choice for a single dad (provided that they are ok with older kids. Some "childless not by choice" women are stupidly baby crazy). That or a single mom... But it's funny how many single dads don't want them and chase after women like myself...

I'm dating a single dad now he is nice but I found that his ex still around for taking her kids anywhere, sometimes she came for borrow his car. This isn't easy to deal with.

I’m conscious enough to know I don’t want kids so I would not dare put a family through me dating a single dad . It’s not fair. Kids grow up with emotional scars.

Did this never again! You have to be highly developed to date a single dad. Their expectations are high, which is understandable. I ended with a broken heart, for minor misunderstandings. Dating someone single there is more room for error and growing together.

Who needs attention 24/7/365?! Oh my word! Is that a thing?

You are totally right about ebb and flow vs ‘XYZ will always be first’. A lot of single parents shoot themselves in the foot too soon by communicating the who comes first thing as a general rule. I’d think that most adults would realize that children don’t always need 100% ‘first’ 24/7 attention because they are not with the parent 100% of the time 24/7. Sometimes the co-parent can handle the child’s needs. Sometimes the child is busy and fine. Sometimes there’s space for the partner to be first. I remember when I dated a single father prior to my current relationship. He had casually told me that his daughter would always come first … and I was of the same perspective that I am now ‘of course children should come first’. Well on this night, he was at my house for a romantic evening, and at the worst possible moment, the babysitter called saying that the little girl was ill, well guess what, single father still wanted to finish. Me: Nope, your daughter is first and needs you so go to her and take care of her. Him: 😮 So yeah, it’s an ebb and flow just like everything else. It’s about the moment and prioritizing needs in that moment. Nobody (single parent or non-single parent) is expected to stay in a relationship if their needs aren’t being met. If folks want to be in a relationship, they should be able to be a partner to someone, if they don’t feel that there’s space to be a good partner, then maybe delay relationships until that changes. I’ve had many positive experiences dating single fathers who want to be good partners.

What would you say are ways you can tell a single dad is actually ready to date, cuz as a single woman, one thing that does cross my mind is whether the single dad would still be sleeping with the baby momma or still has interest in her? which I think deters a lot of single woman from thinking of dating or being with a single dad. What are your thoughts?

Bottom Line It’s not safe to go near anyone’s kids!!!! It’s dangerous & unless you have an army around you I wouldn’t go near anyone’s kids for safety reasons!!!!!

Knocked out the park dude. Great production quality. Surprised you don't have more views. Keep up the good work.

Another solid video, really enjoyed this! 🔥

I dated a single dad who would say the same thing about not using his phone when with his kids. But he’s always be on his phone when we were together. Not so much in a way to keep availability for his kids but just social media/ games, etc

Thank u for this I’m a woman with no children and I wouldn’t dare want to date a man with children. I love my freedom I want my future partner to have no children. 💖

I don't think it is selfish to not want to date a father. It is simply a choice. Don't judge it negatively. It is a logistic choice just as is age, location, etc.

You are definitely a dad that we all want.

I’m happy I had my son and became a single mom because in a way it stopped me from dating dead end guys. I Don’t plan on dating till he’s an adult because it’s too scary having him get attached to someone or the guy ending up being a nut job with my poor son in the middle

I'm a single dad. I will put my woman first. I have my son every other weekend and I have babysitters. I understand where you're coming from and it will be difficult for me to find a good woman, but she's out there.

Coming from the other side and as someone who actually likes kids (most people here seem to be childfree by choice), I respectfully disagree with #2. It's your son's first ever soccer game and your girlfriend's graduation ceremony from grad school on the same day. Which one do you choose? #1 and #3 seem generic for any relationship. Other reasons if I may: [4] Long term plans like where is this going, marriage, so and so are pushed to the forefront compared to most relationships. [5] Depending on the arrangement, the needs of the mom may take higher priority when it comes to the child. Gf literally becomes 3rd priority. [6] The child will be a constant reminder that he/she is the product one of the closest bonds two people can have: creating a human being, and it was with another woman. And what if 20 years from now something reignites? It's totally insecure, but the fact is in most normal relationships we simply don't keep in touch with exes. So the girlfriend will need some thick skin to deal with that. [7] IF the girlfriend is originally childless and they have more kids, she won't be able to share the experience/joys of becoming a parent for the first time *with* him, which we all know transforms a person. Sloppy seconds might be too harsh a phrase. [8] The predestined "you're not my real mom" during the angsty teenage years (even if they don't mean it), or the bio-mom vilifying the dad's girlfriend to the kid. It really is a thankless job and for any single, childless woman jumping into this relationship, good for you and good luck lol. Sorry for the huge post. :)

I'm a single mom and I'm now dating a single dad of 2 and honestly speaking I thought it would be easy but it's way too challenging,my baby daddy is not in the picture and he stays 8 hours away from where I stay, I don't call him nor do I bother him and I also vowed to myself that I will never introduce my daughter to any guy I date until we're planning to get married of course, because I believe children are sensitive and delicate, but the guy in with has his children over every weekend when I visit him, he's not the one fetching them of course but the baby mama just keeps sending them there whenever she heard that I'm around, I want to prepare myself mentally for the new role I might have to play of being a step mom but at this rate it seems like they are shovin the children down my throat, they are always there from 7 till 3 or 4 pm on Saturday and Sunday and that's the only time I can visit, mind you I only visit 2 weekends a month. I feel like this is unfair on me because I have never put him in a situation whereby he's forced to face my daughter, not that I wasn't planning on doing so, but I was giving him time to prepare himself mentally because honestly speaking being a step parent is not natural, but it's something you can learn and be good at with time. And my baby daddy is not in the picture and although I have a child I don't make him feel like he comes second, I bought him a present on his bday he promised to buy me a present twice and never bought me anything because the kids needed something. He can't do anything to spoil me because the kids this the kids that, honestly speaking I love him I really do, I don't think I've loved anyone this way before but I think I should let this relationship go because I don't want to end up being a horrible step mom or seem like I'm competing with the kids, it's so difficult being a with a guy with kids.

Thank you so much for making this video, so much appreciated

As a single mom to 1.. I wont date a single dad. In fact I won't date anybody. Raising my child and working takes enough of my energy. Maybe single parents shouldn't date at all. Wait till your kid grows up and you can have your own life again.

The tone about the attention being needed 24/7/365 is condescending. It’s the dismissive attitude single dads give off when you just desire attention-period. If you can’t balance your time- just say that. Don’t make women feel bad for wanting the attention they deserve.

I am a single mom with 1 child. He’s been asking for a sibling forever and I doubt this will happen. If I could find a single dad with 1 child and we’d all be compatible, I think it would be ideal. Since that is very specific, I am focussing more on just making our life as best as it can be until we meet our match.

Min 4:21 is somewhat out of context. I’m dating a single dad (seriously considering it’s not gonna workout for both of us) but it is true that our relationship will never be a priority. Case in point, we haven’t been able to see each other in a couple of weeks, the relationship is still new... he wont share what happened but the mom needs him to babysit this weekend... and the next weekend he’s out of town... can’t grow a relationship like that but just here to share my experience

I've gone down a rabbit hole of relationship videos. I'm a single mom to 3 little girls (divorced ex husband for infidelity) I hate the labels that people slap onto single parents There's so much more than just "being a single parent" Personally and obviously, I would not mind dating a single dad. As long as he was healed from his past relationships. Having kids already makes me realize that having more kids in the mix would be a joy. Thanks for posting!

The community of single fathers are underrated. Well done felloz 👏🏽👏🏽

Baby mama drama, baby mama drama, and baby mama drama.... How many other reasons do you need???

Thank you for this! This is my first viewing of your channel. Insta-subscribe! 😂 The market seems swamped with single Moms and their thoughts and opinions that single dads are nearly silenced! I have never been married and don’t have any children yet. I still desire both greatly! Yet my “unpopular opinion” is that single parents should connect with other single parents and just “Brady Bunch” it up! 😂 Single parents seem to have an understanding and connection someone like me can only empathize with. And being that I’m female and still looks forward to being a mother, dating/being courted by a single father puts me at risk of giving my heart to someone who may not want to start over. And in the event he does not mind having additional children with me, there is something sufficiently awkward for the child seeing things work with their parents and other people, yet not with their actual parents. And a single parent dating a never married/no kids kind of feels like a “do over” for them; a “fresh start” so to speak. Yet the never married has to find where they fit in an already established family. Now all of what I said is coming from someone who has seen never marrieds connect with single parents and it worked out BEAUTIFULLY! I mean like 20+ years, kids adopted, additional children had and bonds formed between teens and the parent’s new spouse beautifully. I’ve seen it work more than not so there is no anti-child/anti-marriage narcissism or pessimism on my end. I have been a nanny to single parents and I’ve found that to be awesome. I do love helping single parents in that way, plus I adore children. Thank you again for sharing. You and your son are precious and I pray you both find someone amazing! ❤️ Edited to add: if you encounter anyone over the age of ten that demands constant attention and is in no way physically challenged, RUN! 😂

I'm glad you addressed the kids come first thing. It's the same thing with relationships if kids aren't involved, different things come first in different situations.

Thank you for being real! I have always hated that statement of" children are first" as you mentioned seems very cynical.Time management and healthy boundaries are needed.

So true GOD bless you in your leadership as a dad and man.

Aren't the 2. and 3. reason basically reasons to not date anyone? Because if you need attention 24/7 and\or expect things to be easy you are not ready for a relationship anyway. Also the 1. reason is not necessarily a reason if you are a dad who sees his kids every other weekend (which is like 90% of the cases).

Very well said. I love it how you said that when you are alone with your son/ partner they come first in that moment.

Am glad you have a healthy relationship with your ex with parenting. Unfortunately I haven't got that, I have full custody of my 19 month old daughter. The mother always dictates and she can't cope with our daughter so I have her 7 days a week which has hurt my social life and obviously had to quit my job to be able to have my daughter. Currently been living at my mum's with her for 5 months now. Had interest but never got any time

I feel sad when I was with someone who also was into me and turned hesitant as our relationship went on.( we knew each other for 3 years, but still My truth scared her away)

So is it better for single dads to date single moms?

Why to date a mentally healthy single dad: life with kids isn't a shock, they have decent priorities, they value alone time with you.

Yeah my guy just pulls away when dealing with stuff and I’m left in the dark while he ignores me. I’m pretty sure I’m not up for this one as a childless woman. I want my own kids but when he can’t make time for me when we are dating, he’s not going to be able to have a family with me and make time for us either

idk why this is in my recommended with other tiktok stuffs but i love ur vid! 😍 there is no right or wrong when it comes to dating whether it's a single parent or not. just know ur own preference. unfortunately, some single parents that i met are entitled to date only single ladies or men. hypocritical tbh 😂

What about if I want my OWN kids? Like, I want to fully embrace being a mother to a child, and it's unlikely that I'm going to get that from a co-parented child that has a loving mother in the picture? Obviously I would still love his child, but I would like my own child with him. I can't enter a relationship with a single dad on that premise though, so how do I go about this dilemma?

I think everyone should be open to dating a single father as long as they are a single dad who is really ready to date. It’s kind of hard to figure out which ones are ready and which ones are not because alot of men and especially single fathers carry some seriously heavy emotional burdens and they become very doubtful and frustrated at times. I think a single father who is ready to date is someone who is going to be completely open with you about his life, show you pictures of his kid/kids, get you up to speed with the entire story of how the relationship with the child’s mother ended, and be transparent with you on any other of your insecurities regarding the prospect of dating him. I believe a single dad is not ready to date when they are failing to take care of themselves, they don’t have their house in order, they place their child on such a pedestal that they develop unrealistic expectations and limiting beliefs in their standards on women, or they are still not fully in a resolved relationship with the ex where honestly both people have moved on. Anyways that’s my two cents to attempt to help women.

I was engaged to a single dad, but he can’t even support himself. He lives at home with his mom and blows through his check in 3 days though he has no bills. I love him, but I just am not up for taking care of a grown man.

Have your parents or any members of your family been unwelcoming of women that you date? My SO's mom has been against me from the beginning before ever meeting me, all she wants him to do is be a dad and that's it. As if that's his only calling in life. Also do you still have feelings towards the mother of your child? One thing that makes me very insecure is that my SO has this connection to another woman FOR LIFE! And the fact his mother doesn't want him to date anyone but just be a dad doesn't really help. It honestly makes me want to end the relationship and find someone who not only is their mother kind and welcoming but maybe doesn't have a child so I don't feel like I'm competing with an ex for the rest of my life.

Thanks for the clarity.

What’s weird to me is why is the conscious dad so offended & defensive about single ladies???? What does he care what single woman think of him & why is he so shocked that a single lady has a different lifestyle???? If you own a home & you let it fall apart do you yell at the lady renting across the street to fix your house (a house that will never be hers), & get offended when she says no way it’s your house you fix it!!!! This video is literally insane it defies all logic!!!

I’m gonna make this real easy!!! “Blood is thicker than water”!!!!! For anyone that thinks “water is thicker than blood” I have a bridge to sell you!!!

I'm a single woman in her mid-thirties, and I thought about giving single dads a try as I'm getting older but honestly I feel like this generation is having a lot less kids which means there's a lot of childless men out there. It just makes sense for me to date other childless people. Not to knock any single dads. I've swiped right on quite a few but have never actually dated or gone on a date with one now that I've come to think of it. I'm sure there's a lot of great dads out there as well as not so great ones but that can be said for childless men out there too. I just think for me, it's best I don't get involved with one because I realized children aren't a top priority to me. I'm very much an independent, free spirit and "childlike" myself. I love to do as I please whenever I want. Children was never something I really desired, I just thought it was something I'd want or do because society expects everyone to settle down and procreate. Then as I got older it became less and less of importance to me. Usually women my age by now are really looking for a partner to settle down with, but I realized it was the opposite for me. I would like to meet a guy to have a serious relationship with and maybe get married one day, but kids aren't a huge deal for me so i would have to find someone who's okay or glad to not have children either. Surprisingly there has been some judgement by men, but they can simply swipe left for that matter. And I've put on my profile no kids and no to single dads because saves everyone's time, but I have had quite a few single dads message me, really wanting to date me, but I think theyre better off with someone who wants kids.

What you’ve missed is that the step children aren't your own children - they're someone else's children. That's VERY different. And you don't get to be a mother... you have no say in how the children are raised at all, what they eat, what values they have, and you have no place disciplining them or enforcing rules. And next time your son throws a tantrum or is disrespectful, ask yourself if you would put up with this from someone else's child? Because that's what a step parent does day in and day out. I think it can maybe work if the kids are nice and both adults agree on parenting issues and values. But from what I've heard from friends, it's very difficult. They usually just get out of the house as much as possible so they don't end up yelling at the kids.

What you said is awesome. Thanks.

Beautifully put 💚

lol great channel! I applaud you for taking care of your son!!! 👏👏👏

I imagine doing a similar video to get straight to the point and be more comedic. Maybe a couple more reason only because of my personal situation, but I agree with everything you point out and in depth. Just a little long winded. Fyi. My 4 year old son tested positive for meth and opiates and weed 2 times in 5 months under his mother's care in order for me to get custudy of him. We were never married and I did not sign paternity papers in the hospital because it was a holiday so it was not brought up. Still dealing with the court and his mother or her family have not even tried to communicate at all since we've been on our own in Oklahoma. I have no family and very few friends in Oklahoma I only moved here to get my son out of the situation he was in. I've tried to tell people my sons situation and nobody in Oklahoma cares. I've been here for 3 years. I'm a disabled veteran, ex wildland fire fighter, I do heat and air and am on the verge of losing my home. My son have to take therapy multiple time a week because of the neglect he experienced outside of my care for over a year. I know that no woman out there can look at my situation and think. "I want a part of that". There should be more videos to inform people.

Thank you for sharing this video.

I have a two month old baby mom has been hospitalized its been a ride for me and I did have a women leave me because im a single dad🤦 I understand just thought it was rude how she did things.

As a single full-time father I just don't bother with women, I'm way too busy with other stuff

Every relationship is already challenging, now with kids from another person from the jump? Your hard earned money thinking it goes to that person + their kids.🤯😩 🥚 🥚 🐔 🐓 Listen ladies, he said he loves her as the mother of his son. Lol😂🤣😅🆘

You ain't no single dad as a co parent. I'M a single dad when his mother isn't physically in the picture

I REFUSE to be a step mom

I'm 33 single mum of 3 single for 8 yrs but sometimes it's hard because I'm the dad at the same time mum I'm unskilled but I thank God working in Lebanon as ananny

As a single dad I’m not date material. I’ve had my son for eight years. Won custody when he was 5 and now he’s 13. In that time my relationships with females all fell apart because the women always try to put a wedge between my son and I...like they’re jeolous. I don’t need anybody, I’m very self sufficient. When he was little it was like having a puppy and the ladies were all mushy gushy when they’d see me out snowboarding with him, or just going out to dinner, or hanging at the playground with him. They get this idea that since you’re raising a kid alone, you’re nurturing. I try to be, I’ve had to do my best, but I’m well aware of who I am and it’s not a mother. But, you do what you can with what you got. Cheers to all the single dads out there. We damn sure don’t get any credit, and there is no gender equity when it comes to dealing with social constructs. There needs to be some sort of advice group for single fathers. We go through the same hardships as single mothers but have zero resources. I’ve never seen a dime of child support, don’t want it, but if roles were reversed you know I’d be paying that shit. Good video, brother!

I want kids and am fully ready to be a stepmom, but its too easy for the single parent to stay enmeshed with the ex/co-parent and use the kid as an excuse to treat you however (even though its really about the ex).

Single mom here and I say exactly say the same what you are saying .

No. I want none of this. This stuff about needing attention, bs. The woman gets nothing out of this, let alone 24/7 attention...more like zero attention. Also, it’s not my “challenge” to raise ur kid or anyone else’s...that’s your challenge. Blah. This is gagging me...

I'm dating someone with a kid and I don't have kids. Aaaand to be honest it's not that Bad! I'm a naturally a feminine, nurturing and motherly woman, I love kids, I'm a babysitter, psychologist and artist. The guy is super supportive, a great provider and a loving, caring dad to his son 💕. It's all about love and wanting it. If you're not up for the challange and have high expectations then don't do it. Butttt if you want to grow emotionally, psychologically and develop emotional intelligence, do it. *Disclamer* I'm a sucker for self inquiry and the spiritual practice of willingly challenging myself emotionally to become a better therapist and life coach for people in situations like this and more... *

People, one question. If his kids are already grown, let's say in their 20s, wouldn't you date a single Dad? Just curious

I’m dating a guy but I found out he have a 8 year old daughter. I realize I’m not financially stable 😬 ( I’m working on it ) and when I talk to the guy I’m dating I ask him wanna live in a apartment near future and he replied saying I’m gonna live in house, while my parents retired they gonna live lake house and I take over the house.

I’m dating a guy with a kid and he stayed the night in the same hotel with his baby mama while dropping off his son in separate beds, but it still seems weird. I really love kids, but idk if I can handle the weird relationship he has with his ex wife/baby mama. She also calls him about all her problems and sent him nudes before we started dating even tho she is remarried.

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I would only date a single dad in the similar situation as myself. 1. Older mostly independent kids. 2. Financially stable. 3. An Ex that is not overly involved in their life besides co-parenting. My fears of dating single dads: 1. Drama with the other mother 2. Needy demanding kids that are against their dad with anyone but their mom 3. Being expected to take over child care because it’s “the role of the woman”. If I would find a man with good natured kid that’s at least over 8 and the co-parenting relationship is healthy and peaceful; it wouldn’t bother me. But that’s not guaranteed, so I’ll just continue enjoying my recent single status for now. Because the truth is I wouldn’t want to date a purposely childless middle age man either. As they may not be understanding of me having to be a mother and not just his partner. It’s just seems dating when you’re a single parent isn’t worth the effort.

i have never been married and have no children. i would never entertain dating a guy with kids because frankly i dont want to deal with the drama and jealousy of bio mom... and 2 if bio mom is alive i know i never will be mom and frankly it would be wrong for me to think i can take her place. i want to be a mom,

I do agree with the priority part. I would definitely put the potential partner on the same pedestal after the initial courtship days. And then it’s all time management. Devil is in the details (details = daily interactions/transactions). 24/7 expectation is unrealistic even in a childless relationships and smothers the hell out of it. Now if I were childless, would I have considered a woman with a child? Now it’s tough to imagine as I am not childless, but the only reason I may have seriously considered a single mother is knowing that she is matured (has displayed it somehow), not looking for someone to “save her”. All single parents deserve respect regardless.

I have my gay best friend who helped me through this. He knew it was trouble from the get go but wasnt gonna stop me trying because im so bullheaded. He was never upfront about the kids in the first place. So when it all came crashing down I cried to my friend on the phone for hours. And said you stayed because you have heart just because a man is a good dad doesnt make him a good partner

Thank you sir for your advices

So how do you go about dating @TheConsciousDad?

I want your son to have a lady with a heart in his life😊!!!! It’s not easy to find in this crazy world!!!!!! Kids need love & heart

The only and most important reason you shouldn’t date a single dad is if you are childless. But if you have kids, have at it lol. Kids DO always come first because they are more needy than anybody else. Another awkward fact is that, they have already created a legacy with someone else. Kinda hard to look past. Also one thing men will never admit that is true-they ALWAYS have feelings for the baby mamas. They birthed their mini me, how can they not always have feelings for that person? And i know eventually the new partner can do the same but they have to share that place with someone else forever. I’d rather be the only one who holds that position with someone. But i understand this isn’t an option for everybody.

I have no intentions on dating a single dad or intimate or any or that I love the person like a friend but not like that to be with. And I hate to be that way I'm so sorry but I haven't made that very clear to someone I thought that I was not going to marry someone that's a single father either.

He is asking too much from a child free lady. It just won’t work. Different lifestyle and different priorities. Child free for child free. Much better chance for it to work.

Your situation seems set up. Unfortunately not all men come with good co-parenting and balancing everyone needs. Even tho I did more for my step kid then his mom, she was allowed to be disrespectful and the teen kid even pushed me once and the father only yelled at him... no discipline. A guy with a kid was once no big to me, now gives me anxiety... think I will pass.