4 Proven Ways to Kick Your Procrastination Habit | Ayelet Fishbach

4 Proven Ways to Kick Your Procrastination Habit | Ayelet Fishbach | TED

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Жыл бұрын

You've got a long list of things you want to do, but there's just one problem: you can't seem to get -- or stay -- motivated. Social psychologist Ayelet Fishbach is here to help. She offers insights on the science of motivation along with tips and cognitive tricks to help you reach your goals while staying happy, healthy and engaged.
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@gokugold1 Жыл бұрын

*Saved to Watch Later*

@jaz4714 Жыл бұрын

Not later NOW

@MrStredders Жыл бұрын

Literally the first thing I did. Second thing was come looking for this comment. I’ll get to watching it, I promise.

@gregory2865 Жыл бұрын

That’s procrastination😂

@miladarvin524 Жыл бұрын

Same here 😅😅😅😅😅

@user-fm6st1qf4v Жыл бұрын

Me too🥲

@atallakhercha9953 Жыл бұрын

This video is exactly what i need I’ll watch it later tho

@8304Hustla Жыл бұрын

hahahaha

@8304Hustla Жыл бұрын

i was kinda thinking that tbbh, now i will watch it bcs of that comment..

@BobK237 Жыл бұрын

Don’t get eat up by procrastination where you could find it’s cute 😂 😆

@renanczOFFICIAL Жыл бұрын

Observation: it’s just my note and not a font for a correctly interpretation of the content, My “some points “ important to me: 1) middle is hard; go ahead 2) to do list : prefer a more interactive and meaningful way to keep your progress, like writing your goals and trying to increase the ability to make it; 3) Sometimes you need to change goals ; ex: I have to walk instead of run because this or that ; 4) thinks of the category “I have to do” are more easy and meaningful since 4.1) it’s one action “just do it “ instead one “don’t do that , and don’t think and don’t want it “ 4.2) things that “ I can’t do that “ maybe can be helped by changes in the environment and the way you deal with that (I can’t eat that so I can’t be happy > I will be more healthy and more beautiful…) 5) Try always to look to the past and see how much you already done, using it to keep your mind focused and meaningful about your goals; so be clear that your struggles will leads you to this point and your experience will be helpful in the future etc… 6) we can’t change our personality, but we can chance the circumstances (ambient, objects around and displayed around us etc; ) and the freemen of the goals (like breaking the goal in small steps and be happy with the little steps…

@funnytv-1631 Жыл бұрын

When a negative thought has you in its undertow, break the circuit. Interrupt the pattern simply by breathing in. Focus your attention elsewhere until the negative thought no longer owns you. You own it. And you can decide what to do with it. Journal. Walk. Have a conversation with it. Treat it with compassion. Your breath will buy you these options and many more.

@renanczOFFICIAL Жыл бұрын

The power of the Breath

@perfectlessness Жыл бұрын

It's so funny, that Procrastination as a topic comes up so much in everyone in these days. It's like Life has an episode where we all get to experience the same things around the same time, so we can help each other overcome it together!!🤝 I love your tips on this Ayelet! THank you🙏

@berserkirclaws107 Жыл бұрын

I'm struggling and I thank you a lot for this talk.

@Gayanega Жыл бұрын

She is so brilliant !!! It's so obvious that she is very equipped professionally, everything she says is so clear and sound. 100 times I've red about the topic but somehow her wording has clicked.

@twilightgardenspresentatio6384 Жыл бұрын

Saved to playlist. I’ll watch sometime later tho.

@BobK237 Жыл бұрын

This might help someone from my experience 1) Remove loop holes from your schedule. Exercise every Monday, Wednesday and Saturday has more chance to succeed than exercise 3 days a week because in the second case you can increase your resting day from 1 day to a week and forever with the promesse to resume the next day. 2) Use external motivator. Just sharing your goals with a mentor, mentee, boss , child can boost you to succeed because you don’t want to deceive those who admire you or those you want to mirror.

@markhaunert5029 Жыл бұрын

I'm gonna watch this one for sure. Maybe tomorrow 😉

@ashleighpiccinino1849 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. As a psychology major, I did take a motivation and emotion course. During that course, what you’re saying about “distal goals, “and “proximal goals, “works. If I can, I will get a hold of Professor Tom cane and show him this video. Working for Missouri State University. he was, and I believe still is, the professor for understanding, motivation, and emotion. This video would fit nicely with the book by Reeve and others, entitled understanding, motivation, and emotion. Thank you again, as this can also be used in special education, my new degree path.

@resiliencewithin Жыл бұрын

It is a social problem. We procrastinate because of the structure of institutions and the demands of so-called modern society.

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

Yes, deadlines do not help. Yet our lives are full of tasks with a single hard deadline. I have been struggling with it since primary school.

@AnyoneCanSee Жыл бұрын

I really want to learn how to stop procrastinating but I keep putting it off.

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

Forgive yourself for the time you wasted and allow yourself to change. Don't feel ashamed because learning new skills is way more useful than sulking and feeling ashamed. Putting your head in the sand is not who you are, it is just something that you have been doing. And you can stop doing it if you forgive yourself an really open up to the possibility that you are worth it.

@evette2395 Жыл бұрын

I procrastinate so much that I clicked on this video to have it in my history to watch later. When will I actually watch it? Nobody knows!

@richelle7211 Жыл бұрын

I feel u

@Nexzore Жыл бұрын

Stopped the video after 4:30 , skimmed a bit to about 15 minutes and closed it. Time to get some work done, I can watch this later if I need it.

@randomuser1208 Жыл бұрын

Little does she know that I’m using this video to procrastinate.

@milans.2009 Жыл бұрын

I originally saved this video to watch later. That was the moment I knew I needed to watch it.

@cirodirosa6752 Жыл бұрын

Good info.. 👍 Not a proponent of todo lists. They are rigid and don't encourage intrinsic motivation during the to-do activities, and after the list is complete.

@marie-lynn5767 Жыл бұрын

I want to declutter every day and to keep doing it I have to study it every day. It’s a long process. But I appear to be procrastinating. :)

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

I think there should be a Disney film that shows the joy of decluttering. Because there are films to help with cleaning motivation, but not decluttering so much. When you watch the old disney film Snow white or the film Enchanted, you can get intrinsically motivated to clean more. But cleaning is already way easier that decluttering, because decluttering creates more decision fatigue.

@valuableknowledge123 Жыл бұрын

One day your entire life is gonna flash in front of your eyes .. Make sure it's worth watching

@BetteBlaze13 Жыл бұрын

Love this. 😍

@Lirikbiru_ Жыл бұрын

and here i am, i should finished my assignment but end up here

@stillme4084 Жыл бұрын

Lol. Me too. I'll watch it later. Really I will!!

@dlanska Жыл бұрын

I was gonna watch this now, but things being what they are I will watch it later.

@spudski100 Жыл бұрын

il watch it later... loads of other stuff to not do before i get round to it!!

@zakariyyaabdullah4545 Жыл бұрын

Gonna watch this first thing tomorrow. Lunchtime at the latest.

@expatexpat6531 Жыл бұрын

The first thing I did when I saw this was to put it on my Watch Later list.

@Dimetropteryx Жыл бұрын

I'll watch this later.

@ProfessorJayTee Жыл бұрын

I'll watch this later...

@Reefgeeks Жыл бұрын

I'll watch this later

@pHixiq Жыл бұрын

Damn I literally procrastinated watching this video I'm horrible 🤣

@s.aizen_ Жыл бұрын

Right now I'm procrastinating by watching this video lol

@eliinternational4688 Жыл бұрын

*saves to watch later*

@hodorba5567 Жыл бұрын

1:30 imagine having already covered material before 1day prior to the exam

@PVS3 Жыл бұрын

I feel like having the "save to watch later" option enabled for this video is a bit of a trap...

@customfittedinc Жыл бұрын

Beautiful 🥰

@MyTube4Utoo Жыл бұрын

So procrastinating is a bad thing?! Shoot, that's the only thing I'm really good at.

@NothingMaster Жыл бұрын

Subtitles, please!

@Justdoing185 Жыл бұрын

My story i set a task doing in moths then fail then same task in week stil fail then it came to Days then hour then minute and finally i am able to do it by small fraction and now no need of such techniques 😁 Samjho human nature ko and just do it my friend !

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

When I read this I am proud of how much you learned already. 👍 Way to go. Keep up with trying to get more life skills. You are worth it. 🌅

@user-fm6st1qf4v Жыл бұрын

Everyone is watching later😂

@PineapleWarior Жыл бұрын

Me procrastinating by watching this video

@ritagomes7838 Жыл бұрын

Humm...i want to watch this video, but i think i'll do it later... 😄😁😂

@dmlevitt Жыл бұрын

procrastination is a virtue. why should I want to kick it as a "bad habit"? maybe giving unwanted advice needs to be kicked?

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

You are deeply in denial.

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

Patience is a virtue. And you need patience for procrastinating. You are right that these 2 things are highly related. But they are not the same thing. Procrastination can be useful to a certain extent, but you need to find a balance because it can damage you when you take it too far. And then you find that you have not created the life that would have made you happy, even though you had plenty of opportunities to do so. You just missed them all.

@dmlevitt Жыл бұрын

@@Merope4ever maybe giving unwanted know-it-all advice is an illness.

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

@@dmlevitt Which could be a problem for that person, or not. Just like procrastination habits can be. Thank you for your honesty.

@turnt0ff Жыл бұрын

Something tells me I should watch this right now… hmmm 🧐

@marediths4 Жыл бұрын

Funny fact when I am feeling procastinating this Ted talk came🐱

@mohdaffanmanzoor1831 Жыл бұрын

Double it and give it to someone else

@thatomofolo452 Жыл бұрын

👋👋

@relatabledits Жыл бұрын

Am even procrastinating to watch this video 💀

@jhonivanov4154 Жыл бұрын

How can i connect to this beautiful woman?

@sviaxqu4072 Жыл бұрын

4:30 summary look already have shorter middle do and positive feedback intrinsically enjoy not a different person but view

@jeffred6616 Жыл бұрын

Procrastinating is just a waste of time

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

It is. But it is harder to learn from negative feedback. So I will need to try and frame it differently in order to learn.

@jeffred6616 Жыл бұрын

I think people procrastinate because basically they’re bored people have way too much time on their hands compared to earlier generations

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

@@jeffred6616 I disagree. There are so many good things to do with your time, that would make the world a better place and also make yourself happier in the process. I know for myself about a hundred different things that I would like to do, easily. We do not have more time. We just have more freedom to decide how to spend our time. That freedom comes with choices and responsibilities. And we don't know how to deal with those choices and responsibilities. We get decision fatigue and we get stressed and we run away from responsibility into many different forms of fantasies and dream worlds. We distract ourselves, so we don't have to face the reality. We don't want to see the poor choices that we made. We don't want to admit how difficult it is to be a responsible grown up. We tell ourselves that we can just have fun and not think about serious things, but subconsciously they are playing in the back of our minds and eating away.

@liamriddy358 Жыл бұрын

I was going to click on this an hour ago, but have only just gotten around to it.

@ladyvent Жыл бұрын

A means to an end? Not understanding that.

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

When you want to lose weight and your only motivation to do your exercise is to lose the weight, that is hard because the exercise is only a means to an end. But when you pick an activity that you like and you use that as an exercise to lose weight, then you can be intrinsically motivated because you enjoy the activity. So you should try to find the joy that you can have right now by carefully chosing your activity based on what you like. And then allow yourself to enjoy that activity that also helps you to lose weight. This is a smarter way of doing it, because it sets you up for succes.

@ladyvent Жыл бұрын

@@Merope4ever got it now! Thanks!

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

@@ladyvent Thank you for letting me know. It is very rewarding for me to see that I managed to explain something succesfully. 😁

@Shihab1979 Жыл бұрын

God bless you and us Always in Jesus Christ name Amen ❤️🙏❤️

@dumbdave961 Жыл бұрын

Step 1: Stop putting off watching this video

@Merope4ever Жыл бұрын

Step 2: Try to understand the video by explaining to other people how to stop procrastinating.

@Austinn72 Жыл бұрын

Procrastination is not in my vocabulary. Anxiety and Regret are also not in my vocabulary. Words are powerful learn to avoid the ones that demote you.

@Rithmy Жыл бұрын

Seems like avoidance to me. Just because failur eis not in your vocabulary doesnt mean that you will never ever fail again. Words are a usefull categorization to organize your experience. If you don't have enough words to descriube your experience you will become confused or mislead. Better name the experience correctly so that you can adress it as it is and not hwo you want it to be.

@Austinn72 Жыл бұрын

@@Rithmy be more generous than that. I get done what I need to get done and I work through what pains me and I prepare for future difficulties. “Not in my vocabulary” is a saying that means I’m at an established point of self awareness. For example quitting is not in my vocabulary.

@Rithmy Жыл бұрын

@@Austinn72 "“Not in my vocabulary” is a saying that means I’m at an established point of self awareness" I don't understand. What point of self awareness? I am also at an established point of self awareness and i have it in my vocabulary, because it does not vanish. I am simply aware. I am not a a magician. Are you? Is fear in you vocabulary?