Truth is nothing will work if he's not into you.

Now that I’m 25, I recognize when a man is testing. I truly don’t care about “passing.” I simply stay true to myself, and remain unattached. It’s a lot of mental work to fully embrace being unattached from potential partners, but finalllly I’m able to do it and it’s made dating so much easier.

If a man is immediately testing you and not able to communicate well, he is not high value, drop him and move on to someone who is a mature adult.

*Test 1* : He pulls away Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc. Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back *Test 2* : Pushes your boundaries Fail: allow him to push past your boundaries and walk all over you Succeed: set boundaries and keep to them (e.g. a "soft no" / "not yet" when he's pushing for physical intimacy too soon) *Test 3* : Sets up a date and waits to talk to you on the day Fail: freak out, chase him/ send lots of messages, get angry, cancel at the last min. Succeed: Wait until the day to check in with him: "Are we still on?", if so, calmly turn up to the date. If not, don't go. *Test 4* : Are you on his side? Fail: trying to change him, teaming up against him with others, fighting/ making him look bad in front of family and friends, making fun of him or who he is / his dreams leaving him at parties Suceed: supporting and encouraging him in his dreams and goals, accepting him as he is, talking him up in front of friends and family, being his cheerleader when he needs it *Test 5* : How you act in a situation that challenges you ( new activity you're bad at/ he's good at, an event that is not of interest to you) Fail: freak out, get angry, blame/ attack others/ events outside yourself for being unable to do something, run off Suceed: be calm, patient and relaxed and enjoy the new activity/ experience.

I lose interest if he pulls away. No time for games or inconsistencies

The best way to know if she is a high value woman is by getting to know each other. That's grown adult communication.

These sound like mind games I don't need. A man who performs these tests doesn't sound like a high value man

*Understanding the tests men might throw our way allows us to respond with confidence and poise. Let's strive to be the high-value women we truly are, and let our actions speak louder than any test.*

Or, how about this? How about NOT testing each other? How about open, direct communication between 2 adults who use their words instead of childish games? 🤔 It saves time, gets straight to the point, and leaves less room for guessing where the other person is coming from🤷🏿‍♀️......just a suggestion.

In short, only positive vibrations is encouraged. It also helps staying busy with life. No one wants to feel like the person they are pursuing does not have a life 😀

#3 is the only one on this list that actually pisses me off. Maybe I was raised differently, but it's a simple courtesy to reach out and reconfirm no matter who you're meeting. If you're busy, a quick, 'Hi! Looking forward to seeing you later.", is all it takes! I've noticed that most guys will be chatter boxes right up to the day of the date and then go radio silent. I'd prefer someone that makes a small effort to communicate that our plans are locked in (like a mature adult) instead of someone who has already annoyed me with his stupid test or simple lack of courtesy.

As a high value woman I wouldn’t ask him “are we still on”. I think he is the one on charge to ask me that before the date, as supposedly he was the one who has initiated it😂. If he don’t ask me, I would simply not show up. If he ask me why I didn’t show up, I would be like “oh, I am sorry, I didn’t know you are still on. Would you like to settle another one? Just don’t forget to remind me on time this time! It’s your last chance 😂! Follow me for more useful tips!😅

It comes down to having compatible attachment styles not one gender denying their needs to please another. There has to be a healthy balance.

As a Sigma, I need space from the demands and annoyances of the daily grind, and it sometimes includes my wife. She has learned this is no threat to our relationship, but simply my way of recharging my social battery. My solo time is important, whether in the field or garage, and I always come back when refreshed. Only Sigmas understand this.

but why can’t people just be upfront about what kind of people they are looking for and what relationships they want? Purposely “pulling away” from someone seems manipulative. If you like someone and they start pulling away and you just say nothing makes it seem like the man is trying to see if he can use his silence to put you in you place or manipulate you and I have no time for that (not saying you need to freak out but I feel like addressing the situation in a healthy way is ok). If you like someone just talk to them and if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out this stuff is very annoying lol. The minute I sense some kind of game I leave and find someone secure enough to be honest about who they are and who is not afraid of getting to know people

Boundaries are key. Need my own space ✌🏼

If a guy is really interested in a lady he will never forget the day for the dating ,

If he pulls away he better stay away forever. I don't circle back to foolish tests.

I found this helpful, I enjoy being honest, not brutally so, to show you can be kind while being honest

I have a boyfriend I knew for awhile. Never went on date I never chase him he needs his freedom. When he want to see me he knows how to find me. Always be patient He is buying a house for us to be together.

High value women put their efforts into high value people and activities.

Sending postive vibes to everyone

Literally NO GUY AT ALL, ANYWHERE is worth all of those weird ass mind games. I’m out

I'll just tell you... he can test me all he wants, but when he does he is failing MY test for him. I'm not here to pass anyone's tests and play games. Communicate with me like an adult or move along to make space for someone who does. I'm not going to wait for the day of the date to hear from a man. If I haven't heard from him at least by the day before then I am making other plans and assuming there is no date.

Makes total sense. I admit to being a doormat before but doormat I am no more.

Love your perspective Matthew. You always give really great, straight forward advice.

Having your male perspective is so awesome!! 💜 thanks for everything 💜

Great, sensible spot on advice, Matt I am older (way) lol, but this girl still needs to listen + learn how to project the value I know I have + am worth. . I have already listened 2X's + am internalizing your points, making sure I check the boxes, I need to improve on. . Thanks for these reminders. I know these will be difference makers

This is so helpful...it applies to the scenario when men evaluate you as business partner material as well, beginning to notice...I agree with it.

I love the way you take your time to explain everything thanks for helping us ❤️

Im so thankful for you Matt🙏🏽💙

Absolutely NO TEST AND NO GAMES. What happened to maturity and acting like a grown up. 🧐. I am a high valued woman because I do not play games or make a man a “test” subject and I absolutely do not let them put me in that category/position either!

Yes, I sign this, I have a date tomorrow with a dude who is more comfortable to talk in person than online, we connected from time to time in between but not like daily. This is fine with me ☺️

Thank you, you gave me answers what I was looking for. 🙂

This just happened to me! He wanted to be exclusive & dangled a vacation after 4 dates..12-hours later ghosted me when I still didn’t sleep w/him

You give such good advice, in a intelligent way, you deserve a good Wife.

If he pulls away, I am done n gone forever! No need of games!

Planning a date the day of is too last min. The day before is fine. Nothing about being needy. This is simple planning. Simply yes or no - and move on either way. It's not just the guy that can make this decision ladies!

I love your advice Mathew very grounding xx

Im sorry, life is too short for stupid games

Definitely true!! My Boyfriend works 2 jobs all his life but had to accept who he is ,,

This video just confirms I think like a man, even tho I was born & still physically am a woman… I use all of these “tests” on men & women when I date. But it would appear I’m oblivious when these “tests” are done to me 😞

I love your sense of humor, example with ping pong and how you showed it was absolutely fun :D

I totally agree. This is the right woman have to do. Thank you so much. You are showing me that I'm thinking correct. Thank you again 😊

Thank You, great content.

Thank you very much for this video ❤

You are a genius Matthew of course I can't chase a man I had to listen to you sooner my friend ❤

This is so good

Very useful! Thank you.

I found a great guy he was so good he even convinced my family he was amazing, then when he moved in with me and got on the lease he became lazy didn't want to work and became argumentative and stopped me from seeing friends and family, these awful men trap you and then you are totally stuck

Wow this is valuable content👏😊💙

This was great. Thank You

Test 1 : He pulls away Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc. Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back...I understand this part and I know it works however I don't fully understand the piece "invite him back" what does that exactly mean?

Matthew is SO RIGHT about everything he is saying. He has a New Subscriber 🙌🏾🙌🏾🎉🎉

Great advice matt.

The grammar and spelling in a text are so true. I’ve overlooked that and regretted it

Remember not everyone comes to stay,or do that to test you Some are just passers, so be careful at learning and giving yourself easily

Great advise. Thank you

Lol. I love your expression 😆 on the ping pong 🏓 🤣 test!

I think you have good information. Thanks

Thanks for the tips Matt

Thanks for the tips.

This one is so good

Thank You For This Information 💚💚💚💚🦅🦅🦅🦅

Thank you for words of wisdom!

I found this very helpful thank you 😊😘

Hello Our Phenomenally Phenomenal King 👑

Thank you for your male perspective about this it’s actually very interesting, In my case about point #3 If we agreed to date Im not texting or anything and I only start getting ready if he shows up by text that same day early, If not well I just forget about it and guess he wasn’t interested and if he invites me again on another I kindly say no because I consider it’s top disrespectful to agreed on a date with time and everything, not saying a single thing cancelling or whatever and time after just showing up again as if nothing 😂 ??

Hi Matthew I just found this your channel here.☺️ It's me imee.😉

Great advice thanx❤

Thank you!

Very helpful here.

Love your advice

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Attraction stems from many avenues, mainly from our upbringing and how we were loved growing up. I don't like this accusation of woman being desperate and needy and clingy. Most woman with any self respect will act that way when a guy is "testing" fail the bloidy test and scream them because if ever a guy makes you feel desperate or needy of clingy is because hes making you feel that way. Us woman are intuitive beings and when it doesn't feel right its usually because something isn't right trust your gut. If it feels right you wonte feel desperate or needy or clingy. Word!

Good advice ❤

I was married 3 times but I don't know much about men Matthew so I am all ears my friend ❤❤❤

My crush is testing me all the 5 ways u said.... I think he might have watched this video too... 😂😂😂lol

you legend bro :)

In my experience I always give all my bad flaws to my guy and I see that he never give up still chase me 😂

I gone listen to you more Matthew ❤

I agree matt thanks for the advice it's right to encourage him when he is facing challenges 😀 😉 👍

Thank you 😊

You Are Amazing 🤩

I think it's kind-of fucked up of a man to try to push past you're boundaries & then uses that as a reason to devalue you & treat you badly.

Isn’t “making him work to get back to you” the same as being passive-aggressive?? And Why would a man purposely set up a date and not talk til the day of just to test her? Women don’t want to date men like this BYEEE.

I let him know a long time ago he's still the one Love for me.

Thank u sir ..nice ...

Good tips

I didn't freak out or run but I left when I had an assignment in the office after one month of coming to visit him and I met a different lady,I was still back there for a whole month but he kept staying away from coming home so I left the next month...I needed to return for every freaking reason even though my office needed me back but most importantly I decided to respect myself and leave Cox I wasn't feeling loved Cox I stayed back that long hoping he'd apologize and talk things over with me but he stayed away instead so I HAD TO LEAVE

I am with this man. His dream is hurting him and us. It's only thing disapgree with. We've been together a long time. He's obsessed with going to the woods and doing odd things out there. I've never seen anyone else do this. It affects us.

For the first one, why can't he just say I need some space, let's go slower? Same test as silently pulling away but it's more respectful & communicative. The fail & succeed are the same but there is an open respectfulness about it that women appreciate & will value in you.

Hmmmm. As a high value woman, if a man pulls away, he’s finished. Why? Bc 1- I hate inconsistency and I’m very consistent, to a fault, and I’m into golden rule 2- low testosterone and cowardice behaviour as well as game playings are the last thing I’m interested in. I would never EVER breed w a man who pulls away and plays games, as a woman who can’t stand playing games. High value women or men don’t play games. They just are. They don’t run. They don’t pretend. They don’t act inconsistent or unreliable. Granted, most women out there ( these days) play games and that’s WHY they are NOT high value by standards of most societies. I don’t think you know what high value means. I married my third boyfriend after years of dating ( and after 2 other long term relationships that lasted 4 years ended, no issues, we just went our seperate ways amicably). I’m now married for 15 years. Zero issues. I actually never had relationship issues, and every man I ever dated wanted to get serious w me or marry me. I took my time! I never ever slept w ANYONE without going the long process of getting to know one another. I never played games. I also always paid whatever I could afford, and still do. I’m horrified but what I hear re dating scenes and how BETA men have become and also confused, I do blame women and third wave feminism for a lot of it, but women have lost a lot too. These games don’t help!

Raise our value in men eyes 👀! In a relationship both are equal and a woman don’t have do all of theses variety of things to show a man or impress him, so he can fall in love with her! In my opinion love come nature and when two people are in true love ❤️ they can be themselves and they will support each other. For e.g if you hav to do all of these things, is like full-time job and it will lead to a disaster, because the minute you stop cheering him it’s going to be a problem! To all the women please don’t take any nonsense for anyone. Stand on the petals stool…… when a man is truly love you he will never walk out no you; no matter how bad the argument is! The minute when two people start to argue and the man or the woman leave and not clam down and solving the problem, walking is out is not going to do any good, because when man or a woman mostly likely to walking out and get involved with someone else, This is causes more problems!

Really Matthew ❤❤❤

It took you long enough Matthew ❤

Is anybody teaching a man how to be caring, considering, forgiven, thoughtful, patient, kind,affectionate committed?

Thnkz fr ur advce....

THANKS

Can you explain in more details with a practical example how to handle the withdrawing situation you describe?