Are you left with unanswered questions, and wondering why they 'ghosted' you? Or why you ghosted someone? Comment below.

Ghosting is so selfish. You should just let the other person know why you’re not interested, instead of making them wonder what’s happened or if you will communicate back. Rejecting hurts but at least there is clarity.

Mature, healthy people don't ghost unless their safety is a concern. No other reason justifies the lack of closure.

being ghosted hurts a lot and especially when they reassured they wouldn’t leave or made you believe how happy they were with you

Being ghosted has pretty much destroyed any shred of self confidence I had, has given me trust issues with people in general. Already had worsening depression and anxiety over the past few months, being ghosted just amplified it and pushed me further down since she was the one and only person I ever trusted enough to talk about these things with. So yeah, don't ghost someone you claimed to love.

I'm getting ghosted rn with someone I had a deep connection with. They just stopped responding

1. They don't feel safe 2. They want revenge 3. Fear of intimacy 4. It's the easiest course of action 5. They're going through something in their personal life 6. They're afraid of confrontation

I've had so many people ghost me, I might sign up for the Ghostbusters.

My back literally hurts from carrying the whole friendship.

This channel is really good at bringing up uncomfortable memories.

The painful realization that you're the one initiating most of the interactions and when you stop they don't notice

I have literally zero friends right now because I had to cut all of them off. All of my "friends" would constantly ghost or flake on me or were super unreliable; but then I would be the one to always come through for them. I only kept them around because I didn't want to be alone and the small times that they did come through, it felt good. One day I woke up and realized enough is enough. I blocked them all on social media and deleted their numbers, I'd rather be alone than feel like a doormat for another second.

‘Once you feel you are avoided by someone, never disturb them again!’👈❣️🙏💪❤️

Because it's never been easier to connect with people, but it's also never been easier to discard them. People are now treated as highly disposable.

Time to show this video to all the people that haven't talked to me since Corona started.

Honestly, I just live by the fact "if they ghost you, your presence never mattered to them outside of a convenience." It's also the same reason I tell people who ghosted me to fuck off if they come back.

A person I thought was a "friend" ghosted me, and found out how great I was doing in life and wanted to be friends later. I laughed at them, and I feel so free without that person in my life.

I can’t stand people that bring up wanting to see you again but when you reach out to them - those liars end up ghosting you 😤

summary: 1. They don’t feel safe 0:44 2. They want revenge 1:08 3. Fear of intimacy 1:33 4. It’s the easiest course of action 2:02 5. They’re going through something in their personal life 2:27 6. They’re afraid of confrontation 3:04 Recommend watching to learn more 🖤

It’s so hard not to internalize ghosting. And when it happens in a pattern, it just makes me feel like what am I doing that people feel like they can’t tell me? It’s painful and confusing.

I'm in a long distance relationship. I've been ghosted 4 or more times, maybe more but all of that was several months ago. Every single time, it was typically something university related or self-care related. Honestly if you're in a LDR like me and you're busy, tell 👏 your 👏 partner 👏! Do not leave them hanging. Make the small effort to send ONE text at least saying "I wont be able to talk this week, but I'll see if i have time on the weekend" or something. Good god, a text as simple as that does wonders for us sensitive people. Thankfully he does not leave me hanging like that anymore. Actually thanks to quarantine our relationship has finally gotten smoother. Also don't forget to call 👏 your 👏 partner 👏 Edit: it's now 2023 and I just saw a notification for this comment after all this time lol. I wrote this comment shortly before I broke up with him. You guys.. always have a plan in mind to meet up with the person and make sure your needs are being met and that you both see eye to eye. If you both are too different/have different needs and wants, it will not work out.

If they're ghosting. Then just let them go and move on. If they act all suprised that you dont respond to them after months or even years afterward. They're the ones who initiated this behavior.

Psych2go: 6 Reasons why people ghost Me: 🤔 Trying to figure out which of the 6 reasons is why I've been ghosted

I've been ghosted in almost every friendship and relationship I've had the past year or so. Being the type of person that appreciates and strives for open and honest communication I lack the ability to understand why a person couldn't just end it with a short explanation but this video has given me a bit of perspective at least!

The one most hurtful time I was ghosted and blocked was probably good for me and helped me able to find flaws and rudeness in the things I did. It helped me respect others more and be a lot nicer. However, it has kind of left me feeling a bit scared and hurt if someone doesn't reply within three days.

If you notice of them ghosting you, just walk away. Let them appreciate your absences and move on with life, I learn that the hard way in my last relationship

#1 Avoidant attachment style #2 Cold hearted, no empathy #3 Emotionally immature #4 Coward If they don't apologize let the abuser stay gone. 🙌!!

After almost a year later my take on ghosting has changed so much. Now, I intentionally ghost people who ALWAYS treat me like an option and come to me when they have to brag something about their lives or rant about a college friend or a coworker. Whenever I need them, they are nowhere to be found. This year I Choose me and my sanity and ghosting these people so that I can focus on myself and my life.

Actually, the simplest (and likely most-common) reason for "ghosting" is probably when one person suddenly realizes that there's nothing really to talk about with the other person anymore; that conversations no longer go anywhere, they consist either of long silences or disagreements, and that after a certain point, attempts at conversation end up being more trouble than they're worth, are more stressful than rewarding, and a person finally realizes they have other, more satisfying & rewarding ways to spend their time & energy. In which case, it's probably less of a conscious decision on their part as it's simply a matter of...just not bothering anymore.

I was ghosted by my boyfriend four years ago. One day he just stopped texting back. It was terrible to worry if something bad happened to him and it was so embarrassing to ask his friends about him. I felt just humiliated. I'm alright now, finally, but back then it was one of the most painful things I went through. I've never found out what was his reason and I was blaming myself for a long time. To all ghosting-survivors here - please, take care of yourselves, one day that horrible pain will go away ♥️

ghosting = selfishness. just don't bother why, you don't want them in your life.

Yeah. I think I finally understand now how it is when someone you always loved and cared for suddenly decided to ghosted on you instead of moving forward with you. No matters what good things they did for you back in the past: It's their decision now that they won't even let you know about their issues or struggles because you don't matter nor worth it for them to resolve with. They can throw in as many valid excuses as much as they wanted. They still ghosted on you because they are selfish, afraid and coward. And one day they'll just use your anxiety from being ghosted agaisnt you. At worst case blaming you for it. If they won't confront with you and keep running away. They ain't worth it. Not with your future.

I was hard ghosted by my ex girlfriend, her entire friend group, and my peers. If there was a bigger reason, no one ever told me. I deserve to know the reason so I don't have to feel anymore heart pains. Instead of telling me the true reason for ghosting, I was slowly isolated. I try to become more selfish each day so that I can finally turn the pain into greatness. It is a real shame that people can stoop so low for their own benefit.

The person who gets ghosted goes through this trauma which can never be healed fully.

I got ghosted by my old friends even ghosts felt bad for me How can I be friends with ghosts

I Ghosted someone because they were Using me and were NOT a TRUE Friend!!!! Sometimes Ghosting someone is the BEST Thing you can do!!!

to be honest I don't even let myself humor the idea of anyone being my friend anymore, been ghosted by every person I ever met

Question for the people who have been ghosted: How many of you are blaming yourself for being ghosted and because you don't know why you've been ghosted develop a fear of having some big social flaw you don't notice? Because that's certainly some shit I've been through :/

I’ve been ghosted by my first ex gf out of nowhere and I can tell you it’s a PAINFUL trauma. It’s been 8 months and I’m still healing quite slowly and the rumination is awful to the point that I get physically sick. Please if you are planning to ghost on someone or have a habit of ghosting, especially to your loved ones, consider the ramifications of your actions as it can cause major mental damage to the other person 😊

no answer is the most frustrating answer. people think it's the least harmful but it's the worse.

Everyone I talk to ghosts me. In real life. Family, friends, lovers.

I'm fed up getting ghosted. Wen i know they have the phone 24/7

ex-boyfriend: *ghosts me for a month* me: *breaks up with him* psych2go: *uploads this* me: 👁👄👁 jokes aside, it left me extremely miserable & I did it for my mental health, since this channel taught me to take care of my mentality first. I feel at peace with myself now & moving on :)

Met this girl a few years back, i was so in love with her (so was she by her saying), she had everything id ever seek in a person, she was ill at the time and her uncle died a few weeks before we were gonna meet irl, then she ghosted me for an unknown reason... It took me 6months to stop thinking about her for every single second of a day, but even now, a few years later, i still think of her, and wish things were different... The moments i had with her were the best i ever felt, and also the worst..

I was in a exclusive dating relationship with a girl for 5 months. I’ve known her for 6 years but we started to date a couple months ago. Things were really good in the beginning. One thing forsure is that we are very busy in our everyday lives but we would be in contact throughout the day and when we had free time we would hangout and enjoy each other’s company. One day I notice she started to become distant with me through messages. So I brought it up to her to attention on why is she being a lil cold. She told me she was going through something (personal issues), me being genuine with her wanted to know if she was okay and if she needed someone to talk to, that I’m just a phone call away. She told me no that I don’t want to talk about it, usually when I get flustered or stressed I tend to isolate myself from people. I was like okay, i understand it, I’ll give you your space and some time. Hope things are okay with you . And what fucked me up was that I started to overthink and my mind would start to race thinking the worst. At that time I’m recovering from surgery so I was at home in bedrest. I felt like I was in a vulnerable place. Usually to take the stress or anxiety away I would play basketball or go to the gym. I couldn’t do that cause of my surgery from my appendix getting removed. So I let like two days pass before I hit her back up. Texted her hey good morning how’s everything with you. I don’t get a response later that afternoon saying she’s not ready to put herself out there like that and she still needs some space . So I try to be a simp for her and brought her food on her lunch, just to have good intentions, and idk if this was the right thing or a bad thing idk. And I didn’t see her at all. She made up an excuse that she couldn’t see me. So now my mind starts racing again, thinking that did I do something wrong or is she talking to someone else. I had a breaking point the next day during the evening I texted her hey I’m outside I have a present for you (flowers), wasn’t answering my messages or calls, I had a breaking point I reach out to a mutual friend of ours who we are both cool with . I talk to him on the phone in tears just cause I couldn’t take it anymore, knowing if I did something wrong and why she was doing this to me. He tells me aye man she does all the time when she’s feeling stressed. Let her come to you when’s ready don’t force it. He made very good points and his words comfort me and I stopped messaging her . A week later she messages hey I know I’ve been going through some stuff but I wanted to know where your at mentally and I told her I’m okay rn, I just wanted to give you your space and time . I don’t hear from her for another week . And she texts me hey and some small talk here and there and this day was the most we communicated with each other in a while. Last thing I texted her was like heyy whatcha up to rn. Ghosts me and I don’t hear from her ever since. I’m not blocked or deleted. I want to give her space and time to continue this relationship with her but apart of me feels like I’m tired of this, that I need to move on cause I don’t deserve this coming from a good heart 😔. But it’s hard cause I caught feelings and now I don’t know what to do anymore, I stopped texting her and I try to focus on myself more. I’m taking everything day by day and I hope to see the light at the end of tunnel. No one should ever go through this. Here I am KZfaq I hope who ever is going through something like this just know your not the only one I hope your doing okay in life ❤️…

Another reason to ghost someone: they're toxic and dont deserve your time.

I "Ghost" When someone has taken advantage of me one two many times or till I don't know where They End and I Begin. Learning to have boundries in a healthy relationship isn't easy!

I got ghosted by the only person I ever really cared about. One thing I'll say is that you shouldn't ever do this to somebody. I am actually devastated and confused.

Yeah, that happened to me. My friend who I've known for seven years (!) was ghosting me for 4 months and some days ago she unfriended me on social media. I don't think I said anything wrong, she probably just got bored of me and choose the silent option... It's a pretty cruel way IMO, she knew I have self-doubts, I'm sure she knew leaving me like that will make me think I'm worthless, yet she did that to me instead of, idk, saying she won't have time for me or something? The worst thing about it is that she was my only friend (besides my mother) and I'm too shy to meet new people. Sorry for my (probably) bad English, I'm still learning.

Lmao what a coincidence I just had a “significant other” ghost me lmaoo. She never loved me but it’s cool ig

THAT MOMENT WHEN SOMEONE GHOSTS AND THEN COMES CRAWLING BACK LMAOOOOO

Just felt the need to say that your animator is awesome ( the feelings are illustrated in the best way possible as if I am feeling like these cute characters) and your voice is the most soothing among all the others plus the contents are super useful as always

I'm so tired of putting myself out there socially and getting rejected or worse, just straight up blocked. I've pretty much given up on meeting new people entirely because it's always only a matter of time before they're sick of me

I don’t ghost people it’s not right I just talk like mature people do even if it hurts both of our feelings

Yep. This happened to me three times this year. Third time just last week. What's weird is all three times were just out of nowhere. No arguments or anything of the sort. I thought we were okay or good and they just left. Blocked me too. Seems kind of cruel to do that with someone who genuinely cared about them. But whatever. You cant make anyone stay in your life if they dont want to...but it does make you wonder what you did or what prompted this. People just dont realise how their actions or inaction affects others. Anyway, I'm truly sorry to everyone this has happened to. It really sucks.

Currently got ghosted by someone I really cared about and who made me feel really good, I feel like a drug addict who is going through rehab.

One more. They get tired of u or they don’t get anything from the relationship anymore. Being friends just to be nice isn’t a thing people wanna do.

seriously, ghosting isn't a good form of like staying away or just dealing with personal issue, i mean the one you are talking to assuming its a friend who cares, might get worried... it can also damage one's emotional state and mental well-being. Specially if the one being ghosted is sensitive person. There is nothing wrong if one doesn't want to talk, or just wanna deal with your personal problems. .but atleast give them a hint like whether you don't want to talk for the time being, don't leave them hanging like that, cause there is a chance that they may think that you just used them for fun and benefit, and once that is gone you just left them.

number 5 seems the most likely when I've had with some friends and I hope that's the reason

Ghosting is so horrible. I was ghosted recently. They've pretend to be interested. But when it comes to finally going out on a date, they completely vanish. I honestly have no idea why they did it. We were getting on great until the day arrived and then nothing. If you're not interested at least say to them no biggie. Rather tell than completely cut off the whole conversation without a trace. Don't lead somebody on thinking they would be hope and just do that.

Was ghosted a couple years ago by someone I loved very much, after going through a painful divorce, the onset of severe mental illness and her pushing me to come clean about my feelings for her when I was terrified to do so. Fast forward to the end of 2019 and I came to the conclusion that after being hurt that badly, the only same thing I felt comfortable doing was ghosting the world back. So I did. I shut down all my social media and proceeded to fall as far under the radar as I could. I regret nothing.

As a person with abandonment issue, being ghosted was the worst way to be abandoned and imagine how much pain you have to endure especially if you are also an HSP. Back then I didn't know about any of these terms, I was experiencing a pain without knowing what it was or even why, and I was too ashamed of myself to talk to anyone about it because I felt I had no right to feel upset! "I don't know what this is but YOU WILL SURVIVE" I kept telling myself :)))))) and I did! It took me two years of therapy just to finally know what and why that feeling was, and then I gradually started to heal- still in the process. But healing won't take the scar away, there will always be a scar as long as you remember the experience.

My friends reason for ghosting: 1. They’re too lazy to answer 2. They’ve fallen asleep 3. They have no idea of what to talk about

The guy was so good to me,suddenly he has just stopped contacting or responding.

7. They're bored of the conversation. Just my opinion

“Don't judge someone's choices without first knowing their reason.” ― Robert Tew And this is the most important thing to remember if you wanna maintain good relationships.

Moving has to be the no.1 reason for me why I and a friend would mutually ghost each other. It's like you continue to stay in touch and visit each other occasionally, but the friendship eventually fizzles out the less and less you see them. I'm at the point in my life where if someone is not playing an active role in my life then why even bother.

We should normalize ghosting as emotional abuse. Because that’s exactly what it is. Unless you have to do that due to a dangerous or toxic relationship or person, it’s straight up selfish, cowardice and abusive.

When I saw this I said to myself: "This is gonna hurt like a bitch",but i'm glad i faced the truth to see what i could improve as a person

I have ghosted a few times, and it isn't because that I liked it, but I was afraid of facing my own feelings and I was scared of the conflict that may come, I also was uncomfortable, so this video is very spot on in my opinion

This is first time in my life heard someone talk about different types of ghosting. P.S keep up the good new's/work y'all do!

I confessed my feelings to a girl I liked, she ghosted me, if she didn't like me I would have preferred for her to just say that, smh

I feel so bad...I haven’t been responding to people a LOT lately, and it’s not because I don’t want to talk to them, I’m just really overwhelmed with life right now. I sleep all day and stay up all night and isolate myself and avoid my problems nonstop instead of just addressing them and moving on with life. And I hate being the one to ghost people because the last thing I want to do is hurt them🙁 But it’s hard to respond and be myself when I have no energy left🤦‍♀️ idk if I’m the only one

Good reasons and some are valid. It's always best to try and communicate and if not successful then move on. The narrator has such a lovely, calm and clear voice. Sounds like a mother reading a bedtime story! Thanks.

Thanks for all you do on KZfaq, you're a hero.

When Quarintine started, most our classmates ghosted eachother, including me when I ghosted my best friend unintentionally. We were very close but I was going through alot emotionally due to burnout in work and I didn't want to tell her that, and that's when I ghosted her all the sudden. It's been 2 months since I ghosted her and I'm trying to give contact but I'm too anxious mostly because I don't want to get confronted about it. I honestly feel bad for her but I know she has other very close best friends so I guess it's fine Edit: so after going through some nervous breakdowns and alot off support. I texted her for the first time in months and it got me kinda anxious that it took so long to reply but we were able to talk to eachother. We decided that we should meet up soon. And it's wasn't a big deal. Thank you guys.

Very timely💕 lot of people are suffering from the pain of being ghosted rn😓

There's one online friend I've been real close with for several years. We used to chat and roleplay a lot, even while our interests were evolving. I always tried to understand that we each had our own lives. It's just too bad that my friend stopped contacting me last year. I don't recall saying anything hurtful or anything intended to guilt trip. I had contacted my friend multiple times on different platforms, but didn't get any response. I don't know what's going on in my friend's life, but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. Whatever my friend's going through, I hope she's okay. It's fine if she grew apart from me, but it would be nice if I got closure.

People ghost me because I probably said something weird and didn't know it, and because I didn't magically know what it was and fixed it without them saying something, they completely abandon me.

I'm not proud of it, but I ghosted friends. I felt that they were better off without me and they didn't actually care about me. I still have that problem where I will constantly withdraw from people because I feel they'll be happier without me. It's why I don't have friends and I don't have a relationship with anyone in my family... I guess it's abandonment and trust issues coupled with lack of self-worth and severe depression.

It's sad that even with some reasons like this when you are ghosted by someone you can never know the aswer, since theres no more confrontation, and even if it was your fault, you can't remedy whatever error you did.

I got ghosted when I tried to confess to my crush. What's even worse is that I considered him a close friend. He probably caught on about what I was going to say, so he ghosted me. I would 100% be happier if he rejected me than what he actually did. I've lost all my respect for him. It's so selfish to just leave me confused and hurt.

Very good points! These things happen. I think its better to let the other person know that your not interested if that's the case. Other then that it's important if possible to have an adult conversation to try not leave with bad feelings. If you feel in danger that's a totally understandable situation to definitely ghost. Great video!!!

Almost ALL of my relationships end up with me getting ghosted. That's all that EVER happens to me.

I ghosted them because of my mental health. They made me feel bad about myself and ashamed of being "me" so yeah im actually so glad that i did that.

If they want, they'll find time to talk to you. Period.

Thank you for shedding light on this very important topic

I only ghost when it's obvious they're a threat... But most of the time it's not the best decision to do. it can break someone's heart if they truly cared about you.

I agree with all of the points mentioned in this video. However, I have been treated bad by many people. I use to accept every form of behaviour. I never really stood up for myself, always gave more than I could take and always tried my hardest to please others. I myself struggle with depression, stress and anxiety. But one of the main things for me to learn how to cope and deal with my mental health is to let go of the people that don't value me and my efforts. It's way better to heal when you let go of toxic people.

I used to blame myself when someone ghosted me. Then, I understood that it had to do with their insecurities.

Your voice is very soothing and comforting.. I'm a girl that got ghosted 2 days ago.. The last word on the phone with my guy was 'kisses'. And the last topic in that phonecall before he ghosted me 3 hours later was when I get my cat vaccinated of rabies so he could lock down on the plane tickets to buy me for visiting him at Pennsylvania from Singapore. Thankfully it was only 28 days and not 28 weeks nor months he jus ghosted me. I did all background check.. He's not a scammer but a war veteran as he said. We are both above 40s so our relationship moved fast as we thought we found each other finally.. Both serious Christians.. But when he ghosted me.. His 2 years of knowing the Lord took a backseat

I am happy that I’m not the only one facing ghosting and other relationship problems, I realised that not everyone can be your friend and not everyone is sincere

the SUMMARY you're looking for: 1. They don’t feel safe 0:44 2. They want revenge 1:08 3. Fear of intimacy 1:33 4. It’s the easiest course of action 2:02 5. They’re going through something in their personal life 2:27 6. They’re afraid of confrontation 3:04

I got ghosted by my best friend at the start of quarantine. I had a hard time with it because we talk, whether it’s in person, on the phone or text EVERYDAY. I asked and she said she purposely was. I thought it was depression so I gave her time. It’s been 4 months. I was hurt and anxious because maybe I was being a bad friend. But I’m okay now. If she needs a friend to talk to, I’ll be there. I’ve done some self reflecting during quarantine. I enjoy this channel. Thank you so much

I lost someone very close to my heart last month... the day after my birthday.. I'm in the absolute deepest depression of my life and I'm sad to admit that I've ghosted just about everyone I care about. I feel so guilty but I just don't want to be al*ve anymore and all the love I had has been pouring out of me with every tear and the tears just aren't stopping. I wish I didn't do that but idk what to do anymore

i got ghosted by someone and i blocked them on everything cause i know my worth now and i see this 👁👄👁

#4 it's the easiest course of action. Sometimes its the easiest way to run away from a toxic relationship

I think every other person now a days do this.. Either intentionally or unintentionally.. Like i know i am being ghosted by my bf and i don't know whether.. It's intentionally or unintentionally.. After watching your videos i believe a person can learn so much about themselves.. It's really good.. I like your efforts and your hard work...Keep it up 💜

If you are reading this: You’re a lovely amazing person! You are worth something! Have a wonderful day

This is really not just applicable to relationships but friendships as well.