4 Signs God Is Saying, “That Person Is Wasting Your Time”

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How will you know if someone is wasting your time and just playing games? What signs will God use when someone is not serious and just leading you on? Here are 4 signs the Lord will often use to let you know that someone is just wasting your time.
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@dirtcop11 Жыл бұрын

Some people are 'playing' you, they want a relationship but also want to keep you on a string. I guess you could call it a 'one-way' relationship, you give and they take.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

So true! I talk about players here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ms6CiaiBnaquhHk.html

@ColoredSkin Жыл бұрын

Yeah they can’t change because we think they can or because we do!

@daughterofthemosthighking656 Жыл бұрын

Can’t date who you don’t know… so, must part ways ..

@midnightclearschannel8344 Жыл бұрын

This helped me so much, it's hard for me to cut the strings sometimes to one sided relationships. This helped me tell some young men in grace that I believe we're just friends

@rovidt7980 Жыл бұрын

The #3 is so much like my previous relationship. I was studying that time for my board and had a relationship with a non-Christian guy who became open in reading the Bible with me. Too much drama happened because he doesn't understand why I sinned in my past and I cannot sin anymore. It was hard for me to concentrate on studying and having a drama with him at the same time. its either he slows me down with my calling or dragging me down to a sinful world. With everyday arguments and no development for sure, it's a waste of time.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

Yes, one on one Bible studies between singles from the opposite sex, especially with one being an unbeliever, doesn't sound like a fruitful thing to me. God bless and thanks for sharing this!

@VictoriaMeeker Жыл бұрын

Was in the same situation. He didn’t follow Jesus the way I did, I had a guy friend who I kind of liked. He was open to going to church and watching sermons but he didn’t do it on his own. There was drama, I was constantly feeling crazy and also other red flags like him opening a beer in my car before a movie. He also mentioned marriage towards me fast within a little after a month and kids he could see it. I did love him as a friend and someone I deeply cared for. Anyway, I feel this. Lots of drama and his comments about sugar moms and picking on me a lot wasn’t cute to me or made me feel beautiful. I feel the man God has for me will already have his own relationship by himself and not FOR ME. Anyway, there was lots of Chaos and confusion, even thought that when I mentioned God was using me to help people it was like witchcraft to him. He was slowing me down, and also trying to show signs of gaslighting and deflecting. And I was already still coming out of a previous abusive situation. It does hurt cause I liked him and he was my bestfriend I still miss him. But the drama was so much.. thanks for sharing it helps me realize I’m not alone. I couldn’t keep him around because we already had kissed and stuff and I can’t have feelings for a non believer and he didn’t think sin before marriage was a sin. I’ll end up in a worldly relationship and can’t risk it. It definitely hurts

@augiemay8677 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I just went through something similar. He kept saying he understood but deep down I knew he didn't. And once I took away the sins he said we can't hang out anymore. But my calling from God is pulling me more and more and I'm finally strong enough to choose him over the world. I might be a little lonely here on earth for a bit, but my faith has me hopeful for the future, focused on God.

@nadinecolbath5584 Жыл бұрын

Thanks!! I really needed to hear this today!!!! I now know I am being played so he can look good to the world. I've wasted another 16 years just to keep being hurt.

@thatcoolguyusaw Жыл бұрын

You get what you deserve

@Jay-vs4fi Жыл бұрын

This is what I learned from my ex. We dated for 8 months and she was great, but was super concerned about her outlook. She was more worried about different doctrinal belief and broke up with me as a result.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless Jay

@agnesr.4664 Жыл бұрын

I don't know your story and the motives snd behavior of your ex - but I would say, doctrinal differences are quite important.

@maggievada4797 Жыл бұрын

Home run Mark. Yeah! 👋👋Cool dude. Brother Mark.👍🏼

@RASHASA1237 Жыл бұрын

This is very good bibical information be blessed!!!🕊

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

So glad it was helpful! God is good!

@Lucylu723 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, God knew I needed this😊❤🙏🏾

@monicadesita6374 Ай бұрын

God is so great! Thank you Heavenly Father. I love you

@heavenlyprecog23 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video….the messages are always on time 😊😊😊

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

So glad it was timely! God is good!

@heavenlyprecog23 Жыл бұрын

@Mark: ALL THE TIME 🥳🥳🥳

@FatBellyChemist1234 Жыл бұрын

Gracias Pastor Mark!!!!!

@aliciaANDanthonySandoval Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. God bless you all. In Jesus name I pray Amen Alicia

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless you too!

@Precious_Gift_Amaka Жыл бұрын

Also when someone just want you for his/her life decorations. They just pretend to be who you wants but soon try to drag you down to compromise for their real self. Say someone who does not see premarital sex as a sin would agree to date without sex and along the line pressure the other for sex.

@danilaroche1156 5 ай бұрын

That's an issue. If he's a true Christian this should be addressed. It took me years to see sexual sin was wrong.

@vania698 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! God is good!

@jerrylagesse9046 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

You are very welcome! God is good!

@jillwylie9175 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately I got into a friendship, they took me for granted and have been lied to me about everything.

@traceygray4007 Жыл бұрын

Thank you❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless!

@TheMobilTrader Жыл бұрын

Thanks for producing your videos Mark. Just a thought, why do all the examples in your video show the man in error/ negative light? Just something I noticed. Please don't take this as a hard judgement. In the world today, media, advertisements, etc all seem to paint us men in a negative view. Something to ponder brother. Again thanks for your content. God bless!

@Kaycee-mr5bb Жыл бұрын

At this stage of my life I’m beyond to dating based on his physical look. Can I trust him? I prefer to take my time get to know someone at least 3 months or so of getting to know him. I learned that people can act really good at first and paint you an amazing picture. Once they have you emotionally involved then the real them comes out. So far, it has been working out for me to intentionally get to know someone to weed out the bad ones 😊

@SuperAnime4444 Жыл бұрын

Is it bad if I always insist on being friends first before being their boyfriend when I meet someone new? I have anxiety. So I don't like jumping into a boyfriend &girlfriend relationship right off the bat with someone I just met.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

No, it's not bad. But be careful it's not just semantics, meaning you are romantic but calling it friends still. Friendship should actually be friendship, not just a prelude to dating :)

@EieiExamplEeiEi Жыл бұрын

My buddy I fall in love with also did the same thing as you did. He likes me too but...he said it was too fast and he was so afraid of losing me. He afraids that he won't be able to protect me and he will drag me down. He is the nicest boy I've met, he treats me as I deserved. Ohh God, I really love him. I want to ask you , how long do you intent to remain in friendzone? Are your feeling and your friends mutal? Thank you ,God bless you.

@SuperAnime4444 Жыл бұрын

@@EieiExamplEeiEi In my case, we just met through a dating website, and I said I just want to start as friends. The last girl I dated made my anxiety flare badly. So, I do this as a cautionary step to first know the person. If I actually feel romance with her, then I think I would be ready to move out of friendzone.

@lmn7064 Жыл бұрын

@SuperAnime4444 Dating websites are for dating, not friendship. Sounds like you're not ready in general. Other people can't trigger what is already healed within you, so it's less that the girl triggered your anxiety and more than you need more single time alone maturing in Christ before you're actually ready to go there. Don't lead people on, even unintentionally, tho it seems you kinda know u r

@daughterofthemosthighking656 Жыл бұрын

I see no reason dating websites cannot begin as friendships. I made mistakes in the past “jumping into non-Christlike worldly relationships.” Just because someone was , “cute” I have never actually had a real Christlike relationship and I’ve been married 3 times.. after being divorced now 7 years, I “for sure” intend to start out w a “Christ like friendship” before considering anything more.. If it goes well, and attraction is there, then we can see what level they have their own relationship w God.. first… if they have a porn issue, they would be man enough to be honest and ask me to pray for them.. as for me, I have low self confidence r/t aging which has nothing to do w my relationship w Christ.. I intend to have surgery for “myself” then move forward in friendship- then dating relationships. I’m thankful God knows my heart… He is Who matters most anyway.

@adiscourse9489 Жыл бұрын

Conscientious people end up being close friends.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

true. Mutual respect is so important

@Ldgreggbell Жыл бұрын

This video helps with the struggles I've been dealing with, except I've been the one giving them more chances and time.... and it's just getting worse.

@MrMister441 Жыл бұрын

Me too, had to call off a relationship and I can tell you it hurts severely

@Ldgreggbell Жыл бұрын

@@MrMister441 that's the least of my concern at the moment, this relationship is starting to impact my mental health to the point I feel like I'm days or a week from having a breakdown

@MrMister441 Жыл бұрын

@@Ldgreggbell very true it's wise to guide your heart with all diligence for out of it comes the issues of life - pro 4:23. I have been in the same situation, that's why I had to call it off. The lady gave me depression. I have faith God will guide me to find a more suitable person some day, and I hope He will also guide you to find a suitable person too.

@tylerhewlett4124 Жыл бұрын

Amen! 😇✝️❤️

@MCharlerySmith Жыл бұрын

Yep, I saw this recently in someone who tried to come back into to my life. Had to back away because they started playing silly games of triangulation and poor communication. These things can happen with potential dates, friends or business partners. My patience was praised in times past by this person but it was clearly being weaponised against me So, I removed my presence to retain my mind. May God bless them with truthful revelation. Mark, I left a comment on another video you did recently about why we struggle to forget some people. It was about the deeper spiritual side of how soul ties can and may work and how our prayer life should respond to that. I don't see the comment there now and I'm wondering if either I accidentally didn't post it properly or if was it deleted? Just wondering, but if the latter is true please feel free to say why it was removed.

@katwoman1413 Жыл бұрын

Stop sleeping with people and stop inviting devil's to dine at your table and you won't have soul ties.

@MCharlerySmith Жыл бұрын

@@katwoman1413 . 😄 Ignorant and judgemental. I'm a practicing Christian and practice those sexual ethics. David and Jonathan had a soul tie and they weren't in bed! Any two people who care about each other will have a certain strength to their soul tie because the mind and heart are engaged. My comment is about recognising red flags better.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

Hey Matthew, I did not delete anything from you so not sure what happened there :) You're a regular on this channel and have always been respectful even when we disagree, so I wouldn't do that! God bless :)

@leahv.2537 Жыл бұрын

I was recently watching a pastor talk about soul ties. He said it's a new age concept in origin but went into detail about what it really is. I believe he said it had to do with familiar spirits and strongholds setting up when people sleep with folks outside of marriage.

@NoCappingSportsLegend Жыл бұрын

Do you think you possibly dealt with a narcissist because you mentioned triangulation and poor communication that is something a lot of narcissists do

@stephaniemichelle9878 Жыл бұрын

Amen!!!!! AMEN!!!!!!!!!!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless!

@DemonDavisK Жыл бұрын

What are the best way to overcome rejection? I usually fear asking someone out due to getting rejected so many times.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

this video talks about that: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gK2Taqynm9_HpWg.html

@loressavargas2020 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless!

@tracyoguntokun4284 Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏✝️🙏♥️

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

God bless!

@catherymartinez6957 Жыл бұрын

Well you know what I'm a single person and I have to learn about all these relationships and people and friends that I dealt with in my lifetime and I have dealt with a lot of things in the world these are three different things hear what I'm saying is that a 20-point right now that I can't help but not to be by myself I have to be by myself it's not a choice is that I have to know that being with self is the most important thing a person could do at this moment with themselves right now and every day because you're conscious throws or you're self-conscious throws you off sometimes all for focus about who you are and what you want to do or what is the purpose of life and that's all right now I'm thinking as it as a single person is myself

@noracastro510 Жыл бұрын

Pastor Mark, what would say about this guy that’s pursuing a serious relationship with me. I love the Lord and want to be in ministry. He loves the Lord and wants to be in ministry. However, I’m 2 years older and a bit farther along in my spiritual journey, as well as life mature. I respect him though but we both agree that that at this point I’m more mature. Should we continue dating?

@everydayisnew1831 Жыл бұрын

He may be gifted by the Lord in a different way than you. Truly, all you need to do is ask the Lord to show you His plans for you and notice who's on that journey alongside you or expecting you by hearing from the Lord.

@folumb 11 ай бұрын

Hey Mark, how much time is it appropriate to give someone? Been dating a girl for almost 2 years and been asking her to be more considerate and serving in our relationship. She's improved but still acts in a self centered way a lot. I don't want to discount her improvement and be inpatient, but also feel very discouraged that this person (who says she loves me) just isn't showing it in the way I thought.

@danilaroche1156 5 ай бұрын

Sounds like a strong hold. Learned entitled behavior. I'd take a break and let her think about things. When u reconnect see if she gets it. Keep in mind, this selfish attitude is encouraged by toxic feminism.

@eve3363 Жыл бұрын

It is very odd for me because I met someone in July and we decided to date in early November. So we waited quite some time. But there is no emotional growth. I would always tell him i don't want to force anything and to just be honest with his feelings. Communication wasn't too bad but it was like I was initiating conversations. I told him I felt abandoned in the relationship and hr said we could date openly. I'm just so upset because why would someone play with your feelings when you gave them time and time again to just be honest. I called him last night and texted him to respond but he has yer to. I have now deleted his number out my phone and am emotionally withdrawing from the situation. It still hurts but we never had sex thank God.

@danilaroche1156 5 ай бұрын

Glad you didn't have sex. Is he in Christ?. He sounds immature.

@matthewburgos1447 Жыл бұрын

How do I know if God is telling me to move forward with the relationship?

@danilaroche1156 5 ай бұрын

If the person loves you. Loves Christ and communication is good. Ask your pastor/counselor.

@kimbrown5136 3 ай бұрын

Lord Jesus I want to now why did you take James away from me because I have not done anything to him.

@dcharmed2 Жыл бұрын

I keep having anxiety over this guy who is taking it really slow. He says he likes me but he is always busy at work and he does not have time to even have a proper date with me. What do you think?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

Move on. If he can’t do simple things now it’s not going to get any better

@kevinjohnson6259 Жыл бұрын

Nah, depends if he is in country or out of country.

@hg3895 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like an avoidant attachment style. I agree move on!

@danilaroche1156 5 ай бұрын

Nah......

@american_duelistguys4088 Жыл бұрын

My ex and I definitely still have feelings for each other and we both want to be together again. It's biblical.. *4 really sticks out to me. I'm not ready for another relationship financially and emotionally and frankly Michele wants to finish her studies in school which will be over in less than 7 months before she even dates again. When we originally broke up due to school and long distance WHICH WE BOTH agree we need to be in person in order to get back together.. see she's emotionally traumatized bc she wanted to move on and met a guy who professed Christian faith but apparently only wanted one thing from her... sex. She held strong and he broke her heart. But according to her she never wanted to break up with me and she was constantly thinking about me all day and night. She wasn't happy with the other guy. The guy she truly wanted as her bf was me. And she made it known when she contacted me and we've been talking since. I don't feel ready and neither does she. We're both mutual and biblical. What's your thoughts on this Mark?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

If you aren't ready then i don't see the point of talking and such. it sounds like you two are dating without the titles or else she is just playing games and likes the attention. So I would either get in or get out, middle ground is a no go :)

@american_duelistguys4088 Жыл бұрын

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger does dating without titles mean someone isn't committed to the relationship

@brianatasheka Жыл бұрын

@@american_duelistguys4088 I see it as why would you give someone that attention and that part of you when you are not dating? It lead you to be lead on with no real goal or endpoint. Just living in the moment. It’s best to be intentional and right now you both bc cannot be intentional so you might be wasting your time. If it is truly meant to be neither of you are going anywhere. When you’re both ready you can be more intentional. Best to save your heart from the pain. Other wise it’s sounds like friends with emotional benefit which isn’t biblical. If you both want to be together but are not ready, no need to stay in contact too much. Just let it happen when it’s time. I know it’s easier said than done but rather do that then to ruin it trying to force something even a friendship when it’s not time.

@dawnstonerock4253 Жыл бұрын

Take your time. Pray for Gods guidance in everything about your relationship. He WILL guide you

@sunshinesunflowerz1647 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my ex and I. I miss him but it's not the right timing yet.

@nsasupporter7557 Жыл бұрын

If that person is a waste of time then why did God bring them into my life in the first place?

@rebeccaconn389 Жыл бұрын

That’s how I feel right now … I guess it holds lessons to take into the next relationship.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

People make choices :) If you made the choice to be in a relationship and got attached, you can't blame that on God. But to answer why God allowed it, this video might help: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/l6-fftKYkpvYg2w.html

@abigailchimene3378 Жыл бұрын

Not everyone in your life comes from God, this I have learned lately, sometimes we enter relationship by ourselves not asking God's will and when we get frustrated we blame God.

@abigailchimene3378 Жыл бұрын

Before entering any relationship ask God will first

@nsasupporter7557 Жыл бұрын

@@abigailchimene3378 that’s my point, this person was supposedly a Christian because I met them on a Christian dating website. But all they did was lead me on, waste my time, lie to me etc

@kevinjohnson6259 Жыл бұрын

Some of y'all are too desperate for companionship that you allow others to treat you with disregard and disrespect. If you're lonely you better go and get a bible, a dog, cat, fish, bird, a hobby... something 😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Жыл бұрын

Matthew 7:1-5

@eclectickatalyst2442 Жыл бұрын

🤍✝️📖✨: Ooo! Mark, THIS is the very subject matter I’ve been pondering & 🤔 developing in my own LifeCoaching|teachings (w/a biblical worldview application) as well, myself! Just simply wanna relay to YOU: Good stuff, brother!!✨ I’ve come to the same, or at least somewhat similar conclusion guided by the Holy Spirit…🤜✨🤛❕ 🔎⭐️🔎⭐️🔎⭐️🔎