It is funnier to play with them.

And once again WALK AWAY.

@@gteixeiranot really, you will never win with them, frankly they aren’t worth your stress, anger, or energy. Best thing to do is walk away, and never look back

@@bernmcg2699 Most are useless old people, they can't win against a good beating stick,

Narcissists are VERY good at getting what they want. Walking away doesn't always work. It's so easy to manipulate people. It's all a game. People are pawns. Everyone serves a purpose in life. Otherwise, why have them around you? Seriously. I know they do in my life anyway. You have NO idea the lengths they would go to to have someone in their pocket or get the desired attention. Trust me. I've done some MAJOR stuff to get attention. We're not bad people though. Everybody acts like we are.

War Games

God bless Richard Grannon. ✝️

💯. Rich has narc relationship with his subs

Well said! You expressed this in fewer words than I ever could. Words of wisdom. 🙌🏼♥️✨

Does this mean I should stop throwing dog shit over my narcissistic neighbour's fence?

💯💯💯💯

HOW?

Gets really muddy when there’s children involved. You have to confront them. It’s sick. Someone uses their children for control. I’m living it right now.

😂😂😂

i agree but kids ?! i dont want contact ta all or our daughter to aee him she doesnt want to wither ?! help

Factz

They can’t take what they dish out at all!

That's called grey rock

No, no no. See the vid what do narcissists do when alone? If they're ignored the challenge is accepted. They plot, scheme, backstab, form alliances, control all the people they know you know. You ignoring them is just another way get back at you. You don't get off that easily.

But this is what narcissist do and say

I agree with this comment. I found myself thinking, as I watched this video, that doing this correctly would involve giving them even MORE of your time, attention, and energy, just so you could "get back," which feels like still being hooked. And it's not very adult. I just want to sidestep their games. What they do with that is their business, not mine. I just want to stop repeating this pattern in my other relationships. That's the hard part.

THIS

Yes. Roundbeargames you’re correct. I don’t want to torture anyone, I just want to be free.

Best advise 👌 Working on yourself make them less significant starve them of the attention they crave untill they are missing that "va va voom" For a burger 🍔 When you had a steak 😋

True

@@tomsmarkovs1946 Oh my- you really need to get away.

@@auntihooha no kidding. living with and waking up to that kind of stress every day is a killer. whatever she may bring to the table, it's not worth the price of living in fear of a monster.

That was as simple and as true as it gets!

the animal cruelty hypocrisy one is interesting, my sister has been displaying more narcissistic traits since being with her boyfriend (who seems very narcissistic), and she is very hypocritical about animal welfare. she keeps rats, which actually started with one i was intending to feed to my snake. while i always prefer feeding humanely euthanized frozen-thawed rodents this one wasnt eating and I wanted to try offering it a live one to stop its hunger strike. when i got it at home the snake wasnt interested and since it was a juvenile and was already on the large side for that snake it would have been too large by the time I was ready to offer another meal. so I offered it to her to keep as a pet, and she since has gotten two more. im also somewhat allergic to rats, i wear a mask on feedign day to avoid too much exposure, but she keeps hers in my dads office which I have to pass through on the way to do my laundry. i keep all my snakes in my room, even though its inconvenient, so there is quite a bit of entitlement demonstrated already by keeping her personal pets in a shared space. even though i no longer feed any live rodents and all six of my snakes happily take frozen-thawed rats or mice off of tongs she still acts as if im some unfeeling monster that im not bothered by preparing dead animals to feed my pets. the drawback of feeding this way is you do have to sometimes waste the rats if the snakes dont want them, but again they were all euthanized humanely so its not a big deal. she acts as if its such a tragedy that a rat captively bred for the express purpose of becoming food was 'wasted'. not really a waste anyways because its necessary to give the snake regular opportunities to eat whether it actually does or not. this empathy is either just an act or a form of emotional dysregulation akin to that of a borderline, not true or healthy empathy. her true lack of empathy towards animals (and humans) is evident when it comes to the family dogs. ive always walked and fed them but ive recently been suffering from severe asthma attacks almost every day. so keeping up with the walking has been difficult. ive asked if she could step up for a while and take over some of the walking duties and she hasnt done it once. my empathy for the dogs who have come to expect the enrichment of daily walks always gets the best of me and i force myself to take them out and it takes me an hour or two just to recover from a 20 minute walk around the block. a real test of empathy is whether or not you are willing to inconvenience yourself to act on it, as they say , talk is cheap, and its easy to express empathy verbally but also relatively meaningless if not matched by action. and to be clear my sister has all the time in the world right now as she's on school holidays, its not that she's too busy to help out.

Mine has so much power over me still because more than 1/3 of my life's savings (I'm disabled with no income) and everything I own are all still under his control. Is he cooperating? No. He's Hoovering me like a staulker... I can't Wait to get my own values back in the driver's seat of my life. Congratulations for having apparently done it. Good for you!

Not just silence.. STOP doing any and everything that you have been doing for them previously. EVERYTHING!! that’s how I was able to rid myself of this one..give nothing!! No conversation No sex No cooking No cleaning Not even a glance.. the demon flee within couple weeks. Resist the ------ and it will _________??

yeah, I noticed they really enjoy it when they make you break the silence, it is like they are thinking *oh I finally can manipulate her again* and then lead you from a mere argument to complete madness... in the end, they are chilling and smiling talking in a calm voice while you are the *mad crazy scary one*

​@@gooddoctor9542They get supply when they see that you contact them first. It feeds their ego. They need you to need them. Stay faaaaar away from these reptilian demons. Stay no contact for life and live happily ever after without them✨💖

so the silent treatment? sounds narcissistic to me...

@@christianstill.6654It doesn’t always work that way. If you choose to stay with the narcissist and they give you the silent treatment, sometimes you just have to ignore them.

Yeah I had to go no-contact on my entire family. For decades. It sent them nuts.

Truth!!!

True and sometimes they will come again and again. How many people out there that we think are simply narcissists? Many of these people are more than just narcissists, they’re psychopaths, sociopaths, and Machiavellians. Some of these people may also have serious mood disorders or personality disorders too. I think this kind of thing is either more common these days, or just more in your face as American society grew more liberal, or, that maybe given the greater connectivity people have these days with the internet, social media, smartphones, etc. We make more connections with more people than ever before. Either way, narcissism is such a disturbing phenomenon.

When I went onto a different room, after hours of yelling and talking, my ex would scream I've abandoned her like bloody murder.

@@jasonwimberly5636 They are also Very Subtly MALEVOLENT ! Mentally , Physically and Verbally and Use what i call METACOMMUNICATION to administer their Abuse ie Pulling faces to signal their Disingenuous Disgust hence suggesting they are superior and also twisting the Victims mind to have them Think ( What's the matter with me etc) - until eventually the victim realises the Narcs Metacommunication is Projected at them upon which Shock sets in and more confusion for the Victim.

True & i did the same so never again i would be around such a person.

Yes but what about the people unsafe. Do people have to actually get cops involved. And does that even work

​@@LeayahChristine go to the police if you're unsafe. If you're truly unsafe there's nothing to "work" or not work.

Dude I do not feel safe especially from police and court!!!!

@@sanctuairegaia5213 yeah it's a stupid comment. What if someone was in serious danger who read that, and then cut them off and ended up dead.

thats bollocks. the more success the baby mother sees, the more money she will try to con out of you.

THE GREATEST SUCCESS FOR ME N MY SONS IS STAYING TF AWAY FRM HIM😈HIM SEEING WE NEVER NEEDED HIM

@@suncity22001wow.. you have trauma… if child support goes up just ask for an itemized bill to see everything the money is spent on, just make sure you get it in writing and have a lawyer sign off and be a witness or have it done there in court. Simple, not sure why y’all make things complicated for yourselves emotionally, mentally and financially.

​@Melanin2670 Salute! 💯💯❤ They want children, but they don't wanna pay at the end. Everything is money nowadays because bills, foods & etc. What dumb MF don't want their children to ride in a nice car, have the best clothes, shelter, school & etc??! It's time and energy ✨️ Stay GREAT, beautiful!! Bless you & your children. Safe journey. 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜

@@suncity22001 were talking about narcissists not relationships with narcissists

Thank you ❤

@@user-op4dj5ok8o your very welcome ❤️

I soooo needed to hear this. Thank you❤

@@ceedee9669 your very welcome. Good luck on your journey x

i only started being loved once i escaped my 'family' home. ive been physically free for 10 years now and had hours and hours and hours of therapy. since becoming a mother, i realised how much my mother failed to protect her kids... she blames suspected adhd on why she didn't do anything. once i have my second child in about 3 months, i can allow myself to deal with that stress and put shit right once and for all. my mother allowed my dad to abuse my brother and her, then she allowed my brother to abuse herself and me, sadly that's barely the tip of the ice. you message... worth more than white gold to many many people.

Oh yes & you send them packing

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Yeah that's awful. 😢

😂😂😂

You just outed yourself lol

You have no understanding.

& i don't care if they hate either & that's their problem

Thank you for saying this - I thought that I was just some kind of narcissist magnet. No contact is the only way to go.

They are EVERYWHERE! They LOVE positions of power! So if people think they can ignore these types of people still are kidding themselves. They are your city managers, majors, cops, doctors, etc. They hold extreme prominent positions BECAUSE we have ignored them and walked away. They will destroy our communities

Exactly!

Yes, they are!

In normal world yes. I agree. Otherwise you'll lost your whole life. In relationships, with partner, friends or family definitely yes, - NO CONTACT! Otherwise you'll lost your whole life

Yeah but they still don't care in the way that a normal person would. They just move onto someone else

@@80sbaby90 Yes and then we don't care. Thats the whole point. They were never in it to begin with, they need to be given Oscars for their performance, its the best you will ever see in your life. But its not real.

@@80sbaby90 I don't think u understood what Richard said about reducing their impact on your life destroying their narcacisstic self image. If u did, u wouldn't be saying this.

I don't agree. .

Not with me 😂😂😂....I think I got my closure after he tasted his own medicine and than no contact 😂😂

This right here. After a while, I wound up mirroring his abuse for my own sanity (more-so to feel ANY sense of justice), but it doesn't fix anything. It does not change the narcissist, they don't seem to notice and they just keep abusing or neglecting you, or doubling down on their abuse if you piss them off. It's not worth it. Literally the best thing to do is don't mess with it. Run. You wouldn't mess with a beehive. Think of each bee as one of the many ways a narcissist can and will hurt you. You are no match. Just run away.

I couldn’t agree more! I want more of love out in the world, not hate!

Recently read, or heard from legit source that 1 in 6 people are narcissistic

Amen ♥️

Thank you.❤️🙏🔥✨

AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

U r right man.

Perfect!❤️

Ye I also realised this when i was 15. My narcissistic father who always beat my mother and torture my mother by brainwashing from night 11 pm till next morning 4 am talking all shits about his superioty and blaming her as the cause of her unsuccessful own life .He also gaslight me and my brother all the time. We can't able to focus on studies. Now as I'm writing this today itself npd father was on his rage.we suffer this every minute as we can't assume when will they get to these.

Unfortunately it's reality

In some cases, they can be taught to revile you, especially if they're involved with a narcissist or two.

I noticed my mom was a nar when I was 12. It hurt until I was 15 and decided I had no hope in her being a mom and got on with my life. Now she's homeless and living at my house because I can't picture her homeless 😂😂 she wouldn't survive it

I am in a relationship with one who treats me awfully despite me giving my world to, sad we have people who we love and care for treat us the worst way

Priceless

😂. This is gold. I won’t interrupt their fantasy and goal of having to find a new supply and won’t interrupt my safety, peace and happiness.💪🏾🤘🏽

😂😂😂😂😂 YES!!

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I don't understand what's funny about this.

And dont let them get an emotional rise out of you. They feed on that. It makes them feel powerful. Inside they are all very fragile little children and they know that and fear that everyone else will know it. When one starts talking to you (assuming you are not in a relationship with them) train yourself to think about something else while they are talking. Even if it is 'I wonder if there are any interesting articles in that magazine on the table over there.' And while they are talking completely ignore them and walk over and pick up the magazine and thumb through it and get immersed in an article. The ultimate gray rock.

Do not have any contact, move and you hopefully will never see them again. I have gone as far as deleted my FB account. New life for me finally, minus alot of loved ones but no choice. My loved ones chose him when I was paralyzed. No loyalty lost.

Agree! You have to completely disengage from them

Leave them to psychopaths to toy with

Really, what a waste of time. People rarely change.

Yes thank goodness for Bitcoin

They're not going to change so yes, it is best to just move on. They have a disorder. Let them be someone else's problem. I don't have time for playing games. They will never be happy anyway.

They will face their karma & it's a rude awakening for them

& you never want be around such persons ever again.

I do agree with you, but only if you can get away. I was married to one for 18 years and every time I tried to leave, or kick him out, he would cunningly manipulate the situation so that we stayed together. I am finally out, and living my best life.

Oh boy, tell me about it, I am from the East too, and was thinking the same like you, a sense of belonging with people who have gone through the same traumatic experience and understand what it is like dealing with a narcissist. Very thankful for such educational videos, you are not alone, God bless.❤

Exactly, no contact till I die, going on 6 yrs in 2023,life is excellent 👌 for me 24/7.

Awesome, thank you very much Richard . Spot on mate .

What are you going on about? You're watching a video on how to torture a narc, you then talk about how you couldn't give a shit & never ever think about them anymore.. Are you sure? Just that you go around posting about it says you still think about them.

@@TenableVegan I actually don’t and haven’t for over two years. I rarely watch content on this subject matter I just haven’t unsubscribed yet. When I was in the thick of it I was subscribed to all the content and was totally obsessed. I honestly, Hand on heart have healed. It took me years. And it’s a process and the ONLY way to get over it is no contact. After a year of no contact it’s all over in your mind.

@@TenableVegan Yep! They never ever think about them yet here they are telling everyone about them!

Dont wrestle a pig ; you both get dirt but the pig enjoys it

Speaking your mind and unload on them to call them out for the evil they have done against you....is most definitely not putting yourself to the same level.....

can you explain? in details, what does 'lowering yourself to their level means' pls

Yip, never wrestle a pig - you'll both get filthy and the pig will enjoy it.

@@peterwheeler4402 my ex narc taught me this.,.but what if you enjoy it too and not just the pig?😸😸😸

You're likely a narc

Facts. Anything you do or say that makes them feel shame or feel inferior will be seen as an attack against their false narrative.

Correctamundo!

How to trigger a narcissist- be yourself. Best to get far away as soon as possible.

they already idiot in the first place. Its the truth. Should had stayed in their lane tho.

Sometimes they come home pre-triggered. Then they have you to take it out on.

Not always possible. Could be your boss or a co worker or family member or other parent of your children. Even your adult child's parent or in laws

@@louise2091 This is actually the worst situation.. Yes you can quit your job, just to deal with another narc.. The big problem is that narcissists usually have alliances and a pack of enablers.. They gang up on you..

@@louise2091 Hi 👋🏼 yes you are correct, they could be your boss or your parent. You do have a choice as to whether tolerate abuse. I’m 7 years no contact with parents and family, I’m self employed too. The choice is yours. It’s not an easy choice but it’s a very simple one. Trust me when I say, they do not change. Ask yourself, in 5 years what will my situation look like? If you want more of the same , stay as you are. If you want change, be brave, let go 💕. Yes they have enablers who gang up on you, however if you have children, ask yourself, how do I want my children to see me? Do I want to be a shining example, or, do I want them to witness me being abused?

@@louise2091 You can still disengage by not allowing them to trigger you. You can deflect their abuse by refusing to show an emotional reaction to the crap they dish out. They distract easily. Don’t focus on their crap. Change their channel. Dial down their noise. Read up on cognitive dissonance. They provoke because they can’t bear to think of how they would handle it if you weren’t available to them. Feel sorry for them because they have zero insight. Emotionally they’re still 12 or 13 years old with barely intact egos. Like he said, there’s splitting. Fractured reasoning. Flat out disconnects that were a lifetime in coming.

I know this. But it's my mother and my daughters father and I get upset when they mess with my children, who have enough to deal with! But I know all of this but find i still have feelings to deal with. I'm no contact with my ex and imagine my mum is just a little girl who doesn't know better. I'm 62 and find I still crave to be seen and heard despite knowing that this is impossible. Thank you for your reply

I hope you are safe and stay that way. Once he is released, a no contact order is simply a piece of paper.

I'm good my son moved back from Florida to live with me

Thank you so much.

Facts

Thank you I’m healing and my life is better now that they are not here anymore. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yeah, gotta take precautions and use their own tactic of well-poisoning against them Though this time around, you shield the well in advance from their poisoning, aka make sure they find out way late or preferably last about getting exposed so they can't spin it around anymore. Garner with evidence, voila - the narcissist lost footing with all but their most gullible piglets (aka the ones giving him the least amount of sustenance) and will experience ANGUISH. From which they will hopefully learn about humility and not to become even more covert and finessed on their next try.

The trump court cases are going to get interesting

​@@johnsteel5347 It was interesting that JB goes to Hawaii and talks about almost loosing his Corvette.

So when someone gets into a fight and is angry because you hurt his feelings, you will call him narcissistic? Think about that.

@@darkizofficial facts don't care about feelings

What do you do when the narcissist is your son

Golden. I figured this out and use it 9n my brother and little sister. He's a damn crazy psycho and she's a little bitch. I have 2 more brothers that know this about them two. We all agree and have a plan. They'll be sorry. I'm only around them because of our elderly parents for now after that, they'll never be in my life. Freaks. I can't believe we're related. They'll be jailed or something. I travel with my husband for his work and never home. Never. I plan on getting rid of my cell phone which I can't wait. They couldn't find me with GPS. They can rot in Hell

The fact that your husband knew your stance so well and stood up so perfectly is actually glorious to hear.... would love to have seen that !1

I dropped my emotionally abusive gas lighting brother over 20 years ago. Not long ago, he personal dropped a letter in my mailbox asking how I was. He never acknowled not one of the many things he did to me. He ended the letter with, "After all these years, the least you can do is answer this letter"...that line confirmed nothing had changed; my life has been peaceful without him and his family .

I’m working on the healing process to become a super empath. My question is how to deal with a narcissist that you cannot completely go “no contact” and simply just remove from your life? Unfortunately, this is someone I will have to associate with at least a couple times a year (this is my sister in laws husband ). My wife really loves her sister and her sister is genuinely a good person, but had the bad luck of marrying a narcissistic jerk. This person has repeatedly shown a pattern of unacceptable narcissistic behavior not just to me but others. I have stood my ground a few times which led to fights, gas lighting, but dealing with this constantly is frustrating. What’s even more frustrating is I have never been able to talk to my in laws or sister in law openly about this. They don’t like taking about these things and neither does my wife. They realize how he is and just accept it and try to ignore it. But for me ignoring it is very difficult. I am regularly just thinking of all the things this person has said done and keep thinking what will happen the next time I have to see him. Keep think of scenarios and how I must respond to him. Keep thinking of things I should have said but didn’t because I bit my tongue. It’s very exhausting. Any advice?

@@openworldgamer2156 figure out what is your priority; your mental health and quality of life, or giving into a person(s) who expect and insist you accept unhealthy abusive behavior. If you choose the former, be ready to let those people go. I chose a long time ago not to bother with anyone's bs and I've never regretted it.

Thanks,my narc ex came back everytime only to further mentally destroy me!

@@Angel-pv8lg Block them completely and repeatedly if necessary.

1. Go no contact. 2. Go to therapy. The other two are bad advice.

@@xrotarebil yes blocked him already,he is a player for him screwing girls is nothing,for someone like me who is loyal and genuine it feels very bad and depressing to have associated with like dat in past!

The DENNIS system.

Narcissists aren’t evil u dum dum.

😂😂😂 the best advice.. they will die inside

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Nr. 3, 4 They are eager for attention wheater it is good (laugh inside being evil is what they do !) or bad (hate). The best to do and feel is indifference and have a good life.

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Same. It's a bitter pill to swallow.

My mother is a terrible narcissists and only gets worse the older she gets and never believes she is wrong or needs psychological help. Unfortunately at a young age and through the years I was subjected to verbal alcoholic mental abuse. I had parents that would fight constantly never once seeing them loving or affectionate to each other. Either through genetics or exposure in that environment I have found that I have narcissistic tendencies that have wreaked havoc in my personal life, with friends, teams, jobs, and worst of all my marriages. Unfortunately for me my first wife was also a narcissists so we just made each other so miserable by the time it was over I was worse off than I had ever been before meeting her. I had no idea what I was or even realized till years later what my ex was but we did it to each other during our short time together. It was my next wife of 12 years that broke my heart and made me realize that I had problems. She is the greatest person in the world and I just couldn't show enough love or give her the time and help with the kids. I would get selfish and lazy and even I got a second chance after an argument that almost ended us. I tried so hard to be who she wanted me to be. It lasted a while and then I would just slip away again without even realizing it. I would catch my self here and there and would do my best to make it up to her when I would notice I was slacking. I even would go couples and therapy on my own to try and figure why I kept hurting her even when I felt like I wasnt. But I was. I just couldn't keep up I would miss cues and signals more often. I was in my on little world oblivious to those hurting around me. My marriage might be over now and all I feel is shame and the fear while trying to tell myself I want her to happy and healthy without me. I still love her and daily I have to fight the hurt anger and rage I get towards her in moments of quiet reflection that I dont understand. I know Im not a total narcissists or else I would be completely unhinged but do have fight panicked urges to beg for forgiveness I dont deserve. But it hurts on the other side too, for people who didn't cheat or lie to their spouses and thought that was enough. To not know or understand the mental burden or strain I put my wife under even though she was begging me to see it and I just couldn't change. Its heart wrenching because I do love her but I just cant be her person because Im broken and breaking her. I fear for my daughters having this if its genetic. I see it my sister and her daughter. Its a horrible nightmare I wouldn't wish on anyone much less it becoming a painful family tradition. I try to still seek help to change and better myself through therapy. I want whats best for my kids and my wife. To stay in our house while I leave. The worst part is I still have pay a mortgage and wouldn't be able to get an apartment so I would have no choice but to go stay with the one person who made me this way "My Mom". For the sake of my familys health I'll do it but I fear it may be very bad for me when it comes to making progress in trying to change in that environment. Sometimes you just have no choice but to be doomed.

This was a great video!

It’s ok to grieve. If you can be an amazing parent to your kids that can help you heal and reparent yourself.

Same here. Both parents. It was awful. I've gone no contact with both for over 10 years. It's the only way to deal with Narcissists in general.

Dealing with them ends in destroying your mental health .

I totally agree. Narcissism seems to be a response to child trauma and attachment problems, whether that be neglect from one parent and over-indulgence from the other or whatever. This should create pity rather than a desire to torture, but not to the extent that you accept their behaviour.

@B. Clifton, I agree. Providing a child an environment were they are coddled, enabled, and rescued by the parents promotes the perfect opportunity for a child to become a "Golden Child" narcissist. An idol amongst the family. The child that is overly praised and cherished by the parents provides him/her the mindset that they are the special one and are held in high regard amongst their other siblings, because of a variety of reasons such as their attributes, birth order, accolades from school, friends, community recognition, influence, and reputation. The parents over accommodate and indulge the "Golden Child" with materialistic possessions that are not provided to the other children. Abuse and neglect are not the only avenues for an individual to become a narcissist.

@@CharlieWhiskey549, Create pity for the narcissist? Please elaborate.

They choose to be like controlling a good person move on but their grudge choose to blame others for their own fault

True, my ex was the step sister so she was "unloved" but the sister was placed on a pedestal and fully supported even after being an adult, she's a different monster.

Do you hear yourself trying to justify a laugh for not being physically violated? You need to respect yourself way more woman

If my ever touches me he knows I will kick him in the balls. I warned him several times. I kicked him and he went down. I will never leave my house that I worked so hard for. He can leave.

Don't look now but I think we have a narc in the house!

@Jys that sounds like bullying and isolating, especially with that "we". Pretty healthy, indeed!

@@itsawowman_ bullying? Oh so you the victim cuz I called you out. Hm. Ok. I think you proving my point narc

Did you ever have the situation where your own client was the narcissist?

💯 my ex dragged me through 3 different courts making false allegations! They are so vengeful if you don’t want them back! Used kids too.

I wish I could go back…I did not see it coming and didn’t take my time :-(

@@reinmarvonzweter666 Great question. The answer is yes.

divorcing them is stresful.. that is an understatement... particularly when your lawyer and the courts ignore you and feed the narcissist..

Same happened to me 😂

I agree with you.. there are a lot more narcissists out here than is reported on with statistical estimates. The time is drawing near. I'm not giving him supply. I heard him packing up his things .. i think he is finally about to leave ❤

@nmc1859 You have a community behind you to help you thru this process. I don't know a single narcissist survivor that doesn't want to help a fellow victim. Be strong, be safe. We're here for you! 😊

​@@nataliemarie1483Thank you for rocking your natural beauty.

​@@nataliemarie1483Congratulation! Did counseling help you figure out why you keep extracting narcs?

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Excellent Advice, and just what I’m doing !

I like this. Especially #5 (this includes visual aid). Robert Greene has no clout here.

Yes get off the emotional roller coaster that leaves you exhausted all the time and easier to manipulate look at all their ask yourself did that really happen is that real

What if they turn your whole community against you and probably the whole world!, that's what it feels like because everyone is joining his game like if they were puppets and I the lab rat. it's just a nightmare how now, he gets to wash his hands clean and let others kill me while he sits back and enjoys the show. Thank God for his protection or I would of turned crazy and probably shot the whole place up but I read what they did to Jesus and I learned from him. He taught me how to love my enemy and pray for them, how to be brave , how to be patient, how to be loyal and stick to my word and how to be compassionate just like my father is compassionate. God let's the sun hit everyone just as the same amount as he does to those that follow him. I need to know what I can do so people will stop living in that illusion or has the narcissist damaged my reputation forever?

@@ivannieves154 when I cut all ties from The narcissist I also cut all ties to their family and friends it's just a toxic environment sometimes you just have to move on start over and do you really think this person is turned the entire town against you or is that with the narcissist wants you to believe

yeah the good people have become to weak, cowardly and tolerant

Thank you

So sorry to hear that. It must be hard when it’s a family member. Look after yourself ❤

You're right!

I am on a journey of 1.setting clear boundaries, 2.self love and 3.working on things that attract me towards me. It is all to do with mind. The first two are also in them. As empaths we have toxic traits that harm us. One needs to understand if doing good will bring joy into life or we are simply doing it because we are told to do this. Example: identify the things you LOVE to do and Identify the things you are "suppose" to do. The things you are suppose to do are usually draining us so we must bring joy in them and do them FOR OURSELVES WHEN WE WANT TO. Similarly we believe "what will others think of us" when the timw comes to leaving and they too think the same but in the initial stages. So this is WHY we become the perfect piece of the puzzle :)

You're my f*cking hero! This xmas makes 1 year for me. (and 3000 miles)

Good on ya. I didn’t speak to mine for over ten years and refused to say goodbye before she passed away. She spent her entire life trying to pass her generational curse onto my head and I wouldn’t allow her to do it. Meanwhile, she treated my younger sibling like a prince and he was so spoiled that he is out of touch with reality. This life is hard enough without people who supposedly “love” us mucking it all up.

@@Job.Well.Done_01 I'm in the same boat. Same doomed delusional sibling treated like a prince. There is something comforting in knowing that we aren't alone in these situations. Wish you the best.

@@conservingcommonsense4980 thank you so much. I am always on the path of healing and self-love. I wish to you all the very best!

@@jbird1012 Congratulations, and Merriest of Xmases!

Out of five siblings, I’m the only one who doesn’t entertain my narc brother’s 💩. And I’m the only one he and his wife defriended on social media. Good riddance!

Now this is the best way to get them to leave you the heck alone. Worked for me like a charm

​@@larrycarl -lucky you-

I was the "truth teller" meaning, I didn't go along with the lies to get money or to avoid being ostracized by my mother. I am sorry for her. I did want her love but I needed to realize that people can never fill the hole in your heart, God can though and this is what saved me. learn to nurture and mother yourself so that you attract a better situation to yourself. look at life as a mirror of something you need to give yourself. if people reject you, look at where you might be rejecting yourself or devaluing yourself. they can't do it to us without our having done it to ourselves first. forgive yourself and learn the lesson, God is all there is, really. if we attracted broken, dysfunctional mirrors to ourselves, see how this shows us our "shadow" or hidden thoughts about what we believe we are worth. It is not holy to suffer, God does not want this. we do not have to "earn" God's love, we just have to surrender to it. God bless you.

Yup

Absolutely. This video is off. While containing a lot of truths .. who’d want to make someone suffer purposefully and torture them .. beside a narcissist.

All psychopaths/sociopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are psychopaths/sociopaths.

​@@fxllenluc.2955true

@@fxllenluc.2955agree it is very unhelpful

True, but in their minds, the requests are reasonable and you are the one being unreasonable. Torturing people isn't the solution. Narcissists and slight autists (old aspergers) are being unfairly treated due to this internet wave mess that mixes things up and mistake them for psychopaths (ASPD) or pyschopathic narcissists (NPD + ASPD) who are intentionally evil.

The problem is in 4 hours you could cover psychopaths two times over in an informative video. Some of these hosts have 200 30min clips on narcissism and by the time you’d watched all what was said to do at the beginning has been contradicted 20 times by the latest. The old who’s got “ the newest” fad. It’s kind of scary victims guessing what the narcissist did to them. I’ll let you in on a little secret. The hosts are not out of it yet or are they heal. They haven’t started new lives . They have started a KZfaq channel. They aren’t in new relationships, traveling, partaking in hobbies. Nope they talk about narcissism everyday. Probably 4 times as much as they ever have, they haven’t left narcissism. Live and breathe it daily. Making a 20min daily video with the “flash new method “ that they haven’t used nor are they role models for how to start a new life with out narcissism. Why do you think they are addicted to releasing new content? Becuase when they don’t and they stop they have to face the battles they still have not overcome.

The best 1 is no contact till I die. Case closed. Going on 6yrs in 2023

@nightowl, You bet 👍 no contact forever and ever

It depends on if you are the primary target or not . Of course saying no to something minor ( to them) may seem to be the end of it but you have no idea if they are keeping tabs, contemplating another demand or doing something passive aggressively to seriously undermine you. This video is not really about just anyone with some narc tendencies but a narcicisst who depends on seeing you in misery to live - a higher end of the spectrum narcicisst.

I was reading your comment and i literally saw a mirror of myself... My -until two days ago- boyfriend kept telling me that his married ex girlfriend loves him more than i do and that she would do anything for him, but he doesn't want her...two days ago she went to his restaurant with another dude , he had locked the door and when i showed up , dead-tired, just to see him and listen to him all night talk to me like i am good for nothing, he told me that he won't open for me, because i slammed the door at him the previous morning, like THAT'S unacceptable!!😂 We ended up fighting really rough and he said i'm toxic and he doesn't want women like me in his life....

They are barely human!

Barely human is the nice word. They will try to upset and destroy you on purpose and walk around like they did nothing

@@youareloved8274 all the time and every time. We all have to remember this about narcissists. Especially the covert ones. They are always and forever trying to emotionally manipulate us and get us to feel sorry for them.

The covert ones are also especially notorious for this.

Cheers! 🇩🇰

Well done

So happy 4 u. Keep going. U got this! 👍

They have lots of tricks up their sleeve, mine tried victim, then humour, then threats, anything and everything to see what would stick. I went total NO CONTACT 5 years later he is still trying to get my phone number???? You are right it does work, but only if we work it.

Thank you for your information.

Can I ask what your childhood was like? Was it similar to the video mentioned?

Wow, ive never heard someone admit they were a narcasist. But as the saying goes, the first step to recovery, is admitting you have a problem. Best of luck to you, truly.

I wish the man I loved was as brave. He rather deny who he is.

Right I tried this and got attacked by his flying monkeys and i looked just like he portrayed me In his lies.

I told my "friends" what a horrible abusive ahole he is, yet when I finally left him they all stayed friends with him!!! He smeared me and charmed them all!!! I cut contact with all our mutual friends!

Soo true

Its the entourage / Flying monkeys that they groomed and brainwashed into being their cheerleaders Totally gullible sheep like fools

Thats what my mom tried to do. But the reality is I could care less. Im not dependent on other people. Plus I moved. Shes sick now. I refuse to let her bother me. My dad cutting her off shows her that I WON

Hi, I know we’re strangers, but I want to reach out because your life experience touched me. I’m sorry you’re suffering. You’re not alone. I hope you have family who are not toxic too. I wish you well. Keep fighting! Have a happy Christmas, even if you’re experiencing joy at the most simplest of pleasures, like the sunrise. There are gifts everywhere for us to discover. I know illness steals so much, & it makes your world smaller. Do not let the seemingly insignificant pleasures & joys pass you by; embrace each one! 🎄✨♥️

Best to you in your healing on all levels, you deserve it!!! ❤️🙏💞

Jys I will keep you in my prayers. Im happy you had the strength to let go of the narc and lean on Him to give you more strength.

@@BelleOfAmherst thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Merry Christmas 🎄

@@lulumoon6942 thank you

Why even talk to this person then? I don't get it. You want him to leave you alone, yet you're talking to him. Seems counter-intuitive and perhaps a little covert-narcissistic.

@@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223 I’m not understanding if you’re just trying to overuse the word narcissist, but we have a child together. Unfortunately there are situations where I have to speak to him.

Anen

Distancing yourself from them is also by filling the cup with worthless information and then leaving.

​​@@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223 This response makes no sense... you really can't get rid of a narcissist in a few seconds and just ignore them.

E una din cele mai bune metode. Așa e, cu timpul vine natural.

The gray rock method.

@Frederick I'm not looking for advice thanks, that's an absurd statement, I can make a judgement call when there's a risk of physical danger but I'm not fear led. I know you mean well though

I wouldn't encourage anyone to play that silly game. Count your loses and leave. A narcissistic is a soulless being on a mission to destroy you. To waste time trying to play their manipulative games would cause you to lose yourself and even snap. I'd encourage people to cut them off cold turkey. Leave and cut all line of contact. That is how you win. CHOOSE YOURSELF and leave

Facts, I would humiliate my narc in public if I ever saw him again.

Or to you.

I'm sure you didn't self diagnose him

You cannot be cruel to a creature void of empathy. It's like feeling sorry for hurting a piece of metal by kicking it.

That's what people do when they are not acknowledged or recognised either in childhood or by themselves.

​@ClaudKaKeiYeung check you for empathy.