I would never have guessed that you are 25 years old. Guess it only goes to show how being mature can really elevate the way we are perceived

You're only 25?! HOLY BUCKETS! So much wisdom. I'm 30, and I love your videos.

Great video Courtney! Here's a summary: 1. Stop comparing yourself to others 2. Make yourself happy. 3. Stop caring about what others think about you. 4. Take care of yourself. 5. Positive self talk.

"Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up"

My 20s consisted of just working like a slave and little to no fun. I'm in my 30's now, just hit mid 30's, finishing my education (I started very late due to the fact that I had to work almost my entire 20's until late 20s) and now it paid off big time. My life path is very different from other people and I am doing my best to shake the insecurity and the feelings of "Oh, I missed out in my 20's" and "am I too old to have a good life?" since I had to overcome hurdles in my 20's and I had to work so hard on top of that in order to be in a position that people will kill for (degree, job, and financial security) I'm from the working class and I can finally live like a middle class. I don't have to worry about things that I used to worry about. I'm actually learning how to relax and live like a middle class. The first step is working on the insecurities of the past for me, which is the biggest(I can literally cry just thinking about it)

A really positive thing I did, starting a few years ago, was to be happy for people instead of jealous. If someone has good news to share, I will try to avoid being jealous and tell them that I'm happy for them instead! Also, another thing which improves your confidence is having a STRAIGHT BACK (good posture!). I don't know what it is, but if you talk and meet people with your back straight it gives you this 'I'm taking on the world' kinda feeling. It's deeply psychological!

You dont have an idea of how important is this video for me now. Everything you said helps me with struggles I'm having on a new stage of my life. Thank you 💜

i’m finally going to meet someone i’ve been talking to today! Hopefully this video helps me!

She is absolutely correct about how amazing it is when you stop caring what other people think. It changes everything and is like a whole new way to see life and I recommend trying to get there so much. My sense of humor has even gotten like 10x better because I don't care if I say something stupid, so I end up being super quick witted and I can't get embarrassed at all. It also makes me incompatible with dating someone who is insecure and self conscious about what people think. Complete mismatch in life and being able to enjoy life.

Comparing ourselves to others is something almost ALL of us do. It’s a great reminder to stop doing that. Great video!

Great stuff Courtney! Positive mental attitude is everything. Building on small victories like working out, making good grades, getting a position at work or taking effort in dressing better on the outside helps, helps, with gaining confidence. Ultimately, you have to like that person in the mirror. Cut out the negativity in your life. One step at a time moving towards your purpose and passion.

Love that you're looking out for the inside of guys as well as doing your best to lift up the outside of guys too. Great video.

Love this video, you have hit on some wonderful perspective's. The way you talk about being happy is spot on. Thank's for sharing with us, i love the way you talk about self limiting beliefs about yourself. Having a positive attitude and believing in yourself crucial to your growth as a person. With much love to you ❤

Courtney you are SPOT ON regarding do not compare yourself to others. I stopped doing this a while ago and I am so much better for it.

I'm a 71 year old retired stockbroker so I have a lot of work experience, life experience, and education. You are very wise for someone your age and I love that you talk about cognitive behavioral therapy. I'm proof positive that you can go from someone with very low self-esteem to a very confident person. Constantly strive to improve yourself and you will get there. Get therapy if you need it.

Comparing myself to others is my biggest. I take my age and look at where they are at but then try to remember I have a lot of experience in life and need to use to to be better. Thanks for a hitting a great topic Courtney.

Thank you for being graceful over topics like this. People dealing with insecurity is especially difficult for those dealing with mental illness. People need to know they are not alone. People need to know others deal with negative, self criticism. It is a challenge to be positive, but it is worth it to achieve a peace of mind.

Thank you. Insecurity is deep rooted sometimes in the mind . I have suffered rom it I know but I have learned to get past it and be happy with who I am . It started in childhood and knowing what is the root helps . Your video has wisdom .

Thanks for making these videos Courtney. They really means a lot and makes a lot of difference. Have a wonderful day!

A roof over my head, a car, and a relationship with my mom. That hit home for me. Almost every video you post I am an example of the content in the video your talking about. This one is one that completely explained me. Thank you for your channel it’s been life changing. Your videos have helped me a lot! Thank you!

You’re awesome. Ppl hate cause they don’t give u a chance. They judge without actually listening to one or more videos like literally listening not criticizing. Thanks for all the advice you give in all your videos. 👌🏼

"Comparison is the thief of joy" - I love it. The etymology of this quote is fascinating too...

Wow another video!? Your work ethic is crazy strong. I'm trying to be more industrious. Thank you for all your hard work

Thank you Courtney. I wish you were here when I was a teenager and I could have listened to you then because I let my insecurities ruin my life back then. For example there were so many pretty girls that I could have dated and didn't due to personal stories or negative ideas. It wasn't insecurity of attracting these girls but insecurity of other social issues in my life. Not only did it affect me but also disappointed them too if they wanted to date me and I didn't go out with them. They thought I wasn't attracted or interested in them even if I was.

Positive self talk and affirmations are very powerful, especially if it is constant. Awesome video and message, Courtney. Peace.

Courtney, you did a great job on this video. It was spot on with its highlights of what really matters in life and you control the way you think, and no one else has that control except you. It was motivating and inspiring. Thank you for the reminders of how to live your life.

Thanks for these videos full of great advice Courtney. You're Making a difference in our lives & we think you're AMAZING for it 😊

I love your channel so much main reason beeing that, beside the great advices you give you have a calm soothing voice.

Loved this video and much needed. I'm glad the YT algorithm recommended your channel, always insightful and helpful.

i love the sincerity that you convey. i really like your authenticity.

Great video Courtney, it's so nice to watch a video about how to be more confident, most videos seem to say "just be more confident" and leave it at that.

Great job on this video. Please continue with more of these. Thanks for being a role model not only to guys but also girls. This by far was your best all around video little Miss. keep up the good work!

These are badass tips Courtney🔥😎. As someone with an anxiety disorder & overall awkwardness, there’s resistance but we choose how to make ourselves happy and improve. I think another thing I learned that helps is doing what gives you goosebumps & being real with oneself.

Great insights. I did one of the them already by losing weight (gym and portion control) and I feel confident now. I believe one has to be happy with themselves before they can date. This video teaches just that.

Really stands out from other life uplifting and positive attitude.... in depth, pleasant personality... I am glad to be a viewer of your channel. Thank you, Courtney

I’m so thankful you uploaded this, confidence is something I’m working on but still have struggles with sometimes!!

Your videos are truly inspiring... I have been following your videos for some time now and that has really helped me to bring out the best version of myself ... Thank You 🙏

Courtney - still binge watching! LOL But two things that you say I find to be SO DANG TRUE: mindset and the way that you speak to yourself. I wish that I could say that I was "wicked strong" with these two things through out my life. But, can't lie - I have been very weak (at times) in both. But, this is changing. I have - for the last six/seven months - made it a point to be more forgiving of myself when I am weak and I have made every effort to be solid in these two specific areas (read: focus is very acute with respect to mindset and kindness) . And, you know what? Still working on them, but dang I am soooo much closer. It is amazing how things change once you are stronger in these two things. Notice that I wrote "....are stronger...." and not "...are strong....". I think everyone needs to constantly work on these two things.

“You’re never too old to be in love.” Avengers: “Haha, poor Cap!” Captain America: “She’s right.”

YESS YEESS YEESSS!!!! I have been in therapy for about a year now because I'm trying to better myself. One of the biggest steps for me is to get into dating. I have always struggled with it. But I can't stress enough, how right this video is. ESPECIALLY the self talk. This video is just life advice. And I get behind it 110%. And it applies to dating too. Thank you Courtney 😊

I'm a bit introvert too Courtney, but I think I have a similar outlook to you, that sort of an introvert but with a genuine interest in social stuff lol. I like to chill out at the end of the week and be a total introvert, but I realize it's healthy to get out a bit more even if it is draining, I have friends and do enjoy hanging out with em, but I've been a bit slack about it, and that sort of compounds, because I'm not out enough, I feel more and more rusty at it. A big part of just being a person is the sort of social stuff you talk about re: relationships etc, so I really appreciate videos like yours. Your conversation style is great, you have a great zen like attitude and watching your videos feels a lot like chilling with a good friend and having an honest and thoughtful chat at a cafe/bar or whatever about these topics. Appreciate it!

Glad to know I’m finally on the right track after all these years. Thnx Courtney

Courtney, such great videos. You have a wisdom and maturity far beyond your years. I found your channel through Teddy's watch channel, and confess I enjoy you both do very much.

I started growing out facial hair. My family doesn't like it but for some reason, it gives me more confidence even if my family says it looks "bad". It's just something about facial hair that gives you confidence.

Oh courtney you make your point get across to me so well,it feels so good after watching ☺

thank you for bringing these to light so that people start thinking about them. i do have a slight disagreement with the last one. i think the self-talk depends on how you react to it. using the example you gave, "i've never done this before and don't know what i'm doing," the impact is really whether you let it paralyze you or take it as a challenge. "i've never done this before and don't know what i'm doing, so i'm going to stop here" is vastly different from "i've never done this before and don't know what i'm doing, so it's time to try something new and learn while i'm doing it." even the most successful deal with doubts and imposter syndrome. i'm one of the best in the world at what i do and the only one in a major global financial company that can do parts of it (i'm training the trainers) and still have bouts of imposter syndrome. the key is, i don't let that stop me. yes, i have doubts, i have the internal voice that asks, "wtf do you think you're doing!?" the difference is, i get up and do it anyway and learn from the experience. the challenge for me, that i would love to see you address in a video since you've alluded to it more than once, is being an introvert almost to the level of crippling shyness. i can do what i do professionally because i'm sharing what i know and have enough executive experience that i don't care what other people think or say (there was a time when, if at least 20 people didn't actively hate me all i had to do was wait until the end of the day). but for personal relationships and meeting someone new, i won't even say, "hi" and starting a conversation is a challenge so big that it's insurmountable. of course the irony is that people who know me professionally can't believe any of this because they see the extreme knowledge and confidence.

You’re AMAZING Courtney! Thank you!

Love your videos. You have amazing positive energy and your sincerity and caring are so obvious to viewers. You deserve millions of subscribers because you are Also WISE. Thanks so much PS I am much older than you but I learn from you every time I watch your videos. I wish so much that I was younger because your life lessons would have had profound impact on my life. Thanks so much for educating me.

hi thank you for sharing the point that "dont care what others think of us. I was much worried of this. While watching this video i tried to review this and felt what you said is absolutely true

I agree with you. I should focus on enjoying the present instead of worrying about the future. It's not good to compare with others.

Thanks for the tips Courtney, really needed to hear these.

Hey Courtney I just wanted to share my story after listening to the quote on peaches I was a victim of communal abuse in high school and I lost all my self esteem fortunately I picked up reading and running as my way out and your video reminds me of a line I came across while reading novels ... you can’t be a hero in every notebook

This video is spot on with it's content. But above all else. NEVER judge your sense of self worth on whether you are good with women or have a woman. NEVER judge your sense of self worth on whether or not your popular, good looking, wealthy, or not physically impressive. You are good and you do mean something in this world.

You're smashing it, Courtney!

This was a good video. The positive self talk point is a definitely a game changer to improve confidence.

Well stated all stars with you and positive attitude. Right on Courtney 👍good job and good advice to get you rolling 💖🙏🕊

Courtney Ryan what you had said it just hit me , I think you are telling my Stories which do day Today activities... Iam happy to see channel like this

i love hearing the catalyst stories from people. what set you on this decision to do dating and self improvement videos benefiting both men and women. you are a courageous soul to voice your mind for the world ,i speak for others including my self thank you for the work you do , some people in the world are truly beautiful

Even changing your style can give you a boost, and maybe a new feeling of self, because as a child i wasn't a fan of sweaters but mom and gram made them a lot, and month ago my lovely lady, my partner, talked about how good i would look in them after complimenting her on hers, and i wasn't for it. At first. Then at goodwill i found a cotton sweater, a cotton wool cardigan, and online purchased lambswool and cashmere (on sale), and found more cotton cardigans and i can't even begin to exclaim how much i love wearing them, having them against my skin or even as a layer, taking the role of a waist coat and being warm and fashionable. I get excited for the weekends to dress up, even if we don't go out yet she smiles more, i smile more, I'm comfortable and, to her, certain weaves can make you touchable, as in she just wants to feel the fabric over my muscles. An updated wardrobe can really help your mood, esp when it comes to planning for something a day or much more in advance

Thank you Courtney! All of this is valuable information for me to take in. I think my biggest problem out of the 5 segments is the Stop Caring segment but I will take all of your advice in this video and try it.

you telling you're 25 is a shock to me as a 25 and listening to your advices constantly. Basics, age is just a number.

Good words Courtney. another thing would be to learn to do something really well and demonstrate a passion for it. Like what you are doing and it shows you care about what you are doing!

Thank you for the content and all the hard work you put into making humanity better.

Positive self talk is definitely something I'll work on. I really like the messages.

Thumbnail pic is on point. Confidence comes from putting in the work to self improve. Your body, your job, your fashion, your social skills, there are plenty of ways that men can improve. The only person you should compete with is yourself.

Courtney these are some great advice for people this video would help out a lot of people keep up the great work!🔥🔥

#5 is something that applies to me. I need to change the way I talk to myself and stop being so hard on me. Thank you

When I started watching your videos, I actually exercise more now because it makes me feel good about things now, so thank you so much.

Thank u Courtney It means a lot I had a low self esteem my confidence was not strong an I didn't like myself for a lot of reasons like what someone thinks about me almost all my life this is the hardest thing to do is love myself being confident an don't care wat someone thinks about me

These videos are very helpful and informative. Thank you for creating them Courtney.

This is so spot on our mind is such a powerful tool if we really have a positive mentality and to be honest it can help us control our outcomes in life is I 100% guaranteed no but it really makes a difference!

Hello Courtney, I have just discovered you and you are by far the best dating and fashion coach on KZfaq. I love the way you are eloquent, direct and always give valuable tips for men. No one comes close to use. I would suggest that you create a fan subscription where members could have additional information. This would permit you to post more frequent posts. Well done and keep going.

Positive self talk seems like such a silly thing but is so important. So much of therapy involves learning to reframe how you think about things. Many people who are insecure will quickly say nice things to their friends and loved ones. Getting in the habit of doing the same for yourself is critical. It also ties into putting less emphasis on what other people think. You can't control how other people react to you, only your own actions. If you're doing the right things and someone still thinks negatively of you, you have to know that it's their problem and their loss. Protip: Listening to Truth Hurts by Lizzo on repeat can help with the latter.

Great content as usual. Thanks, Courtney! This has been really helpful. And by the way, you look beautiful in black!

Quite possibly the prettiest thumbnail I've ever seen. I've been living the who cares life for a few decades. It's very liberating

Thanks this was helpful and love your positive vibes.much love

There are insecurities I still have to this day, but instead of wallowing over them, I work to overcome them.

Turned 21 in January and seen allot of advice videos ,but just needed advice from a women's perspective. Thanks for the advice.

Came at the right time. Needed this! ❤️

You’ve really given us some gold content lately!

Thank you for this content Courtney! Your are absolutely an amazing, beautiful and insightful woman! Have a great day gorgeous!

I think overall confidence is a state of mind that is developed through time that seasons a person’s demeanor. Part of it is not seeking approval and being attached to outcome in situations. It affords you to be authentic of whom you are and happy in your own skin regardless if they like you or not.....essentially.

Recently came across your channel! Outside of being drop dead beautiful your voice is really soothing. You seem like a really sweet girl. Oh and your content is on point too!

OMG Courtney the wisdom and perspective on life and living that you possess at 25 is completely mind blowing for me ..when I think back to being 25 I was very surface thinking living for the moment no deep thoughts whatsoever I feel for me having grown up before social media cellphones computers etc I have never really compared myself to other people and I do not follow or covet celebrity and with respect to a pretty face on a girl (woman) if thats all there is and there is nothing more and she has no introspection or communication skills perhaps just an airhead what do I do with that? same with a buff guy who just essentially grunts how can the girl be allured by this? I do feel and believe that women are overall on a deeper emotional plane than most men and if the man has the intellect and patience his conversation with women will be incredibly thought provoking and rewarding ever since I saw your first video I have been completely drawn to you it seems I just cant get enough I cannot imagine anyone not liking you I like a woman to challenge me in terms of my perspective if I had a chance to sleep with a girl (woman) I would turn it down if my other option were to instead just cuddle and converse this has more appeal to me I would also pass up a one nite stand for a deep friendship someone I could get to know I am not a jealous person I would give up her body for her mind (mental stimulation) I am content just talk and of course listen there should never ever be any pressure as you mentioned to do anything your not comfortable with

Hey Courtney, So hopefully how you switched it up from the inside out! Thanks for giving us tools to help us out and take care of our mental health

Thank you!! 3 great kids Marriage not so much I’ve got a lot of things going for me so this video was perfect!! Appreciate what you have!!

About comparing: I've just switched to the IT from sales and music industry and became a programmer. I looked up to my mentor envy because he has a nice house, two cars, etc. We are in same age and I just felt I fell behind. Last week we had a chance to talk about each others life and he found out my band was his favourite in our country and he always wanted to be in a touring band. He absolutely enjoyed my touring and recording stories and told me he wished to be in my place as a guitarist. That was a huge moment and a lifelong lesson.

Courtney, thanks for the videos. I apply what you discuss to improve my marriage. I've been with my wife for 23+ years. Very happy. We built a wonderful family and home for our selves. I built for my wife her version of a Victoria Secrets Style dressing room. She just loves it. I enjoy building stuff for my wife. Confident and being able assert your self is so important. I found this very interesting is confidence shines like a light house. Meaning people will seek you out. Where ever I go, I always get chased down for directions. Even its at a place I've been for the first time.

comparison is the thief of joy....great proverb to live by

You're the best peach out there. That's why I keep coming back for more 😉. Great topic and video🙂

Hey Courtney. Many of us are used, lied to, and betrayed by people we trust. Naturally this leads to deep inner hatred. When we hate, we only hurt ourselves while the other person lives happily ever after. Can you do a video with some hints on how to ease the inner pain and move forward? Love your channel!! Thank you. 🙂❤

thank you queen, it was really helpful.

Keep up the amazing content Courtney! Your "how to get over her" video helped me a lot as I recently had a breakup! And I'm healing! Thanks for that vid Courtney!

For me true freedom is not caring what others think. It took me until my 40’s to figure this out, for you at 25 years old to have this figured out means you got so many great years ahead

I have found that genuine daily gratitude is often a key to overcoming insecurity.

I love this video! Thank you!❤

How could anyone say something negative about you? You’re a great person 🙏

Awe, so many great comments in here. I almost don't want to spoil such joy... it's so wholesome. Way to bring the goodness.

Most of these tips I already knew tbh from real life experience, but this video was definitely spot on. Another tip would be self discipline which is very hard to practice and rare these days. But being someone that mastered it, I was able to accomplish a lot of my goals quickly especially since I am still at a young age.

Thanks. I needed to hear these things.