Charnelle Ford That's right!! I've seen women swear that because they're living with him and have done things together with him, he will soon pop the question. Wrong! All she did was give him the best of both worlds freely and he was the kind to take that advantage and he sure did! Playing things in his favor. Living together is not the answer! He might just take what he wants/ needs from you at the moment and run with it, leaving you feeling confused and more than likely, used.

Charnelle Ford I agree. 100%

if he wants to live with you, he will never want to marry you and start a family (with very rare exceptions). WHen a girl accepts this arrangement, she always loses, he always wins, i.e. he gets what he apparently wanted.. your panties. you get, ??????? a certain win for HIM, uncertain 'win' for you. i.e. definite vs. maybe.

Charnelle Ford preach!! No playing house for me!! F that

Charnelle Ford Amen...Bum ass dudes move on with females all the time and live off her for years cuz they're lazy. Or use her to build his life then he leaves her for another woman!!!!!

Im happy that these guys are willing to make videos and to help better school some on "game." My parents were great parents, and though I love them both; they never really schooled me on real game like that, other than "keep your legs closed, and don't get pregnant. Lol. Though thankfully I had an older brother who put me up on game and was willing to give me the bare bones truth. And yeah, I love hearing stuff from a mans perspective more. Men are more upfront, and blunt, and are not willing to tip-toe and sugarcoat these topics like women often do.

same here Sabrina

Sabrina Estrada well damn I honestly thought this was nonsensical info.

Sabrina Estrada . not only nobody sat down and told me but my family was fucked up this way

D_Moye We all come from different experiences. We're entitled to our different opinions.

good for you...

Yo I just went through this shit and it I seriously the worst I still don't understand it and the bastard can't even give me the decency of answering some questions :/

+GigiFuckingMoore He is definitely not worth your time. Leave him behind, you will find better, a man who actually cares about you to treat you right and not to leave you in limbo.

+Nicole Schneider Sometimes when you are with the wrong man, being honest and loyal doesn't mean a thing to them. Best to leave these cowards in the dust and in the past where they belong. Guys like these always repeat the behavior so they aren't even worth your honesty or loyalty and they are definitely not worth going back to.

+Nadia Saadellaoui Thanks, I kept my word i never went back to him, he tried emailing me I never responded. I've moved on and learned my lesson =)

Ar P Agreed! Been married for 11 years and we still have separate accounts. Just works for us.

Damn straight

Exactly lol

Ar P I agree! You can have a shared account for the bills that you can deposit money into if you choose, but that's it! Some people would like to have the cohesive and blended feel of a shared account but also would like to keep everything protected. All in all, keep separate accounts for the bulk of your money.

He is talking about having one joint account. Not pool all your wealth together.

Very good comment and advice. God bless.

+J Marquis These days we can't Trust Men and that is the TRUTH. LYING CHEATING ARE THEIR JOB. AND ARE GOOD PLAYING GAMES. WE JUST HAVE TO BE CAREFUL WITH WHO WE GET INTO.

+J Marquis I can understand what you feel even I never encounter like your case but married men always chase me I am so tired of saying no to them coz they are plentiful out there waiting to bait me. I was so cautious but finally I said yes to one Narcissist, I spent 4 months with Narcissist and took me 8 months to heal. now married men chase me again. lulz.... I have no idea why they target me. 😞

***** it's awful, in my environment I saw many bad girls attract good guys and vice versa. You got money for him to hack but myself I don't have much money to give my Ex Narc he often said to me "do you have money to do this or that, is your family rich?, etc... " he knew I earn little money but whenever I see him he asked for luxury gifts, I spent much money to buy him all branded cosmetic. One day I saw him flirting with girls online dating till dawn and he still said he is mine and he loves only me. I m 33 now, never get married too, don't have boyfriend or sex partners either. All married guys chase me wherever I go. I feel like it's impossible for me to have someone love me and want to be with me. 😢. That's why I fully understand you.

I moved in with my fiancee and after 1 month he was ignoring me and always online playing videogames I thought. Then a few weeks later I got a message from the womam he was talking to online. I left him and he only blamed her for sending him pictures. Either way I left him and I was also pregnant. I couldn't marry him or look at him the same way after that.

Alexa Rini say that girl !!!!

TravelingDiva2018 Sad, but seems true nowadays.

yep. im thru having sex until i get married, so i might be celibate for life! BUT Im not claiming that lol

Yeah not to have With babymamas situations

Wait I have to live with a women before we get married beci one I learned through out the years is this it's a difference between stay in together and just spending the night before we get married I have to see if the good out weights the bad

La Original Keep it that way too! Your ❤️ and soul will thank you ☺️

like your standards gal

The pool gets pretty small when your older and you think that way ppl have pasts

very true but I'm grateful that I'm not like those guys I'm never outside to chase women and don't have the right if I ain't got things going for me then I need to keep taking care of me and living alone

agreed!

He SHOULD!

He will definitely get there. He gives great advice and u like how he has projects to give back to the community or people in need.

Feel you

yes it really hurts, but its better to know the truth.

I feel yah boo

We poor babies 😭

Nini Fire lol

A New Love Official this needs to be in print forever🤣 it’s so well said

BINGO. Sums its up

Good point. But if he only sees you during the day he may be living with another woman.

That was 100...

True, but narcissists usually move too fast with love bombs before the mask slips

Girl... this Narcissstic devil crap. The worst. Holy Fire burn it!!! We met them for a reason and a season. That's all, so lets be more than overcomers! Step #1 Understand the Narc can never love, respect, be loyal or provide for you the way u need. (Short of a real life spiritual deliverance session like an exorcism they can there after maintain) Step #2 Disconnect n leave forever. No contact (Contact for what? Repeated pain, rejection and disappointment. Heavens No!) Step #3 Heal and maneuver with God to have your greatest comeback in life ever from such pain. (Trust and believe... Your best health, greatest wealth and true spouse and family are in the making and on the way. It was all a test, trial and tribulations) Step #4 Retain the lesson yet Release Forgive n Forget the harmful person as best you can Step #5 Prepare for a new life and serious marital relationship and go forward. Never go thru it again. Stay guarded, be wiser and mature from it all. (U smell game, u get gone. They try to use or manipulate you... RUN) Safeguard your heart n protect your destiny wait and search or be located by a mate who will truly lavish and adore u for a lifetime even into eternity. I call forth and recieve a faithful loving husband and best friend just for me in Jesus Mighty Name! No fake love scammers only the demons do all that. Show n tell them with the lightening of God if u must that they best stay far! Call down angels to war against these destroyers if they are persistently troublesome towards your life and progress and stubbornly refuse to loose you. If they take it there take it further. War for your good future! Let no enemy waste your body, mind or soul. Let no enemy consume or damage your precious love, attention, energy or time. We as potential or set Wives and Mothers are so special, priceless, beyond indescribable value... More than rubies! Women keep your crown, your virtue and your glory. Only wicked men or some foul witches go up against the reality of another persons divine favour and worthiness. Cast them away from your pearls. Experience and wisdom reasoning here ladies. Young girls please focus on yourself. Listen up n Learn! Don't suffer yourself over no game boys and play stations. Love and life is serious and anyone who doesn't value your love or life doesn't deserve to even know you or ever be in your presence. Make them go so the right person can take the position they don't deserve and love u 25/8. AMEN

@@Jessica-tj6ug that is what she is saying. A narcissist will love on you, and make you feel like you mean the world to them. They will do everything right, and end up destroying you in the end. So that is why she said make sure he is consistent, and not just focus on these three things.

My narcissist did none!!! 8 years.

Right I’m here now

Erik Standswithtrees Oh. Shut. Up. Promiscuity been in existence and rampant since biblical times. One generation is not that much better than the next. People was still getting the clap and STDs back in your day just because something were more behind the scenes or not discussed does not mean it didn’t happen.

People in your generation was just more undercover with it. It’s more common nowadays.

Yep! People put to much emphasis on sex. They call sex dating nowadays. Going from one person to another.

@@kenyasmall8041 Why are you so angry about it though? Smh!

Ladenna Young Girl my comment from 2 years ago. I don’t have a lot of patience for Pick Me Patty Mentalities and generalized ignorant comments.

My ex was a con artist.....great manipulator....actor.

Cecilie M Soooo very true!

Sarah Jayne Rudman

anna Good !!!! Bye.

anna they want to take control. It’s their ego

I don't understand people today. want to have it all and use others to get what they want no matter what the cost. Life is too short to live this way. Men have just found new ways to conquer women and they fall for it. without commitment or responsibility. It's sickening. So much for love (hack) American style. I've seen this happen in my daughter's lives...what a waste...

Lost for Words also true

Tete Simpson ikr! Its a big thing to me!!

I met two men who said he doesn't like to kiss. I find that to be BS!

P Bina Raj, That sounds weird that he doesn't want to kiss you after him seeing you for 2+ months...😐

I stopped kissing my ex because his breath was foul and he would not go see a dentist. But for you, he probably just doesnt like foreplay, just thinks he's entitled to the cookie with no work.

kissing is very intimate... it can make someone fall hard emotionally....some men purposely stay away from kissing to avoid falling in love.

I agree! Can you cover this?

I'm gggglad you agree with me on this one!

Wooohooo!

Because people want 'their' own personal answer... They don't want to hear the reality. If someone's in a three year relationship and haven't met the other person's friends and family, they will ask everyone they know, "Why haven't I met their parents yet??" If someone says, "Because they aren't serious about you. You are a booty buddy." The person may not want to accept this answer, because it's not the answer they want to hear. People will delude themselves forever waiting around for the right answer! The answer they want to hear...

I like that a booty buddy

Shantanell Wilder girl ikr! That's me all the way lol

Never tall a man u are dating about your kids unless married he could be a pedophile

Bianca Larkins That's because he a Jack ass,,, Won't be long before you find someone else cause you're really beautiful sweetie,,, Hope you feel better and your heart will definitely heal,,, I promise,,,, Ok? 😍😘😇🌸🌸🌸🌸

Why when he say he interested but never call are come over but pop in when he fill like it

I don't believe in living Together when ur only Dating its only good when ur married because I had bad habits when I used to live with a partner when I was in a relationship it was 3 times around no way jose

😭I hope you left

I hope so Scorpio, we know how you are.

We scorpios are perception and intuitive, and generally are blessed with the ability to see bullshit coming from a mile away. I think are challenge is largely learning to shift our ability from using our heads, instead of our hearts.Always trust your scorpio intuition always* lol

P Bina Raj #ScorpioRising

I'm a scorpio too. You know he wasnt shit. Gurl leave him alone

Im a cancerian and now dealing with a scorpio man.

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That's why it is best to have sex AFTER marriage.

Hit the nail right on the head and also wait to do any of the other things I mention

Amen to that!

Charoletta77 sad but true

Abigail Israel that should be the way to go but even Mr. Ellis has mentioned how sex has lost it's value now in days because it's so easy to go get it! Everyone's loose like a goose!! 🐔 I don't even think they act like that in the animal kingdom!!

19 YEARS?! holy smokes

@DNETTA When I was 23 I was introduced to a guys Mom Dad and sister, didn't mean a thing. He wasnt serious at all. Had other girls. At one time he left the room and the sister told me he's an a@#hole not to trust him and the mom was nodding . Probably introduced a new girl to the family each week.

@@tercsi1 , Wow. Yes. I saw situations like yours too. Question: Do you agree with his other signs in this video🤔? I just think things happened differently for people sometimes. Like the saying goes- " Different Strokes for different folks." Also God plays a big part in changing things sometimes for the better...

@@1DNETTA I just responded to a comment from a 70 yr old. In it I wrote that I feel the rules of dating change when you get older especially when there are dependant children involved ESPECIALLY teenagers. Mine are 12 and 16. I am 50 and my current boyfriend is 50. We live in the same town. Walking distance from each other. It's very convenient being that I am not too sure of living with him while my boys are still living in the house. After divorce and especially with dependent children still in the house you have to be more careful. We've been dating a year and a half but I am still not ready to meet his family and introduce him to mine. He has met my boys though.

@@tercsi1 , I agree. But After a year and a half, do you think or feel you and he are really connected enough (meaning emotionally on the same level) and will eventually want to meet each other's family? I guess I'm asking because every one has their own timeframe, as long as you two are in sync at the Same time to do it☺. I like Chaz videos and he's on point SOMEtimes, but throughout the years, I have seen many rare situations with my siblings relationships as well as with my own relationship(s).

@@1DNETTA DNETTA he did want me to meet them on several occasions. Everyone, his mom, siblings and friends all know of me from the start, we've been exclusive very early, from the start but I am a very private person and not very social. I met his bosses and coworkers early because he invited me to a formal dinner thrown every year but I dont think it's that important to meet each others families yet as of now. The RELATIONSHIP itself is more important to me. And we are very close.

TLovly77 , I was in that situation for 17 years, I just ended it. Just scared to start sum new. Now, I’m loving me!

TLovly77 , he will take another 6 years if you let him.

I love that we are waking up!!!🎈💪🏽💯

a friend of mine going thru the Exact same thing . Thank goodness hers wasnt 6 yrs tho .. I know as you get older .. Time becomes sensitive .. but the guy is married . he left his wife but still strings her along even though he moved to another state .. ! Hes all my friend talks about .. idk what to tell her .. sometimes I want to shake her !!

😂😂😂😂 Me too! I thought I was the only dumb ass to wait that long. 😂😂😂😂 Yeah, now mine is back to give it another chance and i was fed up and put it down haven't heard from him since. 😂😂😂😂 I'm done anyways. He is too immature and got nerve cuz he doesn't even have anything to offer no job or barely a job sometimes. This dating shit is new to me. Fk him! 😂😂😂

You took the words right from my mouth so very true!.

I also think that there's such a thing as sexual compatibility. my ex didn't even want to have sex with me after we were engaged.actually the only time he wanted it is if I didn't want it when I was sleeping which is practically rape. any other time he turned me down and wouldn't even kiss me anymore. then I found out later he was molested.unfortunately I had to find out from other women that this happened because he wouldn't talk to me at any rate he had an online addiction talking to other women and porn but couldn't have normal relations.I'm glad I found out and didn't marry him because I'd be pretty miserable being married to a man that wouldn't please me.

We were together for 15 years. Married for 5. Yet zero connection. Thank God I decided to leave a few weeks ago.

Natalee Lennox he's probably talking to someone else. How is he online and not talking to you. Is that REALLY your man?

Mulan Rodriguez he is clearly entertaining another woman

Hell yea

He don't want you sis. Let his ass go!

Are you still with him this day updates ? 💕

Dee Manfre u are damm right,u did lost ur sight. its never too late to get ur sight back ,which i did,thanks to God! its painful thou. 10yrs is quit a long time. u are blessed with those kids. just focus on those wonderful gift God has given u for the 10yrs of pains. love u

Rule number one: ain't no damn way a man is gonna leave his wife for you! Never. Two: u should have made him wear a condom too while u were on birth control, are u mad?!

OMG! 😏😶

Dee Manfre So sorry to hear that!!! At least you have your babies. You will find someone better for sure!!! Xx

I can imagine

meika79 If you have to ask. I want a man who knows what he wants. I had to ask my ex husband “ where were we “ before we dated and “ it’s been four years are we marrying or not cause if not I can move on” ... wasn’t long before proposal. While he could’ve walked and didn’t , I often wonder how long he would’ve waited to actually ask me on his own.

not noing there family& friends is a problem

mrhoopfan VeryTrue!!!

marinamusica He's really just a sweet voiced guy I think that's just the way he is but piss him off and he argue,, I bet it hikes up a bit,,, Huh? 😂😂😂😂😂

I seriously don't see or know one relationship where I'm like yeah that looks worth it but it's sad because I still have this ideal family in my head that I want