God is the foundation of EVERYTHING. Without Him nothing is possible.

When they say that women just want the big beautiful wedding but they don't want the marriage itself, it also applies to many men too because godly people are in it for the Long Haul with each other and for the Lord! I am taking time to build a relationship with God, reading the bible and trying to find Fellowship in a church that tells the gospel like it is and I will never settle for an unbeliever ever again!

We need at minimum 10 million more black men like Shumake's way. For real! It's hard for us single women in Christ and I know for some men in Christ too to find a virtuous true woman in Christ. A guy comes after you then to find out he's fake, not walking in integrity or true Godliness. Not delivered from sin just maybe discplined in certain areas. Lord help us and keep us all even more until that Godly living man finds his wife and us be ready, waiting and praying for when we are found. In Jesus name! Hallelujah!

Put God first. You’re relationship with Him will determine the type of relationship you’ll have with others including your spouse. The first commandment is clear and it’s a reason why it is first. The problem is that most people gloss over it and as a result invite all kinds of problems into their lives.

It’s great to hear how committed you are with wife. Men need to hear that more ⭐️⭐️

So many people don't know how to stay married. No one has taught them. People are pressured to be married but where are their mentors? I was taught to talk to people who can mentor me. I've even had older couples tell me not to get married because THEY are unhappy. Bad advice! Always seek wise counsel for your life-marriage, finances, mental health, spiritual life. Pray for yourself and your spouse❤

Brother Shumake I believe that you have been faithful to your wife. I can tell by the vibes from your podcasts that you are a genuine MOG. I have discernment and I can feel it. Keep up the great content from a Biblical perspective. Amen God bless you and your family 🙏🏽

I already know this will be a classic because the Word of God will be preached. Praise the Lord.

This makes so much sense! Marriage can only be maintained under the covenant of the Almighty God, Most High 🙏🏽🙏🏽💯

Working with broken marriages and relationships with children, I can tell you that it is the children who suffer the most from our immature actions - children are our future and broken children are not likely to be good parents, so the cycle continues in our community and our community is falling apart as a result - we should focus on the greater good more often and not just our individual wants.

I really want to see more black men/husbands/fathers speak with such wisdom and positivity about marriage. It's really needed. Not to make it about race, but the black culture has a lot going on that could be fixed by families and marriages dedicated to GOD.

As the wonderful late Elisabeth Elliot says, “love gives up itself.” Marriage requires a complete commitment and selflessness towards another person. We are called to have a servant heart ♥️. God given us scripture for loving our spouse. Beside our marriage bed lies a lovely card inscribed with the scripture of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, serving as a constant reminder of love. “Love is patient, love it kind. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” ✝️🌷🙏🏾

I appreciate, you, this channel, and this message so very much. I am engaged and some major circumstances have come up that are beyond me and my man's control. I am with him and supporting him 100% through the dark times. I had dinner with a girlfriend and when she asked me about it, she then suggested I leave because I'm focusing so much on him even though he has no capacity to do the same. I was so disappointed and a bit hurt. Marriage is so much deeper than ego strokes and getting attention. It takes being selfless and committed no matter what. I feel so many people are more focused on the good times and how they feel as individuals. The thought of leaving the man I love while he is at his lowest just because he's unable to "give to me"... I just can't imagine. God gives us the obstacles so we have the option to come out better. God's way is the only way.

God comes first in marriage. He always does and always will. Your marriage cannot thrive without HIM. In this order.. God, husband, wife and then children. God created man and woman. Keyword is CREATED!! He gave us life. We owe him everything. It's that simple!

I appreciate him mentioning that he was raised in a single parent household. It really does affect how most of us see marriage and relationships in general growing up that way. This video had encouraged ppl like me in similar situations that it is possible to find "love in a hopless place" if we continue to put God in our lives 🙏

Shumake. Can you do a video for single women who are desiring for marriage and are waiting on God and getting impatient at times? Can you go over what the word says about waiting in the season of singleness. Love your videos! I learn so much from them. Truly making me want to let every action in my life be a reflection of him every single day!

I love coming to your channel and listening. It's so informative. It's such a blessing to me. Please, I hope you continue to give us information about this worldly things and scriptures to back it up. Thank you young man. This is so positive. 🙏🏾 🎯 @The Shumake Way

I just do not get this mentality, but part of the problem is that society makes it seem as though people are defective if they are single and don't have children. A partner/child is not an accessory to discard when we get tired of them. We have to get out of this just dating for dating sake and think about the people we give our time and energy to.

I truly wish there were more men out here like you. You are so spot on on what you are talking about and that is all I've been looking for in my life for a man in my life and can't find it. 😢

The Bible justifies separation, meaning to live apart.... Other than Moses allowing it, divorce was never allowed. The heart posture should always be on reconciliation, even in the worst of situations. But separate if it's necessary.

So glad you redid a video on this clip because I felt the first video was severely lacking and was a missed opportunity to talk about key bible versus.

Pray all is well with you and your family 🙏🏾 Miss your messages!

My mom just had this conversation today, how giving up is not an option UNLESS it’s abuse and infidelity.

When a person (not the commenter, the woman in the video) is this selfish and doesn't think about the other person's needs, they shouldn't get married. That woman isn't mature enough to be in a relationship. A mature woman understands that a relationship and marriage requires sacrifice, and the same can be said for emotionally mature men. Marriage is a partnership between two good people who are compatible and share solid values and respect and care for each other. This is the ideal situation to bring forth children into. Also, both parties need to be selfless enough to sacrifice time, resources, effort, love, and care for the children and for each other. It cannot be a one sided thing. From what I grew up with, the men in my family sacrificed all of this for the family. Same was expected from the women. If I meet a man who expects me to sacrifice but refuses to give just as much as he expects from me, I refuse to be around him. Unfortunately, that's exactly what I see today, so I refuse to date anyone outright period. Too many pretenders, especially psychopathic ones.

I'm merely young I've never been married and don't know much about it. But when I do get to that point I'm going into it to build and grow stronger and stronger with each obstacle. ❤❤❤

Thank you for the sound biblical content you put out, it is much appreciated! I agree that divorce has been too common for the wrong reasons and a lot of people give up too soon. My question is what do you do if your partner is not committed to the marriage the way you are. What if they know you hate divorce and take advantage of that to not be an active participant in solving the problems, and leave it all to you. Is that sufficient grounds for divorce?

Very wise words Sir! Peace and blessings to all!

I truly enjoyed listening and learned things I did not know. Thank you 😊

Yes, I believe a marriage can mainly work if two people are willing to serve God. Marriage is not all about happiness. It's about working together to get problems solved. Yes, people with childhood trauma do enter marriages. It can be a problem if they are choosing to not change.

Can you make a segment on putting on the full armor of god and relate that to this day and age and the tests we face and how to better manage the armor and keep it together

I will sum you up in a few words: You definitely should to become a spiritual marriage counselor🙏🏾🙏🏾😊

Great message. Needed

❤this! May God do Ti use to fulfill you and bless you and your family! I love you are spreading the gospel! In Jesus name! Amen 🙏

Thank you very much ❤

This woman thinks marriage is a game and it's all about her. She talks fast and wastes a man's time. A faithless generation, indeed. "Can you stand the rain? Storms will come, I know all the days won't be perfect" "But need somebody who will stand by me, when it's tough, she won't run, she will always, be, right there for me" Can You Stand The Rain, New Edition, 1988.

21:28 - 21:51 ... Ephesians 6:5-8 *"5 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, 8 because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free."*

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Its a mess out there with people

This was good!

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I now have standards what I want an don't want in a marriage an what will accept sh and won't accept anyone

Good topic God first

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Blessings 💞🙏🏾💞 Amen 🙌🏾

What if you struggle through a marriage and never grow ? It just either gets worse or stay the same.

Anton Daniels is married but gives awful advice! So i don't totally agree with married ppl are the only ones qualified to give relationship advice

Coming together for the kids is always the answer and unfortunately now a days because of the lack of godliness in men’s character we need Russell s to Ciara’s family than anymore future deadbeats baby daddy’s or city girls .. IJS

You have to understand that that's her experience, just as you believe that you missed out on so much and parents should stay together, that is your experience. I was married and it wasn't healthy, and my children suffered because of the unhealthyness of that union. So just remember there's always a flip side of a coin. But the most important thing for people to remember is to be equally yoked and of like minds with whoever you marry. The problem is you have so many people who wants to get married for namesake and for title and they really don't know who they're marrying and they end up with STD', bad credit, completely ripped off financially, impregnated just for the sake of being attached to this person for life and sometimes it ends in death. So no I don't agree that for the sake of the kids parents should stay together. You can raise God fearing children in separate households. You're parents didn't get it right and that's ok, you just make sure you raise yours to do so. But don't shame a woman for what she was forced to see by the people that was around her. I regret staying with my ex husband and from that I'm suffering with a broken L5 and im constantly in pain from that.

No judgement however it seems that she is making an excuse for her first marriage calling it a “sprint”. It is true that we must do it God’s way.. God’s way is the only way

You can threaten me all u want gerald Margaret even threatened to break my legs if I left cause wasn't going to make money off of me maybe ppl didn't the memo about what happened other. Day sh still to this moment hss not firgilled any of promises

Tony is incorrect about single people not being "qualified." God qualifies you not man (human). You have married heathens. You have single people with rhe holy spirit. Anyone who operates in the Holy Spirit can advise because our wisdom comes from Gods word, not our own understanding. So anyone leqding you to Gods word and advising from Gods word is qualified to advise. God takes the unqualified and makes them qualified. Most of the issues are what single people also go through...its our flesh. Selfishness, lust, etc. Things we must fight against married or not. Everything else I 💯 agree with!

Not really needing to hear this my mind is made up based upon actions not taken. Makes perfect sense about the grooming ppl in relationships how much can they get away with how far can they push your boundaries an where the stsrti point is to begin breaking u down. Like when no phone I had some serious time to think real thoughts all the way through. One whats best for me keep being used or walk away from u tube an know they are still watching me still making money off of me or do something else with life cause I'm definitely not happy with the situation there where s few other things I just can't say on here. Like why would Mitch let's just say. Ant didn't act like him an bunch. Why would you wait so many years to come around to me if watched me an knew the struggles I had in my life an was making money off of me and never sent anything out to me saw me working my ass off for my boys. I've been taken every into consideration if it's True cause of all the gas lighting done. Not my fault nor responsibility I was a true victim in all of this foolishness. Why would ant be like talking video an want me to admit to something just to get me in to trouble sh and possibly in jail. I saw so much today

U used the wrong thumbnail #Usher_ofAllPeople😳 Or did u use Usher because of the lady talking about her many divorces #Hmm

Big mouths that's all. Talking like they know everything

😂😂😂😂 she talked way too long 😅

I think that marriage is going to phase out. It's a primitive act and its time is due to pass.

39:09 - 39:27 ... *That's false... No where in the bible does it say that infidelity, or abuse, is an allowance for divorce! You, and people, completely made that up!* Luke 16:18 *"18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery."* *So many more scriptures confirm this.* *This is the only allowance for divorce: A woman not bleeding; during consummation/sex, with her husband; because of her hymen being pierced, previously. Aka: If she's not a virgin before marriage.* Matthew 19:9 *"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."* *It says FORNICATION; NOT ADULTRY... Fornication is sex before marriage.* *There are so many scriptures on marriage. Yah/God says that He hates divorce. This is how much. (Malachi **2:15**-16)*