I killed my own happiness, loving the narcissist more than myself. By staying when common sense was telling me to leave. Narcissist: "What do you mean, you want a divorce? You're suppose to love me no matter what". Victim: "I think you got me confused, with Jesus".

I think, for a narcissist, feeling loved equates to being given what they want. If you stop giving them what they want when they want it, their discomfort In that situation IS uncomfortable for them. They interpret the discomfort as heartbreak. They haven't been darted in the heart, they've been darted in their deeply fragile ego.

Can't break something that doesn't exist.

Narcissists only have "broken hearts" for themselves. Their hearts will never break for all the hurt and pain they give you. Self pity isn't the same as love. Narcissists will never know what true love is. They are satisfied with self love and shallow relationships. That is their punishment. Healthy people are never satisfied with shallow relationships. Healthy people always want to improve their relationships. A great saying that sums it up is - "Better to be Socrates dissatisfied than to be a satisfied pig!" Hugs to all survivors of narcissism.

Its hard to be with them and its hard to leave them. Choose your hard.

My mother used to say " Don't throw away what we had". I didn't throw anything away. I was made responsible for the functionality of the relationship.

My therapist said something important to this discussion, I think. She said "she was nuts before you and she's going to be nuts after you. You were a small speed bump in her life. You cant change the momentum of her craziness."

"My needs have changed" I need to go through a day without being yelled at all day, all those attempts at coercion, lack of faithfulness.... By the time you realize you're dirt under their shoe, you no longer care if they got a broken heart. That is, if you learned your lesson about them.

The only things a narcissist loves is admiration, adulation, and obedience. They cannot/ will not ever love another person. They only love themselves.

The narcopath broken heart...yes indeed the grieving of lost, steady, abundant supply.

A broken EGO more than a broken heart: the best way to describe what happens... Thank you

I think they suffer from a hardened heart unable to feel and understand others. What a terrible life constantly self pitying oneself.

Narcissists and their enablers only care when you move on and ignore them. That's when the guilt shame begins, when you pay attention, they ignore you.

They are incapable of loving anyone EVEN THEMSELVES!!!!!

Losing 'something' they 'love', not someone. Love though? They miss the admiration that came with the love they received.

This lady truly understands. I think it wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that she is the greatest narcissism expert to ever walk this earth

My ex unloaded on me about his suspicion of his new wife (one of the women he cheated on me with) cheating on him. He talked all about the mental instability he felt and the pain and seeing her online, but ignoring his messages.... Stuff I experienced for years, from him. When he finished I replied "You do realize you put me through this for YEARS? Right?" He said, "That really doesn't make me feel any better" LOL- it was so funny to me and I was more than happy to look into this shattering world and watch him suffer

I had completely fallen out of love with my narc ex when I suddenly left him after 14 years. He was heartbroken and had to go on anti depressants, but while I was devastated that things had reached such an impasse, I did not feel sorry for him at all. I did not realise he was a narc at the time, that has come later after watching vids by Dr. R, but looking back I can now see everything he did was pretty much textbook behaviour of a covert narc right from the very start.

Patricia Highsmith's brilliant novel 'The Blunderer' illustrates so expertly 'the broken heart' of the narcissist. These folks can come across as so genuine when they express their 'emotions.' But the fact is all the grief and whinging u see is simply because they no longer have their benefits ie you. You as a person with a heart and a mind don't matter but what u can do for them certainly does!

He said I disappointed him and I wasn't what he thought. Disrespected, humiliated and a broken spirit was all he gave me. I am slowly rebuilding myself after he made me feel worthless. He used my honesty against me. He is secretive and he projects his own doings on me. I am grateful for realizing that a healthy love doesn't break one down but build one up.

When my ex said I broke his heart when we broke up for good, I said: "You'll get over it" (just like he said to me many times when HE hurt me). I saw it in his eyes that he was pissed off he had no good comeback. And that was that.

They lack empathy. They don't know what a heart is.

Narcissists will be the type to sue you for breaking their heart claiming vandalism and then tell you to fix it.

My girlfriend died suddenly and unexpectedly. At her funeral, her father kissed her goodbye in her casket and died right there on the spot of a REAL broken heart. How incredible it would be to have a normal Dad that actually could love his daughter. I cant even be "There" for my Dad's 92 birthday or end life good byes.

If a narcissist claims a broken heart, it’s a guilt trip and DARVO. Period.

I got to say being abused by a narcissist your heart breaks long before you might realise it's time to get out sometimes, cause your stuck in that cycle of trying to get back the person you thought they were before they went al jekyll and hyde on you. and even though you remain broken hearted if you are a loyal committed perserverent person you will stay for too long. then once you do get out, you might just be dealing with some ptsd, but maybe not quite as much broken heartedness since you've seen them for what they are, and have been subjected to nuclear levels of narcissitic rage as you packed your things found a new place and moved out and went no contact.... it can be surreal being wounded but actually no longer broken hearted since your heart was broken before you got up and went... you're still suferring in the relentless calm that now persists without their rage and abuse, as the shock wears off... and it could take a good year or more before you re-find yourself and start to step deeper into who you are and being the you that was lost at the end of being screamed at for often unknown reasons. - some thoughts..

Hmm. Broken heart… it’s more like a broken ego. What they do have is anger and resentment for the audacity you have for having your own right to want to exit abuse, it injures their ego. When the interaction ends, the abuse doesn’t end after their broken heart/ego. More must be said about the dangers of post-separation-abuse and how dangerous it is for survivors, and how to navigate the abuse that happens AFTER a narc/psychonarc interaction. Survivors need advice about what to expect and what narcs really do with a broken heart/a broken ego. A lot of times it is so scary, it makes survivors choose to STAY instead of deal with that anger from the Narc ego injury. That is exactly what the Narc wants. The fear of the threat of post separation-abuse after the narcs broken heart, is real.

Everything starts to come to surface and breaks when you take yourself away from them and cutting off their supply. Its like taking away power from them.

Look for the red flags in the beginning. If you have a clear red flag do not trust tears.

When I was 7, my mom's boyfriend told me told me if I tell my mom our secrets, it would break her heart and they would take the children away from her and separate us. I didn't have the words yet to say sexual, physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. But at 7 years old I understood I had to take care of my mom and keep our family together. That's a lot for little shoulders.😢

Or "Why do you hate us?" Fortunately, when this was said to me, I had been in counseling and was able to say, "I don't hate anyone." and leave it at that. It also helped that they went beyond the pale and accused me of disappointing my deceased mother. That was so painful that it snapped me out of any guilt and helped me see clearly how they were willing to treat me to try to stay in control. It seemed to come from a sense of entitlement - that no matter how badly they treated me, they were entitled to have me do what they wanted, how and when they wanted. I have gotten to the point in my life, where I need my relationships to be mutual - even if that means I have fewer relationships.

I needed this today. My ex of 13 months doesn't understand that his behavior comes with consequences. One consequence is my leaving and not wanting him as a "friend". He doesn't understand and thinks he treated me well. The finale was having elective surgery at the same time as my cancer surgery and ignoring my warning that I wouldn't be in his life if he couldn't support me during this time. But, he was such a great guy in his mind 🤣 I believe he has never been told no and has no clue why anyone wouldn't want him in their life, which is why he cannot move on. There will never be a time when he stares down reality. Thankful to have escaped that mess.

Dr Ramani keeps coming up with the most interesting and fresh content, delivered in such a kind way. She is a 💎

No sympathy for these devils. Enough said.

In past relationships I came to be aware that I had a choice to either sacrifice myself for them and the relationship or leave them and regain a sense of love and respect for myself. With a Narcissist here is never going to be a backing down or a compliance for your needs or wants. It is hard to leave but for me emotionally I literally felt like I had no choice.

After experiencing psychological, emotional and sexual abuse the ex said to me before I left, “It destroys me every time we fallout” “I love you more than you realise”. “I feel like a flat tyre, feel like I’m having a breakdown, I need help, baby please, I’m still yours!” Nope, nada, not today, not EVER again! I got myself out of that mess after 2 years and never went back! 10 months full No Contact and with support from Domestic Abuse counselling, I’m feeling more like myself again and my sparkle is coming back. Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤

It is rage and indignation, and a way to get source through the breakup, not sorrow or an opportunity to grow.

My husband would only miss the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. He would not miss me. He has never taken the time to know who I am. 53 yrs wasted.

They act like their heart is broken only in front of me. Other times they are quite normal.

I stayed at he narcissist party too long. Sadly, I do still love him even though I know what he is now. I love him the way you would still love your child even when they misbehave. I can't accept it in my life but I still care and wish it could be different. He is just wounded and will never be able to be happy. That is sad.

Their so-called broken heart is nothing more than a narcissistic injury. They will never know what an actual feeling of caring for someone other than themselves is.

Feeling bad and not wanting to hurt anyone has got me sucked into and stuck in many toxic narc relationships. Learning to see thru the manipulations and know that my health and well being matters too. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

Perfect timing... A former friend called me the other day- less than a week after I unblocked their phone number. She told me how 'hurt' she felt. Having listened to this video, I realize her ego was very bruised. She, again, said that she didn't want ANY close relationship. Low and behold, she's seeking more supply from me. Thank God I've learned my lesson.

“Jesus is close to the broken-hearted “ and it ain’t the narcissist’s icy cold heart

How can you have a broken heart when you don't have one?

His broken heart for my broken spirit, broken marriage, my kiddo's broken sense of self, our broken future... Fair's fair, for whatever 'fair' means in this twisted context .

Those are the exact things my very recent ex narcissist keeps saying to me - it hurts so bad, I'll do anything, you changed me, etc. It's all bullshit - and the reason I know is because I've fallen for it lots of times. I don't like to hurt anyone and it isn't a good feeling to cause this kind of reaction in someone, but I have to get through!

After leaving a 34 year abusive marriage, my ex-husband told me I tore his heart out and stomped on it. Then he cried at our divorce trial and said he would never marry again. A week later I saw him with his girlfriend laughing his head off. Now she's history and he has a new wife - a mail order bride from China.

Just remember this - narcissists tell lies, then more lies - leave them to it before they swamp you in their darkness. Keep your love for your lovely, loving self and those who deserve it.

5:15 this is exactly what happened to me. Was in a 1 year relationship with a cover narcissist. Every 2-3 weeks, out of nothing she would create arguments out of thin air, accusing me of thinking, saying and doing things I have never thought, said or done. She would talk herself into illogical rages that would last HOURS, during which she would beat me up emotionally, accusing me of planning to desert her and various other crazy stuff. After these attacks I was numb, paralyzed and apathetic sometimes for 3 or more days. In the end she sabotaged her birthday holiday we had planned together by having one of these outbursts the night before the flight, beating me up emotionally for more than 5 hours and leaving me too exhausted and injured to fly with her. She then met her next narcissistic supply there and now is in full limerence with this person, claiming that I had broken her heart and the new person will be fixing it. Just writing this down makes me understand how crazy this whole story is. I would appreciate a short comment by anyone reading this, just for the support. Thank you.

The Narc: "we shouldn't throw away 15 yrs of marriage & 2 children..." Me: " have you broken it off with the girlfriend you got while we were married? If you have & want to commit to working on our marriage, I will agree to go to counseling." The Narc: "I put that on hold. I can't break up with her totally. If we can't work out the marriage I'll have nobody."

Oh how I can relate to this line of a narcissist's broken heart. When I went no contact with my narcissistic mother (after the final straw that was so abusive there was no coming back from and made me realize she would never change) I got many letters from her telling me I broke her heart, but it didn't stop there. She told every family member that I broke her heart. She also posted on social media about her broken heart and how much she was suffering because her daughter suddenly cut her out of her life for no reason and broke her heart. I got calls from distant relatives and friends of hers I never met leaving voice messages saying they worried my mother would die of a broken heart. She was very quick to tell people of how she was suffering and that her heart was breaking. Of course, she never told anyone an ounce of truth of what she did that led to me going no contact. If she did, maybe people would have seen that I had a broken heart. Honestly, her lines of having a broken heart only helped solidify the need for no contact more. Once again, she turned herself into the victim after being the one who committed the abuse.

My narcissistic ex told me I gave him PTSD, that his love for me was “pure,” and cried to his grandpa after I broke up with him - who told him he saw how he truly loved me. The reality of the relationship for me was much different than how he described. It was abusive, and I certainly wasn’t valued. I ended up in a treatment center by the end, yet somehow I was the one who gave him PTSD. I think his heart was broken first by his family history, and I activated it by ending our “relationship.” He saw me as someone abandoning him, again, even after he got feedback from a therapist that it was his own behavior that pushes people away. The whole narrative of a narcissistic person’s life and those abused in the process of trying to fill their emotional void, is the true heartbreak.

I like the metaphor of the broken ego instead of a broken heart. There was this one family member that really infuriated me. When we ended the relationship, they turned around and called me narcissistic, while all I was trying to do was point out simple truths. So, just to show that family member how it felt to be in my shoes, I sent it to the entire family. Now, this was my first and only time doing this. It backfired on me, but I had to at least say something and stand up for myself.

I actually think that this could be more of a danger in the early stages of mourning and separation. It's just an opinion and a personal experience, really, that 4 years of complete cut off I don't feel guilt anymore. I don't care how people see me, in this sense, either. A fair amount of people seem to be preoccupied with me forgiving them or even reconciling, but to me, these thoughts feel really outlandish. I think some folks find it hard to believe that I moved on, I don't care in what stage of epiphany does the narcissists find themselves. I don't wish bad on them, and I don't care if it's great, either. My very vocal, very explicit, and very public pledge was to go to therapy, clear my head out, rebuild myself and catch up in life. I did that, I am free. That doesn't mean that I need to look up the narcissists and engage with them. Nothing would make me run a mile faster! 🙏

My cousin and my BIL are so mean to people and then are taken aback when no one wants anything to do with them, they are totally baffled. I never could understand it.

Whenever I asked the narcissist why they dont talk properly or answer me or ignore me, they said, I broke their heart and they are hurting. I never saw any sadness in their actions though. They start rejecting me, ignoring me and be very happy with others. They will be selectively sad with me.

The ex narc was an artist and I supported her work endlessly. Encouraging her to keep going, congratulating and celebrating her work, and funding an Etsy shop to try and help sell her work. What I’m getting at is that I supported her endlessly and loved her work. One day someone in her neighbourhood posted some work they did on the group chat in a similar style and I said “Not gonna lie, it’s pretty good”. She said that me saying their work was good broke her heart. I remember sitting there thinking, “it… it broke your heart?” I’m a musician so it’s not like I’m ignorant to the sensitivity of an artistic mind… But to act as if I said “Hot damn, your work sucks compared to theirs! And they live locally? Wow, you should ask for some tips, they’re going to be famous one day!” I’m… not sure about that. It might be because I started with “not gonna lie”, but I didn’t mean anything by it… Oh man, I feel like I’m sat here trying to explain myself to her even though we broke up over a month ago and it happened almost a year ago 😅😮‍💨

If you’re trying to be friends after the breakup, beware of the person who is bragging about sex or having fun with other people within days or just a couple weeks after the breakup. You need to go no contact. Run! Run away from this abusive behavior!

Great video, Dr. Ramani. My narcissistic ex didn't say I broke his heart, instead he said "You disappointed me." I knew I was making progress on my journey when, after a moment of shocked incredulity, I was able to say "I disappointed YOU?!?!" and smile, instead of whining "Uh, I wasn't the one who lied, cheated, manipulated, gaslighted, was a practicing alcoholic in full denial, was essentially leading a double life, etc." This was years after I had divorced him, and it showed me so clearly the utter futility of ever hoping that someday, somehow, he would 'get it'. You're so right, it wasn't a broken heart, merely a broken ego: a nasty, vindictive, raging attempt to bait and wound me one last time. Thanks to you, Dr. Ramani, a lot of puzzle pieces have fallen into place, and I have left Mister You-Disappointed-Me nothing but a rapidly shrinking image in my rearview mirror.

When we think we’ve heard it all; you come up with more. Broken EGO - touché!

So Brilliant. It's a broken Ego. The things you share with us are so detailed, and SO empowering, and not every psychologist can do it with such intuition, empathy, intelligence, and responsibility. You blow me away, Dr. Ramani. Thank You x10!

I was so over my narc when I left that the tears didn't work; if anything they just pissed me off. Man up! At least admit you were doing it on purpose and failed. And the final nail were his last words to me when he realized he had failed, "This almost worked," he said, "You were just stronger than I thought". Got that right, see ya! Ahole. They always have to have that last word, don't they? Until their last breath, they're going to make sure they let you know that they still have control and could take it if they wanted to but they're being generous with you at that moment and not doing it. Sure Jan.

You can't break what isn't there, and never was in the first place. Especially their Heart. 🍒

My goodness I love the way you explain this subject. I have been 6 years no contact now and working regularly with an amazing therapist since then. Life is peaceful.😊❤

After l left my ex, he said, "You broke my heart! If you don't come back to me, I'm going to kill myself"! The domestic shelter where I was at counseled me to reply, "Go ahead. I'm not responsible for your actions toward yourself" . Of course he didn't kill himself. He became so pissed he tried to present me as an unfit mother. Thank God the judge saw through all his violin playing and I got sole custody.

One pill that was hard for me to swallow was the fact that my narcissistic parents and brother are capable of feeling love because love is just a hormone and that they have a royally messed up sense of what that means in practice. Let's not forget that the love hormone is also involved in trauma bonding. The first time my ex-wife hit me, I found myself wanting to have a kid with her after. I'm glad we didn't.

My mama gets a “broken heart” every time I don’t do something the way she wants me to. Your channel has helped me trust myself, trust my reality, and step into my adulthood.

My narc ex discarded me then a month later text me saying she was broken. I later found out she text me to have a laugh as she was with her friends. It doesn’t bother me now as I’ve healed.

Part of what keeps me hanging on is me not wanting her to feel the way that she has made me feel so many times.

Great episode! I got that whole "heart is broken" sobbing, blubbering spiel when I escaped - in between his bouts of rage and being blamed/shamed for *EVERYTHING* that had happened. Then I got the "two to tango" stuff about me taking personal responsibility. I went through every single thing in the narc relationship criteria. I had even gone to therapy, until the therapist got "love bombed" right in front of me. But it finally reached the point that I had to put the oxygen mask on myself first and save my own soul & sanity. 4 years later I'm still being stalked. It's very important to them to *_win_* at any cost, but the cost shouldn't be your soul or even your life. To this day, I'm sure his ego believes it was all my fault. He told me he would never "love" again, never "marry" again but within a month of telling him it was over and he had to leave (and he did - taking all my stuff with him)... he was on shady "dating" apps, so he might have a "broken heart" but his other body parts were still getting what he wanted (they were hook up apps). I think the truth of the matter was that he didn't have the next victim ready and waiting when I discarded him. He was stunned because I gave no warning, I pretended everything was fine and normal - right up until the moment I told him to get out. I moved again recently and within 10 days he tried a hoover with the excuse that he had a printer that he wanted to "give" to me. 4 years ago, before I worked through your Program for a while, I would have fallen for it. The Healing Program works!!! Thank you for practically giving it away, I can very highly recommend it. Sorry I've gone on so long. This topic just really is perfect. Makes me wish I still had access to the program to see what you had to say about it on there!! Thank you. Every time I watch one of your calm talks I can actually physically feel my parasympathetic response kick into gear.

Hi, you said something so interesting, the narcissist broken heart act is so difficult to handle because it reminds of a parent that “got” their heart broken when one didn’t behave as they expected. Thank you for that insight 🙏🏼!

I originally started researching narcissism because of my ex. There are so many little things that indicate that she at least has narcissistic traits. No willingness to compromise, constantly giving the cold shoulder, stonewalling and even ghosting. But the more videos about narcissism I watch, the more I wonder whether it's not me who is the narcissist or at least has some narcissistic personality traits. Even if those around me, family and friends, tell me otherwise. But recently I've not only lost her, but also an (old) and actually quite good friendship. That's really getting to me at the moment. Every time I see one of these videos, I think to myself that maybe some parts are more applicable to me...

What a hero and a gift to humanity you are Dr. Ramani. Discovering your work has changed my life for the better in so many ways. Not only have you helped me recognise people's abuse for what it is, distance myself from the narcissistic people in my life and heal, it's also helping me to understand the world issues we have with "leadership", corruption and all the crimes against humanity that are occurring. If we could just figure out a way to get all the narcissists and psychopaths out of power, the world would be a much better place. Thank you for everything you do 🥰

You talked about narcissism in depth, but there are no artistic ways to deal with them

You can't put their broken heart (if it exists) above everything they've broken in the lives of their survivors. Their hearts should break over their behaviour but it won't. Their heart is for them.

Don't ever doubt someone who says they have a broken heart. Definitely don't invalidate them from your doubt.

What helps me is realizing that it is not enough to show emotions, tears and broken heart, when I finally pull out of the relationship. These emotions and this vulnerability is exactly what the narcissist is not showing on a regular basis while in the relationship. Thank you Dr Ramani you are one of the few people on my life that made and are making a major difference ❤

It’s very hard trying to find a way to calmly express how in awe I am that in how closely it feels that this message was communicated SPECIFICALLY to me. I am trying to refrain from going on some kind of psych-spiritual typing tirade.. I’ll just suffice it to say, “freaking WOW!” .. as well as, sincerely thank you very much.

Yes I ended that toxic relationship, and he said " I am breaking his heart" as he stood there crying. I did not give in his efforts had failed on all levels.

It would not shock me at all if a covert narcissist I know said she had a broken heart. She goes for pity anywhere she can.

Or all of the above…BUT my narc is delighting in forcing me to process the divorce. He can be the victim than…😢

I'm BAD, I saw the title and went "aw, waaah." I corrected myself but I'm currently coming up on a year of getting out of a lifelong cycle of NA/DV and my abuser's bday is the 28th. Rough time of the year for me, has me thinking about a lot. 💚💚

I lost the love of my life back in 2012 and to this day my heart is broken. And it has taken a toll on me mentally and physically. I feel like I’m healing but still after 12 years I have not found true closure. I try not to compare people to her but no one has ever got into my heart entirely like her. A broken heart is f deep deep trauma. And I don’t know if it ever fully gets better. Every relationship I’ve engaged in romantically since has been with horrible narcissistic people. Which also draws on childhood trauma. And when they get on the broken heart train, you never fully know their agenda or the truth if they really do feel a broken heart.

When I was 18, my narc twin sister made arrangements with our best friend to live with her family across the country in Arkansas (I’m from California) and basically dragged me out there. I was absolutely terrified to leave home, but I went. Fast forward 5 months later- our friend’s family got tired of putting up with my twin and called her out on her behavior and said for her to either get her act together or to go back to California. So she hurried back to California, and I ended up staying behind because it was my first time tasting independence, and I was afraid of losing that independence if I moved back home. So my twin told me that she was traumatized by my decision to stay behind and that I broke her heart. She also got our whole family in on it, along with friends I had out in California. I got phone call after phone call, voicemail after voicemail, guilting me into moving back home because “it felt like I died.” So yeah, I moved back home. And it took years to regain my independence. To say I felt shame would be putting it lightly. I was suicidal.

My BPD mother's heart was broken when her granddaughter (my niece) wouldn't let her hold the baby. My niece did once, but my mother, after using the RR, still had a glove on that had feces on it. How did my mother expect my niece to hand over her baby to her? Yet, she was deeply hurt and stopped liking the other set of grandparents for always being present when my niece and her baby visited my mother. The other set of grandparents were there at my niece's request because my mother would throw a tantrum and rage when she couldn't get her way. I'm still at a loss as to how my mother could be upset at not holding the baby without thinking about the baby's health, that her feces would endanger the baby's life. What she wanted was more important than the baby's life. I'm at a loss...

That’s their problem. I forgave them that’s enough.

One year after going No Contact, my ex managed to send me a private message on a social media page although I thought I d blocked everything. Anyways, he found out that I was meeting his parents every few months for lunch, we are very close. So I get this message, " You have hurt me enough, please stay away from my parents". I sent the message to his parents and his father told me not to take any notice and not to answer it. He said, no one, especially my son, tells us who we can see or not. You are like the daughter we never had and we love you. Just ignore him. So, its like you say Dr Ramani, its a broken ego...he definitely has no heart!!

I have this old 'friend' who texted me on my birthday. But instead of concratulating me with my 35th birthday, he copy pasted an invitation for his own birthday. And totally forgot about mine. Last year at his birthday was the last time we spoke together, and it didn't go well at all. Also other 'friends' that night, decided to bring up the most shamefull memories about me that they can come up with. The friend who's having his birthday also tried not to laugh about it, but hey. All the little things started to add up. And I was fed up with it. I didn't even express anger. I just made it through the night. Bored. Until we were alon and had a conversation about the things we should stop to keep the sanity in our friendship. He responded: "What kind of a friend are you!?" so I replied "If that is your reaction to my attempt to maintain our friendship, are we still even friends then?" -"Good question." So then I picked up all the empty bottles, put it in the crates and then I just gently left him like I usually did and never came back. The hangover I had the next day, was reason enough to decide to quit drinking alcohol forever. So from now on, at his birthday, I celebrate my years of sobriety. And this year, my silence and absence will speak louder than my precence last year and previous years. Let them gossip. Let them talk. I'm done anyway.

"tears that soak a callous heart" From: Alice 'N chains - I stay away

Do narcissists have hobbies? Real long term hobbies? My sample size is small, three,but I don' t see hobbies.

My therapist tried to sue me for "emotionally abandoning" her when I left therapy, having tried to leave many times. Threats of all kinds came my way every time I tried to leave.

Oh yep 💯 They definitely have a broken ego.And I really didn't want to hurt the person who hurt me and allowed me to be hurt by someone else.

Holy cow! Your timing on this video was perfect! I needed to hear that today. Thank you so much for this and all of your helpful videos!🤗

The panic. That hit hard. To panic over a future full of lies, what was I thinking?

Cant wait to hear this! Should be interesting😊narcisists dont have a heart

Since when did a narcissist have a heart? They don’t have a heart. How is their heart be broken

I have a mother who's a very malignant victim narcissist I now have zero contact with. She would often use the the broken heart strategy and cry croc tears to manipulate me especially when I would attempt to put my foot down and remove myself from psychological and physical abuse from either her or my malignant narcissistic father. This abuse was constant, but had a tendency to peak around holiday season and I would attempt to leave the house because it was my only option. I wasn't filling my role as the scapegoat child and they couldn't "enjoy themselves" without their emotional pin cushion around. Now whenever I deal with any narcissist I tell them if they want sympathy to look in the dictionary somewhere in between shit and syphilis.

A broken fake heart....boo hoo!

Doc .. im going through this right now 😭