Don’t some mothers brag about being a mother? Why is childfree women bragging about not being a mother a problem?

No, we are not “childLESS by choice”-being childless implies a sense of lack. We are childFREE.

59 yr old child free women.....yall won't regret it........ I promise you. As long as you save and invest your money wisely, you will love being child free. I'm retired, own multiple properties, have friends and family, can live anywhere in the world that I want......not one single regret. It's funny hearing women say they were are breaking the norm. I didn't know I was breaking the norm.....if anyone criticized me, I would simply say to them.....if you ain't paying my bills, please stfu about me having kids.........that seemed to work.

Childfree lifestyles and content are still pretty niche. Becoming a parent is almost a universal norm. Mom groups, baby videos, family youtubers are everywhere!!! You cant escape it! You have to go out of your way to find the exception. So the question is, why is this mother deliberately searching out and consuming childfree content if shes so happy with being a mom??? This is sour grapes and I don't think she's ready to even admit to herself that she has regrets.

I love the fact that women from around the world are joining in on this conversation. Parenting is such a hard job and not everyone wants that burden, and we have that right. Get over it.

Let's say that on average a woman has her 1st child by age 25. Suggesting that child free women are unhappy is like suggesting that from birth to age 25 they've been unhappy.

The fact that she said that Childfree by Choice people are "ranting" shows that she's projecting-look and listen to her expression, tone, attitude. She's probably annoyed that she's not enjoying motherhood and is jealous of all the happiness of CFBC women :) Yep totally NOT giving of ranting vibes.

Her making a point to say childLESS says a lot about her intent.

A childfree 29year old woman here,, my only question is,, so it's totally okay for moms to make videos around motherhood and their kids 24/7 but it's not okay for us childfree women to make childfree content??? Childfree people don't even go around commenting on parenting posts/videos etc but wait till a childfree woman says something... All the parents come for you 🚮. These parents are just projecting!! Period.

I disowned my mother a couple years ago after decades of emotional abuse, neglect, physical abuse, and physical/Sexual abuse by proxy. Her top reason for having kids was so that they could take care of her when she got old. Well, I hope, for her sake, that my siblings take care of her cause I sure as f won't. Having kids doesn't guarantee that they'll take care of you.

The red heads story is so sad and we forget some women want children but cant because of trauma or etc. Saying to a woman that she should have kids without knowing her situation is one of the most insensitive things that can be said to a woman from another woman.

Im 37 yrs old , I have $1,500 in pocket daily . I have no diapers to buy , I have no deadbeat baby daddy , I have no school to deal with , no child being bullied. Having no kids is awesome I will never put a child through what I went through. I was molested as a Child & i was bullied .. i Never want to put a child the that

I don't get why mothers feel the need to tell childfree women they need to also have children. What a weird outlook on life.

Before I considered marriage, I sat down and made a list of pros and cons about having children. My pros list has 5 items. My cons list has 68. So no kids for me ever.

Why are parents always posting about how happy they are with kids?🤨

Motherhood IS MORE THAN 18 YEARS!!! THAT'S the mentality of poverty mindset folks who can't provide.

I’m a mother of ONE. I repeat ONE. I knew early on that I wasn’t the soccer mom type. After having one, I knew this was not the life for me. Even I have gotten criticism for stopping at one!! Like how can I be married and only give my husband one child?! Yep. That happens. None of these people who criticize are taking care of my child! As women our sole purpose in life is NOT childbearing. If that was the case, the creator shouldn’t have given us brains! 🙄

A lot of the parents that believe children will take care of them when they are old get dissapointed when it turns out that their kids dont have the time to do so since they now have kids of their own to take care of. Society told them to have kids and that their kids will take care of them when they're old, but then society screws them over by convincing their kids to have kids of their own and thus not have time to take care of them in their old age. Thats tragic smh

Too bad there's no movement to keep teenagers child-free

Unwanted children are more likely to be abused, so those who don’t have children because they don’t want them are being incredibly responsible.

Now why are these unhappy parents projecting their own insecurities onto us? 😂 what the hell Why can’t everybody just be happpppppyyyy❤.

As a child of someone who probably shouldn’t have been a mom I totally support childfree by choice women. There are tons of people with kids who should not be parents. Recognizing that you don’t want to parent is a win win for them and for the children who won’t be traumatized by it.

I’m a mom of two and I can’t recommend any young woman I know to have children. Society doesn’t treat women well or care for them and once you become a mom it’s a million times worse. Enjoy your life FREE! Take care of YOURSELF! Because society won’t really let you after you have kids. And there usually isn’t a “village”. It’s you. You’re the village. & the people who do help use it as an excuse to give you their opinion or hold it over your head. So no village just a lot of judging!

She has the voice of one of those wore out moms with kids she can’t control and they don’t eat anything and make her cry regularly.

I'm a married mom and I'm jealous of child free people 😂😂😂. I envy you 😂😂😂. Children are just ungrateful broke best friends. My husband and I have successful occupation and practically schedule our lives around our kids. Two are grown and gone and two are in high school. When the last two graduate from college, we're selling our home and purchasing a RV so the kids can't return. We're ready to live our best life.

I love the girl who pointed out "if you have ASD". Because of my ASD im leaning more to a childfree life, because if I tell you guys how tired I already am for just existing in this society. I can not imagine me willingly chosing to put something extra in my life that will also drain the energy that I already dont have. Respect for mothers, but also respect for childfree woman

Thank y’all for ranting about your happy lives… I almost made a horrible mistake

I’m a mom and other women choosing not to have children doesn’t effect me. I can’t imagine being angry at someone who made a different life choice and is happy. I think many of these moms who resents child free women didn’t want children to begin with. They just did what society told them they had to do.

If a person can post a family photo hanging out at Disneyland with their children, then a person who is child free should also be able to post photos taking a vacation enjoying their life being child free

2023 Easter Day: Husband and I were at my sisters house for Easter and one of her neighbor friends came over with her three young children. And I kid you not she literally said an hour before we left and I quote, “Oh, I can tell you don’t have children because you’re too happy in your relationship.” My husband and I had BIG SMILES on our faces and laughing the whole ride home. Also, if we had kid(s), wouldn’t you think that we’ve would’ve brought them with us to their aunts house for Easter? Dingdong, lady! LMAO DINKs for life! 😊

I am 56 and childfree. I like to talk about my decision to be childfree because I have the time to do it. Also, I believe lots of people have children before they realize that they can choose not to have children. I want to help people realize they have a choice.

The bitterness is glaring. Here here child free women 🥂!

When you’re triggered, regular conversations or talking will sound like ranting.

Have any of you childfree ladies experienced what i have? Let me explain - 3 yrs ago when the pandemic began i joined a gym and now am fit and healthy at 50 yrs old than i ever was at 18 or 25- my body is strong fit and healthy and its because of this that people mistake me for being in my 30s all the time- i think not going thru the stresses of childbirth labor and marriage and family has kept me young and aging at a slower rate than most women it also helps that I’m melanated and asian - i know there are fit moms out there too but i keep getting all these compliments on my skin and how youthful i look all the time when i’m out- there is a study that’s been done that shows single women live longer than married women - i really think not having the responsibilities and stresses with marriage and family has been the real fountain of youth for me - anybody else?

I’m a Mom and please live your lives! I’m so happy for y’all and my daughter loves all of her Aunties. They show up more than anyone else and check on her all of the time! I preach to young girls that they don’t need to get married and have a baby to be happy. I was happy before and I’m happy now but it’s different. My baby is the love of my life but I understand cuz I waited till 32 to have one 😂. It’s HARD! And EXPENSIVE! On top of that I’m married with a wonderful man who runs home to take over! And I still had to give up so much of my self since becoming a Mom.

Vancouver Mama looks angry that someone is happier child free than she is as a mom.

We should be happy for women for living in a time and place that are able to make the choice. In other countries some women don't. I beg go enjoy your kids or go enjoy your childfree life. That lady was ridiculous.

The guilty always tell on themselves.

Yeah she’s right this goes both ways, I didn’t have my child until I was 40 due to infertility issues, but before that I was constantly harassed about when I’m going to have a child, I had to walk away from friends with kids because of the toxicity.

Figuratively speaking, why care about a Bed in which you are NOT Obligated to lie down in? I’m Childfree and support Mothers bc I feel secure in my Decision. I also don’t have to lie down w/ those Moms & those Kids in their special-made Bed. And vice versa. I would like the same mutual understanding/respect.

Looking at all the "I am such a better person since I became a mother and I am soooo happy" content...

I am childfree both by choice and by necessity. Growing up i never wanted children, but as an adult I was diagnosed with multiple autoimmune disorders that would make having a healthy child nearly impossible and incredibly dangerous. Working in the medical field you would be shocked how many coworkers asked me about why I didn't have kids. People, my health, my medical issues, are *none of your business!* I am so sick of feeling like I have to justify my life choices, my health, and my purpose on this earth to complete strangers!

The only reason she is bitter is because she wishes her life was that of a child-free person. Like many women, she’s been brainwashed and manipulated into believing you are not complete if you don’t have children by a certain age. There is nothing wrong with women and men making a conscious decision to not have children. She has shown more about how she feels in her current role and relationship than how she feels about child free adults. You don’t get a say in whether someone has children if you are not going to be a support system 100% or even physically give birth for that person. Physically having children for a woman is a life and death decision and not every woman wants that. Damn if you do and damn if you don’t. So do what you want as long as you’re not harming anyone.

A friend of my sister-n-law once was telling me how one of her kids was so bad she had to lock the door at night to protect her and the other kids because she was scared as to what he would do to them. Then turned around and asked me..." So when are you gonna have kids?" LMAO......I looked at her like she was freaking crazy.

I fall into the category the redhead brought up, childless not by choice. Having experienced much of what she experienced i can relate. Late in my 30s i started seeing the otherside of not having children. I listen to childless by choice women and can relate though i wanted children. It allows me to see that i can live without them. While healing on my own, im realizing its better for me in my own situation.

It’s giving “my whole identity is being a mom” these women forget who they are and forget their womanhood is separate from motherhood. Eventually empty nest syndrome will take her out .☺️ How does me being Happy with MY conscious and informed choice affect her being happy with hers? I have ALWAYS said that having a child JUST because you want one is the most selfish thing you can do. Have you healed from your trauma or will you pass it on? Can you afford and provide a healthy experience for them without abusing and resenting them? Her need to criticise women for choosing what’s best for THEM is disturbing. I hope by her logic she realises that she can NEVER stop having kids. How dare a person with one kid say they are happy and don’t want two??🫢or someone with two say I’m happy and don’t want three? You see her mom brain has destroyed her reasoning skills. This kind of emotionally lead opinion is the result of predominantly talking to children all day most days 🤣☺️

Childrefree and single is the absolute BEST!

"People who can have kids". The word "woman" is getting impossibly longer by the day. Ridiculous

CFBC....41 year old woman. I'm not interested. I think children are lovely in very small doses. They are just too needy for me. I have a friend who is 46. She has a 6 year old daughter who is autistic and the girl is horrible in behavior. She MUST have her way or it's CHAOS. My friend is going to have to deal with that shit for the rest of her life. OMFG. No way Another friend of mine has 5 children. One of them lacks empathy, and its becoming a problem. I went to a kids' birthday party today at a bowling alley. They screamed, fought over turns, were running all over... omg it just wasn't my tease. I like travel & first class hunnay. I like peace & quiet. I'm not interested in children whatsoever. If that makes someone feel a way, it's really their own problem.

There should be spaces for women to talk about how much they love being childfree, just like there should be space for women to talk about how much they love being mothers. But like other people have pointed out, motherhood is frequently treated as if it is a mandatory, obligatory institution and not a personal lifestyle choice. And like someone else has pointed out too, you really have to be going out of your way to seek out the content of childfree women to the point that it upsets you to this degree. For example, nothing about the institution of motherhood interests me, and as a result, I don't go out of my way to invite myself into spaces where women are going to be talking about their experiences with pregnancy, motherhood, etc. I'm not going to rain on their parade (although I don't put them up on a pedestal either). If you're letting childfree women's "rants" about how much they love their life bother you, that is most definitely projecting. And just like there should be spaces for women to talk about how much they love motherhood, we need to protect spaces for women who regret motherhood to share their thoughts and experiences too. The truth may help prevent other women from making a potential mistake later on down the line.

This person is bitter & is projecting her bitterness. If she was truly content about her role as a mother, then she wouldn't care about the opinions of child free women. Just as she can be content in motherhood & she can verbalize her happiness, I do the same & I express my contentment with living burden-free from babies. I'm child free by CHOICE. I'm very content in my life with no babies burdening my very busy life. 🤗 Childless is a separate circumstance than being childfree. Childless women generally struggle to physically birth children due to infertility and / or other medical conditions that significantly impact pregnancy for women such as PCOS, endometriosis & fibroids.

I have Major Anxiety ADHD OCD and I am an Introvert. I hate kids I am juat going to say it. I cant stand being around them. Too noisy. Too messy. I have too much energy i dont like to be tied down to responsibilities. I need to have my area around me clean and quiet at all times to feel sane. I dont even like having my friends over for too long. I dont like it when my friends touch my things. I dont like it when they leave a mess.

NGL, I hate when people misuse words. A "rant" has a negative connotation, as in complaining. She might as well have said "bragging," because it's clear that that's what she meant.

As a man, I don’t need or want little Chads or Chadinas running around. I would rather be known as “Chad, The Singer” other than so and so’s dad. I would be worried about how they turn out as adults since I have personal struggles with mental health issues.

As women we get criticized no matter what path we take. Listen to your heart and ignore everyone else. You're the one that has to live with your decisions ❤

Misery loves company. If moms can make content about their children then child free women also can too.

Im childless and content. In today's time, I wouldn't have kids even if I could. I'm 60 now. You must make yourself happy as a single, childfree woman. Children cannot do that. Women with kids complain and complain about their offspring. So, no I'm cool without them.

My mother got pregnant at23 by a 37 year old man , she made me feel so bad for not dedicating my entire existence to finding a man. If I did have a bf she usually hated them though … I got myself into an abusive relationship and she wouldn’t help me out of it in any way , I was trapped for years . Now I’m fully formed brain and I absolutely will not have kids. She would rather a mother be starving herself and her child to be a mother. This would have been their grandmother , my own toxic family made me realize no one needs to have kids

I thank myself every day for being child free.... You hear more about you needing to have kids. Or when are you going to have kids.... Then you do about being child free... Women must always remember they have a choice we're not obligated or required.

Growing up in my teens and early twenties, I heard a lot from family how I needed to get married and have children. But all those same people, each and every one of them are here in my 40’s saying thank goodness you didn’t have kids. It’s not worth it, don’t do it! 😂

I'm 46 years old married 21 years together 28 with my high school sweetheart now husband We are child-free by choice and it was the right choice for us. There's not one day that goes by that we think that we made a mistake that we think that we miss something that we think you know we should maybe look into adoption or fostering No we love our life the way it is and no one is going to make us feel guilty about not having children We are the best godparents Aunt Uncle other branches of the trees baby if we had children we couldn't be here for the kids like they need because parents have to work with no children it allows me to make concessions in my schedule that their parents can't do and it's not a problem but I'm not ever going to say that me and my husband making the decision to be childless hasn't benefited us as a whole

As I keep saying, life is not "One size fits all". I always wanted to be a mother and I'm glad I got to have two children. But I'm smart enough to know that parenting isn't for everyone and I'm so happy that more and more ppl are actually THINKING on it rather than having children because they feel they "have" to.

The lady is mistaken. I don’t even think life with children would be awful. Many of us don’t. We just aren’t interested in it and don’t find the typical pathway to motherhood attractive. I admire women who have secured their bags, work in an awesome career, and raise children on their own (either via adoption or IVF) without the stress of a useless man. But most mothers don’t have that kind of life. The grain of them are either broke and living paycheck to paycheck trying to raise a fatherless child or just married single mothers. This is why we say “Motherhood is not a flex”. Their version is ghetto and I’d feel like I was living a mediocre life under those circumstances.

I haven't watched yet . But , WHHHYYY do some people feel THEY can tell others what to post ????? 😂😂 # Sis jealous / tired / sleepless 😂😂

After having to deal with the smug mother club, sorry, but I’m going to rub it in. They already have tax breaks for being married and get to pay half price on everything. Single, childless people need something and we are going to have fun. I’m going to the park and taking psychedelics and if you call me an irresponsible adult, you’re the irresponsible one. At least I know how condoms work. 😅 I’m so responsible, that I have zero children.

And by the way the reason why childless people by choice are now speaking up is because parents are finally being real about being a parent which childless people already know that it's an never end ending sometimes thankless tiring worrisome financial troubles that you will ever face when you have to feed another person I can eat cereal for dinner if I feel like it If you give that to a child for too many days CPS might end up in your life.

I have a child free sister-in-law. I don't care about her not having kids. I respect her choice. Yet she nags me about being a stay at home mom. I always get asked "what do you do all day? You have an easy life." Plus, she doesn't want children, but she tells me how to raise my kids. She tells me I don't discipline my children enough that her other nieces and nephews don't act like my kids. (my kids are on the autism spectrum, I told her this, and she rolls her eyes) She acts like she feels superior over me. My mother-in-law noticed this and talked to me privately about it. She told me to ignore my SIL. I do. I am upset that she doesn’t respect my decision to have children and be a SAHM.

Original video is a perfect example of the fact that you don't need to say everything you think

People never stop talking 💩. Its soooo tiring. Do what you want and stay away from loser people that criticize your choices.

She said people rant about how great being childfree is... Who tf rants about how great something is!? 😂 Shes so jealous that shes trying to paint these women as aggressive.

Not a trend sweaty, we're here to stayyyy 💅👸

My two sweet babies are my life and I'm looking to have a third while I still can. Everyone has a right to their decision and should be respected.

I’m childfree and almost 40. It sucks being so lonely. Maybe life will be funnier when I make enough money to travel and do fun things

It just blows my mind, how much society dislikes, women without kids, especially if they are happy without kids. It’s as though society has decided for us what we should be happy with and how we should feel someone once bought up a great point for those who cannot have kids they still get hated on, especially if they are no longer sad about not being able to have kids. why? Just like how parents post on social media how blessed they are with kids, and childfree people are allowed to talk about how blessed they are without kids. Parents really need to stop taking it personally us saying we are happy without kids does not equate to us judging them for having kids we just want different things out of life. that’s all there is to it. We are starting to speak out about child free lifestyle, because we are sick and tired of people constantly giving their unsolicited opinion without even trying to understand why we’ve chosen what we’ve chosen . single women receive similar kinds of pressures. For example, as a woman in her 30s who is single without kids, I have literally heard two older coworkers this past week, say to me” you need to get married”. They did not bother, asking me what I wanted and what would make me happy. They were also quick to assume that I am straight. It is 2023 for heaven sake. People really need to get with the times. To those who are concerned about lower birth rates, they need to stop thinking in such extreme terms. There’s always gonna be people who want kids and there’s always gonna be people that do not want to have kids society isn’t going to go extinct just because there is a population of women who don’t want kids.

If you’re happy being a mom who cares what people say. I’m a mom and I’m telling y’all these sentiments are coming from women who aren’t meant to be moms and wish they made your decision or those who married a man for the wrong reasons and had to have a child to cover the scheme. Being a mom is HARD but it’s the best thing ever IF it’s for you. Pay no mind to the salty ones. Live ya life ladies

Something tells me the mother regrets having kids and misses her old life🧐🤭😂

27:31 Your point about mothers gatekeeping happiness from childfree people is so spot on! I immediately also thought about similar things I’ve heard, “You think you’re tired now? Wait until you have kids.” I am all for recognizing the unfair treatment of mothers in relationships, but weaponizing emotions is just divisive. Loved the video, thanks Maria!

What is with the world thinking that people are supposed to be married and have kids and be happy and think that that's what their life is about isn't it options and choices in life and can we choose to appreciate and celebrate to😊

My parents disowned me and then went to apologize. I don't let people treat me that way so I refused contact. I never wanted kids after my childhood and my parents wanted grandkids and I'm an only child. The reasons for disowning me are varied but the gist is that I'm a horrible child. This is proof no one should count on their kids to take care of them. I'll be just fine in my old age.

51, childfree, living by the beach in Albania. I don't regret it! I just wish my period would finally stop. 😀

I think for me- it’s been sooo helpful having childfree women speak out- because I’ve always inwardly known it wasn’t for me- and it’s helped me stand in that truth and not make a choice out of fear.

Women with kids are mad because they have nobody: - A lot face husbands that are more of a burden than partner, many don't financially contribute enough (50/50) or at all - household/family chores, don't even think about that; - The friends without kids leave them because they become somebody else once parents; - The other mothers in your playground circle only understand you until you point their child as a problem, by then the lioness instinct comes and she will fight you; - Their kids are just that: kids! They loving you won't help with you "adulting", they are minors, innocent, inexperienced; should be protected; so they can't be your confidants.

I had my first and only child at 38. By myself. It is hard and I have money and a strong support system. I lived a great single child free life. Traveled and was selfish as hell. I love that women can do what ever they want to and can have children or none at all. Live life how you want and let nobody dictate how you live.

People with children are always saying that we can't have an opinion on anything child related because we "can never know until you have your own." Yet they'll have kids throughout their 20s and turn around and say 30-40+ year old child free women are sad, lonely, regretful, unfulfilled, etc. What happened to the "You've never lived this exact experience, so you'll never know what it's like." attitude? Where did that sentiment vanish to? But I think that's a large part why so many mothers react like this. They are allowed infinite range to constantly rant about how much being a parent sucks but the second someone who had the audacity to treat it like the choice it says "Dang, I'm so sorry, that sounds rough. Mothers must be super human to handle all that. That could ever be me." all of a sudden they're crazy offended, not because you've said something that somehow devalues or degrades motherhood or mothers, but because you had the absolute gaul to "act" like having kids isn't compulsory. In a way, it's very sad because these women are so riled up and hateful because, by them honestly acknowledging that you just chose a different path, they must also acknowledge that they didn't have to choose to be a mother. Society purposefully never offered an alternative path and, just as intended, a lot of people will just go unquestionably with the flow. And when you didn't get to consciously make a choice about something as huge and irrevocable as having children, one of the things our brains do to protect themselves from those very bad feelings like regret is to simply force themselves to believe the alternative is unthinkable and they didn't really have a choice in the matter so neither should you or anyone else. It's a very toxic and illogical way to process things but it feels easier and cathartic in the short term, and humans tend to love easy, cathartic, short term options. It's the same thing as people who eat meat getting belligerently angry at people who choose not to eat and use animals. Because it would require them to reflect on the choices they didn't even question or think twice to make, and then make them feel poorly about those thoughtless actions upon openly considering the perspective that the animals they eat are tortured and killed purely for their convenience and pleasure and you should not put those things above not causing mass suffering to the best of your ability. They'll come up with every reason in the book to convince themselves that the default of society that they followed is the only correct way to possibly live and anyone managing otherwise is wrong, weak, stupid, etc, anything to keep them from starting a reflection process that would probably entail a lot of regret, shame, and personal effort to properly address. That's why some moms just have to constantly belittle childfree women at any opportunity. If they even acknowledged for a second that their life could have been complete without the little Jimmy they forced into the world without a single critical thought the consequences, then they might develop regrets, and if they develop regrets then they'll be the "bad mom" monster they dreamed up to further demonize women who don't want kids. And honestly, being a mother is extremely rough, no qualms about it, probably the hardest thing a person can do when done properly, and I wouldn't be surprised if that myth they adopted, that the ultimate purpose in a woman's life is to become a great mother and anyone who doesn't is less than and bad is the only thing keeping them going. What really helps repeat the cycle is just the massive fear these women have of being seen as a failure of society's one absolute requirement for women because you dared let yourself process regret about following it.

When our two daughters were little I told my husband they aren’t interested in babies or talk about growing up & having kids. No interest at all. As adults They told us we don’t want to have children & their reasons. My husband & I said okay because having a child is a huge decision & responsibility. Fast forward today they are 37 & 39 happily married to men that didn’t want children either. I’m one of 7 & my husband one of 8. I feel sorry for all the women who are child free being harassed by those who believe they should have children. The thing is not only my daughters & their husbands go through the same thing. The thing is when some family, friends, coworkers & even strangers harass us too. You should have told them to have kids, don’t you want to be grandparents, what’s wrong with your daughters 🤦🏽‍♀️. We tell these people it’s their choice as it was our choice to have them. And yes we respected their decision & still do. They are happy & seeing them happy makes me & my husband very,very happy.

The woman at 5:44 got me speechless! Everything I’ve thought about, she said aloud. She’s totally right about mothers’ misery, about the child triggering your wounds, about extreme exhaustion if you’re autistic or introverted or have ADHD. I’m so glad I know it now not having and not planning any kids, I see the deception behind shiny propaganda. Thank you for your vid

It is some of the hardest reprogramming to realized I dont need to have Kids if I dont want to. And kids are not the peak solvent of my life. I was raised very conservatives and thought the biggest accomplishment will be to have kids. But as I become more self- aware the biggest sadness fore would be if I never get to travel, not once did i think of kids. Every time I tell people I dont want kids I am pressured to go into an explanation of why not and answer a hypothetical futures of me being alone. So videos like this help!

This is the first video I’ve seen when someone mentions being neurodivergent. I literally had a meltdown because the sirens outside were too loud and I was tired…I’m scared to even imagine a kid being in the mix omg

I’m a single mother by choice to a lovely 3 year old and I don’t regret it in the slightest, it was definitely the right choice for *me*. I desperately wanted a child but wasn’t able to conceive until I was 39, at which point I had already actually given up and started to try to figure out how I was going to make my life fulfilling and started feeling really positive about it. Upon becoming a mother though, it’s a big reality shock, and the romantic visions I had been nursing for 39 years were nothing like what my day to day life looks like. I’m exhausted, I get judged for every parenting decision, especially as a single mum, I have still had to work on my inner happiness because kids amplify you’re already feeling. I worry 24/7 and feel mum guilt constantly. Again, I don’t regret it at all! My love for this gorgeous little kid is also massively motivating and grounding so it fuels me through the sleepless nights. But I am telling you now, if you’re doubting whether being a parent is for you, don’t rush into it because of social pressure. If you feel you don’t want kids at all, stand strong, it really isn’t for everyone and will be a source of resentment for you and also the kid doesn’t deserve to feel resented, they can’t help that they’re little whirling balls of chaos lol (my kid is currently on my lap smashing biscuits into the sofa to accompany the orange he just squeezed into the fabric, just for fun 😂) Also we need lots of childfree aunts and uncles out there happy to give us some time off sometimes and give them back after! Lol Also I really love to hear from happy childfree women and other women who agree with their sentiments because it’s also very validating in a society that expects you as a mum to love every minute of the experience and never complain for fear of being called neglectful or ungrateful for your blessing. You honestly can’t win either way so just do what is really right for you ❤️

I have to many problems to be concerned about the parental status of anyone.

I wish many more men were childfree by choice and weren't pressuring women with giving them kids.

I left a cage when I left my family home and got married. I felt free and happy and safe. While my family isn’t the worst family and they love me and I love them, I felt trapped. I told my husband I did not want children, and now I get pressure from in-laws and a cousin and sometimes my husband. Even though I told him since the beginning of dating and before dating that I did not want kids, and I even cried to him before that if he wants kids he really should look elsewhere because I know having kids is important to some people. But I am firm that I know that I shouldn’t have children because I know what I went through, and I do not want to be trapped in a cage again. Some women seem to do just fine with their kids and everything, but I do not want to play the lottery with a child that may or may not destroy me more than my childhood did. I don’t plan on trying to mend my childhood with another child. That’s exploitive.

I have to respond to the things the First Lady said in response-I too have had to constantly feel bad about being childless or justify. I had 2 coworkers who were female and I asked if I could go to lunch with them (now one was going through a divorce and they both had kids and were married. I have a partner of 16 years) they said no you aren’t married or have kids you won’t understand. Also, whenever I get into an argument with my younger sister (who has 4 kids) she loves to through in my face you don’t have kids you don’t get it. My own mother has made comments to me before about well you know your sister has kids and it’s hard. Im sooo tired of being felt like I am LESS OF A WOMAN than females in my life because I don’t have kids. I have 2 fur babies that I deeply love and I am more than being a child bearer. Also, I don’t even know if I can have kids because I suffer with severe anemia and I’m just happy to be alive. My partner loves me as is but it’s a constant battle I deal with. I’m 39 and I know it’s the right decision but it’s hard to feel less than.

“Childless”???? Um No ! I’m CHILDFREE and yes I think there’s a difference ! I am a childfree woman because I simply never wanted kids and have never had a desire to have any ! I choose to be free from motherhood ! If women like her want to brag about being mothers, women like myself can brag about being childfree and be proud of it ! 🤷🏽‍♀️

Me not understanding how people can be happy living with kids Others wondering how people can be happy without kids 😂 I am the only one who has never felt joy in the presence of a child? Just annoyed and like how long do we have to babysit child for?I can hardly tolerate babysitting a child or baby for 30 mins it's actually the most difficult thing ever I actually do not understand how people have kids all the time and live with them.

Glad you were able to snatch the video before it was taken down😈 and you look beautiful today my Niaja sis 😍

I am childless/childfree by choice for now due to refusing to have sex and children b4 marriage. I really want kids. However, most people who have children really shouldn't have children. Many societies boast a very selfish population. Children need selflessness. Many adults aren't capable of that. For this reason, I tip my hat off to child free by choice women. I also think that having children that can't be afforded financially or emotionally is wildly selfish.

Whenever someone feels the need to comment on the way someone else chooses to live their life (and in a demeaning or negative way), then they're just projecting. Doesn't matter if it's bitter single women, bitter married women or just bitter modern women complaining about trad wives etc,. Any woman that does this is projecting.

I am childless, not by choice, but I always knew that I would be a terrible mom. I just never could have been able to cope with all that goes with being a mom. I am having a wonderful life---but not by choice!

“ChildLESS by choice” proof she already doesn’t get it. We’re childFREE, a lifestyle choice that brings us joy, the same way we are lion-free. Lions are beautiful creatures that deserve to exist but they’re expensive and take a lot of time and resources to maintain. It’s not for everyone and it’s not mandatory. And I bet it’s still easier to keep a pet lion than to raise kids! Kids are something that bring those parents joy, and that’s their choice, and it’s wonderful for them. But they should be honest and admit it’s very challenging and is not for everyone!