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"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams

1. You can be lonely even if you are around people. 2. You develop strong attachments to inanimate objects. 3. You feel alone even when surrounded by people like friends. 4. You overshare quickly when meeting someone who listens. 5. You desperately hang on to your friends, to the point of freaking them out and pushing them away.

Sometimes, loneliness is not being alone, but that sad feeling that no one loves you and cares about you.

The worst type of loneliness is that when you feel it around the loving ones

0:20 The saying is, “Misery loves company”, Not loneliness. 1:40 You start gollum’ing out. 2:42 You feel alone even when you’re not alone. 3:30 You tend to overshare when someone is there to listen. 4:26 You are gollum, your friends are the one ring.

In my personal experience, to get out of this deep loneliness is to not share about your problem with anyone(yet) because it's easy to overshare and you'll probably regret about the decision and hurt your self esteem. It's best that you keep yourself busy like helping others(not mentally), do charity work, any work that requires you to be there physically and requires teamwork to complete. This will help you break the cycle of loneliness and makes you feel good about your own ability.

Dealing with this at 47 is absolutely devastating. It's like trying to learn how to live life all over again. But with the painful knowledge that you are in midlife.

As an introvert, we’re always afraid well say something wrong so we usually keep to ourselves.

The only sense of loneliness I feel is not having a lover, like being single hurts a lot for me despite still living in my youth.

I think especially with the pandemic we’ve all felt alone at at least one point in time and it’s nice to see the indicators. Also the adventure time animation is adorable 🥰🥰

Sometimes I watch these videos even if nothing applies to me it’s still interesting getting a peek into others thoughts.

Loneliness hurts so much and I hurt for those who also deal with it too. I fear that I’ll live like this for the rest of my life. I’m 22 years old, turning 23 this year and I’m not living like others my age.

For humans not to feel lonely they need two things: a one friend and a romantic partner. To not feel isolated they also need regular positive social interaction. Many people cannot obtain any of these.

How deeply it explains me. It's just so relatable. Constantly feeling abandoned and isolated and rejected and discarded and being treated as disposable. I just wish I die soon enough.

I feel like I'm slowly losing my friends. My best friend hasn't talked to me in a year. I know he's very busy, but still, I feel very lonely sometimes.

It goes without saying, lonliness causes anxiety and depression. We’ve been told all of our lives “no one likes a complainer,” but chronic illness, divorce and other major life changes magnifies lonliness. Being told to “get out of your shell, and go meet people” doesn’t help: It only makes a person feel lonelier. Maybe therapy is the answer, as long as one doesn’t hear, “snap out of it!"

3 and 4 definitely. I’ve always been an outcast, and even being in the break room at work with several coworkers makes me feel even more alone, so I usually take my breaks in my car. On the rare occasion when I do start to make a friend, I do tend to share a little too much about my past, and there was a time in my life when I would tell then lies to impress them out of fear of them finding out that my life is and has been actually quite dull and boring compared to most people.

1. Ironically, being around people makes me feel _more_ alone, because my mind sees all these people that could potentially like me, but do not. 2. This seems the least true of the list for me, but I do like collecting things, so that's probably where that manifests. 3. Very true. Even in a group of friends, I tend to feel like the odd man out. Been like that my whole life. 4. Yep. If I feel like somebody gets me, even a little, I feel like I can go from antisocial to "talks too much" faster than a Fast& The Furious drag race. 5. I am certain I have lost more than one friendship by being too clingy. So, I'm pretty sure I've been deeply lonely for most of my life.

This is accurate. When I am around people that I know, I still get lonely. I feel this emptiness inside and I feel like I'm missing something, but I don't know what.

I hate this feeling I have of total isolation despite having a partner and great friends who care about me. I just feel... existentially tired. Like living itself is taking a mental toll, despite being physically rested. It certainly doesn't help that I'm trying to get away from controlling parents who refuse to let me be my own person, and I'm going through therapy and medication that still haven't helped after years of trying. Sorry to whatever random KZfaq commenter I happen to dump this on, but I just need to rant into the void right now.

After this pandemic I’m guranteed everyone has felt it

Everyday I feel lonely to the point that I spend most of my time locked up in my room. I have friends but they make me feel lonely even though i’m with them. Sometimes I want to reach out and talk to other people but either I lack the social skills to carry a decent conversation or im scared and have a distrust towards the person or stranger.

This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat

I relate to the third one a lot! I have a friend group but I don't like talking about my problems and feel disengaged. I feel kind of lonely and have an underlying feeling that no one likes me and that everyone hates me.

The materialism thing, I can definitely relate. I can spend hours “window shopping” online. The process of checking out, waiting for the item to arrive and finally unboxing it, definitely fills the void for a bit. I get excited and super proud for owning the item I bought. Though it wouldn’t take long for me to wanna shop again. A lot of stuff in my room are boxes with stuff I’ve bought and I have so space for. I go through hundreds every month on stuff I really don’t need.

I've always experienced loneliness on and off since childhood. I'd feel it in elementary school from having no friends, then once I made some it simmered down. Yet I'd still feel moments of loneliness, and I think I felt it more a couple years ago from having a hard time making friendships for some odd reason. I realized my loneliness came from not being my authentic self around others, because Id feel like no one TRULY knows me except for any romantic partners I'd have. I've always felt like they have more than anyone and that would simmer down the loneliness more, yet because I still don't have any friends, I'd still experience a bit of loneliness. I've been putting myself out there to make more of an effort for meaningful connections, hoping it can bring me the right people in my life one day.

That third one hurts the most, thinking you're around people you think will actually fill that lonely void but they only make it deeper just because you feel as if they can't relate, alleviate, or at least make you forget about it for a split second. Es okay tho, we're still healing beautiful souls, so good luck to all those that are in this same mental battle. 🖤

I've dealt with loneliness all the time and still am. Most times I would have to keep myself busy with my hobbies just so that my mind wouldn't have to ponder on my loneliness. It's good on some days and other days it does get to you so it's like a up and down feeling of being lonely

Lonliness is the feeling of alienation that we carry with us on this journey of life. It has been exacerbated due to the pandemic, and just seems to linger no matter how hard we try to get back to the old normal. It is the latent strain and major barrier to finding true happiness again and will require on all of our parts a resiliency to want to connect with others on a deeper level! \🕶/

School makes me feel so lonely because I have no friends and I don’t socialize with any of my peers. I hate being forced to go to school. I’m so glad it’s almost over

Man these animations are too accurate and too good. They, almost fully, represent the topic being discussed in a great detail.

Yeah...that opening up thing. Did it once a small slip as testing ice with them, never again. Even when it didn't impact them, it showed how damaging it CAN be. So from now on I'll sign my apathy to deal with my emotional matters, since he's so good at it and is always there for me. Love him.

Sometimes this loneliness almost make me experience actual physical pain or the feeling of drowning/suffocating.

I checked 4/5 on this video. It kind of puts into perspective how much loneliness has been a part of my life from childhood till now and reminds me of my dad apologizing and expressing regret for me growing up so isolated.

thanks for making this video! i kinda have been feeling lonely and was worried i was being dramatic, but this helped me realize i was not

About the material ones: A talk with a friend is always free. ...usually free

I do often feel lonely especially that I have social anxiety Like I want to conect to people so badly but I can't

Awesome animation! Damn, this hits home. Felt like I am 16 again, I was a horrible teen but my friends are still here and I am not forcefuly keeping them. Though I still feel lonely at times, such as today.

Love your vids so much, I use these to relate to and even if I don't actually use the tactics to help in a video, it still helps to realize my own habits and make my own ways to counteract it, thank you so much for your help with everything, yall are so amazing!!

Your videos always help me figure things out and that makes me happy that there are people out there that understand.

True pain always hides in our hearts

Loneliness is something I’ve dealt with for god knows how long. I’ve been used to it to the point it no longer makes me feel sad and envious of others. It actually makes me happier, yet empty. It’s hard to explain 😅 I just read books, do my best in school, and play video games, it’s pretty chill.

Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently! 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship

I've been this way for the past ten years. The COVID quarantine felt just like any other day in my life. And my life still drags on......

i relate to everything and it made me quite sad. as someone who barely goes out and spends time on social media more than making friends outside, this really hits home. i will try and improve myself though and hopefully my social anxiety will be better since it's really becoming worse after schools closed.

Robin Williams is right about loneliness being with people who make you feel like that is despairing find people that make you feel genuine for who you are.

Hi. I just want to say, that I really appreciate the videos you guys make. I've been feeling a bit empty for like half a year now and this channal really helps.

I LOVE the graphics in this video!

Just what I needed.

Sometimes I just stare at the ceiling at think “I deserved so much more”

The only thing that got me out of this is my old roommate had some of these traits, and I was starting to do the same thing. And it made me realize I didn't want a life like that. I am sill sad but I know I don't want to go in that direction again. And she is about 58 years old. It made me realize if I continue that same path I would end up like her, and that is much more scarier then not doing a thing about it.

Going to the gym and blasting Hardstyle solved all my problems. I 100% recommend anyone going through these troubles

Sums it up quite well. Definitely over share out of loneliness. Thanks for the video

Thank you . This video really helped me 😊

I have ptsd from a bombing and have been pretty much isolated since 2018. I can definitely relate to the over-sharing part. And I’ve definitely become attached to inanimate objects. And I hate to be a downer but the mental health system in America was broken before the pandemic, and it’s barely functioning now. I’m on two waiting lists for a therapist because mine quit without notice. I had to go a week without my mood stabilizer because the pharmacy didnt have any. This isn’t getting better. We need to acknowledge the reality of our situation instead of finding ways to just cope with it. In the last 13 months two of my friends have committed suicide. It’s really not good out here.

Good video, your sure seem to understand. Being lonely and having anxiety 😥 is tuff.

Wow, this really hit me.

I can relate to most of the points. Sometimes I’ll go (restaurant for example) with people and after 5 minutes I feel like I wanna be alone why can’t they just disappear… Few months ago I bought a small camping tent. I’ll start solo camping!

It gets worse with age, I feel like I am the lonelinest person in the world most of the time.

This really resonates. It put into words for me.

I'm so in my head I couldn't see the beautiful truths and I believe every negative thought pass my mind by and reject the good ones.. too much time with myself... 😞

Why is this channel so relatable?

Once again, I learn more about myself in just a few minutes! Question: Do you think you could do a video on rejection sensitive dysphoria? RSD is something I recently heard about, and I want to know more :) it gets tough digesting advanced psychology papers and stuff lol

the worst thing is that I still forever want to be with my friends who makes me lonely. I don't wanna replace them but.. I dont know what to do, i want to be their friend. I dont wanna lose them. But sadly they don't probably think about me deeply like this...

You missed a point with possessions. The inclination to anthropomorphize inanimate objects and give them “personalities” to have “friends” or “companions.”

I had these problems for a while, I was isolated by my mom and I started hoarding craft stuff and plushies, and when I finally had a chance to make friends I had a hard time making any because I didn't realize I was being overly clingy and over sharing

1, 3, and 4 for me... I knew I was lonely but I never knew it was a deep loneliness. I never knew deep loneliness existed. "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal", "I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" and "I'm my own poison" are 3 things I'd use to describe it. "I'm my own poison" comes from wanting to be alone but not wanting to be alone at the same time. I want to be understood but I won't let anyone understand me in fear of getting hurt. "I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" is just the pain of absolutely hating everything about "normal" but you don't want to be an outcast. I don't want to be an outcast due to insecurities but I hate everything about "normal". When was the last time I could just be myself and not get made fun of for it? And "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal" is self-explanatory. It's a battle between being me and following my dreams and fitting in with everyone else. This all explains what I couldn't explain to my mom.

Perfect Vid! ✔️

it's so me... i was extremely lonely as a kid. things improved since then, but still, spending most of my life as an extremely lonely person made a deep mark on me. especially two things are significant - hording and oversharing, that were totally misunderstood by everyone around. I had a tendency to collect photos, mostly of fave musicians. I would put them around myself, sometimes just talking to them. No, that wasn't craziness. That was a way to have this feeling of presence of someone else around. The more the better. Over time i was lucky to meet one of those people personally. That led to series of misunderstandings from this small group of friends that i actually had at the time. You see - for me meeting this "photo companion" was such a cool feeling. Being able to talk to him and sometimes to have a drink was a dream come true, no romantic feelings involved. But people around saw it differently - "why do you chase this guy! you should give up! he has a girlfriend! you are so obsessed! we know you love him so much, you have so many photos of him!!!". I don't collect photos anymore, however i sometimes miss them. You see, this is a kind of "lonely person hobby" that is difficult to explain to someone who finds the pile of photos. Another thing that people misunderstand is oversharing. You get an easy label of being the one who "only talks about themselves". yeah - people take some things for granted. You went shopping, got some nice stuff? saw a nice movie that moved you? got in trouble and need to get things off your chest? what do you do! talk to friends or someone! Unless you don't have anyone to talk to, so you just keep everything inside of you. Until you meet someone who is willing to listen, but they are unaware of the fact that you have someone to talk to once in a blue moon. Then it explodes inside of you. You let out weeks, months or even years of thoughts that were cumulated in your head.. and then you end up with a label of "this nasty person who always talks about themselves". and that's how life goes. Looking back i understand why people thought about me like this, but the same people had hundreds of friends and have never been lonely, so they could never get in a lonely person's shoes. I can control myself now, but years of having the label of "being selfish" made me even more reserved. seems that's my fate :/

I definitely saw all these signs within myself. Although I am a grown up boy,I am still attracted to one of my toys I used to play. When I was just walking alone,I noticed a very little boy(ig he is 4 years old) sitting all alone. I asked him why he was sitting alone. He said that no wants to be friends with him. He feels lonely,bored. Seeing this,I felt sad because he was going through that phase I have been going through since childhood. I felt that no one has to experience that haunting feeling of being alone especially not at such a young age. So I decided to play with him. This made his day. I am happy for him.

We'll all find someone eventually. Someone who is lonely will find someone else who feels lonely. No worries bois and girls, we'll be happy in the end if we try enough

you voice is very smooth and calming

Very truthful video.

I’ve been talking to other people who also have STPD. They’ve helped a lot surprisingly. 3 major parts of the condition are loneliness, avoidance, & paranoia. I’ve been avoiding it for a long time because I didn’t want to think about it too much. But the older I get the harder to manage it is & I don’t have all the things I need yet. Basically I began grasping at straws. I am very careful though as sometimes misery loving company makes everyone spiral. But for me at least it’s helped a lot & I’ve met some really neat people in the process

Feeling lonely in a group of people around you is something more than just lonelyness. This situation takes lonelyness to a whole new level. Really terrible feeling.

Thanx for the video

I can totally relate to the last sign, I used to be obsessed with one friend at a time, but I could never understand why. Now, I no longer have friends and I'm afraid of unconsciously oversharing when I meet someone new, so I hold back, therefore, no one ever gets to know me.

There's a HUGE DIFFERENCE between "Being Alone" and "Loneliness"!

Great video! Nice bullet points, and welcome to the animator. Who approved the use of Adventure Time characters in this video? 👍🏾

My loneliness is an indicator that I am doing all I can to protect myself from the cruelty, lies, hypocrisy, abuse, of others. Most people are not true friends. If I am lonely, I have none of them in my life. Loneliness is a powerful indicator of how well I am doing to avoid the abuse of others.

Well this was conveniently timed

9 minutes and almost 500 likes. I wish I could say hi and smile at some of my other lonely friends. Hello there

Finally, only got 4 of 5. No friends means I can never feel lonely. Learned that one from my mother who always told me "you don't want "so and so" as a friend".

This helped me a lot. I feel weird and creepy for golluming and I've been wondering why I gollum whenever I make any connection to someone. I've spent my entire life sheltered and it's even harder to make real life connections now that I'm older.. I tell myself to be myself, but when I feel accepted I get excited and gollum.. and people either distance themselves or I panic and distance myself first. Anyway, I didn't know that this could be attributed to loneliness.. It makes me really happy to have a possible explanation.

With all my friends and family getting into relationships it's left me so lonely. 😞

Any solutions to counter this deep loneliness? I love your videos. They help me understand myself better. But think it'll be good if there are solutions or advice to help people like us.

True story. Good to know externally.

I could listen to your voice all day

At 67 I live alone and I’m lonely. No friends ever visit or call. I always send a card or cards and gifts remembering their birthdays and other milestones for what friends I have. However, I’ve never received a card for my birthday or any holiday. My children think of me as the “First Bank of Father” and whenever they communicate it is always a request for something but never preference with questions about me or my health. Unfortunately my children and grandchildren found out I came into some real money and now all of the ass kissing pisses me off! They all seem so insincere and greedy. Many times I’ve been mistaken for being one of my children, my daughter’s boyfriend or brother, etc. so I don’t look my age. Whenever I ask for my senior discount I’m asked for an ID. I do not color my hair and make zero attempts to look or dress in younger men’s clothing. But I couldn’t find a date in a whorehouse with a fist full of hundred dollar bills. It’s been at least twenty years since I’ve been kissed or touched by a woman. Thank goodness for diners that still have counter seating or I’d never eat out at a restaurant. Nighttime’s are the worst as the evenings drag out and I wish the clock would speed up so I could go to bed (without waking up at 4:00am). I can say with the utmost confidence that old age really isn’t a blessing when yours lonely.

My case is that I still feel lonely even though I'm surrounded by many friends...

Amanda is such a great narrator

I’ve felt this way for so long that I’ve completely forgotten what I used to feel like

Both my best friend and boyfriend will be leaving soon; military….literally the only two people I spend most of my time with - gone. So yeah, I’d say I’m fairly lonely.

POV: ur looking in the comments for that one nice person who summarized the entire video for u 😊

Hello thx for another amazing upload

The voice of the narrator is super comforting.

Nice video :D

Cool :D

Did...did you just post this on the exact day I experienced obsession with wanting to be around my friends?