The Worst Gaslighting I have ever experienced in my life

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Danish Bashir

Danish Bashir

Күн бұрын

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chapters
00:00 introduction
01:42 Why did you encounter a narcissistic relationship
02:35 My gaslighting story ( narcissist's stealing story)
04:24 i tried to ignore that confrontation
5:00 The same stealing 2nd time
06:02 An interesting turn of the event
07:08 An insight to the relationship
08:01 The major mainpulation !
09:42 I felt i betrayed myself
10:27 i stood my ground & took a stand
12:18 The torture continued...
13:09 The stealing
14:49 The conclusion

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@cindy-e3p
@cindy-e3p 7 ай бұрын
I went through this and yes it drove me crazy how he made me feel like everything was my fault.
@angelakeely5859
@angelakeely5859 7 ай бұрын
Same,they make you feel you were the "problem", when it's actually all them😏🚩🏃‍♀️
@tarey05
@tarey05 7 ай бұрын
That experience is mind crushing, Danish! Your saving yourself at that moment has transformed you into a remarkable empathetic healer. No therapist can replicate you. The repeated pain and frustration you have suffered at the hands of these monsters pushed u to the brink, yet u saved yourself and moved toward a life of sanity and generosity. How amazingly strong you are! You and many of us are just too kind for this demonic world. Warm hugs with gratitude. ❤
@christielawrence4640
@christielawrence4640 7 ай бұрын
Ditto! Ditto! Thank you so much
@mariasartzis-Sartzis-PELLICIER
@mariasartzis-Sartzis-PELLICIER 7 ай бұрын
My ex-husband within 3 weeks after getting married started to gaslight me in many different ways. One night, when he thought I was sleeping, he leaned real close to my ear and I heard I him say: "Mariiiiaaaa, kill yourself. "You are no good" I was too scared to jump up and scream or ask him what he was doing. So I pretended to continue sleeping. The next day I wrote that in my journal; in the very first journal I started in my marriage. I left him in 11 months In those 11 months, I had filled several Journals. I believe those journals saved not only my sanity but also my life.
@rosameijering5161
@rosameijering5161 7 ай бұрын
Are you serious?
@LJonno.9499
@LJonno.9499 7 ай бұрын
OMG!!! Sooo happy for u that u got out. He sounds pure evil. Its scary how they can hide the dark side....but then again... just for a short time
@lolo9553ify
@lolo9553ify 7 ай бұрын
Journals are life savers. They can get the ball rolling enough for you to make a getaway plan.
@kirsikka3752
@kirsikka3752 7 ай бұрын
Glad you left! I can only imagine your fear and confusion during those months. I stayed only one month planning my exit.
@dubaiedge
@dubaiedge 7 ай бұрын
Jesus 😢
@sheilajac
@sheilajac 7 ай бұрын
i have heard that gaslighting eventually results in heightened intuition, which i feel like i've experienced, but it also makes the gaslighting more obvious and frustrating when you know you're being lied to but the liars won't admit it b/c they know you can't prove it.
@ogechio1609
@ogechio1609 7 ай бұрын
This too 😞
@lizh1988
@lizh1988 7 ай бұрын
We can't prove anything to them, they just do not care to comprehend. It is frustrating. One time I was in a situation where there was doubt in my mind, but I quieted it. Then I had a dream where literally there was gaslight visible, I could see the blue flames. It was profound, the rest of the dream. All I can think is it is good to know that they are actually the crazy ones. No one who knew the value of a human being or the existence of God would do the things they do. They only have a grasp on a small part of reality.
@cazjay017
@cazjay017 7 ай бұрын
Yes.
@TOBY5783
@TOBY5783 7 ай бұрын
The secret goal of EVERY narcissist.
@mysterious-twinflame
@mysterious-twinflame 7 ай бұрын
I think the title in itself was self explanatory to me because I was at a point where I actually wrote in my diary that killing myself was the only solution to all that’s happening It was made me feel that it was me who was the problem and who was trying to spoil their life but infact it was him who was narcissistic
@HuHWhat-yi8cp
@HuHWhat-yi8cp 7 ай бұрын
The gaslighting is at times so sly that it seems mechanical. Like a "prime directive" to attack. 🧐
@schrottdrossel9902
@schrottdrossel9902 7 ай бұрын
Danish, I just want to thank you for still being around. You sharing your experiences and knowledge has helped me a lot.
@dubaiedge
@dubaiedge 7 ай бұрын
Yes, these ppl want us gone. Dark dark dark stuff. A former bf, a woman he was with after me offed herself. My mother's partner of 40+ years died a year ago & she's said several times he died to spite her, to get away from her. She's someone I went almost two decades NC with. I don't know if she's unaware of how abusive & vile she is or not. But my father offed himself by 44 of alcoholism. Before I went NC with her, after I'd phone with her, I'd curl up in a ball, sob, & wish I could just die. If anyone's going thru this shit, esp. today, Thanksgiving, understand this is not your fault, this is not normal, & you can & will get away from this. Just one foot in front of the other, keep breathing, if for NO other reason than to not give them what they want.
@yolandelyle
@yolandelyle 7 ай бұрын
One of the best gifts I gave to myself,.....is distancing myself and keeping away from these narcissists! I really don't care whether they are my family relatives,or " so called friends". I have been done with them now a long time ago😊
@constructenglish1
@constructenglish1 7 ай бұрын
I have experienced coordinated gaslighting from 7 people, family members, friends and a person I was romantically involved with. I think I am through it but I believe I have ptsd and it sometimes creeps back up on me and I feel intense pain again.
@jacquelinemarie1078
@jacquelinemarie1078 7 ай бұрын
I have recently been diagnosed with PTSD and anxieties. The only thing to do now is to take care of ourselves, we need to love ourselves. I have been telling myself daily that I love me, otherwise I would never hear it.
@Patricia_Stewart337
@Patricia_Stewart337 7 ай бұрын
We ARE enough❤😊
@Patricia_Stewart337
@Patricia_Stewart337 7 ай бұрын
@@jacquelinemarie1078I love you, Jaqueline Marie❤
@constructenglish1
@constructenglish1 7 ай бұрын
@@jacquelinemarie1078 Yes, the trauma also is that bar one they were all people i trusted and loved before and an event really exposed their true nature.
@editbajkai2083
@editbajkai2083 7 ай бұрын
You are not allone. Seems like but I think we have similar Experiences.to much shit against one
@ceetun
@ceetun 7 ай бұрын
Wow, must have been a very hard time for you. Former partner of my narc ex-girlfriend killed himself a couple of years ago, when they were still together. Leaving their 2 children without any note. She told me he was gaslighting her all the time, but after a while I ran into her brother (who had no contact with her for years) and he told me a quite different story. It was the other way around... as I experienced myself with her. Death of her partner was suspicious, police investigated but concluded no foul play. Circumstances however were strange, his suicide was meticulously planned, almost if he had help... Anyway, she drove him completely mad with her gaslighting, and he got totally insane. She virtually handed him the rope herself...
@stephanieSean0
@stephanieSean0 7 ай бұрын
Oh my god !!! I m shocked ! I been there in that state of mind so many times while married to the narcissist . I wish I knew all of this info before . I didn’t know he was controlling all my emotions because of my unhealed trauma . Thank you for your work . It’s god using you to help people to protect from this evil
@Cat-oj4oz
@Cat-oj4oz 7 ай бұрын
It's Thanksgiving Day and I am alone (by choice) and watching your video... I, too, had a friendship with someone who was a caregiver for a neighbor, and I trusted her. She had a key to my apartment so that she could take care of my cat when I was (for instance) in the hospital. I began to see things were missing and blamed myself for misplacing things. When I discovered her narc tendencies, and we parted ways (a whole other story) I came home to find "someone" had gone on a rampage and things were broken and/or stolen, including a necklace that had a pendant for a dear one's ashes. I had to change my locks... some of the items were irreplaceable...but what really hurt was that I had so believed in her goodness, that I defended her when people made accusations against her. I'd identified with her "underdog" status and protected her fiercely. After our friendship breakup and her crime, I learned you can't trust just because people appear to be "good". Betrayal is one of the most painful experiences a person can suffer... I was blindsided and what little trust I had vanished for a long time.
@lizh1988
@lizh1988 7 ай бұрын
This is one of the most painful aftereffects of this whole experience is the lack of trust or tight boundaries I have now because of the backstabbing. I am just now realizing a lot of it. I am very grateful for all the help that is around now.
@jenniferashcroft3215
@jenniferashcroft3215 7 ай бұрын
Danish I believe you encountered them because you are a highly empathic and from the light, whereas a narcisst is from the dark. They needed you to provide light for them in their dark empty world within.
@Jess-yp9fo
@Jess-yp9fo 7 ай бұрын
WHEW i can relate!!! I was getting mad for you! The shifting, the guilt, the CRYING?!? Omg knowing damn well he stole your money!!!! The informational extraction just to be used against you later. These people are DEMONIC af. So sorry that happened to you. Im thankful you chose to continue as well. Been there and did that
@jomansson5742
@jomansson5742 7 ай бұрын
His overreaction to feeling accused is a reminder of how guilty and scared demons are.
@brendadralle1375
@brendadralle1375 7 ай бұрын
Thanks again for your honesty in your abusive experiences. The narcissistic people in my life also prayed with me, and wanted me to feel shame when they were the abusive person, they wanted to destroy me. My faith in God helped me to end those relationships.
@Nova-cb3fv
@Nova-cb3fv 7 ай бұрын
I've found thst plutonic friend narcissist are worse than romantic relationship narcissist. My narcissist friend horrified our entire group of friends when he did everything to get me to fail at quitting a 3 pack a day cigarette habit. He failed, I quit & kicked him to the curb.
@traceypalangio9615
@traceypalangio9615 7 ай бұрын
NEVER think it’s your fault! I never have and I live with narcissistic abuse every day. They grow worse with age.
@rocksolid6494
@rocksolid6494 7 ай бұрын
My sister has stolen things from me. Money missing from my wallet and her story was that someone had broken into her house and taken it. Funny how it is said with certainty as if that was 100% the case.
@johntracey4196
@johntracey4196 7 ай бұрын
yes know the feeling
@lolo9553ify
@lolo9553ify 7 ай бұрын
After a boyfriend’s friend tried to force his mouth on me and I had to shove him off me to prevent it, my boyfriend gaslit me. I was living with my boyfriend and I had to tell him that I could no longer sit at a monthly game night with the man who’d tried to force his mouth on me and my boyfriend went into a performative tailspin of self-pity. He acted as if I was destroying his ‘friendship’ (or fiendship as it turns out) by not wanting to hang out with the grabber in close proximity. He said he was depressed and in the following days often took to his bed to punctuate how he was suffering. When I realized that he’d never even said anything to his friend about grabbing me that way, I asked why. He proceeded to gaslight the hell out of me. He acted like I was exaggerating the situation and he didn’t understand why the incident was bad which forced me to explain repeatedly why it was bad. He was deliberately making me spin my wheels in the hope that I’d exhaust myself and give up and go along with him and his friend’s contention that this was all nothing and I should just get over it. He DARVOd me, the person he called repeatedly “soulmate”. I was so lost and so utterly disturbed by this betrayal that I almost gave up, gave up my life. I didn’t tell him because I realized I could no longer confide anything to this person. He was a vulnerable narcissist and his friend was a communal one. I was raised by communal narcissists and had done my research on the subject but was still shocked to find that it applied to the man who convinced me was an honest and loving person. He isn’t either. I understand how I got deceived and am now aware and armed with knowledge. Thanks for sharing your story, Danish and for creating this space here for others to share.
@JordiUstrell
@JordiUstrell 7 ай бұрын
This story is so believable! It is so sad that you had to go through that... However, I'm happy that you're alive, Danish 🤗 Thank you so much for sharing this 👍😘
@Karen-fx8ek
@Karen-fx8ek 7 ай бұрын
I can relate to your story! The narcs project all their wickedness onto their victim! I like what you said- they reverse the roles of victim& perpetrator! They switch everything! Appreciate you Danish! You’re wisdom is so amazing! Keep ‘em coming! God bless you! Happy Thanksgiving!🌼🙏
@maidmarion2976
@maidmarion2976 7 ай бұрын
The pain of this is on your face Danish. We can understand the mechanics of this, eventually, sometimes, but the pain is still there. We are all with you Danish and can all tell you that you are as rational as the day is long
@1NOIAM
@1NOIAM 7 ай бұрын
This is happening to my son.i have told her to never contact me again. Praying he leaves her.his dad is one as well.the spotlight on them all. ✝️🛐
@joseenoel8093
@joseenoel8093 7 ай бұрын
I'm with you sugar but beware, such drama words are what they're after and it will all be thrown in your face thus making more drama, get to a safe peaceful place, they can do the same if it's what they truly want which they don't!
@ericb8413
@ericb8413 7 ай бұрын
I can’t wait to hear the story of him getting his comeuppance! I’m sorry he almost drove you over the edge. You’re awesome Danish. Thanks for all you do. 😊
@christielawrence4640
@christielawrence4640 7 ай бұрын
Much Gratitude for sharing this story.. and for how you help others.
@Christinek777
@Christinek777 7 ай бұрын
To answer your question: yes, I've been there after a traumatic breakup. The jerk at the time tried to shame me for feeling suicidal. Regarding your experience, Danish: good grief. What an insecure and an academy-award- winning monster he was to do all that! Yikes. Thank you for sharing this and I'm sorry you went through all you have been through. You are very strong and helping so many! We appreciate you! ❤ Looking forward to your karma video.😢
@jomansson5742
@jomansson5742 7 ай бұрын
Me too. Bless this mess. According to Dolores Cannon's findings, from deeply hypnotising people, and regressing them to life between lives, over 50 years, Earth is the hardest school in existence, which is why there's a long line of souls hoping to get in. But only the strongest of the bravest are chosen, because it's just so brutal ❤ I do believe that we came here for these lessons. Therefore somebody has to play the role of perpetrator. We're all from Source, and we're all friends on the other side, when we're back where there's only Love.
@lukehenderson8982
@lukehenderson8982 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video! I have been gaslighted my whole life and it drove me absolutely nuts, from family to friends (your friend sounds too eerily similar), years and years back to back to back, I kept feeling about other people's issues as if they were mine, crazy doubt brain fog and anxiety, damn near OCD ruminations. I was victim blamed, exiled, lost all support, and couldn't even afford let alone find therapy out in the middle of nowhere. I had lingering psychosis for a long while and coming to terms with all of this whole also trying to build a life has been so chaotically stressful. Your words and clarity help so immensely I wish I could express it better. I'm so sorry we both have had the same situation, it's so painful I wouldn't even wish it upon the abuser tbh. To anyone else going through all of this, you aren't alone, you aren't crazy, you're probably an emapth!, and there's hope. Subconscious mind reprogramming helped me the most with battling the insane inner critic and all the wounds pouring out.
@TtbabyG
@TtbabyG 7 ай бұрын
Oh Danish ...you have been part of my journey..you are very relevant and the world needs you x
@sunshinejenny5536
@sunshinejenny5536 7 ай бұрын
I believe YOU! Wow! What an example of the twisted way the Narcissists are!!
@Cosmic-Cat.
@Cosmic-Cat. 4 ай бұрын
I'm someone who "overshares" stuff about myself. For some reason I tend to fall prey to the innocuous little questions a narcissist will ask me, in order to "get to know me better." Even sharing S. A. and other forms of abuse. Then I truly suffer as a result. It might be that no-one listened to me as a child, I (still) feel ignored and that my voice is unimportant - I don't know. But listening to your video is a big reminder to keep my trap shut. What they don't know, can't be used against you. Edit: I've "let" people steal things too. But my driving force was that I "didn't want them to think I didn't trust them" (and dislike me for it) - even though I knew and it happened time and time again. The self-betrayal is a weapon survivors use against themselves to make themselves feel even worse. Self-forgiveness ❤️ We only acted out of a program of fear and survival, Danish.
@shenybrotarlo271
@shenybrotarlo271 7 ай бұрын
When the narc gaslit you to turn even your own children against you, that's when you wanted to actually die.
@lolo9553ify
@lolo9553ify 7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you're experiencing that. It sounds horrible. Remember to take care of yourself though. Don't let the lies convince you as well.
@sunnycatc6491
@sunnycatc6491 7 ай бұрын
Yes me too. I'm glad you and I are stronger than all of them. Karma's real.❤
@makutumafwa7496
@makutumafwa7496 7 ай бұрын
Really want to know how he got his karma. These people have no limit when it comes to harm others...
@Manike-ub2nw
@Manike-ub2nw 7 ай бұрын
I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. You were still a confused and innocent child then. Well done for turning things around. Now you are helping so many.
@tinekespa1190
@tinekespa1190 7 ай бұрын
I feel for and with you Danish. Those narcs. Thank you for sharing your storeys. You are a great man. God bless you
@wms72
@wms72 7 ай бұрын
We are glad you didn't unalive yourself. You, Danish, are a blessing to the world. I, also, thanked someone who stole my child on Mother's Day without telling me. I was so stressed with worry for many hours, that I was thankful when I finally found out my child was with her. But, after a sleepless night (I couldn't relax due to adrenal fatigue), I called her in the morning and screamed at her. Too unpleasant to recall.
@hamdagarbo5839
@hamdagarbo5839 7 ай бұрын
Wow, gaslighting is very damaging. I was gaslighted many times. Thank you for sharing and I can’t wait the rest of the story:)
@Patricia_Stewart337
@Patricia_Stewart337 7 ай бұрын
Please KNOW you are deeply needed and appreciated! Stay here for YOU, and for all of us who love you here🙏❤️
@thecarpenter2599
@thecarpenter2599 7 ай бұрын
Perhaps suffering brings wisdom. I have experienced multiple narcissists also.. I have become more or less a hermit.
@susanjohnson8290
@susanjohnson8290 7 ай бұрын
I am right there with you.
@ravenraven966
@ravenraven966 7 ай бұрын
That's exactly what I became... A hermit is what I say I am ... I can't take anymore... They are everywhere
@VgVi13
@VgVi13 7 ай бұрын
@@ravenraven966 👍
@redpillbox1882
@redpillbox1882 7 ай бұрын
Yes, I have been there myself with my 1st husband as the gas lighter. He was a cheater amongst other things, and honestly would lie about anything. If he could have a secret, or anything he could hide from me he was in his element. If I would question him or not believe his lies, he would lose it and often accuse me of being a "mistrustful person" and say "what is wrong with you?" "what kind of person are you, always accusing me?" "you are delusional", "I told you that, but you just forgot". All of this. If I wouldn't back down on an accusation he would do a character assassination on me to whoever would listen. Family, friends, etc. To the point that eventually I started believing him, that there actually WAS something wrong with me and WHY was I so mistrusting? I eventually started feeling suicidal. Luckily I thought of my children and thought better. LATER in life I was able, I believe through much prayer, to find out the truth of many many of his lies and I was 100% right the whole time. It is a scary thing to look back and see that you nearly lost yourself to the whims of a psychopathic narcissist. I can totally relate.
@jillianbalt
@jillianbalt 6 ай бұрын
My mother is a narcissist. Awful women caused so much pain. I found your channel because of the struggles I face with my narcissistic mother. She abused my brothers and me (physically & emotionally). My father committed suicide when I was 13 years old he was only 37yo the same age I am now. I’ve been trying to understand his death for so long. She tied him like a knot, cheating on him. The chaos only got crazier after his death and I believe she enjoyed the attention she received during his funeral. I am now finally no contact with her and healing myself.
@thirstonhowellthebird
@thirstonhowellthebird 7 ай бұрын
My gosh, this story breaks my heart for what you endured. It also brought back horrible memories too of when we went to my uncle’s house and put my purse under the sink where of course it would be safe right I’m with family. I went in to use the restroom and get something out of my purse and realized all the cash in my wallet had been stolen! Couldn’t believe it. At first I doubt it was even there because I couldn’t believe someone in my family would steal it. I did the same thing that you did and tested it the next time and the same thing happened again. The Bible explains everything about family and how corrupt this world is and how evil is real, it is so real. I wish I had read the Bible when I was 15 years old because so much about this evil behavior would’ve made more sense and maybe I would’ve known how to protect myself. Many of us on this channel were scapegoated from the time we were little bitty babies. These people have so much rage and anger inside of them and they used us to offload all of it. They told all of their friends how awful we were so we were bullied in school as a result of their made up stories. We learned the signs of anger and rage and how to people please to sometimes make things better. We were bullied in school. We were bullied in the workplace and it’s a disgusting legacy that these monsters put on their children who live with it for the rest of their lives. I hope somehow you can figure out a way to reach the legislative branch and push to make this behavior a crime. Most people don’t even realize what has happened to them until decades into adulthood. It’s a shame this behavior cannot be criminalized and retroactive but then that’s what really pushes my faith because God will deal with these vile and despicable reprobates. They can laugh all they want at how they hurt us and smeared us and really affected our lives but in the end they will spend eternity burning and paying for their evil.
@jennyc153
@jennyc153 7 ай бұрын
I’m so glad your still here and didn’t end it. You found your true calling in this life and it has blessed many people including myself. Thank you and Yahweh bless you!
@andrearyel5971
@andrearyel5971 7 ай бұрын
Predators can read your energy and know when someone is vulnerable and take advantage.
@stargazer3887
@stargazer3887 7 ай бұрын
I am so sorry! It is so horrible. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Please, continue to encourage the victims and accept the love and appreciation from them. 💙🌺🙏
@sunshinejenny5536
@sunshinejenny5536 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. You are such a brave person!! It is hard to be so honest. I appreciate you.
@notavailable403
@notavailable403 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this and I'm so so glad you're alive ❤
@drewb5845
@drewb5845 6 ай бұрын
My brother did this to his wife’s sister - drove her to the brink of suicide. How she had the strength to get away and start a new life I will never know but I am so thankful she did. He’s now moved on to me. I know I need to get away as soon as I can.
@user-wf3fl6qb7u
@user-wf3fl6qb7u 7 ай бұрын
Let them think it's working. That way they won't physically attack you. Afterall, nobody can hate us more than ourselves.
@user-wf3fl6qb7u
@user-wf3fl6qb7u 7 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908 What has he won exactly besides delusions? 😂
@BooBahh-uh5jk
@BooBahh-uh5jk 7 ай бұрын
Like a co worker telling me I should quit instead of him. Because I am single and don't have a girlfriend or wife to worry about. And my former co-workers workers Constantly told me I was a loser. Yet they were the meth addicts, former fellons 2x divorced Christians. A both employers in management want to know why it's just me not getting along and for having a bad attitude.... They don't ever want to talk to the other people.
@erikavaleries
@erikavaleries 7 ай бұрын
Me too. I think these people & behavior are very common. It is also glamorized to be selfish.
@Patricia_Stewart337
@Patricia_Stewart337 7 ай бұрын
My most intense contact, barely my ONLY social/ family relationship is with a person who frequently invalidates my beliefs. I appreciate your insights about this kind of relationship abuse.
@yuu_miran
@yuu_miran 7 ай бұрын
Danish, you are not alone in meeting narcs in every single relationship. I have only met one healthy and inspiring person who made me realise my family is very unloving i also have two penpels-acquaintances which are nice people too. And my kitties are nice though sometimes narcissistic😂ps i do believe some people do have hypnotic abilities thats why he is never caught. I hope you do not wish this person any ill will though. Its actually bad for your soul. Remember that their life itself is already a punishment.
@consciousmob
@consciousmob 7 ай бұрын
Thank you Danish.
@Greeneyedlady923
@Greeneyedlady923 7 ай бұрын
I always had to say sorry for everything just to keep the peace while he was the one that caused me pain .
@MeCynthiaAnn
@MeCynthiaAnn 7 ай бұрын
I soooo understand… my whole life also around narcissist. What man meant for evil God can take and turn it to good, and we can help others. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA Thanks again
@orangeandslinky
@orangeandslinky 7 ай бұрын
Somehow this does not seem to be about a personality disorder. It's about evil. I guess if you are not looking for evil, you become a much better target for it. Women always say 'Good guys always finish last." When women all agree on that, it does not seem like a personality disorder. It is evil to love bad over good.
@user-gj8ri2bx4k
@user-gj8ri2bx4k 7 ай бұрын
My sister, who was extremely evil, who was responsible for my other sister’s death and who almost succeeded in cutting off the last two fingers on my right hand with lopping shears, among many other things, used to so easily steal constantly. She once gave me a hanging basket of flowers for my birthday and couldn’t stop bragging about how she had stolen them from a shopping center. I threw them in the garbage after she left. I cut all contact with her after our father died, and only found out about her death after my son cautiously told me he had seen it posted on Facebook by her children. Danish, I really related when you spoke of your grandfather’s death. I felt nothing. I did go to her memorial service with my daughter, who Elinor had threatened to kill. Neither of us was moved by her death or celebrated it: it just seemed like a human decency thing to do. Danish, I so feel for you, knowing what these demons can do to your mind, heart and soul, and to fight your way back to having a positive outlook on life.
@stellap7624
@stellap7624 2 ай бұрын
As a Child my Sister's boyfriend kept telling me I was so ugly that I had no right to be alive. He told me that School ties were for turning around and hanging yourself with. He stood by the bedroom door, put his arm around my shoulder and told me to hang myself by the light fitting. I said it wouldn't take my weight but he said I was only light and it would take my weight. I was only 11 at that time. I was a tiny girl, much thinner and smaller than other girls my age. I was terrified of him. I was convinced he was right and that I was too ugly to live. He trained his dog to not let me get up from the chair for hours and hours and I'd be desperate for the toilet but couldn't go until he took the dog away. I told no one about these and other things he did. To this day I have body dismorphic and a weak bladder. I have PTSD and some OCD. Because he abused me relentlessly for years, it then led to a domino effect of abuse from other people. Although I didn't try to kill myself, I thought about it a lot, that light fitting was just above where I slept. I didn't feel I had the courage to kill myself, and I hated myself for making people look upon my ugly face. I look back now at one or two very rare photos of me at that time, and I was a pretty girl, not ugly at all. He was always fault finding and my Family soon began to copy him. About 12 years ago I cut him off from my life, and that meant most of my very large Family went as well. Because any Family event of any kind would also include him. But it was still worth it because I no longer had to look at his real, deep seated ugliness. One of my other Sisters said; "Stella, if you exclude yourself from everywhere Kenny is, then you'll miss out on all the Family events". So, I said; "Yes, I know, but that's what I've decided to do". She knew my Family, including her, would back him, not me. To others, like her, he can present himself as a picture of kindness and benevolence.
@gingerlemon865
@gingerlemon865 6 ай бұрын
Man you are so strong. I would have jailed him and looked him in the eye and said, "checkmate."
@weaviejeebies
@weaviejeebies 7 ай бұрын
Danish, I have been there, too. I believed that I was so disgusting and subhuman that the only contribution to the world was to remove myself from it. (there was a time where I thought I might actually be a jinn from the verbal abuse and gaslighting I was suffering.)Thank God I did not act on that impulse. Thank God you did not. My religion didn't teach that jinn/demons could take human form and then a very wise person said to me, "it's not the invisible demons we need to watch for so much as the one sitting across from us at dinner." Then the light went on, I was not the jinn wrecking my family. No need for invisible evil spirits when there is an evil soul living with you. I am glad you are free and here to talk with us about the truth of narcissistic abuse and what it does to good people.
@cindy-e3p
@cindy-e3p 7 ай бұрын
Thank you Danish
@bobbarker1798
@bobbarker1798 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. You tell it very well. I can relate as I also have had multiple extraordinarily, terrible gaslighting, manipulations, smear campaign and so on from a psychopathic, narcissist sister. At one point, I was drugged in a public tavern and threatened with human trafficing, all arranged by her. I felt guilty as If it was my fault, althoughI had no reason to. But there's more, so much more. So, I really appreciate hearing your story and knowing I'm not the only one. I look forward to your next presentation. 😀
@bryanovalasiti3555
@bryanovalasiti3555 7 ай бұрын
I have autism but old narcissist neighbor called me bipolar all day long. I bought that woman food for her dog and gave her money for underwear and gasoline and cooked her food that i bought because she constantly whined and complained about being broke. I lent her my bakers rack to have something to put her belongings in and when she moved i told her DO NOT TAKE MY BAKERS RACK" AND THAT WITCH TOLD ME " WHY DONT YOU SKITZ OUT AND SLICE YOUR THROAT!!!! NARCISSISTS AND SOCIOPATHS SPEAK THE SAME WAY. THE VERY FIRST CONVERSATION WITH THEM IS THEM TRYING TO GET PITY SO YOU OPEN YOUR WALLET YOUR HOME AND YOUR HEART THEY PREY ON PEOPLE WHO TRULY JUST WANT TO HELP.
@Tawanda99
@Tawanda99 6 ай бұрын
Is it just me or do we all want to give Danish a group hug??
@R73949
@R73949 7 ай бұрын
Please Danish, I just want the video when or how narcissists gets their karma payback... It will be very helpful for us!
@kathy7253
@kathy7253 7 ай бұрын
Glad that you came through it. They are despicable creatures. Thankyou for making people aware of how dangerous they really are.
@MeCynthiaAnn
@MeCynthiaAnn 7 ай бұрын
I AM SOOOO SORRY YOU WENT THROUGH ALL THESE HORRIBLE THINGS.
@angelinbrooke2324
@angelinbrooke2324 6 ай бұрын
Danish thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your experiences. I recently was put in a position that pushed me past any breaking point that I have ever experienced. I will never understand how anyone could get satisfaction out of making another person feel so depressed they want to kill themselves
@nabihahabibullah1577
@nabihahabibullah1577 7 ай бұрын
💔 Evil shows itself in early encounter but we might try to give that person a second chance then another chance till the truth about that person cannot be hidden . The lying manipulative cheating person is evil and has his/her own demons to guide them to desrtoy the good ones. Even the suicidal thoughts come from them so the best remedy for your struggle is to break up with everyone touches the wrong buttons in your heart. Once, a colleague said stupid but mean thing. We were about to have lunch at school because it was the final exam and we were grading the papers. She said in a very challenging tone ' If you are truly the daughter of your father , don't eat this lunch.' I felt offended and angry ' I am the daughter of my father , I am not eating the lunch.' I could just ignore her stupidity and hatred and ate my lunch but at that moment I couldn't , since that day , I never spoke to that envious person .
@AnneMurray-xf1cx
@AnneMurray-xf1cx 7 ай бұрын
That creep has no empathy for others. I'm so glad you are still in the land of the living and helping others. I like to watch your videos.
@user-fb5yd1qq6p
@user-fb5yd1qq6p 7 ай бұрын
The hurt they caused you is unreal you sink to alow point of no return
@joseenoel8093
@joseenoel8093 7 ай бұрын
They are absolute monsters! You are such a blessing to us Danish, your strenght touches us all! They're all hell bound, we won't be meeting them again.
@andrewhitney4194
@andrewhitney4194 7 ай бұрын
Amen …so true, …you’re right! They’re choosing their path.
@MeCynthiaAnn
@MeCynthiaAnn 7 ай бұрын
So ready to hear the rest of the true Story that you mentioned you were saying in your next video. God bless you always.
@juliechurch1799
@juliechurch1799 7 ай бұрын
You have nice qualities I think that's why you attract them
@ericxb
@ericxb 7 ай бұрын
we're really thankful you chose to continue too. thank you for your channel.
@jenniferfinck3673
@jenniferfinck3673 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Danish, for relating this story. Yes, I too have been in some similar situations, created by my family (mainly my parents) as well as my boyfriend who I lived with for many years. And I know very well what you mean about how destructive the flying monkeys can be. They are so ignorant and blind emotionally that I think sometimes they’re evil too. They put forward opinions and tell you how wrong you are about so many things, yet they have no idea what they’re talking about. I used to be apt to forgive these types because I thought it’s not their fault for being misled by the narcissist. But now I think that by not self-reflecting, not searching for the truth in a situation, they’re just as bad. Sometimes for me, in my life, it was the flying monkeys who inflicted the most pain. (Sorry to go off topic a bit.) But I can no longer forgive them. They make life so much more difficult that I think if you have the opportunity to go ‘no-contact’ with the narcissist, you should absolutely do the same with anyone who believes what they have to say. Also, I wanted to thank you for this video because it shows me I’m not alone, and maybe I have a chance to live.
@MizrahiChick
@MizrahiChick 7 ай бұрын
Danish, we are all sorry that you had to endure that horror. Wishing you sweet peace and healing. I, personally, am deeply grateful for your existence and compassionate wisdom and believe you saved me at a critical moment of potential great despair. Your wisdom and insight provided hope at a very dark time , and I thank you deeply. Namaste.
@user-q992
@user-q992 7 ай бұрын
Several narcissists tried to do this to me, especially two nasty pieces- my mother and my soon to be ex husband. But no amount of gaslighting would make me change my reality or my perception of them. Just hated them more and more to the extent that I wanted to vomit when I saw my dead mother’s picture in her funeral album ( which was never attended). Needless to say they did everything to make my life hell, but I outdid them in their hatred. That is the only way you can survive when you are with a narcissist.😣
@avivabillington5514
@avivabillington5514 7 ай бұрын
In my experience, I relate!! Been in situations such as this myself. With 1 "ex flatmate" it was admitting they used money on my card but apparently it was by accident? I worked out what had happened but then the lies began too as in the fridge things were going missing & "I bought so & so with yhe last bit of money on my card" when obviously it was definitely my item & they didn't buy it. They weren't in the habit of not stealing my food & the rest
@flowercolourful4718
@flowercolourful4718 7 ай бұрын
I was wondering why i come from a family of narcissists except for my beloved father. And to make it worse, close friends also narcissists too. The last were my zone cell pastor and asst cell leader. I give up on life now. There are no words to describe narcissistic abuse experiences, it's just all so painful and i feel why was i so stopid.
@angelakeely5859
@angelakeely5859 7 ай бұрын
*They are very "convincing", when they are" Peddling", their "Story" 😏🚩🏃‍♀️*
@andrewhitney4194
@andrewhitney4194 7 ай бұрын
It’s truly amazing how many stories I’ve heard. They all sound so convincing. This Narc that I know has told me about so many deaths in the family so that I would feel sorry for him . He must think I don’t have any memory. His father died three times in three years !😂
@VgVi13
@VgVi13 7 ай бұрын
@@andrewhitney4194 They're very good liars.
@angelakeely5859
@angelakeely5859 7 ай бұрын
@@andrewhitney4194 Same, extremely convincing,they have been " honing" their, "Craft" from a very young age.😏🚩🏃‍♀️
@angelakeely5859
@angelakeely5859 7 ай бұрын
@@VgVi13*Award Winning Liars, 😏🚩🏃‍♀️*
@dandelionsbeauty
@dandelionsbeauty 7 ай бұрын
My sibling prays and prays and prays, And lies, and lies, and stole, and lies. Taking care of me now 🎉🤕 Never confront these narcissistic gaslighting pieces of garbage. Empaths Beware ⚠️
@nicholecornes1915
@nicholecornes1915 7 ай бұрын
Sweetie!! I'm so sorry you went through this! It's hell!!
@editbajkai2083
@editbajkai2083 7 ай бұрын
All of them behave like that .this is their strategie..
@Tyndalic
@Tyndalic 7 ай бұрын
Thank the universe were all alive! He made my life so unbearable I wanted to disappear. I pulled through somehow. Living a good life right now.
@grandmais4you
@grandmais4you 7 ай бұрын
Yes, Danish your experiences have given you so much understanding that is unparalleled.
@sophietopham8822
@sophietopham8822 6 ай бұрын
feel for you so much:) you are helping me make sense of all , issues with my dad led me to the edge needed a lot of therapy to turn around have also had these people in all aspects of my life
@pepperjones7559
@pepperjones7559 7 ай бұрын
God bless you, Danish, as you continue to share your healing with others with his protection.
@theyoutube1673
@theyoutube1673 7 ай бұрын
Narcissist Always attack pure souls to torture them in every possible way and make their life miserable.
@kerrytaggart8206
@kerrytaggart8206 7 ай бұрын
That guy that did this to Danish is an evil entity.
@priyaldwivedi1701
@priyaldwivedi1701 7 ай бұрын
Hello Danish, I have been Watching Your Videos for a while and I am so Glad that I found Your Channel.. Through Your Videos .. I confirmed that I was not the wrong one .. rather others were Playing with my mind .. Since Childhood only ..My family used to Gaslight me. . Emotionally to make me do things as per their wish .. even if such things were not for my benefit.. I realised It very late in Life .. but Now .. I know .. and Thank God .. Your Videos came in time .. when I needed them the most .. as Now I understand My Narcissist Mother in Law..better.. Earlier I used to feel so bad About myself in her presence..She was literally taking out my Soul from my Body .. but Now I know .. I am not the One who is The Monster.. rather She is. .. Now I avoid her and try my best to not to Put her energy into my Consciousness.. Thankyou Danish ..For making me understand her Tricks .. to manipulate me.. Now as soon as She starts her tantrums..I know .. What She is upto and You are God Send .. that You are Helping so many people like us.. who have been silently suffering at the hands of these narcissistic people ... Thinking we have a Problem.. whereas we are Sane.. and We deserve All the Self Love , Peace and Confidence... 🙏🪔 Would Love to See You Coming up with these Informative Videos .. and Take Care Danish .. and Keep Smiling.. You Deserve all the happiness..
@wandafrazier5206
@wandafrazier5206 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience.
@lidiagogowska6692
@lidiagogowska6692 6 ай бұрын
Oh Danish, I am really sorry to hear that. You’ve been suffering so much in your life. I was in a similar situation. But thanks to your bitter experiences, God is taking you as a tool to teach other people how to be aware of such crazy and dangerous people. You are a very good professional at narcissistic abuse. I really learn a lot from you. May God watch over you and your family! ❤️😘🌹🙏
@brianab6052
@brianab6052 7 ай бұрын
Wow danish.. god bless you and I am so thankful for all your hard work. I have heard so many talk about narcissism but i can relate to you far beyond many and you make everything so easy to understand. Thank you so much for your story, it saved my life
@cindys7514
@cindys7514 7 ай бұрын
My SIL stole my earbuds while I was putting my grandchild to bed and when I came back to the living room and asked where they were he blamed the child! he was totally oblivious to the impossibility of how a sleeping child could steal! I didn't accept any of his other lame excuses and my daughter bent herself into a pretzel creating a story that would save face-later the next day the earbuds miraculously reappeared. Had I expressed ANY self-doubt I'm sure I would have been blamed and I would never have see them again.
@gigiarmany4332
@gigiarmany4332 7 ай бұрын
Wow..thank you for all these intimate & personal stories you share with us ,you are a really a most inspiring,humane & insightful person ..God bless❤🖤
@fridaypeaches497
@fridaypeaches497 7 ай бұрын
I just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge. It truly helps me to heal and reinforce my progress. It’s been a year, and I’m making good strides, however the Holidays are a big trigger and I turn to your videos for guidance and confirmation that I truly am blessed because I have been freed from a living nightmare. I am so very great full for your channel and the advice, wisdom, knowledge that you shared. Bless you 🙏
@tjitjo
@tjitjo 7 ай бұрын
You're the man, man. Keep it up please
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