5 TRUTHS! Why You Don’t Speak Up In Meetings & How to Overcome It

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Do you struggle to speak up in meetings? Do you wonder why you don't speak up in meetings more? Maybe you want to know what's holding you back and how to overcome it so you CAN speak up in meetings more often AND with confidence.
In this video, I delve into 5 TRUTHS about why people don't speak up in meetings even when they have something to say. This is a common issue for people who are quiet and introverted and have difficulty getting their voice heard at work.
If you're a regular on this channel, you will know that speaking up in meetings is a topic I'm incredibly passionate about. I have SO many videos on my channel already that tackle different aspects of this topic (look for some below).
But this video targets something specific. It focuses on "why" - Why don't you speak up in meetings? What's causing you to hold back? What's stopping you from talking when you have something to say? We'll answer these questions and find out the solutions (what you can do to overcome this struggle) in this video.
Timestamps:
00:00 Why you don't speak up in meetings.
01:29 What's holding you back?
04:32 Do you understand what is being discussed?
07:05 Do you have an opinion?
10:40 Do people speak over you?
12:36 Do you put unnecessary pressure on yourself?
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@bigjude100 Жыл бұрын

What's holding me back? Well, lack of confidence. A lack of confidence not only in speaking at meetings, but also in the English language. English is my third language. I work in an all-English environment. Although I am overqualified for the job, speaking in meetings is a big problem for me. I always have negative thoughts because I feel constantly judged by other people (just in my head). This situation makes me unhappy. I have an advanced American English level, which is great for the company, and I don't have an accent (believe me), but in my mind, I always have negative and self-destructive thoughts. I really need to overcome this situation. I didnt get promoted because of my fear of speaking and let others know my true ability😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢.

@KellySilverioli 5 ай бұрын

Same here, I did not pass my leadership Presence in the class for the next level but I did pass the test of 100 questions. I'm fustrated

@magicja 9 ай бұрын

A lack of speaking during a meeting is not always dicative of not speaking enough, but the result of others speaking too much. Sometimes a person can say nothing during a meeting, but then the real conversation happens after the meeting. Being an effective communicator requires the speaker to add breath and space in between their ideas for others to feel comfortable to speak up. If you have to ask someone, "what are your thoughts on the matter?" then you have already lost the opportunity to hear what the other person thinks and have admitted to monopolozing the conversation. Also, a peson can stuggle with formulating their ideas, feeling invalided, or handling perceived or actual judgementalism.

@davidpereto4664 5 ай бұрын

So good. Thanks so much ❤

@almacortez92 9 ай бұрын

Thank you. I find people talk over me or interrupt me. I appreciate the tips.

@nmahamad 8 ай бұрын

I think your videos are effective and beneficial. I have this issue and it certainly helped thank you

@xue7159 10 ай бұрын

From 11;30 That's extactly what I feel. As a recent immigrant in Melbourne, I love my work and most people in the project. But several times I had situations that people (not even very senior level) cut my sentences. I was very sad as I am the only non-native speaker in the team and did take it very personally. Then I found out that's their way of communicating to show their capability and smartness to challenge you. Others do have similar feelings like me. I learned to not to blame myself. I'm improving myself by taking notes, asking questions and not directly confronting them in a meeting. I should focus more on my own development. Thanks Kara. Your channel is also a great place for immigrants to learn how to communicate under the business/workplace context. I belive you will hit 1M subscribers so soon!!! Thank you Kara.

@lilabukvic4216 Жыл бұрын

I was neglected as child. This is habit to hold back. But I know one healer by name Braco. He speak nothing and impact people from open heart. To speak is not always most inteligrnte joice. To not speak saved my life during war in Bosnia🙏❤ But after the war i started to speak and it was not good when I did. I followed my insticts but the other reacted negativ on me.

@eknathmakne2841 10 ай бұрын

You deserve way more sunscribers and appreciation Kara. But I am sure that day ain't far. Keep it up. My best wishes!

@JamesAzam 8 ай бұрын

This video is gold. The points made at 10:42 onwards were really balanced. Thank you.

@114TSM 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoy your approach to the topics! ❤

@salaheldin00 5 ай бұрын

Fantastic!

@user-xs5dp4gw8e Жыл бұрын

@Kara fyi 4:05 is missing the link you are pointing to Well done on the content, presentation and production Kara, thank you

@beingboomlovinglife3474 Ай бұрын

Ur videos are actually helpful! Clear, concise, easy to listen to, speaking style in voice/volume. Thanku

@salaheldin00 5 ай бұрын

Luminous!

@MS-ns4ki 11 ай бұрын

I don’t speak because I already know that everything I say gets taken out of context. And people are threatened by system. I will always be put down my job is correct.

@bhimpokhrel8386 Жыл бұрын

When I start to watch KZfaq, then this channel from Kara Ronin is always on top of my list and I am always happy to watch every video as possible even after a busy schedule. Thank you Kara for always posting such great videos. Knowledge gained from your videos will be always useful in my professional and personal life. Big appreciation Kara.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that Bhim! Thank you for watching all of my videos!

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! If you want more content on confident communication, you should watch this video next kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aJhxiteFqLyvcqs.html

@olandofuller5588 Жыл бұрын

I hold back because I'm always the one asking the questions everyone scared to ask. They grumble before and after and when the meeting come they scared or either it's a friend thing going on so they don't want to damage their connection. So I hold back because I see it all and feel like calling they all out

@christopherreed3019 Жыл бұрын

You have to be tactful. if your opinion is against the leader, dont mention it during the meeting. Go to him or her privately and express what you thinking. if your opinion is against your peers, speak up during the meeting an doffer your opinion but in a diplomatic way. Study the room, know who are the decision makers, know who are your peers...never make your leaders feel intimidated or little in front of people..dont go against them in public.;;that has really helped me over the years. I am now a director in my company..

@user-xs5dp4gw8e Жыл бұрын

Would like to point out that as a 'leader' one does not have to be the most vocal. Active listening is participation.

@DS-kt5gj Жыл бұрын

This video..it felt like you have read my mind.i literally struggle in expressing myself and often pressurise myself.. thanks for this video..it's very helpful..also can you create a video of how to overcome fear of what people will think about me...I have gone through all of your videos and I follow the tips you give.and the surprising part is I and my team mates can see change in me..

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Wow! That is fantastic to hear DS! Keep up your progress!

@steveryan5907 8 ай бұрын

Oh.....this is me 100%

@legesse8909 Жыл бұрын

I really love your lessons!

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@ElTuco Жыл бұрын

I'm not sure how KZfaq's algorithms worked out that I wanted to see this video, but I'm glad that happened. Thank you for making this content

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you could see this video too! Thank you for watching!

@faisalabbas9803 4 ай бұрын

Ya I think most of the people why do they think yourself as a hold back One .because they avoid a lot of necessary thing while having conversation with other but being a multi tasking Person we should conquer the fear .if we are Not multi tasking then in order to overcome off fear we should decorate each And every thing in a serial way One by One they must be implemented .

@Overleb Жыл бұрын

I often say my opinion once, but never argue, when they chose not to listen, I enjoy watching their decision fail and come back to my decision.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

That strategy might help them learn better. You can voice your opinion but at the end of day, you can't force people to see things your way.

@dinodinodinosaur Ай бұрын

Maybe you just enjoy watching people fail.

@hedwigwendell-crumb91 3 ай бұрын

I am autistic and meetings are difficult for me because I cannot pinpoint the important bits amidst all of the chat, banter and vague comments.

@rishabkulkarni397 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant tip on how to avoid being spoken over. Your video helped me gain confidence

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that!

@victorfernandes6607 10 ай бұрын

I go totally blank when i have to speak to that so called harsh person .. so i just keep quiet...but after 5 minutes i am boiling with rage

@nickydaley345 Жыл бұрын

This came at the right time

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that Nicky!

@lovey3900 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Kara , avid follower here

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Fantastic! Thank you for watching!

@Ifedinma Жыл бұрын

So reasons why someone may have no opinion is no thought about the subject matter. So one needs to ask him or herself like she said; what’s my opinion on this? And to be able to quickly have opinion in subject matters you need to be one who goes after knowledge and information

@johnrainsman6650 Жыл бұрын

Ugh, I know the feeling. I failed to speak up--or _stand_ up--to my boss when she indicated I was too helpless to do a shift by myself. I'd bet your own channel that she thinks I'm weak and inferior to the other workers. A dope. Don't worry; you wouldn't lose your channel.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Don't be so hard on yourself. I hope this video has helped you gain the courage you need to speak up.

@johnrainsman6650 Жыл бұрын

@@kararonin Oh, I prefer to just hear from the KZfaqr directly about my specific problems; not watch a video that may or may not apply to my case. But new question for you. What do you think? Do either of these hypothetical responses sound offensive and/or termination-worthy, after she scolds and insults me for picking a one-man shift? A. "You ever heard of a thing called tact?" B. "Well, my family always taught me to be self-confident in my abilities. Don't you think I should believe in myself to do things right?" C. [with an awkwardly offended tone and expression] "you don't have to tell me your *_whole_* opinion about my capacity." 4. Well, [boss], don't you think that if you're gonna say something like that, you might as well just tell me I'm inept and unintelligent?"

@veenagukhool7227 Жыл бұрын

for me it's my upbringing ,not use to voice my opinion, not having enough information on the topic, words does not come during meeting, mental block, and I am not confident

@zm932 Жыл бұрын

I am quiet person , I don’t know how do I change my self😅

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

It starts with you truly believing that you can be less quiet. Start to make small changes, as in start to say one thing extra in meetings. Share your idea. Ask a question. Respond to what someone else says. It's about training yourself to realise that people do value your voice and you have relevant things to say.

@zm932 Жыл бұрын

@@kararonin Thank you Kara ! I really like listen and watch your videos