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@iam_melaninn Жыл бұрын
I'm just 18 yrs old and i've been approached a lot by married men. I don't know why
@lucilleloricco Ай бұрын
Wow makes sense
@GreeneChakra Ай бұрын
Damn I’m a Feminine Tomboy, and Desperate.. That’s Just Depressing- Now I gotta Watch your Whole Channel.
@socal_sunshine2071 4 жыл бұрын
You cannot control who you attract, but you can control who you entertain. Period.
@whowhatwhere3808 Жыл бұрын
Energy attracts likewise energy, familiar spirits.
@chellclark88 Жыл бұрын
Facts why don't you have more likes
@Evamariabeauty 11 ай бұрын
Love this ❤
@user-wh5pl4ly9p 10 ай бұрын
Absolutely
@user-wh5pl4ly9p 10 ай бұрын
Simple facts!100%
@taffy1234ful 4 жыл бұрын
Why is the burden on the woman? A married should respect his marriage and stay away from single women. When are we going to hold men accountable for their actions. Now as a single woman I have to evaluate myself and do all this work so a married man won't approach Me? How fair is that? Let's teach men to respect relationships and treat women accordingly....this would be fair, give us a break. We've been suffering under men for years, when will it end?
@ladyv6068 4 жыл бұрын
Nona the burden is on the both Agreed 33 years of marriage here...high school sweethearts..if u don’t respect your marriage then other will not either much love First Lady Viv
@resa_i_am 4 жыл бұрын
Amen !!!
@RE-im1xm 4 жыл бұрын
Very well-stated,Nona! Yes! Thank You!!
@bookettbooker4722 4 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY
@M0J0_ 4 жыл бұрын
Nona right this is a video thats gaslighting women. You are no derrick Jaxn. hang up your mic
@couponbee3311 4 жыл бұрын
Stephan Speaks, the responsibility begins with the man. He is married, the single woman is not. The man has the responsibility of staying faithful to his wife. It starts and ends with the married man.
@nelzg5819 4 жыл бұрын
Period!!! The blame shifting or responsibility has got to be shifted to the issue at hand, being the man. The whole cheating of a married man starts and ENDS with that married man. It does not matter if women are sending off vibes and energy ti attract anybody. If he is married he has no business entertaining that. The focus shud stop being on women and how we shud conduct ourselves . We need to hold men accountable for what they have signed up for. They r not victims but predators and hunters
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
@@nelzg5819 Exactly. My energy is the way it is for a reason..They had no business bothering me period. Its just demonic really. They are purposely trying to destroy a good woman, then go home to their wives who don't know how evil their husbands are. They enjoy the benefits of a partner while you surf the web alone at night. Its unfair and just wrong because these men mostly lie about their relationship status.
@nelzg5819 4 жыл бұрын
@@Machelle3200 yes my dear. Many women are out here minding their own business and praying for a good man, a good partner and a good husband. Boom! Rocks up a married man and then we r told about energy thats attracting chancers. No, no. Men who are bored in their marriages have chosen the women they r bored from. They need to make it work or leave. But this dipping outside is not it
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
@@nelzg5819 Exactly...They choose the wrong women for selfish reasons..And then try to make innocent women pay for it..No way! They must pay the cost of their bad decisions!
@nelzg5819 4 жыл бұрын
@@Machelle3200 unless they were forced into marriage, they made their own choice. They made their own bed now they need to lay in it. Single women cannot be blamed for their selfish needs period
@dionnejordan3588 2 жыл бұрын
A married man approaches you because he is a typical selfish man. Stop finding reasons to make women feel like it’s something we are doing. These women they approach are minding their single business. Stop it
@eboaqa 4 жыл бұрын
A married or taken man should not be approaching other women. Ridiculous!
@dawnlittle9266 4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately it happens
@victory9086 4 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏿 and Ase 🙇🏿♀️🙇🏿♀️🙏🏿🙏🏿💃🏿💃🏿🎊
@coldestchicever4684 4 жыл бұрын
@Jamilla Dobson Yep I hot approached more as a young lady then now as a women knowing her worths and working on myself I'll check him in the door come correct I'm a redflag detector lol
@nhopkins1979 4 жыл бұрын
That's not the point 🤦🏽♀️
@aijalacgalve269 4 жыл бұрын
And we would actually have more respect for man in general if they would appreciate their families
@lusciouscurls911 4 жыл бұрын
Too many guys that are in relationships already often approach me more than single men. It’s annoying and honestly frustrating 🤦🏾♀️
@samisbuzin 3 жыл бұрын
The married men seem to be moving more fast these days.
@CC-xl4ln 3 жыл бұрын
I think because they’re not afraid of rejection they see it more like a challenge and if they get rejected well they don’t lose nothing
@lusciouscurls911 3 жыл бұрын
@@CC-xl4ln yes this is definitely true! They try their luck with other women while in a relationship and if they aren’t given that chance they don’t win or lose.
@JahannamHellfire 3 жыл бұрын
Married men only take advantage of single women after they get bored they find new women!
@sandraekukole3739 2 жыл бұрын
It's so tiring, sis 🙄🙄🙄🙄
@jaceny3077 4 жыл бұрын
Married men who look for side chicks are predators. Predators attack whatever they are attracted to in their proximity. If they fail in their approach/chase, they go home to their wives. They risk nothing except their character which they have little of in the first place because they are looking to cheat on their wives. Sad.
@JahannamHellfire 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, you got it right.
@FM-lp7on 2 жыл бұрын
Wait til the wives finds out
@pierlouis7325 2 жыл бұрын
How it's predatory? Lol it's not a crime, he should of stay single..most time the wife get cold feet and lead to this.
@pierlouis7325 2 жыл бұрын
@@FM-lp7on than divorce and move on.wife is not my mother, she find out, what's done is done.
@andjela6351 Жыл бұрын
Sick man, he needs help
@honeylocks71 4 жыл бұрын
When a married man approaches me, I call him a Devil and tell him, "you better hope I never see you with your wife". The look on their faces are priceless 🤣 I'm attractive, fun, and laid back. I'm a prize!
@marianbuckle5049 4 жыл бұрын
Yes ma'am! We definitely are prizes!
@marianbuckle5049 4 жыл бұрын
What about married women who seek single men. What are their four reasons 🤷🏾♀️?
@userofyoutuve 4 жыл бұрын
All women are prizes and should be treated as so
@Jaz31day 4 жыл бұрын
Goodluck with the venom from the wife.
@jess_is 2 жыл бұрын
@@marianbuckle5049 husband not treating them right.
@samanthamichelle7219 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I've been approached by married/taken men. But the connection doesn't last long! Because I'm not allowing any 3rd party situation.. And I'm not going to invest my time and energy to anyone who is not available. So I continue working on myself and not lowering my standards💯
@sabrenamansfield5252 4 жыл бұрын
Amen SIS 👏👏👏
@fxtinexclusive 4 жыл бұрын
You are a strong woman! God bless you 🙏🏼
@michaeljenkins1491 4 жыл бұрын
You are self aware and have self respect. That's rare
@jessicapetrullo5445 4 жыл бұрын
I've been in a relationship with a married man for 15 years. It started when I was in a bad marriage. It started off as just friends with benefits but then we fell in love. I have low self esteem. I tried to not let him in and keep myself detached and not develop any feelings. He is the one who pushed his way in and told me he loved me and I allowed it. I got divorced and I was married to a narcissistic man who emotionally abused me. So I guess I was the perfect prey. Now 15 years later him and his wife are separated and I found out he started sleeping with another woman in February. I'm devastated. I'm so heartbroken he was also my best friend. I'm still seeing him. I'm just not ready to let go he's been such a big part of my life. I've been sick over this since I found out. I feel like I will never be able to feel the kind of love I feel for him ever again and I don't think I could ever trust another man or go through this again.
@KayciazWorld 4 жыл бұрын
@@jessicapetrullo5445 I'm really sorry. You need to detach from him. Im sorry to hear that you have low self esteem as well. Often times people judge others in situations like this without realizing there's typically a source of pain as the cause of it all. I pray that God upholds you and gives you strength to leave him alone completely. I pray that you see you see your worth and understand you can have the man who deserves you. It all starts with self love. Try shifting your focus to things you enjoy and focus on yourself. Build your life around God and positive things and you will see that you begin to magnetically attract happier people and things into your life...and in comes the man that you deserve and who deserves you. Take it one day at a time. Decide to turn away from him, make it up in your mind, and watch how much better life gets for you. He's a user and he's selfish. He never cared he just cared what he could get from you. But you'll be okay. I truly wish you all the best🌸
@Kabaselefh 4 жыл бұрын
Why would a married man with moral and spiritual boundaries follow another woman, unless he’s a narcissist psychopath.
@annamarie3288 4 жыл бұрын
Many many reasons other than what you mentioned
@tracblessed 4 жыл бұрын
They're human but have to choose not to say NO walk away crucify the flesh if the man has a relationship with Jesus
@Kabaselefh 4 жыл бұрын
Victorious Ayesha amen 🙏
@drea4373 4 жыл бұрын
Because they’re horny🤣🤣
@MidnightMoon88 4 жыл бұрын
@@drea4373 but they have a wife to please them sexually 🤔
@Jacqueline8 Жыл бұрын
Let me this share with everyone: Yes, he's a married man but remains a human being. I've never been approached by a married man until recently! It was the first time I've had an unavailable man pursue me. I felt frustrated and confused, even scared. I blamed myself as if I had done something wrong or had given the wrong impression but this experience taught me that married men and women are human beings. And that's where you gotta be careful! I stopped giving him attitude, I prayed to God to open this man's heart to not view me as someone to play or have an affair with. I cried in my room and told myself that "Although not perfect, I am a good girl, I listen to my parents, I help them and my family, I'm pursing my education, I care for others, I'm not a selfish person." YOU can't allow someone to take your moral character from you. You can't give the enemy that chance! Since we're human and will mistakes, we should always seek God's direction in everything we do. Pray to Him and he will listen to you. I stopped worrying about this man attention and cues and focused on building a professional relationship with him instead. Sometimes, God doesn't ask you to hate the person because he's Holy, he is pure in everything that he does. So God may ask you to ignore but be loving and kind, maintaining a personal guard around that person. God requires us to be loving not hateful :)
@kymchu 6 ай бұрын
Yes, me too! First time a separated/married man approached me recently. I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation. When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car. Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol. The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣 DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
@AT-pw9dx 5 ай бұрын
Wow you are inspiring !!!❤
@ccn042000 4 жыл бұрын
This is why I hardly give these black male so called relationship gurus any play. I cant believe he is actually blaming single women for a married man's choice to seek them out. Do black men ever take any accountability?
@SimplyBeingMam 4 жыл бұрын
They never did
@yvonne2965 4 жыл бұрын
Yup, its all the woman's fault smh..im tired of these videos.. Some Men just dont have any shame
@ashe4158 4 жыл бұрын
If you look around our culture, it’s riddled with black male narcissist. That’s why they aren’t accountable.
@Nokss87 4 жыл бұрын
They just want money at the expense of our stupidity 😁
@Rickys_working 4 жыл бұрын
They never do!!!!!!!! Sick of them
@kerryanderson3060 4 жыл бұрын
A married man, wants a woman who, will create little or no Drama, for him. We as women should never settle.
@yeahthatsme921 4 жыл бұрын
They are so cheap that they can't afford two women
@JustineMfulama 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Settling will never get you the relationship you desire.
@JahannamHellfire 3 жыл бұрын
That's why Muslim second wives are suffering with Muslim men! I'm Muslim
@SISTAGURL 3 жыл бұрын
Right! Like his wife
@Aphrodite01 2 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire doesn’t the first wife have to give permission to the husband in order for him to marry another? Also the multiple wives is a bad idea because there is no way a man can love and give equally to all. There will always be a favorite.
@MissCatieElizabeth 4 жыл бұрын
Women it is NOT your fault a married man tries to hook up with you. I’m in no way shape or form emotionally detached or w/e and married SAVED men won’t leave me alone because THEY are unhappy. If a man is in a relationship or married and can’t be honest, respectful or faithful to the woman he’s with then what do you think will happen when y’all get together? How you gettem is how you losem. I think the conversation should be helping men get counseling for the relationship/marriage they are in and making the relationship healthy rather than explaining to women why they are getting hit on by married men.
@katinaW68 4 жыл бұрын
Catie Elizabeth I totally agree with you!So sick of the blame always being on the woman!
@JVittoria23 4 жыл бұрын
I have a huge problem with men and women who break their limbs reaching to make someone outside of themselves to blame for their own decisions. I also struggle with men who “appeal” to women to tell then about themselves. These kinds of videos are as manipulative and narcissistic as the men he’s speaking about.
@elizabethwashington9168 4 жыл бұрын
Amen! If you are an attractive woman, then you're going to attract men...However, we don't have to accept the role they attempt to put you in...I'm not going to be the side chick, 2nd momma, money loaner, shelter-in-place provider...I have standards and believe God will provide what I need, so I walk away from men who are not worthy...it's just that simple...we all have choices, I choose to be single until God provides whom I need. I disagree with this biased video!😡😡😡😡
@deborawhite3126 4 жыл бұрын
Change your attitude. Seriously, sis... Men are HUNTERS. They pick up on weak women. No offense to you because I am with my sisters. Listen, sister men know men and what they do. Trust me. Everything in this video is 100 percent true that is being stated. It's up to women to accept left overs men give us. We should be strong and have high standards. If a married man hit on us then he's hitting on other women as well. Think about STD and how cursed you will be being with a married man...Love you ladies!!! As women we got to do better.
@caroltrimble2738 3 жыл бұрын
If the man is unhappy in their marriage that resulted them to cheat, then they should separate themselves on move on.
@19GENESE13 4 жыл бұрын
Women: "Why do married men approach me?" Answer: because they are heterosexual 😐
@toriyt2714 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I’m just like get over it that’s men lol. Just don’t get involved with them.
@KrypticKiss18 3 жыл бұрын
Actually wonder if they go for a certain type of woman because I’ve never been approached by a married man… Thank God of course. I just have very little interest in men much older than me anyways
@Stacyannecole 3 жыл бұрын
No hunni.. because they lack a moral compass. A PENIS does not mean they cheat .
@chantelleb70 3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!!! 🎯🎯🎯
@Jhanai33 2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@carlabrown5635 4 жыл бұрын
I had a married man approach me I went off and ask him how he would feel if a married man approaches his daughter he walked away
@tinar3876 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve been a side-chick ... thought stupidly it would be a different outcome. I definitely was clingy and was Invested. I thought he was too. I’ve been approached MANY MANY times. I’m extremely feminine and emotional. I am definitely not in anyway masculine or guarded. I absolutely agree that I didn’t argue against him, and allowed his devaluing. I know I’m worth MORE. I won’t be a side-chick ever again.
@roxannerobinson2347 4 жыл бұрын
You ARE worth it Tina!! God bless you 😊
@tinar3876 4 жыл бұрын
Roxanne Thank you So much!!!!
@kaythompson334 4 жыл бұрын
YESSSS TINA BEEN THERE DONE THAT
@mcof3020 4 жыл бұрын
@@roxannerobinson2347 AQAQQ1aaa
@blessedchildofgod9112 4 жыл бұрын
Yop nobody perfect bless up
@lwhite474 4 жыл бұрын
Ladies, we have to know our worth and never settle I know it’s hard but it’s a process to get to this point and realize we deserve the best!!
@TerryJulianLive 4 жыл бұрын
You look over 35.. you should have told yourself that 15 years ago. Its practically over you when it comes to the dating scene
@blessedchildofgod9112 4 жыл бұрын
True
@laundrybasket2689 Жыл бұрын
@@TerryJulianLive Wrong. For women the dating scene is NEVER over.
@hannahscott6604 Жыл бұрын
I’m super fucking annoyed
@patriciascorner4686 4 жыл бұрын
A lot of married men will try with anyone, I think. They have no respect for their vows and they lie! But it depends on how the woman will respond: will she entertain him or cut him off right away, when she finds out he's married 🤷
@pierlouis7325 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe he was force
@MaceWindu8935 4 жыл бұрын
Soooo what I'm hearing is, the men who are married are weak. Women can still be feminine and still not be emotionally attached to you. You say that married men(the weak link) are attracted to women who give off the "detached" vibes also assume that it's okay for the single woman to be okay with biting the bait by disrespecting the married man's marriage as well as themselves. It is not a womans RESPONSIBILITY to change her "detached" vibe to prevent married men from approaching her when her focus was not on them in the first place. That's a lot of effort to be putting in when you're not even mine. Instead of worrying about why she's attracting said married man so much, you being the man with such a "clear" "yes or no?" Level headed, straightforward conscience, should be able to work on the issue within your marriage and stop stepping out expecting the next woman to change her attractive vibe to suit your fragile needs. Let's be honest. Say I follow everything that was mentioned in this video right? The moment things go left, I'll be known as the home wrecker. So, I basically changed myself for nothing. Hold the men accountable and please stop shaping women into being toys.
@subhadravm9973 4 жыл бұрын
Very well said!
@EllePlowPlow 4 жыл бұрын
While I appreciate Stephen giving this advice, to not address the low/lacking moral character of these type of men that would even look for a “side chick” is rubbing me the wrong way.
@keepthechange1 4 жыл бұрын
Precisely. He seems a bit excited as well.
@krysta-ajhaah-min-yah8368 4 жыл бұрын
Boom! Victim-blaming. And as you can see from some comments, the side chicks had been emotional and feminine as well. So I don't think it's about that!.... They really are just predators and never want to take responsibility for that.
@geminilove3230 4 жыл бұрын
am not liking this vedio....i am beautiful bold and smart younger lady...married and not married men approach me all the time even when I am in a relationship. so is not our fault, some married men are just womanizer..i have seen a married man approaching a pregnant woman does it means she's desperate?
@solointheburbs 4 жыл бұрын
Yep. It's always women who have to watch their emotions, watch what they say, watch what they wear, who they are with. Men with this type of platform, and there are several of them, never call men out. Ever. It's always something wrong with women that cause men to do ish.
@yvonne2965 4 жыл бұрын
@@solointheburbs its really unfortunate
@godsqueen9437 4 жыл бұрын
4 reasons why a married man keeps approaching you ladies 1. Because he doesn’t value his vows 2. Because he projects his flaws and inconsistencies off onto single women. (LIKE THIS TOXIC MALE PUBLIC SPEAKER) 3. Because he was raised wrong. 4. Because he married for material conformities instead of true love! DEAR LADIES, DO NOT ALLOW NOOOO MAN TO MANIPULATE AND CONVINCING YOU TO CARRYING THE BURDEN OF HIS MINDFULNESS!!!
@africanempress7174 4 жыл бұрын
Thank u. Married men approach you because they want to. The only blame women should take is accepting
@RoxxanneRoxxanne 4 жыл бұрын
💯✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
@marielenapineda9570 4 жыл бұрын
well said they don't value their significant other that's it
@martinalima251 4 жыл бұрын
I pressed pause the minute I read this comment. I do believe that there's always two sides to a story but there seems to be a generalised issue of not addressing the actual problem and trying to justify it instead. I do agree that as people we attract what we give off but we must also not forget that wrong is wrong. A married man pursuing a woman other than his wife is wrong and that is the first issue to be addressed. A woman accepting to get involved with a married man (knowing he belongs to another woman) is equally wrong. But noooooo, we're teaching women to "protect themselves" as per usual. How about we give our boys a scholding the minute we see them flirt with another girl knowing that he's dating Cynthia from 8th grade?? And why don't we teach Cynthia's friend that she must say no to him because he has a girlfriend. It all starts when we say "they're just kids". Kids become men and women. Just saying
@ClowneryAtItsFinest 4 жыл бұрын
Yes Ma’am!
@literallyjen Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why people want relationships so bad 😂 most of the time it's miserable
@carolhood3529 4 жыл бұрын
YES! I've been divorced for 8 years now and married men always approach me. What makes them think because I'm single that I want to be anyone's side chick! My worth is too valuable for that!
@maryclinton4276 4 жыл бұрын
@Carol Hood I feel you I've been divorced for six I ain't tripping either, I'm not insecure in me I love me I know I'm worthy of loving someone else, I'll wait or just be happy with me I'm not being second been there done it all before.
@chevellehymans6150 Жыл бұрын
Brother you are right some of the women thatare single have good qualities butmarried men keep on approach them
@lindarobinson1980 7 ай бұрын
I have been divorced for over 20 years!! I was in a 25 year marriage to an abusive drug addict and womanizer. I am 70 years old and I am constantly being approached by married or taken men; even my cousin's husband approached me!! I do consider myself attractive and I have a great personality. I constantly let them know that I am not interested in being a side piece!! I truly believe in loyalty, and faithfulness in a marriage!
@kymchu 6 ай бұрын
Yes agree. The one that approached me never asked much about me, nor my status until I asked him... I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation. When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car. Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol. The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣 DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
@juiceitup7915 4 жыл бұрын
you don't have to give off any kind of energy. HE just doesn't have the kind of character that is FAITHFUL. It isn't a woman's fault. If you're married then you shouldn't be hitting on me anyways no matter what energy it is.
@loveandlight_ 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed!!
@dclarke1896 4 жыл бұрын
True! I feel the same way but it doesn't change anything. Honestly I get approached by married or unavailable men more than single men constantly. It's crazy.
@bridgetbarnett6423 4 жыл бұрын
I agree with you! his response is bullshit
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly...The only energy that will stop this behavior is having a resting bytch face.. I'm not friendly to random men anymore..And they stay away more. Sadly, it maybe driving away a good person but at this point, I think I'd just rather be alone.
@msstreat7175 4 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU. MORALS AND CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD!
@Rocanala 4 жыл бұрын
This has never happened to me but I don’t understand why he seems to place the onus on the woman for simply being approached. Isn’t HE married?!? Didn’t HE take vows?
@passionatebliss4591 3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad to know that. I had no idea why I seemed irresistible to married men. However the fact that I am not a big ball of emotions and I prefer to address situations in a logical manner has always been an asset to me. I have no intention of changing that, or worrying about my “aura” because someone married a man who doesn’t respect the vow he made to God, his wife, or himself. I’ll just continue to put them in their place.
@dinaschirripa95 Жыл бұрын
HAHAH YOU SOUND AS NASTY AS ME ....
@espirotadebretagne3533 Жыл бұрын
Ditto
@ser_g_ooo269 4 жыл бұрын
As a guy I would be so angry and disgusted if a taken woman approached me or if I saw a taken guy pursue another woman. Cheating is something we need to abolish as we all become more mature in love and more knowledgable in romance. I've had a father figures and a mentor who had a whole 2nd family kids and all. Long story short he saved his original marriage and decades later we talked about it and he told me not only he hurt his wife is a grave way, but he really hurt himself in a massive spiritually way. I still love him though, as I said he's like my dad
@jmar385 4 жыл бұрын
Thats what sad about you. You judging someone without knowing their situation on why they approach you. It’s best to listen to understand before you speak on the situation.
@jmar385 4 жыл бұрын
Stephanie Brooks let me enlighten you. I’m talking about the beginning of the paragraph not the end. Not the father part. You can’t judge everyone as disgusting if their taken by their approach you. You never know their situation. You can turn a situation from a negative to a positive. I helped plenty of ppl that was taken & they was broken spirit. Some ppl need to hear the Word, but the truth from the outside. Some ppl be blinded by love & don’t know their own worth. I never judge anyone without listening to them. Maybe I experience the same thing & I can help them, so it depends on the situation & I’m sticking to that
@annabellademus9719 4 жыл бұрын
Ser_g_ooo WOW SIDE WOMEN GOT USED BY HIM, HE NEVER SAID HOW BAD HE HURT HER SHE HAD CHILDREN BY HIM, JUST GOT USED COMPLETELY, KNOWING HE WOULD NEVER LEAVE HIS, WIFE, LADIES STOP LETTING THEM MARRIED MAN IN THEY MEAN YOU NO GOOD,IT'S ONLY SEXUAL.
@abladeofgrass1003 3 жыл бұрын
DISGUSTED!!!!!! they are like festering wounds!! Ughhh i hate it... so nasty.
@JohnQPublic345 3 жыл бұрын
You, my friend, are a total simp
@valerie4912 4 жыл бұрын
I walk in positivity. I walk in love. I walk in healing. ❤️
@sbarnett2494 4 жыл бұрын
I feel like a woman that is emotionally detached will eventually switch to emotionally invested because something will change them.
@adrenna1973 4 жыл бұрын
I remember after living in my current city after a couple years and I was going through a divorce. I'd just started a new job. My boss at the time right away told me you will never find a good man in this city. She began opening up about how she was often approached by married guys and could not understand it. As time went by in getting to know her, it made sense. She did not trust, she came off as friendly but was not really, when she did meet a single guy she seemed to push him away by finding something wrong with him, she was emotionally detached. I saw this beautiful, smart woman who on the outside who appeared strong, but just in a few exchanges, was unhappy and needed to be in control. Just as we as women pick up vibes on others, men do too. If you want better you have to be willing to self reflect and ask...what's going within me that I continue to attract the same type of experiences repeatedly? When one becomes open to the answer that's where the game changes.
@abladeofgrass1003 3 жыл бұрын
So true.. but being on this side of the game and not a wife.. to see how some married men are..is alarming. I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕 "Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you." I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
@Alexandrite7 5 күн бұрын
Get out of here!
@adrenna1973 4 күн бұрын
@@abladeofgrass1003 stay true to you. listen to your divine intuition. Marriage/children are not our destiny. We get to choose what we want and need and when. 💙
@abladeofgrass1003 3 күн бұрын
@@adrenna1973 I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕 "Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you." I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
@andreamagyar7776 4 жыл бұрын
Just that he , a married man would think, she could be a good side chick is an INSULT!!!
@morganmalone9535 4 жыл бұрын
How to get rid of taken/married men that approach you??? Ask them, "You got some money?!?!?!?!"
@backtalkwithMs.Treasure 4 жыл бұрын
I do this anytime I want to get rid of someone and it definitely Works’s
@lela_78 4 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@vhayashi7369 4 жыл бұрын
😂
@ninahanisko6584 4 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna try this next time 😂
@lisamack2923 4 жыл бұрын
Lol
@AHnaturally 4 жыл бұрын
Wow this made a lot of sense for me!! When you see patterns in your life the common denominator is you. We can't change how people behave, only ourselves. The time & energy I've invested into myself and my healing over the years has made it easy to peep game. Seeing how married, involved, attached men behave makes me even more happy that I'm single.
@bethfreeman1208 3 жыл бұрын
I ALWAYS attract married men always and I could never figure out what I was giving off now I have a better understanding thanks to you and I more determined than ever to get free from this ! I didn’t know what I was giving off but now I know. Thank you for your insight this helps so very much and I am ready to make the necessary steps to walk away from this awful pattern
@ca7117 4 жыл бұрын
No! It’s not the woman’s fault!
@geminilove3230 4 жыл бұрын
i second that.... it is not our fault at all
@jamiecarr9341 4 жыл бұрын
He’s not saying it is our fault. He know’s a man can’t get to you unless you allow it. He knows we hold all the power.
@christlnayo606 4 жыл бұрын
Women is the key. No flirt man can manipulate women if some women will not allow them. The more they entertain that kind of guy they will give them confidence. Men can sense if they have chances so they will continue if there is no boundaries drawn by some women.
@lieweiwang_ 3 жыл бұрын
he is not saying its woman's fault. I‘m a victim and I just found out what he said is totally true. I’m gonna be faithful on myself and love after watching this
@laurekapinga4279 3 жыл бұрын
Not true some woman are
@aleighc 4 жыл бұрын
Sidechicks catch feelings eventually. Been there done that. Leave taken men the eff alone. They don't want you for real.
@nontokozombatha9182 3 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done at times
@aleighc 3 жыл бұрын
@@nontokozombatha9182 Trust me, I know. But the key is to not get involved in the first place. It spares you of time wasted and avoids emotional injury.
@brittniekeene1921 3 жыл бұрын
They aren’t always honest about their status..
@aleighc 3 жыл бұрын
@@brittniekeene1921 That's very true! Does the truth always surface? I'm sure sometimes it doesn't but once I find out I'm not the entree, he's kickin rocks.
@YouYou-sm8tf 3 жыл бұрын
@@brittniekeene1921 learn to know who they are before dating them
@deidre529 4 жыл бұрын
I get approached by married/taken men all the time. I have often wondered why but now I understand why.
@lakisha1235 2 ай бұрын
Until someone falls in love
@lifegetsbetterafter4069 4 жыл бұрын
All I get approached my are married men. Very rarely do single men shoot their shot. It's crazy, it's on a constant basis and I have trust issues because of it.
@kimberlystephens2424 4 жыл бұрын
I feel you, but he just stepped on my toes, because that mistrust is the walls he's talking about. I pray we both come out of this better women.
@queenh4073 4 жыл бұрын
I can relate totally
@omarhenry3413 4 жыл бұрын
I am single and living in Orlando so if you interested link me up......
@dawnlaubach4970 4 жыл бұрын
Me too
@sophisticatedstylez 4 жыл бұрын
Same feelings
@michellesweightlossjourney6599 4 жыл бұрын
Sooo.....the men who look for these kind of women are???? Weak? Because if he wants to take advantage of a broken woman just to get his thrill on, he's just as broken.
@michaeljenkins1491 4 жыл бұрын
Mostly insecure and looking for some validation of ego. I used to date married women for the same reason he highlights.
@deborawhite3126 4 жыл бұрын
Sister men actually are hunters from the beginning. That's the main factor women keep forgetting. You are most definitely correct in reference to men being broken; because there are a lot of men that come from all different traits and backgrounds. I dated a guy one time that had a horrible pass that he did not tell me from the beginning. However, he tried to portray he was well educated and lived a lavious lifestyle. Therefore, his actions and characteristics showed me different. Don't get me wrong some men can change after some bad aspects happen in their life. However, it will take God to do a lot in their life for that to happen. I actually, pull his background/criminal record and found out everything about this guy. Women if you dating someone and you see red flags I would suggest during some research on your guy. Of course the rest was history he and I was over. If honesty and truthfulness is now told from the beginning from a man then that man is not to be trusted period. Love my sisters!!! 💜💜💜 We got to help each other.
@honeybrowne8731 3 жыл бұрын
I have been approach by married men my whole life
@ivia_ol8356 2 жыл бұрын
You know what I remember. Way back then when I first met him, we had a conversation about fidelity, I didn't know he was married, so I was calling cheating men weak that don't have enough strength to walk away from their marriages if they were unhappy and his response was "I don't think they are weak" or something along the lines. That stuck in my mind for some reason. Long story short a year later I found out he was married. And I'm not even gonna count how many times he lied to me. Good thing I didn't give myself. I asked him to get a divorce, let's see what he's gonna do.
@tflipping7336 Жыл бұрын
I hope his response shifts the responsibility on the MARRIED MAN.
@joemarchand8313 3 жыл бұрын
I'm late 50's, children grown. There's a woman that works in the same building as I do. She arrived about 3 years ago. Ever since I laid eyes on her, I cannot get her out of my mind. We've made eye contact a couple of times, smiled, but nothing more. I've seen A LOT of attractive women in my time that I haven't thought twice about, but this is far different. It's hard to explain....I feel a connection to her like never before, even though I've never officially met her to talk to. I see the way that she interacts with others, her upbeat attitude, her smile, her energy.....I love my wife (been together for 16 years), but cannot get her out of my mind. Never felt like this before. Sometimes it's painful thinking about her, wondering if I've found "the one" too late..... can anyone relate?
@barbaraedwards5675 6 ай бұрын
It hints of “lust”
@peacefulvibe8357 4 ай бұрын
You need help ‼️
@joemarchand8313 4 ай бұрын
@@peacefulvibe8357 And just how did you come to that illogical conclusion? No need to attack.
@injuryadvocates7602 2 ай бұрын
I feel you. I met who I thought was CREATOR sent to me. EVERYTHINGGGGG I desired in a man yet come to find out he's married🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. He doesn't know I know but I do. Unsure if he's unhappy at home but he does EVERYTHING for me. Tells me how much he needs me, how much he doesn't ever wanna lose me, how much he adores me, how glad he is that we met. Before I found out I believed his words, now I simply smh when he's talking. I'm so grateful that I'm not an emotional woman. I'm disappointed in him but not enough to leave him. I'm gonna ride the train, enjoy the time but I'll never be intimate with him after finding this out. I truly wish he wasn't married, but he is.
@4EverGr8ful1 Ай бұрын
@@joemarchand8313 I don't see "an attack", I see a suggestion, sir... One you should consider seriously!! 💡💡💡
@ThePhoinix33 4 жыл бұрын
This is the day my energy changes
@es7379 4 жыл бұрын
I feel I give off masculine energy... but I’m totally over being a side chick. I did that in my 20s never again. It’s not worth it. These men does nothing but let you age while they enjoy their wife/kids and life. You are left to play catch up with your life. Run fast from these type of men/women!
@amandalee714 Жыл бұрын
Yes. Yes. Yes. Then you’re 40 and your eggs are all dried up and your opportunity to have a family is over.
@Khadijah_R28 Жыл бұрын
@@amandalee714 you’re co-signing single motherhood regardless if the guy no longer wants to stay and be active with the child.
@laundrybasket2689 Жыл бұрын
@@amandalee714 Ummm NO. That’s a load of BS. I just turned 41 and am still fertile sweetie. Even my older sister had one of her kids at the age of 45. Please stop spreading misogynistic insults and propaganda.
@memaw20able 4 ай бұрын
My granny had five words “leave that married man alone he has nothing to offer you and God don’t like ugly,you are setting yourself for the worst life,don’t waste your time or energy being a home wrecker.”Karma
@MeetStephanSpeaks 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@DeeElla-o8i Ай бұрын
He’s right. I’ve been that woman, several times. I’m just tired now and want my own man. But I do want to say this, I got my things together and always made sure they helped out while they were around. I also feel that most men (not all) will cheat. Makes me think again when it comes to wanting one all to myself because I feel like they’re more than likely are going to cheat on you. And you can be his everything, and the brother will still cheat if they think they can get away with it. However, I do love my freedom! ❤ Also, a lot of married women knew their husbands weren’t sh*t long before he met me. A lot of them knew how she got him.
@miamullin5723 4 жыл бұрын
For me, being a side is business. I don’t need the problems that come with a relationship and getting screwed over. I pride myself on the fact that I have learned to survive in this man’s world that is presented to me. Do I want a husband one day? Of course, but I think my strong independence is what men are afraid of. A married man doesn’t judge that ability. I wish a single man could be a compliment to independence than to fear it from a female.
@lisajones-zc7wz 4 жыл бұрын
What Stephen should do is have an open panel for men who are married and ask them questions about how they feel about themselves being a married man and do they value their VOWS. Just a suggestion to Stephan
@IDidNotAsk4ThisHandle 2 жыл бұрын
How will YOU have a husband 1 day if u allow yourself to be a sideChick or a sideBusiness
@fireeye33 2 жыл бұрын
that's low value, trust me you deserve better
@jacquelinegonzalez2389 4 жыл бұрын
I didn’t wanna seem like “that girl” but YES. It’s like I have a sign on my forehead that reads “accepting married men” I never understood it..???
@adinaciraolo6320 4 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way.
@taffy1234ful 4 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way too but I'm not going to take on that responsibility and worry about my energy or whatever. I think these are just lying cheating men who cannot be faithful and think that women are objects to be played with...
@magdalenanycz4808 4 жыл бұрын
No no no Girls... what I've noticed instead is that certain spirits are looking for innocent/naive/good hearted to play with their emotions... molesting spirit is looking for pure, innocent souls for example... Stephan though claiming to be a Christian speaks from the flash only
@JustineMfulama 4 жыл бұрын
You are not 'THAT GIRL' because you are inquiring about it. BE honest with yourself and analyze what it is that creates this pattern. Being approached by a married man is not the problem, but entertaining one is. Do you pay attention to the red flags? Do you speak up when something seems 'off'? Those are the little things you can do to repel them. 🙏
@BlakeRenn 4 жыл бұрын
I been in this position, multiple times, but Ladies its not us. These men for one “LIE” about their relationship status, no guy approaches a women and say Listen Im married, Lets have an affair. We normally find out months down the line, after we are already practically serious. And majority of these married men, are not happy, and dont want to pay child support and ALimony, so they have affairs. Its not the “Side women” issue. I LEAVE though! Eff that!
@cassandramatthews543 4 жыл бұрын
If I'm emotional detached, I dont want to be with any man let alone be a side chick..
@user-qj8bu2rt5m 4 ай бұрын
I’ve been seeing a guy in the gym over the past 3 years (he is about 20 years older than me lol, but he looks really good). I always liked him. We only said Hi for a long time. He finally asked me out and finally realized that he is married. He said he is separated but not divorced yet cuz of their daughter. He wanted me to have a casual relationship with him and just fool around, even though I am definitely out of his league in terms of so many aspects. It was so hard to not even hang out as a friend with him, cuz I really liked him, but I finally made my decision and told him we are not on the same page, and I moved on!
@kaylamaribela 4 жыл бұрын
For the last 5-6 years, 95% of encounters were men that were in a relationship, engaged, or married... I really thought something was wrong with me by not attracting men that are AVAILABLE. I am not emotionally dettached, nor am I okay with cheating in any capacity, I'm just a laid back introvert 😩😒. Thanks for making this video, I'll be working on this perception. I also have been learning about exuding more feminine energy, I'm naturally more masculine because of a single mother upbringing... This is probably why I have trust issues because most men who have approached me have been cheaters!!!!! Where were you when I turned 20!?? 😫
@ericawilliams5595 4 жыл бұрын
I never understood why I’m always approached but now I get it. I’m very emotionally unattached I have been told I have a male thought process this is so me very detached with my guards up
@bullockak 4 жыл бұрын
Me as well
@toombs6287 4 жыл бұрын
I definitely have a male thought process.
@PSALMS-oe7ri 4 жыл бұрын
🙋🏽♀️
@michellerichardson3090 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
Women should think more like men...Or they will continue to get devoured..Do you want to be the unssupecting wife at home getting cheated on? And fyi, I know several masculine women that are in fact married...to their husbands with wandering eyes.. Smfh.
@BossLadyShan 4 жыл бұрын
I literally sat on the edge of my bed this morning, and wondered this very thing!! It is so timely. And I am beyond grateful for your wisdom. I’m honing in on this thing and I’m going to fix this. Thank you, Stephan! I love your ENERGY!
@lostgirl.1987 Жыл бұрын
I meet all the criteria's, I have Complex PTSD and I'm awaiting trauma therpy. I was closed off to the idea of relationships because I attract the wrong type of men. This video made me so emotional because it's all very true. Thank you
@oyen11 4 жыл бұрын
Basically, he's talking about narcissist men
@blessedchildofgod9112 4 жыл бұрын
Basically
@fxtinexclusive 4 жыл бұрын
Yes it’s a narcissist. I’m pretty sure.
@smile-gg1xi 4 жыл бұрын
L
@Kayla_alsinax3 4 жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@lecarolcarr1055 4 жыл бұрын
Must be, bc I REALLY don't agree with half this SHIT......child PLEASE!!!! I'm not desperate for no stankn AsS Man.....you tried IT......... maybe some women,but NOT all women!!
@blessedchildofgod9112 4 жыл бұрын
Men always think the grass is greener on the other side until he get over there and find out it's spray painted lol 😂 no for real the eyes of men never satisfied ...men need to be strong love themselves and have respect for themselves
@kamilahbeaty7082 4 жыл бұрын
Very idiotic to believe that neglected grass would continue growing healthy and green... And the nerve to complain about how dry it is & then compare it to how lush and green it is on the other side
@cashcarvalho 4 жыл бұрын
The grass is greener where its watered
@veronicavasquez7517 4 жыл бұрын
@sha B that’s not true 😂
@blessedchildofgod9112 4 жыл бұрын
Veronica I got 10 likes were is yours lol 😂 😂
@wanjirukarago9308 4 жыл бұрын
True💯💯
@UrN0tM7777 4 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this so bad. I hate that I attract married men or taken men, I would never take anyone's man. But the fact that I attract them is disheartening to be in any relationship.
@lous2308 3 жыл бұрын
I am fully aware those are my 2 main issues.... I am emotionally detached AND I give off a masculine energy.🤦🏾♀️ Am definitely NOT desperate at all though. Will not be with a man that is taken
@wall47291 4 жыл бұрын
I had a guy who told me that he hadn't been intimidate with his wife since he cheated on her 16 years ago and was I opened to a sexual relationship. I almost threw my sangria in his face! I literally felt my hand reaching for my sangria! When he died his obituary stated that he was the Reverend such and such and was even a pastor at one point in his life. It's people like him that give Christians a bad name.
@RE-im1xm 4 жыл бұрын
Oh no. What a creep.
@sandraparker726 4 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you didn’t waste that sangria!
@deborawhite3126 4 жыл бұрын
He was lying to you about being intimate with his wife...😏. Not unless he had a illness to keep him from performing.
@daniellesagang1037 4 жыл бұрын
What a story!!!
@deanaortega4517 4 жыл бұрын
🤯 this makes sooo much sense!! I’m a busy woman and definitely emotionally detached but wasn’t aware I’m focused on my goals and am very in tune with my masculine side.. Although I’m not ready to be in a relationship I’m tired of being approached by married men or men in relationships.. it’s such a blow to my self esteem.. I now know what to work on. Thank you 🙏🏼
@annamayyy9771 4 жыл бұрын
Same here
@espirotadebretagne3533 Жыл бұрын
Finally, a man who cares enough about women to 1) level with us and 2) do it in a frank but not demeaning way. What's more is that nobody needed to be a Christian to get the truth from this guy. Thank you!
@Erica-ec9jt 2 жыл бұрын
I think men will just try. It's up to us to reinforce our boundaries and watch out for the man who tries the "brother" approach also. If you are single, don't fall prey to this either. Gut instinct is powerful. It's always on time. Do research and pay attention to those things that DON'T line up. Don't be a fool with dating. So he is separated...hmmm...ask questions. Pay attention and never feel like he's the last person interested in you. WE as women are the prize!! There is nothing wrong with taking our time to get to know him. And don't reveal everything about yourself. Listen to what he says and see if the actions align. This is my advice for this subject. Lastly, don't accept being anyone's second choice. Don't entertain that type of drama in your life and keep yourself protected with Godly wisdom. Normalize being only #1 from the onset! Become picky and selective -- same approach as picking out your new home for Y-O-U😊 🙌🏽
@lydiaruff6236 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I have consistently been approached by married men. Most times I don't know and find out later
@lydiaruff6236 4 жыл бұрын
@lavidavi I have been. I'm single not rushing anything. Been burned now just watching a lot more
@geminilove3230 4 жыл бұрын
@lavidavi exactly
@bridgettemanuel1484 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I’m being approached by married and men in relationships and it’s seems a lot but my spirit is focused on God , I just ignore them , they have nothing to offer me . I believe god has my husband and he is working on him . Thanks again for this video
@ashleyk9328 4 жыл бұрын
Men are only interested in me when they have a girlfriend. As soon as he is single he is not interested in me at all. Also the taken men want an emotional relationship with me and not a physical one. Explain that. I want nothing to do with taken men but they immediately see me as someone who is going to fall in love with them even if I’m not attracted to them at all. Hence I’m a 40 year old virgin. My standards are high so why do men see me as easy. One man even told me he just knew he could get me as soon as he saw me. That’s why he never tried. Then he started hitting on me once he lost his girlfriend and spoke to me like I was easy to drop and pick up. I ghosted him. He was looking like dumbfounded and kept calling me on the phone like he was obsessed. Lots of men treat me like I’m theirs by default and they get shocked when I friend zone and ghost them. Men treat me like I’m easy and like they don’t need to earn me. I ghost them immediately.
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
See how CRAZY they are...How you gonna be a virgin and easy??? Men are crazy. I keep telling women...You're better off alone at 40. Trust me.
@shastarimington9467 2 жыл бұрын
I'm always unknowing I would never ever do that to another women ever
@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
@552mudhunters 4 жыл бұрын
The timing of this video was impeccable for me..and these concepts make sooo much sense. I needed this. Im beyond thankful for these words.
@The_Muse_73 4 жыл бұрын
Me too Sis, right on time!
@UrN0tM7777 4 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@karynramona5446 4 жыл бұрын
Me too omg!!!!
@beckywright5661 4 жыл бұрын
Yes me too
@teesmith5831 4 жыл бұрын
Crystal Durden was a
@TheAlkebulanTrust 4 жыл бұрын
True or correct?...1. Because they want to. 2. Because they can. 3. Because they can. 4. Because they want to...man can do what he wants whether he is married or not.
@krysta-ajhaah-min-yah8368 4 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@mzsommore 4 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏
@anonymoususer5999 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah if that's the consensus in his relationship, otherwise the wife can do it too no problem lol. You just won't know and she just won't know, everybody happy
@najlamuhammad2099 2 жыл бұрын
Once again ladies. It’s almost like we are the ones at fault instead of questioning why the hell this married man cant control his desires Smdh we are women. We attract things, that’s not a fault.. men need to stop getting into marriages just to uphold this image of a well put man because it’s perpetrating at its finest!
@SweeterThanHoney22 2 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY
@Mel-tw6qv 4 жыл бұрын
This has been happening to my whole life. Like seriously every 6 months. Usually someone from work that you would never expect it from.
@essy1482 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I get approached all the time. This has been happening since I was 17-18. That has happened to me when I was younger, I never give in. Still won’t.
@sandramariannaskals7282 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I had that! Interesting I never thought about myself as detached but I can see that- especially the last few years (scared + push away)
@melaniesunshine1951 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@leannegraceliberty 4 жыл бұрын
This is a really good video! Thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤️
@chiliconcarne4274 4 жыл бұрын
So, basically it's a women's fault for a married man not being able to act as such... Great!!!
@queenofbuttercream 4 жыл бұрын
Your video is all facts bruh. This is coming from a dare I say, ex professional side chick. I am an Emotionally detached, masculine energy carrying woman. That being said these men are entitled AF. The pros would never want to be in a relationship with these men. Maybe the desperate ones. Good luck to y'all with this one.
@shanl3917 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve been in that situation before. I never get hit on by a single man. However I feel all men cheat at some point anyway. I’m somewhat emotional detached cause you have to keep your guard up out here in these streets. The male pool out here is horrible. You got to have some kind of wall up or you going to get railroaded. I’m really tired of all the fake men out here. I can do bad by myself I don’t need ANY help with that.
@merlinsvdd 4 жыл бұрын
I was emotionally detached and didn't know myself and my worth. Ok, i tolerated this toxic guy in my masculine energy. Ok. Thanks for advice.
@WillbeSingin 8 ай бұрын
Only married men. It's devastating. I don't even want a husband. It looks embarrassing to be a wife.
@rdsandoval1663 8 ай бұрын
Yep. Just learned the 2 guys I have been dating are both married 😮 I am far from desperate I just live a busy life and don’t have a lot of time for dating.
@sandramariannaskals7282 4 жыл бұрын
There is also the Jackie Kennedy syndrome- she had a dad to whom she has a very close /friendship (psychological terms too a "mistress " as the dad and mom didn't get along well) and she always found men who cheated on her, were distant, worked never had time etc bc she kept reliving the childhood patterns/wound. Also very interesting.
@brittneywashington5694 4 жыл бұрын
What about old men? I’m always being approached by men that are 50, 60, 70 years old!!! Like, why?!!! I don’t want an old man!! Lol I don’t want a sugar daddy!
@virgohontas 4 жыл бұрын
💀😭😭🤣🤣 giiiirl
@brittneywashington5694 4 жыл бұрын
brittney battle Honey!! Lol I’m TIED!! 😂🤣😂
@virgohontas 4 жыл бұрын
Soon as we started dating a old head, ppl be like she want him for his money. Cant win for losing.🤣
@michellesweightlossjourney6599 4 жыл бұрын
😂🤣😂😂 Same here, Sis! I'm married and never understood this when they can see the ring. Is it because we're calm and stable?
@kaseycbarnett 4 жыл бұрын
He needs a nurse, someone to take care of him...just my opinion.
@loveandlight_ 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah they approach me until they get to know me, and then they get intimidated because I know my worth.
@lelepenny6559 3 жыл бұрын
I can totally agree with you! I’ve had this problem and I can honestly say I come off as emotionally detached and masculine energy. I never paid attention to my energy until I watched this video. I’m very straightforward when it comes to men..I let them know what I want and if they can’t give that to me...then I’m out
@nixgotit7433 4 жыл бұрын
This is so on point...I decided to start dating again after years....And every man that approached me this year was married except 1!!! I keep asking why? Thanks for the insight.
@corina6772 4 жыл бұрын
Apparently you need higher heels and sexier dress 🙄
@laxandriapoole2163 4 жыл бұрын
This Happens so much until I’m Disgusted !!! And gets mad when I’m Firm with saying “No”! I want my own Single man!! Do I look like side chick material to you!!! Geeeshh🤦🏽♀️
@grennie46 4 жыл бұрын
Well done young lady. Setting strong boundaries 💪 is the key. Self awareness of knowing who you are and ensuring your emotional needs are met will also help you choose not attract people that have your best interest at heart ❤️ instead of trying to toss your salad. Married or unavailable man are only interested in sex and they fear commitment ( married but fear the entrapment of being with one person so they self sabotage their relationship due to this securit.immaturity play as well. So don't let his image / worldview of himself block your heart/ blessing.
@WesternPeach 4 жыл бұрын
There truly is a misconception regarding being "emotionally detached" often these people are logical in understanding their and others emotions. By no means does it mean a person has anything wrong with them. Or more importantly her. And society loves titles to make women look and feel bad. A married men approaching single women (or other married women ; cause yes this happens too) is totally about what he doesnt want to deal with. Whether it's not admitting unhappiness, caring too much about what others think or not having the courage to walk away when a relationship is 100% over.
@pinkcamille80 2 жыл бұрын
I said “DAMN” out loud when you said they have masculine energy, and low self esteem 🤣🤣🤣 I’ve been getting all married men approach lately so I gotta get my bars up 😂😂😂😂
@monicathebeautiful6483 4 жыл бұрын
I get approached all the time but I will neva EVA be anyone's secret!
@sscott504 4 жыл бұрын
BOOM!!! Agree!
@harrietacquah2545 4 жыл бұрын
Stephan I'm confused here. So,women being emotionally detached rather attracts a married man? So are we then supposed to be emotionally attached? The man is married he should mind his business with his wife,why should i be emotionally attached to him? I'm not really getting this. Please explain further
@SermonsSubtitled 4 жыл бұрын
I think he means emotionally detached from the OUTCOME that you desire, which, for most women, is true love/ an exclusive commited relationship/ marriage. If you, for instance, don't really care about getting married/ a commitment from a man, you're just down to f*ck, OR you are a doormat who won't stand up for her needs (hence detached from her desired outcome), you won't cause him any problems.
@aishau5782 4 жыл бұрын
@@destinybabb9862 yes Queen Destiny, I totally agree with you. Queen Linda...also, I believe Stephen was addressing a specific question presented to him...this may be why he did not address how the married man should conduct himself.
@harrietacquah2545 4 жыл бұрын
@@SermonsSubtitled yes but he was talking about that rather attracting such men to you which I don't get.
@selenem3384 2 ай бұрын
married men like women who don't give af... this is the most interesting thing I ever heard.😮
@esabal1989 2 ай бұрын
Let me tell you 💀💀💀
@veritastold830 2 жыл бұрын
Cheating at its core is deceptive and disrespectful. Disrespect breeds disrespect.
@karenstephenson6668 4 жыл бұрын
I never was approached by a married Man before, but I got approached by a Man that was in a relationship not knowing that he had a girlfriend. But I refuse to settle. I'm waiting on the LORD for the right person.
@olikiahill260 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Karen may God bless you with the man of God you deserved blessings
@Machelle3200 4 жыл бұрын
@ I mean they could just go purchase a hooker...Instead they enjoy destroying innocent women.
@charityrobinson7688 2 жыл бұрын
PLEASE WAIT!!! It’ll be so worth it!!! I waited and waited. I thought God forgot about me. I stopped looking but not hoping. When I wasn’t looking, love found me , and it came from the least expected place.
@chewec778 2 жыл бұрын
Lord give me grace to be patient and sanctified and celibate while I wait
@nae4xo 4 жыл бұрын
Mr. Labossiere? If you ever get the time, will you please do two videos explaining: the qualities of an emotionally detached woman and another video about and the qualities of a woman who gives off masculine energy versus a woman who who gives off feminine energy.🌺✨thank you for taking time to read this comment.✨🌺
@fxtinexclusive 4 жыл бұрын
I love this!
@harrietacquah2545 4 жыл бұрын
Maybe it will help because I'm so confused😂
@973shero9 4 жыл бұрын
Good idea
@deecee7187 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I get approached by men who are married. I think I do give off masculine energy. I am very feminine looking, confident, strong and independent. Very interesting video. Thank you!!
@patiencegeorge9445 9 күн бұрын
Sadly, I always get approached by married or taken men
@zsaferg 4 жыл бұрын
Well this explains why I attract men who are not available, ie married, taken, emotionally unavailable, etc. I’m taking time now for myself to address the issue. Love the breakdown. Thank you!!
@toiadw9417 4 жыл бұрын
Ditto!
@EbonyCOliver 4 жыл бұрын
This happened once recently. I never stuck around to try and get the full truth. Based on what happened I concluded he must have a woman or a woman who felt she was his woman enough to do what she did. I cut him off with no explanation, and he never questioned me. I’m still cordial but it’s business only. I don’t have time for that. 🤦🏽♀️
@gracepoint3 7 ай бұрын
It so relieving to read all these comments and know I’m not alone. Thank you all.
@neydigarcia5486 3 жыл бұрын
Makes sense! In my early 20’s I worked in a truck plant . Married men tried me and a lot of the young girls there . Working on trucks , gave most of us young girls that masculine energy , abs being young most of us were emotionally detached . All of this makes sense. My faith is in Christ now tho and I’m healing from all the walls I had up and def more in tune w my femininity. I actually denied my call back to that job because I no longer wanted to be around that type of environment. I’m focused on loving myself & those men need to be held accountable but at this point you can only work on you . Heal up girlies . ✨
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