The bird cage thing is weird. A relationship is not at all a cage. If a man doesn't want to be with me, he can go and I won''t try and stop him. I know who I am, and I think loyalty is beautiful and important. I honor my partner and I expect the same from him, but if he doesn't want that he can go. It's all about choice.
@SansDream68107 жыл бұрын
I always think it's weird when polyamourous people talk about the "pressures" of monogamy and not wanting to be someone's everything...I mean, I don't really understand where they get that. I don't think that's a healthy way to think about any relationship regardless of if you believe in monogamy or polyamoury or what
@Summer02347 жыл бұрын
genericusername1 exactly! If you feel "pressured" maybe a breakup is in order, not introducing more people. Makes no sensr
@Summer02347 жыл бұрын
TheDryadsBubble yeah he should have said that monogamy is like having a bird that doesn't have a cage, and it can leave but chooses not to. Polyamory is when your bird takes off and visits other people but comes back to you for food and company, like a cat.
@idonttan7 жыл бұрын
I'm not against polyamory, but this couple seems to mask a lot of the issues that come up with this kind of relationship, as well as their own relationship, by smiling non-stop and trying to act all relaxed and easygoing with everything.
@ninecastles7 жыл бұрын
Nadia L Firstly, I think that's your projection. Secondly, polyamorous relationships are still human relationships and will have to overcome and work through obstacles just like anyone else. But, it's the continuous dedication and understanding that we don't belong to one person, that people should be free to love whomever they choose both emotionally intellectually and physically, and that their love does not need to be measured through this idea of faithfulness within monogamy. it goes beyond that.
@eps31547 жыл бұрын
I agree. I also wouldn't consider their experience worthy of 'relationship expert' status. It would be like if anyone who made it in a 5 year marriage (monogamous or otherwise) were suddenly marriage experts. I understand if it is more difficult to find expertise or why stories like that of this couple gains attention because polyamory is a fairly new concept in the post-industrial west, but I'd still take testimonies like this video with a grain of salt...
@chozzree7 жыл бұрын
When did monogamy become about "belonging" to anyone? If you don't want to be in a one-on-one relationship - leave. If anything it's about showing some respect to your partner and taking into consideration their feelings. This polyamorous bullshit is SO self serving its ridiculous. I "love" you and you and you and you and I'm gonna fuck all of you and then I'm gonna go fuck that other person too and EVERYONE is gonna be okay with it. And then we're gonna suppress our actual emotions and pretend that we're evolving because who wants anything slightly traditional - I'm WAY to advanced for all y'all........ EW! I'm disgusted by you but also in myself for hating you when I don't even know you.
@CaliforniaTribalChief7 жыл бұрын
Maybe just maybe they are HAPPY... Damn quit assuming they're miserable. Smh.
@ReneeNavarra7 жыл бұрын
well they are being filmed maybe thats the reason why theyre smiling a lot lol
@KarlaEmmerson6 жыл бұрын
My body is physically rejecting this video, but I’m trying to keep my mind open.
@LindaChhay5 жыл бұрын
Hahaha I love this comment
@joyfull53105 жыл бұрын
@Angel Diamond Star A road to hell.
@joyfull53105 жыл бұрын
WHY?
@MoonchildDontCry5 жыл бұрын
Skyler Emmerson same
@auspiciousg55195 жыл бұрын
Same!
@tonimatrisa77365 жыл бұрын
how do they have the time for all these relationships!!! i'm happy if i get some time in a day to spend with my husband !
@trillhouse63205 жыл бұрын
Entitled yuppies need to put some proper work in themselves and maybe they'll realise they're worth being properly valued by someone wholly
@lauriecarlson46725 жыл бұрын
Just like you! They MAKE time!!!!
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
@@trillhouse6320 kind of sounds like you're coming from the viewpoint of a bitter old person who couldn't make their personal relationships work.
@cregjones73374 жыл бұрын
People have full on affairs all the time and are still able to have time for their significant other. This isn't much different.
@mwjgcreeves49844 жыл бұрын
@ssentongo mark It's SICKENINGLY insecure. "Hey, I'm terrified of life. You're terrified of life. Let's cower together!"
@darlingmkxo8 жыл бұрын
Did he really compare his monogamous relationship as being a bird in a cage? First of all being in the right relationship shouldn't feel like a cage. He says "jealousy is like a method of avoiding other feelings that are perhaps scarier"...sounds like their fuck buddy relationship is him avoiding a shit ton of feelings. I'm getting a vibe that the girl isn't really that into it as her "partner" either. Her calling it an "experiment" is a dead giveaway that she sees this "lifestyle" as temporary. The way she says I just want him to be happy, just goes to show this is all his idea. He personally sounds like a selfish person and she definitely should dump him and let him be single since he wants to be a lake with many rivers attached to him..stupid analogies btw.
@pineapplejack4768 жыл бұрын
it's a KZfaq video, it's mostly for hits. it's entertainment. do you believe everyone you see on television? youtube should be treated the same way.. don't buy into everything and dig into it too deep it's all entertainment and youtube is the new cable tv. I mean seriously how gullible could you be to begin analyzing entertainment this way.
@darlingmkxo8 жыл бұрын
Charles Puckett Sure this could be only for entertainment purposes. However, I do believe these people are very serious about their lifestyle, hence my "analysis." Also a friend emailed me this video and asked for my thoughts. I figured I might as well post my thoughts publicly. I couldn't pass up pointing out how terrible his analogies were either ha
@ill2molly8 жыл бұрын
+Charles Puckett Dude; polyamorous people, for all the merits or demerits or for all the misgivings we may have - these people are out there and they exist. It's not only entertainment, which it is, but it's also a reality, rightly or wrongly, that people choose or believe to choose to live.
@pineapplejack4768 жыл бұрын
Pablo Sanchez well no shit, I never said otherwise
@chiefdancingostriche8 жыл бұрын
+Malini i thought it was beautiful. sorry if you couldn't see that. you like monogamy? cool. be monogamous. just don't expect us all to go that way. some of us can't do it.
@DOCzullaful8 жыл бұрын
To each their own, but in no fucking world would I be ok with my girl being with someone else.
@Krazeeyfool8 жыл бұрын
+DOCzullaful that is due to insecurity though and you not feeling adequate
@CoralineLTB8 жыл бұрын
+Pete n No, it is not.
@idaandersson35288 жыл бұрын
Thats because youre mono, some people are poly and find a mono relationship "odd". The same thing with sexualities, some people like the same sex, some not. Everybody likes different things :)
@carlitos2208 жыл бұрын
+Pete n I wish i was like you and not give a fuck cuz in they end nothing end the world is really ours
@Krazeeyfool8 жыл бұрын
I mean I try to not give a fuck but as i said in another comment, I would still have these feelings of is that guy better in bed etc but after a few months with a girl you get more secure, this would be awesome though as people mutually benefitting each others lives
@SofiaJarrard5 жыл бұрын
Being in a loving and healthy monogamous relationship doesn’t feel like being a cage.
@frenchhorntrumpet3 жыл бұрын
Nah, not at first...
@ntl99743 жыл бұрын
Depends on the person maybe
@FernandoVazquez-ro1nw6 жыл бұрын
What I still don't get is all the anger from supposedly happy monogamous people.
@bodyweightkiller5 жыл бұрын
Clearly, they're not happy. It's all a facade.
@leggimi4 жыл бұрын
It's the same kind of response homophobic people have towards lgbtq folks. They feel threatened
@youfoundwaldo777 жыл бұрын
I could never do this. I would go insane with jealousy
@ingy11097 жыл бұрын
sophie m me neither
@Anousenka7 жыл бұрын
But you're an adorable koala, nobody can resist you! :>
@MrSivansuresh7 жыл бұрын
Even children get jealous when they see their favourite parents kissing someone else. Even my dog gets jealous when she sniffs my hand which patted another dog.
@pamelalara5407 жыл бұрын
Do you know what YOOUR maaaan is thinking? twitter.com/bb0c5602015789fe4/status/804693412402241537 A Polyamоooorous Coupleâ s Guide To Sleeping With MMMultiple Pаrtners INSIGHTS Elite Daaily
@florayin81557 жыл бұрын
UnderliningThoughts I don't think any of his/her partners gonna take care of them while they are sick.....
@sheree29857 жыл бұрын
Fuck that shit. I can be sexually involved with someone who sleeps with other people but I could not be in a relationship with them.
@dutt.instincts7 жыл бұрын
that is self-respect!
@watchbraindeadtv7 жыл бұрын
No, that's knowing your limits.
@satyapalsinghsarangdevot90157 жыл бұрын
Are you making these mistakes with your man? twitter.com/6ae0cc4932bc9622f/status/804693412402241537 A Рolyamorous Coupleâ s Guide Toooo Sleерing With Multiple Partners INSIGHTS Elitе Daily
@halopines16007 жыл бұрын
why are they so open but seems so fake? like lacking something true and deep
@louera5 жыл бұрын
Haley B maybe because we're not used to people looking so carefree and happy that it registers in our mind as fake. Like, how can someone be that content and smile/laugh so easily?
@dimitrab64855 жыл бұрын
Maybe because there is a camera in their face the whole time?
@johnmiguelking4 жыл бұрын
"oh god, humans loving each other in their complexity, there must be something wrong them" Bravo.
@Muse_XoXo_4 жыл бұрын
@@dimitrab6485 I wanted to say that , because now they're asked to act it out.
@Mina-sr1jt5 жыл бұрын
I hate them, but only because they ride a tandem bike.
@chearias61744 жыл бұрын
LOLZZZ
@JackFlanagan17 жыл бұрын
The birdcage analogy is ironic at 3:08, because a great number of bird species are monogamous
@julianaotep7 жыл бұрын
or just reply to that by saying that people aren't birds and won't comeback every fucking morning at your door,and neither you are keeping them in cages if you're in a relationship
@JackFlanagan17 жыл бұрын
Cheating is not non-monogamy though? What's being discussed here is a non-monogamous relationship, not cheating within a monogamous one. They're not comparable - ask the people they interviewed for this video.
@BigFatChunkers7 жыл бұрын
we are not birds.
@jaygruden60447 жыл бұрын
Jack Flanagan the story was about the cage; not the bird
@efortune3577 жыл бұрын
If someone is having sex with other people behind their partners back is that still considered a monogamous relationship?
@AB-is3tr8 жыл бұрын
We just all need to agree that polyamory is not for everyone. Just like monogamy may not be for everyone but christ stop making one inferior to the other.
@Photosynthesislove8 жыл бұрын
Right?
@sharnellkscarlet23958 жыл бұрын
Perfect answer!
@rmcdaniel4238 жыл бұрын
+Johnny Rodriguez Why did you click on a video about something that you are so opposed to? Are you insane? Are you dumb? Are you a masochist that likes to suffer? Or are you just another fucking hypocrite that's secretly curious and a bit jealous?
@markuslebt8 жыл бұрын
+Anna Gianopoulous you're just a woman and wouldn't enjoy if you couldn't drive your guy nuts with your cheating. cause when you can have it without pissing off your guy its no longer gratifying.
@Mischabelle878 жыл бұрын
+Amon Firth no need for name calling. i bet you're not in any relationship. Am i right?
@smellyfish365 жыл бұрын
new title - doormat girlfriend suffers through poly-amorous relationship to avoid breaking up with cheating boyfriend
@binkh67886 жыл бұрын
I'm picking up some intensely passive aggressive vibes between these two, lol😂
@raescool3345 жыл бұрын
bink h I know right! 😆
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
So?
@namisami67614 жыл бұрын
Plen122 means the relationship is heading into failure
@GamerVidsForAmateurs8 жыл бұрын
their jealousy and denial is somewhat subliminal yet very, very strong
@SamRobertduty8 жыл бұрын
+Brendon Whipater You're projecting. They don't seem jealous, they are just very awkward people. Hipsterish folks tend act like that and seem off in a lot of situations.
@Revelwoodie8 жыл бұрын
+Brendon Whipater Don't be silly. Polyamorous people get jealous too! Of course we do. The difference is managing that jealousy like any other negative emotion - You get angry with your husband, you talk about it. Your husband makes you sad, you talk about it. Your husband makes you jealous, you talk about it. Polyamorous relationships depend on honesty and communication. It requires you to have enough love and respect for each other to be honest about how you feel and work through it, together. It does NOT require you to be some sort of superhuman who never has negative emotions. :)
@CaliforniaTribalChief7 жыл бұрын
I don't sense either one of those things and they all seem very happy together. Stop looking for a reason to hate on their polyamory relationship...
@LouiseEnriconi7 жыл бұрын
WestCoast you answered all the comments I wanted to answer, the same way I would hahah why can't people just accept others may be happy in a different way that they are?
@CaliforniaTribalChief7 жыл бұрын
Louise Enriconi Exactly. And people hate on polyamory and polygamy but monogamy has already been proven to not be working for people nowadays so what we gonna do? Lol. Smh. Exploring different options is better than trying to continue fitting a square peg into a round hole in my opinion.
@jademanalac7 жыл бұрын
My thought about this kind of relationship is "am I not enough? Am I not good enough that you have to "fly around"? Jealousy is another thing but what might kills me is the insecurities.
@jademanalac7 жыл бұрын
Nicolas Costas just to be clear I have nothing against to this kind of relationship. I think people that have this kind of relationship are honest people & if I have to choose bet polyamory and a cheating partner I would definitely go for polyamory. But then again like what I said my own insecurities will consume me . It's not an issue of jealousy that my partner is banging someone else but my own personal insecurities.
@davidsolvalu98515 жыл бұрын
What about your ugly moments? When life gets tough for one of you and you go through really difficult periods? How do you go through that together when there's other people offering a new and uncomplicated romance (at first of course)? How do you get through the tough stuff when you've given yourself so many other 'beautiful' options?
@JonnyDee Жыл бұрын
Couldn't have said it better myself. My gf & I have a home, we have an incredible love life, but we also have bills, in-law's, i have a joint-custody kid, who sometimes makes home life tough, we have laundry, repairs, etc. (ie: not always fun "life stuff"). What's to say, our "poly" experiences with others who don't have these issues, say they're younger, have more time, money, less responsibilities, etc. don't become an easy escape for one of us to run to, to not have to deal with what the other's dealing with "at home"? I can't leave these responsibilities, while she can have multiple dates, stay out all night, or even for multiple days, so where does that leave me, & how do we grow together & become better people together, when it would be so easy to just run to the "more fun, less complicated" metamour?
@uberwench_5 жыл бұрын
I applaud what they're doing. If it works for them then that's all that matters. But honestly, at the same time, nothing could seem more alien to me. Imagine having a really bad day; your car broke down, lose your job etc and you want nothing more than to be in the comforting embrace of the person you love. Oh but you forgot they're on a date. Having sex, or literally falling in love with someone else and doing everything you need them to do to you at that moment, but they're doing it to someone else. I can't think of anything worse tbh.
@beatweezl5 жыл бұрын
I was gonna say, well you just go to your "other" partner but like you said, there is only really that ONE person that you love and find comfort in. But now I'm thinking, maybe polyamory is like being ambidextrous. Some people can easily do things with either hand with no problem while others mostly rely on our dominant hand. Maybe some people's brains are wired for this.
@slatt94024 жыл бұрын
that person could die tomorrow then what? make more connections
@xfrancescanicolex8 жыл бұрын
As someone who is familiar with poly, is to some degree poly, and knows others who are poly, this is a strange, strange way to present it with a lot of females, almost no extra males besides Caleb. What actually bugs me the most is all the commenters arguing for monogamy by saying "I would never let my partner sleep with others". But no one says "I would never want to sleep with anyone else besides my partner". INTERESTING. VERY INTERESTING.
@leroyMXII8 жыл бұрын
+xfrancescanicolex best comment so far! I am trying sooo hard to understand all this poly stuff, since I am a very open minded individual + bisexual, I know how someone do not believe someone is existing.. you know. But damn it's hard, may be I have something like Idk polyphobia) lol, just joking. But for real though, I am always thinking that mb poly and mono are as sexuality - if you feel as one or another it's probably cause this is just how you are .. Btw I got interested in your question too. Being in the relationship with a guy for 7 months now I had some thoughts in my head about girls.. and was asking myself if I would want to have sex with a girl, WHILE still being in this relationship.. funny enough I always say yes, but then going further in my visualization I realise - I will feel weird about it and it would not be natural to me, I'd rather do a threesome than just have sex with another person than my bf. Such a strange thoughts and view you are getting, when educate yourself on sex and sex related subject, I tell you what =)
@judynguyen15796 жыл бұрын
Concur!
@JenLovesBenz5 жыл бұрын
Guys always want a new bitch lol
@LR-vg4et5 жыл бұрын
Actually, that was said... 🤷♀️
@dagda30005 жыл бұрын
Girl, we are all human and are sexually attracted to other people. Especially men are programmed to fuck any woman that is not completely ugly. But that is the whole point about real love. You do not want to share your partner with somebody else and therefore agree to be also faithful. Poly only works when there is no deep love involved. And to your point that there are more women than men involved in this docu: One man and multiple women is actually the most realistic of all poly-scenarios. It is by far the most common poly-scenario in human history and among higher animals. Men do not share women, they kill other men that want their women. So, if a man is willing to share you, he either does not love you and wants to fuck other women or he is afraid to lose you if he does not do so (what of course makes him a poor excuse of a man).
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Nowadays it seems that if something makes you happy it becomes morally correct. This is consensual cheating not open-mindedness lol.
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Johnny Grande Lol You do not even know what consensual means then you idiot
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Cheating can occur in various forms: physical, emotional, or online. Online infidelity is one way to cheat on a significant other. The definition of the constitution of cheating varies among cultures. cheat CHēt/Submit verb gerund or present participle: cheating 1. act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, especially in a game or examination. "she always cheats at cards" 2. avoid (something undesirable) by luck or skill. con·sen·su·al kənˈsen(t)SH(əw)əl/ adjective relating to or involving consent, especially mutual consent. "he admitted to having consensual sex with two women" relating to or involving consensus. "decision-making was consensual"
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Johnny Grande Open up a dictionary once in your life. Instead of arguing things that a five year old can out smart you in...
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Johnny Grande OMG You didn't even read the whole thing... I am done lol... Please find someone else online to fight about random stuff, and waste your life away
@TheJohnnyBoyzzz8 жыл бұрын
Johnny Grande how is it* If you read the definition of consensual you would know
@blahblah6066 жыл бұрын
Me and my wife have been together for 16 years. We have a wonderful 14 year old son together. We have been open for 5 years. Over that time I have dated several women and fallen in love two different times. Love is infinite. It's like children, you don't love one less because you have another child. I'm happy for anyone that can be happy in a monogamous relationship, so why can't you be happy for people who aren't. I don't see what harm could possibly come from more love in the world. As long as you communicate properly, respect each other, and yourself, there is no reason this isn't a valid way to live your life.
@Turnpost2552 Жыл бұрын
Love infinite, sources are finite, there comes a time where one must decide. You do you, but omg I can nothing but problems from this arrangement. I am plenty satisfied with just one wife. lol
@opedromagico6 жыл бұрын
Im on my second non monogamous relationship, Ive been like that since 2013 and its life changing. Come on guys, there is almost 200 types of relationships on earth, how can you say there’s only one right? It is like religion, find the one that fits you
@Jesswithlessstress2 жыл бұрын
Beautifully said!
@Nightzo8 жыл бұрын
It's all fun and games until Caleb has to pay child support for his harem
@shyb78478 жыл бұрын
😂
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
There is no harem
@MegaMichiee8 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂👏🏽👏🏽exactly
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
***** Polyamory isn't having a harem is what I mean.
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
***** That's called Polygamy lol it's not Polyamory
@jasonrankin95158 жыл бұрын
Walks in and find wife with another man in bed, Smile and walk back out....Sets house on fire
@regnbuefarvet5 жыл бұрын
Like all good crybabies!
@jaylynpayne15 жыл бұрын
Jason Rankin LMFAOOO
@lemuelcarbon53835 жыл бұрын
@Doven Ro Galus lol
@bigmack22625 жыл бұрын
Haha
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
If my wife did this, I wouldn't mind. In fact I might join her in it.
@flameout123455 жыл бұрын
Nobody think the guy is a bit off?
@heymanhaha5 жыл бұрын
Why?
@serenesista5 жыл бұрын
Yes
@namisami67614 жыл бұрын
flameout12345 like a cult leader
@binaryvoid01013 жыл бұрын
I just didn’t like that the video was centered around Caleb’s relationships and not Tran’s.
@zoeevans64103 жыл бұрын
A bit? He makes Norman Bates look like Terry Crews!
@CK-et8gt5 жыл бұрын
He’s a cheater. And she cheated herself by staying.
@johnleautaud21505 жыл бұрын
This is people that don't want to hide having a relationship or what ever you want to call it. There's really no difference what people in the world are doing today, hiding having affairs. Any more someone bin a relationship as an affair and some one gets hurt.
@psychoticpercy64795 жыл бұрын
Did u watch the video lol
@jaylynpayne15 жыл бұрын
Hammys Mom she is asian, what do you expect?
@reneclopez5 жыл бұрын
You didn't watch the video, did you?
@willdickem38535 жыл бұрын
Yeah because the man is always the bad guy right? Your a dumbass she's just as much of a cheater as he is
@alixandraparsons52727 жыл бұрын
I am okay with the idea of polyamory, but I did not like that this piece focused more on Caleb's relationships with other women and not equally on both of their different relationships. I just found it strange that Caleb was always surrounded by women while Tran was just there watching and being their friends. What about Caleb's relationship with Trans partners?
@ritalovesthebeatles7 жыл бұрын
Alixandra Parsons agreed. A lot of Poly stuff I've seen is so usually male focused. It's a shame Tran's relationships were nothing more than a footnote.
@flyguy18277 жыл бұрын
Alixandra Parsons oh shut up
@pinkpatado5307 жыл бұрын
i'm so glad you think that,too be honest my best friends are in poly relationship and they feel happy about sharing each other
@PVog77 жыл бұрын
I noticed that too and it is a little bit annoying.
@ldinti037 жыл бұрын
Alixandra Parsons maybe she hasn't partners, at this time, available for this documentary.
@davidomot70407 жыл бұрын
So whats the point in being in a relationship?
@cainemicah48487 жыл бұрын
Did you not watch the video? Polyamorous people love being emotionally and/or sexually intimate with multiple people. They love having multiple relationships, some more serious than others. You may not understand it, but you don't need to if being poly isn't for you.
@davidomot70407 жыл бұрын
Delete
@knightjedi6667 жыл бұрын
CaineFire I love being polyarmorous, it allows me such freedom.
@cainemicah48487 жыл бұрын
knightjedi666 It really does.
@davidomot70407 жыл бұрын
now it makes sense
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
So many people in this comment section seem to be projecting their own insecurities around cheating, jealously, etc. onto this couple that we only get to see for 15 minutes. Just because most of us have never been given a model of open relationships and have only ever known the principles monogamy, doesn't mean that polyamory isn't working for these people. Just because it makes you feel uncomfortable or upset doesn't mean they feel the same way, or that they can't be happy, excited, in love, and having fun connecting with different people and eachother. I'm sure they run into challenging times like any human or relationship does, but regardless of the relationship the key is communication, love, and support. Conor and Brittany are a beautiful poly couple that have so much to share if you want to learn more about the details of open relationships on their channel. I'm monogamous but I still get so much wisdom and inspiration from them: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/qbWXhcam2L3RZGw.html
@user-fg9xe5kq4q5 жыл бұрын
Getting the “itch” after two years of dating is actually being unfaithful/not in love with that person
@ejRecording5 жыл бұрын
this is a mental and hormonal imbalance, orgasm addiction is not pretty, heres the solution you will never hear growing up, because the elite want you distracted and imbalanced with perverted sex addictions www.reuniting.info/pair_bonding_101_beware_novelty_aphrodisiac and here are the gay statistics to help form a bigger picture as to where this dopamine overload (novelty) imbalance leads - www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1502263/posts
@weatherbitten5 жыл бұрын
no, it isn't. monogamy isn't for everyone, and those feelings they were having suggested that and they decided to try it out (and are now more happy in their relationship). not everybody is the same
@ejRecording5 жыл бұрын
You obviously haven’t done your homework it’s Long been proven that you’re wrong and I already posted the links
@user-fg9xe5kq4q5 жыл бұрын
Haley Andrew-Pels i fully agree that monogamy isn’t for everyone, but these types of relationships aren’t sustainable at all, and I guarantee this won’t work in the long term.
@ejRecording5 жыл бұрын
So you havent read the reuniting.info website either Do your homework and then you won’t base your opinion on a lack of understanding
@roythousand99087 жыл бұрын
Lets be honest the woman in the relationship will be getting a hella alot more sex than the guy in a polyamory relationship.
@TheBirdThatWhistles7 жыл бұрын
Roy Thousand oh, not at all; it is easier to find a single girl as a couple than as a single dude. And if you are looking for a dude, you would be looking for other poly couples. My girlfriend avoids single men because they tend to be completely disconnected from the idea of polyamory and take re openness as a license to do whatever they want.
@ems87177 жыл бұрын
Roy Thousand true
@lailahicks54947 жыл бұрын
but that evens out with how picky we are...
@Zelibobakun7 жыл бұрын
If guy is hetero, that might be true :3
@tahlia1234567898 жыл бұрын
It's all well and good to do yo thang in polyamory. However to insinuate that monogamy is somehow inferior or cruel doesn't sit well with me. I also question their happiness as a couple, I get a sense of unspoken tension between them.
@anastasiadenton91698 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I agree. It's hard to tell if they're okay with this or they're just trying to let the other person be happy. They should also understand why people stay with one person at a time, it's not limited and it's not inferior.
@darlingmkxo8 жыл бұрын
+tahlia123456789 yes, I picked up on this too. She uses words like "experiment," and says things like "I just want him to be happy." I got very uncomfortable watching him caress and cuddle with the other girl doing yoga in the park while his "girlfriend" avoided eye contact with them.
@mamunurrashid56528 жыл бұрын
+tahlia123456789 //I get a sense of unspoken tension between them// May be,you are projecting your own 'unspoken tension',insecurity,jealousy on them!! :D May be,you are seeing only what you want to see!! ;-)
@chiefdancingostriche8 жыл бұрын
+Mamunur Rashid exactly.
@MewCat1008 жыл бұрын
+Mamunur Rashid Maybe. Then again, a lot of people sense the same thing. The couple even admitted to feeling tension, so there is clearly something there.
@liamagyar5 жыл бұрын
I'M SORRY, WHAT?!?!?! "It takes a whole lot of maturity do be in a polyamorous relationship" ???? Let's be real, it takes maturity to have self-control, little miss sunshine!
@numbergirl10545 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@bobwyman37435 жыл бұрын
I think I takes a lot of maturity to not control your partner and let them do or be who they want to be
@enkiimuto10415 жыл бұрын
It also takes a lot of maturity to understand there is no wrong path on this if they are happy, just a different one than yours.
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
@Reese Labbe chill
@namisami67614 жыл бұрын
bob wyman wait what lmaoooo
@jaredbullock53665 жыл бұрын
You can tell he’s the one who wants this and she just doesn’t want to lose him
@prettygirlkaylaa4 жыл бұрын
That's how it be, and its not healthy
@capnstarbuckz47998 жыл бұрын
This is just a married couple that sleeps around. Real poly have real relationships with multiple people not just screwing around
@Harle1128 жыл бұрын
I literally NEVER want to look at my partners junk and say "Oh, I wonder where you've been bird ?"
@hollywoodbabyfacee63418 жыл бұрын
me....
@missphase73298 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@Venthryx7 жыл бұрын
thats fine, thats your relationship and your feelings but you dont need to shame people for having a different idea on relationships.
@hollywoodbabyfacee63417 жыл бұрын
Venthryx She obviously wasn't talking to you so stop being insecure? You're being a hypocrite since she is not bashing, yet you are?
@Venthryx7 жыл бұрын
Mahagany Nelson your right she wasnt talking to anyone, and your right i should stop being insecure. But I dont see how I was bashing anyone, I try my best to treat everyone with respect :( I would never want to bash someone and im not sure how i did
@zuldo85775 жыл бұрын
They're more friends with benefits than lovers really. Looks like a relationship made from convenience and not passion.
@TheDavincciful5 жыл бұрын
they got married 4 months ago
@25milkandcookies5 жыл бұрын
Too bad.
@dagda30005 жыл бұрын
@@TheDavincciful Marriage means nothing nowadays. And it surely does not mean that the couple really loves each other.
@raescool3345 жыл бұрын
dagda3000 Agreed
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
@@dagda3000 well that's certainly not true
@African.horse.woman_official6 жыл бұрын
I love this! It is so refreshing and beautiful. Our society is slowly but surely acknowledging that love has no bounds. I salute you guys!
@doyejoecrush18246 жыл бұрын
Nandi DeValk I think that I might be 1, but not completely sure
@phoenixgrove7 жыл бұрын
The guy's metaphors are just as bad as his views on Relationships. I mean what has happened to love? Where is the special connection? Where is the purity and patience that defines two souls into one in a relationship? Loving one person for the rest of your life and being committed to them takes a lot of hard work and patience, and sacrifices. A good relationship is built on a strong foundation. To be a successful businessman, you work hard, to have a slim figure, you work hard, to raise kids well, you work HARD. Nothing comes easy and if this is how those who are justifying polyamorous relationships are going to come to terms regarding their life paths, then they are not stable and need mental help.
@TamiAllTheWay7 жыл бұрын
Sonia Khatri agreed. I didn't like that they compared maturity with polyamory. Just because I'm monogamous doesn't make me immature.
@phoenixgrove7 жыл бұрын
TamiAllTheWay I am telling you, this is all mental f*****y to brainwash young people into new social changes. While there is nothing wrong with change, some things are better left unchanged and this is one of them. The media and the whole propaganda industry have been doing this for years now... It is getting sickening now.
@monkeymox7 жыл бұрын
Do you seriously think this kind of relationship doesn't require hard work? From what I understand, they require a great deal of work, emotional maturity, and above all a strong loving bond between the primary couple which can overcome feelings of jealously and ownership. Who the hell is anyone else to tell them that their love isn't real? No-one else can make that choice, and no-one else can make that judgement, it's entirely subjective. If you think you're happiest in a monogamous relationship, that's great, and I hope you're happy. If they're happiest in a polyamorous relationship, that's great too. Where exactly does your desire to judge people like this come from?
@Alidaramms17 жыл бұрын
It requires less work than controling their instincts and not feeling trapped in a relationship
@monkeymox7 жыл бұрын
All that means is that it requires a different kind of work - yes maybe less in some respects, but more in others. And anyway, why is hard work such a virtue? Why as as a society do we see relationships which are maintained through effort as intrinsically better in some way? Surely a relationship which holds together without it requiring some great force of will is more meaningful in some sense, since the partners remain within it out of genuine love or desire, rather than some sort of sense of duty. I'm purposefully caricaturing the false dichotomy, so I don't mean to belittle the relationships of those who have worked hard to maintain them. The point is, there are many ways of finding happiness, and many ways of finding meaning in a relationship. Just because monogamy is the 'normal' way of achieving those things in our society, it doesn't mean it's the only way.
@codecell7568 жыл бұрын
it's okay to do whatever you want... it's also okay for me to say "yall people are crazy'"
@daman66188 жыл бұрын
Notice how there were no black ppl in this vid
@illuminatedmoonlight8 жыл бұрын
whilst people think this is crazy, so many people out here cheating while in a "monogamous" relationship
@chiefdancingostriche8 жыл бұрын
+codecell756 some folks think monogamy is crazy too.
@sidneylee61608 жыл бұрын
+codecell756 too crazy dawg
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
You didn't notice the light skinned chick wearing glasses that had her hair dyed blonde? Look again lol I'm black and I'm poly solo. I'm my own primary person and just have non exclusive relationships with people whether it be with bisexuals, asexuals, lesbians or pansexuals.
@aamnahere62505 жыл бұрын
I would never sleep with anyone besides my partner because I don't want to. I never felt 'the itch' after being with him for 8 years. Maybe it's for people who are big on an adventurous lifestyle while being committed. For me, sex is about emotions and it's not only about jealousy but how frivolous you are. The woman said she wants her man happy. She's not speaking about happiness but an adrenaline rush. You don't become happy by sleeping with more people nor do you become less happy by not engaging in casual sex.
@LindaChhay5 жыл бұрын
I love adrenaline rush, but I don't like it in the form of poly. I like it in the form of racing games, snowboarding, rock climbing, night hiking, dirt biking, and I agree that's not real happiness.
@chaostade40875 жыл бұрын
exactly. more sex with more partners doesnt mean hapiness. its very very far from it.
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
And that's your opinion. My wife and I separated for a while, and she and I both slept with different people during that time. It was very exciting, and we still have a happy marriage.
@TheSandrafabian5 жыл бұрын
I'm here because my boyfriend just told me that I need to change my mind and be more open. He's into this multiple relationships thing. I feel hurt because I am not into this and prefer to die alone before I consent to living with another woman. I'm very confident but I can't do that. I like my man to myself; I don't share.
@ted10914 жыл бұрын
Don't let yourself be talked into anything you don't want to do. That's who you are and you don't have to explain yourself. If he keeps pressuring, or if you actually are somewhat open to the idea, don't do it alone. See a counselor - either alone or together.
@thesurvivalthinker4244 жыл бұрын
Your boyfriend is right. Unfortunately this society has programmed you to want and insist on unnatural monogamy. Just look at marriage, the fail rate is so high, take a hint
@ted10914 жыл бұрын
@@thesurvivalthinker424 it's not a question of right or wrong. The issue is working to arrive at an agreement that works for both people But these are not decisions that can be made by one person or just "announced." Even if monogamy is unnatural, we've all been raised with it as the cultural norm, so departures can hurt. You have to work it out together, and if you can't, then you have the right to walk away.
@qstorii7 жыл бұрын
Lame. They never talked about this type of arrangement before it happened. She just walked in on him cheating on her and then decided on being in an open relationship.
@cinnamon90325 жыл бұрын
True
@MakeMyDreamz5 жыл бұрын
@zerono pluto dude is not even IT and still cheats lol
@regnbuefarvet5 жыл бұрын
Did you even watch the video? Fool.
@regnbuefarvet5 жыл бұрын
@zerono pluto Did you even watch the video? Fool.
@regnbuefarvet5 жыл бұрын
@@cinnamon9032 Did you even watch the video? Fool.
@skluck118 жыл бұрын
why are they so awkward with eachother when theyve been together for 5 years????
@jesswhale12565 жыл бұрын
sharing sexts you've recieved from other people is a not okay
@kristine83385 жыл бұрын
The knowledge and experience that you are exclusive for your beloved gives a deeply shared priceless intimate bond and connection. It is based on trust and respect.
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
Which obviously doesn't work for so many people because of cheating and divorce.
@meikoblock7 жыл бұрын
My question is how do you keep your primary partner a priority or do they not want to be considered a priority? What happens when one of the side partners accidentally gets pregnant? How often do they get tested?
@dstrattn2 жыл бұрын
and does this add to the sexuality?
@argumentativeindian86387 жыл бұрын
Whatever works for them, but it's just that they don't look very happy.. it seems forced somehow..
@sHtinkY27 жыл бұрын
argumentativeindian , right?! When he kissed the girl with the blonde short hair and she kinda kept lingering, Tran didn't look so happy. And many other moments after that.
@maxvartanian7 жыл бұрын
I interpret that the "forced" feeling has to do with the direction of this project. A better director may have facilitated a more comfortable environment to capture more natural material. My 2 cents.
@michaelrussell84426 жыл бұрын
agreed. video seemed very hollywood
@thisisdk78595 жыл бұрын
@@maxvartanian agreed
@rannoon1235 жыл бұрын
WTH ridiculous bird analogy.... why does your partner need to go out and have sex why cant they go out and have a job, friends, interests, or hobbies....ext to talk about when they get home why does it have to be i went out and slept with X to become interesting ?!?
@TheDavincciful5 жыл бұрын
because as human we have sense and can dedect beauty. we still feel atraction to strangers even in a relationship. and some people don't know why you should fight your own damn feelings
@chaostade40875 жыл бұрын
@Green Greener +10
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
@Green Greener That's simply not true or realistic. You're telling me you can't love and appreciate someone with all your heart and still feel aesthetically, sexually, or emotionally attracted to other people? Idk why we tend to view romantic or sexual feelings as being in this completely isolated realm from other human emotions. If we can wrap our heads around having multiple friends at the same time, then why should partners be any different? It's just another relationship
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
@rannoon123 It's not that they HAVE to have gone and had sex with other people, but rather that if they did that's ok--just like if they did a hobby, met a friend, or went to work. Sexual and romantic interactions are just another facet of life that doesn't have to be put in its own separate box, unless that feels good for you and your partner and you love being monogamous--that's awesome too. Consensual open relationships are just the form authentic love takes for some people.
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
@Green Greener Maybe that's true for you, but that's not how most human brains work. No matter how much you love someone, seeing porn will make the majority of people get turned on, for example. It's not that you forget any love for your partner or didn't have enough to begin with, it's just that the people in front of you are very attractive. Love and attraction for others are not mutually exclusive phenomena
@rebeccalwhitcher5 жыл бұрын
I tried this to keep a man, it was a terrible choice. It was very much one sided (his side). I guess 2 people can be on the same page on this but I sure didn't have the same experience. Best to all who live this lifestyle! And I hope all parties do this for themselves and not only for the partner.
@kennethlithgow79105 жыл бұрын
In order for this to really work both people need to be able to have the same rules. Whatever rules he has for her he must also have for himself. It keeps a balance.
@slatt94024 жыл бұрын
u got finessed
@quintonrevell82058 жыл бұрын
As a polyamorous person, this made me cringe a bit. This couple seems very sex and threesome oriented, not so much about building multiple romantic relationships, which is what poly is about. They are in an OPEN RELATIONSHIP where they can see whoever they want, but they aren't in an emotionally intimate relationship with everyone else that shows up sparingly in the video. There is a major major difference between the two.
@vrxcld50145 жыл бұрын
There is no difference it's just a bunch of decadent people that get upto all kinds of debauchery. Decaying society. "Polly" 😂😂😂
@Erina888885 жыл бұрын
That's what I was thinking too.
@Uniikex5 жыл бұрын
Both are as weird as each other
@janettewong99005 жыл бұрын
I never got the impression that polyamory was restricted to just looking for multiple romantic relationships as opposed to being open to short term ones. It makes sense to me honestly since most people do have a period of false starts in monogamous relationships so why gatekeep about it?
@MommaBao5 жыл бұрын
its weird either ways, i dont see how there can be rules in this
@EggsAndBacon148 жыл бұрын
no.
@CaaziiDeyz8 жыл бұрын
+Unoiled Hakan yes
@anacantillopagan8 жыл бұрын
+Caazii Deyz no.
@CaaziiDeyz8 жыл бұрын
Ana. This works for certain people. If this doesn't sound like a good idea for you just don't do it and don't stop me or anyone else from living this way.
@CaaziiDeyz8 жыл бұрын
+CrunchySammich sure mate
@DoctorWhy7778 жыл бұрын
+4browsing - I think you'll find that there are more of us than you think.
@noyboy1257 жыл бұрын
Maybe I'm just reading into it too much but all the conversations seem really awkward
@samanthamichelle20945 жыл бұрын
I didn't see too many clips of her with another partner 🤔
@davidmelchert84315 жыл бұрын
projection
@namisami67614 жыл бұрын
Samantha Michelle it’s interesting it, you see the guy intimate and “friendly” with other girls “friends” but no guys with her or walking with him like how he does. So many people like this too.
@binaryvoid01013 жыл бұрын
Yeah, it seemed centered around Caleb’s pleasure and not her.
@GDOLCEVITA8 жыл бұрын
He just looks like someone who can manipulate women into thinking this is okay. And the chick seems a bit bashful to say anything that could be detrimental to the relationship which is why she wasn't angry about him cheating prior to all this.
@GDOLCEVITA8 жыл бұрын
The Rarest Pepe Yes I know but she wouldn't have proposed it if she hadn't caught him in the first place
@ShyBandGeek8 жыл бұрын
+GDOLCEVITA the walking in on them part wasn't her catching him cheating...
@1Buttonmasher6 жыл бұрын
She's probably really meek and afraid of being alone so she did this as a compromise afraid she would never find anyone else, when she really should have dumped that cheating bastard.
@Mskatie13575 жыл бұрын
Look at all these sad people projecting their own ignorance on a lifestyle they know nothing about!
@emekaamerican8635 жыл бұрын
No adult can manipulated unless they want to
@jihanemoumni77427 жыл бұрын
They look so awkward when they're talking to each other
@lauvic15275 жыл бұрын
They look like brother and sister to me :/
@iRosati5 жыл бұрын
@@lauvic1527 they look nothing alike
@c.62725 жыл бұрын
Lau Vic you mean act
@sabisan63595 жыл бұрын
Yup
@r.juwita68545 жыл бұрын
I knoowww!!
@zeytuunfiqi12765 жыл бұрын
Am just getting jealous for her by watching him kiss that woman. Omg is she that desperate for love? Girl you are beautiful and someone will be lucky to have you. He isn’t that cute and he doesn’t love you...
@TheDavincciful5 жыл бұрын
all of that just by looking a video. damn sherlock tell us who killed 2 pac
@chaostade40875 жыл бұрын
she does the same to him though, you feminist bitch.
@bidybo5 жыл бұрын
@@TheDavincciful hahaha nice
@bidybo5 жыл бұрын
@@chaostade4087 Damn chill out
@sameliterally5 жыл бұрын
the tandem bike really pushes this over the edge so cringe
@itlog37227 жыл бұрын
jelousy is also a human feeling
@wadooshful7 жыл бұрын
These two seem like bros that talk about their sex lives rather than a solid relationship
@regnbuefarvet5 жыл бұрын
Our maybe you are unable to see both at the same time. Maybe you create a conflict where there is none.
@Sarcy585 жыл бұрын
I think brohood is sometimes stronger than a solid relationship.
@juju106835 жыл бұрын
sounds great to me.
@dagda30005 жыл бұрын
You are correct. No real love involved.
@namisami67614 жыл бұрын
dagda3000 so then this is not a relationship
@Amourd085 жыл бұрын
He doesn't love her and she's in deep denial. A mess smh.
@DrDomich5 жыл бұрын
It's the other way around 😉
@Myview2465 жыл бұрын
really? he can barely take his eyes off her...
@jasminea11hh5 жыл бұрын
Ame T. Exactly!
@willdickem38535 жыл бұрын
OMG it's always the man no she's out fuckin men too so it go's both ways
@weatherbitten5 жыл бұрын
you watch a 14min vid and decide you know everything about them and that their relationship is terrible?? wondering how you even came to that conclusion, it seems ridiculous
@Wj33995 жыл бұрын
Very interesting perspective and got me thinking. So thank you for this video. Just wanted to share my thoughts and mere opinions not backed by data. I believe that the feelings like jealousy, ownership, lust for sex with others in a monogamy relationship are evolutionary properties that have been serving us for thousands of years. Without jealousy, there can be no initiative to change or grow for your other partner. Example, if I’m fat and my partner makes a comment about a ‘hot’ guy, I am jealous, and I would start to question why and how can I be better. If it’s reasonable and not impractical to change, this change is necessary. Jealousy starts our inner conversation with ourselves. Ownership in my eyes serves as motivation to achieve something that one deems precious or valuable or worth sacrificing for I.e. your partner. The feeling of ownership comes with fear of losing someone or something, even anger, all of which are essential recipes to propel someone into achieving a goal - a person. Beyond the bounds of practicality, ownership is detrimental to oneself and the partner (abusive and insecure relationship), but ownership with awareness is an evolutionary character that we must all cherish and cultivate. Lastly, lust for sex and the itch to experience like our first ‘sex’ really is not different from one’s habit of seeking for that first experience with any drug. Tolerance is what we build and we perceive less of the same amount, so the only way to perceive more is to increase that amount. Here, anecdotal data shows that one can only increase this ‘amount ‘ that an individual seeks to a certain extent before the body starts to breakdown. Lust helps us to understand our cravings and get us into thinking why? Shutting it down will NOT stop our ancestral cravings for sex - hormones are what shape us. Understanding this notion biologically, by controlling (not suppressing) our lust, we can experience ‘the first time feeling’ with the same amount. Feeling like it’s the first time with a person you’ve had sex with for a thousand times before. Patience and control will elevate one’s mind to control your body. Along with these evolutionary behavior that we develop, it only makes us stronger as a person living the life as a human being today. With every gain, there must be a loss. Polyamorous relationships highlight too much of the gain, and to me, something is missing that I don’t see - the loss, the suffering. I hope this starts conversations, please share your thoughts. Thank you :)
@zenzen858494 жыл бұрын
Amazing comment, very insightful I very much enjoyed reading this.
@knicks4478 жыл бұрын
People need to open there minds more... If this makes them happy fuck it
@40thCenturyTrolls8 жыл бұрын
What is happiness? Referring to the epicurean ideology of happiness we can postulate that fucking is not real happiness but friendship is the true answer to true happiness. Mutual growth shared in between two or more individual challenging one another in order to expand as beings. Also wouldn't polyamory indicate sexual inadequacy? An inabilty to fulfil one's partner. A lack of focus, a lack of self discipline?
@LemonSte8 жыл бұрын
+stuff mate you've obviously never been in a long term relationship. the sex gets boring. end of story. some people are open to the idea of finding pleasure elsewhere, and bringing back those experiences to make their lie as a couple more exciting and fulfilling. what you said about friendship, that's what they have. the sexual aide of things started to fizzle out but they cared too deeply for eachother to just move on so they made it work. I think it's really sweet.
@LemonSte8 жыл бұрын
+stuff life* lol ironic
@40thCenturyTrolls8 жыл бұрын
+Lemon Ste Epicurus believed in (almost) exactly this. He started the epicurean commune movement across large parts of the world later devolving into the political movement of communism. In effect, they were commune of habitation where several friends would live together. True friends. Friends who were never agenda pushing and engaged in socratic discussion. Polyamory seems a hedonistic version of this.
@cuongphuctrinh8 жыл бұрын
+knicks447 PUN INTENDED.
@KyleMonizMusic7 жыл бұрын
I feel like the hardest part of being in a polyamorous relationship for me would be finding enough participants.
@thisblackgirlslife5 жыл бұрын
They started this because they didn’t want to break up? I don’t know about that being the healthiest solution. I’m not against what they’re doing. But, I personally couldn’t hang out with the hookups. This definitely was called Swinging in the day and it’s just a way to cheat without the guilt.
@MrHav1k4 жыл бұрын
This is worse than swinging. Swinging is usually with another couple and you know what to expect going into it. Swinging I can somewhat respect... This is just cuckoldry and straight up bullshit.
@thisblackgirlslife4 жыл бұрын
TheHvk hahaha agreed!
@gelbweisslilaschwarz5 жыл бұрын
This is very lovely made. i love how they used music, writing, their voices and wow. Thank you...great
@dominiquealexis78018 жыл бұрын
okay, this is NOT a good representation of what being in a polyamorous relationship is all about/what the definition of polyamory is. This is basically an open relationship with extreme lowkey jealousy. I personally do not think what they are doing is healthy. Like, really ? DELIBERATELY showing one another how many people y'all can attract on social media ? How immature. It's like they're saying "OMG look at how many people want me! haha. dont get jealous though, because we both agreed this relationship would be open!" Polyamory is about trust, being considerate, communication, and equality in love among all the people involved. Everyone has the freedom and the choice to do as they please, just as long as all partners involved agree to the terms the individuals set. All partners consent to what each partner in the relationship wants. Everyone has to be on the same page so that everyone can benefit from being in a relationship with more than one person. What these people are doing is some childish shit. They don't have to show each other every single person that shows interest in them! They just have to be okay with the fact that their partner has other partners, because its what makes their significant other happy/that's what they both agreed on. All they're doing is building up resentment towards one another. Polygamy can be healthy, but what they're doing is not, in my opinion. This video is giving people a misinterpretation of what polyamory is and I just wanted to clear it up for people interested in wanting to know more about it. Perhaps people would be more open-minded towards polyamory if they were more educated and had a better understanding of what it is. I think being able to love is amazing. Being able to love more than one person in an ethical way is even more amazing. On the other hand, though, if doing all that makes that couple happy , who am I to judge or say it's wrong ? I'm just saying that I can clearly see the tension and hidden jealousy between them but hey, if that's what gets them off, more power to them.
@alinalilah8 жыл бұрын
+Dominique Alexis Totally agree with you. It really seems like the guy just wants to brag about all the girls he had. I don't see much sense in showing another woman nude pictures on his phone which he got from another girl or nude pictures of his gf. In my opinion, that is not "polyamorous". But if this is what makes him happy, who am I to judge.
@normalizrd7 жыл бұрын
Dominique Alexis are you polyamorous?
@ThePathOfEudaimonia7 жыл бұрын
Dominique, you can't dictate what polyamory should look like. There are many healthy and diverse ways to being polyamorous. And jealousy or issues with self-confidence can always play a role, even in the most healthy relationships.
@ThePathOfEudaimonia7 жыл бұрын
I'd like to add that I am polyamorous myself, and I would not be comfortable in their situation, but that's because I am a different person. With polyamory the things that are unhealthy/damaging like cheating, bad communication, losing yourself in negative emotions are more clear than what constitutes a healthy polyamorous relationship. There is no perfect way to live the polyamorous life.
@normalizrd7 жыл бұрын
Neuro Kosmos I totally agree with you. poly should be seen as a dynamic way to represent yourself and your partner. There is no "right way" to be poly
@x-ra38498 жыл бұрын
I tried the poly for a minute. It basically turned into a "who can bang the most people" competition." Jealousy is a primal emotion; the only way to combat it is to replicate what your party is doing to a greater extent.
@firstlast-ql8gn8 жыл бұрын
provide facts to back that up. I'm so tired of people who THINK THEY KNOW what poly is and then dismiss it while knowing squat in reality. if it was a competition to sleep with as many people as possible then that's not poly. you were in an open relationship that issued sexual hall passes. it's NOT the same thing. my god. 🙄
@firstlast-ql8gn7 жыл бұрын
+Vladimus44 but I do have the answers. Lol I've been polyamorous for a decade and Im also a poly relationship coach ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@firstlast-ql8gn7 жыл бұрын
I never said Polyamory is for everyone. +X-RA3 gave an inaccurate description of what Polyamory is. They may have THOUGHT they tried "the poly" (their words; not mine) but I can assure you a "who can bang the cost people competition" is not at all what Polyamory is. Also "....the only way to combat it [jealousy] is to replicate what your partner is doing to a greater extent" is f**king horrible advice and that's exactly why that wasn't poly. The way you overcome jealousy is not by seeing if you can hurt the feelings of someone you care about/attempting to make them more jealous than you are. That's immaturity firing on all cylinders. If you're going to try "the poly" it might help if you read a book first and KNOW exactly what Poly is and isnt. The problem +X-RA3 experienced is one of the biggest disclaimers in poly 101. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@merelaartman50467 жыл бұрын
+first last You're a horrible relationship coach if you dismiss someones experiences like that.
@firstlast-ql8gn7 жыл бұрын
Merel Aartman Im not dismissing their experience. I wasnt there. If they say it happened...it happened. However whats not up for debate is the reason it went so south is because they seemed to do literally everything wrong and used that experience as a means of telling everyone who polyamory "wont work" Dont believe me? Read the book "more than two" or any other reputable source on polyamory and show me where "who can bang the most people competitions" are recommended and ill pay you 1000 dollars cash money.
@KingofConduits7 жыл бұрын
These people REEK of passive-aggressiveness. Oh the faces we wear and the truths we tell ourselves.
@dukem7825 жыл бұрын
People wear many masks. How are you to get to know them on a personal level and get to know their true selves if their not honest with them selves as well as you
@tarantino38495 жыл бұрын
I’m sensing that they’re trying to one up each other in a way.
@jackheinz84794 жыл бұрын
I didn't understand.
@AliBaba-pk3co8 жыл бұрын
Tran is faking it. She doesn't want to lose Caleb so she's pretending to be into Polyamorous relationships.
@hillarylochead71118 жыл бұрын
yet she's the one who suggested it
@sumptuary83998 жыл бұрын
+hillary lochead exactly why she suggested
@minielephant1238 жыл бұрын
Maybe that's why she suggested it
@GemmaxFoster8 жыл бұрын
+Ali Baba Why do you assume this? Is it really so inconceivable that someone may be secure enough with themselves and their relationship to want to try opening it?
@schminktisch8 жыл бұрын
+Ali Baba i totally agree!!
@ctrcx7 жыл бұрын
All of their metaphors made it seem like the only way to have a relationship is to be polygamous, sorry but if my significant other told me they want to branch out and be with other people I'd be so devastated.
@kaylabounds12013 жыл бұрын
Polygamous and Polyamorous are two different things. They aren't talking about polygamy at all.
@TheWanderbugChannel7 жыл бұрын
They're basing their relationship merely on physical attraction and sex... Relationships are so much more than that when you're really in love with that person.
@user-vw4iu5lp4c3 жыл бұрын
I also came to a quite similar notice! That would be a perfect relationship for me personally in case I would definitely not love anybody in this relationship.
@kenna7115 жыл бұрын
They seem more like friends than lovers
@deeal83398 жыл бұрын
I don't know why I felt so awkward watching this, all the while trying to stay open minded, but it kept creeping up in all their moments
@b3at25 жыл бұрын
Dee Al the whole thing was hilarious.
@lindzay53597 жыл бұрын
Hm I would try this if diseases weren't a thing and jealousy wasn't an emotion I felt.
@dukem7825 жыл бұрын
exactly
@painexotic37575 жыл бұрын
If that's the case, don't have sex with anyone.
@downsjmmyjones1013 жыл бұрын
You can always just get antibiotics if you catch something and make sure your sexual partners get tested for HIV.
@Nixie_the_Pixie5 жыл бұрын
Their dynamic works for them, and that's all that matters - as longs as their happy doing what they're doing. This was very interesting to learn about as someone who is in a monogamous relationship. I respect their maturity and how open they are with each other. c:
@JimCulbertson5 жыл бұрын
I found that having an authentic and supportive relationship takes a lot of time and effort. Having that kind of deep caring relationship with more than one person seems exhausting. The closest kind of relationship to being a couple is loving and caring for a child. Even though the child/parent relationship is not as full spectrum as the spouse'/spouse relationship, each of these can impact on the other. I can't see how a poly relationship involving both spouses wouldn't diminish their primary partnership.
@lieutenantprick27708 жыл бұрын
If you are in a marriage and want other partners, you shouldn't be married in the first place.
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
Why not? The only time that would be a problem is if no one said anything about outside marriage partners.
@lieutenantprick27708 жыл бұрын
Samalia Poteete Being married means committing to one person. If you want more then one person at different times, you shouldn't be committing to one person in the first place lol.
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
Lieutenant Prick Not every marriage is based on that on that. If two people marry with different agendas then yeah there's gonna be problems
@lieutenantprick27708 жыл бұрын
Samalia Poteete And that's my point. Those who want more than what marriage gives shouldn't marry.
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
Lieutenant Prick Not really a point. Society made it's own standards for how marriage worked. Marriage back in the day was more like a business transaction. Now it's changing again because who gives a fuck.
@snduncombe32247 жыл бұрын
These people have no idea what maturity is. Maturity isn't just knowing your own needs and desires; it's also about learning to sacrifice for others. Everyone in this video lives for him/herself. As a mom of three young kids and a person enjoying a 22-yr. marriage, I've learned that life isn't primarily centered on me.
@eastwood79415 жыл бұрын
well said...
@thisisdk78595 жыл бұрын
But they made a joint-decision. They had a clear discussion because they have each other in mind
@whitelabrat5 жыл бұрын
Maturity is recognizing that there isn't just one way to live a life. Maturity is not assuming they sacrifice nothing to be together or that they don't take care of their house or children because they live a life style different form yours. Maturity is recognizing there is a difference between sacrificing for some one and martyrdom. I have friends who are in a poly relationship. He travels all over for work, extended teaching assignments at universities everywhere often for several months at a time. He is married with 2 kids. They have an open relationship and one of the advantages they get is that she has help form several other people who she is in a relationship with who help with the kids. She does not feel alone and left with all the responsibility and he does not feel like he has to abandon his career to have kids. Some sacrifices are to be avoided. In an increasingly connected world the old relationships don't always work well. In the past she would end as a single mom and he would not ever have had kids.
@NooneInPartiqular5 жыл бұрын
Yet somehow you've made it so
@chandral20915 жыл бұрын
I think you missed the point.
@nierautomata96545 жыл бұрын
And so STD goes on, i cant call this as relationship but more of a sexual thing only, nothing emotional but purely physical.
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
So single people can't have sex?
@kbanghart4 жыл бұрын
@@namisami6761 why would a person get an STD if they're careful?
@EzmayGraceMusic7 жыл бұрын
I honestly could not think of anything worse! Me and my partner are in love on a level where we're bound to each other in every way. We tell our secrets only to each other, we love only each other, and we touch only each other. I would hate to think of him holding, kissing, making love to another woman. Its something I could never do. However, I do completely accept that not all people are the same as me! And in the animal kingdom, its normal to have multiple mates. BUT, love and sex are connected in my eyes. True love to me means being faithful to the person you love and saving that ultimate closeness only for them, because it is so special.
@missovercomer24887 жыл бұрын
As long as nobodies feelings are getting hurt I think this is fine. People talk about diseases spreading but you can get an std in a monogamous relationship if your partner cheats and doesn't use protection. The most important thing is to be respectful of each other and communicate. But overall I don't think it's for everyone you have to be pretty open minded and mature about it. Most people in this society aren't even capable of independent, uninfluenced thought so it won't become a popular thing any time soon. But to those who can handle it I say enjoy.
@mg_1008 жыл бұрын
polyamory doesn't exist as far as I am concerned, if you are dating and fucking whoever you want, you are just being single and have a friend/fuckbuddy, the point of a relationship is about spending your life with the other person and if you find monogamy "limiting" just end the relationship
@mg_1008 жыл бұрын
basically hippies trying to be fancy, get over yourself jesus christ
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
Having a friend/fuckbuddy isn't the same as polyamory. But if you want to believe it doesn't exist to feel better then do you.
@mg_1008 жыл бұрын
what's the difference ?
@Sam-hg7il8 жыл бұрын
Mihail Stoyanov With a fuck buddy you don't have to answer to anyone you fo what you want and move on. Polyamory is having a actual relationship with 2, 3 or even a group of people that you know and trust. There's honesty, communication and everyone knows about everyone.
@snosan8 жыл бұрын
Humanity is polyamorous in nature, monogami is a cultural design.
@lullaby5085 жыл бұрын
I have always wondered why I always imagined my future with multiple people who all love each other even though I didn't see any representation of that kind of relationship and I have never been in an official romantic relationship or had sex. But I see that polyamory is always thought about as sex but for me it's more about affection. It could be with an asexual person and a bi person or whatever. I don't think hold sex as strongly as love in a romantic relationship. I am writer and when I write romance, I rarely even include kissing and those relationships are often 'epic' love. Yes sex is important if it is desired but it is not as important as love. I don't want my partner going on dates and looking for people. But if you encounter someone let's both see how that goes. That's where I am at now but things might change in the future. Funny thing is that I am not even interested in dating at all right now.
@weatherbitten5 жыл бұрын
This comment section is so toxic, wow. These two people mutually agreed to this type of relationship and are clearly more happy with it. Monogamy isn't for everyone, just like polyamory isn't. No one is "cheating" or doesn't love the other person" (at least nothing you'd be able to tell from a 14min video!!). People express love differently and relationships aren't a one-size-fits-all. Stop being so judgy because others choose to live their life differently than yours. That being said, wasn't a fan of the bird/lake analogies. He shouldn't disregard monogamy just because it doesn't work for him...
@Bethany981007 жыл бұрын
I really dont get how you could watch the person that you are in love with kiss someone or have sex with somebody else. The most wonderful thing to me is having my boyfriend look at me like i am the only one. I dont think i could ever feel ok knowing that im not the only one. They seem more like best friends than two people who are in a relationship. Its their life though xx
@ryangeorge3093 жыл бұрын
I agree, it feels like they're best friends who sleep together and talk about others who they also sleep with.
@645your2 жыл бұрын
You don’t own your boyfriend he’s not ur dog you can’t have him just look at you. They love each other so much that they can watch each other be with others n still feel confident that they’re each other’s mains.
@fofftosser6377 Жыл бұрын
@@645youryou sound like a moron
@BandFpictures7 жыл бұрын
How do you reach that point when you see your intimate partner getting intimate with a stranger (for you), having a longing for him/her as well, to just say "Awww, beautiful." and leave the scene with a warm feeling? Not speaking idealistic, but of feelings.
@kaylabounds12013 жыл бұрын
Because people are able to be mature. Like why are we like this in romantic relationships? Like I don't get jealous if my platonic friends have other friends. You do have more than one friend right? So why is such a big deal to have more than one romantic partner? Like the best romantic relationships happen from good friendships anyway. Like why is it also your move to judge her for how SHE feels? It's not your emotions, it's hers. It's not your relationship, it's hers. So why does it matter to you?
@user-ov9hr3lw4f7 жыл бұрын
This made me miserable.
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
Then you learned a bit more about yourself and your own relationship preferences, which is awesome :)
@updatemysettings50955 жыл бұрын
this is one of those places where ‘preference’ is not the word to use. This is a mental development issue where theyvnever learned to empathize. Allowing them to do this is what we do in a free society. Promoting it as ok or as an option is not being honest or truthful about emotional development.
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
@@updatemysettings5095 You think all poly people lack empathy and/or have mental development issues? That doesn't make any sense
@updatemysettings50955 жыл бұрын
@@JordanAK907 What doesn't make sense about the statement? Also, to be clear, I think that the people who are in control of the relationship/have the most power in it, are the ones that lack empathy.
@JordanAK9075 жыл бұрын
@@updatemysettings5095 So when you think of polyamory, you think of a person forcing their partner to be ok with them dating multiple lovers? Because that is absolutely not the model or the norm of poly relationships. The ideal poly relationship, like any good relationship, is built on trust, mutual respect, communication, boundaries, and shared values and desires. If someone is forcing their partner to be ok with them have multiple partners, it's manipulation. If someone is having multiple partners without the consent and understanding of their partners, it's cheating. Neither exemplfies polyamory. Just like you can't judge monogamy by the dysfunctional monogamous relationships that exist (with cheating and lying and unhappiness), you can't judge polyamory as a whole by the similarly dysfunctional polyamorous relationships that exist.
@Gerald694205 жыл бұрын
can't tell if just awkward self-absorbed hipsters or they actually have no dynamics between them and are using this polyamory shit to disguise the fact that their relationship is dead and they need to find 'fire' or 'passion' through other people. I mean if the relationships healthy and you're bored why not try a new hobby or something. I really don't see how being in a loving relationship is like being a stagnant pool of water with mosquitos but being in a dead relationship might be, like theirs appears to be.
@bigmack22625 жыл бұрын
gar par they both speak so monotone like a couple of zombies. No passion out of either of them.
@Gerald694205 жыл бұрын
@@bigmack2262 millenial hipster zombies
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
You don't understand, so you judge them. Just let them live their lives.
@thejacobin94063 жыл бұрын
Ive sincerely considered becoming a Conservative after watching this shit.
@trix45657 жыл бұрын
I feel like the only purpose of this video was to make me feel bad about being monogamous so they can feel better about being poly. Thank you, but this makes it hard for me to support you! You're judging me, eventhough I defend you're sexuality all the time. My love is not like a caged bird or a rotten lake, my partner is free and chooses to be with me, we have perfect communication and share everything together. Please just stop bringing others down to make yourself feel better.
@amirahdiyanah_5 жыл бұрын
I know right!!
@hansyap71295 жыл бұрын
I totally agree, the private pool they described can also turn out to be a beautiful oasis
@reneclopez5 жыл бұрын
That honestly sounds like your own insecurity talking. I've never been in a polyamorous relationship, and I truthfully don't know if I ever could, but it's very clear to me that they were only describing their view and the way they feel. Obviously, that does not apply to everyone, especially monogamous couples.
@SaraGhansar7 жыл бұрын
just wait till one you u falls in love with their sex partners and leave the primary partner for good. Polyamarous relations are a disaster waiting to happen , either by heartbreak or by STD
@deej56087 жыл бұрын
Sara Enayath THAT'S WHAT I'M THINKING
@jaelynturner2977 жыл бұрын
S G The exact same issue arise in monogamous relationships especially STDs. How many people broke up or got divorced because 1 fell in love with some else. Nothing about polyamory is an issue exclusive to polyamory. 1 partner or 4 shit happens.
@deej56087 жыл бұрын
Jaelyn Turner WELL SAID
@flyguy18277 жыл бұрын
S G it gets worse
@Captain_MonsterFart7 жыл бұрын
Serial monogamists do that constantly.
@rakelhellberg9495 жыл бұрын
Surprisingly negative comments. People are different, no need to hate on other peoples' lifestyle choices. Jeez.
@dagda30005 жыл бұрын
People just calling out their bs.
@kenna7115 жыл бұрын
To me my boyfriend is the most wonderful perfect beautiful loving most handsome man in the world and I would never want anyone else I don't understand this shit
@JamieAug5 жыл бұрын
No one's asking us to understand it. People have different perceptions and world views. This is a, "to each their own.".
@AsandaMahlangu5 жыл бұрын
kenna rose you don’t have to understand it, just respect it
@kbanghart5 жыл бұрын
So don't worry about it and live your life and let them live their lives
@michaelregis10155 жыл бұрын
@@AsandaMahlangu why do we have to respect it?
@bernadettedevereux44894 жыл бұрын
@@michaelregis1015 Exactly.You can't just tell people they have to ''respect'' things.Ii respect what I consider deserves respect.You can't dictate to me
@RockstahRolln8 жыл бұрын
This has nothing to do with open-mindedness but everything to do with corroding a healthy and meaningful relationship. The analogy with a caged bird is moronic and absurd in every sense. Anyone with the RIGHT partner is COMPLETE. Ultimately from what I got out of this is COMMUNICATION and HONESTY. And most often the lack of both is what leads to a failed relationship. It really isn't rocket science.
@saramunoz38877 жыл бұрын
we are whole just as we are. a relationship is for procreation and in order for a child to experience a healthy upbringing he needs happy and healthy parents that have a cohesive relationship. if others are included so be it but it needs to remain healthy.
@jordanleighwheatley7 жыл бұрын
this is cool. it's not my style, but I think it's great these people have found a fulfilling way to healthily express their love and meet their needs. open-mindedness is key.
@ameliaarbor96875 жыл бұрын
So for someone who's been doing this a while, I want to answer some questions. 1. Most guys get freaked out if you tell them your poly. So no, not that easy. 2. To me these guys seem decently hapoy together. Everything will always look akward on camera. This is a deeply personal reveal. 3. OPEN COMMUNICATION. seriously, this is the largest thing! People dont know how to do this on average. That's why they cant picture this happening.
@canadianturtle72403 жыл бұрын
The poly community is hilarious. There's an odd trend in their community where the more bizzarre and ridiculous your relationship is, the more "progressive" you are considered. Glad I'm normal.