Love this.

I’m three times your age and I did this but the constant ability to tune people out by being on social media has made it much more challenging for your age. Bravo that you are setting an example that this is still possible!

Haha, I've been told this before too a few times. While I do have some trauma from being weird my whole life, this suffering helped me learn things I probably wouldn't have if I was like everybody else. But of course, it could've gone in the other way too if I never forgave.

I’m 31. Millennial generation started in 1980 to 1994. 1995 to 2009, is Gen Z. I’m a weird person, and I thank God I didn’t fit in the popular kids. Jesus love the outcasts. Whether it is a nerd, or a goth, He wants them. His heart, is after the ones who are broken. We’ll never know what The Holy Spirit is going to use them for His glory, and He’ll humble the prideful. I hope you are having a great day, and thank you for asking. May The Lord be with you.

@@HPTFanno 1996 is still millennial and 1997 gen z starts

@@saltandpepperandmint Go figure. :)

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'92 baby here. It was a good talk for sure! My mom would always take a pie to any new neighbor who moved to our neighborhood growing up. Our current neighbors are all very friendly around us and my husband (who is the introvert in our relationship) has taken the lead on chatting with them and even gone to help many of them with plumbing issues. I love being friendly with our neighbors! God bless all the weirdos out there! ❤

That's probably true among a lot of people, but there are many women I know, including myself, who place much more emphasis on values and still have a difficult time (this approach leads to much longer periods of singleness, because the first hurdle is "do we share core values.") I think it's just a bad dating scene all around out there.

@@laimajo3547 I can understand that, and I definitely know women who have solid values that are struggling. You may not be looking for advice, so you can take this with a grain of salt, but I think men and women who have good values tend not to crossover in communal spaces that much, or they look for one another in the wrong environments. Number one, if you’re religious, actually show up to church. And it says something about someone if they can never seem to drag themselves in on Sunday morning. For women, go to things that solid men actually like. Good guys are often geeks about something (golf, cars, motorcycles, rock climbing, woodworking, skydiving) so look for kind of neutral events that might cater to this and go with your girlfriends on a lark. I go to cars and coffee events as a guy all the time. All the dudes are put together and good looking, and sociable (obviously handy because they work on cars), and they’re almost all single. The ones that aren’t single have amazing relationships with really great women. Also, you need to keep going when you find a group you can relate to a little who has a solid group of men. For men, trying out activities that are disproportionately female and getting to know the participants organically is a great idea. I do spin classes and two stepping lessons. The common denominator for all these things is they aren’t bars or clubs or other events solely focused on alcohol and surface interactions. Generally speaking, guys and gals who base their whole life around bars and clubs (don’t get me wrong, I will go out with friends too), as shiny as they may be on the outside, are all style and no substance.

@evanbalch222 I've always had the church part covered, and I only show up to the bar scene rarely (and never expecting to find someone.) But yeah, the communal spaces and events are tough. My work schedule didn't allow much of that for quite a while, but now that I'm working more regular hours I can actually join classes and activities again. It's also difficult when you're in a very small town or community (which I also was at one point) and the choices in activities and dating partners are very limited or absent altogether. I had already planned on doing more activities again now that the opportunity exists, but it's good advice all the same. Thanks for the positive attitude, and I hope you have luck out there.

Yes I almost never hear anyone say dating apps are pleasant… they work for some but real life, in person, can be so much better when possible to meet someone

Totally understand what you’re saying, but I did meet the love of my life and now husband on a dating app. I almost missed him by deleting the app and thinking we were too different based on first impressions! But when I gave it another chance we ended up becoming best friends so quickly! I think the key is going beyond the superficial and looking for someone with shared faith and a shared vision for the future - like love for children, ability to sacrifice, and appreciation for your interests even if they are different from theirs.

​@@sophiezielke9545 this. I met my now fiancée on a dating app. And by far the best person I have ever met in my dating life.

Agreed!!

So glad you’re liking the episodes!

Update - another great conversation! I agree with Lila at the end - you and John are both great at holding an amazing discussion

I've totally been there and hope you can find people to support you. The being alone part is what makes parenting a baby so hard, and you're not a bad mom for feeling that.

It is a lot of work to take care of babies then toddlers and then young kids. BUT one day they will grow up and be able to take care of themselves and that day will come quickly!! Please, as difficult as it is at this time invest the time in your child because IT WILL benefit you and your child. As a mom and teacher, I encourage you to keep going. Thank you for your honesty .

The newborn stage is soooo hard! Someone gifted me a book 5 years before I had my second child and I had never read it. I picked it up and read it cover to cover while nursing my second baby because it was HILARIOUS and so relatable. I will warn that it was not written by a Christian (as is semi obvious by the title) but I still enjoyed it and it gave me some reprieve while I was jealous of my husband because my whole world was flipped upside down while he continued on as if nothing had changed whatsoever (which is NORMAL and he is wonderful actually but you can't help how you feel in that haha). It's called "Sh!t No One Tells You" by Dawn Dais. You're in the trenches now but the sleep will come. Blessings on your journey and congrats on being a warrior mom world changer ❤❤❤

Thank you

Amen! June is the month of the Sacred Heart ❤️

I think "weird" could be associated with quirkiness and playfulness, while "weirdo" could be aligned more with creepiness and perhaps borders on predation. So perhaps align your behaviour with the former traits rather than the latter, and you should be good!

@@olololo9224 Hope you and yours have a good week! God bless you.

@@ctrlbrwl Thanks for your reply! Hope you and yours have a nice day!

Men and women have to take care of each others needs or fall victim to the consequences. Both need to give 100%. It's not 50 50

Awesome guest.

It's okay to keep some people in certain categories so long as they don't darken your life. You can maybe even lead by example. But do find the few people that can be almost anything. My wife is almost anything for me, but we don't argue economic policy (even though I get a kick out of doing that!)

Agreed. It made it hard to follow.

Absolutely!