Link to my best resources: linktr.ee/narcabusecoach
@direstraights11 ай бұрын
Not aware of our observance skills!!! 🎉😂 Meaning that b/c they think we are idiots, weak etc that it's the truth b/c they think it... Lol😂
@jacklimcortez766011 ай бұрын
They don't appreciate the things others provide they focus on the flaws of others to make themselves feel good
@draganjagodic405611 ай бұрын
Sir, You entire manner, Your voice, Your expertise is healing. Heaven bless You Sir.
@trying2survive60211 ай бұрын
When you said about how they miss treat you then turn around and want you to hang out with them I laughed out loud 😂😂. Yes, it is so gross how they think you should want to be around that! Working on my healing now!! Thank you so much Danesh!!
@annajaworska362710 ай бұрын
@@trying2survive602 Agree. When I told the oldest sister, narcissistic mother's flying monkey, that I am in therapy, her response was: "how dare you trash the family's good name"🤦♀
@Irishajw211 ай бұрын
1. Own worst enemy. 2. Immature. 3. Dependent on others
@dalelerette2069 ай бұрын
This is so well said. Admittedly, we all display some aspects of self-interest that normally remain humble. But some egos are so deeply hurt they become parasitic to the point they become cannibalistic in a social sense. As you had mentioned before, when we seek their understanding or assistance, we have to be prepared to face indifference, irritation, or even anger, RATHER than compassionate justice.
@JamesNGames11 ай бұрын
In my experience, it's fascinating to observe how individuals with narcissistic traits seem to possess a keen self-awareness, yet they consciously choose to overlook the impact of their actions on others. It can be quite perplexing to engage with someone who seemingly disregards the feelings and needs of those around them, even when they appear fully aware of their behavior.
@terezelek27711 ай бұрын
it is like that... it is really cruel, evil, and unfortunately this behavior is contagious like a virus
@winnieamar936811 ай бұрын
I was wondering,isit that they possess self awareness or just that they know their behaviour hurts others? Isn't self awareness supposed to entail values,core beliefs etc also? I doubt that they're aware of their own values,traumas,beliefs etc
@robertdubuc408211 ай бұрын
They derive pleasure from hurting others, I believe this certain trait develops from them splitting from trauma.
@BossMama38111 ай бұрын
So very true
@healing-for-all534911 ай бұрын
I think the internal pain they are protecting no matter how in touch they are, always trumps the value of others feelings. I didn’t start realizing this until recently but I think most narcs are victims of occult abuse and mind control. SRA/ DID.
@prophet178211 ай бұрын
They'll come back as if nothing happened. Or forget the past start new.
@Samsony9111 ай бұрын
I was raised by a narc mom my dad passed away when I was 10. I am now 31. Sadly i have narcissistic traits. I am just being honest. I pray my soul and spirit gets healing.
@mariaa003111 ай бұрын
Recognizing this is a great step to be able to do something about it!! I wish u all the best! You are better than that for sure 💕
@Samsony9111 ай бұрын
@@mariaa0031 Thank You it’s really hard i find myself lost most of the time. I sadly ended up on antidepressants just to feel alive in some way. Do you know how can i start? What books you recommend?
@joseenoel809311 ай бұрын
31 is exactly half my age! Your traits were probably just part of your survival tactic, a form of self acknowledgement, don't worry about it, life is for learning and narcs never admit they're....
@nancysayad996011 ай бұрын
@@joseenoel8093Correct
@Rumplegirlskin11 ай бұрын
Your “honesty” shows you do not have a diagnosis. If you place 50 people in a room and tell everyone who believes they are a narcissist to go to the left, and other to the right… almost all of the people on the left will not be narcissist. Every person on this planet has narcissistic traits. Because we need it. The risk is having levels that are far into the high end or low end of the scale. Having no narcissism is equally as dangerous, but far more to yourself. Narcs also don’t typically call the narc parent a narcissist. They make excuses for the behavior and both tend to feed off of one another as a supply. Think “golden child” or the one that got far too much attention. You lost your father as a child. Unless he passed as a horrible person, you were at an age where you did not pass judgement. Look into CPTSD first. See what you think and go to a psychologist. A narcissist would not watch these sorts of videos unless they were gaining knowledge for future abuse or manipulation. The motivation behind the actions could be the difference in what you perceive as narcissism for yourself. Would you be hurt if a psychologist stated that you are definitely a narcissist? If you thought, “Yes.” You are not a narcissist. Remember these videos (and other like this) are to help you with diagnosis, is to help you survive and understand what has been occurring in your life. You will see yourself in some thing because when dealing with a narc you will certainly gain reactive traits. Things like acting like you don’t care, because they act that way. The difference is that you do care… they don’t. Even a self-aware narc would not have said what you said before many counseling sessions. It takes time to fully accept it and it will take a diagnosis to confirm it. Unless you have another cluster-B disorder, be proud that you see something negative in your actions and you want to fix it.
@breezybreezy11 ай бұрын
Narcissists are not aware of how predictable they are once their patterns are exposed. They also underestimate people but once you see the tricks you can't unsee them, and then you can just see them coming.
@user-dd3ny4xb3w7 ай бұрын
Absolutely true, once away from them you see how the playbook never changes.
@jackieyesudas257111 ай бұрын
Totally and 100% correct. Narcs are miserable and lonely humans. My narc husband did every single thing that you mentioned in this video. He abandoned me and our two sons after 30 years. We are free from this controlling and evil man now. Thank you Danish. Iam on my healing journey❤
@danielskyles618411 ай бұрын
40 years for me 😑
@nonoway28811 ай бұрын
Me too. 28 yrs.
@bubblesSqueak389511 ай бұрын
I wish my ex would leave me and my child alone he's hounding me all the time going through courts it's mad am having to take him as I can't co parent just to make access arrangements it's every day a battle 😢
@ReRe_64211 ай бұрын
@@bubblesSqueak3895 keep your chin up you got this.
@hannahhughes480111 ай бұрын
24 for me,
@David-eu1ms11 ай бұрын
I've noticed that a lot of narc people do very well in jobs that provide them with a sense of power and superiority.
@cyndigooch116211 ай бұрын
@David-eu1ms That's exactly right and it's downright frightening due to the immense harm they cause many people, especially children, which I've experienced and witnessed! I won't go into any graphic details because I'll get upset again and have a lot to do. I'd prefer not to upset others either. It's a huge relief that there's more awareness nowadays though, due to extremely helpful videos like this one, to end on a positive note. 😊
@moreengover603311 ай бұрын
They aren't aware of the fact that people can see right through them (given enough time).
@cyndigooch116211 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908That's for sure and many of the highly narcissistic, or worse, individuals I've known over the years and some I still know, seem to be completely deranged! I don't usually like to talk about others like that, yet I'm losing my compassion as I get older, especially after the way I've been treated, which is probably a good thing. 😊
@mukttamahajan52411 ай бұрын
They are aware of everything……they know it all.
@TreasureDeal11 ай бұрын
And don't care a whit how they hurt you.
@mihirjoshi893411 ай бұрын
After thinking a lot, I came to the conclusion that narcissists will face bad karma throughout coz they can’t understand or value genuine feelings. I guess they themselves don’t believe in honesty or don’t believe anyone is honest. So yeah the narcissist person’s gonna face bad karma throughout 😅
@nn-tm8oy11 ай бұрын
I wonder on what level will Danish's wisdom will be in ten years regarding narcissism.... He is tooo knowledgeable... I'm 45 and an a survivor and Dnaish knows exactly what happened with me... Just mind blowing....
@prophet178211 ай бұрын
They'll even "own" your property and affairs if they can .they'll operate it as if it's theirs.
@sushmayen11 ай бұрын
We should breakfree from them physically emotionally and spiritually. Leave them alone and they become spiteful and vengeful but helpless and wounded
@clairejohnson652211 ай бұрын
My Psychopathic downstairs neighbour has tried every sadistic trick in her book of spells to harm me. To say she is out to get me is an understatement. A few men have told me she is jealous of my looks.She resembles the witch from The Wizard of Oz ( minus the green face ,although it should be with the envy she has for me ).
@sanjmalik628211 ай бұрын
The best place for these people is in the pits of hell. The agony and destruction they cause their families is just unbelievable.
@mihirjoshi893411 ай бұрын
Not just their families but everyone else as well. But if your wife/husband is narcissist then God help you🙏🏻
@smartypants61987 ай бұрын
How about your mother? An exceptionally violent one with grandiosity issues, knowing she isn't coming anywhere close?
@Lyrielonwind11 ай бұрын
I have met narcissists who played the victim and when I tried to advise them they exploded in anger. It's not that they don't follow your advice which they don't have to but they feel like if you were trying to put them down when you are just trying to come out with a solution. For instance, they are complaining about being too anxious and you try to convince them to make breathing exercises to slow down their heart rate... they jump up and get up fast and start complaining about whatever... it's like if they fear you will attack them while being relaxed but, if they don't trust you, why come to you looking for help? Will anyone seek help from their enemy? No.
@cyndigooch116211 ай бұрын
@Lyrielonwind I know what you mean and want to add that I learnt in a counselling course many years ago that it's best not to give anyone unsolicited advice, unless they ask for it, or people could ask if someone has attempted deep breathing, or whatever the case may be. I've been an overly empathetic person, yet I usually don't like it when people give me advice while I'm talking to them either, because I mainly want my feelings validated. I also want to apologise for giving you advice and I'm aware that narcissistic individuals regularly do it, which is one of the many reasons why I'm avoiding them as much as possible nowadays. 😊
@utabsksuavaoan-dg6xo11 ай бұрын
They're loyal to those abusing them though. Really. In my story, he's loyal to his mom, his BFF, his dead aunt. I think he thinks by abusing me I'll be loyal. He's a psychopath.
@colleenholmes84879 ай бұрын
They lie constantly because being wrong is also unacceptable
@Annie-ol3jx11 ай бұрын
I've been no contact for 5yrs now,and it is the best!! I thank God everyday for giving me a brand new start......... ♥️
@ReRe_64211 ай бұрын
At some point they will be exposed. And God will deal with them all in his way.
@nycstarport854211 ай бұрын
When you learn about narcissism, you can see how BLINDED they are; but they can't see it. WTF???
@sssttt221111 ай бұрын
This is true... Narcissists think others are out to get them...
@ericschick0610 ай бұрын
Narcissists VS Empaths. That is the world, in a nutshell.
@RiseAboveNarcissism11 ай бұрын
Hi Danish. This was beautiful and so truthful that I listened to it twice. When some asks " so what exactly is the issue in your relationship?" I wish I could share this and say, " This!" But no one wants to really know or listen because if they haven't experienced this, they just can't comprehend. Thank you for this very insightful video. 👏
@riyajacob290911 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯
@Technician626611 ай бұрын
You are spot on. They think that it's you not being considerate...wow went through it with the preacher at church, when I reached out this for assistance
@miahconnell2310 ай бұрын
Only people who’ve been through a time wherein they’ve been stuck in the presence of a person with NPD {and cannot immediately get away} understand & believe you. On one hand, that’s bad because we *REALLY* need to be believed & understood, especially because we may require assistance in getting away. {and getting away is really the only thing you can do} On he other hand, if they cannot understand, and have trouble believing, that’s a good indicator that they’ve never been through through this and that’s *good* {for them}. See, as much as I deeply need to be understood, I would NEVER want & never allow ANYONE to go through what pwNPDs do to educate them & obtain an “I believe you.” I wonder how rare true, text-book, ‘no-doubt-about-it’ pwNPD are. While growing up, nobody else’s parent behaved like mine at all 🤷♀️. Other parents just kinda sensed something wasn’t right & had me over for meals and weekends as much as possible. Now, many grown-up decades later, a newbie-just entering the social work profession- straight-up didn’t believe me about some serious things [such as medication theft… so the common simile “as serious as a heart attack” actually almost fits without exaggeration here].
@erikaabdelazim54411 ай бұрын
Fantastic information and examples. Narcs like to claim they are capable of doing it all, but have no clue how to do it. They are terrible at adulting!
@Sheba8.11 ай бұрын
I'm glad I'm the victim and not the narcissistic perpetrator. That's all I can be glad of today. I hate to hurt any living thing. 😪
@Sheba8.11 ай бұрын
@DarrellOllis-cp9dz it's so awful when our own children are narcissistic lunatics, but they have to be wiped out of our life. We have to have no communication completely. They're relentless at what they do, and get more crafty at their game of destruction. They're no longer the sweet little child that was born. It's very hard to let go but what choice do we have. 🌟
@aliciafletcher158711 ай бұрын
My Ex-Narc literally told me I was trying to compete with him … it was jaw dropping to me , I couldn’t believe it … lol I have several certifications/ licenses/ which allowed me to accomplish so much financially & was able to purchase so many things I wanted!!! He receives disability benefits & could never compare to me , however I still loved him unconditionally and never thought about it being a competitive advantage… he thinks everyone wants to see him fail !!! “At What”… he was & still is a Dusty weirdo !!! lol lol lol … Danish your the best at describing a Narcissist behavior 🔥🔥🔥
@fainitesbarley224511 ай бұрын
My brother financially ruined our parents. When I tried to get him to accept some responsibility for their future he said that financial insecurity would be a good learning experience for them. At that point I fully realised I was not dealing with a normal human.
@RaisingMyWildflowers11 ай бұрын
That's awful 😞
@Indite_Biden9 ай бұрын
My brother did the same.
@fainitesbarley22459 ай бұрын
@@Indite_Biden 🤔
@ekdaufin148511 ай бұрын
Narcissists I had to deal with didn’t seem to think anything was unacceptable about them and their behavior.
@di_decaire11 ай бұрын
Because life is just a game of strategy that is played out without a moral compass.
@II.PP.1111 ай бұрын
They need an audience, they need someone who at least fights with them, they crave for any kind of attention. Take it away from them and they feel DEATH. That's the way to destroy them: DON'T GIVE A F*** on them.
@KatYah-cn1hx11 ай бұрын
I'm grateful ALL narcissists I have met will eventually self destruct. They choose to believe a lie that they will always be able to escape who they are and what they have done. 😮
@Fulrix0011 ай бұрын
I feel bad for these narcissist even after all the hurt because they live in purgatory without realizing they are the problem. They feel invincible and don’t fear God .
@facsimileof291211 ай бұрын
They don't seem to be aware of karma, consequences for hurting others, that they will be punished. Or maybe they don't care because narcs are evil to the core. Evil.
@laurelvance553311 ай бұрын
My narc doesn't seem to notice we have a very toxic relationship. To him, everything seems normal. He doesn't seem to notice, or care, that I no longer love him.
@laurelvance553311 ай бұрын
...just so long as I stay.
@laurelvance553311 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908 nothing is "normal" about it. I hate my life but I cannot afford to leave.
@MegaRose195811 ай бұрын
Yes my Toxic ex said our relationship wasn't that bad.😂😂😂
@laurelvance553311 ай бұрын
@@MegaRose1958 yeh, because it isn't...for him.
@laurelvance553311 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908 To be honest, I should have left long ago. I did once. Was gone for 10 months. One of my daughters became irate with me so I returned. That was back when I was still employed. Now retired, no funds.
@tarey0511 ай бұрын
My sister's chronic visceral blaming (normally after drinking heavily), smearing, and impulsivity for 20 years, pushed me to say enough! and go no contact. Her raging impulsivity often brought her and her son to a state of chronic home-buying--- 10 in 8 years for decades-- leading them close to bankruptcy, as each home had to be majorly redecorated in her image and then sold off for little or no profit (because she's so generous and magnanimous to strangers)! She needed her siblings as an audience to witness it all (and earlier to help her move). When we disagreed with her tactics, she would demonize, smear us to others, claiming that we were selfish and thoughtless. That was the last straw. Since no contact with this narc, I have found the true meaning of "peace." ☺
@kostantinosdemopoulos890711 ай бұрын
You just described my sister, to a T.... I know what you've gone through... I've given up on God, karma....will probably require court, to prevent future cata$trophy...... * hell on earth
@mihirjoshi893411 ай бұрын
Sometimes we experience this from our best friend who over a period of time became our best friend but you always knew he/she was a narcissist. We have to slowly cut such people off or limit them very much. There should be no guilt in cutting them off or else we’ll have to live with people like that.
@allieeverett901711 ай бұрын
I actually JUST an hour ago finally told my narcissistic sister, after giving her the truth and her refuting it, I hope you feel better. What she doesn't realize is that was me, being done. I'm not gonna fight or argue with her any more. No more "proving". Just done. And it feels good. Sad. But good.
@Sheba8.11 ай бұрын
Freedom from them is just the best feeling. 🎉😊
@DaRyteJuan11 ай бұрын
The narcissist also doesn’t seem to realize at some point someone is going to complain to the governing body in control of their professional license and/or law enforcement. 👮🏻♀️🚔👮🏼♂️
@daeclipse0311 ай бұрын
I considered going that option as my cheating narc ex is a kindergarten school teacher and uses and abuses hard drugs and is a raging alcoholic. But I'm just going to move on and forget about her. Thank god it was only two months of dealing with her insanity.
@dakoderii422111 ай бұрын
Weird how a narcissist will join forces with their worst enemy to sabotage and destroy their own children in the name of love. Even weirder how people justify that behavior, even when you ask them if I did that would it be good or evil and they admit it would be downright evil. So the conclusion is, I'm not worthy of being treated like a human being yet I cannot state that because the truth is offensive. I must live by it yet deny it is happening at the same time or else!
@francesbernard244511 ай бұрын
Don't judge others unless you have been in their shoes. What infuriates me is how the family court system often forces a responsible parent in a domestic violence thanks to a narcissist - to do that sort of thing. Only because women and children are often not believed. At the turn of this century municipal government social services support groups for women and chidlren had to be set up here in this city because of it. At one point there was for example around during the summer up to 25 women in a room in various neighborhoods while their children were being babysat for them all who were going through the same. A person leaving a narcissistic other parent with their children is way better off only going to police for help without bothering to file for divorce. Some narcissistic perpetrators of domestic violence are sadistic too in how they enjoy being litigous during divorce.
@chandrakumar546311 ай бұрын
True
@jimmymorris206311 ай бұрын
@francesbernard Exactly; the don't judge others part. Plenty of women conduct themselves in this deceitful, evil, manipulative, destructive manner destroying many good unsuspecting men who just as some women have no idea the Evil that may reside in another human being. Not to mention the Court system that often recognizes the power imbalance and could care less about the Father 's full participation in all aspects of parenting without an agenda but a full human intent on loving his kids whom would not be here in this Earth without him also. We provide more than money. Our kids matter to us and that desire remains even when we have been robbed of thise same children we love that we no longer have access too. No the Courts don't always care especially if it is the man who is innocent in all this. We are blocked, discarded, no accountability of funds provided, no equal custody even if the father is or was the primary provider and caretaker to the children they share. Equal opportunity good & evil exists in the female as well as the male. It is a case by case basis as to whether it is the male or the female. Women are capable of great evil just as men are.
@annastone562411 ай бұрын
It’s ironic.. this is what their victims actually experience. They as you say, are not victims, they are the perpetrators. They just don’t like that they don’t get their way all the time..
@jernisharichard503211 ай бұрын
Yes,😢😂😢😂😢vs Soo Sad but funny. We have to find the humor in it as well . Stay blessed y'all 🙏🏽💕
@rahrahrobbbieee11 ай бұрын
It always is our fault whether you do something or don't. A losing proposition either way. 🙁🙁🙁🙁
@rahrahrobbbieee11 ай бұрын
It's always us. 😖😖😢😢@@caroleminke6116
@auniversalwoman11 ай бұрын
It's easy to have them not be aware of the fact that you're on to them. You can fool them easily because they think they're so great they could never be fooled. They're used to being on the end that fools people, not on the receiving end.
@DoraMoran-hb2jgАй бұрын
@auniversalwoman, great comment!
@thehiattgroup9 ай бұрын
SPOT ON!! My narcissist has almost ruined me since latching onto me when my husband died on January 17, 2022. After stalking me and taking control of every account I own, he broke into my house on October 25, 2023 at 3:30 am. Came at me on my bed as I slept. I woke up screaming, my boys came running, I got him to the back porch - police came rushing through house to back patio where narcissist and I stood. Guns were drawn on both sides as I stood there, my sons stood inside the house watching through the glass door. They thought he was going to take me hostage. He was taken to jail and given over a one million dollar bond. The damage he has done to me and my sons is HUGE, on ALL LEVELS and areas of our lives, and it is going to take years to repair. “Your class” should be required in high school. Thank you!
@christielawrence464011 ай бұрын
Thank you. Your insight is a blessing to those who are pushing through fear and hurt, getting closer to our common senses.
@jeannes.35611 ай бұрын
This is an excellent video, I also learned from another youtube person, that you’ll never be able to make sense of their behavior, despite your brain trying. They don’t want peace or closure. They just want ongoing drama. Accept that it’s just a weird situation, that you no longer will have any part in.
@fluffyyork691111 ай бұрын
How pathetic they are when you figure them out.
@user-uv1vx9xi4d11 ай бұрын
These people are led by a evil spirit i wish that i never got into a relationship with them it has been nothing but hell on earth they are bipolar no one should be in a relationship with these toxic people i have learned from the best never again will i ever trust another man i am alright being by myself nothing like peace sign Cynthia Smith thank you Jesus Christ for being in my life i never would have made it without your help
@garulusglandarius612611 ай бұрын
It amuses me that my narcissistic next door neighbour absolutely believes our neighbourhood thinks he’s wonderful when in reality he is despised and mocked. His arrogance and self adoration knows no bounds but most neighbours see him for who/what he truly is and he has no idea. He definitely suffers delusions of grandeur. I’m not a vindictive person but it’s comforting to know that others see his appalling behaviour that we all have to suffer. Excellent as always Danish, thank you 👍
@ivanovskameow99911 ай бұрын
It's bizarre, like they're living in their own reality where they're playacting to impress themselves meanwhile everyone else is a non-playing character/prop. Have you seen the 90s tv comedy 'Keeping up Appearances'? That is the whole basis of it, with Hyacinth Bucket's narcissism and snobbery 😂
@cyndigooch116211 ай бұрын
I imagine that it would be a relief to know that other neighbours are able to see the difficult behaviour of the highly narcissistic one in the midst! Unfortunately, it's the opposite with my situation because the narcissistic, or worse, woman I've been living next door to for about 25 years has most of the others in the complex on her side. She managed to do it with previous tenants, who've moved on, since she becomes friendly with new ones, then they end up celebrating birthdays etc together. I've given up worrying about it now and don't want to be part of the "mean girls" group anyway, so do my best to avoid them, until I can move, or something else might happen. 😊
@Sheba8.11 ай бұрын
That's unusual that others have sussed the lunatic, usually the victim is classed as the lunatic and treated like the worst person on the planet. You're very fortunate. Great to hear this ❤️
@garulusglandarius612611 ай бұрын
@@Sheba8. Other neighbours have let us know he’s been a problem way before we moved in 👍
@angelcoyote980211 ай бұрын
This is so true. My baby's daddy is falling on his own sword right now. I feel so relieved to watch him put his own lights out.
@helengrundy918911 ай бұрын
My ex was always in therapy but not for his narcissism but because he felt he was a victim. He loved to manipulate therapists and use the sessions to show off and discuss the meaning of life. He was never able to be happy.
@allanwhite153311 ай бұрын
Yep, dependent they are! After years of narcissistic abuse/exploitation from different people in my life, one of the major characteristics I can see from a mile away is the neediness that they exude.
@cyndigooch116211 ай бұрын
@allanwhite1533 I totally agree with you about the extreme neediness and it has turned to aggression after I've told a few narcissistic people that I'm unable to talk when they've spotted me in coffee shops etc, then expect me to spend hours with them, no matter what I'm planning to do! I've been through much worse than those experiences; however, it's a less graphic example and a couple of the men are dangerous, hence why I used to keep them company, but regretted doing so. 🙁
@allanwhite153311 ай бұрын
@@cyndigooch1162 Wow, that must be frightening! And too often they will stop at nothing whenever they feel someone has disappointed their often very lavish expectations. I've never had any dangerous narcs in my life but very toxic and nuisance ones nonetheless. I've had narcissistic friends/girlfriends who would call me at any and all times of the day and leave long ranting, often berating voicemails and/or text messages if I didn't pick up and respond to their calls immediately-even if I was at work. These people just live in such a distorted reality from the rest of us.
@user-nc1tu4ob9y11 ай бұрын
I am living too long with narc. husband and I can say that he had destroyed my life! I I could never talk with him in a peaceful way, when I say a word he always gives negative comments like an arrow! You could not have a positive life with negative thoughts !He destroyed my self- confidence ,my personality always trying to humble me when there are present women ! They are miserable people! Thanks Danish !
@user-dl3zd1pb6o11 ай бұрын
Damn how long you guys married?
@anweshabhattacharya494711 ай бұрын
Thank you for making us aware of this. It is so difficult and energy draining to deal with a narcissist.
@zaliasamuels542611 ай бұрын
Im married to this idiot for 44 years and still married to him your video's helps me a lot you are on point all your talks is exactly what i experience with this fool i hope to be out of this so called marriage soon ...thank you so much
@mihirjoshi893411 ай бұрын
44 years and you’re leaving now?😅😂 I really don’t know who is a “fool” here.
@JuanTorres-cl1er11 ай бұрын
@@mihirjoshi8934 you’re the fool for not understanding that this person is Trauma Bonded to the narcissist. Educate yourself on the aspects of Narcissistic Trauma Bond.
@annajaworska362710 ай бұрын
@@mihirjoshi8934 hey you! Own your s*it! No projection, any mirrors at home?
@mihirjoshi893410 ай бұрын
@@annajaworska3627 What? Who are you? Mind your own business
@annajaworska362710 ай бұрын
Dear@@jbrown2908 Thank you for speaking for more vulnerable. All the best to you! @mihirjoshi8934 must get a bigger mirror.
@AdMan-The-LabRat11 ай бұрын
Losing me is the best revenge I could give as a gift to that omnipotent super intelligent amazing female.
@janellk7711 ай бұрын
What I have experienced for the last 10 yrs, after losing my husband & dealing with a humanoid that I didn't hear you address...is, they won't miss you, they rnt going to b destroyed when u r gone! Because they ALWAYS have the last one...the next one...& the current one they r gruming. A NARCISSIT WILL NEVER BE WITHOUT A DIFFERENT SUPPLY! THEY ALWAYS HAVE A BACKUP PLAN! They don't care, so they don't hurt! Just my experience that I'm still trying to get out of!
@margolane336111 ай бұрын
My dad is in his 60's and refuses to work despite not being able to afford to. He is all alone with my mom, he's starting to hoover us kids and grandkids but he's just miserable cuz we don't give him supply.
@adk_girl7011 ай бұрын
Is the narcissist aware of the harm they do? I always desired to have a mature relationship with my mother, cannot even have an adult conversation with her.
@maroufalmasri126710 ай бұрын
After I left, she went on a crazy part mode where she literally terrorized the whole neighborhood till at the end she was asked to leave. It's been two years and she is still trying to find me, or stalk my friends for information about me. I have since just had to lose all my friendships and had to start a new life in another city "far away". Just because she went on revenge mode and destroyed my reputation but the worse part is she went on a social media campaign to ruin my image. She even went as far to contact my family in my home country and my fiancee's family saying I was the narcissist in the relationship which did alot of damage to my relationship with them. Thankfully God saved me from this person and revealed the truth. I have never encountered such a melicious person in my life. My advise to anyone in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave immediately and never look back.
@thejavandenberg45095 күн бұрын
Exactly , they blame it in everyone and everything but themselves and twist always the truth
@Positivevibes623811 ай бұрын
They will never go unpunished.Karma is just waiting to hit them.
@rahrahrobbbieee11 ай бұрын
I was destroyed by my Mom as a child. After six decades, I see no hope. She is still alive and I remain the biggest loser despite any accomplishments I have had in this miserable existence.. Decades of medication and therapy and I remain anxious, depressed and overwhelmed by hopelessness. Damage is unfortunately done. Arrrgh. 🙁🙁🙁🙁🙁🙁🙁🙁
@samanthaq342211 ай бұрын
No your not damaged ,,choose to heal ..dont be like her,,HEAL🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
@scatteredgrapes800711 ай бұрын
My story is similar. I'm 54 years old.I ran away as a teen. I knew my father mentally and emotionally abused me but never knew there was a name for it until recently. All those decades I knew he was wrong to blame me but at the same time believed there was something about me that caused it. For more than 3 decades I attempted to "repair" my relationship with my father. But then I actually learned what true narcissism was and became even more depressed, then angry, then depressed again. I'm currently waiting for a referral for therapy.
@francesbernard244511 ай бұрын
I am so sorry you went through that. Now I am not sure how I could help young persons I know who have gone through that whom I am not a biological relative to.
@dorothy989811 ай бұрын
I lived it all my life and survived.... Please stop taking the medication. You need sunshine and fresh air. Exercise and healthy foods make a difference. Think about what you want ❤ good luck and God bless
@jernisharichard503211 ай бұрын
It is with Jesus Christ And God 🙏🏽❤️ that gives us strength to move forward along with therapy if wanted or needed. You have the compacity to live,love and heal. Help others get a community of same minded people that went through this lime here. I beg you you will feel better y'all call on Jesus Christ he will answer. Kevin la Ewing is a great teacher on all these THINGS that happens to us. It's about life, spiritual walk to see that the person who is doing these things are possessed by evil spirits that manipulate OPPRESS and even possess us. So he teaches how to break free ❤️. I promise I found out what was going on as we all have we knew something wasn't right so I searched I found narcissist,and Jezebel evil spirits,I found out their tactics I found out how to remove those spirits or feelings of depression and sadness. Yiu will see if you check him out read the comments of people,you see through knowledge shall the JUST be delivered. ❤ I PRAY for y'all strength in this process 💖💖 GOD bless y'all 💓💓🙏🏽🙏🏽
@BridgetBardo111111 ай бұрын
A narcissist is a walking paradox. Ex husband (narc) would not admit he passed gas or defecated (that’s how godlike he thinks he is!) Literally said he doesn’t go #2.
@maroufalmasri126710 ай бұрын
I have to say that the narc I was with always had a problem with somebody in business or personal circle, it was always gossip and disloyalty. It was quite hectic to deal with it since I had to always choose sides of some sort. Sometimes it even became obsessive paranoia!
@RawOlympia11 ай бұрын
Such a great vid. Having been laid bare before this beast who tore me limb from limb in secret on a daily basis. Daily. And yes, she made me her full slave at a tiny age, screaming as I cleaned thru the night. I recently went NC as a tired, battered, chronically ill adult. I just could not take it anymore. You help so much to take away the guilt that is associated with disobeying the monster. I wonder if they are not aware of the fact that we do not want to be with them. Ever.
@jernisharichard503211 ай бұрын
Yes,you have power to love,help, complete this journey to Jesus Christ 💖🙏🏽 and forever become CHANGED through the renewing of your mind and spirit. Kevin la Ewing is a great teacher of these things I went through all these feelings 💔😭 mostly everyone in these comments. So with this knowledge let's set ourselves truly free . 🎉🎉🎉 God bless everyone here . Through knowledge shall the JUST be delivered 🙏🏽💕🙏🏽💕❤
@rahrahrobbbieee11 ай бұрын
Stay strong and stay away. Save your health and strive for some kind of personal piece of mind. Peace.
@juliajohnson602211 ай бұрын
New subscriber here. Love your take on a narcissist. Taking notes as I have been married to one for 50 years, and am finally able to give a name to his bad behavior. Thank you.
@AnaSilva-to1sy9 ай бұрын
Proverbs 2 & 3: The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness*
@lindadebenedetti571010 ай бұрын
They do no wrong because they think they are perfect. That's why they blame others. Selfish and users.
@patlewkowicz633911 ай бұрын
I am a survivor !!!! ❤
@gailspaw552110 ай бұрын
Yes They Put Blame On Everyone
@asmerawityas653811 ай бұрын
Its scary how accurate it is what you are saying. Spot on as usual.
@paulballard424311 ай бұрын
You explain things better than anybody I’ve ever come across. Thank you for that. First off a narcissist wouldn’t even watch these videos. They would be in complete denial. The few videos that I’ve watched of yours, what you say resonates with me. I was called a narcissist, but everything you describe is not me. It was the narcissist, calling me a narcissist. I am still battling the thought that I am the narcissist. My friends that I have talked to have assured me that I’m not the Narcissist and she was. I’ve been away from her for five years and I’m still battling this identity crisis. I’ve dated a couple times, but I’ve spent most of these five years alone with only having a couple of good friends.
@barbada78811 ай бұрын
You are amazing, you were so on point with this video. I was married to narc for 47 years so I totally agree with everything.
@nonoway28811 ай бұрын
Once we learned about gaslighting or anything healthy. He would point fingers at me. When he knew it was him and his freak friends he loved to.rescue while abandoning his own family
@tidycoat11 ай бұрын
It’s 49 years for me and I’m in the planning stages of leaving him!!
@dct123811 ай бұрын
@@tidycoatMay God go with you 🙏
@cindywalton493211 ай бұрын
@@tidycoatgood for you! 33 for me and I'm making secret plans. I wish you the best and God be with you.
@zojagjikdhima993911 ай бұрын
@@tidycoathow old are you?
@elz454111 ай бұрын
Omg my husband is just like this. If someone makes a comment about his work it triggers him. How dare these ppl say these things to him. In and out of so many jobs. His at the moment has a female boss but apparently she hates men! He's a man child. Leaves dishes or hes stuff around the house knowing this will start arguments. Does nothing around the house. Buts its all my fault. I lived in my bedroom for over a year. Got rid of him 13 days ago. He's messed so much with my head. I really should of left him many years ago when he got anger management. I feel a weight off my shoulders now
@traxikscifi810511 ай бұрын
All true...The 4th, they are really stupid, like really... that is what get us stuck. We can not believe how someone can be so stupid. 5th they are fatalists, they will follow their path to death... sickning! ❤
@crystalbeckett671511 ай бұрын
All these things just happened to me! Literally taunted, tortured, and tore me down and expected me to forgive them.
@gwendolynwehage63369 ай бұрын
My narcissist believes everyone thinks he is special. He uses every opportunity to tell them all about his amazing life. He can never sit quietly in any gathering, he must be the center of attention. When I had a high school reunion he refused to go because he knew I would be the center of attention. I went with him to his reunion and he was in the spotlight, he loved it, I was nothing more than there to watch him being the center of attention.
@Enjoymentboy10 ай бұрын
I once asked my narcissistic father "Had anything bad ever happened to you that was NOT someone else's fault?". He looked at me quizzically and said "I don't know what you mean". That taught me a lot about him.
@mariposa193311 ай бұрын
Only 3?? 🧐 Just kidding! 😆 Thank you for this channel. You have no idea how many people you are helping who have lived with the heartache of the narc. 🤗♥️ It’s been a real struggle for us all.
@dominiquekongvongsay756011 ай бұрын
I’m dealing with this with my biological mother who has gone so far as tto threaten my life and the lives of my children. She has actively had her Mexican friends try and kidnap me just to abuse me and my children. CRISPIN Bustamante Gonzales Julio Emmanuel Diaz and Carlos Diaz Rueda and Teressa cook are responsible for multiple children sexual abuse and murder. Pray for me.
@背bせ11 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏
@missphsyco16010 ай бұрын
This is a serious matter and can have potential results, you can face something very bad at the end and you should file a police complain about this and go no contact with her
@Sandra-fc8pc11 ай бұрын
Hi! My parents are narcissists, my father is a overt and my mother is a couvert. I think my mother actually changed during us kids growing up, she was idolising my father and was shy, and she came from a toxic narcissistic family. Now we have two terrible parents and I try to avoid them as much as possible and keep my kids away from them. BUT!!!! I feel I have some traits of it too. Not in all relationships, but when I meet very toxic coworkers I try to be balanced and as loving as possible, but I lose it when being abused for too long. I am very vulnerable toward these negative people at work that has no love for anyone. I work as a kindergarten teacher, and you would not believe how many narcissists are there. It's like paradise for them, the can put down and control the kids, the coworkers that are empaths and even the bosses.. And sometime the bosses are narcissists as well. It's hell on earth working with kids, when all of your coworkers are severally toxic. And what about me?? When I can't stay balanced? Meditation meditation meditation..
@dct123811 ай бұрын
Everyone has a little narc in them, BUT it's simply your response to THEM!
@annajaworska362710 ай бұрын
@@dct1238 Thank you and very nice of you to think like that. I catch myself often identifying with my behavior.💜
@tuffguydoe793711 ай бұрын
It's amazing how my mother thinks it's not her fault that the plumbing is worsening at her place because lack of maintenance. I told her repeatedly to contact her landlord to send a plumber to fix issues, but she doesn't want strangers in her house. She won't clean her home (hoarding) for a plumber to fix issues. All I can do is just chuckle and change the topic quickly if it comes up in discussion.
@user-dl3zd1pb6o11 ай бұрын
I'm subscribed and it is a life saver for me for the last 2week I've been with out any contact with my narcissist girlfriend..everything is 1,000% true
@user-td5bm3yk2z11 ай бұрын
Thank you! I've been watching these videos since may after 'realization'; now i know why my life has allways been difficult and had constant feelings something is wrong. Dealing malignant situation right now and your videos give me perspective and wide my understanding about things
@VICTORIA-rf8pd11 ай бұрын
Great points! Keep telling everyone! I was a little sheltered in my youth and had no idea people were so cruel until older. These points you make helps one to see signs early in any connection. Blessings
@user-mz5nv8ry4x5 ай бұрын
You see the patience of a narsissist best when they have to deal with animals. And I mean zero patience, absolutely no idea how to handle dogs or cats acting in their way. I saw it when my sheep had feeding time. There is one sheep that always does it her way. It is not a problem, because the animal comes to the stable a few minutes later. The rage I heard was far beyond normal. My heart sank for the poor sheep. The same problem with the foal. He was shouting to her, because she did not exactly do what he wanted her to do. Then the foal kicked him in his belly. Now the foal was agressive in his opinion. My remark to stop yelling at her could be the solution, was not said to his ears. He was not able to understand that the foal hold him a mirror, a reflection to his behaviour. Getting along with animals is very problematic for a narsissits. That is also a way to spot a narcissist. My advice is to never leave them alone with your pets.
@patlewkowicz633911 ай бұрын
Absolutely my whole life. Thank you for explaining I knew something was wrong in my prayers. God always answer is my peace in my joy. God bless you. God has turned your situation around to help so many others, because this was your life and it put into words with tormented feelings, confusion, trying to figure out why he does this how he does it take me to your video
@pallavichandrashekaraiah449011 ай бұрын
A narcissist uses people like tissue papers, they never come back to apologise with an innocent face sir
@Wasp23911 ай бұрын
Your videos is the support that keeps me alive
@amitad139011 ай бұрын
You are very wise, very intelligent . Thanks a true clear speech.
@CornvilleCorrections11 ай бұрын
So true! Have a great weekend Danish! 🇨🇦
@trbrm63198 ай бұрын
"Leave a narcissist with nothing and in the darkness of their own rotten self, they will annihilate themselves" Wowww that hit me really deep... Thank you sir
@cyny630511 ай бұрын
Devastating. How did I keep falling for it. What an Evil thing it was.
@WeR1bodyNChrist9 ай бұрын
Truth 🎯 My demonic narcissistic sister really has done a number on her four daughters! All of her daughters were the “scapegoat”. I tried my best to tell my relatives about the narcissistic behavior and abuse of my sister towards all of us, but to no avail. Most of my relatives are narcissists or flying monkeys!!! And they were in total denial, they put up with her mess! But Thank God now three of her daughters are in Therapy and receiving much needed help. But unfortunately, one of the siblings passed away from brain cancer in 2017, and suffering from her mother’s narcissistic abuse/neglect. 😭😢💔❤️🩹
@terriwilmottw9 ай бұрын
Wow! Best yet thank you. They are not aware of the phoenix! A mothers love and determination
@PaintWithWheat11 ай бұрын
Perfectly said!! Thank you, Danish! It is so validating and helpful to hear!
@bubblesSqueak389511 ай бұрын
Bang on Danish love how your clips come exactly time I need it and been unable to describe the Narcissistic Ex but here you calmly and consinctly put it in a nutshell. You are my calm in this storm am in presently. Thank you 🙏❤️
@KL-zg7lu4 ай бұрын
They don't seem to realize you're willing to leave alone and never speak to them again. Here's the thing: if someone causes damage to your life and health that causes ongoing care, surgery, etc, those things need to be paid for. The thing about being a narcissistic abuse survivors, is that you get to the point of dishing back their behavior, to get them to back off. If you permanently disable someone, you and no one else are responsible. Unless you enlisted other people to help damage a person, financial compensation is owed. Best to stay away from people like this. Those people will make you lose your job, impact your health, and drive a lot of people away They will claim you are their nemesis, yet they are their own worst enemy. All that ends up happening is a bad reputation, inability to get business, and people finally discovering what a piece of shit they actually are. It's bad enough to have to disown someone, but when this comes at the heels of everyone hacking this person's accts, etc, to find out what they've been up to, you have to often come to terms with the fact that a😇parent you should have been able to trust, was attacking you the entire time. I can't afford to love anyone like that. Anyone who stresses you to the point of physical illness every time they come around, you're better off not ever seeing or hearing from them again. One of my siblings left the country after finding out exactly how much went on and not wanting any sort of affiliation with such a piece of shit
@Debbie-pq4xr7 ай бұрын
Thanks Danish, lam finally finding my own place to live. The Law let him come back home, I walked off and I'm starting my life over. Thank you for making me realize how to stand up for myself ❤
@norcal100911 ай бұрын
👍Of the narcissists: 1) Blaming is definitely a vice of the weakest minds alive today. 2) Lifelong immature emotions render them helpless to complete their story honestly. 3) FALSE belief system that they are the center of the universe *4) Commitment to nothingness is seen as the only possible higher power. 🥸😱
@l.c83811 ай бұрын
Spot on!
@GenerationX198411 ай бұрын
I like to tell them they're not the center of anything or the star of the show. I tell them they're more like an NPC.
@norcal100911 ай бұрын
@@GenerationX1984 😂 or a grayed-out alien 😂
@regenawilliams962911 ай бұрын
Danish, you are amazing! They are their own worst enemy! Spot on! Feel bad for those folks but at the same time they are sooo stupid! Their life could be sooo much better! Fools!!!!!
@dianalostrappo124110 ай бұрын
They are also VERY vindictive and evil 😢
@cefcat573311 ай бұрын
That could be confused with having many 'friends', acquaintances and being very social. While maturing, we allow others to define us in positive and negative ways. Perhaps some are so hungry for positive compliments and reactions, or just reactions, to feel alive, that they allow themselves to become insatiable, which means that lots of important facts, practical needs and people get ignored. It's really too much pretending and not enough investment of ones'self. It is worrysome, if you care about this person. They simultaneously need you and drive you away from a close proximity, with disrespect, neglect and unpleasant behavior. They run from reality, rather than look reality in the face. They won't hear anyone's ideas, suggestions or warnings. They go ahead with their plans, overly headstrong, look down at you for your well intentioned helpfulness, but come back to you, helpless, when they fail but gain momentum and leave again. Some might have triple lives, to stay on top of their game. By being untrue to all, they aren't really social at all. That's just all a pretend game.
@zegwollah388311 ай бұрын
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 AYYYYEEE 🎯🫨
@zegwollah388311 ай бұрын
@cefcat5733 I just can’t stop reading that nutshell in a loop it’s kind of like a #Shorts video but better 💯❤ SOMEONE PLEASE put this verse in Guinness Books holy Bible an implement into schools and studies ASAP. And to Danish you changed my life and kids futures with these vids and everything man!!! I was blind you gave me eyes and tho it’s been hard and still is, am really respecting why and how you do all this with your time man so many people must be and have been feeling awfulll try figuring out what’s wrong with themselves and all that.. Your study got me an A+ for math knowing that 1+1 REALLY is 11. And skins got no color for certain race
@cefcat573311 ай бұрын
@@zegwollah3883 Thanks. I am not an expert with a degree, but am troubled, watching things develop around me. Narcissists have taken up lots of my time, because that's what they do. Thanks for noticing the loop. Sometimes it just comes out that way, just like good fortune, in your life can eventually appear... just around the next corner.
@dalelerette2069 ай бұрын
This is so well said. Yet I think some aspects of social media brings out the worst. Admittedly, we all display some aspects of self-interest that should normally remain humble. But some egos are so deeply hurt they become parasitic to the point they become cannibalistic in a social sense. As Danish Bashir had mentioned before, when we seek their understanding or assistance, we have to be prepared to face indifference, irritation, or even anger, RATHER than compassionate justice. Please listen to this gentleman.
@leniyaanil792211 ай бұрын
Very true, my husband and mother law are the worst Narcis I have ever seen.