31 !! ...i am 62 and never had a girlfriend ..tried everything when i was younger ..dressed up , went to the gym 3 times a week ,went out every weekend ..all my mates got the girls and their girls would tell them how ugly i was ...every girl i attempted to talk to made an excuse to get away from me ,like introduce me to a friend then walk off laughing ..every girl i asked out turned me down ..all that "oh you will find someone someday" is a load of bollocks ......i have never even kissed a girl or hold there hand ..how could i possibly ever find anyone ..you have another 31 years to catch me up !!!
@BorisEysbroek2 ай бұрын
Wish more people would read your story. I'm tired of the platitudes thrown at you people. Yes, some people can improve with work, but some people are already the best version of themselves and stil find themselves undesirable. I dress poorly, my hair looks like I escaped out of a psychiatric hospital and I have the social skills of a brick. But I'm 6,2. Still have had women approach me out of the blue at work and out on the street. Can't say that for my shorter brethren though. How abysmall the chance may be, I still hope you have found happyness through other means in your life. Don't let the insincerity of society get to you. Cheers
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
I'm sending my support to you. I wish I could do more.
@Samuel-vw2wyАй бұрын
try invincible by David tian and the ace formula by Adam lyons
@somerandomvertebrate926223 күн бұрын
I'm 53. My strategy has become to bet on the existence of an afterlife. Everything we lacked here, we could make up for there.
@thegreatbenis22518 күн бұрын
Damn brother, not too be mean but maybe you were talking to girls above your league? Also you can still find someone, their are single 61 year old woman. If you still care, maybe you dont but dont be affraid too try
@turtle_power_cosplay7442 ай бұрын
Please stop telling him to “Just be confident” in the comments section. Confidence is bullshit.
@prasmitdevkota42512 ай бұрын
He lacks confidence 100%. How is being confident bs? He gives off very weak vibe of himself which immediately turns women off. He looks like he wont be able to hold a 1 on 1 conversation with a girl for even 10 minutes. He doesn’t seem like a bad dude and should absolutely work on his confidence.
@user-rx7by5sn6oАй бұрын
Are u confident in that statement?
@thegreatbenis22518 күн бұрын
Sorta, this man is attractive to most im sure but his confidence is ass and its very obvious hes weak. If he stops with the excuses and starts losing the fat he could kill it with females
@chuckcollins234913 күн бұрын
@@prasmitdevkota4251Confidence only matters if she likes your appearance.
@prasmitdevkota425113 күн бұрын
@@chuckcollins2349 Then guys should work on their appearances. And should not chase women who dont like their appearance.
@FamilyHistoriandude16 күн бұрын
I got my first girlfriend a couple weeks after i turned 31. Even though we broke up 3 months later, im grateful for the experience.
@astroboirap14 күн бұрын
lmao
@FamilyHistoriandude13 күн бұрын
@@astroboirap yeah, me too because I proved to the nay sayers that I can get a girlfriend.
@quesoloco20337 күн бұрын
@@astroboirap😂
@theswagapino4 ай бұрын
5'5 going to clubs alone... respect for trying at least
@astroboirap14 күн бұрын
dingdong
@Tinto228 күн бұрын
its tough out here for alot of us guys, women have no idea how easy they have it when it comes to dating.
@bornwithoutconsentobviously27 күн бұрын
Oh you have walked in the shoes of every female in this world? That’s an achievement.
@wanderingwilliam50317 күн бұрын
Respect to you for making this video. I'm not gay but can tell you ain't a bad looking bloke, there's no end of these videos on the internet with men being single permanently so it's a common trend. Myself am 36 and am these days a bit on incel. I feel your despair at what to do also, dating apps don't work, going out doesn't seem to work so no clue to what the answer is.
@shaun24634 ай бұрын
I hear you bro, you're not alone in feeling alone. I hope you get something positive out of sharing this, you're a lot more secure with yourself than I am by doing so.
@bluerain17194 ай бұрын
You are not ugly! That’s an awful thing that was said to you. I have the best hope for you truly. Life is so tricky in regard to social relationships. Sending you positivity!
@sparkdrive29002 ай бұрын
Date him then. Break his curse if you really meant what you said.
@barrysmithhy15832 ай бұрын
yeah so would you date him? no? thought so.
@arturpikas430523 күн бұрын
"look at you. you are such a handsome man. surely there is someone waiting. maybe someone did harm you. don't be so harsh to yourself. eventually you'll find someone" - insulting. just don't argue. 😮
@JmanAnimates2 ай бұрын
Bro don’t give up. I learned how to date by improving my social skills. As I improved my social skills my dating life improved. The key is to not get too attached to results and have fun.
@HowlingMoai4 ай бұрын
I'm a fair bit younger than you (I'm 5'6" on a good day and you kinda look like me just older) but I was in the same mentality from the latter half of high school to the early parts of college. Granted, it is a lot easier to interact with a lot of girls when you're still in uni because you have to go to classes but I think some of the things that I've learned about the world will stay relatively similar to the way it works in the real world. The biggest thing that changed for me over the past couple years is my confidence in myself. I wouldn't say I'm all that confident now but it's miles and leagues better than how I was at the end of high school and when I began uni. I feel that us guys are really hard on ourselves, we are overly self-conscious, and we overthink everything. It's hard to change this, it feels so normal to look at the world through a negative lens and think that people are either A. predisposed to dislike us or B. actively think negatively of us. This thinking is really obvious to others (even when we think there's no way they pick up on this). Here's a few things that I did and pretty much every one of them is a mental shift (in retrospect this is what I was doing, I didn't really think about it in an intentional way): The more you focus on women specifically, the worse you will feel. Our lack of experience with girls is one of our sore spots, I am a hardcore introvert as well. I'm still in uni but I don't hang with friends that much and I don't have a particularly large social circle. It's not all that often that I feel lonely. However, when I do, I used to just wallow in self pity and wish that I was super social (basically just wish that I'm someone that I'm not). Nowadays, when I feel occassionally feel lonely, I think about how I prefer to be by myself and the negative feelings I get from draining my social battery. Oftentimes those thoughts bring me solace and calm my rising turmoil. If it's a particularly stubborn bout of loneliness I will plan something to do with friends (usually a couple weeks to a month in advance) so that I have something to look forward to. Have things to look forward to. One of the most therapeutic things in life is hope/excitement for things to come. I have about three friends that I've kept in contact with from high school (messaging probably about once every month or 2 months, so it's not super often or anything) and I will ask them if they want to go camping or on a small trip for a few days. Now I know that when you're a real adult (not in university and past the age of fake adult activities like clubbing or partying) people have spouses, children, or a lot of responsibilities overall that stop them from spending a lot of time with the boys. However, it's not too dissimilar from how it is in university. My friends work part time jobs/internships over winter and summer break which definitely postpones my plans a week or two or three almost every time. It's just as hard to plan things with others now as it will be when I get older. However, the thing that I started without really thinking about it was being persistent. I would think "they definitely think I'm being annoying" "I should stop asking them, they probably don't like me". Luckily, I didn't give up and my plans often came to fruition and we (at least one or two of us because oftentimes not everyone can make it) would go on the trip. It would just feel nice to KNOW that whatever I'm going through now is just temporary because I'll at least get to have some fun with the boys in a couple weeks to a month. You said you're not an outdoorsy sort of person and to be honest neither am I. I just think that we spend so much time playing games that we neglect to get out into the world. We are also very self conscious so when we do outdoors stuff we think "I look so weird/stupid doing this" "Everyone is probably looking at me and thinking I'm a creep" just because we aren't very skilled. I'm gonna give you a bit of knowledge that I finally realized after wayyy too long. Nah, nobody cares about you. Yeah, they might give you a weird look or maybe have a passing thought that you're a bit strange but that's actually a RARE occurrence. Maybe 1 in 10-20 people will actually acknowledge your existence in their minds to have a thought about you and maybe 1 in 1000 will actually interact with you, even more rare, maybe 1 in 20000 will appear in your life again. You're older than I am so you probably know even better than I do that what you did in high school didn't really matter. Going on trips and the things you do on those trips, how you look to other strangers on those trips, is basically just the same thing as high school. You'll never see them again, just be yourself. Really, now that I think about it, the biggest advice I could give to you is to learn who YOU are and to accept that sure, you could change stuff if you really wanted to, but there's not much you can do to change who YOU are. That might make you a bit depressed because you're probably like I was and have low self-esteem, you immediately think about what YOU think your "bad characteristics" are and how you're "stuck" with them. If you want my honest, uncensored, not trying to make you feel better in any way, just brutal opinion? You look like a pretty average dude (if not slightly better than the average 31 year old honestly speaking) you think you're too short but honestly you have a pretty good height (5'5" 5'6" feels like we're short but it's not terrible really, we can sit in any seat, clothes actually fit us, we won't have early onset back pain just because we are super tall, we aren't 4'6" so it's not like we can't ride amusement park rides or wear adult clothing. It's just a comfortable height to be once you get past having to look up at a portion of the human population((If you think about it that way it kinda feels stupid to worry about height at all lol)). Sure we THINK girls care a lot about height, but I've talked to a lot of girls in uni and the main thing I've learned is they can pretty much decide if they are attracted to you ((the girls worth a damn at least, life lesson: ignore the opinions of people who just want to start trouble or always seem to find themselves surrounded by it)) so it doesn't really matter if you're 5'6" or 6'6".) You have a pleasant personality that comes across as genuine and kind (this isn't all that common so you should be proud of this). If you want to get better at holding a conversation with others or girls specifically, just find a reason in your surroundings to start talking to them (the weather is nice/bad, they dropped something so try and pick it up for them ((even if they are going to pick it up too, yea it's awkward but it's a guaranteed convo starter)), they are wearing something related to something pop culture that you know, etc.) and then give them a turn to speak. Just hold eye contact a fair bit and be a good listener. Most people like it when others are interested in what they have to say, since we don't get out much, everything other people say is interesting to us so it's not like we're being manipulative or a bad person for trying to talk to them. Once someone talks a bit to you, it's easier to talk to them and then you're less likely to feel like you're saying something creepy because at that point you're just having a conversationg about your lives or something interesting to you. Overall and silly things aside, we should be grateful for the things we have because it can DEFINITELY get worse for us lol. However, we should still find things that we feel like we lack, analyze them critically to see if it's just 'grass is greener on the other side' or if it's something we may genuinely be better with having in our lives. Chin up brother, we still have many decades ahead of us, and cmon, even if we never get a girlfriend, we've always got each other.
@2l84me82 ай бұрын
You’re honest, but it’s important to love yourself first. Starting with a hobby is a good way to build confidence and meet people. I hope your situation improves.
@bushborneАй бұрын
Sorry you were called ugly cause you're definitely not. Have a blessed day
@7avilus4 ай бұрын
Rooting for you man !
@wootangsavage78864 ай бұрын
You got this man hang in there get out there. And even if its across a microphone with someone online. Start slow. U are talkimg very clear and there is a woman out there that wants someone as soft as u seem. Never ever give up.
@hopelessreasoning11 сағат бұрын
"I wish I had the answers!" Here are the answers: -Most people are not tall. -Most people don't have a lot of money. -You can be happy without a relationship. -Tons of people have had relationships, so it's not that rare or special to have one. -Most people don't even like their partner. There you go.
@adamchilds913221 күн бұрын
I feel your pain, man. I have been 16 years single. I'm kind of accepting my fate. I don't think I will ever get another relationship.
@andyroo39824 ай бұрын
Big advocate for the gym. Main benefit I've had from it is gaining confidence in your body and self, being around strangers. Second benefit is for your health. Both incredible confidence boosters. Last thing to mention is go travelling! Re-invent yourself. Stay in hostels. All the best mate.
@jacobmassey38973 ай бұрын
Don't stay in hostels unless you want to get robbed or molested.
@earthsoundsukАй бұрын
Change of environment could help for sure
@linnblom36404 ай бұрын
Please know I have so much love for you, and love will find its way to you when you least expect it. You are not ugly, you are not a bad person and you are not unlovable. You are important, brave and more than enough
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
Why don't you date him then?
@linnblom36402 ай бұрын
@@Reeeeeee12345 I'm married and waaay to old for this lovely guy anyways. But if I can offer anyone some encouragement, I am more than happy to do so! His love story is out there waiting for him
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
@@linnblom3640 Typical response.
@linnblom36402 ай бұрын
@@Reeeeeee12345There is no fault in treating others with kindness and consideration
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
@@linnblom3640 Unfortunately, love stories happen less and less the more you age. There is a young women hypergamy problem, and over 35 a "older single women VS older single men who could not build relational maturity when young because of young women hypergamy" problem which has been steadily rising since 2008. It's important to treat others with kindness and consideration, but it is also important to not give people false hope like love would be a magical thing that happens to everyone sooner or later. The % of men who go loveless their entire life is rising, and not surprisingly it's much higher in disabled men, men with no diplomas, and men in lower socio-economic classes (while this is not the case for women).
@cdhigggj4 ай бұрын
you're calm, no one is bothering you, you have peace.. something people would pay trillions to have.. start there..
@Jedirising4 ай бұрын
Please keep your head up! Life is hard and unfortunately it only gets harder.
@dh6hb7ub945 күн бұрын
What gave me the most confidence is >READING
@zade858614 сағат бұрын
good advice. people don't read as much these days. far more enriching for your brain than watching youtube videos or listening to a podcast.
@Astro-ui4os2 ай бұрын
Face the hard truth and level up, use your pain as motivation
@proudlycanadian30232 күн бұрын
YOU ARE PERFECT AS YOU ARE!
@boostjunkie278 күн бұрын
No wife, happy life.
@1992tjmc4 ай бұрын
You seem like a great bloke mate - chin up, and know you are worthwhile. I dealt with shyness and confidence issues in my younger years so I feel you - but things can get better!
@kymypy2 ай бұрын
no they don't
@jacobmassey38973 ай бұрын
I'm 26 and been in one relationship which wasn't great if I'm honest because i dealt with a lot of psychological abuse throughout. I was also brought up in a strict religious family so wasn't encouraged to even have relationships with anyone that wasn't from the same religion and this (along with my shyness and introverted personality) has made it incredibly difficult for me to pursue romantic relationships throughout my adult life which is frustrating because i personally believe that the best time to learn how to behave around a girlfriend is during your late teen years because there's no expectations for you to be fully mature and you're far less likely to be expected to commit anything long term. Short term relationships when you're young teach you valuable life lessons so a committed long term relationship becomes far easier when you reach adulthood. Sorry this comment is so long but I wanted to express a few personal feelings I have regarding how to best have a healthy romantic adult relationship but then this is coming from a guy whose only had one experience with a girl so I'm no expert.
@Samuel-vw2wy3 ай бұрын
get ifs therapy and one date by chase amante
@dstroxp23 күн бұрын
you and me both growing up religious as only being allowed to date within. on top of the introvertness and people thinking I'm weird 1st girlfriend scared me mentally and my insecurities disturbed my 2nd so being 27 now its like who in the world will i meet but i guess it is what it is.
@vienymember10006 күн бұрын
Honestly the only way is switching location, even if temporary. You'll have luck in countries where being from the UK is a cool thing by itself.
@PessimisticPirate8 күн бұрын
7:43 I’ve totally been there. They feel really bold about doing it because that’s all they really value and they know that they can get away with this act of cruelty.
@BarriosGroupieКүн бұрын
Life is tough: some of us are male yet too feminine and fragile looking or female yet too masculine and strong looking. Good luck in your life.
@DezorakStudio4 ай бұрын
im 36 next month 5ft 1 and far from in shape but i had a few sounds silly but if ya out looking people can tell and it puts them off.... each of my relationships have always come when im not even thinking about it... dating apps are horrible avoid like the plague and just try and join things you enjoy and go from there (i met my ex streaming and mutual invited her to join a game)
@teodortodorov16623 ай бұрын
I have had feeling very down for the fact that I`m 20 years old and have never had girlfriend! I was always comparing myself to others people at my age who already have tons of experiences and feel angry, sad and confused about this. But I released and I know it`s true that you don`t need someone else into your life to be happy (girlfriend, wife or friends). Of course this doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t have friends or wife and children, but simply to realize that they are just one of the things that can give you happiness in life and if you are unable to have it then you can find happiness in other things in life. Loneliness is feeling not a real thing.
@Samuel-vw2wy3 ай бұрын
why don’t you just get a girlfriend then
@teodortodorov16623 ай бұрын
@@Samuel-vw2wy Because if you have a girlfriend only for pleasure then it`s just waste of time and money. Also I want to improve now, not wasting time on women
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
Cope
@Samuel-vw2wy2 ай бұрын
@@teodortodorov1662 why do you want to improve
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
Loneliness is a real thing for many people on this planet. I'm genuinely happy for you that you do not feel the need to be loved romantically, but this is not the case for the majority of the world population.
@neji161718Ай бұрын
I see people recommending the gym, it helps but it won't get you a girlfriend and turn you into a chick magnet, women care more about confidence and status. I consider myself good looking and a gymrat and practice skateboarding but I'm not confident or charismatic or have a good paying job. I'm 31 year old and never had a girlfriend, some guys are just not chosen by women.
@Metallex2 ай бұрын
Hey dude! Can tell this video took some cojones to make for you, so you should be proud of yourself. So first off, you have anxiety. I can see it in how tight your shoulders are, your talking patterns and the self doubt that creeps in at the very start. Give your GP a call and just talk about starting a conversation about anxiety. It comes with the social awkwardness and if you get it under control like I have...dude you will flourish. I don't do well on dating apps either, it's a toxic quagmire. I think you'd have way more success meeting people in person doing hobbies and that kind of thing. Gym can be a great place to meet people, but meeting women there is a bit dicey but there's all kinds of people you can meet there. You're not a bad looking dude and women who care will not care about your height. I don't know how you dress outside of your house, but based on your t-shirt you might want to revisit the wardrobe. If you get some new, non-ratty stuff that fits you and suits you well with the cut of the fabric and appearance it'll make you POP. I think the first step would be to do the work on yourself first and be happy with where you are on your own - being single can be lonely at times, but being secure with yourself in the life you have before you add someone else into it can be a long road but I believe in you! Get out there. Fake it 'til you make it. The first step is hard. I know, I had to take it too. You've got a bit of a road ahead but from this video you seem like a sound dude and if we lived nearby I'd absolutely grab a beer with you. You got this!
@user-hw3bs6jy9u15 күн бұрын
Bro, it's easy to get one. Realize that you'll have to go through multiple rejections to get one of them. Not all of them are the same and not all of them have the same taste of men. Ask yourself, what do women like? And then ask yourself, out of these things, what can I improve? But at the end of the day, improving yourself will take you halfway to the goal, the other half is learning to connect and socialize based on what they like, how they live, and what is fun for them. Do not express feelings too early when connecting, make them wait a little when giving it to them. They crave this aspect and the more you give it, the less it will mean when you say it often. Fill your day with plans outside of your house, this aspect is key when trying to find someone. If you go for a hike somewhere cool, or if you go shopping, go this place or that place it will make them think that you are self-sufficient and will possibly make them want to join you in your activities. Dont pass up an opportunity to let them join you, you will get a girl you just have to be where they are. Get good at finding places where you can talk to them.
@gekizoku6354 ай бұрын
i know you just wanted to do this video and let your thoughts out and i support that. i wish you best and i hope you find her......
@Travesty17 күн бұрын
I feel ya brother. 5’4 but I round up. My escape is black desert online without it I know I’d be feeling real lonely
@Colesbaby199915 күн бұрын
Man this life shit be tuff
@Drinnan4 ай бұрын
Hey man, as long as you're happy. Dont find a woman just because you think that's what should happen. Only if you want that in your life. I was 23 when I had my first girlfriend. I was really happy before that, i just "thought" that's what i needed to because normal life 🤷♂️ By 25 we'd had a child. By 27 she'd cheated on me twice and fell pregnant again. DNA test showed he was mine, we tried to stay together for the kids....she cheated again. By 29, I had a new girlfriend, we had a kid when i was 32 and she changed drastically. At least once a year i had to stay at my parents for a couple of months. Life was a real rollercoaster of emotions. Cut to last year (41 y/o). I've finally had enough, moved out, got my own place and saying single forever now. I'm finally happy again. There were a couple of happy times in there but it's overshadowed by the hurt and misery. My point is, if you're happy, good for you man. Nobody needs a girlfriend.
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
I do not trust most humans enough, especially most women, to even think of marrying them without having lived with them for at least 5 years. So having children... urrrh. Given I'm now 35, it's a big no for me. I need a VERY long time to trust people IRL now, I'm no longer willing to potentially sabotage my life for women who can betray you at the worst time for their personal benefit even after several years of living under the same roof.
@notanothercomedian8 күн бұрын
honestly, i know i can get a girlfriend fairly eisily, but what keeps me back is the belief that if a woman doesnt add peace to my life, she isnt worth it. And while ive met some pretty great women, and ive even dated and been with them, most women today arnt worth it. They cannot bring a partner peace, because they themselves arnt at peace.
@pizzaboynizza112 күн бұрын
Go to Southeast Asia…man…seriously. Look, I have Asperger’s, but I joined the Navy at 19 and wasn’t diagnosed until I was 28…but I lived in Japan and traveled around Asia. You can find a girlfriend abroad…plus you’ll be out of your comfort zone.
@kaykay17984 ай бұрын
This is so extremely vulnerable. It seems that you sense a lack of community. You mention not having many friends and I don’t know what your family is like, but there is all kinds of love in this world that make us feel less lonely. You talk about having an emotional connection and spending your days with this “person”, but there are so many different types of people you can have an emotional connection with and many people who can be in your lives as long as you want them to be. You might even meet your person by building community. I know that you are an introvert, but make the gesture to do what your friends/family want to do and develop a closer bond. I think everyone in the world craves love/care and we can find them in so many different ways.
@ethangardner17094 ай бұрын
My take away is that you need someone to go along with you to these things that can help you. Whether that's someone to workout with you, someone to introduce you to new people at pubs, night clubs and other social events. Your height may not help but not every woman looks for 6'2 in every partner. You're not a bad looking guy at all. I wish you all the best
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
The rest look for 6'5" minimum, but will settle for a 6'1" model.
@ikaribrendo4 ай бұрын
I think what's best for you is to put your feelings regarding your virginity or lack of a girlfriend aside and just try and meet people in general. Women are people just like you and me, and just focusing on making meaningful connections with people regardless of gender will make you feel better. Even if just over the internet, find people with similar interests and get to know them, don't focus so much on whether they're an option as a girlfriend or not.
@HowlingMoai4 ай бұрын
Yep, you're right. We often forget that girls are just people with their own lives, families, wants, needs, feelings, and insecurities. It's best to just find friends to hang out with and not worry too much about finding a girlfriend. Oftentimes the emotional connection you feel with the boys is just as fulfilling as the connection with a girlfriend.
@user-er8kz2jg6o3 ай бұрын
I wish it was that easy.
@ikaribrendo2 ай бұрын
@@user-er8kz2jg6o It really is. Society has conditioned men to see women as other, and has conditioned many women to think of themselves as lesser as well. It's a poison to society and of the mind, and it's caused harm to lonely and autistic or socially challenged individuals who haven't figured out how to maneuver around and see past that which permeates the poison
@ronjohnson405916 күн бұрын
I love your honesty man. God has someone for you! Praying you get your dream companion! I’m 31 as well and can totally relate the older I get the more I realise ughhhhhhhhh it’s so hard. Bro you are not an ugly dude. Your average looking
@ellajones55404 ай бұрын
just know that everyone has a different "type". almost all of my girl friends have extremely different preferences when it comes to a man's looks or personality. just because you think some qualities aren't working in your favor, it doesn't mean every girl believes so. i don't really feel like i'm fit to give you any advice, but if i could, go out and do things that you've always wanted to do, big or small, find some enjoyment in life again. if you happen to meet a girl along the way, yay! but if not, you've made your life your own. don't give up! find joy in solitude!
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
You your girlfriend's types: "taller than me, stronger than me, smarter than me, makes more money than me, better than me."
@michaelbirkett49324 ай бұрын
Hey, keep your head up and remember it’s absolutely never too late to find love. Focus on what you can control. Do you work? An absolutely massive percentage of married people meet their partner at or through their work. I think it’s nearly 50%. It’s a great way to meet people organically, where things can happen spontaneously and you and others learn about each other, which can go further. Regarding your height, I’d maybe try wearing shoes which bring your height up more? Or soles? I feel different heights in different shoes. As long as you’re not wearing high heels, no one will think you’re catfishing or anything and it would give you more confidence for sure. And driving. I know lots of people find it very nerve wracking, but I have a friend who has big anxiety problems (who happens to face quite similar challenges to you based on what you’ve said) who has managed it and now he’s driving confidently and comfortably. Driving is a game changer, when I started driving, even though I’m not a car guy at all, it made me feel better in many ways. You’re good looking and you have a genuine personality, so you definitely have potential if you do those other things. I think if you focus on yourself, really put the work in and think - right, I’m gonna start today, then you’ll feel better about yourself and honestly a relationship will come along without you even looking for it. Take care.
@robertt354523 күн бұрын
You can't just hope for change you have to put the effort in and make things happen
@ankaanka231626 күн бұрын
Im 41 . I suffer for social anxiety and anorexia , all my life I have been isolated , have only few friends , I never had a serious long term relationship , Im afraid of sex , Im afraid of men , I even have no experience and I would not go to bed with bf , 41 with small experience , what I have been doing all my life ? Isolated. Im sick all my life . I would like to meet a new friends . Im a loser
@brandonking51114 ай бұрын
I'm jealous. you're taller than I am. I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend either. I missed my opportunity when I was young because I was too scared to ask a girl out and get rejected. I tried when I was 19, but I couldn't get any woman to go on a date with me. now I'm just too old to even try.
@manosijroy82824 ай бұрын
You are still young at 26 tho. I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just over a week ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not. 3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.
@brandonking51114 ай бұрын
@@manosijroy8282 I'm telling you it just isn't possible for me to get a girlfriend. none of them share my beliefs and even if they did, I'm just not good at talking to people.
@Samuel-vw2wy4 ай бұрын
try game transformation by Austen Summers
@brandonking51114 ай бұрын
@@Samuel-vw2wy I said I'm too old now. there is no undoing that.
@Samuel-vw2wy4 ай бұрын
@@brandonking5111 Austen said he got success for 55 year olds, 26 isn’t too old.
@williamlebrun18104 ай бұрын
You need to learn to "Act as if" ... You do have the personality, this video shows it, the confidence it takes to put this honest of a video up for billions to see takes huge balls buddy. You just need to redirect your attention and energy. If you can look up the movie "Boiler Room" there is a lot of lessons that can be learned from it. One other thing is stop consuming current media, go back and watch media from the 70's-90's something happen in the early 2000's that started a trend of weak, submissive men. I also hate to say it that you do have to change aspects of your life that were important that may actually be stunting your growth.
@juangutierrez68684 ай бұрын
Be confident. You’re not ugly dude, you just seem insecure. There are a lot of women out there for you but never try so hard in attracting them, that is the opposite of what attracts them. Also maybe try to go out of your comfort zone in your standards, what may seem as unattractive to you visually could change once you get to know someone
@kymypy2 ай бұрын
"be confident bro, be secure bro, try less hard bro, do the opposite bro, get out of your comfort zone bro"
@Omen46518 күн бұрын
@@kymypyyup, that's the equivalent of telling depressed people "just be happy bro"
@user-er8kz2jg6o3 ай бұрын
I feel ya bro.
@Kurups1014 ай бұрын
hit the gym even if you dont wanna hit the gym thats good for you in areas far more important than women - to do things you dont want to do.
@PigeonsPie14 ай бұрын
This is my son's situation. Same age too. I would like to ease your mind. My son seems to be contented. If he meets a great woman, then he meets a great woman. If he doesn't then he doesn't. It's his life story not mine. I really don't have anything to criticize him about.
@manosijroy82824 ай бұрын
Damn. I am 8 years younger than your son(if he is 31) and feel as if i am running out of time. I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just over a week ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not. 3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
Your son is miserable and doesn't want to burden you with knowing that. And if he's awkward..YOU screwed up somewhere, (and it's an uncomfortable thing for you to confront. ) It's a lot easier to tell yourself and others: "my son seems content," isnt it?
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
@@ASPEDBUSDRIVER1Btch roastee mommy is coping hard
@Evanwheatley4d9532 ай бұрын
Unless hes gay, he definitely wants a girlfriend badly
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
@@Evanwheatley4d953mom knows this and she knows the damage is already done
@JackoBanon15 күн бұрын
If you are ugly then I'm a monster and I had relationships with beautiful (at least in my view) women before. But most of them were the toxic type who didn't see me as their equal and so we eventually seperated ways. What I want to say: If you aren't the type of guy women really want then you will most likely end up with the crazy type of woman. (who had like you don't really even wanna know how many men before you and before she gave you a chance)
@Robertperezshow2 күн бұрын
At your age you might as well forget about it. Any girl you approach from here on out is going to treat you like someone to be avoided. And women can pick up on it when you are the type that doesnt get women. And they dont feel pity. They laugh at you in secret.
@eskimogamer24932 ай бұрын
Grow a beard ,hit the gym,don’t act too happy around women,and you’ll crush it bro you can do this.
@user-kd2sx5dw7s4 ай бұрын
i think you just need to take little steps to build your confidence! you are not unattractive and once you believe this others will see this too. put yourself out of your comfort zone and try new things - whether is it going on a hike or just random things that you wouldn’t normally do will make you feel so proud of yourself and build up your self esteem.
@my3rs3072 ай бұрын
25, same
@colesegulin59857 күн бұрын
To be brutally honest with you bro. Almost everything that comes out of your mouth is cope. Aside from your height which you cannot fix, A lot of the other things you say surely can be. You say you're not good socially but you don't put yourself out there enough to overcome that. You say you don't like going to the gym because it makes you "uncomfortable, but that's the point. Instead of really looking to change the things about you that are unattractive you just accept them and remain lonely and unhappy. You either have to face these things head on NOW or remain this way for the rest of your life. Choice is yours, just don't act helpless because your not. Commit to change or accept your fate
@brandona6862Ай бұрын
Yeah I'm 24 and I never had a girlfriend too. 😢 Nor dated and I sill live with my parents.
@ForeverinSolitude-wt8mz4 ай бұрын
I can relate. Im 29
@RecklessDrunkenMedic16 күн бұрын
I don't get it. You are thoughtful and good at communicating. You aren't unattractive and you aren't obese. If you had 20 girlfriends by this point in life, you'd probably be on youtube saying women are insane and you just want to be single. Life is just different degrees of frustrating circumstances.
@JoshHitti4 ай бұрын
Self esteem is THE answer. You’re over complicating it, I’ve been there. Start spending more time understanding how to help improve your self esteem and even if the gym isn’t your thing, make it your thing. The gym was an absolute life saver for me.
@ETHANALLEN-zp7wq20 күн бұрын
Im 30 never had a girlfriend only had sex once
@richardwilson69769 күн бұрын
31 never had awoman.That is really worrying.
@PessimisticPirate8 күн бұрын
It can be, mainly because of societal pressure.
@scottholden13982 ай бұрын
are you really 31 year old ???
@DantheExpat-co8hf18 күн бұрын
The average height of women where I live is 5'2". If you can visit me in Latin America there is a very high likelihood that you would meet a woman who likes you as much as you like her. Lots of women in Latin America would like to date foreigners because the Machismo culture of Latinos encourages cheating, and the women don't like it. I am retired and I don't charge anything to assist men who just want what nature intended. It's astounding to me that most guys take dating advice from KZfaqrs who are themselves older and single. I am blissfully married to a Latina whose primary goals are to have a happy family and a clean home. She is feminine and cooperative. We also have a lovely, well-behaved daughter. You can get what you want. You just need a new plan.
@Ladia11117 күн бұрын
You're handsome 😍
@paradoxstudios66392 ай бұрын
Wait till you get in your mid 50's and still nothing.
@BLUESKY-zt1nv2 ай бұрын
im 62
@mannybruhh996922 күн бұрын
Do this ill try to help ...wear baseball hats wear plain shirts and more colard polo shirts it will give u atleast alil more confidence at least for the start
@TinyBitBrit22 күн бұрын
We brits don't really wear baseball hats but I see what you're going for, thanks for the advice! 😁
@eduardorojas64804 күн бұрын
bro we need to get you. harcut get fudked jacked asap. and start hanging out with people even if you dont want to. force yourself in social situations. go do some hard shyt in your life bro force struggle on yourself do hard thingd everyday it brings wisdom.
@RenaissanceMary10 күн бұрын
STOP TRYING TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. GO OUTSIDE. Get a dog or a hobby. Go to the park and train your dog or do your hobby. Be seen. People will come to you.
@logcom48220 сағат бұрын
Go to gim and then fly to Tailand or Amsterdam. Whith 100 dollars you can change your life. Just try-
@mima520510 күн бұрын
No, you are not ugly! You have stunning eyes! 😍 OK, you're short, but there are short women. Just: Don't start with: "Hi" That's boring, women get so many of these. Read the Profile and write something personal like: "I love your dog, I wish I'd have one some day." Or: "Wow! I like your humour, you seem so funny!"
@paradoxstudios66392 ай бұрын
Maybe you should try going to a church, maybe try visiting the Philippines, lots of women there don't care what you look like or your age, they just want devoted love, and being a Westerner they figure your a ticket out, but most men who found Philippine women seem to believe they hit gold, you just have to be careful of the gold digger types.
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
I think this is a very risky advice. He better go have fun at a club and work on the shyness issues before trying to find a gf imho.
@digital_waffles4 ай бұрын
Woah buddy
@digital_waffles4 ай бұрын
After watching a bit, you should realize things are going to get worse when your even older. Start talking to literally every woman in a retail store before gaining enough confidence to do it in other settings. Eventually you will get a girls number; then you quickly bail and use that number to ONLY set up dates. Focus on other goals while striking out with girls and you will stay mentally centered. Just get a girl to feel safe around you (usually with laughter) and act like a girl's life is improved by your presence/time.
@digital_waffles4 ай бұрын
Also only focus on fun/happy/sexy topics. No one wants serious/depressing vibes when you barely know them.
@ikaribrendo4 ай бұрын
@@digital_waffles Ngl this comment reads very incel-like
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
@@ikaribrendowhy? Because he's telling the dude it's not going to improve as he gets older unless he figures out how to start attracting women?
@ikaribrendo2 ай бұрын
@@ASPEDBUSDRIVER1 the comment is essentially treating women and their affection as a video game collectible rather than just giving general advice on how to meet and interact with people
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
@@ikaribrendo uh why, because he's generalizing women, telling him to talk to them and how to approach setting up dates with them? How do you approach dating hooking up? Enlighten us
@allend8077 күн бұрын
You need Andrew Tate in your life
@rickgrimes93176 күн бұрын
He hates short men so thats a no go
@michaelbeard33936 күн бұрын
Nobody needs Tate in their lives. He's a bellend.
@JDawge4 ай бұрын
Prayer use the power of Prayer trust me it will work
@Reeeeeee123452 ай бұрын
"Just use prayer bro."
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
I wish religious people would keep their religious bs to themselves. I respect you having the right to be religious, so please respect the fact people don't want you to shove your religion down their throat.
@rickgrimes93176 күн бұрын
God made him this way and you expect the same creator/universe to all of a sudden give him an easy route. If anything the universe will give him a dollar tree coupon for 3 pizza rolls that expires in 1 minute
@annac87304 ай бұрын
best advice i can give anyone with a similar situation: let it happen! forcing relationships for the sake of relationships doesn’t produce results. i wish the absolute best for you, and i think getting involved in your community will help with the loneliness. find niche groups and make friends, get super involved in your hobbies and interests, and one day, God will put the right person in your life. Take a breath, and relax. You can do this!
@ASPEDBUSDRIVER12 ай бұрын
Worst advice. The implication is that he's trying too hard and if he tries less it's gonna work itself out. Just say you can't relate to his situation and you don't know what to say or just don't say anything. "go volunteer in your community. Pay your taxes. Get your covid vaccine. "
@mantislazuliАй бұрын
I will be blunt: this is garbage advice. 'Let it happen" has been spouted non-stop for the last 15 years, and the "amazing" result is that the % of below 30 yo men with no romantic relationship or any sexual relationships in the past year has reached 30%. Also, the % of men living their whole life single has been steadily rising. There's no magic in today's world, if you want a relationship as a young man, you unfortunately have to fight for it. You can't just "let it happen". Also, stop shoving religion down everyone's throat. Religion should be something personal, not something you throw in every KZfaq comment of every video. As an atheist, I'm frankly annoyed by this.
@jushinastheme11 күн бұрын
go hit the gym or get into calisthenics u aint looking that bad! good luck c:
@Samuel-vw2wy4 ай бұрын
try invincible by David tian and the ace formula by Adam Lyons
@kevinnosx916 күн бұрын
Have you tried dating trans women?
@reecewheatley820215 күн бұрын
He's not gay though
@kevinnosx914 күн бұрын
@@reecewheatley8202 Being with a trans woman doesn't make you gay.
@rayallan36506 күн бұрын
@@kevinnosx9 ewwww
@Omen46518 күн бұрын
I get it might be harder for you since you are a little on the shorter side but being tall dosent automatically mean youre more attractive. Im mid 20s and 6'2 and never been on a date or had a gf or done anything with a girl. Matter of fact i think being tall and ugly makes you even more creepy to women. 🫤
@rickgrimes93176 күн бұрын
Being on the shorter side is hell because humans made it unnecessarily cruel.