Fantastic! I’m taking your course and it’s fantastic. I’m definitely taking my time in the written lessons because I want to dig deep so I never get involved with a narcissist again. I married two of them and am currently separated and have divorce papers for the 2nd. Thank you Mr Grannon! Also, you’re funny so that’s great too! 😊

A narcissist will attack you and then, if you defend yourself, they’ll look at you like you’re the bully.

Ignore them, avoid them, be bored by them, never think of them... no contact is the first step to freedom.

Their goal is to bring you down to their level so you dont out shine them. They hate your light and want to put it out. Dont let them do it.

Please. Also, remember. This is not a game. When a true narcissist realises you are no longer interested - things can get ugly. Quickly. Be careful. Get support

The Narcissistic rage is no joke. I have been getting attacked almost daily for catching him red handed cheating and therefore proving cheating. I have NEVER seen or experienced anything like this before in my life. It's pure evil HELL!

Silence is the best. Drives them insane.

I'm 72 year old widow and I let my 46 year old adult narcissistic son move in when his girlfriend threw him out. I felt sorry for him, so I told him he could stay until he could find his own place to stay. That was 7 months ago. He has narcissistic personality disorder and paranoia. He wont leave and is making me miserable. The attorney wants $3000.00 to get him out with no guarantee that we would win. I live in fl and it's very hard tti get someone out of you home once you let them move in. Pray for a miracle.

11min.20 was important!! The victim must not show emotion, cry, stomp feet, shout etc. This fuels them. Remember: Be indifferent. Be stoic. Be a Gray Rock.

"you're actually a boring person who repeats themselves all the time and lies a lot" lol, that's so spot on.

The easiest way to unplug from a narcissist is to just pack a bag on the quiet, leave it with a friend and then when you can't take it anymore, walk out the door and don't look back. If you don't, that person will destroy your soul. Speaking from experience.

This should be taught in high schools..... save a lot of people from a lot of misery

I’ve been No Contact for over 4 YEARS now, and it feels amazing taking the power and control back! Once you learn to focus on yourself and forget about the narcissist’s existence altogether, life just gets brighter and better ❤

Had a friend with narcissistic traits. He was a great guy, till one night he moved the goalposts on me and tried to gaslight me. I called him out, he flew into a rage and has ghosted me since. Glad I saw his true colours, I don't need that drama in my life.

"They want you to become a version of them." ---> YES!! When you withdraw, ignore them, and get on with your life, they slowly shrivel up.

Every decent, strong, genuine and emotionally intelligent person is a strong light that invariably draws these creatures, like moths to a flame. It’s their demise; just don’t let them be yours.

"I'm a person separate to you. That is the ultimate defiance. I am a human being separate to you." Wow! Thank you for this, this might be the single greatest piece of advice for my personal situation with a narc-fueled family structure that has poisoned me my entire life to believe I am non-existent or just a toy for them to manipulate and disrespect.

I'm the only non narcissist in my family. I had a very troubled young adulthood. I'd been the scapegoat of the family, they were quite delighted at my downward spiral. But I got sober. Stayed sober. Married the perfect man. Started a business that grew and became very successful. I have a beautiful life now. I went no contact a few years ago. I ran for and won an election in a rather large city, in an important position. That was the last straw for them. I keep defying their beliefs about me (drug addicted psychopath). It made them both go crazy. The things they did to try to bring me to my knees were insane, and I gave them zero energy. Don't fall for their tactics, folks. Just stay away and pretend they never existed.

I've been married for 43 years and yes I was brainwashed. It's is the hardest thing to get through. He made me think he was the only one who didn't lie, the only one I can trust, i must take my money out of the bank dont trust a bank. Put it in a safe at home.and he is the only one who is there for me. No family or friends at all but him. I have been doing this for 43 years. I got me a storage room and I slowly got my stuff out. I left him. And he isn't happy about it.

Living well is the best revenge. If you’re still thinking about the narcissist, you’re still on their hook.

March 13th 2024 let The healing begin free at last

I’m realizing I’m surrounded by these people, normally I would think I’m problem but I’m not, these people are vicious

Best last words to a narcissist: “ *When I first met you I was blown away by how intelligent and witty I thought you were* (insert whatever image they try to project here) *but now that I’ve gotten to know you I realize you are just so…. average* “ Then walk away and NEVER speak to them again. 👋🏻

It’s 2am here.. and I am up with so much hurt, anxiety, and fear in my heart from a narcissistic husband. He gas lights me, lies to me constantly, invalidates my feelings, belittles motherhood, and gets livid every time I confront his lies! I am so hurt and weak. Today I made some progress to escape from this marriage. I need strength

"one short dull chapter in my life" I really like that. It describes my experience with a narcissist as a supposed "best friend".

I personally believe they want you to feel as miserable as they do. They also don't want an adult relationship but a dog that listens to every command they give (is my personal experience). And yes, if you don't do what they say/behave the way they expect, they will act out like some children would. Do be carefull with not giving them any emotional supply though, because some can lash out even more to try and get the response they want. Be safe. If you can, remove them from your life. You'll feel so much better.

My ex is a narcissist & the day he realized I was not only done with him but I was indifferent towards him was priceless...I'll never forget the look on his face & tone of his voice...🥰🥰🥰

I've been at the end of narcissistic rage and I wouldn't be lying if I said I couldn't speak for a couple of minutes, I was in shock! Pure venom. And can I add, the reason for the outburst was because I said 'no' to her for a very good reason and for the first time in my life 😢

You are so right. They try to derail you from purpose, your focus. Get the courage to honor yourself and your goals first. 😊

'They don't care if you love/hate them '. I agree. Hate is not the opposite of love bc you are still thinking of them. Apathy is the opposite of love, because you give no more energy/thought to them. That's essentially negligence. And it KILLS them.

That is so true "I existed before him and I Will exist after this awful relationship and narcissistic person" Thank You so much Richard!

The day he said "I thought that I married your mother" I knew we were done. Raised by two narcissistic parents who I could never please, married to a narcissistic man who I could never please. My life has been a roller-coaster ride of fighting the long-term damage to myself. This video is "spot on" in so many ways.

Iam beginning to face up to the idea of being a Narcissist ..it 's quite disturbing!

When you said that the narcissist never intended to keep you or build something but they always intended to discard you... was so real.😢 The reality that I never stood a chance and the whole thing was false from the beginning is so painful and sobering... but I deeply appreciate this truth. I only want to live in the truth. Thank you for all of your work and videos I'm learning a lot❤

As a thriver of a Narcissistic abusive mother who used my recovery and childhood experiences as the building blocks to become a professional Counsellor, I say the greatest revenge is "to get on with your own life".

I am blind to narcissism. I was raised with narcissists in my family and while I knew something was wrong, I couldn’t put my finger on it. I was never good enough even though I have been very successful in life, and am subjected to a recitation of my “deep personal flaws” whenever we meet. Low contact is the answer.

As I saI'd to my narc when he wanted to argue, I listened intently then said you know what, you are absolutely right and you win. Then I'd walk away.😊

41 years with him. I finally understand. Thank u

Number 7. Turn the other cheek to walk away. Revenge just keeps you stuck at their level. This is my ultimate freedom from 14 years of torture. Great video!

1) Deny them the delusion of their false self 2) Show them that their knowledge of you is completely wrong 3) Remove all of the emotional food coming from you 4) Subtly show them that you know more than they do 5) Withdraw all adoration and supply to them - quietly turn away as tho they are just boring now 6) Turn your full atention to your own life and goings on 7) Separate your entire emotional being from them, defy your own attachment to them and leave them in the dust behind you when they behave badly. In other words, be the parent to the small child you are dealing with, becoz these are all the things that a parent will do to their child. I have done all of this, but I let them come back whenever they need, they just don't have license to do what they want to do, they get disciplined like all children do. They always come back, but they learn that they just can't get away with what they want - they will either just not bother to come back one day, or they slowly start to change themselves and if they perceive that you can be trusted, they will eventually even let their guard down, but you must be fully in charge of you, not needing their input at all, busy busy busy, with goals for YOU and an excitement of what the future holds. It is contagious and they just cannot help themselves becoming engrossed in the picture of the future YOU have drawn, not the lost maze that they are caught in. Remember, you are dealing with little kids and kids love games and need a parent, so take them to YOUR party and show them how much fun life really can be! Corinthians 13:4... Love never fails... ;)

This is very good. I have suffered for 4 years from a narcissitic next door neighbour. She has nearly destroyed me. I have been arrested because of lies she has told the police about me plus all sorts of other horrid things. It has been awful. The advice here is very helpful. Thank you.

I can attest that the only thing that does not feed into their drama is calm, quiet confidence and indifference. I tried many times to break up with my narc ex-boyfriend while emotional, angry, hurt, crying, etc…. It did not stick until I was able to calmly and unemotionally convince him that I could not give him what he wanted and that he should look for someone who could. That was complete BS of course- the only thing he deserves is to reap the bitter fruit of his own sick personality disorder. But it worked.

my ex still won't leave me alone after being no contact for 6.5 years, moving away, changing phone numbers, restraining orders and protective orders. they really cannot stand to be discarded.

Avoid them!!!

Richard’s course is helping me tremendously to help me get over being manipulated by a narcissist. Thank you Richard!

The narcissists know how awful they are on an unconscious level which is why they need you to be bad like them it relieves them of their guilt about how rude they are. They hate people who are kinder and more loving than they are so the pick and poke until we blow up after which they point their finger and say; "see how you are." I know this because it is what my brother used to do all the time.

This guy has a SUPERNATURAL UNDERSTANDING OF THESE BEINGS

Spot on. I went through every stage. The steps you discussed work, over time both FOR you and AGAINST them. The last contact and last words from her were: I feel like you can just so easily move on without me. My response: you are correct.

It took me 75 years to realize that my sister is a narcissist! I always stood up to her because I didn't know how dangerous she was. I lost my daughter and 2 grandkids! Now I know NOT to confront her! I gave it to God and I believe it will come out before I die!!! She was trying to have me put away because I'm too sensitive! Now I'm glad I'm sensitive and an Empath! I'm the winner!!! - NOT HER!!! Thank you !!

“Their view of you will probably be off in quite a significant way”…WOW. For me this is what messed me up the most, as someone who struggles maintaining a steady, concrete sense of self, hearing someone whom I thought knew me describe me as something I completely didn’t resonate with. I questioned myself, beat myself up, and felt shame for so long after that relationship. It’s been three years and I still find myself reliving lightning like flashes of stomach turning panic when I hear their words reverberate through out my mind again. I believe they reflect onto you your worst fears, and their own inner most insecurities, they paint you with the colors you fear and they loathe the most. They read you in part just to be able to launch this exact attack on you later. The things they so desperately attempt to project as being their authentic self to the public, are the things they twist and pervert and use against others.

“Devalue and Discard’ that’s what I did and he stalked me for months. He couldn’t bear the humiliation of being left and being insignificant. Well said Richard. You have taken me from broken to rising from the ashes as a proud empath. Thank you. 🙏❤

People always leave them..

This hit so hard. I was with a Narc for 6 years and it ended 3 years ago. I still cannot get that fool out of my mind!

This is why no contact is essential! Finding dozens of reasons why no contact should be done! Get out! STAY OUT! It’s soooo worth it!

Let me just add some additional mortification vehicles: Staying no contact and ignoring smear campaigns and reverse hoover attempts. It’s harder than it seems, I know. Good video and well done, Richard 👏👏💪

Towards the end of this video you mentioned how the abused breaks away and becomes more mature. Since I separated a month ago I really feel so much more mature. You and Sam Vaknin are the only two people who really understand this mental Illness on a deep level!

My neighbour is one. He has CCTV cameras up, but when I had my garden vegetables stolen and put some up, all legally sited, he started a whole sh*t show, complaning to the landlord, council etc. They all ignored him. So one day , he came out into a communal area of garden and said to me 'see this bit of land here? You don't own it!' , to which I replied ' But, neither do you!'. He completely shut down, his little eyes swivelling in his head, till he blurted out ' well see those cameras? I saw you moving them so they're looking in my window '. The CCTV installer laughed at that - they're screwed into position and can't be moved. What really started it was that I was in the garden one day, too busy to notice him, and he took umbrage because, as the centre of the universe, he had been ignored ...

God, if I'd seen this stuff back when I was in middle school and high school, I'd probably have been saved loads of headache and heartache! I'm going to share this with my pre-teen daughter. She's got a LOT of 'friends' like this - narcissism starts young!!

Yes, "one short dull chapter in my life" truly sums it up. Most of us have been through rough chapters. Putting into perspective and moving forward=healing.

I love the sunflower 🌻 analogy makes perfect sense ☀️ let us look towards the real sun in our lives 💗 and do whats best for us 🤗 hugs to all the people going through this healing too

as a covert narcissist, tactics 3 and 7 are the most profound actions you can undertake against me. tactic 3 initiates the "death" that richard talks about, which is more commonly known as the narcissistic collapse. nothing hurts more than being grounded from my delusions of my grandeur of unobjectionable superiority. tactic 7 is the final nail in the coffin - the most powerful thing you can do against me. it does not hurt as much as tactic 3, but that is because by the time someone decides to do this, my ego has already been shattered and nothing more can break it. unrelated, but this video seems like an example of "it takes one to know one".

When I left my narcissistic ex, I had to flee the state. He didn't want to accept that we weren't together. He even went so far as to insist that we move into apartments directly above one another (so he could hear my activity, I'm sure). When I did leave the state, I had to change my number because he kept trying to call and text me and EVEN threatened to come find me and "sweep you off your feet." That was not romantic. It was terrifying. I lived in fear for months.

I’m in the process of filing a divorce to my evil, narcissistic spouse of 31 years, and this video kinda strengthened me. As soon as I started detaching myself from him, he started dating online, I found motel receipts, bills on pornsites, etc… he made sure he had a new “supply “ right away even before the divorce has been filed! I see him struggling now with everything because I spoiled him then- I was his servant literally! He is a drug addict too , and i’ve been dealing with this for 30+ yrs! And so one day, I woke up and told myself… enough already. it was the best decision I have ever made! I am mentally, physically, emotionally drained lately but knowing that there are people who went through the same cycle of emotional abuse, and got out of it, really encourages me to stay focused on the goal- Treat him like he never existed, and enjoy my freedom and the beautiful life that awaits me!

Just laugh at them

It's so true how narcissists don't even know what their partners or friends are genuinely interested in. I've had two narcissistic exes. I sometimes didn't receive gifts on my birthday or Christmas. On rare occasions when I did receive a gift, it was a leaf blower (something he needed, obviously) or some kitchen appliance, nothing fun. They truly do have a simplistic, tone-deaf view of people around them. The gift thing is a minor and petty issue, I know. Most of the scenarios Richard mentions resonate with my past experiences.

All of these steps can happen within a 15 minute encounter too. Number 5, no supply: if you’re capable of holding your emotions, you’ll notice how many traps they lay to illicit an emotional response. It’s to bait you into making a mistake or saying something you regret. When they can’t draw that out of you, they’ll break down and start spiraling. At that moment they’ll have no choice but to “retreat” or risk social image catastrophe

Nailed it. Been there, done that--with not one or two narcissists but half a dozen. Remarkable what simple creatures they are. As Richard says, they are most dangerous when you either latch on to them like a lackey or antagonize them as their enemy. Truly, applying Richard's techniques has a second big effect: it not only neutralizes the power of the narcissist in your life but also empowers you, delivering an immense feeling of self-confidence.

My mother became a supreme narcissist during menopause. I became the target when I divorced and remarried. I mourned losing my sweet mother from childhood, but then she pulled her biggest card & forced my dad to have no contact with me. He would sometimes sneak a quick visit to me. I only went back to be with my daddy shortly before he became bedridden with dementia and parkinsons. I tolerated her so I could love my dad. After he passed, she attempted to keep in touch. I refused to reply in any way & cut her completely off. She had already died to me a long time ago & I don't even know the person she became. The irony is she's the one who taught me to love myself enough to NEVER take abuse from ANYONE! Walking away was easy & my life is so peaceful. I'm just thankful that she was a great mom when I was little & I still love that mom, but I've never regretted walking away from who she became.

I had no idea what a narcissist was years ago. If you're involved in business or family business with a narcissist, please get out immediately ! The damage to you , both financially and emotionally is devastating. You will work your entire life, and they will see to it that they keep you literally helpless . Get out immediately and do your own life, your own business. Don't try to figure them out, nor keep working with them on any level.

Well, well, well I finally understand my divorce-- my manipulating husband was ready to discard me even before we married! I had never even thought of that possibility until I saw your video Richard!!! Every young woman and man needs to see this video before they enter ANY romantic relationship. This is absolutely mind blowing. In this video you paint the picture from the perspective of the narcissist- now I understand how I was used as a pawn. Had 3 children with the man and then discarded like a piece of trash. Once a person has the diagnosis, everything else is easy!! Thank you once again for sharing your wisdom on line. I would like your video added to our high school health education curriculum. You rock 🎉

Richard I have been a therapist for many years...delivering classes on various topics including NPD (a personal favourite subject) your delivery, description and overall presentation is absolutely fantastic not to mention spot on. I lived with a Narcissistic for a couple of years (quite ironic really) so for anyone who thinks because your are educated and trained and can put up with one. You can't, in fact, it is often worse because therapists understand behaviour do we let a lot go and explain it away...but abuse is abuse full stop, no one is safe from narcissistic behaviour. Big Fan Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.

‘You were one short dull chapter in my life!’ Love this ……. But it’s sooooo true! They are essentially very dull and can see how this phrase alone may lead to mortification. Will use it 💯

oh an added PS. wow, I never had someone confirm for me what I have always experienced with them. their "holding audience" - their lengthy pauses, to keep you there standing there "listening to their diatribe", the longest, most boring, lengthy ignorant "conversations" they attempt to hold with you.............I never allow this ever, my body reacts and I start walking backwards. As a kid in school when this happened (it did but I had no idea it was narcissistic at the time), my body would take over and I would start choking, I couldn't get air, couldn't breathe, so I would have to leave the class. It only happened with a mean math teacher I had, he didn't have to direct his energy at me but it was just who he was and I would start to choke and then leave class. I discovered this again in church when a certain minister would be there, the long boring monotone of "see how important I am, listen to ME!" and I would start to actually choke and leave. My body would react because I was too polite to leave but I started to realize that I needed to ACKNOWLEDGE that this for me was INTOLERABLE. So now whenever it happens, I start backing off, like, "I have to go now" and I beg off and leave. No more choking! So that's my lengthy share, God bless everyone to wake up and to heal. Great we have these informative videos nowadays.

Thanks to videos like these (no thanks to all the “marriage counselors” I saw) I am free after 34 years of Narc Abuse. I am an individual, I have “grown up!”

My new motto!❤ "I exsited before you and I will exsit after you. You were one short chapter in my life." Thank you so much! After 8 years of letting him belittle me about my weight, my hair, my children and family, my jobs, ghosting, bread crumbling. I cooked, cleaned, groomed our 3 boys which I miss more than him, took care of him through his illnesses and surgeries, his constant relationships texting other women to stroke his ego since having sexual relationship was not an option anymore due to his health, I have my own money and never had to take money from him. Last August I unfortunately had to take custody of my grandchild from my daughter due to addictions. We talked about it and he said he would stand by me emotionally. Well I went Easter weekend cleaned, cooked, waited on him hand and foot and when we went to bed that night I cuddled up to hold him and he pushed my arm away, not like stop it but close. So I went to my side and went to sleep. I woke about 3 AM Easter Sunday got up showered and dressed. Had a cup of coffee reading my news. And a Easter pray popped up. I read and prayed and about 6 AM something came over me. I loaded my overnight bag up. Love my boys and went kissed him letting him know I was going back to my house to hide Easter eggs for my grandchild. He was asleep and said do what and I repeated myself and kissed him let him know I would call to let him know I made it. I drove 2 hrs almost every weekend to keep him on his pedestal. I called no answer, texted nothing back, he ghosted me. I did not chase or beg. Everything in me screamed this 77 year old man was trying to make me choose between him and a 9 year old I felt sick. I have not called and will not. I love him but my grandchild comes first so I know it is over. I haven't figured out yet how to arrange to get my things as I have accumulated many things there I always thought someday he would change. But he never will. I can only say God bless him and God take care of my boys (dogs). Amen Blessings Overflowing Call me crazy but I believe I am an earth angel. For over 40 years I have been a caregiver. Worked for 22 years one family 3 generations. He always called me a werido but I knew I was his life line. Your video was meant for me to see this moment. Thank you

Another big wakeup call was he treated me WAY different than anyone else he came into contact with. Be it his brothers, his kids, or co-workers, etc. I was always talked down to, complaining about every single move I made. This was more relevant when he was preparing to discard me.

I realized a while ago that love & hate are both "active" emotions. The opposite of love is not hate but indifference.

A LOT of this happened at work with a narc. She eventually over played their hand, she started making mistakes and was getting caught up in the lies. Because of the videos I’m watching on narcissism I was able to deal with her by taking the emotion to almost nothing. She would point out others mistakes, and all I said was I would look into it and walked away. Eventually everyone did the same and she quit!

The ex narc went from hero to zero in a few months. He would rip me to shreds and have me in tears while he sat laughing or smirking. He recorded me without my knowledge, winding me up to blow my lid, then played it back, again laughing. I then recorded him for 5 months before I moved out, all his rages, tempers and threats. Once he threatened me, I was done with him and he knew it. Sometimes on recordings I would answer him back, sometimes I said nothing. I would play them back to myself to hear exactly what he said, so the next time he would say something, I told him only last week he said the opposite, and he would deny it. A lot of horrible verbal abuse from him, isolated me in my bedroom for 2 1/2 months before I moved out although I owned 25% of the house we had bought 3 months earlier, I was banned from rooms, using the cooker, he even turned the radiator off in my bedroom, switched off his little freezer I kept my newly bought frozen food in and ruined it all. On the advice of my lawyer, I took the recordings I had at the time to the Police, they phoned me to get his mobile number to invite him in for a voluntary interview as they have a case against him for harassing me. I have to go back and do a video statement and give them the last 3 weeks recordings where he would barge into my bedroom day and night without knocking just to mouth off or intimidate me. I had to get a camera installed as it was getting out of hand, he stopped coming in then and I only left my room when he went to work or went out. He had no idea I was recording him….he does now. He was downright evil and now I’m away 7 weeks, it is so peaceful and I can sleep at night knowing he has no idea where I am.

Good evening Mr. Grannon, I appreciate your video. What I found fascinating about my ex covert narcissist is that he would use my mistrust towards men who have betrayed me in the past and gaslight me into thinking that I am the one accusing him being untrustworthy to the point where he feels justified to leave me. He claimed I mistrust him so much because I'm taking out my past experiences of men out on him. While it is possible to have counter-transference on occasion, it is beyond childish immaturity, it takes complex thought to be able to carefully manipulate someone to where you can take someone's past experiences of mistrust as a way to not have to take accountability for anything prior to discard. It puts me in a state of cognitive dissonance and partial truths that I have to accept within my own insecurities combined with his insistence that he is loyal and trustworthy. It allowed him to completely be blame-free from his commitment to me.

“Become more adult. Become more individuated.” Amen!!! 🙏🏼 yes thank you. ❤😊

💯 bang on! I remember being so confused as to my former npd partner’s view of me after being with them for almost 2 years. It was as if they had no idea who I am at all. Just an awful experience.

I’ve listened to so many videos on this topic. But you pointing at the camera and saying “Don’t you do it! Don’t you respond! Do not return that text!” That helps me the most. 🥳. Keep up the good work 🤓

Shared with my daughter who just courageously came out of a narcissistic abusive marriage. Thank you!

What’s messed up by this narcissist I dealt with is that they expect you to come to them when they made a problem and fix there issue. So stupid.

As someone with narcissistic traits it’s a tough pill to swallow that I need mortification in order to heal. How strange.

The little laughs slipping out as you explain some of these points is priceless. To see what’s playing out and your non reaction and composure, emotional maturity, and resiliency....all while making this a real time teaching is so clever. Bravo 👏 You're such a great teacher Richard, and this video is top quality.

Love this! Wow! It certainly resonates with me. I've had the misfortune of having many narcs in my life. It seems like when you get one, radar is sent out to other narcs that broadcasts the message "We have another victim here!" and they all hover and fly in (along with their insipid flying monkeys) and ingratiate themselves into your life. I was married to one such person and had professional relationships with 2 others who thought I should be a mini them! No way! Once out I found out who they really were (under their shiny, happy and larger than life disguises) - dishonest, controlling, and manipulative, I ended those relationships. Now I am assertive, speak my mind and don't put up with bull crap. I'm still dealing with a bit of the aftermath but after getting some counselling and listening to empowering and inspiring videos like this one, I am finally healing! Many thanks to you Richard Grannon for the work you're doing!

This is the best video ever on how to deal with narcissists.

Thanks! This was amazing... The sadness is turning to acceptance and I have better days Alhamdulillah. I was in a 9 years marriage to the most violent and abusive man I have ever come across (not even in movies), now I am enjoying the no contact, I am getting on with my life....

It can be weakening to hear no.6 because it almost feels impossible, the trauma bond isn’t child’s play and each time you go back to “make it work “ it only gets worse, they know you know who they are and thereof become even more confident to have you experience their outmost level of monstrosity. It’s like a movie y’all but the day I saw the disrespect and entitlement was the day I didn’t respond to their question “why aren’t you here?” That became my victory song. I hope you get your victory song too someday

Been with my narcissist for 30 years. Practicing these techniques for YEARS. GET ON WITH IT...Still to come. We get so conditioned to do as we're told. Guilted into performing as expected

That feeling of apathy is a blessing.

This is spot on. After about 2 years I was able to do just that. Devalue him and discard. I feel so free and strong. He moved on to new supply quickly. The narcissistic mortification was on high!! Get on with your life. You WIN!!

They don't consider everybody the same, they have different categories, they admire some people and even idealise them.

This is one of the best videos of overcoming narcissistic abuse!!!! 🎉🎉🎉 THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!!

One hundred per cent correct ... every word. It took me six years but I did it. I got rid. I realised I had done it when someone said to me "how's Andy?" and I said "Andy who?" I was elated.

First time watcher and I must say I am mind blown. Step 7 is finally here and it's liberating!! The sunflower metaphor has got to be the absolute most truthful thing I've ever heard about these types of relationships. 🤯🤯 I am blessed for the lessons this relationship has taught me because I now know and understand my worth. I am also grateful I was able to rise above, move on to do, be and feel better. I truly hope this video can inspire anyone who is struggling with a low vibration, uncomfortable and hurtful relationship. You are enough and you are not alone. ❤

"You were one, short, dull chapter" in my life. Brilliant!!

Best video ever! Towards separating yourself from a Narc