6 Must Know Facts About Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
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BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder is an often misunderstood mental health condition in which a person has long-term patterns of reactive emotional responses. But what really is BPD, and what are the facts about BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder that we should know? Let's dive into the types of BPD first, and then into misconceptions and symptoms about BPD, and then how to manage or deal with Borderline Personality Disorder, and then what causes or the cause of BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder, and also diving into the diagnosis of BPD. What has your experience been with BPD? Do you have it? Do you know someone who has it? Share your experience in the comments. Or ask any additional questions you may have!
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@banthatracks_gaffisticks 20 күн бұрын
Which medications are those with BPD usually prescribed?
@user-mj9vf5dp2b 12 күн бұрын
I go through all of them
@IkamiLog 11 күн бұрын
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 11 күн бұрын
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
@elizabethwilliams6651 11 күн бұрын
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
@Jennifer-bw7ku 11 күн бұрын
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 11 күн бұрын
Is he on instagram?
@elizabethwilliams6651 11 күн бұрын
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
@leslier302 22 күн бұрын
The example of 6 is so real. I try never to share those thoughts with anyone because I know it's not rational and they would never understand. Its forever, it's not you, its me.
@patriciasustersic7265 21 күн бұрын
Hey, I needed to stop here just to say that sharing these types of thoughts with people I trusted (people that continually showed they cared, not necessarily my ‘favourite’ people) has helped me make immense progress! It helps people understand your behaviour and if they can communicate back in the same way, that can help you gain perspective and learn about other possible scenarios why someone might not e.g. text back ‘soon enough’. Ik there could also be a plethora of reasons why what I wrote could be pointless to you … either way, sending you a hug 🤍
@localppcartist 14 күн бұрын
Me too...I behave the same way. Behaved...when as a kid. Now, I keep people at a surface level now, I do not ask for help, or ask anything from anyone. And my relationship, intimate is with my dog...my dog won't leave me, won't lie to me, won't tell me things that are not real amd always by my side. And when I have lashed out at people, it further distances me from people, and I accept the loss of friends as an expense I pay- so I have to consider the cost before I do- and this- like the person who has money burning a hole in thier pocket, holding back my thoughts tongue for a person who I feel is not nice, burns a hole in my pocket, the cost is I lose 4 friends over that one...I have given up. When I shared how I felt- for the first time with a girl friend- she left. This hurts my ❤. I deleted most all my contact list on my phone down to just the bills.
@alisonjimagery8974 15 күн бұрын
I was hospitalised and diagnosed with Bpd at 19. Im now 39 and was disgnosed with autism last year. I just wonder had i had a diagnosis as a child i wouldnt have gone through all that trauma, and had the support i always needed. I feel i was really let down, by alot of people.
@Nuculer9001 11 күн бұрын
I had a similar experience. People were mean in the 80s and 90s and everyone was on their own. One time, someone said to me, "no one wants to be the parent of the kid with a problem."
@MadAboutBrows 9 күн бұрын
@@Nuculer9001 yeah but sometimes the parent is the real problem! My mother was abusive, and I barely made it through school despite being intelligent. I was in a constant state of fight or flight, and then bullied quite a bit at school.... I'm still not sure if it's AuDHD, PTSD or BPD, but it's impossible to feel safe in this world and I just wanna fix it. Me. Whatever.
@MegaLabarr 5 күн бұрын
Hi Kati , I have been wondering about something lately. Is there a connection between BPD and Gender Dysphoria? I’ve a few things here and there. Thanks
@teaganpesce3642 23 сағат бұрын
I actually had the opposite experience. Got diagbosied with asd at 6 and I was constantly infatasised, treated like id never amount to anything, taken out of class at school, told how im "special " and will always need help from others and never ever will be independent. I was also constantly bullied by my siblings, school kids and my family all treated me like I was this stupid kid who would never get anywhere in life. Autisim became my identity and I thought thats all I was worth, a dumb kid who would always need someone to do everything for them. Not an actual human being with thoughts and feelings. I don't have a sense of self now. I was constantly told from when I started developing bpd that it was just autisim/ADHD and never got treated for it and tbh if my symptoms of bpd were identified, my bpd probably wouldn't of been nearly as bad:( With that being sad, not knowing you have asd and not being diagnoised is also very tramuatic
@ADogNamedBoo 22 күн бұрын
Thank you! Dx’d in 1987 (yup) with BPD. Mainly what is now called Quiet BPD, with overlaps. I stopped dating decades ago (I’m 71) because it just hurt too much. I’m sure my clingy neediness and mood swings drove them away. I just started EMDR in October and DBT group in January, and I feel like a new person. I’m coming off (very slowly, with medical,supervision) some of my antidepressants, which I’ve been on for 50 (yup) years. It’s never too late, please keep trying, everyone. Life is actually good for me for the first time. Your videos always help me, and I do hope you’re feeling better as well. ❤
@wolfferoni 22 күн бұрын
What a hope-filled message. Thank you for sharing.
@ADogNamedBoo 21 күн бұрын
@@wolfferoni You’re welcome, that’s exactly why I posted it. Good luck on your journey.
@lanoosaurusrex 17 күн бұрын
I quit dating 6 years ago for the same reasons - thank you for the encouragement, and I’m so glad you’re finally feeling better. I hope one day I’ll feel better too.
@Jupiterguurl 13 күн бұрын
What antidepressants are you taking? If you don’t mind sharing.
@ADogNamedBoo 13 күн бұрын
@@Jupiterguurl I don't mind. I'm on desvenlafaxine (Pristiq), Welbutrin. And then Trazodone at bedtime.
@walibou287 12 күн бұрын
BPD, BiPD, ADHD, Depression, Narcissism, PTSD; all these conditions and disorders overlap a lot, how could psychologists and mental health professionals tell them apart?
@zillizzy 8 күн бұрын
Yes!!! This!!
@kingsix2000 4 күн бұрын
They can't, which is why prominent researchers want to have the diagnosis "personally disorder with emphasis..." BPD would likely be described by " personality disorder with emphasis Emotional disregulation".
@mst-pierrem5729 2 күн бұрын
@@kingsix2000 That is actually untrue. A simple case of ADHD is no were near BPD.. Imagine the case most people would then be BPD ? It doesn't make sense. Sure there common traits but even at the bachelor level we learn to disguish all of them. Mind you it isn't easy but once you get yhe jist you can see it more and more easily.
@kingsix2000 2 күн бұрын
@@mst-pierrem5729 correct. But ADHD would not be part of personality disorders either.
@FunkadelikVesna Күн бұрын
Yes, BPD is a personality dissorder, others are not. I do have all of that as dissorders and traits haha.
@seaofflowers. 20 күн бұрын
Wow. Whole video has me sobbing and the 6th one was specifically corrected down to a T. The shame is so intense.. I can and often feel like I'm drowning in my own embarrassment of myself. Thank you for making this video. It's brief but so accurate and meaningful.
@trinaq 22 күн бұрын
The first time I heard about BPD was through "Crazy Ex Girlfriend", when Rebecca gets diagnosed with the condition, which helps her deal with her self destructive behaviour and actions. Thanks for clarifying it more, Kati.
@Katimorton 22 күн бұрын
Of course!! So glad I could help :) xoxo
@ladybaabaa3294 22 күн бұрын
One other movie that depicts someone with both Complex PTSD and BPD is "Gia". Angelina Jolie stars in it. It's really good, though a bit hard to watch at times.
@wolfferoni 22 күн бұрын
@@ladybaabaa3294 Ooh, thank you for sharing that. I recently watched 'Girl, Interrupted' with Angelina Jolie and looked at her acting roles because she was great. Saw 'Gia' but wasn't sure if it was something I'd be interested in. Will add that to the list. 'Girl, Interrupted' also features a main character with BPD (played by Winona Ryder) but the BPD wasn't focused on all that much in my opinion.
@ladybaabaa3294 22 күн бұрын
@@wolfferoni Yeah, definitely. The BPD in Winona's character was quite subtle. The behaviour in the Gia character is more prominent.
@Swimchik89 19 күн бұрын
I was in a relationship with someone with severe BPD. It was Hell. I’d get thrown out of his house at 9 pm for just looking at him the wrong way. He was so irrational and impulsive. He was paranoid and so insecure thinking everyone hated him. He goes through relationships quickly. It’s a shame as he was a lot of fun and has potential. He wouldn’t go to counseling and probably never will.
@radnairenegat 12 күн бұрын
Was he also my ex? Everything you wrote up until the being thrown out part was true for him, too. And the worst thing, he also dragged me down and made me go through very deep circles of mental anguish. I also have tendencies of bpd and his influence on me prove to be detrimental
@cup_o_TMarie 7 күн бұрын
Yep same🫣
@thebeach2525 5 күн бұрын
It cracks me up when people with bpd or other cluster bs claim they have 'too much empathy'.LOL no empathetic person would treat a loved one so nicely then do a 180 and be so cruel, and do this regularly (unlike mood disorders episodes). It'd be fine if people with bpd, hpd, npd all dated within the cluster because they'd all understand one another and how awful it feels. But no, they need supply yet expect people to tolerate their cruel actions.
@radnairenegat 5 күн бұрын
@@thebeach2525 I tell you what. I was never diagnosed but I strongly suspect that I have bpt or at least pretty severe abandonment issues. I do not date. anybody, at all. Because I know it would be hell not only for me but for them too and most people don't deserve to be dragged into something like this. On the empathy part I think they confuse being empathetic toward another person with being overly anxious over what these others think or feel about THEM. And then use this as an excuse to their unhinged behaviour. So it's all about them after all
@ssing7113 3 күн бұрын
And if that’s the true story. You have extreme codependency and childhood wounding you need help for. Screw talking about him. Why not shine the spotlight on yourself as you ain’t going to have a healthy relationship with attracting that
@foxyb0nes 22 күн бұрын
The one thing that annoys me slightly is, it always seems like people are insinuating that you can only be 1/4 or 2/4 of the BPD subcategories- which I strongly disagree with, because I have always been a mix of the 4 my whole life, I have all 9 criteria within the DSM-5. It just depends on what cycle I’m on throughout the day, and I would like more videos specifically on those that are like a Jack-Of-All-Trades when it comes to having all 4 subcategories on a loop throughout the day, with all 9 criteria activated that you’re unable to escape from.
@slvttycyne 22 күн бұрын
Preach
@MyFisher2010 19 күн бұрын
agree im a mixture of all 4 at different times
@phoenixrisin2269 13 күн бұрын
This comes from the U.S. DMSV. The ICD XI is used worldwide and doesn’t differentiate
@foxyb0nes 13 күн бұрын
@@phoenixrisin2269 Elaborate what you mean by this?
@jenniferhodgson1827 5 күн бұрын
Same
@CelesteBinge 22 күн бұрын
I know I have BPD for about 8 months now. I noticed in the Netherlands people are scared for BPD. Its stigmatized a lot. Its better not to talk about it. People treat you differently when you say you have bpd. But im still a person and that hurts a lot.
@voyagerone7487 20 күн бұрын
“I can’t control their fear, only my own!” - Scarlett Witch
@DisturbedYoyo 19 күн бұрын
That's sad 😢 I hope you find someone you can talk to about this stuff 🧡
@nikkiart5593 17 күн бұрын
I live in the Netherlands and I've noticed there is a lot of stigma on mental illness / disorders in general. Also gaslighting seems to be a very strong part in the Dutch pragmatic culture, where people think everything can be fixed with simple things like "Just go for a walk, you'll feel better. I always do" leaving you feeling misunderstood and less willing to open up next time. Good luck on your healing journey!
@CelesteBinge 17 күн бұрын
@@nikkiart5593 so true!
@martyvirtue4051 15 күн бұрын
Stop bashing the Netherlands.
@stacib1992 22 күн бұрын
I'm a quiet bpd mainly but I have impulsive behavior, I'm self destructive and also fast moving emotions but i don't turn them at anyone. Just at myself.
@MissRoseLily 19 күн бұрын
Same here ❤
@lyuiskhanter7771 15 күн бұрын
same here but like can i just be like this and not have bpd like im adhd and i share some traits between the two or is it not normal to direct all emotions in towards myself
@rosecoon1791 16 күн бұрын
My mother was diagnosed with BPD. She was super abusive and scapegoated me. I can’t imagine her ever being vulnerable enough to admit she needs help. Instead, she became a therapist. She seems to enjoy having people put her on a pedestal. Sometime in my 40s I decided there was nothing I could do to stop the abuse aside from going no contact. The first couple of times I ended up talking to her again after a few months or a couple of years. But this time I have not spoken to her for 11 years and I hope I never see her again. I am slowly learning how to stop my compulsion to please people. Not everything is my fault or my responsibility. I have a great therapist, so I am really thankful for that because they can be hard to find. Thank you for your videos, I love your content. ❤
@BeaNeedsADrink 16 күн бұрын
I’m so proud of you! You didn’t let that tear you down💕. Happy you have a great therapist now too I have BPD. I am FIGHTING to better myself bc I want my baby to have a good mom. ❤
@rosecoon1791 15 күн бұрын
@@BeaNeedsADrink I think that one BPD is really problematic is when people refuse to see their part in anything or be willing to admit that they might have a problem. That’s what I was dealing with. I think you’re doing better than my mother already, because you are aware of it and you’re interested in improving yourself and your life. 🙂
@msdemeanour 11 күн бұрын
Good on you. I cut my BPD abusive mother out in 2015. We spoke again recently & guess what? She's as nasty, bitter & toxic as ever. They never change! I'm never speaking to her again. Life's too short. Stay strong 💟
@helenhuang194 6 күн бұрын
This video just made me cry couple times because I felt being heard and seen…
@rachelthomas8013 16 күн бұрын
I feel all of these symptoms and I have cptsd so please be careful self-diagnosing. A lot more goes into diagnosing
@stephenwestmoreland7268 22 күн бұрын
She said FUCK IT. One of the reasons I love this channel. Real...
@joeshmoe12301230 10 күн бұрын
That’s a borderline for you. They easily make you believe they’re genuine when they’re everything except genuine
@thereisnoninadria 21 күн бұрын
I appreciate your perspective here. I understand a lot about my mom’s upbringing and how it influences her BPD behavior. My issue though, is that me being a girl (she wanted a boy) and having normal needs while I am growing up should not be considered a threat to her. I didn’t ask to be her child. There is more responsibility for her as a parent to get healthy than for me as a child to understand and be accommodating. She should not threaten suicide if she’s not getting her way on whatever arbitrary hill she chooses to die on (ranch dressing as veggie dip or which pants I prefer). Me, my dad, and my siblings (there are 9 of us) should not have to live in constant hypervigilance. I should not be made responsible for my younger siblings at age 9 (aka abandoned) for hours on end while she “goes to the grocery store” several times per week and endure physical/psychological/spiritual abuse on a daily basis. Kudos to all people with BPD who are in therapy and work to improve their mental health and reduce the impact of their impulses and behaviors on others. You’re doing hard and worthwhile work. Keep going! ❤ Please don’t be like my mom.
@Elizabethpepper8 22 күн бұрын
It makes sense to think of personality disorders as adaptions from CPTSD. Taking into consideration their experiences, environments, relationships, and natural temperaments. I wish there were more studies done on siblings and personality disorders highlighting each parental relationship. One having BPD while the other has NPD, for example.
@Mtz2604 22 күн бұрын
Thank you Kati, the stigma is so strong that it even professionals treats us with tweezers. I hate when that happens, but I've learned to advocate for myself.
@angeladay2196 22 күн бұрын
Well what you have describing with the four different types a BPD, is the majority of people interacted with within my family and community. I grew out of it because I learned how to control myself and worked on understanding why I felt this way. Only a couple of my family members did the same thing. Most of the others stayed trapped in these behaviors. Your explanation really helped he realized that I was not being over dramatic seen this in my family and community. That these are real behaviors and are not normal.
@fatemehaghaei1954 22 күн бұрын
Marsha Linehan is a hero for people suffering BPD ❤
@Claire-mv1tf 20 күн бұрын
Is she or is her DBT a way of brainwashing Traumatised people. I found her very dangerous. Each to their own .
@simoneh8737 22 күн бұрын
13:53 This hit so close to home I started bawling my eyes out, quiet BPD definitely sounds like me. Thank you for the content, Kati!
@Ow_Kay 20 күн бұрын
Can you make a video about having a ‘favorite person’ as someone with BPD?
@Monipenny1000 22 күн бұрын
I've got family members who fit the BPD. From my personal experience with them, they are liars, manipulaters, backstabbing, and all around difficult to relate with. After 57 years dealing with them, keeping the peace at my own expense, I am done! I can't with them anymore. The harm and damage they cause......I had to focus on my own mental well-being and eliminating them from my life was necessary for my own healing.
@mason74551 21 күн бұрын
I'm sorry you experienced this. Living with people who have no awareness or desire to get better can be so damaging. It seems to be such a cycle, too - one person is abused who abuses another, and then that person abuses a third, and so on. I am glad you got out of there. I wish you continued healing.
@Monipenny1000 20 күн бұрын
@@mason74551 thank you. The abuse is horrid, even as an adult living on my own, minding my business, my half-sister, 3 years younger than me, has gotten our father to verbally and emotionally abuse me still with her lies. She fooled her therapists with her lies. She has been going to psychiatrist and psychologists her entire adult life. She is overly medicated and medicated for the wrong things. She claims that she was diagnosed with Bipolor. Ah, that would be a big fat nope! I know what Bipolor looks like. My daughter was diagnosed with that 12 years ago, and she is near perfect on her medication.
@lawrentw 4 сағат бұрын
Ive been diagnosed since 2019 and watching this video omg. I felt like you were talking directly to me and about me. Not even in a negative way. Very informative. Much appreciated.
@saltiestsiren 22 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed with BPD last year, years after I started having symptoms, despite being in the mental healthcare system all that time. At first I didn't believe my nurse practitioner because all I knew about BPD was mostly stereotypes. Then I learned about quiet BPD and that fit like a glove.
@jadecampbell1967 22 күн бұрын
Thank you! As someone who was recently diagnosed and still unsure. The thought process really confirmed it for me.
@Katimorton 22 күн бұрын
Of course!! So glad I could help :) xoxo I have tons of other BPD videos too if you think they could help :) xoxo
@kylapollard9275 20 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed with BPD 2yrs ago. I felt so heard and also called out with this video, thanks Kati. I don’t want people to know my thought process cause the shame is so great. For me, to lessen the chances of people leaving me I had decided to not have friends and if I do it’s only superficial. I do find friendships to be incredibly overwhelming and suspect I may have autism as well (lots of other reasons as well). Thank you, Kati, for speaking on BPD in such a way to lessen the stigma. ❤
@JustaLittleMystic 8 күн бұрын
I am fairly certain that my former friend had BPD. The sad part about this disorder is they sabotage so badly that maintaining friendships is really hard. The damage got to be so bad that I had to put in some pretty airtight boundaries with her. That resulted in her feeling so rejected that she just kicked us out of her life. It’s one of the more devastating things, to be on the receiving end of that type of response. But I feel even worse for her that she has lost so many good people as a result of being unwilling to address that issue in her life. I hope everybody with BPD is able to find a really good support network and system and get access to therapy that will help them recover and heal. All of you whom live and struggle with this, deserve so much joy and happiness and I’m praying that you find all the tools and resources you need to access the most beautiful parts of yourself and not have to fight so hard to let that out. Please don’t give up. Please keep going ❤❤❤
@CatchE6e 22 күн бұрын
I have never been more convinced that I have BPD than when listening to the thought process example 🤣
@WhileAKyle85 22 күн бұрын
Same. I was like.... Ohhhhhh ohhh... There it is.... 😆
@christinecamley 20 күн бұрын
Outstanding, kind, compassionate video Kati.
@justboredwithlife 15 күн бұрын
I feel like my symptoms overlap with all types in some way. Being diagnosed with borderline was made worse by seeing see how others view it, only because they've met one person with it they think everyone is the same. I've never felt so understood when being diagnosed with BPD though because I've been looking for something that describes my struggle for years
@mayday24176 8 күн бұрын
Thank you. This is the man I’ve been w for 3 years. Roller coaster. I didn’t call him back while I was out of town one night. This was 7 weeks ago. He’s still acting stand of fish. Not rejecting me. But aloof. Like he’s mad at me. But won’t tell me.
@trappart9209 19 күн бұрын
This video was much needed. Thank you Kati, you are awesome
@Michaelstahler 21 күн бұрын
Hi Kati, thank you so much for your channel and content! I’m about to enter graduate school for marriage and family therapy, and really appreciate you spreading knowledge about mental health through insightful and compassionate means. I wanted to specifically point out something I have noticed and appreciate about your delivery in videos: when describing an ailment, you use words like “we, our, us,” etc. which really struck me as a beautiful way to help the viewer not feel so alone in their pain. It’s so subtle, but really adds so much comfort to a person’s painful experiences. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and inspiring so many!
@DadouC2 22 күн бұрын
Hey Kati, First and foremost, thank you once again for taking the time to help us better understand a mental health topic. Your videos have helped me (and I am sure, so many others as well!) hold on to hope, which means the world. I am very shy to reach out here, but maybe someone else could be in a similar situation and feel seen. After 3+ yrs seeing her, I have just been diagnosed (during an appointment, last week) by my psychiatrist with a Personality Disorder. She didn't mention BPD specifically, but the way she interacted with me, and also how my therapist (to whom she interacted) talks to me or brings up certain things during our weekly sessions make me believe that BPD is actually what they both have in mind. Since my appointment, I feel terrible. I don't understand how my psychiatrist could tell me that hard truth saying that she wanted to bring me some hope by doing it. Not to mention the shame I feel considering I might have BPD, I feel like a fraud - I don't recognize myself a lot in the different characteristics of this disorder. This brings me to ask you this: Can someone have BPD even if: A. They don't experience those intense "mood swings"? (I can't remember the last time I felt "good". If my mood changes, it only goes from bad to very bad...) B. Have not even had something traumatic in the past, and have grown up in a loving family? C. Don't feel any anger? (except towards myself, I never experience this emotion) Thank you once again. I hope you can keep for yourself at least a little of all the light you are spreading around you. You deserve it, too. Take care xx (P.S. I am sorry for my bad English writing. I am not quite great at expressing myself, especially in this second language of mine. I tried my best.)
@MissRoseLily 19 күн бұрын
I can relate very much so. Kind of good to know I'm not alone. Thankyou for your content ❤
@user-xi2or3ww3z 17 күн бұрын
Thank you Kati. Found you last week. Starting therapy next week. Really appreciate you.
@tanikarowland5763 5 күн бұрын
Wow this blew my mind on how accurate this is for me. You just explained how i feel in the most perfect words. Im saving this video. Thankyou so much your amazing ♡
@Ccostly 19 күн бұрын
When diagnosed back in the 90s no one had heard or talked about it. I am thankful there is more information available today.
@theannajoycreative Күн бұрын
this is so good. Thank you.
@bug7679 20 күн бұрын
The example is so spot on for me.
@freyamoon7032 20 күн бұрын
Kati i was crying throughout the entire video because everything you said is so true and so accurate thank you for making this video. wished my family had watched it....
@Bobo10070 22 күн бұрын
I needed this. Thank you
@PotooBurd 22 күн бұрын
Boosting for the algorithm 🙌 Love your work, keep it up! 🌻🐝
@Katimorton 22 күн бұрын
Aww thank you :) xoxox
@eshad.9423 21 күн бұрын
Thank you for all the BPD videos that you make. I have BPD, among other mental conditions. I have quit therapy many times, and I am on pause from therapy. I thought that I could manage my symptoms on my own, but it's becoming more difficult as the days go by.
@ClandestineGirl16X 22 күн бұрын
Thank you, Kati. You always explain things in a way that is easy to understand. Thank you for everything you do. Love from NYC
@Katimorton 22 күн бұрын
You are so welcome!
@kellyweber627 12 күн бұрын
Hi Kati 😊 The last example you described is so spot on for me. I have ruined a few friendships because of this. It totally sucks!! But thank God I am seeing a fantastic therapist who is helping me tremendously 😊 Have a great day 🤗💕
@LumpyMoose 21 күн бұрын
My gf has eupd and complex ptsd amongst a few other things. I love her with all my heart! Question is, would she appreciate me sending her this video? I think what you do and how you explain things makes you one of the best therapists on earth.
@ChrisPTY507 10 күн бұрын
I keep those with BPD at arm's length. They’re annoying to deal with, and the way they operate in extremes is maddening to handle.
@LuluDior4 10 күн бұрын
That's not cool at all, we never asked to have this shit, sit back you never know what can happen to you, SMDH, good way to keep stigmas in place You hang around heart patients, or do they scare u because they can have heart attacks, I tell ya
@ChrisPTY507 10 күн бұрын
@@LuluDior4 Everyone has the right to choose what kind of people they want or do not want in their life. I find it childish to force people into accepting bad behavior and attitudes. We all go through that stage, and in my case, allowing bad attitudes gave me lots of headaches, which is why I keep such people at arm’s length. No amount of shaming or criticism will make me change my mind. Stop pushing personal preferences on others, that ain't gonna work on me.
@LuluDior4 10 күн бұрын
@ChrisPTY507 it's not " bad behavior " it's an illness like anything else! It's in the brain & the brain controls ALL organs, again the stigma thing You need more education, obviously #stopthestigma #mentalhealthmatters #openyourminds
@ChrisPTY507 5 күн бұрын
@@LuluDior4 Everyone has the right to choose what kind of people you want or not want in your life. I find it childish the act of forcing people into accepting bad behaviour and attitude. We all go through that stage and in my case of course that allowing bad attitudes gave me lots of headaches, which is why I keep them at arm’s length. No amount of shaming or critiques will make me change my mind. Stop pushing personal preferences on others.
@alicewonder6500 22 күн бұрын
Thanks for posting! Many of us can fluctuate between traits of all, but identify more with one type than the other.
@leiselilaasmr 13 күн бұрын
Super helpful. Thank you
@Booster85 22 күн бұрын
Thanks Kati have BPD, i have found identification with the illness is key to working through, i have impulses to drink but since ive started AVRT its helped alot
@TheGritherr 7 сағат бұрын
it can't be easy. I've got the quiet type but have been fortunate enough to work with it enough to find satisfaction with my slice of reality. of course I'm really good at being alone but who said everyone must be normal, what a boring world it would be if it were so. my heart goes out to those who struggle under its weight, it's a lot to work through.
@PrincessCelestia19 21 күн бұрын
Girl I never felt more understood ❤
@brandinator1996 20 күн бұрын
I really appreciate all of the time you spend creating content about BPD. If you don't mind me asking, I'm curious what fascinates you about this topic so much and why you're able to speak so empathetically about it when stigmatization is so normalized?
@whatsthestorymorningglory61 Күн бұрын
I’ve self-diagnosed so many times as my therapist refuses to give me a diagnoses whatsoever. So I have it all.
@nattmannym14 Күн бұрын
So happy to see more up to date videos of bpd can we have eupd too please ❤
@PrincessCelestia19 21 күн бұрын
You know how hard it is for me to attempt to explain BPD. Thank u for this.❤
@SadhanaMahajan-jm2nf 21 күн бұрын
I was unaware of BPD. Thanks for the information. I know it now. Everybody should know it so that people behavior can be more generous.
@keikialanifrazee8892 22 күн бұрын
Thank You 🙏🏼 😭…. I’ve had so much traumas in my past that it effects my current issues with Thé people I love so much! Abandonment & Rejection issues…. It’s a very debilitating problem to have…. I’ve lost so many loved ones cuz of it. It hurts me that I hurt others so very much? And no matter what? They don’t believe me that I have bpd. It gets mistaken for Narcissism often to…. & my Mother has it ten times worse….i grew up in it 😔 I miss the people I pushed away cuz of bpd & depression; add being Trans to, to it…. 🤦🏻♀️
@fussy_velociraptor 20 күн бұрын
heaven forbid anyone have compassion for the borderline... thank you for your compassion, you are brave and I appreciate your video
@ydbetan 22 күн бұрын
Thank you for this
@Katimorton 22 күн бұрын
My pleasure!
@dianamijde5543 22 күн бұрын
i feel so called out with #6
@Alwayslearnimg 2 күн бұрын
The book that I found way back in the 80s that clued me in to my partner was called “I hate you don’t leave me”. I read that book so many times.
@XOChristianaNicole 22 күн бұрын
HOLY CHICKEN MOLY. #6 is SO spot on. This is the exact cycle, I experience. I’ve definitely been practicing, to do better. However, also, I have become quite perceptive and on high-alert, for those who are avoidants - and deciphering their behavior, from my own.
@stormcorrosion176 22 күн бұрын
Sup baby 😂
@sophiewordsworth2806 5 күн бұрын
I’ve got BPD , along with other mental illnesses & learning difficulties. I don’t think you can get rid of it. Any mental illness or terminal or chronic physical illnesses will never go but for most people things will calm them down wity something they love doing/enjoy etc at times when there not having a severe episode. It’s the most misunderstood illness but yet it’s the hardest to deal with, because your all on your own, just you, your brain, your heart. I got my daughter taken of me without having a chance of been with her alone or with my careers because I’ve got mental illness. Soical workers/other professionals clearly thinks everyone with mental illnesses is dangerous to baby’s & children. That in its self should get childrens services put where they belong, in a cell, LONELY, SCARED & DISTRESSED. They ruins lives & don’t even feel sorry. They ruin parents lives & childrens.
@Capthowdy098 22 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed BPD in the military. I abandoned treatment before we got too much into it for fear of how it would jeopardize my career. I do lash out and I know I do but I do whatever I can to prevent this the tug of war in my head. Also, one thing that always bugged me is that despite my diagnosis and really understanding a lot about the disorder and how it aligns with me, I have the opposite than a fear of abandonment. I repel any and all, I have no real friends, I have no social media footprint past 2008. I avoid any work functions I possibly can. I maybe converse with my mother and sister once a month. Despite being married my wife is well aware of what I am. We do get along very well. But I do catch myself keeping her at arm's length. However, I am also a pain patient with a lower back issue, nerve damage, and tilted/cracked L5. So how much of that is pain vs BPD. Edit: I wrote this before fact #5. Now finishing the rest, it makes more sense.
@TheAlixour 21 күн бұрын
I feel ya on this. Still trying to figure out how to stop pushing others away when I am in pain. However less personal connections means less complications, etc.
@dramatica01 2 күн бұрын
Wow #6 felt that one to the core
@gabriellef3351 22 күн бұрын
My counselor loves to work with bpd folks. i don't have it but it came up once. People are so misinformed about bpd. I hope it gets better
@sassyslsgrl 18 күн бұрын
The first therapist who diagnosed me with Bpd didn't tell me my diagnosis for a long time specifically to prevent my getting bad outdated information and becoming discouraged... Turns out this was a good call, as the first thing I did in the pre Google days was go to the library and read how hopeless the situation was and how toxic and unmanageable we were and that therapists should avoid treating Bpd patients as it was a waste of time and even toxic to the therapist... I'm glad by the point I read this I had enough trust in my therapist to talk with her about what the diagnosis really meant and what it didn't. I still fight some of the same battles as I did all those years ago but I usually win now, after taking responsibility for my own learning growing and healing and continuing to get help and resources along the way. If I can lead a largely healthy happy life with BPD CPTSD and the remnants of what was once severe and crippling agoraphobia due to prolonged narcissistic abuse, anyone willing to do the work can. Love to all still feeling like a train wreck, I still feel it sometimes, but big picture I can look back and be proud now how far I've come.
@beat4224 17 күн бұрын
I don't know you but I'm proud of you too
@sassyslsgrl 17 күн бұрын
@@beat4224 aww, ty! Made my day 🤗
@nobody2655 12 күн бұрын
I relate most to types 1 and 4. Difficult as it is, and even though I'm not in treatment, I'm grateful for the BPD aspect of my diagnosis.
@alphadog3384 22 күн бұрын
This was excellent thank you. Push pull of relationship gets tested everyday. Very complicated if the relationship is with identical twins. One twin diagnosis with BPD other not, which is questionable? Excellent example of situations that you gave.
@CristinB-rh4jk 6 күн бұрын
I have quiet BPD and man I swear it sucks!! But knowing the why is SO helpful.
@sandravlogao 12 күн бұрын
Nice to meet you.
@raymondmurdock8603 22 күн бұрын
I don't know if I have BPD or if it's just my CPTSD creating similar symptoms I have most of the symptoms except my fear of abandonment is a bit different I don't act anxious or whatever I instead just completely avoid people it's not like I need to do everything I can to stop the abandonment it's like of course you abandoned me that's the logical choice because I'm shit and and you deserve better than having to tolerate my existence I avoid relationships and friendships and anything like that because it's like why would anyone wanna hang out with me I don't even wanna hang out with me but I do have fear how I'm perceived and judged getting any criticism or hate can cause me to spiral doing anything I can to try and fix it even when I know I'm just making it worse my sense of self is so dependent on what other people think of me someone compliments me I think I'm actually kind of OK somebody criticizes me even something normal and I immediately feel like I'm horrific and need to die like splitting but only about myself if that makes any sense
@caglabatur 16 күн бұрын
Diagnosis are so vague and overlapping. Cptsd, bpd, other attachment problems, sometimes adhd..
@keirra6327 13 күн бұрын
Woah...#6 is literally what I think very often. I am not diagnosed but it just rang true.
@ronniec427 21 күн бұрын
Doing DBT now. It is helping a lot.
@kleyyowo 11 күн бұрын
I’m diagnosed with adhd and autism, but have felt something was very wrong and that they didn’t fit my struggles. I just now started researching quiet bpd and it explains all the things I’ve struggled and been shamed off for so long I’m going to talk to a new therapist soon and this time I’ll be 100% honest instead of lying about everything, now that Ik it’s prob not cause I’m a horrible person.
@jasondevalle007 21 күн бұрын
This is so true that it makes me want to cry 😭 it's not like what is portrayed in Hollywood and it is used as such a stigmatizing slam on people which makes the fear of abandonment even worse - the very reason why we do these things in the first place. Trying so hard to break the cycle and trust people. And not all bipolar people are violent though I have seen some. The one caveat is it at least now that we can understand it somewhat, address it and find healthy coping mechanisms. 😊
@Beautiful_Days9249 Сағат бұрын
I wonder if I have it. I have been dx with PTSD but have been curious because I attract so many narcissists who apparently are attracted to BPD. But your last example of the text not received is exactly how my thought process runs in similar situations.
@alyxtora4534 22 күн бұрын
My best friend has recently been diagnosed, and the last bit of the video really made it click why she'd ask me if I hate her or if I'm mad at her if we go without texting for like a week. The answer is always no, I just haven't had anything interesting to say. So now I try to be more mindful of that, for her sake
@homesweetesthome1726 21 күн бұрын
You're a good friend ❤
@ConnyWeirdWorld 22 күн бұрын
Question, so if a key symptom is fear of abandonment, do you think every adoptee has BPD? I am adopted at 18 months old. As a young adult one clinic wanted to misdiagnose me with BPD because I'm adopted. I didn't fit all criteria so they eventually couldn't but they were convinced anyway. Both my therapists, with whom I had been for years, did NOT diagnose me with BPD. I do have developmental trauma and depression. As an adoptee, abandonment is real. Can you imagine a greater loss than losing your mother at such a young age? And then not even getting the chance to mourn your loss! If your mother dies as a child normally you have pictures and you talk about it, but for adoptees the experience is surreal. The new family is so happy while the child is in mourning and angry, but the feelings usually are not co-regulated for adoptees. We are not supposed to feel this way. Instead our experience is diminished and we're told to be grateful 🙄 Of course, we fear abandonment. It's a natural reaction to our start in life. And it doesn't matter if it's at birth or 1 year or older, the loss is real for every adopted child! [I don't mean this derogatory in any way regarding BPD. Not at all. I just didn't want a wrong diagnosis and I think (and have the experience from talking to many other adoptees) that adoptees are misdiagnosed a lot.]
@dnnsmtchll 20 күн бұрын
wonderfu-----------lwonderful presentation have daughter with the topic
@zehnhexttv 15 күн бұрын
I for sure can attest to the fact that I can relate to more than just 1 of the 4 distinct BPD types. I often keep swinging from one type to other or show signs of multiple types at once. Not sure where I stand now
@gabinanoruega 12 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video! Is it possible that one has all this abandonment fear behavior and is all about childhood trauma only? I feel that way about the text message, for example, I can rationalize all that you said as you did, and that helps me. But, is a lot of energy to do that. So, I have decided I will never try to make new friends again. Every time I try, the person hurts me (sometimes in purpose). I don't have this behavior this way with close friends and my partner, for example, this fear disappear when people guarantee me their intentions with me and prove to me they will not betray me in that sense. So, I don't demand from my close friends and partner that attention, that's why I think I am not borderline. But, when I am meeting someone, that I liked, and they became shady about their intentions, then all that triggers right way. And I indeed become borderline in the same sense. But I see it more as response for the way my narcissistic mother treated me when I was 4. More like a trigger, bc when I feel save with someone, I don't behave like that at all :)
@greylizard1040 13 күн бұрын
There's usually some context behind reactions. We're often portrayed as being very explosive but a lot of stuff adds up. It feels like being an emotional hurricane and also the clean up crew that comes in afterward. It doesn't help that most of us are related to and attracted to other people with personality disorders. Maybe it's experience / self awareness, but I'm actually usually pretty understanding when I lose people and friendships. I get it.
@Mx.KARLEY 22 күн бұрын
Love the channel BTW. U have a great way of explaining complex things in an accessible way not many can! ❤
@Catsandjessica 22 күн бұрын
Oh gosh that example at the end sounds just like me 😮
@Rockhoppr3 22 күн бұрын
I am both intrigued and concerned I can easily see many of these symptoms in myself and a lot of people i know 🤔
@toddvtx1300 2 күн бұрын
My ex had BPD. She self injured a lot. We broke up for good in 2007. Heard the other day she committed suicide in 2012. So sad.
@Alwayslearnimg 2 күн бұрын
Oh my goodness that’s terrible. I have an ex that I spent off and on of course, around 10 years with. We reconnected for a short time, not too long ago, but I had to cut the connection. They are so charming and they can play the part for a while, but then the truth always comes out. Luckily, we were just connectingacross the miles this time.
@CHEDDAakaSWAY 5 күн бұрын
I have recently realized that something is terribly wrong with me. And the impulsive one honestly sounds A LOT like me. I actually really scared now.
@Jarimir 7 күн бұрын
Great... now I am an autistic narcisist with all 4 types of BPD...
@WhileAKyle85 22 күн бұрын
Omg. That line of thinking you described.... I go through that almost everyday with my partner. He works out of town. And the sites he works on, he can't always respond right away. I know this. He always stays busy when he's home on weekends; i work weekends. I find myself falling into the spiral if he doesn't respond when i think he should.... And the emotions start. Then the thoughts start "ok. I get it... If my name isn't his bosses name or his mom's name, im not a priority..." And then it just gets worse. Like one weekend, he had been out helping our neighbor's dad with something.. i knew that. It was physical labor. He tends to nap if he can after that type of thing (he also does physical labor during the week). So hes tired. I know that. But that weekend. I call him when I leave work and I know he's off. He didn't answer. Ok. (Mind you, I didn't know if or when he would be done with that helping that neighbor. So I start to worry on the way home. I get in my head about why he didn't answer. About why didn't he text me at least. And sure enough, he was home. But I didn't know he would be. Out cold napping too. And by then, I was already on that ledge... And I went back and forth about if I should wake him up (I was going to confront him about not letting me know where he was). But I wound up in my closet on the floor having a meltdown over feeling so angry but also feeling like a stupid idiot for expecting so much. I trust him. I know he loves me. I know none of his decisions were malicious. Still. I felt like I wasn't even in his top 5. I felt betrayed. And I sat there balling quietly so I didn't wake him up. Because I was trying to talk myself down; I was aware of how ridiculous my response was. And still. I cried. Eventually I heard him get up and open the door looking to see if I was home. He came to the bedroom. Came to the closet door and was honestly so confused. And I explained my drive home and the thoughts/emotions I'd had best I could. I was still crying. And I felt so bad for going down that hole. But I couldn't stop myself.
@voyagerone7487 20 күн бұрын
But look, you have awareness. Center yourself. Remind yourself that you might be acting out.
@zoebeard3859 13 күн бұрын
example in #6... i've never felt so seen. this happens with every interaction and i thought i was the only one
@radnairenegat 12 күн бұрын
Oops, I relate to this in more ways I would have admitted..... especially the example at 6 (been there, done that so many times...) and what you said about the non-suicidal self harm (my suicidal ideation is completely separate from self-harming tendencies, that one I know)
@jennsuicune 22 күн бұрын
Thank you so much Dr Morton❤. For being so understanding and empathetic. In France unfortunately we still don't have this indulgence towards BPD a lot. That's why I so much love Dr Daniel Fox's videos😊. Together with yours of course !
@hollyrussell6599 21 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed with bpd when I was only 16. I was later undiagnosed since I didn't meet the criteria. I was then diagnosed with bipolar instead when I was 19. I still have traits of bpd but don't meet the full criteria anymore. It's not great to diagnose bpd in teens because sometimes people grow out of some of the traits. Just want to say that's not the case for all people who are diagnosed when they're younger but that's just what happened for me
@squirming_squirrels 11 күн бұрын
It does not matter from where manipulative behavior originated, manipulation is any attempt to control the behavior of others to meet some unmet need. Just because manipulation in borderline personality disorder is not malignant does not mean it’s not manipulation. Second, untreated or under treated BPD can and dies result in harm to others. While I’m absolutely in favor of destigmatization, nobody should need to endure the kind of unhealthy relationships that result from BPD. Partners of people with BPD deserve love, respect and stability as much as those with BPD do. However, again, regardless where this instability originated, it’s unfair to expect their partners to maintain a relationship with anyone who is incapable of doing the same.
@squirming_squirrels 9 күн бұрын
@@LuluDior4 unfortunately sometimes that’s not going to be enough. We can be compassionate and still do what’s best for ourselves. Most, if not all, abusive behavior originated from mental illness and trauma. It’s almost always inadvertent and non-malignant. But regardless of origin and motive we must protect ourselves from toxicity.
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