You're right. It's abuse in every possible way. The stress of constantly walking on eggshells and having adrenaline and cortisol running throughout your body nonstop is devastating to your physical health.

Chronic stress leads to disease, and that is physical abuse. Excellent point.

I know very well the toll it took on my body. Autoimmune disease and narcissistic abuse are finally being studied as correlated. Stress levels like that are not meant to be endured constantly for years. ❤

#6 Preventing you from leaving a room or their presence is also physical abuse.

My narcissistic husband used to speed up when I made him angry and then slam on the brakes, pull the car over to the side of the road stop and tell me to get out of the car. He would say, "you're walking girl." He would come back for me later. Meanwhile, I'd be walking along side of a back road somewhere remote in the bush.

I had a narcissist mother. Then married a narcissist man, for 28 years. It was ok at first but as the years went by it got worse and worse. I always said he never physically abused me. But you made me realize that he did. He did all of these things to me. I had to leave him. The day I left the last thing I said to him was "If I stay with you one more day, I will lose my mind. He said, "You'll be back." Thanks for your video, maybe now I can stop dwelling on it occaisonally. I pulled my weak, torn down little self up by my bootstraps and moved on. I am 67 years old, have been away from him for 18 years and have never been happier, content and at peace. I try to tell other women it's not worth it. But they have to realize and gather their strength and leave. Thanks again.💔❤❤❤

The disguised insults, the envy.

"I never hit you!" But, my bruises were on the inside!!!

The Covert Narcissist sold all of my furniture in the house including my Lawyer's bookcase with all my books. I didn't learn that he did this until I returned from the foreign country where I worked. He would drive recklessly all the time, causing a fearful reaction from me in the presence of the children. His reaction would cause the children to think I was being dramatic for no reason. I am realizing I suffered much abuse over the past fifty years. I didn't think it was abuse because I was not hit by the narc. But it was worse than physical abuse because my children and my family members couldn't see it and I never shared it with anyone. Narcissists are truly evil people who are either demon-possessed or demon-oppressed.

Definitely sleep deprivation & alot of "accidental" elbowing, tripping, hitting...but, "Oh, it was just an accident". Pure evil! Thanks for your programs!

My ex husband never gave me money for gas or groceries to feed our kids or gas to get to work. He asked “what are you doing with your money?” I would fall short of money waiting for payday every 2 weeks. Meanwhile he had a shoebox FULL of cash. Just such an A-hole to his wife and kids.

They know exactly how far they can take their abuse without you leaving.

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." Ya, right. -_- We should stop telling kids this BS.

My narcissistic ex-husband criticized my body, what I ate, when I ate, to the point where I was driven to full-blown anorexia.

This happened to me. Trapped in the car and then yelling at me when I was 100 miles away from my house. I tried to turn the AC cooler because it was really hot and he slapped my hand away saying he had issues with the AC. I could not roll down the window because he locked the automatic windows. He would honk his horn at everyone really long and yell and point out the window yelling obscenities. He would ask me to go somewhere to pick up something he bought online but it would turn out to be not local and 70 miles away! I realized what was happening when he did it again and he started yelling at me and I said omg you’re doing it again! Take me home. Take me home right now and he said can’t you just let it roll off remember we are going to dinner after. I kept quiet the whole entire time until I got home and I blocked him and no contact. For the 8th time. Totally trauma bonded. I’m starting to break free and I am getting stronger little by little. No contact 3 weeks.

Everyone wants to live "happily ever after", except narcissist. They are only happy when you are miserable and your life is in chaos.

Thank you Danish. More narcissism experts need to focus on the invisible physical abuse or disease caused by the narcissistic abuse and constant stress.

For me, sex with a narcissist was a physical,emotional and spiritual violation. It was mechanical, aggressive, never an iota of love. I think for me besides the numerous other acts and words of abuse, this was the highest form experienced.

Yes they deliberately place/put you in harms way.

Kind of weird, but the covert Narcissist I have been married to for 35 years, does treat me really bad in the car, mostly on Sundays, on the way to and from church. I am the one who got out of the car and walked home a couple of years ago and have not gotten in a car with him since. He is so good at appearing as such a “nice” guy. I just pray for all of us who have to deal with these kind of evil frauds. Lord Jesus, put your mighty protection around us and expose these evil creatures.

My husband's favorite thing to say is "you're the only woman I've been with that I've never hit" it was enough of a threat that I was terrified to do anything that would get me hit for a while.

My ex also did this except he pushed me out of the car. I was in the passenger side and had a cast on my right arm. The cast was not a normal one. It caused my elbow to cause my arm up. He pushed me right on the cast and of course I fell right on it. I stayed 15 years bc I thought that was the right thing to do. IT'S NOT! HE KiLLED 2 OF OUR DOGS!! It's been over 20 years ago. God doesn't want you to live like that. Cheating is not the only reason to leave. God help you out with this horrible life!! Peace and Blessings 🙏

First, I’m sorry you went through such traumatic experiences from your dad. Thank you for transforming your pain into purpose that helps so many.

Sooooo true. I think narcissists and breaking things happen a lot. People always talk about verbal abuse or physical abuse. Raging, yelling, screaming, devastating name calling while the same time throwing and breaking things is just plain scary. Of course you wonder, when will it be my face. For sure they fantasize about beating you. Your personal belongings serve as a replacement for your face. People can easily gaslight themselves and doubt, because it was not physical, but it feels devastating. And the other thing is: after the narcissist destroy your things, they will not take responsibility and replace it. No, the financial burden will be for you because in their twisted mind you deserved it. They will say "You made me do it". I'm still boiling inside when I recall the experiences. And breaking stuff may start little by little with long intervals but the cycles become shorter and shorter until breaking things is the new norm to live under the same roof. I'm against violence, but what a narcissist need is a person with a high level of assertiveness, because a narcissist is a coward. They will break the things of a person who is defenseless. A person who can defend himself would drag the narcissist out of the house and he wouldn't repeat it again.

My father described for all to behold, ladies and gentlemen. Bashir is a true genius in the field of psychology.

My mother worked with an ex- saying if he didn’t punch me he didn’t abuse me and it was my fault leaving a “good” man..

True, she has punch holes in the wall, I collect cologne and recently we had an argument and she broke two bottles of my colognes. She has broken my laptop, eyeglasses and so many of other things I own.

My "dad" did that once to my mom, speeding when they were alone on the interstste to scare her. And why? Because he was always perilized with anxiety and therefore ashamed he could not make decisions. But a narcissist is never wrong. And the same thing happened to me when I was riding in my "sister's" car while she was driving on the interstste. She too had serious emotional problems, but a narcissist is never wrong. She kept screaming at me about how our mom liked me best (which was bullshit), and the car just kept going faster and faster. Overall, unlike the horror stories I have read from others, our "family" got along reasonably well. But occasionally there were isolated incidents like what I just described. Still, even if it happens only once, there is no excuse. I eventualy changed my name and disappeared. I was surprised to discover that after you change your identity the old identity becomes like a scapegoat, and your unpleasant memories now belong to someone else. I learned early on to never accept disrespect from anyone. So as they say, every cloud has a silver lining! Danish, I CANNOT IMAGINE the abuse you suffered from your father. I am very happy for you that you obviously survived so very well, and you are helping others to survive too. ❤

He sped in the car, and I was so scared that I could not breath. I was used for all my money, and then I had no more money of my own. Relied on him, and he threw me away like trash to starke. Without food or money for a month. I was physically beatenby him. He Choke me several times. That Was when his eyes went Black. I have a digestive disorder ,and he forced me to eat foods I cant digest. Every time i wanted to sleep, he would start an argument, so that I could not sleep all night, while he slept. There is so much more...😢

My ex would suddenly, most often in the middle of the night, pick a fight and yell, "Got the F$#k out!" Making me leave. Once was during a major widfire. I had to evacuate from my home and was staying at his house. The fire also had all the primary highways closed. It took me a long time to catch on, but he would break things that were special to me. I finally realized it when I went to the garage to find my art supplies. There were bits of porcelain all iver the floor. I picked up a larger piece and immediately recognized it was part of a wing. My heart raced as I searched the cabinet it had been packed away in.... Instead of the angel statue my late father had given me, i found a bag of pieces. When i asked him what happened, he acted confused. Butbwhen i showed him the pieces, he said, "It kinda looks deliberate." BINGO! My mind instantly connected the dots of all the things that had disappeared or turned up missing over the course of our relationship.

They waste your time. According to a study men and women who have road rage are most likely to physically abuse you. You are so right except I was doing all the driving. And she, my daughter took and wasted all my time. Now once she got a car, bye bye Mama. God works it out. Boundaries are set especially after taking my 3 granddaughters away from me for 4 months. She did it once she can do it again. But my oldest granddaughter and the middle absolutely love me and know what their mama is doing. Thank you again, Danish! Peace and Blessings to All and let God and Jesus Christ guide you 🙏

Yes, my husband of 53yrs, drove along the edge of a very steep banking on the wrong side of the road with out a fence for safety. Drove fast and slammed on the breaks of the car. Abandoned me in different towns and drove home, including our yearly holiday, he just took off and drove home and left me. Left me in bed for 3 days with pneumonia and didn’t call home to see if I was okay. In that time, I had to call the doctor, felt so ill. He was so nice to others in the out side world, but not me. My daughter in law saw that a long time ago. He put me down in front of people. In the end I stood up to him and he lived in a shed for 5 months, then bought a house. Lost my voice for 3 yrs and went to speech therapy for 3 yrs , just because of his bullying. Should have left him, but realised I was trauma bonded to him. My dad called from my house during the night to go home from my house, he couldn’t stand his temper or him beating his dogs either. Hope god takes care of him.

The narcissist I was involved with did many of these things. But he also hit me too. He's been dead for years now, but I'm still suffering from an extreme anxiety disorder from what I went through with him. I don't sleep well from nightmares and I can hardly do anything anymore without having anxiety or a panic attack. The damage these narcissists do is really terrible.

Thank you for this. You just described everything I have been through in my marriage - even the sleep deprivation and being trapped in the car while they are raging at you while the car is going to the highway. I just barely have started with acknowledging that everything I have been through has been abuse. Thank you for the validation.

your mental state is so very important

He told me to get out of the car before. I said no. Like im going to be stranded in the middle of nowhere. He than reversed roles and would slam on the brakes, fling open the door and exit the car, even on the highway. It was extreme abuse. My nervous system was through the roof

During my former marriage, I had 3 surgeries in 9 years on unrelated conditions, bronchitis on average 4-5 times per year, routine headaches. By the end, when the abuse increased, I had gained 50 pounds in one year. I thought I was just unhealthy. Once I was out, the bronchitis went away, the headaches stopped, and the conditions requiring surgery disappeared. I lost the weight. I dealt with PTSD for years and recently got over my phobia of lakes with the help of friends. (He had me in a cabin on a lake, which sounds like a perfect life unless that cabin and lake are your prison.) I am convinced I would have been dead by now if I had not left when I did. That was 13 years ago.

How about this one? I would go yearly to the Health Department for a supply of birth control pills and a physical. One time the nurse practitioner found what could have been a cyst and advised me to get it checked out. Our regular doctor was a clinic that charged on a sliding scale. Usually the visits were $2. My husband fussed and cussed about the $2! Finally, in front of an older and wiser woman, he had the gall to complain about his "greedy" boss! It was then that I told him that I was leaving him because he loved money more than he loved me and told our older, wise friend why. He tried to rationalize his "frugality," but in the end, she persuaded him to take me to the doctor. Low and behold, it didn't cost $2, but (gasp!) $6! He didn't let me hear the end of that! It turned out that I did not have cancer. However, that was, if not the last straw, certainly the "beginning of the last straws." Yes, Danish, you are right. One can be physically abusive without an "offensive touch."

My ex did all that you mentioned but he was crafty with subtle physical abuse. I have fibromyalgia and he would poke my trigger points so that I would feel excruciating pain and of course no one knew about these points and the effect of touching them so no one ever noticed that he was physically hurting me. When I told him to stop he would laugh it off saying what do you mean.

Wow, I’m so stressed just reading the comments. Just variations that I experienced with my Narc ex-brother. Driving right up close behind other drivers, slamming on the brakes, shouting angry abuse, getting out at a lights to tell them off, following them home to abuse. I worried he would pick the wrong person and we would be attacked. He was a physical coward. Forcing me to stand up on his jet ski, first time on it , swerved at speed, I was thrown off wrenching my ribs, couldn’t hardly move with the pain for 3 days. He said it was nothing. Raging, shouting, swearing, crude accusations, standing over me holding a heavy piece of wood, kicking the furnishings, punching the wall, shouting’get out’ Changed the locks on the door. He and his cruel wife behind my back took all my clothes and possessions to the rubbish dump , after putting aside what they wanted. I had to wear my deceased mother’s clothes. I was recovering from stress induced abdominal cancer surgery at the time. All the neighbours heard but kept away. I couldn’t sleep for 2 years prior to the cancer because of all the fears I had for my life. He still has me in a financial trap. I can hardly make a move, live on a shoestring, no heating, debts, can’t work, threat of mortgagee sale etc etc total control of finances equals total control of life. Same abuse of his dear little brother. The lifelong stress, fear and abuse killed him off early in life and on his deathbed Narc came with legal document to sign over his home to him. Brother died next day only 60 years old. I can hardly eat too, no appetite. Need operation to have my large bowel rejoined, can’t because no money. Only have small bowel. Constant abdominal cramps, fatigue. However, in spite of all this I keep my faith that God will set me free, heal me and vindicate me. I will never give up praying and believing. Thank you Danish. I also realise that you have experienced far worse abuse than me. Of course there’s more than I’ve stated. God bless you always. ❤ from New Zealand.

My mom used to take my breathing medicine vials and hide them.. I would notice the amount would go down but couldnt figure out why until one day i overheard her say she loves to drive me crazy! Im so sorry dinesh that you had to go thru that with your father...

My ex-husband never physically abused me until I told him I wanted a divorce and called the police. He tried to r*pe me and now we are in a horrible divorce battle for my rescue cats that he never even liked and tried to kill one of them.

I’m so sorry you experienced such painful things as a child. I see why you’re passionate about helping others and raising awareness! 💚

I try to avoid driving anywhere with him. It usually ends up in a terrible argument or having road rage. I've been left places and had to walk home or told to get out of a moving car. I have a serious illness, but he doesn't seem to care. It's probably caused by all the stress. Regarding narcissistic abuse, I think I've been thru it all. I wonder how someone could be so evil. In the end, I hope he gets what he deserves and goes where he belongs.

I never considered that when I was a child and we were returning home from my grandparents’ home, that my father was physically abusing me and my siblings when he refused to stop for us to take bathroom breaks. His response was always “wait till we get home “. It was a nearly 6 hour drive. This was back in the 60’s and early 70’s. He came within a few inches one time with a clenched fist because I was defending my older brother who was accused of putting a hole in the stair well sheet rock. He had also threatened to kill me (and my siblings) every Christmas and he was depressed. I finally stood up to his threats one day (I had been living at home after a bad back injury kept me from working). He made the threat again and I told him that “I’m right here - go for it “. He stared straight through me for a few minutes, chewing his lip before he finally stalked off. He died three 1/2 years ago and I have only just begun the journey of healing. Thank you for opening another chapter of understanding and explanation so that I can look at things in a new light.

They get away with that in court especially. Abuse is never just physical. Abuse comes in many forms. Emotional,mental,financial. You can abuse someone without lifting a finger

I don't have time to sit alone in front of my computer because they will storm my room and start harassing me.

Appreciate the tie-in of how the emotional abuse and even just feeling a threat of possible physical violence creates the hyperarousal state which causes physical distress and illness is a form of physical abuse.

Unbelievable! I thought I was going crazy and had some kind of new anxiety riding the car. I asked him to drive safer, and he responded " That's how he was always driving and something wrong was with me.

It's all true.....First (covert) narc i was with for many years, while sticking it out because i thought our mirage was real would dangerously speed on curvy hilly roads until i was in terror, begging him to slow down. He would rant and say it was my fault for making us late everywhere. Once on the way to a party, my face was so swollen and eyes red from crying, we had to drive around until i was semi-presentable. Later when we lived in a remote mountainous region, he drove like a banshee on steep mountain roads until i was hyperventilating and ended up on the floorboard a few times. Would tailgate the cars in front of ours, accelerate and brake hard constantly, etcc. Tried to lose me when i was following him after picking up our car in a serious snowstorm in the middle of nowhere. My daughter was with me in the car and she's probably the only reason i was able to find his vehicle again and get back because we would have been stranded, potentially for days in freezing conditions with deep snow. Towards the end, when he knew i was seeing his falseness, did something horrible to one of my chickens in front of window so my daughter and i would see it. I pulled her away quickly and held her. Put a loud device that played the sound of hurt rabbits near the bed while i was sleeping and remote controlled it to blast the sound. :( Isolated me and told people all kinds of things so they'd never believe me if i told on him and i think too so that when i suddenly "disappeared" no one would really look. :( That narc quit paying tags and insurance on my vehicle so i couldn't escape our mountain. He also planned to leave the bridge washed out so i couldn't get to the highway, but it still happened and i got away in the nick of time. So many years with abuse, but FINALLY i know and never again!......thank you for revealing the truth so people will be aware and gain precious freedom.

I have lots of experiences as most of my family members are narcs. My narc dad crashed his car once while me and my brother were inside it, he also kicked my small cats and slammed the door once as I didn't do as he wanted. My narc sis throws the kitchen utensils with force in the sink whenever she feels upset with me (she loves the silent treatment the most though and guilt tripping, those are her specialities). My narc mom used to comb my hair strongly or strongly tighten it so it would give me headaches. She would also force me into ironing my curly hair and she didn't mind that I got burnt or cried. My narc grandma would lock me in a room for about an hour if I didn't behave and would throw just anything on the table with strength so it made a strong noise that scared me. The other narcs in my family preferred other more subtle methods like guilt tripping, silent treatment, gaslighting, or calling names and ridiculing me. I'm glad I finally moved away from them and that I am moving away from my sis soon (who is the only remnant now). So to anyone with a family of narcs, don't hesitate to move away as soon as you can, you can't imagine how liberating it is to be out of that mess once and for all.

My narcissist ex did all of these in various ways. I was the primary breadwinner and he would still talk about my face cream costing too much, or my makeup being a financial burden, while he continue to rarely work. He also controlled me through sleep deprivation, making me feel guilty when eating, taking my money and saying i was a horrible wife when I questioned his need for yet another loan. He also rarely wanted to have sex or intimacy. Since being with a stable partner, I can see how insane that was.

Wow! I've experienced most of these. Mostly from my husband. It's absolutely abuse in every way. The money one really upsets me. I'm a stay at home mom, so I have no income. I gave up my career to stay home. Big mistake!! I have no access to money. I'm not on the bank accounts, I have to beg for every cent. Most of the time, if I say I need food, he goes to get whatever is needed. He never just brings home a few dollars so I can go. And God forbid I don't do what he says. He says, "Oh well, when you need something, don't ask me."Most of the time, it's for my kids. Like food, clothes etc. I have to give him a reason why all the items on the shopping list are needed. I can't remember the last time I bought clothing for myself or got my hair cut by a professional. But I'm the selfish one! I have nowhere to go with 3 kids. These are very sick people. I feel like a kid who is being punished. Some day, I will get out.

I'm very sorry your father used food to abuse you. Thank you for being open and sharing to help other survivors. It seems food abuse goes back to my own childhood (my father) and then all the years i lived with the covert narc, he used shaming to the point i wouldn't eat with him at the places we lived but would stand alone in the kitchen to eat. I was afraid to let him see me eating, and also felt more comfortable eating alone. And yes, the narc will do to our things what they want to do to us, or as a threat of what they may do to our body. Before escaping from the situation i was in, he took one of my chickens and was doing a horrible thing to it in front of the window of the house to traumatize my daughter and me. She screamed and i quickly pulled her away and held her in another room. The violent & brutal thing was really what he was threatening us with. But we got away in a miraculous way, and i wish that for everyone here who needs to get away too. Life is so much better on the other side.

It is a realistic fear that I have that I will fall into the hands of a narcissist when I get old. There is a real stranger danger for old folks.

He would kick me, punch me, and elbow me while we were sleeping. I had to sleep with pillows between us to keep him from hitting me. Now, I see that it wasn't an accident. He wasn't doing it in his sleep. He was intentionally doing it. He drove recklessly. He use to scare me to death when he was driving.

Yes, Danish, all of those examples happened to me at the hands of the ex-narcissist. Holes in the walls, trapped in the car with insane driving, financial control.

The Narcissist Xhusband did ALL OF THIS!!! After being forced out of the vehicle in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado, with NOTHING ~~~~ it was devastating, after an hour he came back for me~~~ OUT OF PURE FEAR OF ABANDOMENT~~ I became completely submissive to him. When he kicked me out of vehicle 2 yrs later 10 miles from home, ….. I walked until my feet were bleeding, as I had on “high heels” he insisted I wear…. I walked for miles until I was able to find an acquaintance to give me a ride home~~ there was so much GAS LIGHTING over the insanity of his abuse…. Thank GOD I AM SEVEN YEARS FREE FROM ALL OF his SICK ABUSE!

My ex husband would kick the bedroom door open when I was trying to go to sleep. Scaring the life out of me and obviously waking me up. I had the worst sleep deprivation when I was with him. Always tired, never feeling fully awake like in a state of confusion. Exactly where he wanted me.

The demon nex I was tied up with drove like a psycho. Hogged the left lane, tailgated, drove excessively fast, blew horn and flashed lights at others to get out of the way. And complained as if they were the problem.

He did every single one of these to me. But he spent his time denying it all. I am so thankful I got away.

First of all, Danish, please don't consider me narcissistic for complimenting your cool haircut, it looks very strong. But your videos are helping me deal with invisible abuse from narcissists in my family and close relationships. I recently had a disagreement with a friend who lives far away and they totally said they hate me and questioned my faith and spirituality...which is what I live for. But I am a pretty strong willed woman so I immediately cut them off. They now constantly vacillate between saying sorry and f - u. And it's sometimes makes ME feel crazy....how they do that I don't know. But a prayer life and your videos and tools I'm learning are helping me remember it's not me, it's THEIR issue. And I am allowed to heal. I am resisting the urge to "save" them now. I wish them well and pray they find some truth within. And I thank YOU for your great work!

My narcissist threw my purse into the fireplace. It took me 100 hours to make by hand. He also drives like he owns the road. Thirdly, he holds money, house, pets, and cars over my head. They're all his, not mine, even though we've been married 10 years. He checks my bank statements and wants to see receipts for everything I buy because it was purchased with his money. I rarely have an appetite. When I do eat I have to force food down.

My parents put me in a diet since i was 10, sexualized me, pushed me to all kind of eating disorders, destroyed my capacity to form human relations, abandoned me in the hands of a pederast, and they think they have no responsibility. They called me "mentally imbalanced", problematic, dramatic. Daily activities like eating, dressing up and having contact with people causes me flash backs.

These are not widely recognized but absolutely %100 spot on.

The ex husband tried to push me out of the car and at times when he was very angry he would push me even when i was pregnant and begging him to stop. He constantly found reasons to put me down and blame things on me. He also broke my makeup emptied my shampoos and toiletries and stole from me. He refused to provide for the kids. I had to do everything myself. When i wanted to wake up a bit later on weekends he put me down saying i was lazy. Yet i worked full time cooked cleaned and took care of the kids everyday while he refused to help. If i ever questioned anything he would slam his hand down on the table or wall or countertop. The day i left was the best day of my life. Little does he know that he trained me to do it all myself so when i left i didnt feel much of a loss at all

The narcissists ive known physically hit me as well. Both male and female.

There have been so many good and useful Narc content among you KZfaqrs lately. Thanks to you, in particular, I can actually say I've been physically abused in the past. Being kept awake late at night and being prevented from sleeping: this is VERY true!

My husband left me at a bar in Spain. He left me and the kids at Lego land in California. He went to the car to sleep and me and the kids were looking for him. It was my son who at 8years old said “just forget about him and let’s go on more rides”. My ex assaulted our son back in May and now cannot understand why our son refuses to stay at dad’s house. I left my husband 3 years ago and it was the best decision ever. Everything Danish says is true. My husband would break my stuff and hide my things even my laptop. To this day he will say he never did anything. ❤

My abusive husband calls me crazy every time I find out that he has stolen something from me, be it jewelry, clothes (which he steals and gives to some other female) and even my reputation. He is a serial liar but he can’t remember what he said each time he lies. To him, ‘crazy’ is the operative word. He is NOT a doctor, however much he likes to make believe that he is, so his calling me crazy or insane is just projecting, as far as I am concerned.

My ex-husband did all of the first 4 things mentioned. I got yelled at and belittled in the car multiple times on trips, or got the silent treatment that went on for days, & he broke many possessions of mine, and even though I paid the bills I had to ask for $$ the correct way or he didn't give it to me. I raised our 3 close together children pretty much on my own. He'd wake me up to yell at me over stupid, trivial things. If he saw my back to him in bed, he'd kick me out with his feet. After 33 years I was able to afford an apt. and moved out. He was a monster in my eyes - he didn't care about hurting me or the children. Those were only some of his abusive behaviors. I've been free for nearly 9 years. Life is the best! No one controls me or stifles my spirit anymore. Keep working on yourself, your self-esteem, your friendships, and learn to like and love yourself. We all deserve it. ❤

My co-worker was always saying how nice my husband was. One day I said "just so you know, he's physically abusive". He was sexually abusive! They never suspect! 😢 Edited for clarity

She hit me with the car twice and then gaslit me into not pressing charges 😢 I was so young and naive I finally broke up with her and now she refuses to move out so I stay boarded in my own bedroom until she leave for work or something hacked my accounts including banking and I can’t afford to evict her at the moment I do have restraining order in process please don’t put yourselves through this pain I’ve experienced all five of these

So many heart breaking stories, I wish you peace everyone, they're tormented souls, very scary indeed!

Danish, I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that when you were a child. My childhood was a lot like yours. I can never understand how narcissists come to be. I know that I have suffered at the hands of several of them. I hope you are healing, I am as well. Thank you for all of your insight and information.

My aunt forced me to drink lime juice as soon as I got out of the hospital after an Endoscopy- I had severe Gastritis 😢

A video series about the origins of narcissism and why narcissists exist would be very interesting 🤔

I am surprised how do you know our(survivors) story so deeply i am Literally very impressed

Mental and Emotional Abuse ... The ones you can't see ❤🎯‼️You are always in defense mode!!!

You're suddenly very prone to "accidents". He didn't know I was behind the door he slammed into my face cutting me badly. I must be blind not to have seen his foot outstretched as I walked by, that's why I faceplanted on the concrete that time. Lots of those kind of stories

key point energy deprivation to control u;omg all this is so true danish the financial support breaking things etc💯

Hard hitting truths here! Your work here is commendable!! I felt this!

Thank you. The first question I’d be asked after leaving my abusive narcissist husband-even the most well-intentioned friends would ask if I was physically abused. It was as if it didn’t really count if I said no, or if their morbid curiosity wasn’t satisfied. I would say no, but I knew the truth- that I had been held hostage on a remote speeding rampage in his truck not knowing where he was taking me, shaken awake over and over in the night and in the early morning by pots and pans. Just before I left I began finding loaded guns hidden around the house. My body was swimming in cortisol from all the fear. Yes, I was physically abused. Thank you for this validation. 🙏🏼

This is all visible behavior of the narcissist, but does anyone recognize the following? Secretly throwing away or breaking your precious items and then supposedly sympathizing with you about your loss. There are so many of these weird things going on that it can't be a coincidence. You suspect the narcissist but can't prove anything. He does this probably to punish you. Sometimes the narcissist regrets it and repairs the damage or buys a replacement item. Then he is the hero and expects praise. I can't find anything about this anywhere. Does anyone recognize this?

These are all on point. My father did this with food and drinks when I was younger too! I was being yelled and screamed at for my 'eyes being bigger than my stomach' and being hit while choking and crying at the same time! He was constantly forcefeeding me things that 'were good for me'. "get it into ya or you are not leaving the table" -he'd say. "ill give you something to cry about" The car thing is the WORST, always distracted, yelling at other 'stupid' drivers...I have been in 4 collisions in my life and 3 of them were with him! I could go on forever but thats not the point! Thank You

Danish, I experienced all of this. Thank you for explaining this is physical abuse. 1. Trapped me in the car for 3 hours on a windy road in the mountains. He screamed and yelled flipping off the driver ahead on the two lane road and was within inches of the truck in front. I said slow down we are not in a hurry. He yelled and swore and told me to get in the back with the dog! I thought I was going to die. 2. He stole 3 of my favorite golf clubs but pretended he didn’t. I looked all over. I accused the landscapers. It was a big expense. 3. He cut off all physical touching, cuddling, no sex. 3. He forced me to eat his fattening high sodium food. He was the only cook in the house. He hated my cooking! 4. I was sound asleep in the guest room with the door locked, a box in front too. He busted through the door and woke me up screaming! Crazy, evil man! Got a restraining order after he stole my phone, got marriage annulled and moved two states away!

You just described my childhood!

Thank you Danish. This should be teached simply ewerywhere, so that people get not gaslighted so easily. It should be involved in a legal system as well so that judges don't get fooled by narcissists. Narcissists use any gap in our awareness to gaslight us. Deep inside they know exactly that what they do is physical abuse. The people who doubt it most are the victims.

My ex husband slammed on the brakes during an argument & caused a four car pile up. It backfired though because witnesses called the police & reported his sudden stop for no apparent reason & he was taken to jail on an outstanding warrant that he had.

I wish the courts would recognize the empirical reality of this. They claim they care about “what’s best for kids,” but that’s just bs, because they aren’t willing to accept science.

Yes! Sleep deprivation happened to me. I can’t believe I survived for 12 years. I eventually got out and left because I realized this was not right. Thankfully, my mom and dad were there to support me and help me leave.

Our bodies get destroyed by this chronic stress. My ex would follow me when I tried to go to another room to get away from his heavy breathing and yelling.. he broke down 3 doors in three different rooms in one night ..one of those doors came right off the hinges and landed right on my back with him on top of the door. That is the night I grabbed my son, ran to the phone,called the police and ran out of the basement door and never went back. He and his father said he never put a hand on me and "the door did it". Please protect yourselves as these ppl get worse as soon as you stand up for yourself. Be prepared for that. God bless you all.

I was married to a narcissist for 38 years. He did almost all of these things.

I need to know what to do about the trauma bond stuff because I only feel worse when I do not talk to this person and then if I do talk to them they say something triggering or gaslighting "" and I get so mad and the toxic cycle keeps going and he responds less and less now. It's just crazy and I also keep calling him out for things and he couldn't handle that of course he lost the upper hand really bad when I started figuring it all out from Watching many amazing people such as yourself here on you tube!! And I LOVE your videos because some how you usually crack me up ( like when you are explaining things and I can really see how stupid the narcissist looks or acts and I know its not really supposed to be funny but at times it is ! Lol I enjoy your channel very much 😅 and that's always a mood lifter !🎉🎉😂❤😊 Thank you !!

My light bulb moment was when I started having panic attacks while he was driving me and the kids. I felt trapped, he never wore his seatbelt, drove reckless, make us wait for the bathroom. I realized my body was telling me to run. He controlled us financially, I had to ask to us the credit card as he made 250k a year ! The verbal abuse got worse as he aged. Being a homeschool stay at home Mom was a way for him to control us. After 19 years Im getting off the crazy train and Im going to enjoy my freedom and give my kids a better healthy life. It took me 2 years to fully see the light. Be a survivor for your kids it’s not too late ❤ Danish has helped me know that the truth will set you free 🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️ So Im ready to Fly ❤

Wow, so my old man used to beat me and nearly everyone around him. When he didn’t do that he would throw these fits of rage where he would destroy things barehanded like a gorilla. It was terrifying to see his strength let alone his size. The fast driving while screaming at us and hitting. The intentional acts of deprivation of basic things, everything you described really. The force feeding you shared, been there brother. So even when he wasn’t actually hitting us, he was still physically harming us. Sure felt physical, in a way this view on all that is vindicating as much as it feels like getting free of the scale of it is impossible in this moment.

True they make out if they call you a name it’s just for fun,if they flirt with another ,they will suddenly make out you are either a lier or your controlling and they can’t be themselves They are attention seekers and will intentionally try and upset you as they need supply and they don’t care who you are ,a family member,a worker ,a partner , no one is safe from there character.

Thank you Danish. Your videos remind me that going no contact with my family was the right decision.

I have gone through all of the 5 forms of this kind of hidden abuse and therefore now suffer from Epilepsy 😢😢😢😮😮😮 The one you love and respect can be so cruel that He can ruin your brain and life 😮😮😮😢😢😢

People need not to touch for damaging . Preparing flying monkies against you, seeding low esteem , silent treatment , insulting regularly will damage other more than an accident . I experienced many people when I am naive, lost little health, lost job, lost mental health . Now if anyone tries to attack me, they are scared. I learned how to attack such people. Life lessons learned from bad experiences. Made me strong