A REALISTIC Guide to Living a SOFTER LIFE *how I got my life back*

A REALISTIC Guide to Living a SOFTER LIFE how I got my life back

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Let’s talk about how to live a soft life, because we all deserve a life of more peace and ease. Living the softer life was how I got my life back and helped me tap more into my feminine energy. It made me feel like me again and helped my body feel healthier, too!
So here are some actual practical tips and a realistic guide to living a softer life. If the soft girl life is calling your name, I hope these tips help.
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MENTIONS:
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Cycle Syncing Video (how to sync your life to your cycle): • HOW TO SYNC YOUR LIFE ...
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 A Realistic Guide to Living a Softer Life
1:05 Tip #1
3:29 Tip #2
4:12 Tip #3
5:42 Tip #4
7:08 Tip #5
8:27 Tip #6
9:25 Tip #7
11:07 Tip #8
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OTHER VIDEOS TO WATCH:
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10 Habits to Increase Your Feminine Energy: • 10 HABITS TO INCREASE ...
How to Completely Reinvent Yourself in 6 Months: • How to COMPLETELY REIN...
The 7 Feminine Archetypes - what woman are you?: • THE 7 FEMININE ARCHETY...
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@zenathsalam4306 Жыл бұрын

I'm a dude and i came up on your video. It's great to see a woman being proud in her femininity and promoting it onto other women in this where its very need. Just wanna say men really appreciate the effort

@Clauds71 Жыл бұрын

That’s so sweet.

@GetElevatedWithMe 9 ай бұрын

I love this! Thank you so much for sharing.

@AshokTiwari-hz8ir 4 ай бұрын

Ghudmonnigandthnkyoumamadrskhanpuranaha

@lynetteparmley7537 Жыл бұрын

One of the best things I've been told while on my feminine journey is that you don't get an award for having the hardest or most difficult life.

@pavilova29 Жыл бұрын

“Doing everything yourself doesn’t make you a better person, it just makes you more stressed” PREACH 🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️

@juliafisher5844 Жыл бұрын

@emeraldpurple5797 Жыл бұрын

1. Spend more on Ease 2. You don’t need to do everything yourself - overwhelmed, burnout 3. See beauty in the journey - Life is a marathon, not a sprint 4. You don’t need to know everything 5. You are in control - friendship, job, environment 6. You are not the same everyday 7. Go slower - slow down / rest 8. Don’t self sabotage

@johnsonjo8454 Жыл бұрын

Emerald purple hi love you💋💋💋😘💓

@Alexia24601 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary!

@anitacarter8060 Жыл бұрын

I agree I’m so tired of the hustle culture… The mentality that if you aren’t being productive than you were not a good person 🤷🏼‍♀️

@StrangeScaryNewEngland 11 ай бұрын

These days it's all about bling, material goods, jewelry, being half naked, and flashing wads of cash. You can also thank rap and hip-hop culture for that since that's where it really started to take off, back in the early 2000's.

@imanijx Жыл бұрын

Stopped watching the news last year. Found it boosted my feminine energy 100 fold.

@missmitzijane Жыл бұрын

ive been living this way for years and others (including family), always gave me flack for it lmao. at the same time, they were admittedly jealous but also happy for me. they chalked it up to me just being "lucky". Nope, just a conscious decision to live this way. I'm glad more people are catching on because it truly is so freeing and everyone deserves to feel that peace within. It also doesnt have to be a permanent shift. Allow yourself to go through phases as well as life ebbs and flows. I see it almost as medicinal, doing what feels right depending on the circumstance at the time.

@Carmen_Lee_Co Жыл бұрын

Yes! Not watching the news is the secret sauce-it really helps my mental health x

@sweetsimpleslowlife2709 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to see a young woman who is able to enjoy life and is not hustling to survive. I think it depends on which career you choose and what your calling is in life. I’ve been in the healthcare field all my life and it’s not realistic to even think about softer life when you work full time and you dedicate your life to serving others. I did get burned out eventually and so I moved to Florida and as a result I’m able to work part time and enjoy life more😉

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Career definitely plays a huge part in it I think. I find it much easier to live a softer life when I work for myself doing a job I love…vs working a very intensive corporate job where people care deeply about how many hours you can work for. But the good thing is is that we can always change direction if something isn’t working for us anymore 💕

@assiaslife2110 Жыл бұрын

@@JillzGuerin super!

@sweetsimpleslowlife2709 Жыл бұрын

@@JillzGuerin precisely 💯 so many people think they are stuck, but the truth is there is always a choice and all we have to do is choose wisely 😉

@StrangeScaryNewEngland 11 ай бұрын

I'm a cook. I have no time to slow down, turning over the dining room 3 times in one night, serving over 300 people in 120 degree heat. But it's fun.

@hiannahgus574 Ай бұрын

I am in healthcare, too, and it’s a very machismo field. Being strong mentally and physically is part of the job. Softness is not valued in healthcare, unless you’re a social worker. I try to bring some softness/caring/femininity/inspiration to our patients, and they appreciate it.

@kaitlinroth7555 Жыл бұрын

your point about not needing to know everything is so liberating! love this vid and your channel

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

That one was so huge for me! And thank you!! 💕💕

@johnsonjo8454 Жыл бұрын

@@JillzGuerin beautiful girl💋💋💋

@natalie_s Жыл бұрын

Jillz, thanks for all your videos - they have been a huge part of my recent growth! Slowing down my lifestyle and being respectful of my body's menstrual cycle has been instrumental to tapping into my femininity. I internalized "hustle culture" in early college and 10 years of this ultimately left me wiped out and unhappy. I thought slowing down was weakness, so you can imagine after ovulation and before my period I was absolutely miserable and pushing myself beyond my means. Although the hard work did lead me to management positions in my workplaces, once I was at the top I was totally exhausted and subconsciously resentful towards other people. I think the way we treat (and think of) others directly correlates with how we treat ourselves. I appreciate your ability to maintain your channel and website all while embracing your femininity and helping others achieve the same. Super excited to see your future continue to evolve Jillz! (:

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad this video resonated with you. I love how you said being respectful of our menstrual cycle - such a good way to put it 💕💕

@Molly_Madame 4 ай бұрын

That's also story of my life...

@braveandhealing Жыл бұрын

This is so timely! I've been renovating my mother's house to live in and I just realized I've felt like I need to do all the work myself in order to feel like I've earned it once it's all nice and renovated - like if I haven't suffered over it enough I don't deserve to enjoy it. I am trying to be okay with allowing others to help and do things for me!

@hiannahgus574 Ай бұрын

Oh this resonates with me! I am a new widow and my husband wouldn’t allow any one in to fix things. I now have a house that needs a lot of work and am struggling to allow myself to pay professionals to do the work for me, and friends to help me.

@lauriejordan2716 Жыл бұрын

I had my children incredibly young. My entire adult life I struggle spending any money on myself. I feel, this is money I could be spending on them. However, they already have everything. Not only that, but they truly get happy seeing me do or buy something for myself. It is my own block. I’m trying to work through this.

@ahobbit1273 5 ай бұрын

I feel the same way about my mother! She deserves so much more than she allows herself to have. I hope you’ve been treating yourself to a softer life recently ❤

@ElnaKristin Жыл бұрын

Tip #1 already calling me out! I recently ruined my hair by trying to cut it myself, because I didn't want to spend the money to get my hair cut. It was nice and long before and is now way too short for my liking. Never again. I'm so cheap with myself ... I really need to change that.

@kawaiimeme1850 Жыл бұрын

your voice, your aura, your smile give me ease

@pageremick5504 Жыл бұрын

GREAT topic! Your point about how we get used to the chaos and non-stop stress is so true. It feels almost selfish to take the time for a bubble bath while sipping some wine, to take the time to do a facial massage instead of just a splash of water and go. Why do we associate guilt with self-care and not allowing ourselves to take a quiet walk or sit and look at the clouds? We CHOOSE our frenetic pace! We CHOOSE to keep doing for others and not considering ourselves important as well. Well, I am easing into the softer life in joyful increments and loving every minute! Just like you, I would recommend it for everyone!

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Yes exactly!! ❤️❤️

@Betcaligarcia Жыл бұрын

I’m a gen xer and I’ve been living the soft life for years …. Listening to this maybe I should write an ebook about lol

@goddessvibes11 Жыл бұрын

"I don't need to have an opinion on everything happening out there" I've just come to start thinking this. Really took a burden off my brain.😊

@marcelaandrade9785 Жыл бұрын

Hey Jiilz, could you make a video about how to be feminine in leadership positions? Like how to a feminine leader, a feminine boss. Because when you are in power positions is hard to not rely on your masculine energy to be in comand. Is it possible to be a boss and still be feminine? I mean, to use your feminine energy to be a leader. I don't know if I could pass the ideia right haha but I would really love to see a video like that and this is something that I'm struggling at. Thank you!

@bunniewood 10 ай бұрын

No. Feminine energy is not leading energy.

@christchild1711 7 ай бұрын

Not true, read the book of Esther in the Bible. This Queen saved her nation in the most Feminine way. (And even if you are atheist, it’s still a Good read, major lessons on Feminity )

@hiannahgus574 Ай бұрын

@@christchild1711I will read it, thanks for the suggestion.

@senoritasombrero Жыл бұрын

While I agree with most of what you are saying, I think that the number one aspect that will help everyone become softer is also to make your life simpler, and that requires no extra money. Eliminate all external source of stress, own and commit to less things, select your relationships very carefully, and your life will automatically improve, leading you to become softer. We all have the same basic needs ultimately, so it’s up to us to scale those needs with our resources to the best of our abilities. Making your life simpler will lead to a softer, more fun and more relaxed life

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

100% agree!! 🙌

@aishafalah8553 Жыл бұрын

True 👍

@snoozyq9576 Жыл бұрын

eliminating sources of stress absolutely costs money for most people

@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 Жыл бұрын

I love your videos. ♥️ People are all talking about hard work. What does this even mean? Does this mean working hours and hours on end without a break? Does this mean never sitting down and rest? Does this mean your attention should always focus on the outside rather than how i feel? I'm a perfectionist and constantly burnt out if i work. So i want to redefine "hard work". "Hard work" didnt do me good. Hard work means for me staying focused and get the things done i need to do that day. I'm sick of the husstle culture. It did make me ill.

@mariamkamal Жыл бұрын

I am so happy I found your channel. I can resonate to every word, especially working hours, and being productive all the time.

@alessiasutherberry 10 ай бұрын

I love this video !! 💘💘💘 I loved when you said: 'doing everything yourself doesn't make you a better person it just makes you more stressed out.' So true and valuable to recognise! xxx

@lamanaghabayova2704 Жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for promoting such feminine energy! Nowadays it’s hard to find bloggers who will give precious advices without being too extreme in their reasoning.

@user-nm6dr4uy3d Жыл бұрын

Hi Jillz! I would love to see a video on how to cultivate good relationships and goodwill between women, whether it be between friends or acquaintances or just people who don't even know each other

@selma-5449 Жыл бұрын

Awesome video as always. Loved the video game reference. I’m 20 right now and I really appreciated your point on not knowing everything. I don’t known why but At this stage I feel like I need to be knowledgeable on everything that’s going on around me especially about politics and the economy. I’m so glad you mentioned this point because now I’m more aware. Thanks Jillz !!🥰

@dearyuniverse Жыл бұрын

I can relate to this so much! It's safe to live a soft life, thank you Jillz!

@halcyondays8945 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. This was exactly what I needed! Thank you so much

@rayzofrem Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I feel like you provided such pratical tips I can start to do. I resonated with what you said about not earning a " badge of honor" for overworking.

@rozitaharun6979 Ай бұрын

❤ love this! Thank you!

@allmyjoys Жыл бұрын

Hi Jillz! I just wanted to say your channel is my go-to every time I want to reconnect with my feminine energy. I gotta give you credit for the amazing work you do! Sending all the love your way and to all the amazing women here! ❤❤❤❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️❤️

@sossee15 Жыл бұрын

wow just found your youtube channel and its so nice!! thank you you are telling great tips and being so chilled out :)

@estelleleroux5868 Жыл бұрын

Yay! New upload :) So happy. Best thing about a Sunday evening.

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

🥰🥰💕

@allieblank5992 6 ай бұрын

Love this approach. Wonderful video.

@emberk39 Жыл бұрын

Seeing the beauty in the journey- facts!

@padi2821 Жыл бұрын

Love your videos! This was much needed during my time of stress❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@zhanetaharutyunyan8535 Жыл бұрын

Yes for peace, presence and peace ❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

@bydeborahsavage Жыл бұрын

This is a beautiful and healing message. Thank you

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

💙💙💙

@prodbyamy Жыл бұрын

I genuinely don’t think there could’ve been a better timed video. This was literally what I was searching for! Thanks Jillz. Hope you’re having a great day! ❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@jg1681 Жыл бұрын

Love your channel!

@martajajackson1836 Жыл бұрын

I love you. Thank you for this. ❤️

@StrangeScaryNewEngland 11 ай бұрын

Your body didn't make you sick. You did. You aren't separate from your body, you ARE the body. You ARE the brain, and every single inch of yourself. Another major problem that induces stress and a feeling of distance from one's self is thinking you are piloting around a meat bag separate from you. Of course people will feel alienated when that is their mindset.

@ophixl 7 ай бұрын

I got sick around 13 hehe

@alousha123 Жыл бұрын

You should have a million subscribers. Great advice ❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Awww thank you ❤️❤️

@Di59001 Жыл бұрын

Wow I love that content never heard about that, my start page was filled with hustle stuff

@huskysc7415 Жыл бұрын

Great ideas. I know I feel guilty if I do something for myself. I should not but I do. I had all the chores planned but instead, I felt so depleted, that I could not do anything, and wound up taking the day easy. My body could not give anymore. I felt badly but now I hear you and I understand I did the right things! Thank you!

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Totally understand, this is how I felt all this weekend! But since I just let myself rest I feel sooo much better 💕💕💕

@snehajagtap5806 Жыл бұрын

You are like a guiding angel❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@midnightoil2253 Жыл бұрын

Love your top

@MMWINNER Жыл бұрын

Vero well put Jillz. Thanks for sharing this

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

💕💕

@authorannettepalmer Жыл бұрын

I first read the title as The Soft Lie and I thought to myself, “huh I wonder what that is?” Haha lol. Great video. I always looks forward to your videos 💕

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Hahaha I guess it got your attention! 😂 And thank you so much 💕💕💕

@gladysmi Жыл бұрын

perfect time!

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@ayaahmed9537 Жыл бұрын

Dear Jillz, how do you deal with contrast? Our world is very masculine, women are being that way too, so when you embrace your femininity, it makes other women uncomfortable and creates friction. How do you deal with that? Love Aya :)

@hiannahgus574 Ай бұрын

I have encountered this “tall poppy syndrome “ amongst other women, too. Some women are jealous and angry at another’s femininity, while others are inspired.

@FatimaMD7 Жыл бұрын

I just like watching you , you are one of the women I look up to 💗💗💗

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Awww 🥰🥰🥰

@Clauds71 Жыл бұрын

Fantastic 😃

@devgatling Жыл бұрын

great advice for women

@sgmam Жыл бұрын

Hey Jillz, I am addicted to your content 🌻 you have helped me embrace my true feminine and softer side of myself. I was wondering, in this video you mentioned cycle syncing and using that as a way to navigate our life as women. Do you have a video that dives deeper into that topic or are you open to creating more content on that? It would be greatly beneficial for me and I'm sure for other fellow women as well 😌

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Yes I do!! Check the description box - I put a link to my cycle syncing video! 💕💕

@kazhdomusvoyo7924 Ай бұрын

I liked your reasoning Liked Subscribed

@bmsharma3824 Жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this now. I have been struggling with my own resistance to the softer life and even conciously been looking for reasons as to why/how things cant change for me. It's clearly a fear of the unknown even though the unknown seems to be good. Anyway thank you for your precious contents, lots of mind opening points you make everytime. Helps me in my pursuit of personal growth and fulfillment

@vedikajoshi1410 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video!! I can relate to the tip where you said that you felt like you had to know everything...I'm currently going through that phase right now, I'm going to try to step away from this mindset! thanks a lot for these tips!

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome! 💕❤️

@reignofaragon6890 Жыл бұрын

Thx

@jeanettenejadi1777 Жыл бұрын

🌸

@ultravioletpisces3666 8 ай бұрын

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

@maysaraali5772 Жыл бұрын

I love you Jillz❤

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@ShatteredRippleBooks 11 ай бұрын

Sometimes it's not possible to ask someone else. My boyfriend is disabled so I'm the only one at home who can do stuff. I can't afford to hire help either. So I am struggling, tired and burnt out.

@rutealmeida3331 Жыл бұрын

I needed tip 6 :')

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@DeeDeee493 Жыл бұрын

Love it❤️ you are so beautiful and talented. Which country are you from?

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Thank you!! From the US 🇺🇸

@leticiasantana4358 Жыл бұрын

Well, I'm drawing in acne. I suffer from insomnia since my teenages (in 27 now) and my life didn't allow me to a "softer journey" until a while ago. - I love my job, but I don't have a good relationship with it. - I love my family, but we don't always get along too well too. - I am single, but I don't like being single anymore! I'm so in a new - successful - moment of my life, but I don't enjoy it. I need help, I need change.. 😓

@ophixl 7 ай бұрын

same! I've seen so much videos and everything but it ended up being overwhelming and I don't even know where to start, it's exhausting

@bootsmade4walking Жыл бұрын

@ Jillz and friends in the comments: Anyone have any advice about living a soft life while in nursing school? In one way, I feel like I'm leaning into my femininity (caring for others, learning and developing myself) but it's also a very demanding program (one exam a week, hours of class time, and 12-hour shifts at the hospital.) I'm tired, haha! I'm trying to think of ways to create moments of softness into my day even when I have to work hard ... thank you!

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

So amazing you’re in nursing school! Little moments of presence in your day can help a lot. For example, when you take your lunch break…take 10 mins to just sit with your food and enjoy it. No phone or anything, just being present in that. Or taking a 5 min walk outside when you have a break. Breathing deeply and relaxing into your body. Lighting a candle as you get ready for bed. It’s the little things 💕💕 But also remember that life has seasons, this might just be a more demanding season of your life and that’s okay. Just don’t forget to take care of yourself too! ❤️

@bootsmade4walking Жыл бұрын

@@JillzGuerin Aww amazing! Thank you so much for this pearl of advice! I will definitely practice it!! "It's the little things 💕"

@rainbow616 Жыл бұрын

Hey Jillz, I like your videos 🙂. Just a small thing that I noticed is that you pronounce women (plural) the same as woman (single). 🤗

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Haha I know I say it wrong sometimes. Working on it lol 💕💕

@samhassan82 Жыл бұрын

Less stress doesn't mean to be a loser 😉 !!

@buda2049 Жыл бұрын

The book with a heart on the cover always gets my attention, I don’t know why, why this book the shelves are full of books...I think it says to me read me😊. May I know the title of the book ?

@Beyourbest88 Жыл бұрын

It looks like “you can heal your life” by Louise Hay :)

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

It’s one of my favorite books 💕

@buda2049 Жыл бұрын

@@Beyourbest88 thank you so much 😊

@naomifellizar Жыл бұрын

does jillz have a podcast🥰

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

Haha no I don’t! Maybe one day! 💕

@MsJordanWilkerson Жыл бұрын

Is cycle syncing pointless if you’re on birth control?

@cynbod Жыл бұрын

Can you live a soft life in the city?

@StrangeScaryNewEngland 11 ай бұрын

No. How would that work?

@aatiya19 Жыл бұрын

Why didn't I discover you earlier

@ayoolukoga9829 Жыл бұрын

Place your faith on Jesus. Jesus died so that you can have everlasting life. Jesus is the way the truth and the life. No one gets to the Father but by him. Trust Jesus. Repent. Have a good day.

@ladywrld5863 Жыл бұрын

everyone talking bout like TAP INTO YOUR FEMININE ENERGY RN no one talking about how being in masculine energy makes us feel safe especially after being abused by men as a child/teenage girl. like I AM SCARED. i am scared to live in my city full of filtthy 45+ men ttalking to me, trying to get close. or young men grabbing me because they think they can. what do i do stay quiet//?? never

@JillzGuerin Жыл бұрын

I’ve mentioned in some other videos that for a woman to be in her feminine energy, she has to feel SAFE. It’s a non negotiable. Try to create that feeling of safety as much as you can 💕

@snoozyq9576 Жыл бұрын

Noone isn't really accurate. People talk about this

@SaffariRose Жыл бұрын

I hear you! The 'soft life' is actually/originally a black movement (among black women) to try to erase the negative stereotypes around them based on racial issues and their own hard communities. Especially for their mental health and self care. So it's actually very specific to a certain group of people who already know how to navigate being 'masculine' and know how to protect themselves. As a non POC, please find your sense of safety first, because being feminine in a vulnerable world/situation without a back up plan is dangerous. It seems like too many of these topics are simply co-opted and don't even make sense anymore. Protect yourself first, be soft later or when you can.

@StrangeScaryNewEngland 11 ай бұрын

There's no such thing as masculine or feminine energy. It's all made up and a way to describe hormones and testosterone. Men and women have the exact same "energy", all living creatures do. Do you see female chimps or gorillas channeling "feminine" energy? Nope. And they never will.

@Breathtolive 9 ай бұрын

Definitely more of a conversation & question for a therapist & not for a young woman with very little life experience. Life experience matters & when you are living in a state of fear, you will not be able to create that "safe" space.