I'm non-binary and yes I question my gender

You helped me figure out I'm not. But didn't think I was. Although you did raise a lot more questions. I hope you read my comment and perhaps address my questions in a future video.

thank you for this video the way you explaned how non binary people experiance life has helped me understand my friend erin and what they has to deal with on a daily basis i have always supported erin and after watching your videos i understand erins situation better and hopefully be even more supportive

@@jadapinkyjoseph5254 non binary isn’t a real thing, you can be born a man or woman, nothing else. If you ever question your gender, look inbetween your legs. You’ll then arrive on planet earth!

@@jadapinkyjoseph5254 same but I'm a pig. I identify as a pig. It means I am exempted from taxes, bills, etc If you insist, the you are a bigotted animal abuser.

Same

Btw i use she/they pronouns but people can use any pronouns im chill about it

same-

@Philip Kirby The generic argument of "there's only 2 genders" doesn't really invalidate non binary people because being non binary isn't really a gender, is the lack of one. Calling it a gender is like calling Atheism a religion so... You take a class now. Plus even going with biology, gender and sex are two different things even in biology.

The pronoun stuff is a load of nonscence.

You're awesome as an ally.

@@InfuzeDcyphR I try. 😊 I wish more people would too. This world could be a lot better for everyone if people tried to understand and respect others rather than acting out of fear & trying to control.

Well you can't feel like something you've never been. That's my confusion with trans and nb people.

@@lovefist86 Have you tried talking with trans and/or nb people and listen to how they feel?

Your a woman, not a cis ( Cyst ? )

I have ruthlessly felt this way since I was about 5 years old. "Just wanting to be seen as me." And rejecting male and female stereotypes. People tell me I'm beautiful, and I think to myself, "What does that have to do with anything. That's nothing to do with who I am." See, that's the key; we are all simply individuals, but it doesn't change the fact that we are born with XX or Xy chromosomes and therefore female or male. This "non-binary" is just artifice covering for feeling uncomfortable with oneself and with conventional society. We don't need to make up words in order to be different than the norm. The truth is that humanity is filled with infinite expressions of self. But denying reality is, also, not helpful.

That’s just what I feel like. I just see people as people not genders. I don’t see myself as gender either. Wow I’m non binary.

Okay I just “feel like me” but don’t need to go around demanding that others perceive me how I want to be perceived, you can be who you are without demanding compliance from others.

Nobody can see you juat as "you". What's wrong in being a man or woman? Nothing!

@@Lisa-pw2he And coincidentally, only non europeans " feel this way" , since they're not brainwashed with idiotic propaganda that is there to help them wipe themselves out of existence.

Exactly! This is what I came here to say! Kindred spirits!

it just means (LIKE ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD) that sometimes you feel more at ease with yourself and some other times not !..... nothing else..... everybody sometimes feel hotter than some other day and it has nothing to do with being a female or a male..... + stop comparing yourself to others and you'll start feeling WAY BETTTTEER !!!!!

@@little_pretty_little_dead kindred spirits!!

​@@little_pretty_little_dead I wish I had a kindred spirit.

More ppl must acknowledge this.

I feel like this could play a big part in my gender journey. I’ve always just accepted she/her and being called a girl/female because it’s “just what I was.” Relating to your comment- I also want an autism diagnosis, since there is a high chance I have that. But in a way, I think being autistic has helped me feel less “normative” anyways and that it makes it feel easier to be more me instead of stuffing myself into a box

i think my neurodivergent traits have made me look at the world differently, i don’t really understand the gender binary like a neurotypical would so it would make sense that i don’t relate or see myself fitting in to a binary - it is simply incompatible with how my brain perceives society and the world. i’ve always just been >this

@sundaysims i relate to this so much!! getting doctors to take me seriously is an uphill battle being AFAB. but i think it definitely has a lot to do with the way i perceive the concept of gender. i just don’t understand it and i don’t feel drawn to any particular label.

I have OCD and I’m trying to figure out if I’m experiencing intrusive thoughts or if this is who I am lol

You are still just female.

@Jay Blue I understand that you will not give up your delusion, but it doesn't change reality.

It sounds like she distorted your view of what a woman should be like and that's why you're questioning whether you are one. There are so many ways of being a man or woman. Just dressing a certain way and not being quiet and polite doesn't make you a different gender (im not a transphobe because im trans myself)

Oof that hit close to home a little bit

omfg, deciding you dont feel like shaving doesn't make you NB for fucks sake

@@DarthLesbian why don't you let them explore themselves in peace?

@@slaybotcom What’s to explore? The depths of their naval? If you want peace dont post your stupidity in public forums

@@slaybotcom It’s difficult to watch young girls clutching at the lifeline being offered to them by cultists on the non-binary boat, when we know they'd turn out perfectly fine without it. All they have to do is be themselves, dress however they want, shave or not shave, make-up or no make-up, and not worry about new fads like pronouns, labels and identities. They'll be fine. Honestly.

im sorry but “making a statement” got me dying cuz my mom keeps questioning y im “rebelling” to what makes a women 😭

@@amberrose2597 ???

You're just a spoke as well.

@@amberrose2597 oh shut up.

@@snorlaxxxxxxxxxr Can SOMEONE explain how its weird /nm

@@simkitties2727 alright explain this to me, how can someone feel uncomfortable when other people are using their biological pronouns? you don’t hear someone use your pronouns because if the other person was talking to you directly they WOULD use your name…. pronouns are used when that person isn’t present in the room. that is one of the many reasons why this is all ridiculous

Yes! Both of these are big signs and I definitely think there needs to be a bigger conversation around gender euphoria ☺️

Why is this me?

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When I found out Non Binary & Androgyne was a thing, I wished that was me because it seemed to fit me. But I felt like it wasn't me because I was a girl. And that was it. But then I started to look into more stuff, and now I realize that I'm Non Binary. I also prefer looking Androgynous. ;3

Is being obsessed with queer representation rly a sign!? I’m bisexual but I’ve especially recently been quite obsessed with researching abt trans and non-binary idk I hate being a woman but mostly just because if drama, periods, sexism, etc. I’ve also hated my boobs and tried two bra binding but I feel like that’s just me being self conscious

Same. I'm afab and still trying to figure out how I want to present, because feminine things are very comforting to me but I know I'm not a girl or boy. It makes me uncomfortable when people read me as a girl but I don't want to be read as a boy because that isn't who I am either. It's frustrating how people see feminine as = girl :(

@@illusrin I totally get it dude. Im afab too. If it makes you feel better, your presentation doesn’t matter almost at all to cis people. If you’re afab non-binary they’ll still call you “she/her/ma’am”, no matter how well you pass/how andro you present (or at least that’s my experience. I’m super andro and I’ve never had anyone not default to she/her). I think cis people have some sort of super power where they can tell right away your assigned gender and never forget it or get past it. So dress however you want, you’ll get misgendered either way! 😂😭 In all seriousness, I feel for you. It’s a struggle for sure. So far the best solution I’ve found is pronoun pins. If people don’t respect your pronouns even when they’re literally spelled out for them then those people are just rude. Good luck friend

I remember getting to middle school and thinking when I went to the girls bathroom that is was in the boys. I felt so off and I would always get scared to go.

@@illusrin you are either a girl or boy, theres no question i can feel like an apache helicopter and "identify" as one. Does that magically make me a helicoptwr and not a human male? Hope u sort your head out and get in reality at some point

Well public restrooms are dirty and dangerous places. I suspect NO ONE feels comfortable in them. Why did you want to be one of the boys in the first place?

I feel the same way

Yea I feel the same way… I recently just told my uncles girlfriend(it seems weird but I told her because I don’t see her that often and she was the most supportive of what ever I did). I wrote a story about me being lesbian and I made the main character dysphoric. She said she can help me get a chest binder without my parents knowing❤. It took me so long to find out because I don’t remember much of my childhood but I remember my parents never cared about gender so they let me get a pixie cut and they let me get masculine clothing. It wasn’t until puberty that I started feeling really uncomfortable and the 6th grade locker room, oh my lord…. That was a disaster I wanted to run, I dreaded gym because of the locker room. I still don’t know how to tell my parents though.

"Even if I like how I look I always feel like I'm pretending to be someone I'm not." This really resonates with me. I actually wrote that down and am going to bring the quote to therapy because it explains how I feel so well. Thank you!

Oml I felt like that for so long Now I dress how I feel

Just don't wear formal attire Unless forced to and then don't.

I hope you get help. You are just you, no need to mutilate your body or identify as something you are not. There are an infinite number of personalities on this planet. By the way, there are a lot of women who don't like having boobs.... this is complete nonsense.

Adolescence is a complicated time in a person’s life, dominated by physical and psychological changes. A teenager’s social life can become a source of drama when complexes during adolescence begin to emerge. These complexes are also the result of emotional factors. In addition to the sudden changes in a teenager’s body, the psychological factor of insecurity plays an important role. All of this is exacerbated by the media, who sell young people an ideal image of physical perfection. At this age, boys and girls are very sensitive to the demands imposed by family, the media, and social life. These variables, when combined with their own set of expectations, lead to feelings of doubt, fear and worry. The most common complexes during adolescence As anyone can see, the media sells young people on unattainable physical ideals that can be unrealistic and even dangerous. Girls in particular are susceptible to body weight issues, which are sometimes the result of the extreme thinness they see in celebrities. Meanwhile, boys feel pressure to become more muscular. Similarly, they also absorb ideas about what makes for an attractive face, including a small nose, perfect white teeth, and beautiful skin. Young people become convinced that you need to be “sexy” in order to “be someone.” The list continues with qualities like height and clothing, going on ideas received from Hollywood and the world of advertising. As a result, failure to live up to these empty standards can cause real distress among adolescents. It’s normal for a teenager to be an individualist, since it’s the time of life when people start defining their personalities. Their minds are preparing to exercise independence and build a future for themselves. Complexes During Adolescence: Why They Emerge Seeing the signs Parents and teachers should pay close attention to how adolescents behave. Taken to an extreme, their concern with meeting the aforementioned physical standards can cause significant frustration and suffering. The typical signs of complexes during adolescence include excessive shyness, bad moods, aggressiveness, sadness, and apathy. Being attentive to these signs will allow you to understand the problem and address the changes they’re experiencing with empathy. “Complexes are the results of emotional factors. In addition to the sudden changes in a teenager’s body, the psychological factor of insecurity plays an important role.”

PEOPLE LIKE HAVING BOOBS?!?!??!?!?!! WTF

Hi there, I'm sorry that there have been factors in your life/community that have led you to feel this way about your gender. From a stranger on the internet who probably had a much different life experience and community than you did, I want to clear up a few misconceptions in your comment: 1. Doing one's hair and makeup is not related to being a woman. Women can have short hair or low maintenance hair, and not ever do make up, and they are still valid, normal women. I know many women who are like this. 2. Liking your boobs is not normal or standard for being a woman or being cis. Every woman feels differently about their boobs. This is also normal. Speaking for myself personally, I used to hate my chest as well, but after finding a healthy partner I realized that a lot of my previous insecurities were coming from unrealistic standards that were pushed on me by a variety of factors. I'm in my 30s and have come to wholly accept my droopy uneven gals, as they are just a part of who I am. I live in a country where bath houses are common, and since going to them I have gained a lot more confidence in my body and my womanhood. The room is always full of dozens of women, hair tied up or natural, no makeup, no jewelry, just real, raw women. The media tends to only show us a very specific view of womanhood, but I have now seen with my own eyes that women come in literally all shapes and sizes. It's a beautiful thing!

@@DSS712 The media is corrupt and trashes and supports the destruction of femininity. Stop talking utter garbage, you sound clueless as if you've never seen a woman behave naturally in your entire life.

Hi I just found this video myself (yay gender crisis) have you ever heard or gender fluid? It means to fluctuate between gender- any gender! Weather girl boy or in between!! I recommend looking into it

I'd say if androgyny is the way you want to be seen, go for it. That's what I'm doing.

Your gender isn't all that important. Clothing does not define it and not wanting to be a typical girl does not mean you need a new gender

Some other people are saying this but have you heard of gender-fluid? If you see this. How is it going?

EXACTLY

For my grade 6 leavers my ex-mother tryed to force me to wear a dress i argued that I wanted to wear a suit instead, and in the end I went to my grade 6 leavers wearing a half suit half skirt and the idea of killing my self and bitchy teacher for the 8th time that month. Worst year of my life.

How would you want people to address you? They address you the way you look, probably. They're not there to hurt you, i mean. They are just busy. Sex is a perception in somebody else's eyes. And i use sex because most people will always see people as male, or female. Even transexuals. Male or female transexuals.

@@mantralibre1367 And funny enough all people ARE either male or female.

Kind of highlights why this gender ID crap actually isn't helpful at all.

The problem is not other people. The problem is you. People are not obligated to cooperate in your illusions.

get therapy. there's too much goddamn stigma about it still

Welcome to the club, where all of humanity is just themselves. So explain how that makes you 'nonbinary', given that you're no different from anyone else?

Good luck! 😀😀😀

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just because you don't conform to gender expectations doesn't mean you're not a woman actually i'm not trying to invalidate you in any way (i'm also questioning myself) but just thought of putting this out there for you to know

That's definitely internalized misogyny. Everything you said is sexist. Talk to a therapist if you can. Disliking what is expected of women, doesn't make you less of a woman. You don't have to do what is expected of you, you can do anything you want and still be a woman.

@@Black-io1uc well, i kind of agree that this doesn't make me less of a woman. I'm generally questioning myself. But how is that misogyny? I never said or insinuated that women are less capable. Elaborate yourself please

@@myrtila Believing that you probably aren't a woman because you don't wish to be and do everything you've listed that is expected from women, when in reality most young women don't want all of that. Suggesting that you can't have an "intellectual bonding with people" as a woman sounded pretty sexist as well.

@E V I never said it was disrespectful or judgemental. The way she sees women doesn't offend me, but it does sounds like internalized misogyny and disliking of gender expectations which is the reason why many young girls want to identify with another gender. Something to consider.

Alls this video has done has made you a weaker stranger person who actively seeks out whatever they want to believe at the time based on your feelings, you are either born a male or female period. It doesnt matter what you feel like at all, your either male or female

@@cheezesmoker8851 Asking out of curiosity… how would you personally classify people who were born as intersex?

I can relate so much to the "you have to look like a woman if you want love" part. I'm so scared that boys doesn't want to date me because I look too masculine or people in general if I look and say I'm NB, this is so hard and now that I read your comment I don't feel so lonely. now I know there's more people in the same situation. I hope everything gets better for u! pd: I don't speak English so I'm sorry if I spelled something wrong.

@@winterlove9892 you should be worried about it

@@cheezesmoker8851 oh darling, I really don't care what YOU think but thanks for sharing your opinion with us

Then be an ugly girl, who cares? The point is, you ARE a girl!

So your not a girl? You don’t have a v*gina?

your the prettiest girl I have ever met

​@@sultanmufleh2905buzz off troll😊

Well we share experiences

That’s interesting I’m a woman and I’ve always loved masculine things and even though I’ve had feminine traits I’ve always had more masculine traits so I definitely relate to that. Society has made it so if your one particular gender you can’t be a tomboy or a Demi boy without identifying one or the other. I personally believe that just because you act more feminine or masculine doesn’t mean you don’t have to be a boy or a girl. It’s okay to be a Demi girl and tomboy.

Nah dude, you're just a man who likes feminine stuff and that's fine.

@@koreywitabagg665 Prefering masculine things doesn't make you less of a woman.

We're basically the same person, lol. 😭😂

The irony in that last statement is hilarious

It's actually extremely common for our generation (if you're gen z or millenial) to question their gender. Most people don't "feel" their gender, they just accept what they were born with and live their lifes. Not "feeling" your gender, doesn't mean that you must be something else, it's normal.

I'm glad you figured out who you are!

It's good you've found a place you feel well, but don't stop questioning - what you feel changes over time, and if you get too attached to a label and a community and start making it part of your personality it can stick with you even if your heart ever tells you otherwise. Look for good people, look for their character, not the way they label themselves.

@Mr Knarf I know that. I always question myself and my identity. It's just really nice to know I'm not some weirdo, and other people also feel how I feel. If I ever feel something different, cool. I thought I was pan or bi before, and I found something more comfortable now. Labels are like clothes, I'll keep trying on different ones till I find one that fits, or I'll stitch an already made one or make a whole new outfit. It just depends on how I feel. Flexibility is important. Willingness to accept new ideas and concepts is what allows for progress. I try to keep that in mind when going about conceptualizing complex topics like human identity

Why did she/ her pronoun made you uncomfortable and he / him doesn't I also sometimes don't like doing girly things or feminine things

@@joyeetaghosh2209 I don't EXCACTLY know why I just know that its not me.

@@XxLucaTheBucaxX I have a very personal question from you since I'm also trying to find my identity whether your people around disrespect you for just being a girl ar restrict you from doing things bcs that's not what girls do

@@XxLucaTheBucaxX or forced you to do certain girly things which you don't want to do

@@XxLucaTheBucaxX or are do you don't like call you she / her bcs of certain things being associated with being girl or woman

Honestly I should’ve know when all the characters I loved as a child were androgynous and/or cross dressed lol

So you didn’t like stereotypical women’s clothes……. Still female. It’s called style

man, these anime kids. its always you guys that are changing your gender to chicken sandwiches and candy wrappers

I’ve always felt like that when I went to church. Instead of wearing a dress I went for the more comfortable option of wearing a blouse and jeans.

Sounds like you were indoctrinated into being whatever it is you claim you are

They is for multiple people. You are either he or she. If you have something hanging there, you are he. If not its she.

Same here!

@@1Jason Point blank period. I don't understand these delusions. Is rather sad more than comical.

@@LeoSanz7 They are brainwashed nut jobs.

@@1Jason ​'they/them' have been used as neutral pronouns since the 14th century.

I hope you are doing okay, please take care of yourself. While it may not feel like it, being uncertain of your gender identity and/or sexuality is perfectly okay. Don’t give yourself a hard time for not knowing right now (or ever)

I'm happy you found the word! I also agree coming out was the best thing to happen to me

What you dress like shouldn't influence your gender identity. I'd argue that you are shallow if you think it does. I do not identify as a lycanthropist if I dress as a werewolf for Halloween.

This is is a woman her pronouns are she/ her

@@johnbattle7518 you know nothing, John Battle.

@@omikrondraconis5708 sure I do, the woman in the video is female, her pronouns are she and her, she also has a vagina

I SO identify with your comment.

@@omikrondraconis5708 actually he does

Im having a similar problem! Sometimes I don’t know if I’m making things up and being misogynistic, or if I don’t want to accept the fact that I may not be cis. I settled on the term demi-girl, for now.

Go to psychiatry it’s called gender dysphoria

Had some similar situations but finding love and just deeply reflecting about myself I knew at the end I’m just a gay man and sometimes I just like to be more feminine and bubbly with my closest friends and my partner and I feel more comfortable being masculine when I’m in public or with family members because I don’t like to call attention and personally being masculine just feels good with me as well. Yes at one point on my 20s I felt conflicted being a man and not expressing my femininity as I wanted to. Today I’m proud to be a man and just because I’m feminine as well doesn’t make me less if a man. Being a man is not about being masculine, it’s so much more. And finally I’m feeling way more at peace with myself day by day 😌✌🏻!!!!

@@legoshirocha thank you for sharing your experiences! It’s great to know that there are other people in the world like me who share similar feelings to me, since it helps me feel less alone, and helps me understand myself a bit better.

@@youngjellyfish8694 glad I helped ☺️!!! Honestly I don’t necessarily understand non binary people, sometimes they contradict themselves the more I watch different point of views but hey if that’s what they want then you do you boo. At one point I really thought I was trans but I did a really well deep self reflection before proceeding forward so at the end I knew I wasn’t trans because unlike trans I never suffered dysphoria as a kid, honestly I was just being a kid I just didn’t worry about gender but I did have some feminine gestures and I thing that was an early sign I was a gay boy 😅. But my dysphoria only showed until my late teens, then I became gender fluid and at the end after my 25 and with some help I just realized I’m just a gay men who is feminine yet masculine and that will never make me less of a man. It’s the toxic mentality and ideology of the alpha male what is wrong and I try to disassociate with people like that. I’m happy a gay men wether being masculine and hairy or feminine and wear make up at times. Trust me at least for me accepting my body just the way it is, it just helped a lot with the nonsense and unnecessary confusion.

Uhhhh please buy an actual binder and don't exercise in them I really don't think that's good for you maybe see a doctor or something

I highly recommend Enell sports bras. They're the only bras I wear. The bra is solid as a rock, nothing moves. You didn't damage anything, btw, but if you get Enell you won't need to wear two.

Uh oh that might be me

All the cats deserve a shout out😅

@@lynnsaga1397 god you're SO right

sometimes life is hard and sometimes you dont like something but that doesnt change REALITY. FACE REALITY DONT RUN FROM IT

You can give up on stereotypes and still be a woman like tomboy or still a both a feminine and masculine woman

@@koreywitabagg665 Yes, you can do that, but also you could be nonbinary. Its different for different people.

same here

It's rude to refer to someone in the third person when they can hear you. So "you" is the correct pronoun.

Great video btw, made me feel even better with my new label. Now I can say for sure that gender euphoria is a real thing

Congratulations on coming to that realization! It’s always amazing figuring out a part of yourself

lmfao mentaI iIIness

True. I sometimes slip into they when I am talking about more than one person. And in order to not screw up pronouns I try and use the persons name.

You perfectly managed to articulate the reason why I don't like using they/them most of the time without me even realizing there was a reason behind it lol

For sure, seems rather shallow, doesn't it? I hate this male female polarization thing. There's really a lot of overlap and people seem to think only the extremes are important. That's a big mistake.

So basically exactly the same as ALL men and women who just act like they want without worrying about what society says 😂 Only you have to pretend it makes you special somehow.

@@DarthLesbian Yeah I can see what you mean. Telling others that you are something special, such as a non-binary, could be seen as something stupid since many men and women want to be themselves and yet they don't need a special name to be called by. I commend those that don't need to pretend that they are special. But sometimes, being exactly who you are while also being a part of a group that are in the same boat as you, why not be known as a non-binary? It's the truth after all. Besides, not everyone that are proud to be themselves also have a problem with gender. There's Trans men and women, and those people are fine in the mainstream to exist. Not everyone that wants to express themselves are Trans, so why is being known as a non-binary change that? Sure there are people that just want attention, and having a grain of salt for every piece of information is smart, but that doesn't mean you can dismiss everyone because some people ARE what they say they are. I've said my piece.

Oop they deleted their comment as soon as I posted mine. Welp I guess they felt bad or something.

It isn't an option, if you're female you're either a girl or a woman. Nobody gets to step outside of their biology.

Get help, this is just a phase 💀💀💀

You're not non- binary. You just aren't a walking stereotype. It's so sexist to have this spectrum where feminine women are women and masculine men are men and everybody else is inbetween. Grow up. Just because a female doesn't act like barbie doesn't mean they are less female than one who does. This non- binary rubbish is old school 1950s sexism.

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​@@loganblackwood2922it's not stepping outside biology as gender is psychological and everyone is free to identify as they want

are you me

ª , i'm exactly the same . I never had problems with my gender for almost 20 years until now but this last year i'm really struggling with my gender, I feel like I'm demigirl and I'm having chest dysphoria . Yet I never had any serious signs I can recall being a kid .

SOMEONE ANSWER THIS BECAUSE SAME

So what your saying is because of the way people look at you, you thought that was a gender?

Did you even watch the video? It’s about more than just not liking dresses.

Im a man and Im comfortable being a man, but I have a more squeaky voice than normal and also Im also smaller than normal, so my friends often make fun of me by calling me a woman lol

give your head a shake return back to reaIity ffs

How do you question your gender unless u trans bc it’s 99,99999999999 times a billion more that you are your gender actually it’s the most obvious delusion there is when I think abt it

Take a look between your legs and you'll know.

Of course you are! Follow the trend!

Understanding why Wittgenstein rejected logical atomism was waaaay easier than understanding this. I... Do you even understand that these are not problems, do you. We live in the less judgemental, sexually more liberated society in history. Do you so need to define yourself or what?

That doesn't change ur gender lmfao

@@SpockLover27 No such thing as assigned sex, just observed sex 😂🤡

@@SpockLover27 I cant help that delusional people exist bro 😂

@@SpockLover27 Oh no fake made up people in a fake fictional story my life is ruined! Oh wait… 😂👋

Why not focus on your education and on your career plans?

@@keyboarddancers7751 I think I can continue to have a fulfilling career and still be introspective about these kind of things. When I said "full time" I didn't mean fixating on my gender expression at the expense of everyday life and long-term plans, I just meant I kinda have to choose a look and stick with it. Since whilst my facial hair regrows fast, I can't be cleanshaven and more "feminine" one day and then bearded "masculine" the next.

@@funkytikigod7039 Well as long as it doesn't involve removing anything more substantial than hair, there's nothing wrong with experimentation. Your twenties are such an incredibly precious energetic foundational opportunity for the coming decades of your lifespan.

@@keyboarddancers7751 Yeah I don't have any interest in sex reassignment surgery, I'd have to be suffering from extreme gender dysphoria to consider that. I'm just curious about discarding any arbitrary limitations on my gender expression I've subconsciously internalised so as to better self-actualise myself. Although, I think it would be cool to be a post-gender transhuman cyborg one day, but that's just scifi nonsense for now...

@@funkytikigod7039 I wouldn't dismiss such things as "sci-fi nonsense": Joanna Russ and Marge Piercy each wrote really interesting (seminal) sci-fi/utopian novels in the mid '70s whose (revolutionary for the time) themes were the radically non-conformist societal roles of women and men. *The Female Man* and *Woman on the Edge of Time* - both well worth a read. I'm indebted to a female acquaintance over 20 years ago for introducing me to those rather amazing books. Also I think Star Trek and Battlestar Galactica (reboot) have already used the "transhuman cyborg" plot device very creatively.

well my kindest tip from me is. Dress however you want and dont put a label you are. You dont need to fit in a genderrole. You do you without identifying how you want.

The thing about pronouns is that you can use whichever ones you want! They're separate from your gender identity. For example i'm agender, but I use she/her and also they/them because that's what I'm comfortable with

@@kingdunnad thank you, that’s actually really helpful. I’ve been identifying as non binary for few months now and discovered that i like they/she/he pronouns for myself

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nah. it's the core and entrity of nonbinary. even when someone has neurodivergence and depersonalization disorder

Way to be closeminded and ignorant

What about adult people lol

I’m so glad to have helped! And trust me I definitely understand it taking awhile to accept it

well why do you feel nonbinary? because you dont like classic feminine trait and use more manly stuff. So I would say you are just not a women that doesnt need to follow certain looks etc.

@Jay Blue well amd how can you prooof it? Like its justva construct according to some)

Hi. So, while I can understand why you might think this video is claiming all people who do not conform to stereotypical gender roles are nonbinary, that is not what is being said. So to begin with if you take into account that the video was made with the intent to help people who are already questioning their gender and then is also just a "summary" of some common experiences among non-binary people it will come across as a very general video so I understand where you're confusion came from, but Lynn is simply pulling from common experiences in order to help people come to a clearer understanding. Also, yes arguably creating labels does "force" people into new boxes, but then that's the beauty of labels, they are adaptable and you can always create a new label, specifically with the nonbinary umbrella term it is extremely extensive and adaptable covering a whole range of feelings with the only "necessary" common thread being that you do not identify/feel wholly like a man or woman. If you want to understand more about what being non-binary is actually like then there's a pretty extensive comment thread up above (Maria, Elfieinblack and Silverlightning), but for convenience I will place the explanatory comments in this comment as you are obviously expressing a wish to learn and understand more about non-binary people. Comment/question from Maria: "I am really trying to understand the concept of non-binary. Forgive me if I am wrong, but it sounds to me that you were not comfortable with femininity: growing boobs, dressing up etc. A lot of women feel this way, and prefer to look and/or act in a more masculine way. It's nothing new or unacceptable. Besides, it is all new to the teenager and it is quite natural to question everything. Furthermore, I believe that everbody wants to be seen and accepted for who they are, and not their gender, or role in the society. I really can relate to most of the things you have mentioned, excpet for the relationship with the pronouns. However, I would not identify myself as non-binery. I find it very confusing that non-binary is referred to as "gender". Another thing I find confusing is the stereotyping what being a male or female is. As you are not either of them, that implies you know exactly what it is like to be a man or a woman. How? " Response from Elfieinblack: "It’s more complicated than just not being comfortable with femininity. There are tons of masculine presenting women who are definitely women and there are tons of non-binary people who still love to put on pretty dresses and get dressed up. It’s more deep down than that. When you’re non-binary you feel constantly too masculine to be “one of the girls” and too feminine to be “one of the boys”. It’s when you feel like you’re an alien or something because neither “boy” or “girl” feels right to you. There’s a lot of discomfort in the performance of being one gender or the other. Not just in terms of presentation but in terms of the day to day things. Whenever someone calls you “son” or “girlfriend” or “ma’am” it just feels wrong. Sometimes you don’t even really feel human. You’re just you and you wish that was enough, that you didn’t have to put a label on it because neither label feels right. Clothes are gender neutral. Like I said, you’re right about there being lots of women who don’t like traditionally feminine things and men who don’t like traditionally masculine things. That doesn’t dictate your gender. When they said “your assigned gender feels like a costume” it’s more like drag. When I dress up in fancy dresses and look traditionally feminine I feel like I’m dressing in drag. Imagine how you would feel dressing up as a “boy” with a fake mustache and everything. That’s how it feels. The thing is, there is a non-binary beauty standard just like there is one for men and for women and that standard is the flat chested, straight waisted, cheekbony version of androgyny (like Ruby Rose). But a lot of non-binary people aren’t that, and that makes it hard, the same way it’s hard for cis people when they don’t fit a beauty standard. We know that our gender and what we look like aren’t related but we also know that this is beauty standard." Comment from Silverlightning: "I'd also like to add something. In my experience I literally do not feel any connection to the idea of being a man, whenever anyone has grouped me in with the boys it feels wrong and even just being around a group of guys leaves me feeling disconnected I have no feeling of shared connection with them its just an alienating environment. I feel more comfortable just talking and hanging out with girls and feel more of a connection and understanding their but in the same way that I know I'm not a boy I know I'm not a girl, not a part of that group just separate. Gender in the way society sees it is a construction, whereas gender identity or perception is personal and internal its intrinsic to a person's core self to the point where its more instinctual than any actual realisation at first for a lot of people." Response from Maria: "Thank you for your explanation. It makes me think. I find it interesting that a non-binary person wants to be accepted for who they are.The focus should be on the human being, and on one's personality, right? It sounds pretty nice. However, you say you don't feel belonging to a group of guys. Doesn't that put more emphasis on their gender than their personalities? I understand what you mean when you say you don't feel belonging to the group, but isn't that generalizing their gender at the same time? Thinking that you definitely can't connect cause they are guys? Perhaps they share similar values, interests type of humor with you, but you never found out as you didn't approach them as separate individuals, but just as a group. Hence, they don't get to be seen "for who they are", but just as a gender with stereotypical gender roles. I don't believe that the gender determines your personality. It plays a role, for sure. However, there are so many other factors that play a more important part such as: upbringing, school, hobbies etc. My other question is: How can you identify yourself with females and still not feel like one of them? How can you know for sure? How "different" do you have to be from either group, boys and girls, in order to be regarded as another gender?" Response from SilverLightning: Hi. So first I'd like to say I'm not the best at explaining myself or my understanding of my gender because a lot of it is instinctual to me and I'm also still trying to figure out exactly where I fit, but I'll do my best to answer your questions. I'm glad your actually interested in learning and understanding. So when I say I don't feel connected or like I belong in a group of guys, I'm not saying I don't get along with them, often I do and whenever its just me and one of them its a lot easier as we're just individuals and there's often no pressure of gender roles or categories as we're a pretty diverse group as it is (we never originally hung out as a group so I knew them all as individual people first and its still easy to be around them when its just one of them). But whenever its a group situation, I always feel disconnected and alienated its like a persistent nagging sensation and I feel like "other", its got nothing to do with the conversation or topics I just feel displaced I don't really know how to explain it more than that a displacement. I can answer your next question a little easier, so when it comes to girls, I can connect on an easier level and I often feel like I can be myself easier as all parts of my personality and interests are taken at face value whether they would've been expected from me or not. I also just relate easier with girls because I don't feel uncomfortable there's no disconnect. When I say that it might sound like I'm saying I can identify as one of the girls as I don't feel disconnected, but its not that simple, there are times when I wonder if I'm a transgirl but it just doesn't sit right with me as I feel more neutral, the reason I connect easier with girls is because of that, I'm not judged for my interests and I'm taken at face value which includes the fact that I have no draw, no desire to be a girl. I want to say, I can't know for sure how I will come to perceive myself in the future as my understanding of myself may change so yes, I may decide that the nonbinary label is not 100% right in the future, but at the minute it is who I am as far as my understanding goes, I'm not a girl and I'm definitely not a boy. I honestly don't know how to approach your final question, simply because I never have felt like I belong to the "groups" of being a boy or a girl fully so I can't really say how different one would need to be. It's someone's perception of themselves that matters and the only person who can fully understand their identity is the person themselves, so you just have to take somebody at their word. I know that it can be frustrating not having a clear and decisive explanation but everyone's unique and so everyone's perception of gender identity will differ slightly especially when you equate that to gender constructions in society and how they shape expression. I hope this makes some sort of sense as its hard to put into words and probably sounds a little contradictory which I'm sorry about I've tried to explain it to the best of my ability, but its a part of me, its instinctive not something that I know how to describe as it just is." Sorry for the extremely long message which included the previous comment thread, but I really hope this helps as its a complicated topic and honestly I still struggle to completely wrap my head around my own feelings around my gender at points mainly due to it being so instinctual to me I just have to feel it rather than explain it.

@@silverlightning6649 wow ok thats a lot of content 😅 after reading it, i sadly still dont really get what "feeling like one of the boys/girls" or "feeling connected to a group of men/women" would even mean, because for me it would entirely be about individual personality traits, not gender. but your response made me think...maybe its like with the fish and the water, you cant feel it unless it is missing or there is some disturbance... anyway, thanks for responding 👍🏻

@@heyy1829 To be fair, I can't explain it the best because as I've said I don't experience what its like to identify and feel like a boy/girl but I have had it explained to me from both sides since I came out. I also focus on people's personalities, this is just another factor to interaction that generally goes unnoticed by cis-people as it all aligns identically to what you expect anyway so I understand how you may not be able to feel it as like you said, you can't feel it unless you miss it.

@@silverlightning6649 It’s one valid sign you are non binary and that is being transexual if not it’s just a delusion i could get behind calling a trans (them) I’m not gonna call a white person Chinese just because he feels like it. gender dysphoria is a mental health problem that you need To take up with a therapist or psychiatrist and not go around screaming you are non binary just like a person in psychosis shouldn’t go around and talk about his delusion that is obviously fake actually it’s basically the same thing thinking you are two gender is a perfect example of a psychotic delusion I mean it’s the most obvious wrong delusion that exist if you want to take the argument seriously

from what I gather that is the "soul" of what being nonbinary means, or gender non conforming

@@Cha4k i go to therapy but it’s not really something i can bring myself to talk about face-to-face with someone

I have been growing my hair and do get mistaken for a girl sometimes but I don't know what I feel I don't mind being called by she/her or he/him but I'm also not sure if I like it. I'm also 14 and don't usually think about gender I kinda just accepted it and stopped thinking about it, but really I've been looking into how genders work and now I really am not sure.

@@shadowss360 like just identify with your birth sex and just dress however you like. Like I alo dont conform to gender norms

You are just mentaly ill.

@@shadowss360 You could be Apagender, that’s when you don’t care about your gender

​@@agrizicyou are more

Why not both? Omnigender

@@hyperN3725 oo thanks! I figured out I'm genderfluid tho. I had this whole thing feeling like a boy and liking being called it but I was kinda girl the next day. A few days later and my gender poofed so I was like "ig I'm genderfluid". I saw memes and I can honestly relate so hard

@@SparkleTimes123 honestly good for you my... uhhhh. Your highness. I'm really happy for you. Also please ignore any hate comments that you get from edgy 13 year olds -it's not worth arguing with them-

@@hyperN3725 Thanks! I'm not one to confront things hehe :))

@@SparkleTimes123 anyways have fun with your journay(?) 😃

We don't have to 'identify' with a label. Just be who you are. 'Woman' just means female human. Humans don't have to fit neatly into sexist stereotypes, roles and expectations just because of our sex. Those days are over, despite people who are pushing this ideology stupidly upholding that tired old sexism. Don't buy into this garbage. It's conservative, conformist, regressive and sexist. 'Gender' is the very problem.

You do realise she recently left the Mormons? From one cult to another...

How do you identify now?

@@vn1445 I'm still unsure and need more time for that to be totally clear, but actually I'm seeing myself as nonbinary and more in the agender spectrum.

It’s more complicated than just not being comfortable with femininity. There are tons of masculine presenting women who are definitely women and there are tons of non-binary people who still love to put on pretty dresses and get dressed up. It’s more deep down than that. When you’re non-binary you feel constantly too masculine to be “one of the girls” and too feminine to be “one of the boys”. It’s when you feel like you’re an alien or something because neither “boy” or “girl” feels right to you. There’s a lot of discomfort in the performance of being one gender or the other. Not just in terms of presentation but in terms of the day to day things. Whenever someone calls you “son” or “girlfriend” or “ma’am” it just feels wrong. Sometimes you don’t even really feel human. You’re just you and you wish that was enough, that you didn’t have to put a label on it because neither label feels right. Clothes are gender neutral. Like I said, you’re right about there being lots of women who don’t like traditionally feminine things and men who don’t like traditionally masculine things. That doesn’t dictate your gender. When they said “your assigned gender feels like a costume” it’s more like drag. When I dress up in fancy dresses and look traditionally feminine I feel like I’m dressing in drag. Imagine how you would feel dressing up as a “boy” with a fake mustache and everything. That’s how it feels. The thing is, there is a non-binary beauty standard just like there is one for men and for women and that standard is the flat chested, straight waisted, cheekbony version of androgyny (like Ruby Rose). But a lot of non-binary people aren’t that, and that makes it hard, the same way it’s hard for cis people when they don’t fit a beauty standard. We know that our gender and what we look like aren’t related but we also know that this is beauty standard. Does any of that help?

@@elfieinblack4618 That is interesting. Thank you for taking your time to explain it to me.

@@Maria-rc2hf I'd also like to add something. In my experience I literally do not feel any connection to the idea of being a man, whenever anyone has grouped me in with the boys it feels wrong and even just being around a group of guys leaves me feeling disconnected I have no feeling of shared connection with them its just an alienating environment. I feel more comfortable just talking and hanging out with girls and feel more of a connection and understanding their but in the same way that I know I'm not a boy I know I'm not a girl, not a part of that group just separate. Gender in the way society sees it is a construction, whereas gender identity or perception is personal and internal its intrinsic to a person's core self to the point where its more instinctual than any actual realisation at first for a lot of people. Hope this helps

@@silverlightning6649 Thank you for your explanation. It makes me think. I find it interesting that a non-binary person wants to be accepted for who they are.The focus should be on the human being, and on one's personality, right? It sounds pretty nice. However, you say you don't feel belonging to a group of guys. Doesn't that put more emphasis on their gender than their personalities? I understand what you mean when you say you don't feel belonging to the group, but isn't that generalizing their gender at the same time? Thinking that you definitely can't connect cause they are guys? Perhaps they share similar values, interests type of humor with you, but you never found out as you didn't approach them as separate individuals, but just as a group. Hence, they don't get to be seen "for who they are", but just as a gender with stereotypical gender roles. I don't believe that the gender determines your personality. It plays a role, for sure. However, there are so many other factors that play a more important part such as: upbringing, school, hobbies etc. My other question is: How can you identify yourself with females and still not feel like one of them? How can you know for sure? How "different" do you have to be from either group, boys and girls, in order to be regarded as another gender?

@@Maria-rc2hf Hi. So first I'd like to say I'm not the best at explaining myself or my understanding of my gender because a lot of it is instinctual to me and I'm also still trying to figure out exactly where I fit, but I'll do my best to answer your questions. I'm glad your actually interested in learning and understanding. So when I say I don't feel connected or like I belong in a group of guys, I'm not saying I don't get along with them, often I do and whenever its just me and one of them its a lot easier as we're just individuals and there's often no pressure of gender roles or categories as we're a pretty diverse group as it is (we never originally hung out as a group so I knew them all as individual people first and its still easy to be around them when its just one of them). But whenever its a group situation, I always feel disconnected and alienated its like a persistent nagging sensation and I feel like "other", its got nothing to do with the conversation or topics I just feel displaced I don't really know how to explain it more than that a displacement. I can answer your next question a little easier, so when it comes to girls, I can connect on an easier level and I often feel like I can be myself easier as all parts of my personality and interests are taken at face value whether they would've been expected from me or not. I also just relate easier with girls because I don't feel uncomfortable there's no disconnect. When I say that it might sound like I'm saying I can identify as one of the girls as I don't feel disconnected, but its not that simple, there are times when I wonder if I'm a transgirl but it just doesn't sit right with me as I feel more neutral, the reason I connect easier with girls is because of that, I'm not judged for my interests and I'm taken at face value which includes the fact that I have no draw, no desire to be a girl. I want to say, I can't know for sure how I will come to perceive myself in the future as my understanding of myself may change so yes, I may decide that the nonbinary label is not 100% right in the future, but at the minute it is who I am as far as my understanding goes, I'm not a girl and I'm definitely not a boy. I honestly don't know how to approach your final question, simply because I never have felt like I belong to the "groups" of being a boy or a girl fully so I can't really say how different one would need to be. It's someone's perception of themselves that matters and the only person who can fully understand their identity is the person themselves, so you just have to take somebody at their word. I know that it can be frustrating not having a clear and decisive explanation but everyone's unique and so everyone's perception of gender identity will differ slightly especially when you equate that to gender constructions in society and how they shape expression. I hope this makes some sort of sense as its hard to put into words and probably sounds a little contradictory which I'm sorry about I've tried to explain it to the best of my ability, but its a part of me, its instinctive not something that I know how to describe as it just is. I really hope this helps as I know its a complicated topic to understand but you want to learn and you sound accepting or at least open so I'm happy to talk