If you ever talked to a gyno, they would tell you stress is the number one external factor that leads to dysfunction/cancer/hormone imbalances, its really serious ladies! If you think you can handle it now while you're young and healthy, you'll find out how things can change real quick. Please, please, take care of yourselves!

I am a Millionaire Next Door. None of my friends know. I drive a used car, I make or thrift my clothes, I use coupons, live in a small house, my kid goes to public school. I got into Minimalism a few years ago and now I don't even own many things. We do travel a lot, but it's premium economy and Air B&Bs all the way. The biggest luxury in my life is not being in debt, feeling financially secure, and doing what I love. The soft life suits me perfectly.

Key points: 1. Choose High value struggles not low value 2. Do less,be more 3. Ghost crisis people 4. Be smart with money Thank you! 😊❤

I have been called useless and lazy by men AND women for choosing to embrace the soft life

Yes stress is the number one killer! Theres a book called The Body Keeps Score that goes deeply into this. Cut off anything or anyone that stresses you out and only allow those who benefit you and add onto your hard earned peace!

I'm SO GLAD you said you post when you feel like it. If you only post when the INSPIRATION hits, your content will be QUALITY vs quantity which will stand the test of time. Make no mistake, you're putting Language to what was hiding in corners for generations. Keep 🌟

2024 is the year where I begin to become a spoiled girlie. I am going to treat my 30s better than how I treated my 20s. Wish me luck, besties!

I’m single and child-free, so I’m no stranger to “soft life” living, and it’s about to get even softer. Why? Because I refuse to stress and struggle about nonsense - of any kind! 👸🏻

Easiest way to reduce stress - avoid other people.

heres one that will immediately lower your day to day stress; stop rushing. be realistic about the stakes; if its not a job or a job interview honestly just let yourself be a little late. obviously not as a rule but just dont try to make up time by rushing. its okay to call people and tell them youre running behind. youll learn to adapt your preparation periods to reduce rushing

This millionaire next door point is about my boyfriend 😂. On first impression you’d think he is kind of poor, because he doesn’t like to spend much money on his clothes, cars, luxury things for himself, etc. But he is actually fairly rich. His house (average house in average neighborhood) is mortgage free, he has passive income because of multiple different investments, and his blue collar job pays fairly decent on top of that. I like it this way. We don’t have any worries about money, he can fully provide for me, still have money left every month to invest, and other women don’t try to poach him because we seem poor 😂.

Ghosting crisis people changed my life so drastically ❤❤❤

I literally just got out of the psychiatric hospital because I was so overwhelmed dealing with other people's crises. I'm taking dense notes. Apparently I need them.

I've realized the moments when I do less, I've earned more. It's really a silly thing but it always works out the best when I do the least as opposed to when I stress out about things and do extra. 😂

Girl for the fans who are complaining about not knowing when you post that’s literally what KZfaq has notifications for lol set the notification and they’ll know when you post. That’s how I KNOW!

I’ve had to cut my parents out of my life, especially my mother. The amount of stress just the idea of seeing her had on me was unreal. I was so high strung and everything felt hard. It does make me sad but without them I’m so much more calm and have less anxiety attacks and depressive episodes.

As a Haitian immigrant, this hits so hard. My parents are always sending money to family out of the country when they barely have enough to care for themselves. My grandma is always pressuring my mom to, like she doesn't care about the family here but the ones overseas. And they call me selfish when I make sure to take care of myself first.

Tomorrow I have a date with a man I've known for a couple of months. He waited to ask me out. I could sense his interest but I waited on him to make the first move. He invited me, told me he was going to pick me up (he knows where I'm living because he already drove me home a couple of times), and he has planned the whole afternoon. I used to EXHAUST myself chasing men. What was I thinking?

I think a lot of people think that to struggle is equivalent to their value. Like, if you’re not stressed, you’re not working hard enough. If you are not working hard enough, than you are not valuable or worthy of good things. It has to be changed around! You have value, and therefore, you don’t “have to” choose struggle when it is a choice. It took me a long time to realize this.

As childhood trauma survivor I felt call out, who's is currently going thru a high stress period in life, I don't know but your videos calm me down, inspire me and give me hope. Thank you for making this content 💫💗

Former crisis person here. Gonna leave my 2 cents: If possible, leave that high stress environment/job/relationship/family member and make time to start sleeping properly, getting sunlight and do somatic experiencing. Healing is possible. You deserve to live a joyful life.🙏🏼

I feel so much better after distancing myself from my crisis friends. One literally would cause problems if there wasn't any. My final decision came when she would complain about a certain church that visited weekly but I suggested she tell them not to come. Instead she invited me to come visit without warning me they would be there and threw me under the bus with them pointing out all of my different beliefs that were contrary to theirs. Totally disrespectful and I walked out and to the nearest bus stop while blocking her phone number and social media on my phone number. Life is peaceful now

I'm choosing the slightly higher level struggle of gardening, since I have the privilege. My own flowers, herbs, veggies and (let's see about that after my heavy pruning...) some berries. Rewards will be better mental health, better "connection to nature", community building, and more mindfulness about what I put in or on my body. Yes, needs a few starter investments to get going, but I have a financial cushion atm, so that's no biggie. It's not gonna be a "500€-tomato", rather a continuous stream of salad! Gardening last year already was very rewarding in the regards I mentioned earlier :)

The most empowering thing I’ve ever done for myself was get good with money. It’s really so much less stressful knowing I can afford an emergency 🙌🏻 and don’t have to rely on my parents for it… totally agree with your stance on money. More videos about money please!! 💝

I used to be very anxious and stressed. I just stopped caring so much about others, and only focus on myself, and only keep positive people around me.

I’ve turned down literally hundreds of thousands of dollars because I knew the stress that came with those opportunities would kill me. I make low 6 figures and although I do want more to fund my side hustles, nothing is worth my mental health. Since I quit my last stressful job, literally everyone tells me how beautiful I’ve gotten and the fact that I look like a new person lol. Nothing is worth losing my beauty 😂

I‘m in my soft girl era and it’s amazing. Soon I will leaving my sh*tty job and the toxic environment for better benefits and payment! Never settle for less.

Omg!!! Im doing a no buy this year. First month went so well, I literally DO NOT stress about money AT ALL. I LOOOOOOVE frugal living

Took me TWO YEARS to recover from this nightmare and I’m officially never ever gonna care abt anything Cept love and loving myself into oblivion Everything you said here is 💯

Personally, I don't like being frugal. That's not my vibe. I don't overspend because I agree that it is very stressful; Being mindful, not wasting money and spending on things that don't really bring you joy is one thing, but for me there are certain things I love spending on and that brings me so much joy. Some people think it's extravagant but I don't care. I find it much easier to save and avoid mindlessly spending when I have goals for saving. Maybe that's something I need to work on, maybe I need to find joy in just saving for the sake of having money, but I'm not there yet. I need a reason to save, like a holiday I may or may not even go on but in my mind I am saving for it. Every time I think about buying something it's like do I want that, or do I want to go on this holiday? And do I want to be flying economy or business class? And then it's easy to put things in perspective in terms of how much I want to buy something. It helps me break the habit of buying things just for the thrill of buying something. I find this has brought me more peace. I don't miss any of the things I didn't buy and I love buying less, but I will never be 100% frugal and will still splurge when it really matters to me because otherwise what even is the point of having money?

I love the way you articulate this concept of lower level struggles its so helpful to think of it that way 😅

That study about kids developing cardio problems as adults from high stress home summed up my own existence. I am on high blood pressure meds now. My house growing up was walking on egg shells. As a divorced single mom, I can finally live in a calm home. No eggshells. It's wonderful. After my divorce, in my late 20s, I was able to get my driver's license, my early 30s I started and finished my associates in accounting and now i am pursuing my ba; all while raising and creating beautiful memories and adventures with my kids.

Just a reminder that not everyone necessarily chooses certain things. What’s an easy choice for someone else could be impossible to others. With things like depression, chronic illness, etc, sometimes you can’t just easily choose to get out of bed and exercise and eat well. For me personally, with my ADHD, if I didn’t have meds then I would have continued down a bad road and it would have never been in my control.

I Cut everyone off last year because my „Friends“ were so toxic and my unhealed Version did Not Stress about it .. but now Im really lonely.. Like I Have Nobody besides my Mom.. its really hard

I was so stressed at home and in life that I just found soft girl korean vlogs so relieving and refreshing. Deep down, I aspire the life that they have.

I actually am strong but ill not put myself in a position where i have to survive. Being a soft girl doesn't mean not having strength. But im not gonna put myself in situations where my softness and patience are tested.

This was great. I keep a low key life, dont take too many risk because I get stressed easily. I don’t keep a lot of friends because I feed off their negative energy. I work a simple job that I love. Yes I don’t make a lot but I live way below my means. I could make more but it will come stress and I don’t want nor need it.

Yessssss love this message. Soft life is Easy. I also had the epiphany that if I don't want to do something I just don't do it, its very empowering for me as a FORMER people pleaser. Its ruffled a lot of feathers with people who depend on me emotionally and my labor. I dont care though ❤💅

I'm so tired of financial stress. I've lived with it my whole life.

Hey Besties! Piggy backing on what Elle stated, when it comes to stashing extra money for a rainy day I’d highly recommend having a High Yield Savings Account as opposed to your bank/CU. (Not financial advice 🥰)

Last year, I was struggling with an illness, every week I'd have to get my blood checked. The doctor told me my blood test came out beautiful and healthy except for one problem. My stress levels were curbing my road to heal from the illness. Realising that I took out a lot of things from my life that were contributing to my stress. Stress not only kills, it also stops you from healing emotionally and physically.

My bank account came with a separate account that is also connected to it, but I cannot pay from that account or be charged on it. It's basically untouchable and invisible to anyone but myself. Any money I have left over at the end of the month (if any), I will put on there as a backup. If I need it, I will take some from it. I also have a payment plan where I pay in a certain amount of money each month that will grow over time. I do not touch that money at all, it basically doesn't exist to me.

I just came out of the hospital yesterday from a panic attack. My blood pressure was literally so high even though I'm on beta blockers. (The emotional labor of having a family with no emotional regulation/boundaries..) But anyways, I needed to see this today. Thank you queen 🦋🌆

Do less. Be more. Words to live by. 💙💙💙💙

I'm loving your feminine, creative, chaotic era too! No schedule vibe it's just perfect. Thank you for these talks bestie ❤

This describes my millionaire uncle to a T. He lives in a small house in a older humble neighborhood , doesn’t dress up unless he has a business meeting. Has an old fishing boat. The only thing he splurged on was his truck. lol he will go outside and still help work on the cars too lol he doesn’t live to impress anyone but will occasionally throw a little hints out to us. Lolll (family)

“Ghost crisis people” 🔥

I was missing these kinda videos from you , a good break from the ‘reacting to ‘ videos. Your videos have only made me wiser and better 😊❤

my goal for this year is to decimate the one toxic part of myself which is my horrible spending habits. building a savings and being frugal! it actually makes me happier knowing i’m saving and not buying things i don’t need. saving it for things that i do and love and brings me joy.

Please make a short from the first 46 seconds of this sermon so I can play it on repeat until I overcome my hard life addiction. Thanks 🙏🏾

Love your videos 🥰 your life-philosophy suits me so well. Im 31 now and my life gets better and better. Money saved in my 20s really gave my 30s a booming start!

I need this. Stress doesn't just affect your mind but your body as well. I was in school worrying about everything and I had constant migraines to the point where my grades were dropping. The people around me seemed so loud and it got to the point where I couldn't move and I started seeing double. I took a break from school for a week and felt a little better. After that I just took on homeschool, which is where I'm at now. The year before I was doing great, I only had A's and I was fit and happy. My life was productive until it wasn't. Now my grades are A's again and I'm fairly alright but I don't ever want to go through that again. Don't put too much on your plate at once or you'll end up with even more than when you started. As of now I'm prioritizing my health and living as peacefully as I can. Stress is a free handout in life but you don't need it to make it through. I'd rather live a softer life.

Girlie, I love your channel so much and appreciate your perspective as a daughter of an immigrant family with no older sister, since I'm the same. I woke up today stressed and feeling dread for no reason, I've had to reflect on what's causing it. You are so right that we think the harder path with give greater rewards when in reality that's not true

Great video, and I especially appreciate the part about ditching a high-stress lifestyle. I did it, and it was the best thing I ever did. The physical and mental stress from a toxic career and lifestyle was destroying me.

I have literally been so stressed and angry today and have been googling anger management tips ❤ thanks for posting, sis!!

Yas 🙌❣️ what many underestimate is that stress can actually unalive ya 😐.. I remember when I woke up one morning with pain in my lower stomach that hurt so bad that I cried and cried short of madness caused by pain. My mom rushed me to the hospital and I got emergency surgery. Later the doctors told me what happened: there is an illness that causes knots in the colon which is deadly. This disease is caused by permanent stress and the doctors told me that mostly girls in their early twenties are affected by it. They said it's a chronic disease and that I have to make immediate drastic changes in my life if I don't want to put my life on the line again. This experience left a mark on me: a scar from the emergency surgery which always reminds me to never overload myself again. If I could tell one thing to all the bb gals out there I'd ask them with all my heart to NEVER FORGET ABOUT HAVING FUN AND CHILL! ❤❤❤

This was helpful because it gave me PERMISSION to do all the things that I was doing anyway but struggling with the heavy feeling of Guilt I associated with those feelings...causing more lower level stress!

Tomorrow my boyfriend’s grandparents coming back. I need tips on how to keep my cool and be more outgoing calmly since I’m the total opposite of that. I can either be very quiet or very loud on the spectrum.

As one of those kids who grew up in a turbulent household. I'm 30 and I've been hospitalized and has many scans due to heart arrhythmia, my heart mimics signs on a panic attack without me actually under stress. Its quite disheartening for me, literally. So even though I live a "soft" life, I am still affected by my childhood in my health. So at work now, I only put myself up for the major tasks which put me at the forefront. I don't stress myself for the little tasks because its low level stress. For major tasks, I'm also learning to ask for help (in the form of scheduling 2 hour meetings as a workshop). So that I learn once and get it forever. I'm also the eldest sibling lol, I wish I had a big sister lol.

I f****** love you, you are an absolute blessing! My life would not have become this glamorous if I didn't find your videos 💖 You are truly making a difference in women's lives.

I'm going to watch this over and over until it fucking sticks. Thank you so much for this. Also Being the eldest daughter fucking sucks😭😭

0:47 That logo is soo dramatic lol😂😂😂

Could you ever do a video for disabled girlies too? It’s sooo hard to have a spoiled girlie lifestyle when you’re dealing with chronic illnesses/pain and people think you’re worth less because you can’t do as much. 😩 Love your videos, I just discovered you a couple weeks ago, and I’ve almost watched all of them!! ❤️

I like the no schedule vibe, cause it's like a nice lil surprise gift when you post :)

PREACH IT BIG SISTER!!!!! you’re doing amazing things for the community!!!! please keep doing what you’re doing!!!!

Yes absolutely. Same I'm not gonna post just to post, it has to feel inspired and in turn its of great quality and I feel good, and because of that my channel has seen exponential growth compared to others in the same category

i needed this vid. ive been so stressed out lately , getting ill because of it, acne, bad sleep etc. i hope i can reduce it with this help!

Love this episode. 😊 I have been working on lessening pointless stress and increasing my tolerance for the tough things that matter, so it's affirming(?) to listen to this rant, haha. ❤

I’m very easily stressed too and keep a low-key life, I work for myself in a job I enjoy; I don’t make loads but enough to get by and have small luxuries. I’ve lowered contact with people I find draining, have drawn clear boundaries with an ex-situationship which has regulated my emotions, made me feel stronger and happier and am working on meeting new friends atm. Hopefully by next year I will have someone to go on holidays with and when the weather warms up I will be out on the water paddleboarding most of the time 😊

GATHER ME ❤ Honestly the low stress life is for me! My mind, body, and heart are all in agreement.

One of my co-workers at a past job made so much money. He was always doing OT. He was getting a nursing degree while working more than 40 hours outside of school. None of the money past the cost of his room in a shared apartment when to him. He ate for free at work and took home anything we'd donate to freeze. BUT, all that money not going to him he was sending back to his family overseas who couldn't move, his grams and aunts and uncles (as his mom lived here because she married an American.) That compassion is beautiful but is also why so many hard workers never grow fiscally because they don't also set some aside for themselves to invest :(

All of my favorite creators post when they want to. Their content is always high quality and I like it that way.

Your videos really elevated me. I can't thank you enough for what you have done ❤ please, continue.

Baby girl! The amygdala takes no days of-!!! 😂❤

My mum kept saying exactly the same thing about money my entire life, now I get it!

People want you to post _more_ ? Girl you're already on my timeline like crazy. I like that you post whenever you feel like, and you're churning out quality. I don't care about a schedule, if you post I'll see it cuz that's what a subscription is for. BTW, just a video idea I'd be interested in -- what workouts do you do? You mentioned off hand that trying to workout the same as a man can lead to hormonal imbalance (and I've personally experienced a lot of swelling and pain from doing so) , so I'm curious what you do?

I love your videos! I'm trying put my sisters on your videos. As the oldest sister I love your videos because it helps me give sound advice to my younger sisters. ❤❤❤

i looove this big sister advice thing even though i have a big sister ❤

I NEED to have "Bestie Wake Up!" As a ringtone,.alarm, tshirt, *something* 😅💅

The stress showing on skin is sooo true! Because of my study I stress sooo much sometimes I don't even realise it. I had a month of freedom from my study at december and my skin healed up so fast, I don't even remember when was the last time it looked this good. And then I had to go back for an intens study period because of my final, and it breaked me out like hell. And I couldn't figure out why, because I was sooo used to stress from my uni that I didn't even realised anymore I were stessing, I had to check what changed between the mounths to find out. Luckily I'll finish and get my diploma in february, but it's sooo true, my skin knows my mental state better than I do and I need to do changes.

This is so true 😭❤️ thank you

I love your videos and the fact that you don’t have a posting schedule bc it’s so relatable

love your vids girl! hope you continue sharing with us ❤

I discovered your channel 3 months back and girl , you are a life saver!❤

quickest ive ever seen one of her videos, and i already have a feeling i neeed whats in this one

We love you Elle ❤!

I LOVE THE BIG SISTER AND HER ADVICE ❤

I feel like this video literally saved my life, thank you

"I am not strong... I don't need to prove that I'm resilient. Don't test me, don't try me, I am not... I will fail." Preeeeach!

You have a way to be so wise and funny at the same time!!! Loved this ❤

This is very true and helpful. Great vid Elle ❤

exactly when i need it

I have been following you since the beginning and I just want to say I AM SO PROUD OF U😭❤️

I NEEDED THIS TODAY

Thank you for saying that out loud! Wow, that is so pleasant to hear that there is another way, lower stress way. I choose this path again and again, and it truly leads to a better quality of life. Thank you, sister, your advice is so valuable ❤

Yes yes yes sis! We need this, blossoming in our feminine light era❤

i watch all of your content but this video, i NEEDED. thank you.❤

just found you today and am binginggg. your videos! thank you girlie 🎀

best channel eva ❤

This video is so valuable. Thank you Elle! You are my support in taking care of my own wellbeing by going against the grain and refusing to burn out. Even If I am smart I still don’t have to end myself with work.