If I understand you, this is what you´re saying? 1.Be a woman of value-respect yourself 2.Support and be interested in his goals and desires3.State from get-go what you want-marriage etc.4.Avoid closing doors through negative,vendictive or angry behaviors 5.Stay positive and think the best of him and his intentions toward you...ultimately he wants you to be happy.

A man that wants to be with you, will do everything and anything to be with you amd make you happy.

i think Chazz is speaking truth. may not apply to all situations but I prefer a male perspective vs a female perspective. Ladies if you have questions about men who better to give advice than men. ijs

Second choice bought me a Saks fifth avenue dress, first choice bought me a $5.00 chocolate tin...I think your point is valid lol

I disagree with the vindictive part. Sometimes a man will doing something extremely disrespectful, that it warrants a reaction from the woman. For instance, I did a lot of things for my ec, bought him gifts, sex him really good, sent his mother flowers when she was sick in the hospital, bought him tickets to the NBA game, supported him with his business (which he continues to procrastinate and wont open it) and after all of this, he still don't appreciate me. He didn't buy me anything for my birthday or Xmas but he expects me to be there. I finally snapped and cussed him out. I said a lot of hurtful things, but I don't regret it because he deserved it. He treats me bad when I treat him good and I got fed up. It is what it is. I have no regrets for telling him exactly how I feel

It's the same with women. You have to make it worth our while. What it took to get us, it takes that after the marriage as well. Both have to work at it and put their best foot forward. It's not a one-way street.

"I'd like to get married to YO ASS" im lmao

hilarious! lol i am married 20 years, and you are absolutely correct

You are so smart!! I am taking notes my brotha. When the man God has prepared for me is ready, I will be ready too :)

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Honest & open communication is key knowing where you stand in relationship

When he told me he wanted to be engaged and married by next year, (4-5 months), which he said in Sept. 2017! I said okay, lets work toward it and do it the right way, starting with separation, counseling, and celibacy! Cool!

these videos have opened my eyes to see through all the Bullshit thank you for all the honesty

Some family members don't give the best advice. My husband's parents are very supportive and never judge our marriage vs my family on my side always wants to say something negative about our role as parents or say something about my husband and my husband has stood up for me 8 solid years. So you cannot always take family advice.

unconditional love and commitment will answer all you questions about love and marriage.

Want him to marry you? Don't put out until after the wedding.

"Ima have those lavendar flowers in my sh*t" LOOOOL!!!

I laughed so hard! You have great advice, but ultimately you're a comedian. Enjoyed!

I believed in their dream I tried to interact in their business I got the hot and cold treatment the Mind Games the manipulation selfishness and even when I stood for myself to protect myself against his family and nonsense I was the person that was causing all the drama when it was just his family with the drama and they put up with his nonsense and etcetera so now I'm on the road to recovery of healing I'm blessed by the best my God Jesus Christ

2nd choice make some of the best mates!! you are right.

don't care for marriage it's all about what works for you! I raised my 3 son's as a single mom and blessed to have done that on my own! Happy being not married I don't have to answers to nobody and I support me and my family! I can't miss what I don't have! I do date and enjoy life!

number 5 is key...some guys might actually still want to be with the girl after they break up...or may end up marrying them....but the girls that get vindictive just prove to the guy that he made the right choice in not popping the question!

I love this man. Marry me lol

this is so informative....and hilarious at the same time. Great advice.

*To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that's everything* 🥰

Your advice is spot-on. As a woman waiting for her man to take that step, I found this very valuable. Thanks!

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sounds like women are supposed to revolve their life around a "second best" person? wow men really are from another planet lol

Once you r in a relationship he thinks everything going great dump his behind. .he won't know what hit him and will be trying to get you back but make it hard for him to get you back and when you get back with him he will never ever let you go because he will never ever want to feel those emotions of rejection again not knowing that it was difficult for you to do this but had to in order for Jhim to appreciate you to the fullest and if he didn't pursue you after dumping him he never ever would had considered you marriage material to begin with so in a sense saving yourself a lot of valuable time wasted on someone who will never marry you

"i don't like the way she talk to you."...LMAO Yep Chazz you right bout all that...lol

If someone sees you as an OPTION and not a PRIORITY? You know what to do. Enough said.

I died laughing when chazz backed up in the chair,"saying " I want to get married after six years later " !! He was about to fall out the chair . Lmaoo chazz a fool !!

I love your attitude, also this was a very helpful video thanks 🔥

Not all women looking for marriage...Either.

Got married! Lost allllll the weight! Ditched the dude! He got fat! My bad!!!!!

Chazz- some men you can't help but treat them the way they treat you after a while. It's draining to "put forth effort" when the other person clearly isn't. Also....I actually would prefer a man that is not ran by the opinions of his family members. I like men who can think for themselves.

A lot of men must hate you for leaking these juicy secrets LMAO ;)

Chazz I'm from Jamaica, and I have been listening watching your videos and I thank GOD for you. You have inspired , changed and uplifted my state of mine about relationships and right now I'm happy were I am today. Please keep doing what you doing. God bless I'm always watching. My first time commenting.

Gosh your laugh is contagious lol

And damn you should never get fam all up in your biz

I love this guy! Blunt and funny in his delivery.

I've been married and am not that bothered about it. I just want him to love me.

I wanted him to marry me but I don't want to scare him away. Guys are afraid of commitments, now I have to pretend that I don't want too so I won't look desperate.

Lol great points and great video. The faces you're making omg too funny. Love your valuable videos.🌟🌟🌟

Your personality is amazing so funny tell a man you wonna get married.

Did all of this and was vindictive! but when they love u they just love u #putARingOnIt

you look like you are having so much fun, its contagious , delivering your truth with comedy... enjoyable & authentic.

wow, I've only seen a couple videos from you and I subscribed on the second one I saw! you keep me watching the entire time! your opinions and mind set is just amazing! I've learned so much! thank you!!! Wow

“Second choice” seems harsh but basically someone that isn’t your usual type

I agree. Get intertwined in what they do. My fiancee wants to twitch for a living. Meaning stream videos of him playing games and get paid to do it. So even though I don't know much about streaming he teaches me some. You need 20,000 subscribers to get paid through twitch so what do I do I get involved behind the scenes and I post links to his twitch channel on you tube and put a link to his twitch channel on google plus. Also when he achieves something positive towards his goal I tell him how proud I am and give him praise. I think guys like to hear that and love the woman to do that stuff for them.

Yes, I met a great guy a few months after he was divorced. We shouldn’t have messed around but fortunately it worked out. After a year of a fantastic “situationship” and him meeting someone else b/c he thought I was moving out of state, we are now in a committed monogamous relationship and it’s a billion times better being together!

This video makes me so glad I am one of the few women who has never been that interested in marriage. I am excited that I won't have to struggle to get some reluctant guy to the altar. Still, good information to have. I really appreciate all the information about supporting their dreams though. I just wish guys understood that they also need to support their woman's dreams the same way. I see a lot of females support guys in reaching their dreams, but a lot of times it seems to be part of the female helping to 'fix' the guy so that she can marry him later.

Shiny white teeth omg

Chaz your my first choice so I choose you boo! With your fine self!!!

You are sooo real. This video is one the best I have heard by a man.

these videos make me laugh so much, brilliant and awesome 😀

Vindictive people are unbalanced and irrational are to be left alone. I am cool with exes we dont do the relationship disrespect either. Friends just because you did not work romantic wise doesnt mean I hate them...ending relationships with respect is grown.

Thank you Chaz heartily for your wonderful, thought-out, honest, and down-to-earth videos of yours. You don't hold back important info, and you say things like they are without really offending anyone, like some other speakers might. I love you and your videos. Please keep up the great job, and God bless you :)

I like your delivery. You make listening to you so fun. I just started a long distance relationship 1 month ago and he already talking about marriage and saying "we". Your advice has been working (for reals)

Thanks so much for this, Chazz Ellis. Love your videos!

You are definitely speaking the truth. Can't dispute these simple and very effective tips. I was very interested in to hear what you had to say, glad I listened. I have applied these simple tips and they definitely work. Just don't he fake about it. Thanks again

It had been so fun to see this video!, I will see the others for sure, you have an interesting point of view, thank you for sharing it!

I just died laughing to this video "YO AZZ"

I literally never planned my wedding ever in my head, I planned my wedding one week prior lol.

Been watching you for years your one of the first guy on utube with good relationship advice your so funny 😂😂😂

Believing in a man's dream/being supportive of him is not a problem for me. However, men have been not so supportive of my dream and have been intimidated 🤔

Chaz speaks truth weather you wanna hear it or not.

Chazz YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!!!!!! I appreciate your coaching :)

I love when you laugh into the camera when something is funny. You are hilarious! Thank for all you do

yo you a funny dude ha ha " I told you not to smoke that Crack,😨😂😂😂 ha ha

yes you have the point it's better to tell the guy what kind of relationship you want or what your interested in so atlis if you both know what you want on each other so its easy to understand.

So true. I had a misunderstanding with my ex's family, and that side iced me during the whole period. My ex did nothing to correct it, even though it wasn't entirely my fault.

lol, love this! Insightful thoughts and information yet still funny and engaging like all the other videos 👌✔💯😆

Dang some real stuff: marrying second choice whew!

Thanks for the advice, especially the last part.

I like it, true! I use to be the one who didn't want to get married but my mind change. I just never thought about marriage late bloomer in this area.

Just found your channel.. Lovee your delivery and all tips were great! lol

I can check of all of the above. Thanks Chad great video!

Dang Chazz let me plug my ears, I'm part of that women's movement you like making impressions about 😂😂. Hahaha nice video, good points

Lol, chazz you are so funny, " you could pick somebody that ain't really what you want" so funny yet there's truth in that statement. Your videos are a great resource. Please keep making them, will donate something one of these days..lol...for real.....

The second choice thing is true....

how to connect with a party-goer guy? the socialise guy

Chazz or somebody please help!!! My single friend thinks that it is okay to show a man that she just met online or met while she was out dressed up and with makeup on her uncle face. Okay she calls herself auntie when she is dressed up, hair done and makeup on. Uncle is her without her wig, no makeup on with less than perfect skin. I'm telling her that she has to hold off on showing the uncle face until they get to know her better and they are a little more invested. She thinks that it doesn't matter but I think it does. Please chime in.

You make me smile, the stuff you say is so real.

You are so right!!! Get involved in their day to day lives!!!

i love the imations ( i cant figure out how to spell this)u did lol u so funny .

Like not even being funny. Every guy I date falls in love with me after six months and I never feel the same. Is something wrong with that?

That had me Rollin with laughter,but it was the truth.well said.

I just subscribed! You're funny and your advice is on point!

I’m with a man who’s family I’ve been around a lot. His uncle is always boasting me wondering why he won’t just marry me. I cook, clean, iron and love well. He has withheld sex, I hurt my back the other day and have been flat on my back with the worst pain ever. He checked on me a few times today, came home and dropped off some food left and he never came back. I had to crawl to the restroom. I’ve never been vindictive towards him but at my weakest he disappears. To an ungrateful and no good man this advise won’t work on.

The first option is horrible advice!! Why would you ever advise someone to be with their "second choice", especially if the relationship could end in marriage? If two people are willing to commit to marriage, which is supposed to last a life time, then why be with someone you're just not that into? People need to go with option 2, put in the time and effort, or else they don't deserve real love. Would you marry someone who considered you a "second choice"?

Love ya, Chaz! You're the best!

I wouldnt want to marry second choice cuz id always be thinking of first choice. Thats not fair to either of you. What if the guy wants to live it day to day and not have bench marks? keep up the effort for you... not for them. Let him know he doesn't matter THAT much that you base your looks and health on his happiness. Look good. Period. That way if he plays house too long... you can move on and pick up mr right without effort. Tell him to spend some time dating other people. This reminds him of what's really out there. and it reminds him that you are desirable. give a man some space to move toward you.

Hurry up and get to the point before my boyfriend walks in 😩

Well, I have most of the points you mentioned on my favor. The only problem is we started dating being teenagers, and yeah, he proposed, but at the moment he was sooo into parties, alcohol and drugs that it would've been too silly to say yes. Anyways, we never REALLY broke up, we split a couple times and we started seeing other people, we never cheated each other, but we cheated on them together. It was like: "this isn't cheating, this is us". The last time this happened he proposed again, but I had moved in with this amazing guy by the time, I ended it with both of them right away, I realized I still loved him but anyways I chosed to remaine single once again. A year later he got married with a party girl he used to hook up when we were not together because she was pregnant with his child. His family adviced him not to, but even when she was like this second option you mentioned since I rejected him again and she loved her enough to marry her, he did. Plus, she was waiting the bb he craved. I was the one in the pedestal, loved by him, his family and friends (last week his mom told me how much she wished it was me instead of her, but I was too afraid back then to say yes since I didn't know if he really was done with his party life). It turned out he was, and he became an amazing father and husband (something he asked me billions of times). We remained friends, and after a couple years his wife cheated on him. I felt really sorry for him, but after a few months I took it like a chance to give it a REAL (and hopefully last) shot. We're dating now: our new begining, we say. The only problem is he is still legally married to her, the little girl lives with her and sometimes she doesn't aloud him to see her. It brakes my heart seeing him so sad when that happens. There's other bb on the way he is not even sure is his, so we're waiting the bb is born to get DNA tests. We want to have our own children too, later of course, but right now things are tough since his ex hates my guts and my mother is going to lose her mind when she knows about all this. He is a great guy and he loves me, so she likes him, but just like a friend of mine! So I guess I will have to make my mind and accept that my mom won't talk to me in a long time. I'm ok with that, I just want to make it work between us, now that we are both old and healthy enough. Any advice to handle this crazy situation and make things work, considering the children well being as main priority? THANK YOU.

You got me CRACKING up at work LMAO...so true and so funny

Thanks for sharing these thoughts!

I Lmao'ed at what you said Chaz at 7:03-7:09. Lol!

There are guys who do think about their weddings. My son-in-law is one and he's perfect for my daughter.

Yea, I don't want the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th choice. I'm up for the challenge. I could've been married but I didn't want none of them SMH I don't want to settle