7 mindset habits on how to overcome insecurities: self-esteem & body image

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IG: / rowenatsai | Insecurities. We all have them, but none of us are born with them. If we ever want to develop a healthy relationship with our self-esteem and body image, we have to first learn where our insecurities truly stem from. Over the years, I’ve come to realize, internalize, and re-learn time and time again that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. This is why prioritizing healthy mindset habits are so important and essential during times where we’re spending more time than ever on social media. Having spend a good chunk of my life valuing my worth based off of external validation and how perfect I can appear, I hope this video can help remind us that we’re so much more than our looks. What’s on the outside fades with time, and when it does, what are we left with? If we spend as much time nurturing and tending to our inner world as we’ve done with our outer, magical, magical thing will happen. 😉✨
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0:00 Intro
0:57 1) Learn how the world works
5:18 2) Be mindful of what you consume
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@alwaysyoutome19 3 жыл бұрын

5:33 "It doesn't make sense to compare your twenty-four hours to someone's 1-sec photo from their highlight reel of their day" really got to me, I needed to hear this

@lexireis8431 3 жыл бұрын

I’m the 111 comment woah

@DrLizListens 3 жыл бұрын

If you're reading this...This is a positive sign. You're right where you need to be. You are beautiful. You are brilliant. You are enough. May all your worries wash away and you find pockets of peace throughout your day 💗 Dr. Liz

@prerza 3 жыл бұрын

thank u so much, 💗. right back at u!

@DrLizListens 3 жыл бұрын

@@prerza I appreciate you! ✨

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

grateful for your words, Dr. Liz 🙏🏻💕

@shreyakedia9815 3 жыл бұрын

I have tears in my eyes as i write this, thank you so much. Thank you, thank you so much. ♥️ god bless you. Sending love and positivity ✨

@DrLizListens 3 жыл бұрын

@@shreyakedia9815 thank you so much for sharing! Blessings! 💗

@oumaima.bouhaddou 3 жыл бұрын

- Me running to the kitchen to make a coffee and lay in bed absorbing her wise words :‘)

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

hehe ☕️🌻✨ grateful for you!

@kirahenry260 3 жыл бұрын

@BrieannaBugatti 3 жыл бұрын

Same. Literally.

@the360lifejourneywithaself5 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a good way to absorb some wise words to me!

@clementine4133 3 жыл бұрын

Will do that asap.

@joshshortt9599 3 жыл бұрын

The most difficult time to like yourself is when you fail to get what you want. What good are you to yourself if you can't get what you want? Well, it is okay to not be good enough to get what you want, because you aren't on this planet to get what you want. You're here to learn what you need. Not getting what you want can be one of the best learning experiences you'll ever have.

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

absolutely. and that's all the more reason why we should love & cheer for ourselves when things don't end up panning out as we imagined. I'd like to believe that the universe is constantly showing / sharing lessons with us until we learn and internalize them 😌✨

@daisyisareader9892 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this, lately I’ve been falling more and more into depression because I can’t do what I want to do

@nc2458 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@444mateo5 2 жыл бұрын

needed to hear this thank you

@lauravalentinaavendano2338 2 жыл бұрын

this really got to me, i feel like i needed to hear it so much, thanks.

@Mideezhanti 3 жыл бұрын

Anyone else feel like it's easier to be LESS critical of others than you are of yourself?

@doughartley3513 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, true. We are our own worst critic. It’s easier to criticize ourselves than risk criticism of others.

@the360lifejourneywithaself5 3 жыл бұрын

For me, I've definitely found it is easier to give others a break over myself. However, I've noticed that the kinder I am to myself, the kinder I've become to others. Weird, right?

@Sunshine-yk2eg 3 жыл бұрын

This is very random but I used to edit my pictures before posting on instagram A LOT (like I'd spend hours on one pic because because I wanted it to look pretty but not heavily edited which is stupid because i did edit heavily lol) I used to think i was very non photogenic. And i was. But not because I was ugly but because in pictures i just looked very stiff and strange because I was constantly trying to pose nicely and keep all the angles nice and "just like that instagram girl who looks perfect in pictures". But I realized that I don't wanna look back on my feed and see a bunch of wannabe pics, trying too hard to look pretty. I want to see moments. And happiness and authenticity. So now i just take a lot of goofy and candid pics, and don't edit myself at all and just try to find the perfect filter that captures the vibe and my mood at that time perfectly. It's so much nicer to look back on my feed now. Because I don't see altered images of myself that make me wanna cringe and puke but I see moments that I cherish. So yeah :)

@valeriaespinosan 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for this

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

I love love love this. went through very similar experiences myself 🙈😬💕

@chatonsacrement7454 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! You're so wise. This is vast wisdom and self-control. I'm taking a break from social media right now, and I'm not sure if I want to go back there. I'll meditate on it during this break, but if I'm going to use IG again, I'll follow this advice for sure. Thank you again. May your life be full of health, love and happiness. ❤

@kubrab8201 3 жыл бұрын

About being jealous of someone who is “better” than us, I learned a way to get rid of overjealousy. You should pray for the person that you jealous for their particular quality that makes you jealous to increase! If you’re jealous about their success, pray for them to be more successful, if it is about the beauty, pray for them to be more beautiful. (actually being jealous is normal, but it may harm us if it is too much as you talked about it Rowena). It is an islamic advice and it is sooo hard to do. But I tried it and it works! Maybe it’ll work for other people in here... Love your content as always Rowena, you’re the best

@sobean9309 3 жыл бұрын

That's interesting! What change did you notice exactly?

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

love this reframing. I feel that this can help you indirectly practice gratitude? thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🏻💕

@screamingbanshee1282 3 жыл бұрын

I just tell myself how much better I am than them

@OO-ct4hq 3 жыл бұрын

@@screamingbanshee1282 oop-

@spritelover2683 3 жыл бұрын

Im probably going start crying and having panic attack if im starting to pray for that person beauty to be more beautiful...

@NoneYa-pg6dk 3 жыл бұрын

As some who was a people pleaser, low self-esteem, and depressed, you hit every spot that took years to learn and overcome. I’m still struggling from time to time. It’s content like yours that reminds me of what my value truly is. So thank you. Keep up the good work.

@leslys1727 3 жыл бұрын

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@SamElle 3 жыл бұрын

i have been more conscious about the things I consume and I realize that even though I may not realize it, I ACTUALLY AM AFFECTED BY LIKE THE POSTS I SEE ON INSTAGRAM!!!

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

sameeee 🙈

@nightofsummerside 3 жыл бұрын

Rowena: *mimicking ads* KZfaq : interrupts with ads '' your xxx should look like this, that's why you need xxx'' Me : PROPAGANDA!

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😅

@joshshortt9599 3 жыл бұрын

A video I'd like to see pertaining to this topic: dealing with perfectionism and insecurities when job hunting (this brings out my insecurities more than anything).

@fizaaman4603 3 жыл бұрын

I deleted my Twitter and Instagram because I felt like it was spreading so much negativity in my life.now it's been 3weeks , I hope I can continue this. And I have been feeling really good.

@ra1ng1rl 3 жыл бұрын

Omg I deleted Twitter and Instagram too and it’s currently been 2 days and I feel soo fresh and alive it really is toxic and I see myself changing for the better

@Gatozparty 9 ай бұрын

I’ve been so insecure lately for a few months now, and I always tend to not overthink about these type of things, but I’m glad I watched this video because it changed my perspective on a lot of things, I know that it’ll take time, but eventually I’ll reach a point where im content with everything I have :)

@DemiandDavid04 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 33 and I love watching you. I have come to really love my journey of evolution. Although I wish I could’ve known these things in my 20s, I’m grateful TO HAVE learned them. Getting older is beautiful if we take away the vanity because our souls evolve so much, if we allow them to and give them that opportunity.

@doughartley3513 3 жыл бұрын

Seeing yourself in the third person will allow you a perspective to see your souls evolution more clearly. Love and service. That’s all it boils down to.

@edithcortez4023 3 жыл бұрын

"there's so many Kylie Jenners around the world" This is gold

@SashaThePanda 3 жыл бұрын

The moment you take all the energy you put into everyone else and switch up that energy onto yourself is the moment your life will significantly change for the better. 💕 Great video & great advice really enjoyed this

@bnicolette14 3 жыл бұрын

So true 💕

@daelu7265 3 жыл бұрын

Love this comment 💜

@amethystdreams9293 3 жыл бұрын

I remember as a very small child starting school being uncomfortable around the adults and children (I wasn’t socialized much when I was young) and eventually I realized I was having full blown panic attacks on the daily from the stress of my social anxiety. I still have it as a grown adult.😖😢 it really sucks.

@fondalilly 3 жыл бұрын

How is it that both this upload and last have me crying because I needed them so badly

@joshshortt9599 3 жыл бұрын

Crying ---The Sequel.

@rowena 3 жыл бұрын

🥺😭💕 sending you the biggest bear hug Fonda!!!

@huagraphie 3 жыл бұрын

Didn't know I needed this video until I got this notification ❤️ Rowena gets us ❤️

@user-xj5ln9yi6q 3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️。

@Alisha.10 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. It gave me a lot to think about. I was a happy kid until I got bullied in school, it has affected me in almost every aspect of my life. I never had body image/self esteem issues until the bullying started and it still has an affect on me almost 18 years later. I can’t bring myself to do certain hairstyles, wear certain clothes or take pictures because of it. I hardly have any pictures of my teen years or even 20s which is so sad. I was looking into getting surgery to fix it but if I have children, my future child could inherit what I changed 🤷🏽‍♀️

@yazzyraka5959 3 жыл бұрын

her: when we strip everything, what is left me: BONES her: this is where inner beauty comes from me: oh.... ps: my heart kinda fluttered when you hug us omg

@hannahpanda365 3 жыл бұрын

rowena never fails to ground me and truly realize what’s important, thank u ❤️

@KristenChittock 3 жыл бұрын

I had the same experience literally 10 years later feeling like I look younger and more glowing and happy than I did in my early 20's -- loved this video so well put together

@sowmyakolli5392 3 жыл бұрын

this was so needed, thanks Rowena. love what you do on this platform.

@Depphead57 2 жыл бұрын

This is the first video I’ve ever watched of yours because I was having such a hard time with my feelings and my insecurities have been destroying all my relationships and you’ve helped me so much in these 21 minutes. Such good advice and you’re such a sweet person your good vibes radiated onto me through the phone. I’m really so grateful for you and your channel more people need to see this

@amber._. 3 жыл бұрын

I am so happy I found this channel a few years ago... I have ups and downs in how much these videos help me, but even if I can't do anything with the information, they are still very soothing to watch/listen to. They always help in some way ✨

@CassieWinter 3 жыл бұрын

You're so right about being mindful about what you consume. Curating my IG feed so that I always come away from scrolling feeling good and/or having learned something has been a huge part of my healing journey.

@celinem4709 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been down lately and you make me feel safe. thank you Rowena for what you’re doing, it really is valuable ❤️

@danikagalicia3766 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for creating these wonderful videos, rowena! I’m really glad I found your channel. You’re such a blessing to us, your sweetest potatoes 🥺 stay safe and healthy! ❤️ Always praying for you!

@soundariyawankhede3637 3 жыл бұрын

right in time when i’m having a bad day. i so love you ro! 🥺❤️

@rylee4268 3 жыл бұрын

I love your other styles of videos so much but I particularly love when you sit and talk to the camera. It feels so personal and like I’m getting all of this advice from a sweet friend. You’re a treasure, Rowena. And your videos have impacted me more than anyone else’s. 💜

@Mithrandeer 3 жыл бұрын

So glad I came across your channel. I suffer from depression and anxiety , had a bad day and have been binge watching your videos all night. I think your content is incredible and so impactful. I’ve had a much better night thanks to your videos. Happy to support !

@helenfong3339 3 жыл бұрын

Everything you said is "exactly" what I needed to hear. I was in the beauty industry. So, you can imagine what goes through my mind. I am SO grateful that I found you! :)

@elin280 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos make me all warm and fuzzy inside! You truly spread positivity in the world and we're so grateful for it!!

@michelleballinger5243 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. This had me tearing up on the treadmill at the gym. This hit home. Your delivery was great; charismatic and fun. But your message was so deep and wasnt lost. Thank you for this video. So proud of you (and thankful) for finding your true self and sharing it with the world.

@summertee 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Rowena, just want to drop a message to tell you that I really enjoy all the wisdom you're sharing with us. It has helped me through some tough times. So glad to stumble upon your channel. Thank you!

@mariahjayaraj8183 3 жыл бұрын

So glad I came across your channel! Sounds like you’ve done a LOT of inner work & it’s so wonderful to see how transparent you are with your viewers. Thank you! I’m also working on myself and it’s not pretty but I know that there is so much value in it. Hoping I’ll stay sane during the course! I will definitely be binging on your content for a few nights to catch up! Love from Australia ✨

@RadioBalloon 3 жыл бұрын

I love that you mentioned Edward Bernays and advertisement!! Realizing that my body insecurities stemmed from advertisements and companies creating problems that didn't previously exist (like beliving cellulite is unnatural and a sign of bad health) completely changed the relationship I had with my body :)

@Loj057 3 жыл бұрын

I love the way how cheerful you are in every video, it just encourages people to love and accept themselves even more including me. You are like a savior to every person who's drowning in their own deep thoughts. I love you!

@chileshechanda3742 3 жыл бұрын

Rowena Tsai videos are +/- 20 minutes long and each time, with reflections and taking notes it takes me +/- 60 minutes to get through. Such GREAT information. Thank you!

@bettinalaursen2371 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your wise words! I’m gonna go in and unfollow everyone that I compare myself to in a negative way🥰

@asleung988 2 жыл бұрын

This is the first time I’ve heard someone say something that’s so raw and real and rarely said online/at all. Thank you for making me feel less alone :’)

@duoma8630 3 жыл бұрын

This is so good! I am actually writing down these points on my journal, and I can so some self-reflection exercise later:) Thank you for sharing Rowena!

@reedhwanasyed-ahmed1755 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much ! This video actually calmed me down while I was spiraling with insecurities. I'm.having a really hard time with acne/acne scars, I'm doing my best with all the skincare knowledge out there but it's taking so much time for my skin to heal and I cant stop thinking how much my clear skin from back then was the thing that made me look decent. Im not a pretty girl and ive accepted that fact last year but now , I dont even have clear skin so I dont even look decent. I just feel yucky and that I wont find love because no guys my age( genZ) would even be interested in me. I dont even feel like I have that great of a personnality, I think I'm actually very basic, there's nothing special about me. So even my "inner beauty" cant compensate for the acne. Ouff im drowning in my insecurities. I would love a video like this just for acne positivity, I would be so grateful :') ❤

@luanatassorocha6487 3 жыл бұрын

I’m currently going through some mental illnesses and your hug has been well received by my arms, thank you for these wise words Ro, you make such a difference, congrats for what you’ve become. Kisses from brazil 😊

@Mari-ph7ox 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. :) I was just thinking about this subject and I'm going to take it as a sign! I'm going to start working on my inner beauty rather than focusing on the physical aspects of myself that I can't change. 💜🌱

@sereenity 3 жыл бұрын

Rowena, this is such an excellent video. I am definitely sharing this with my daughter and nieces. You gave such a powerful message and I am truly greatful to you for that. Keep being you!

@laurenfields678 2 жыл бұрын

I just found Rowena’s page today and I immediately subscribed!! Thank you for your videos. I recently accepted a new job where I’ll be managing my own team. I really want to become more organized and comfortable managing again, so I can relate to my team well. I have a few insecurities when it come to starting this new position, I value myself and the company so, I want to overachieve the expectations given to me. I’m blessed for this opportunity and your videos are definitely helping me ground myself to do well and not feed into those insecurities I was exposed too. Especially when I can make some changes to my mindset and download a few great apps to help me feel prepared. (Plus, creepily looking in the background of your videos to get book recommendations) hehe ☺️

@andreabarbozachavez3647 3 жыл бұрын

never stop doing this kind of videos 😻 they really get me back on track! Love your channel!!! Thank youu 💝💝💝

@barbaraquaye9273 3 жыл бұрын

15:46 I have felt the same way- more personal beauty equals more love shared with me! This has been a great video with lots of great quotes. Thank you Rowena❤️

@ishitaduhan3683 3 жыл бұрын

I don't know what it is but whenever I am in trouble with my feelings and the so called sadness and insecurities or whatever the topic is everytime.......like literally everytime Rowena comes up with a video with the very content I was in a need...let's not say need but more of 'want'........is it only me who experience this.............other than this thankyou very much for being such creative and nice... i love you so so much...love from India

@felicitase9727 3 жыл бұрын

I am really thankful for your channel. To be honest, I just discovered your channel and this video was the first of yours that I have watched, but I feel like you are a person who has a really good influence on people, even though I barely know you. I myself am a teenage girl with many insecurities and I really needed this video. Thank you so much for this!💕

@0kur123 3 жыл бұрын

this is the most beautiful and educational 20 minutes of my day. im glad i spent it listening from a beautiful soul✨

@pollylambert800 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Rowena. I think I needed to hear that. I started a new school this year and lately my mind has been consumed with how I measure up to others intellectually and how others perceive me. Sometimes I forget to think about how I view, value and enjoy myself.

@Desiclara Жыл бұрын

I just came across your channel when I was struggling and this helped a lot THANK YOU 💗 def changed my mindset for the better

@kendra_inchains 2 жыл бұрын

you just helped me so much. i am a minor who was introduced to mature things at a young age [didn't have much of a childhood] i had early signs of depression, and was insecure when i was 6. i have no clue how but you help my trauma of 9 years in 20 minutes. thank you so much

@ThePowerOfPurpose Жыл бұрын

Social media definitely has played a part in my insecurities over the years. Even though I know the images are curated they can still evoke a sense of 'longing' when something looks so perfect, even though you know it isn't! I find when I limit my time on social media I feel much better. Thanks so much for this video ❤

@melodicexotic 3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate your openness to share your previous self and the mental state you were in. I think this year has been quite a transformative year for myself as it gave me an opportunity to reassess myself professionally and personally. Through that, I've come to respect myself more, develop a stronger understanding of my self, and talk back to my negative thoughts. I'd love to see more content on further understanding of the self!

@athsyl 2 жыл бұрын

The hug at the end scratched an itch in my brain :') I've been quite hurtful to myself and the people around me these last few years. I'm trying to change but it feels like I'm going round in circles. What you said in this video really struck a chord with me, and I really like your energy! I'm going to keep trying, thank you.

@malenasuarez6035 3 жыл бұрын

I am so so so grateful to have discovered your channel this afternoon !!! I was really having some ugly moments in my life, where I didn't feel comfortable with myself and I feel like having met you is a great sign, I agree so much with what you said in the whole video. It helped me to reflect and think a lot, I can't stop watching your videos you are a beautiful person, thank you for using your resources for something as important as mental health! Another thing is that I do not know how this whole KZfaq theme works, but please keep putting substitutions !! I am from Argentina and it helps me so much, I listened to many people talk about this and I just couldn't connect with them, but you are WOW. greetings and hugs💘 have a nice day. kisses from Argentina

@annamarczuk2030 2 жыл бұрын

The hug at end was very sweet. Thank you 🤗

@roieegliccianicolettedepam7585 3 жыл бұрын

You are such a beautiful person!! thank you so much for making this video

@lesegod8051 3 жыл бұрын

To be honest, I didn't expect you to be so vulnerable and to go into so much depth with this issue. I struggle TREMENDOUSLY with self-esteem and it really has crippled me and even caused some unhealthy habits. I really needed this. Thank you! Much love from South Africa :)

@cashmerehazel21 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Ro, please talk about how to *not allow toxic people and environment get to us.* Great video and it shows you read quite a bit and love all the quote snippets throughout this video. ❤️❤️❤️

@leslys1727 3 жыл бұрын

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@amandaeppolito 2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely loved this Rowena. Thank you for having such a positive impact on your audience!!

@glamfab16 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t speak for anyone else, but you have helped me more than you’ll probably ever know. I am so thankful for you, your journey and your commitment to sharing it all with us. I have gone from a complete potato to someone I didn’t even think I was capable of becoming. I hope that I continue to grow, and when I do, I will continue to the thankful for you, your guidance and your transparency.

@alyu_starlight6118 3 жыл бұрын

First of all, that shark plushie is SO CUTE

@leslys1727 3 жыл бұрын

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@Anonymous-xm7rf 3 жыл бұрын

Wow. The timing of this is definitely uncanny. I had a moment of sadness and insecurity right now and this popped up. Thank you.

@jackwynne2823 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're ok remember we're all beautiful in our own way 😊😊😊

@hazelmonteagudo9644 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Rowena! I just found your channel after experiencing a really bad situation where I ended up questioning my morals, faith, and relationships around me. It seems that I ultimately care too much and this video helped me a lot in understanding my insecurities and the root cause of why I still expresses toxicity in my relationships. Something I found which ultimately helped me come to terms with my insecurities is by writing them down and doing a self-reflection of how I've changed in the past year. Anyway, thank you!

@katherineeromfgxs 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for this! looking forward to the perfectionism video bc i really struggle with it

@WordsPictures997 3 жыл бұрын

Rowena you are just AMAZING! Such a great example of healthy, grounded female empowerment. Absolutely beautiful inside and out. I am soooo grateful you are on these internet streets. Thank you for being you, for the work you do and all you share.

@nehainthebay 3 жыл бұрын

It is so easy to compare and feel worse. I think if we do what we believe in, whether it is in our actions or appearance, we stay strong. If we let others’ judgements rule our belief in ourselves, we become insecure. Thanks for sharing.

@schannelclariesa5860 3 жыл бұрын

On 15:44, when you said that you knew the thought didn’t make sense but it still affected you, omg this is sooooo true! I love reading about psychology so I am conscious when it’s happening that my thoughts are not benefiting me in any way, but it’s so hard to get rid of them. I just try to practice gratitude when this happens. Thank you for sharing your insight Rowena. It was so helpful!!🌻

@aadishrisoni3638 3 жыл бұрын

It's morning and Ro posted a video❤️❤️❤️❤️ what a lovely day

@kaulika705 3 жыл бұрын

OMG OMG OMG ROWENAAA!! You literally always give anything I need to hear in the very right time, OMG. You're so precious... I hope you stay healthy & stay positive Rowena!! 🥰🥺🥺 Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. ❤

@leticiafranca6875 3 жыл бұрын

I love it so much how you ended the video with a hug. you deserve love, thank you for saying that I deserve too

@jimmykhalo 3 жыл бұрын

I stumbled upon your video prolly because KZfaq recommended it to me after I uploaded my very first full KZfaq content yesterday about the same topic- INSECURITIES! Keep up the good work, you're inspiring!

@caitlyngardner2374 3 жыл бұрын

I just found your channel and I’m so grateful. This is exactly the kind of guidance I think I was craving. You’re awesome thank you for talking about these sort of topics!

@priscillajimenez27 3 жыл бұрын

You are so wise beyond your years. I wish my younger sister would be willing to watch this video. I've always been an outcast because I never cared that much about others thoughts and found commercials funny and wasn't into social media but my sister's self esteem is based on all that stuff you mentioned and she's on a toxic self destructive path right now. I wish she was friends with people like you than the people she's around now. My big thing is perfectionism that I need to not stress so much about because I'm my own worse critic. Thank you for your amazing videos. You are always an inspiration. If people can pray for my sister and my family that'd be appreciated. 🙏

@moonlight-bg7gy 3 жыл бұрын

You are the only one who I turned on that notification bell for.you are helping me so much, picking me up whenever I feel depressed.I really really love u 😍❤❤

@natt3212 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed this video, especially now when I'm always at home so I end up comparing my life to my friends' lives because they all have jobs and are getting busy. And I'm always thinking "why don't I have a job yet? am I not good enough?" I want to be more at peace with where I am and I'm trying to tell myself to be anchored and keep working on myself without comparison.

@aliciafaithconcepcion4624 3 жыл бұрын

just finished my online classes, this is refreshing! ✨

@bandzbandzbandz42 Жыл бұрын

thank you so much rowena from 2 years ago for making these type of videos!! so lost while so young, but one thing i know is i dont want to fall back into those bad habits of mine. and your videos really solidify that goal of mine!!! plus youre right, i looked so much older 2 years ago than i do now its so mind boggling HAHAHA

@xuan3411 2 жыл бұрын

thank you rowena , this helped me a lot. i really like the ship analogy, it helped me logically frame things. thank you!

@lenateresa4863 3 жыл бұрын

I loooove this so much! thanks for your raw honesty! also, one can always see how much effort you put into your videos 💚

@annleyson1180 3 жыл бұрын

This video is "WOW!". Well, I can say that I have a great weekend because of you Rowena. Thank you! I wish I could have a best friend like you. I need more people in my life with a character like yours 🥰

@leslys1727 3 жыл бұрын

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@Sentimental-ity 2 жыл бұрын

You articulated inner beauty so well. You helped me understand what I value a little bit more and I appreciate you for that. Thank you 😊💕

@paulas5008 3 жыл бұрын

No words to thank Rowena for making this video

@Shelleylohues 3 жыл бұрын

This is so perfect for me right now thank you Rowena ❤️

@NishaChhetri 3 жыл бұрын

This is random but like, for quite some days your name, Rowena Tsai has been crossing my mind frequently, I found myself saying Rowena Tsai in my Mind and then a few days ago I came across your video on my KZfaq but I wasn’t bothered to watch it, but today I clicked on this video, and wow, I needed this. So much. As well as all the recommendations you mentioned. Thank you!

@nevillelongbottom1628 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Rowana! I've binged your videos over Covid, I've now caught up and watched absolutely every video you've ever made! I'm happy because I feel like we are on such similar journeys. We are a similar age and both have a social media presense where we feel the need to make deadlines and lead people. I wanted to give you a challenge! You often say things in "groups of 3" - for example you often will start a sentence and give three different endings. "All of this makes you think about your life, makes you consider your daily actions, makes you... .... ... think about what you do and why you do it". So there will frequently be a large pause before the third item. The reason for this pause is that you've already made your point but you want to make 3 items because it's more whole and rounded than 2 items. I would challenge you to try to say it in one. And just repeat that 1 item. Reason why: it will focus your writing (I know most of this is scripted) and it will force you to find the point and reiterate that instead of following a rule of 3. You dont need to eliminate the rule of 3 every time. It's just a great way to challenge yourself in your writing! Thanks so much for all you do!

@matildalow7625 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this timely video Rowena, it is so easy to forget these things when we get caught up with our troubles, but this has truly been a great reminder of the values that I try to live by. Thank you

@yoongi-agust6920 3 жыл бұрын

I love how active you’ve been with your videos, but i love how much you talk about changing habit methods, mindset, meditation, etc. I enjoy watching your videos and listening to you talk about “Problems” that I face every day. I would love for you to make a video talking about the 5-10 top books you’ve read and loved, books about meditation, changing habits, motivation, productivity. I always see you quoting some authors, so I am curious of the books you have read, maybe i can check some of them out since i love reading.

@MarielaMerino 3 жыл бұрын

I love the hug at the end. Thanks so much

@youstinamilad5324 2 жыл бұрын

What's so good about this video that she's just talking from her mind really in to it not just some fake empty words thrown to our faces left us more empty

@us3r003 2 жыл бұрын

10:10 this! You put in words what I've been thinking for some time now,my concept was something along the lines of "if I know my character then I'll be unwavering" cause I was always a people pleaser or maybe kind of a pushover. I always strived to make everyone happy even if it costed my self respect or mental health,something I wanted to do,etc. Fellow people pleasers might understand lol ^^' And losing respect and confidence in yourself really affects your self image yk,it really hurts when you start to doubt yourself,you don't believe in yourself anymore cause you always put other people first;It's not a nice feeling cause now you need to restore that trust you should've gotten from the first person that's supposed to help you and support you:yourself. Broken trust is always a hard thing to get back,especially if everyone around you exploited that particularly weak trait of yours. So now you're left in a lonely battle against the external forces that might push you back on the track you've been on all this time and a broken,untrusting sense of self that helps in all that pushing from outside. Despite being in the worst state you've ever been on until now,ironically, you have to be stronger than ever now,to help yourself and finally become someone you can be proud of. I wish you everyone luck on this journey,I know it's hard,I'm still trying to achieve it and keep it that way but i made some small improvements for now. Keep your head high! You're your own best company,I believe you can become someone you will enjoy being around eventually. Ps: No proofreading,we die like men lol I hope it's understandable and thanks for reading this far xD Edit:I apologize,I'm not good with words so it's really messy

@drumrgrl721 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely LOVE that she gives hugs! I can’t believe that I could feel it through the video lol 🥰🤗 I actually really needed that today, so thank you ❤️ Life has been really rough lately 🤦‍♀️

@Tashinga 3 жыл бұрын

i love you. you've literally changed my life

@erickabae 3 жыл бұрын

I always seek advice on your videos and having a hard time with life, it gives me hope. Thank you for existing Rowena.

@aiyakim290 2 жыл бұрын

this is the first vid of yours that I watched and at the ending part of it, I was like "she's so cute I want to hug her love her so much 😭" and then you started you saying you'll give a hug!!!! thank you!!! it was just such a nice thing to have come accross this video of yours!! lots of love!! ♥️♥️