The most harmful in a relationship is betrayal. As a child, when you need someone, who genuinly cares about you and all you get is unsafety and confusion because of ongoing betrayal, you will internalize that this world is not a safe place.
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
❤️🩹 I sure did & it just let me in for unsafe masked men
@hiTekHOBO55Ай бұрын
this world, is not, a safe place... 🧐
@goldalevin869Ай бұрын
Try the crappy Childhood Fairy and good luck.
@pattyneff4624Ай бұрын
I understand🤲
@mday3821Ай бұрын
For me, people were not safe.
@kristinmeyer489Ай бұрын
Narcissists who've dogged you long enough love setting you up in public to weaponize your frustration and anger.
@Cod12OscАй бұрын
@@kristinmeyer489 spot on and so true.... so true....
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
I never used to realise that withholding the truth is actually telling a lie. But, it certainly is!!!
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
Lie by omission. A big part of a narcs MO
@wildhorses6817Ай бұрын
ABSOLUTELY !
@dakoderii4221Ай бұрын
@@BaraSchmidt The narc: "I didn't think it was important. Why are you attacking me? I'm only trying to help." 👿
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
@@dakoderii4221 Thank you! I needed that laugh! Too bad I was drinking coffee at the time! ☕ 😂 💦
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
Betrayal has so many different faces: gaslighting, triangulation, lie by omission, stonewalling, keeping secrets etc.
@wildhorses6817Ай бұрын
I deserved kindness and Respect. I also deserved Love.
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Indeed you do
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Great thing to say!! We need to know that because they are so good at justifying their bad behaviour and making out it is because we deserve it. Thank you!! You’re right!! And let’s have that now in our relationships in the future, let’s have boundaries from the get go like Dr C said. That is great advice I wish I had known that all those years ago.
@patjones2082Ай бұрын
Amen! ❤
@steph2834Ай бұрын
❤
@steph2834Ай бұрын
@@SurvivingNarcissism❤
@carpartheroАй бұрын
the biggest lie the narcissist will ever tell you is that "i care about you." actions speak louder than words, but patterns (of toxic behaviors) scream the loudest. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
You are quite welcome
@smustipherАй бұрын
Yes, like your dad routinely standing you up for holidays, sports games, college graduation, etc, explaining over the phone that "something came up.....I love you!". 🤮🤮🤮
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
You nailed it! A narcissist simply doesn’t care about others & not even enough to heal from within ❤️🩹 it’s a lost cause when someone, parent or partner, won’t accept that healing is an inside job. In the end, when they don’t want to look in the mirror, they stopped caring about themselves
@carpartheroАй бұрын
@SurvivingNarcissism a friendly 🇨🇦 canadian hello to you Dr. C in texas. 🇺🇲 your canadian fam really appreciates your hard work with the KZfaq videos! -cheers, steven
@MarianMurphy-rz8ejАй бұрын
So…like everyone on earth has a serious personality disorder right now…I don’t know what to do with that…
@Jessica4492-rj3zgАй бұрын
I was in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person. He betrayed me big time after an event happened. At that time, I did not understand narcissism but looking back I was foolish for staying. He isolated me and threatened me not to say a word. I reacted so much out of fear. One day I had it and I told someone I could trust. That’s when the narcissist told me I was disloyal for running my mouth. It’s sick how these people can mess with your head. Thank you Dr. C for making these videos.
@steph2834Ай бұрын
I had the exact same experience. I’m sorry you experienced this. ❤
@anniehallslifeАй бұрын
I believed I was not any good for many years. I lost me.
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
I can relate to that ❣️
@arsenelupiniii8040Ай бұрын
Yup, been there. I am lucky to be losing my hearing. So it makes others have to repeat themselves it frustrates the narcissist, and unveils who they actually are. NPD's hate imperfection.
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
@@arsenelupiniii8040 Or ANY form of disability!
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
Gaslighting is the ultimate form of betrayal. The long term effect is that you are doubting your own reality, which can cause a lot of internal damage.
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
Absolutely 👍
@Mrsvragica666Ай бұрын
Oh, yes. Projective identification used as your ultimate denial to prop up their omnipotence. It is insidious and treacherous to the core.
@goldalevin869Ай бұрын
Try the Crappy Childhood Fairy and good luck.
@pennylynch913Ай бұрын
Yes i agree!
@a.pepper6687Ай бұрын
@@roxymovie3938 In my opinion, gaslighting IS the WORST thing they do to us!
@KansasMiss-mf4bjАй бұрын
That’s what I just can’t get over, the betrayal. Looking back, seeing he was planning my discard for months, all the while pretending he loved me. They are truly evil.
@Cod12OscАй бұрын
I went through a very similar experience. I am so sorry you went through that, and I hope your circumstances are so much better and you are now thriving 🙏.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
I do believe it's demonic because the Bible clearly states that satan comes only to steal, kill and destroy
@Juke582Ай бұрын
Yeah it’s the toughest thing to heal from! Not sure I can ever be healed from this dastardly betrayal of so many! After a few of these over years I am just caved 😩😢
@user-qv9nw1dq2fАй бұрын
Let us sign up for the club of decency, respect, ciivility, honesty, trustworthiness, love, care and honour! Narcisists have nothing to do with those qualities. Let’s stay far away from evil. Thank you dr Carter ❤ God bless you ❤
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
I’m there with you!! That is what I think every day now. I want to be safe moving forward. Let’s only be around safe people and set those boundaries from the get go like Dr C said.
@michelel.3681Ай бұрын
My mother is a diagnosed narcissist and has hurt me my whole life but 4years ago in August was the major betrayal. I tried to speak to her about what she did but she doesn't hear anything that doesn't suit her. She tells me that i can't let anything go. Basically saying its my problem but the betrayal is ongoing. We have been on and off since then and right now we are off. She has an army of enablers too. Ive been watching you for awhile and wanted to let you know that your videos help ❤
@michellepurcell8703Ай бұрын
The worst part for me was being made to think that my partner was my best friend. He constantly told me he had my back. and appeared to be protective of me . How wrong I was . 8 years of my life love and loyalty for nothing. 💯 betrayed
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
When you finally recognize that the one(s) you loved and trusted the most, have constantly betrayed you, you might be overwhelmed with all sorts of different kind of emotions: shocked, distressed, lost, pained, dumpish, dolorous, angry, resentful etc.etc.etc.
@jodycasey6936Ай бұрын
It makes you go back and have to reframe everything from your childhood, it’s exhausting.
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
Yup ❤️🩹
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
I urge you to sit down and a quiet private place and talk with our Father God about it. He helped me heal so quickly. He is our best friend, our comforter, our healer, the lover of our souls
@lauriecostello7986Ай бұрын
Your descriptive words really place the labels..makes my heart sad but gave me a giggle. Thank you!
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Yes it’s very hard to get your head around. When I look at the big picture of the world overall I can see this is on the fabric of our system and it needs to change at a very deep level.
@gazoo7411Ай бұрын
I was Too Trusting and had Unrealistic Expectations.........Silly me. I finally learned!
@t_nelsАй бұрын
You are NOT silly for believing someone has your back, but don't let your back bone be a wishbone.
@cymbolichuman433Ай бұрын
Betrayal is the ruination of any relationship. You can be betrayed by anyone. I learned that being a good friend is to take a secret to the grave, and a bad friend is the one who uses their inebriation to spill the secret and ultimately ruin whatever confidence you have. I will definitely take my own secrets to the grave.
@NurseKathiАй бұрын
23 yrs married, gone 10 months, I found his journals outlined his intentional abuse over decades. BETRAYAL. Every I love you was I USE YOU
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
I also found a plan to trap his former wife before they married, including plotted dates (he was married at that time) so I am sure that it’s not just intentional but well thought out patterns of behavior. He tried to push the former wife down the stairs when she was trying to leave him! I used her lesson to escape then but he’s gone on to ensnare other victims one after another. This person was the longest tenured university professor @ his place of employment & also presented papers with Nobel prize winners @ conferences 🤦♀️ he truly needs to be jailed for his relationship crimes but I think the only justice he’ll ever receive is on the other side of life when he’s got to judge himself through the eyes of his victims
@MeowminxАй бұрын
I got two of my date planner journals and used my own words against me and he made them sound like he came up with them.
@NurseKathiАй бұрын
@caroleminke6116 I was vetted on the internet in 1998 (yeah, early adopter of social media) at a Christian discussion board- while he was married, in another state. Recently learned she was left in bankruptcy like me. He had someone new lined up. Yes, it is absolutely *criminal*. And I too know judgement will be exacted, but not by me. Actually the introject of me will haunt him, because I am an awesome Sigma Empathic Healer and he effed it up, will never feel my energetic supply again. No matter how many distractions, I will always be in his illusion. Thank you for sharing your experience.
@NurseKathiАй бұрын
@Meowminx Might be the worst form of gaslighting. So many betrayals, God help us all to recover and thrive again.
@t_nelsАй бұрын
👀 Seriously, planners? Recently found a rant sheet, as he called it from the time period in which he really changed. It was all crumpled. I just thought he wanted me to find this to explain some behavior but it's been almost 15 years or so.
@Hatbox948Ай бұрын
Betrayal isn't always someone cheating on you I found. It's also evident in other daily transactions. A big betrayal for me was my ex narc's pretending to be amiable, flexible, nice, etc., but then turning out to be anything but. I felt used like a prop to make his life comfy all the while mine was circling the drain.
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
For me I found the most unsettling to be smear campaigns. All those lies from within your inner circle. Like schoolyard bullies. There was infidelity too, but having your character and veracity attacked hurt differently. Infidelity is their short coming and character flaw. But some do buy into their BS train.
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Exactly
@PantaRhei-wz5znАй бұрын
@@BaraSchmidt i certainly hear you on the smear campaigns. Its a pattern with narcs who get frustrated when you no (longer) play ball & continue to be used. They decide you need punishement It is galling beyond belief.
@angelanicoletti3330Ай бұрын
@@BaraSchmidt , You said that right sister. 🎯
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
@@angelanicoletti3330 🧡
@mariaawake4502Ай бұрын
Stay aware that the narcissist always acts on his/her psychological programming dictated by the disorder. Have a plan B to feel safe, journal and by all means keep your own bank account, mode of transportation, support system.
@wildhorses6817Ай бұрын
YES, They will steal everything and cause you to lose everything you worked for. Extreme Grief and Loss. Trusted the wrong person. A Liar and Cheat.
@Jenifer_GАй бұрын
You are so right.
@KansasMiss-mf4bjАй бұрын
Amen to your own bank account! On the way out the door, my ex-husband drained our savings account, our bank account, my retirement account, etc. He had even bought a house in another town I didn’t know about.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
I can't believe that psychological programming is dictated by a disorder. Actions and words can be 'dictated' by the evil purposes of the devil Himself!
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
Spot on 👍
@annemariepeterhoff7261Ай бұрын
The betrayal for me started from the day I said "I DO" Turns out he only wanted me to do whatever suited him.
@arsenelupiniii8040Ай бұрын
I have found that all cluster B's will find a "partner" who has property, or will inherit material stuff. My ex's Dad was that guy, he was also a social worker for 30 years. So yeah, cunning is putting it lightly.
@yukio_saitoАй бұрын
🎼🎵🎶 "There's too much confusion. I can't get no relief" when going through a betrayal trauma. 😮💨
@marmaladesunriseАй бұрын
Ah, Jiminy Hendrix sang about it.
@patjones2082Ай бұрын
So far, you've survived 100% of your very worst days. Keep going to brighter days! I've been there, too. I wish you strength, support, real love and healing🕊💟🙏
@doriannemosich232Ай бұрын
Here's how stupid a narcissist (s) in a estate settlement, or a business , Narcs., are so focused in embezzling, backstabbing you or everyone else, they backstab, steal from themselves, the whole boat sinks, don't ever let them dominate boss or deal the cards they are just too stupid, everybody loses, makes no sense all unnecessary, heartbreaking.
@Rom8.9_8.14Ай бұрын
Everybody loses is the name of satan's theft game. Had to learn that the hard way, as most here probably have also. I say most because there's usually the pretenders in the crowd trying to wreak further havoc. Souls going to hell with him is his goal all along. When you see it from his perspective, it makes complete sense and shows just how smart he is. Particularly in making people think he and his don't exist though they wreak havoc in plain sight. Knowing that theft is what the devil is about, one has to assume, from the ceos on down in a company that that is what is going on, whether all employed have knowledge of it or not. But I guess that's what happens with no discrimination/equal opportunity hiring practices. The god of this world (see 2 Cor 4:4) determines to have his way in the world, no matter how mind boggling to the rest of us. But God's word also mentions in 1 Pet 3:6 the importance for Godly wives to not be afraid with any amazement (see v1-7 for context on that). (Just trying to temper the mind boggling part with that). See also Rev 12 for more information of satan in the world. And 1 Cor 10:9,10 also mentions people being destroyed of serpents and of the destroyer. See also Rev 13 and 2 Cor 4 for further context. The question that I would like to see answered by the church, and see soberly considered by Christians, is why "the church" seems to no longer see casting out the evil spirits as part of their ministry. Instead it seems that they have been more engaged in casting out of their "churches" the saints of God who have tried to correct them and hold them accountable. I guess a "church" that has become so compromised while so doing is no longer qualified for such activity. And yet they dare to call us back into their "churches". Judgment begins at the house of God. They've set themselves up for that, no doubts. We who are truly Christians are called to come out from among the world and be separate. These days, that may include "the church" which mostly seem to be wolves in sheep's clothing, both behind and in front of the disappearing pulpits. And when I say church, I definitely don't mean idolatrous Catholicism. satan cannot cast out satan, let's remember. To those who have kept themselves holy and pure, let's be busy with the whole ministry of the Lord. Let us send the devil and his crowd packing as we pray and fast and prepare ourselves for such work. Let the rest repent, as the kingdom of heaven has, once again, come near you.❤
@helenewebster9462Ай бұрын
I suffered outrageous Emotional Distress and Traumatized etc.
@CharmainecharmainecharmaineАй бұрын
Me too.
@HotSeat17Ай бұрын
It sounds like your trauma and abuse was so bad, that you can't even talk about it. I feel for you. I love you both. 😞🙏💔💔
@fred.k9875Ай бұрын
Can we say unfaithfulness is one many forms of betrayal?
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
A big one!
@tbunnyshy1Ай бұрын
It is getting very difficult at home. When you get therapy, group support, build strength and confidence, you no longer fit the parents sick need for control and inflicting pain/stress, etc. They hit harder, I remain stabilized harder. I am actively working towards moving out. They found out, theres a delay, so their antics are WORSE. The entire family is now suffering because I am now a VICTOR, no longer a victim. Of course these conditions are NOT SUSTAINABLE forever. I hope we all get out soon.
@amandaliverpool3374Ай бұрын
So do I. Stay strong 💪 ❤️🫂🙏
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
Favoured manipulation technique of my mother has always been triangulation. When she began telling my daughter that I am a bad person, she began harming my daughter. She even sometimes told her, "In fact I am your mother!" - Unbelievable!!!
@t_nelsАй бұрын
My mom answered when others call for me. My oldest grandson worried about his 'bad grandma'when they visited once (and he was very little), which he did not identify as me fortunately.
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Crazy! They have possessiveness baked in. My grandmother thought she owned my brother as well. Put him against my mother for years, it was so terrible. I feel you Roxy. Sending much love to you.
@darinsmith2458Ай бұрын
It is about me being honest with myself and not justifying their betrayal..
@SherryWilson-dk7boАй бұрын
I keep on finding out secrets my husband and his family have kept.
@donnabuhrman2714Ай бұрын
Same here sherry so much deceit
@Cod12OscАй бұрын
.... that's even more of a terrible situation when they pull their family and "friends" into the dysfunction....
@arsenelupiniii8040Ай бұрын
I used to be envious of people that have family. I guess being alone for half a century is paying off.
@HotSeat17Ай бұрын
"If someone is not listening to you, stop talking to them." - Jordan Peterson
@janiecepoush1904Ай бұрын
Also: JBP “Sometimes, We need to “START A FIRE” in Order to KEEP The House From Burning Down.” ~ And ~ “To be Naive is akin to being a Domesticated House Cat!” And J.B.P. goes on to Explain… When someone is Naive, they can’t make Moral Decisions. So, the Children of the Narcissists, being Innocent & Naive… LIED To fm the time they are Babies… Are Not Accountable for their Impending False Beliefs! 🙏🏻Love J.B.P. ☀️🕊🍃
@PantaRhei-wz5znАй бұрын
Yup, doesnt work as you intended. You lose your energy + Everyone just starts to think you are a nag.
@Annie-ff1bsАй бұрын
This has been one of the BEST EVER videos I have heard illustrating the damage a Covert Narcissist can inflict after a marriage of 37 years. Catastrophic and resulting in PTSD. However one can make sense over time and heal over time. Thank you Dr Carter.
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Glad it resonated!
@HotSeat17Ай бұрын
- a man’s enemies are the members of his own household.” (Micah 7:6) I've been the family scapegoat all my life. I'm 70 years old now and have been suicidal off and on for most of my life. My younger brother was the only boy and was adored. He was sensitive. He killed himself a few years ago. My older sister was the entitled, Golden Child, who developed into a Covert Narcissist. My family is full of liars, phonies, hypocrites, and narcissists. My mother used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." My family wonders why I don't talk to them, or want to be around them. They always tell me, "You're so sensitive!", or "Why do you hide?", or when I do speak, they shun me, and ignore me. Sheesh....They put the "FUN" back in DysFUNctional!
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
When you experienced betrayal from your first caregivers or over decades during an intimate relationship, your brain changes in the regions of the limbic (emotional response center) and the hippocampal (memory data bank).
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
Unfortunately you’re tight about this ❤️🩹 our prefrontal cortex gets overridden time & again by our limbic brain when presented with cognitive dissonance & adults give way to inner children who are wounded beyond belief
@TheDarkPlace-p6tАй бұрын
Overcoming a narc’s betrayal, accept that their actions mean nothing. In the end, we’re all alone, and nothing truly matters. Embrace the void, for it’s the only reality.
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
Smoke & mirrors! Poof! Nothing there but a kind of optical illusion
@cyny6305Ай бұрын
Defrauded. You get it.
@brucefriedman1Ай бұрын
Every night and every morn Some to misery are born Every morn and every night Some are born to sweet delight
@patjones2082Ай бұрын
And every day with a narcissist is same crap, different day.
@melisherwood5300Ай бұрын
William Blake, Auguries of Innocence….brings back memories of my student days…guessed it right away…thank you.
@cindyrobinson3882Ай бұрын
I was just watching a youtube video on Ali MacGraw and Steve McQueen. At 85, Ali MacGraw shared how Steve McQueen was so abusive. He was a narcissist.......even in the 1970's. She's still beautiful at 85. So happy she found self love and a purpose after her divorce.
@PantaRhei-wz5znАй бұрын
Steve McQueen is charismatic, but all ice... no warmth Defin no fun for anyone who would be looking to have a personal relation with him - works well on a movie screen, less so in real life
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
You say that like you're amazed that narcissism existed in the 1970s. I was born in 1953 and I can tell you for sure that my male parent was a narcissist. I just never heard the word until this year.
@cindyrobinson388222 күн бұрын
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753I was born in 1962. I know narcs have existed for centuries, its just that we tend to see what we want to see in people, including celebrities. I'm glad that narcs are being exposed more & more. It seems nobody talked about narcs, or even being married to one many years ago. So thankful for people like Dr. C (and gus) for educating us. 😊
@t_nelsАй бұрын
It is amazing how much I have fought for the status quo.
@marmaladesunriseАй бұрын
You are much valued, Dr. C. ❤
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Thank you
@Mrsvragica666Ай бұрын
They do a U-turn, the moment they get private info. You wonder whom you're even talking to. It feels as if they've invited another person to the conversation, yet it's them. Full of contempt. I felt that hatred only once as young when confronted by a violent stranger. Only he never pretended to like me in the first place.
@MarinaLifeAnimalАй бұрын
All I want is at least one honest supportive individual in my life, but I feel like I'm too damaged now, or maybe everyone else is, too, to even be granted that. It's devastating and lonely. For years I've ricocheted between my abusive family of origin and my abusive ex, without much left to call my own now. It feels like they wanted to see my demise while at the same time shaming me for struggling. It's literally like someone encouraging you to end your own life. I suppose to see me ultimately perish would be the greatest power trip for them all as they could then say anything they wish about me and use it as the proof that I was the damaged one. I've used addictions for the loneliness but I just really want at least one honest supportive individual in the flesh. We've become so disconnected and isolated, this is a global tragedy.
@user-jw3vy3kf5fАй бұрын
When Gus got up and sat down again... I swear I heard him say 'Don't be concerned, my loving master... I have your back'
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
You have excellent hearing!
@user-jw3vy3kf5fАй бұрын
@@SurvivingNarcissism I am a Londoner That can hear a doggies voice Thru the noise Of the horseshoes Tramping along The Mall...
@notagain779Ай бұрын
@@user-jw3vy3kf5f , Do you have any idea of what is causing the military horses to start running out of control? Are there a lot of construction loud noises going on in London?
@The_Daniel_BАй бұрын
Thank you for being there, Dr C
@BaraSchmidtАй бұрын
🫂
@viviandevilliers1101Ай бұрын
I’m going through agony going through a breakup with a partner with narcissistic bend and am finding these talks and comments very helpful.
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Keep learning!
@456inthemixАй бұрын
DR. CARTER NICE TO SEE YOU IN GOOD HEALTH, HAVE A NICE WEEKEND.
@arsenelupiniii8040Ай бұрын
If I would have had a father, I would have liked it very much to be him.
@goldalevin869Ай бұрын
I was guilty of being too hopeful. Yes, and thank you, Dr. C.
@lisalacroix7906Ай бұрын
I love Dr. Carter's videos. So insightful and helpful. Thank you, Dr. Carter ❤
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Glad you like them!
@ginkgo2021Ай бұрын
Yup I’m guilty of being super honest super loyal and super trustworthy. I now know those are some of the main reasons for why I remained in a relationship with a covert narcissist for over three decades. The duping is on him. He owns that. I hope to be sentenced to a future spent with people who are guilty of the same things for which I am guilty.
@ginkgo2021Ай бұрын
@@t_nels well said I forgot to mention i can sometimes be guilty of being too stubborn for my own good.
@t_nelsАй бұрын
@@ginkgo2021 I can not unhear what was said to me in witty jest. It was pivotal, there is no getting by this. He tried to play it off, excuse, explain, get me to go with him. He wants to know what I'm doing. I'm not playing!
@t_nelsАй бұрын
@@ginkgo2021 Yeah, things are going to be getting a bit heated or chilly here. Whichever way you want to look at it, kind of like the weather.
@rossanderson5243Ай бұрын
It felt like being stabbed in the heart but you don’t die. Personality matters. When I was twelve, I had a teacher whom said, ‘have you heard it said, sticks and stones will break your bones but names will never hurt you’. She said that that saying was wrong and what people say can hurt you, cause grief and pain. She said that to the class and they didn’t take heed. One day she didn’t turn up for school, this lovely and very pleasant young lady, because she attempted suicide. It was a physical feature my classmates made fun of. She had someone in her family whom was a sporting hero and she was proud of that and I had my own hero in my father. Those children were too young to be responsible, but the narcissist is the worst at being responsible for their personality.
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Thanks for sharing this poignant illustration, Ross. I really like how you think.
@lisazidlick1650Ай бұрын
Journal your thoughts every day! Write about your anger, betrayal, anxiety, frustration, feeling used, gaslighted, bread crumbing, etc.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
I can't stand journaling. I don't want to write it and I don't want to read it and I sure wouldn't want anybody else to find it and read it. No thanks
@lisazidlick1650Ай бұрын
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 Rather than having him rent space in my head all day every day, if I write or leave messages on my voicemail or whatever, I can lay it down and walk away from it and read, go out, cook, walk, workout, call friends. As the months go by, I can read or listen to my thoughts back then and pat myself for taking the time to learn and understand what happened with my life. To each his/her own, but I feel I am blossoming again and am more confident. I couldn’t care less if Anyone ever reads or listens to any of it. Like a diary, this is my life, journey and survival. Good Luck! 🍀
@lisazidlick1650Ай бұрын
Journaling or voice mailing myself are ways to get everything out of my head, so I can walk away and do wonderful things without letting him rent space in my head for free all day every day! I will read, listen to my favorite music, work in my garden, hang out with friends, continue with remodeling my condo, pray, take nature walks, hang out with kids, grands, greats and sibs. When I turn my phone off, come back later and read what I wrote and said, I pat myself on the back for overcoming probably the greatest obstacle I have ever had to confront! Out of sight out of mind until the betrayal stops hurting and I begin fighting for my personal survival. I couldn’t care less if someone reads my journal/personal diary. It was my life, my personal journey and perhaps other people can learn to heal in a lot less time than it took me…🥲
@lisazidlick1650Ай бұрын
@@t_nels Please read my most recent reply regarding this. Thanks! Lisa
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Having boundaries from the get go like Dr C said is so important. I wish I had known to do that at the start of relationships all those years ago, that would have saved me so much pain.
@elliottwade1901Ай бұрын
"If they were being honest, they'd just say, 'honesty isn't one of those things that I value.'" Awesome.
@Jenifer_GАй бұрын
We can thank G-od for Dr. Les and some others for the psycholigical help we are given, it works with spiritual healing, together, what a difference he makes in peoples healing. Many thanks Dr C. Australia
@raindrops438Ай бұрын
I was hospitalized and at a very vulnerable place. I needed home care. At home, I experienced a betrayal and it happened just as you described. The hospital experience was a prelude to the betrayal similar to "love bombing". It has taken a lot to get through the experience as a narcissist abuse survivor. When I finally put it all together, my body spoke the truth once again. I couldn't avoid what happened. At least I can put the experience together as there was a time I couldn't. I can recognize the feelings and begin to feel them which has helped a lot. Sometimes you just can't avoid some experiences of betrayal. I'm glad I now have some tools to work with.
@allans7281Ай бұрын
It doesn’t matter what a car looks like or what curves it has when it has electrical problems doesn’t start and it’s always in the shop you get rid of it
@shellydavenport3817Ай бұрын
I want to thank you Dr C. You have given me such insight into the harmful relationship I had with my ex-husband of 15 years. He has proven to be just like his narcissistic father. I am so thankful to be out of that situation and looking towards the future. One of dignity, respect and civility, as you have always said. Thank you again for showing us all that there’s hope and strength in knowing and respecting oneself.
@surlifАй бұрын
I am amazed again that your message, Dr. Carter, is just what I desperately need. I couldn't put words to the angsts I have felt this past week. And it got worse so that I went into a mental and emotional scary place yesterday. Now I realize, its the full realization of being betrayed over and over for years and with that realization I was overwhelmed with anger and sadness . I truly believed when I got married all those years ago, that I was marrying into one of the greatest Christian families in the world. I realize that I was conned. I couldn't disagree with God!! And now on top of everything else, what I believed about God has been broken up like a tornado took it down and debris hit me like stones were pounding me. I realize that my husband and my father-in-law had to be two of the most sly, passive aggressive men ever to live. Maybe, I can make a few more steps forward now. After Independence Day, I will be taking another course. Not quite sure which one, but I will make it until then.
@helenewebster9462Ай бұрын
My former attorney and co- conspirators egregiously betrayed my trust and faith in the legal system. I am still in the state of disillusioned and perplexed how their criminal intents of perverted my course of Civil Rights Due process and Justice.
@t_nelsАй бұрын
The test is how much they invaded your confidences and what they are willing to do with it! This separates sheep from wolves.
@ponderosa...6559Ай бұрын
Thank you, Dr. C! You have helped me and hundreds of others! We appreciate you and your wisdom ❤
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
You are so welcome
@robbiewooden5067Ай бұрын
U can not trust them.
@Kokos152Ай бұрын
Thank You so much, for these advises! Ive been quite alone, handling those betrayals, but You have made it so much easier! Again, thank You!
@ReRe_642Ай бұрын
Thank you Dr. C for that. I was betrayed by my mother sister ex husband and out of millions of dollars. I always helped them all I am going to be writing a book on it. The things that was done to me was unbelievable. I look at Gus he is a beautiful animal and even he has love and would not betray you. It just hurts so bad. I wonder if I will be able to ever trust again.
@Rom8.9_8.14Ай бұрын
@ReRe_642 I wanted to share some things from God's word (the book of books) with you regarding what you have been through. From Mt 10:34-39 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. ³⁵ For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. ³⁶ And a man's foes they of his own household. ³⁷ He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. ³⁸ And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. ³⁹ He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. From 1 Tim 6:17-19 Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy; ¹⁸ That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate [to give]; ¹⁹ Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life. From Mt 6:19-21 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: ²⁰ But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: ²¹ For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. The theme continues through the end of the chapter where in verses 33 & 34 Jesus said But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. ³⁴ Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day (is) the evil thereof. From Ecc 12:11-14 The words of the wise (are) as goads, and as nails fastened by the masters of assemblies, (which) are given from one shepherd. ¹² And further, by these, my son, be admonished: of making many books (there is) no end; and much study (is) a weariness of the flesh. ¹³ Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this (is) the whole (duty) of man. ¹⁴ For God [not man] shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether (it be) good, or whether (it be) evil. Similarly the apostle Paul and Sosthenes (a brother in the Lord), when writing to the church of God at Corinth, said in 1 Cor 4:1-5 Let a man so account of us, as of the ministers of Christ, and stewards of the mysteries of God. ² Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful. ³ But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man's judgment: yea, I judge not mine own self [meaning he himself does not judge others]. ⁴ For I know nothing by myself; yet am I not hereby justified: but he that judgeth me is the Lord. ⁵ Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God. I personally don't know whether you are a Christian or not, but God and my fellow Christians empathise with and have compassion for your pain. God himself is in charge of all that happens, both to the unsaved and the saved. He sent his Son into the world to be a sacrifice and to make atonement for our sins. This we can take confidence in, knowing that his thoughts and ways are higher than our own (see Isaiah 55:6-13), and that what the free will of man can make trouble with, God can work towards good. See Gen 50:14-21 as an ensample. See also Jn chapters 3, 14-16 for what is also available for those who are born again and walk in truth and obedience. The kingdom of heaven is at hand. ❤
@anniehallslifeАй бұрын
The only way to get along with a narcissistic is to totally give up ur likes an dislikes n become them.
@kevinburke9940Ай бұрын
Or walk away…😊
@a.pepper6687Ай бұрын
If you are going to stay with them (for whatever reason) find HEALTHY PEOPLE who love you for yourself.
@Cod12OscАй бұрын
Keep everything surface level and go along to get along....but what kind of marriage would that be....
@arsenelupiniii8040Ай бұрын
These critters do hate authentic people. The ones I know are edging into their 70's and it is really hard to witness them backslide and have temper tantrums. The one guy has intermittent explosive disorder comorbid with high trait narcissism. Very dangerous man he is. Like living in a house full of vipers and landmines.
@Rom8.9_8.14Ай бұрын
@@Cod12Osc The Truman Show kind. Always remember, it's your damnation the devil and his children want. Don't let them win that one!
@susantolle7599Ай бұрын
Thank for Articulating the situation I tried honesty and dipped inti hell. All i am doing is renting I am now being threatenrd with eviction He hss rsisrd my rent to impossible levels as i am physically disabled. Lsst noght two sms harrsememts No one else in tge 42 apartments he owns is getting such a rent hike. He yold a friend that i can move to another toen about two hours from here. I need to be near the stores and pharmacy. Hr is s dr. But does not care . The rental market in this city is very bad I have nice neighbors now . Please sende good energy. The last three months he got worse abd worse abd more deceptive lying like a snake I am a pewce loving person and like to avoid confrontations if at all possible .his sister told me to avoid him as he is a devious liar and sociopath /narcissist I would say extremely high om the narc.spectrum. God Bless you fir your Work You are an Amazing person . I wish you All the Best
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Susan, I wish you the best.
@pennylynch913Ай бұрын
Yes. You feel like a idiot. But remember they're the real idiots, not you! Thanx Doc. We need you!
@maggiesalle2256Ай бұрын
Hi Gus!! Keep taking care of the Carters!!
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
That's the plan!
@Ursaminor31Ай бұрын
Thank you sir your knowledge and wisdom have helped me process much. Blessings
@YourCapyBruv_do_u_rmbr_3DpipesАй бұрын
I could handle just about any shameful behavior from anybody, if it didn't have to come from my own family. I've had years of practice to dealing with it, but it's still miserable and I give almost anything not to have this in my life. It's not even active right now, we've been estranged for years, and all for almost no reason. It didn't have to be this way. I'm far from perfect but my heart is pure and they treated me like nothing and for WHY????? It makes one angry. You feel cheated. You feel violated and it's hard. It's a very heavy burden to live with. Regardless of our disagreements I know one thing, I never deserved this. I can't see a situation in life when I would want to treat someone in the ways that I feel I've been treated. I had a right to be loved and valued, and their behavior was shameful and not a single one of them out of three has ever made a single genuine apology or even so much been willing to admit fault or give one drip about my feelings during this whole process. Ultimately I'm just angry because I don't understand why any of this had to happen. Sure conflict is going to happen, but life is meant to try build love and positive bonds with our family and hopefully some friends. Probably going to have to seek some form of professional help in time dealing with There's absolutely no reason for these people not to value me more than they do. We're family for fake and everything else could have been worked out in time. They're sick and yet I don't know what I should label it. In some ways it seemed like it came out of nowhere and otherwise I could see signs and traces going back decades. How do you purposefully throw away, lie about, and literally resent your offspring or only sibling? IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE! And I've done nothing but work hard all my life and live a boring non-destructive lifestyle? And they're still treating me like this!?! Makes me wonder if the devil is real and there are dark agents behind all of this... I mean that sounds a little bit loony but I mean who really knows? I don't mean to feel sorry for myself and I don't, but my closest family members and a few extended family members are not the only ones that have seemingly gone out of their way to become absolutely insanely hateful to me for seemingly no reason at all. I just hope I have answered someday. I'm just an average person without much remarkable about myself- and yet one wouldn't believe the crazy negative malicious pointed planned purposeful seemingly hateful treatment I've been on the opposite end of, for seemingly no reason all other than I existed and I was trying. Now someone explained that to me, because I've tried to understand it for the last many years, and I don't know if I can. I don't know, maybe a professional can help. To my knowledge I have never intentionally uttered or intended a cruel word about anyone and have just tried to live a normal decent life and yet, I have had time and again crazy unkind, intentionally cruel or seemingly hateful narc like behavior come my way from a variety of people and sources. I just would love to know what I'm doing that is so horrific that is sparking this kind of feelings and desires in these other people. Because for the life of me I cannot see it and boy oh boy is it crazy making!!!
@pamelamoore6239Ай бұрын
It's not you. You can never thrive where you're not appreciated.
@fred.k9875Ай бұрын
Please listen to the song ‘39 By Queen
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Great tune. Didn't know they did such a ballad song!
@angelanicoletti3330Ай бұрын
@fred.k9875, Thank you for the recommendation.
@a.pepper6687Ай бұрын
Thank you, Doctor C! I have listened to you many times and learned a great deal from you. This video is on target to my many decades long relationship. It's like you stepped into my home throughout the years and saw and heard my life unfolding before you. Yes, I see it clearly now. It's painful and my tears fall hearing this presentation. There's a great deal of loneliness that goes along with my fairly new revelation since people who have never experienced this type of trauma do not or will not try to understand it. I am blessed to have found one person who does understand; sadly, this person knows because it's the same in their home.
@carolynwalkowiak6979Ай бұрын
You summed up my experience and said into words what I have felt and have not said. I will save this video as it helps me understand me. Thank you Dr. C for the words.❤️🩹
@MzNettyBirdАй бұрын
🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽 spot on Dr C!!!
@flyingeaglewoman8682Ай бұрын
Timely topic Dr. C, God bless you sir 🙏
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Thank you
@lionheartklaric372914 күн бұрын
Such wise and helpful advice. I had an awful time with a few narc relationships. Thank you Dr Carter
@FromAlsace67Ай бұрын
I'm so ashamed to see that lately I fell into the trap of a narcissist for the second time in my life. First time is when I was a kid and ended up being dreadfully betrayed by my step-father (who I thought back then was the savior that saved me from my alcoholic and violent father). Second time is when I started in a new company at 43 and searched for a trustworthy and helpful colleague for support... This narcissist is currently scheming something to get rid of me and I'm not in a position to be able to respond to that... So it is quite hard to continue to go to work trying to do my best to not make things even worse than they already are... even if I do know that I'm not the one who created this situation. Thanks to Dr. C., I feel some relief about what I feel myself, especially that strange feeling of guilt that makes me often think that all is my fault. (sorry for my English)
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
I'm so sorry you've had to endure this, but I'm pleased to be on the path with you as you figure it out. Keep learning, and thanks for your comments.
@AllisonDeJesus-d9mАй бұрын
Dear Dr. Carter, you are fantastic at explaining all things narcissism, and it has really helped. However, my husband and I have found a lingering unanswered question despite all of the great sources of information and support on this topic: How living with a survivor of such abuse impacts relationships with partners who come from healthy families, and have never been subjected to such toxicity. How can those of us who are survivors of such abuse, lessen the negative impacts of our abuse on our current or future healthy partners?
@kristenmarie9248Ай бұрын
Great question!
@benjaminbosley6169Ай бұрын
Thank you, Peace.
@TruthandJustice-hz9nvАй бұрын
Absolutely tremendous, DR Le's, Thank you so much for this, We are all very grateful for you, You're a great bloke, Peace , love and respect to you , Gus everyone , Thank you universe All Glory to the most high :-)
@theresemcgrath9590Ай бұрын
Thank you 👍🏻
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
You’re welcome
@loulew07Ай бұрын
91st video watched, paused and took notes. Like my physical training for my next Duathlon is done to protect my health. Coming here Dr Carter is to protect my inner peace and emotional well being . Each golden nugget of wisdom you share , is a bullseye to my heart and head . The opening song , your warm homey home , thanks for sharing your time with us and a part of your home as well .
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
You're so kind. I'm glad to be on the path with you.
@Hopper11Ай бұрын
Thank you, Dr Carter.
@ladyvirgo013Ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@martadelgado2733Ай бұрын
As always Dr.C, well said and hopeful, helpful suggestions! Thank you & God bless you and the help your channel provides 😊
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Thanks
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Thank you for this wonderful video. There were good times in the relationship and I can remember those but the over all picture was as you describe here. I feel more balanced after listening to this. The more I learn every day the more I am healing. I’m taking onboard the healing aspect now. I think the first part of this process is learning about what has happened and once you fully digest that you can move forward onto the next stage, with reminders, as I don’t want to forget what I have learned. Thanks so much again, just can not tell you how blessed and grateful I feel for having you in my life as a loving guide and teacher. So thankful. Andrea.
@MisssAnthrope49Ай бұрын
The Narc Boss pattern: get dumped on, then get accolades. She is totally cyclical, which includes knowing she has gone too far...again. Chaotic.
@kristenmarie9248Ай бұрын
I call that the ease and squeeze.
@Gardenwitch1954Ай бұрын
🐕⚘️Thank you Dr. C!
@redmoondesignbeth9119Ай бұрын
I was raised by very smart, narcissistic teenagers. My mother was especially difficult because she projected her "shame" onto me then spun that drama thru the family. For years I played her "betrayal" in my head. Then I visualized the scene but as the adult that I am now. That was the end of that, and I went on being the grown up that I am. Fun Fact. I was NOT her source of shame. Turned out I have an older brother who was adopted by the CEO of SEARS. His "grandmother" is the one who coined "Craftsman Tools" and his grandfather worked for Prez Truman. I met him awhile back and once was enough tho the rest of the family kisses his A$$.
@MaybeLikeWaterАй бұрын
How do I ever overcome having him and his mother fake a protective orders and take our 5 month old baby for 15 days without contact until the hearing when she was finally returned to me. This happened during my PhD program and had no family or resources to help. Something integral broke inside me at that time. And the ongoing onslaught of unfounded legal motions has continued for 9 years. I was once a promising archaeologist and now I am half a person with a PhD , which I often believe is Pain and Disbelief Studies.
@LiveforHim73Ай бұрын
He had a scripted! Demand s test him to do this. Didn’t happen.. So trust is gone. He’s going to just sit on things and not speak to anybody even his mom. It’s his game plan and script. No honesty, no clarity of a plan, Un able to reason with any of us mainly directed to me. Betrayed, yes! Was very hopeful he would be honest about what he could do and not do. The financial budget was up to me so I need to approve or not too! That as too much for him because I a woman should too beneath him to make decisions. The betrayal was it was expected from history of this man. I have good back up support from family support not grieving this issue. They have been experiencing the same treatment from him. If he need space he’s got it! For me, this last episode has confirmed there is no relationship left to mend. It would have to be on his term only. I Can’t do that. It too unbalanced! Thank you Dr C! Great application today!
@andreacook6000Ай бұрын
Thanks
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Thank you.
@RN-gx7wtАй бұрын
Sounds harsh if we first overcome our own dissonance, betrayal becomes less of an issue. Most people just continue without even looking at themselves at any point and then betrayal seems to be the issue, but in fact the ground where you have to build on has to be solid. Trust is yours, I'm sure you crossed a boundary (yours) that is what I'm saying. I'm sure many times stuff that had to work out in the end but in fact was not. So what made you continue and expect NOT to end up with betrayal, or to be settled as flimsy as it is set yourself up for that downfall (again not guilt, your position wasn't one knee down already?!). We mainly choose less and expect a Big good outcome, think again, betrayal, and I'm speaking of adults is usual in the making of a certain hunger for love to hold on to the stuff we should not even consider, and I'm not even pointing a finger at guilt again just face that dissonance, because you cannot stop a liar from telling lies, but do tell me it sure wasn't too good to be true was it, because that is what it most definitely just was. It’s like saying getting into a swamp and not expect to be swarmed by mosquito’s. We just lean into betrayal as if it's a justification, I just wrote this to be there before the betrayal happens. Most people do know we cross many roads without even looking along the way you could lose a lot. Just a thought, about how betrayal would get Summarized more differently. Peace.
@kristenmarie9248Ай бұрын
So real, and truthful. Well said. Collecting red flags does not create a bouquet of red roses.
@michaelgoldberg7403Ай бұрын
Dr C. Took a chance on a promotion in a very political bureaucracy. too many mirrors to figure out fast enough and failed probation on a technicality. Public. Painful. On purpose. I had beaten a narc triangulation (waited it out) and earned the promotion but was waylaid. Poisonous org. Some real psycopathy in some of the leadership written off as politics as usual. No room to just be me while doing the same for others. No quid pro quo. Just conformity. Not growth. Change is coming but I got sidelined. The narcs fight it at every turn. Never give a suckered an even break. A sense of fair play made me a sucker. But it took bigger narcs than just the local net i had mastered thru prior experience to bring me down this time. And if it had not been this time, it would have been the next or the next. They keep on the attack. Really have to have a culture that doesn't tolerate narcs but it seems like the reverse, for now, is still the norm. I feel like I've been made into a don Quixote role (Ala James Baldwin's comments) because they needed me to be that. I didn't want to be seen that way.
@PantaRhei-wz5znАй бұрын
One person can only last/ hold out so long, if you are only 1 individual and they are plenty. Once an organisation has exceeded a critical percentage of narcs, it is toast anyway. YOu cannot save it, nor survive in it. Its NOT YOU. + You need time to recuperate & rest on a regular basis (this sort of chronic stress is horrid to your body's nervous system ) It is not possible to do this indefin. without getting health complaints further down the line. Its not worth it. Your health is most important, do not give it away to a bunch of assholes... Then they win & you lose (sometimes even permanently) Go do something else, somewhere else, & take your health with you. You deserve it.
@Rachel-mz8koАй бұрын
❤
@linpearson5846Ай бұрын
Please can you touch on your adult child who you really love being the narcissist. My daughter is 40, she is so sweet to everyone outside her family but absolute narcissistic to her family especially me as her mother. She hurts me so much, if I want to see my Granddaughters I have to pay her x amount per child just to see them. How does one handle this?
@kristenmarie9248Ай бұрын
What?! She is "p!mp!ng 0ut" her children for her own financial gain? 😮 That's sick.
@SigmaEmpataLevanteАй бұрын
I am a gay man seaching for another not narcissist gay man
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Be the healthy one!
@rg-mi5hhАй бұрын
Pray that God delivers you from this sin and you can find a woman that will be good to you. Fix that first, get right withGod and trust him. No judgment here. The Bible says it is sin.
@roxymovie3938Ай бұрын
@@rg-mi5hh Nobody needs your unsolicited advice or gaslighting on this platform. May God bless you with more insight and mercy.
@martyvirtue4051Ай бұрын
That is a very difficult statement. I am a gay man myself. I have only encountered narcissists in the so called gay scene. It is indeed not a healthy pool to fish in to meet a potential partner. I would love to meet a nice gay guy who is not a narcissist but I have become hyper vigilant to every potential love material. Unfortunately I am probably not living close to you. 🇳🇱 Ate logo! 🥂
@unbridledaudacity9694Ай бұрын
"Seek support elsewhere." This is glib?
@user-ei9cd8jg1iАй бұрын
THANK YOU LES!! AND GOD BLESS YOU!! HAPPY 4TH OF JULY!!
@caroleminke6116Ай бұрын
I ♥️ Dr C & he’s saving lives with his videos as well as Team Healthy, but I have come to believe that true peace lies on the other side of this lifetime. While I hope to heal more & finish strong, I no longer want to extend the experience. I’m 66 now & counting the time it will take to find peace everlasting ❤️🩹
@SurvivingNarcissismАй бұрын
Look me up when you get there!!
@marysuzannajayne1340Ай бұрын
I’m leaving a long distance relationship… in the process. My situation is based on disrespect I believe was inflicted on me and my son who was injured in the military. He broke his back at a young age and while you can’t see his disability… he experiences crippling pain if he “ over does it” and it can trigger PTSD for him. My soon to be ex knows allll about my son’s injury because I have told him, many times. It’s as if my narcissistic ex just discarded what I told him. My son feels compelled to go and help this dude because of me. And because he is respectful to elders… he lost his own father about 10 years ago. When I confronted the ex, he pitched a fit and started saying mean things about my son. So I am done. I haven’t heard from in in about a week, and with each passing day and no phone call, the more content I am to move on. Am I overthinking this? There have been other issues too, him trying to tell me what to do and then getting frustrated with me when I politely decline the idea!
@t_nelsАй бұрын
I.M.O. it is time to run.
@MzNettyBirdАй бұрын
🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽 spot on Dr C!!!
@MaybeLikeWaterАй бұрын
How do I ever overcome having him and his mother fake a protective orders and take our 5 month old baby for 15 days without contact until the hearing when she was finally returned to me. This happened during my PhD program and had no family or resources to help. Something integral broke inside me at that time. And the ongoing onslaught of unfounded legal motions has continued for 9 years. I was once a promising archaeologist and now I am half a person with a PhD , which I often believe is Pain and Disbelief Studies.