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for these traits to be respected , the man also has to be emotionally healthy ..it doesn't work with narcissists or insecure men

1. Exhibit healthy boundaries (don’t be too easy). 2. Have good self control (don’t get too drunk/high, don’t give in to peer pressure). 3. Emotional independence (don’t let one person’s feelings/actions ruin your day) 4. Self-preservation (be able to protect yourself, don’t throw caution to the wind). 5. Self prioritization (don’t prioritize a guy over yourself).

1. Boundaries 2. Self-Control 3. Emotional Independence 4. Self Preservation 5. Prioritize Yourself

When I do this, it pisses some men off. Then I know immediately they had bad intentions. I get accused of being full of myself when I set boundaries. It's crazy

The guy I’m dating told me one of the reasons he was attracted to me was because he saw me as smart and self-sufficient. I appreciated that so much because my last relationship, the ex saw me as competition instead of his partner. One of the reasons the relationship broke down was due to his insecurities.

Do all these things for yourself, not for a man! Men come and go. He's speaking the truth though

The fun Thing is....you have to learn to do this Either you're in a relationship or not

So basically SELF LOVE! Have morals, standards, be and continue building yourself, self sufficient & sustaining. AND STICK TO THEM no matter who comes!! No matter how fine. These things should be done just in general. Keep that. Dont lose who u are already.

I remember I was talking to this guy and I dont think we were even 2 days into talking and he asked me for a naked picture. I blocked his behind so quick. When I saw him again he asked me why and i said you crossed my boundary and I don't appreciate it. Try that on somebody else because it gets none here!

Meditation is the best ladies. I have been meditating for 35 days.. I came out of depression, anxiety and fears. I am peaceful and very happy in my life.

So in a nutshell, I need to start working on respecting myself before I can expect a man to do so. Ugh, this is some tough love, Kev.

Nobody cares what men want. 🙄 they don’t even hold themselves to the same standards . I’m gonna be myself and if he doesn’t like it ... that’s too bad .

How to earn respect from *anyone* Never look down on yourself but stay humble, admit your mistakes and forgive what can be forgiven, never make fun of others and stand your ground. Be strong❤️

The most problem with dating is that most women will project an image onto the guy which they believe it will be satisfying for the guy . The only problem is that you can’t play a role forever

Basically- self love is key and if you’re putting a man first 😒you’re out here losing

Healthy boundaries are often confused with having a wall up!

Thank you so much for this. I’ve been practicing all of these after leaving a long relationship where I was heavily dependent. Now I’m focused on my career, getting my masters, and having my own vehicle. Hopefully I’ll be traveling alone more soon too. I barely recognize the woman I was and I never want to return. Thanks for touching in this. I definitely respect my time and peace more.🙏🏾🙏🏾

I love and appreciate how you focus more on building women as individuals and I think we should put the work on ourselves and focus only on being the best of ourselves and not trying to hook a guy because when you become the best you,you will ultimately attract as such!!

I’ve listened to about 10-15 of these videos so far in the last 2 days and I’ve come to the conclusion that I am not as off track as I thought. I’m almost there in fact. It’s like I’m putting the finishing touches on my masterpiece called “Self Worth”. I’m glad I found this channel. ❤️

After watching this. I can confirm!...that I was a DAMN GOOD WOMAN and that it was HIS LOSS. Like for real. I did everything on this list and he broke my heart anyway. SMH. Clearly he wasn’t the one...CLEARLY 😤😒

I wish I would have had this advice when I was young. Very important for girls/women. Thanks for sharing.

You’re absolutely right. I never thought about it that way before. From the mans point of view, if he got you so easy what assurance does he have another man won’t be able to do the same with you in his absence. Totally makes sense. Thanks for that Kev.

If you dont "Stand" for something you will fall for anything.......

Kev VERY often talks about the type of men we shouldn't waste our time on. He is not only telling women that they need to be respectful to themselves he is also warning them against tricks that guys play on women and manipulation they use. None of his information is biassed. He is literally in every video telling everyone to stand up for themselves and to not let go their boundaries for a dude if anything he IS pro women. He's not perfect but he is being genuine. When that stops I won't hear anything else he has to say but so far hes given some very sound, unbiased and psychologically correct advice. In all honesty men have their own women Bible to. Unfortunately there just learning from a lot of players rather than real grown men that don't play great games. Don't think men are reading up on us but there not reading up on us to do right by us. There reading up on us to take what they want and give nothing back.🥴 Ladies Please don't get mad information. Information is our best defence! If you pay attention a lot of what hes saying is a lot of what we want as women. Men are not that different from women and what they want out of relationships. There just not as bold as us to admit sometimes.🤨

You not only give relationship advice, you give life advice.

Blew my mind! Guy I dated, blocked me after seeing me socializing and hugging a group of male friends from my upbringing. I was confused, #4 made sense.

I ALWAYS HAVE TO REALLY GET TO KNOW A GUY FIRST. TO SEE IF WE CAN EVEN BE FRIENDS AND HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON.

OMG; I found you on Spotify today and I have been listening all afternoon, just want to say thank you for the content. I am so enjoying it

"We want you to handle yo damn self" 🤣💀

Thank you for this! I have corrected a man 3 times and he is now more into me then anything. I was willing to loose him and he sensed this.

I L.O.V.E. Kev's messages. The amount of confidence, security, and assurance in his masculinity is a breath of fresh air. Too many videos on youtube with men giving other men toxic advice. I appreciate Kev and his clear and un-jaded advice. Keep it up, Kev! Us strong women appreciate you!!!!

I love this video it feels so good to know there's still men out there like this. 👍💕💕💕

1: Healthy boundaries 2: Self-control 3: 4: Self-perseveration 5: Self-prioritization Ya know when I think back to middle and high school, I was often told I was mean or hard on the boys. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I wouldn’t give them any attention

Know your worth ladies! Don't settle for anyone less than you deserve!

Date 101 Enjoy yourself be respectful smile not hard. If he just cheap want to go out for drinks wasting your time. Go out with a man that can afford to take you out...go from there see if he's what you're looking for

This is the best talk so far! You are so correct! Thank You. I have been married for thirty eight years and thought i was a strong woman until i heard these words.

I've had to handle men who thought they could hug me in my husband's face or not! My husband & I have decided we won't allow the opposite sex hug us unless they're family! Some men I had to just about break glass bottles over their heads! I was raised to be nice, but life taught me to run ppl away who don't understand boundaries! Ppl see me as small! They don't know I'm a bodybuilder & exmilitary! I have no trouble ridding my life of any enemy!!!

You're the big brother we need. Thanks for the solid advice, always!

Sounds like men are really insecure & have too many trust issues if a woman has to behave this way. He should never think, "She's this way with every man she likes". This is so not true. I've liked guys where the chemistry came later on, where it wasn't instant. Not every man gets treated the same.

Hey big brother you're loved in appreciated

I wish I had access to your videos when I was in my 20's. This is good life advice for all relationships, especially yourself. It took me 40 years to finally love myself and realize my worth. Thank you for teaching our young women what healthy relationships and good men are. You are an awesome human ❤

Kev, you’re amazing: the best on the internet for advice: So many others tell women how to play the game back. But you- nahhh you build us up. We are empresses and deserve respect when we hold ourselves in high regard. Blessing . Xx

KEY WORDS: A STRONG Man!

Emotional independence 🤔🤔🤔🤔 I like that! I've never heard of it before. It makes sense. I feel like that's what I'm definitely lacking.

I found that my nonchalance to a mans bad behavior went against me. I just did it to keep from snapping. Smh..you live and you learn

@6:50 You’re hitting on Attachment Styles big time too! I highly recommend people look into that too while we learning and healing and growing. We learn very early how to feel about ourselves and our connections and relationships to others (romantic and otherwise), from the way it’s mirrored to us by our caretakers and earliest experiences. Kev Hick Thank you for speaking this in such a practical way. Been in KZfaq university since start of quarantine- you one of my fave teachers 👩🏾‍🏫. “Alright-I’ll get withchyall later. “✌🏾

It all return to " SELF " , and that is the goal ! 🖤🌙🦴

"we want you to handle your damn self" daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaang preach. New subbie 😉

It’s always tricky finding a balance with all of these points. It’s easier say than done

Loved it Kev! Love your neighbor as yourself. If you don’t love you, your neighbor (boyfriend)is going to come up short. You won’t have anything to give.

Kev I love the fact that you have reduced the words you put on the side. Now it makes us concentrate more on what you are saying. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

Thank you. I'm talking to this man 18yrs older than me, and I'm happy to know that I've been doing everything right, at my own pace. I think he thought becus I'm young and he has 💲 that I was gonna be easy... He's so confused and turned on by me... I don't give a damn about his "status," because I demand the same RESPECT.💕 Self-respect and Confidence are Major Keys ladies!!!

Ladies, don’t be afraid to lose them even if you set your boundaries and they don’t like it. Don’t be afraid!

These are basic life lessons some of us just need to hear. Thanks!

I hope women really listen to this. This is awesome❤

Thank you for this information. Truth hurts sometimes, but Ladies we need and must hear these things.😔💕

The topics you spoke off put things in a new light for me; and put a sharper focus on if people who've chronically struggled with mental health should abstain from relationships.

Really. I have plenty guys tell me that they think that I don't need help and therefore they don't feel needed. Also, I notice that men have issues with seeing a respectable women as sexual.

Love your straightforward and easy manner in giving tips. Like a big brother helping a little sis out with dating!

Well it must be a lot of dudes cant handle strong independent weman that knowns who she is and what she want. Cuzz I all ways got told I'm to much and stuck up , I even had a dude tell me he going to or some body going knock me off that high ladder I'm on. It's crazy being a respectful get told I'm be lone with that attitude.

Yep! I feel the same way about all this respect stuff. I EXPECT THE SAME THING out of a man as he expects for me. If I don't get it I move on! And feel bad for what?🙄😒😎

This guy is so calm and clear when he speaks.

Emotional Independence - needed to hear this today 🙌🏾

Yo such an inspiration to the young female generation

Do tell, where does a lady find these "needle in a haystack" men!

Between this channel and what I’ve learned from Female Dating Strategy (if you don’t know what that is please do yourself a favour and scroll through the handbook) I’m saved lol this saved me from the bob the builder, Pick me, I’ll do anything to keep a guys attention type bitch I once was. I feel so in control of my dating life. I’ve never felt this confident about being single, I could even go as far to say powerful ! I’m 25 now and at this rate I’ll have a ring in my finger by 35 😂 I completely understand now, Why my relationships weren’t getting off the ground, why I was attracting such shitty people into my life, and how to stop. I’m confident I can build not only happy relationships but healthy ones too. Leaning the best ways to conduct myself never stops, but I’m just so freaking grateful for how far I’ve come so far.

I choose my intention for the day...I love that!

I like that thought choose ya ENERGY for the day. Awesome I love u black king.Thanks for these words .them some beautiful jewels u dropping. I appreciate them keep them coming.

Don’t forget that a lot of men that claim to want this in a woman gets around her and calls and plays games, disrespects her, calls her masculine, intimidating, strict, and too serious. Find a guy that compliments these same standards in himself because otherwise the guy Wants you to water yourself down for them and lower your standards while complaining at the same time. A guy can like you but never care to work on himself and think he deserves to have you. Nahhh

Self care is extremely important! I’m all about that mental health! Have people around you that love and support you!

Kev I really appreciate your videos. I have followed you for a while and your sticking with your own personal values has been a great example!

Meditation is where it's at when it comes to mood regulation.

So true! I used to lack self control when it came to alcohol and he started losing respect for me. And I also had zero emotional control.. Wish I would've seen sooner

Kevin hick this information is very important to be in a healthy relationship I always appreciate your knowledge for my daily life.

What pisses me off when men who demand my digits in the first day of talking or asking me personal details about my personal life .... put them in their place go bother someone else I don't need to answer to no man like that .....

This stuff should be teached at school, really! Thank you for sharing 💖❣️

You are a fantastic speaker, clear and highly intelligent in your delivery, thank you for all your support and wisdom :)

"He's looking for an employee and a servant." Wow that's good! 👀

It literally all goes back to the woman loving, caring, respecting, and holding HERSELF to a higher standard, for a man to love/respect her... that’s what I’m getting..... it’s like once you find your own self love, confidence, strength etc.... that’s what you’ll get in return from a love aspect.... which is truly beautiful. ❤️ it really is!! It’s realizing that self love is the most important kind of love( aside from your love of God. Of COURSE!) From another perspective.... it’s so easy to say these things, but once IN a relationship and your emotions really get to flowing.. the mind will mess with you...A LOT/heavy... I’m dealing with it.. From this video though, I dead ass, in my head, made a home base to come back to if I start overthinking (cause is women do that, TRUST) But it’s me going back to the advice and wisdom I took from this video that’ll help A ton. Y’all men stay patient we out here trying. 🤣 “it’s the different hormones for me.!” Also, why tf is love and relationships such a damn science🙄 I’m 100% here for it, hence why I am watching this video but it’s just crazy to think about the the biological differences of the female and male brain.. shits craaaazzzy. ❤️ I love LOVE though. So that’s cool 😎👌🏻❤️

Im a Goddess and expect my counter part to equal me. No questions asked.

Best advice, ever. Balanced, concise and to the point. It should be a mandatory video for all women who want a meaningful relationship with a quality man.

I get excited everytime you upload a video!! 😂

This works for everyone. Family, friends, workplaces, etc....it's never about what you bring to the table you already know. It's about what ppl are bring into your life. Are they bring life or death to you?

TY, Emotional independence is a must for everyone. Self soothe. Self prioritization is definitely a great self care tip. If you don't practicing prioritizing yourself, it will be difficult to maintain your energy and happiness. You will quickly grow resentful at others because you chose to overextend yourself instead of setting healthy boundaries and learning when to say NO. Namaste 🕊️Peace🤸 Shalom 🐵

Listening to you has made me realize how many assumptions people truly make,and how easily they screw themselves out of happiness without proper communication

Why does the woman have to always do the job to get /keep a man? Men don't even put the least effort nowadays smh!

Man this is good stuff Kev! Thanks so much for that perspective.

I am a pretty strong person but no one is perfect..it sounds like men are perfection. When they are not perfect at all.

How am I just knowing this man?! You're good, Kev. Well done!

So well spoken & True 👍 👏 🙌 thanks Kev, enjoy your day

Kev Hicks.... You dropping another video today? (Just finished watching your last one earlier today..... Loved it) I am so lit..... I haven't even started watching this one and based on the subject title..... I'm thanking you in advance. 😊

You are so wise. Thank you for sharing your detailed insight.

The fun thing is I have all these traits. I'm respected. But I'm way more single than something else for these same respected traits. It's amazing.

All of these are summarized by the concept of SELF RESPECT! 😉

Powerful stuff! Good advice. No. Great advice.

My Biggest boundary in an exclusive or committed relationship is a man engaging with other women.

Take care of yourself that’s ☮️ , 🙏 u for All The advice Kev💯🙌🏽

Well I'm at the age now where I apply these 4 things!!

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