Act Like the Person You Want to Be
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Жыл бұрынAct Like the Person You Want to Be
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@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
This site should get an award for being the kindest. Restored my faith in humanity 🙏. Love and peace to you all. Some will never know how much a few kind words can heal ❤️
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@user-rr8fx7bg4v Жыл бұрын
Absolutely. You see so many on social media talking how to be you and happy etc etc but Dan is the only one who is real, who truly cares about us. Such a difference in him to others. X
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
@@user-rr8fx7bg4v Wow, thank you.
@MonkeyBusinessMan 2 ай бұрын
Dan is awesome!
@christinelapierre5165 Ай бұрын
Dan, I wanted to thank you, because of your channel I am now pain free. I had chronic pain amongst other symptoms for over a year now. You helped me understand so clearly that pain and symptoms are perceived danger, that I am not broken, that I am safe. Thank you so much!
@PainFreeYou Ай бұрын
This is wonderful. if you would ever like to do a success story, you can get on my calendar at: TalkWithDan.com
@Anita-fk2pw 4 ай бұрын
I wish I am a happy, content and calm person. Physically active. Able to eat what I want. My body is strong and toned. I am a person people want to be with. I can relax my mind and body. I am in control of my life. I am able to feel, process and let go of all emotions. I can travel and I am loving life and I enjoy every minute of it❤
@BristleCone61 Жыл бұрын
It’s true that watching your daily videos can get you there…I have made great progress doing so over the last 13 months. That said, I joined the group about 6 weeks ago because I just wanted to see if I was “missing anything” because I had not yet “crossed the finish line.” I am finding that hearing this process through others (in the full spectrum of the PDP recovery journey along with Dan’s live feedback) has helped me better understand that I am definitely on track and will at some point have full recalibration of a brain that has been fearful and producing significant symptoms for over 6+ years…it all works and it does work well hand in hand even for just a short time to show your brain it’s safe and in a “normal” progression to recovery. Thank you, Dan, for offering multiple, but consistent, paths to travel on this PDP recovery journey 🌸
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
My pleasure - thank you for sharing your experience with the group. Glad to have you as a member.
@janethansen9612 Жыл бұрын
In his meditations Thich Nhat Hanh also used to say smile because nothing is as important as peace and joy, even through times of struggle. We really do take ourselves too seriously a lot of the time!
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
So true.
@tylerpool5464 5 ай бұрын
i read about a POW in vietnam he got shot down and lived with a broken back for 2 years. He and his fellow pows would do smile exercises every morning to keep up morale.
@Inge508 Жыл бұрын
There is a healthy rule with diet. Eat 80 percent healthy and you may sin 20 percent.. I realized that my life was also 80/ 20.. 80 percent care for others and less than 20 percent selfcare.. It’s high time to reverse those numbers. 80 percent me and 20 percent the others! That’s the version of myself I want to become.. And in those 80 percent me-time doing what I really love doing.. not because I think people would want me to do so.. Just my idea on it! Have a restful joyful you- time weekend Dan and everyone ❤
@josiejo117 Жыл бұрын
Yes switch the percentage in your direction...you have to include yourself in the equation of giving love, joy & compassion. I learnt this also!! Have a wonderful day sweet soul & do or don't do something that brings you joy.💖
@Inge508 Жыл бұрын
@@josiejo117you too Josie! After writing this I thought mmm 🤔 20 percent for the others is maybe egoistic but during healing it is ok.. maybe 50/ 50 in the future would be great too..
@josiejo117 Жыл бұрын
@@Inge508 I understand what you mean...but you are discovering the balance for what is right for you & then, as you say, it can change. I feel that ultimately giving to self is giving to others because the happier, healthier & more at peace you are, the more you have to give.💝
@Inge508 Жыл бұрын
@@josiejo117 yes agree 💯! Thanks for putting it in words 👏❤️
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
That is the way you first number 1 ❤😁👌
@_cr8ive_ 4 ай бұрын
Your insight has been phenomenal and just listening to some messages over and over has given a whole lot of calm and inner peace. God bless you for doing this. It is all much appreciated and recieved as a huge blessing. 🙏🏻 👍🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻
@joannerowell4410 Жыл бұрын
I am just beginning to get those glimmers of hope. I became a grandma for the 4th time 2 weeks ago and just thinking about this new little life gives me joy. Thank you Dan for all you do for us.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Congrats Grandma!!!
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
Sat up the park, heavy shower but washing away the negativity
@josiejo117 Жыл бұрын
Very wet & windy UK today...so cleansing!!
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
@@josiejo117definitely x
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
I love rain.
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
Thank you great Britain we got the rain aswell got wet while walking with Daniel ⛈️⛈️☁️☁️☁️☁️we always get your wheather later when wind is south west soo thank you very much 😅
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
@@lennekevanrossum8422London now has 80mph winds!
@alicewright9610 Жыл бұрын
Hey Dan I have been applying your methods of safety and quit sending red flags messages to my brain and my anxiety levels have dropped drastically. Thank you so much I am gaining so much mental clarity and my social skills seem to be improving. You may have saved my sanity with your content.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
That is wonderful Alice!!!
@marieberglund149 11 ай бұрын
What is the meaning TMS can’t find.
@marieberglund149 11 ай бұрын
I suffer everyday crying afraid of everything that I feel in my body, it begins every morning and breaking me down 💔😪. My legs shaking every day and that’s makes it terrifying.
@marieberglund149 11 ай бұрын
I’m stuck in sorrow
@marieberglund149 11 ай бұрын
i can’t make it stop
@catherinesarrazin8110 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I begin my day with your video. You change my mindset always. Your voice and words is the key of wellness. 🙏☀️💛 Have a good day everyone!
@Inge508 Жыл бұрын
Thanks, you too🌻🙋♀️
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
Ty and you 😊
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
Sometimes my husband is the car and listens along. He says same, Dan's voice is very calming
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
@@1STBUCKLEY so true very calming and super relaxed 😁😘
@jessikaascencio1962 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your mirror neurons with us. Your energy is definitely magnetic and very much appreciated! Hope you are having a wonderful day.
@PainFreeYou 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@adamrosefire Жыл бұрын
Another great video, thanks Dan. I’ve known about smiling for years, but it’s some thing I have forgotten too many times to count. I’m thinking of cutting out some pictures of smiling people magazines and putting them around the house to trigger my brain.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Good stuff
@RiaandBobby 5 ай бұрын
I wish I were brave, courageous and happy.
@PainFreeYou 5 ай бұрын
Decide to be and you can be. It will take time and practice, but it's possible.
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
Hi Dan good one again thank you❤ Fake it until you make it... 😊I am smiling a lot 😊 i am living my life am strong brave and if sensations are coming a long that is ok. Love you Dan as always and all my friends here have a great day i am going to read again 📖😘😘😘👌💪🦸♀️
@Inge508 Жыл бұрын
Yess! Read your symptoms away Lenneke ❤
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
@@Inge508 if only 😁
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
You're such a ray of sunshine for others whilst dealing with your own trouble . 🙏 Angels come into our life's in many ways. This site should get an award for being the kindest, restores my faith in humanity xx
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
@@1STBUCKLEY that is so sweet of you to say donr know what to say ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
You got this!
@rajbilla76 Жыл бұрын
Sat having lunch listening to this UK rain ☔️ and feeling so much universal support today. 💜✨
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
We are all with you Raj
@lilycastaneda7791 Жыл бұрын
Dan, just listening to you speak is soothing. And the content you share is priceless. I appreciate you so much for caring for people the way you do. God bless you!
@PainFreeYou 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much.
@EC-yd9yv Жыл бұрын
😃❤️ thank you!! Keep smiling!
@annacross6370 11 ай бұрын
Wish I wasn't so anxious, self conscious and more confident and happy. I'm going to make a point of striving for this each day.
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
You can do this.
@betsaification Жыл бұрын
😂 I’m laughing when you say act like and idiot 😅😁🤪 sometime I do 😅 one of my grandkids tells me you are a Loca by acting silly Thanks 🙏🏽 Dan 💕 Love ❤️ the message
@shelleybartley8913 11 ай бұрын
I yawn everytime you did. Just stumbled on you today and loving your calmness. I'm suffering with chronic shoulder, neck and back pain for about 7 years. I've tried everything. Thank you from Ireland.
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Welcome to the channel. There is a cure to the pains. Check out my fast start playlist. kzfaq.info/sun/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
@kathleenwharton2139 Жыл бұрын
Say Yes when you mean Yes..Say No when you mean No! Or your body will do it for You! I WAS partially paralyzed. I WAS married and nothing but a slave to a man without a kind word. No way is my body going back to that! But my second son lost my home in his real estate dealings and my first son has put me back together with my xhusband in a house he built. I Lost my independence..but I AM Strong and Well. Jesus Walked on water because He BELIEVED He Could! Belief and Will are Powerful. 😊❤
@merildo 11 ай бұрын
Just checking in Dan. Having a bit of symptom substitution. But I’m still here. Who do I want to be. I want to be the me I was. The me I can be. And when I can get out. I can feel that me. Thanks Dan.
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Wonderful
@italiabionda5543 Жыл бұрын
So simple! Reprogram. Eventually it might stick?
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Yes it will
@jujubaba6267 Жыл бұрын
Waking up early in the morning, its just me, silence, and the daunting pain. But then dan's daily video is like an unfailing friend who came accompany me so early ^__^ So: 1. I wish i met you long ago before my condition manage to stay for so long and reinforce itself, but as they say, the second best time is now ^__^ 2. Be careful, with all that smile and white hair, some of ua younger audience may start calling you uncle Dan 😄 Have an awesome day, you Bob ross of tms with all that calm progress, you steve irwin of daily video with all those contagious smile, purpose, and optimism :D
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Bob Ross of TMS. haha - love it. Glad to be able to show up for you daily. Thank you for the kind words.
@TerriEdwards-cn9sz Жыл бұрын
Love starting my day listening to you! Thanks Dan!
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Thanks for listening
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
Needed to hear this today. I was actually thinking" my life ..... " I've now changed the narrative, started with a big smile 😂😂 🙏 thanks
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
Keep smiling you are doing great ❤❤❤
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
Love you Patricia ❤❤️😘
@josiejo117 Жыл бұрын
Keep smiling!! Sorry to bother you but could I just ask are you the lady who tried EMDR? I'm not sure but if it was you...but if it was, would you mind saying how it was for you if you feel you wish to share...No worries if not I completely understand...I'm very interested in this therapy!!
@lennekevanrossum8422 Жыл бұрын
@@josiejo117hey sweet Josie i did EMDR therapy aswell it was awsome ❤
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
@@josiejo117s I am in the process of doing EMDR. NHS 12 sessions. Am on no.5. first 3 were assessment and giving me tools to get to safe place if it became overwhelming. Primarily for an assault (PTSD)a year ago and health anxiety stemming from oxygen tent (now claustrophobic)age 5, my sister(age6) was in one too , but she died. Therapist said we'd get to the big ones a bit further in but my brain had other idea. Amazing how the brain responded to the watching someone's hand movements. I was back there(assault) but gradually I felt like I was far away from it until I could recall it all but no great fear. Lots of tears. Last session somehow put me back in that tent, the tears I was struggling to breathe( I had pneumonia)maybe panic attack but same result I came away from the trauma(in my head) like the memory had been refiled. It's not for everyone, the assessment sessions are very important. I'm not one for digging up the past but am aware that subsequent issues with hospital phobias and medical procedures stem from my childhood. Am on a high straight afterwards but following two days am exhausted. Do your research before you sign up. I was lucky to get on the NHS UK but waited 10months. I was willing to go private to try this. When therapist said you've spent your life from young childhood protecting others ( parent, siblings etc) you must be exhausted, it hit hard. Have tried hypnotherapy with a well known therapist but it was over the phone and didn't really help tbh. But that's me. Am using Dan's videos, the Dare response, which is basically the same thing alongside the EMDR. It is really a simple concept to rid ourselves or give us our lives back but we have to be firm in our belief. Dan if you want me to remove above let me know. It went on a bit sorry
@iainjamieson8739 3 ай бұрын
Amazing ❤
@Laughing-doves Жыл бұрын
Did you ever see that movie "What about Bob?" with Bill Murray and Richard Dreyfus - very funny - must watch.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Maybe, I don't remember. I'll check it out.
@Laughing-doves Жыл бұрын
@@PainFreeYou Yes it will be right up everyoine's alley on this channel - fantastic comedy.
@suetaniaemmanuel8107 4 ай бұрын
❤ you are a blessing to me
@jessies114 11 ай бұрын
In theory this is great but ultimately you have to plan your future, and if you plan like you're healthy you could get very screwed. For example; you refuse to believe the thought you're a sick person so decide to pursue your dreams of living in Hawaii with your sister. You get job prospects, you get an apartment rented, and then you're too sick to even get to the airport but you still have to pay for the apartment. Or, you think I'm going get Phd in neuroscience so I can begin to understand the mind and body but then you have to drop out in order to work full time to get insurance then you're left with an immense amount of debt. I mean I get the whole whole mindset thing but this the you have to have some alignment with reality. FYI I did eventually learn how to make this work but this question remains.
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
We don't need everything in life to be perfect or to work out exactly as we hoped to live symptom free. Watch this playlist for a deeper understanding of the concepts I teach. kzfaq.info/sun/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
@jessies114 11 ай бұрын
@@PainFreeYou thanks! I'll check out your whole playlist. I very much appreciate your perspective on these syndromes. And, I'm so glad you make this content free for people trying to grasp the concept.
@terribracco5461 10 ай бұрын
So well put
@d.s2352 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much xx
@Joe-rd3bg Жыл бұрын
So true Dan lov your videos every day
@KWilliams22 Жыл бұрын
Your daily messages are so uplifting Dan. Thank you ❤
@MsDearne Жыл бұрын
Thank you for these amazing videos. The pain still hasn't subsided, its all through my neck, shoulder and right arm plus hand and at times headaches and leg aches but you give me hope and I will keep smiling. I love you too.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
You can do this Dearne!!!
@MsDearne Жыл бұрын
@@PainFreeYou Thank you so much for all you're doing for us and My name is Brooke, Dearne is my middle name. Nice to meet you on here.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
@@MsDearne Nice to meet you too!!!
@Laughing-doves Жыл бұрын
I went to the beach today - took a two hour subway ride and then spend all day at the beach and then took the two hour subway ride home - It was wonderful - I am tired but I was in the sun all day and swimming so that would be normal.
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Sounds like a fantastic day!
@Laughing-doves Жыл бұрын
@@PainFreeYou Yeah! I'm going back tomorrow.
@crazydrummerofdoom 11 ай бұрын
Getting out of the wait and see what happens mode,the what if? ect is the best thing you can do and moving into accepting that your healthy, safe in spite of feeling good enough is half the battle, because the what if of the anxiety is offten fueling the fear,anxiety and sensations from the overwhelmed nervous system.
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Yes, well said.
@tina_820 5 ай бұрын
🌼BOOM🌼
@TMM909 8 ай бұрын
This is a good one, thank you Dan
@annpettersson1920 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. ❤️❤️❤️
@Bee-mi8ml Жыл бұрын
I was smiling through this whole video and kept having to yawn! haha!
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Haha - love it.
@lynnbenoit7896 11 ай бұрын
So right on! Great advice!
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Glad you think so!
@edwinrusschenberg5899 Жыл бұрын
Again a briljant video Dan Thanks 😘
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@rosalindreay5936 11 ай бұрын
Baby steps will get me there 😊
@kathystoner5239 Жыл бұрын
This video was exactly what I needed today! Thanks so much!
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@lawrenceburr6153 11 ай бұрын
This is one of your best Thanks
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Thank you!!
@pramodsharma7284 11 ай бұрын
Yes exactly
@user-bw4jd7te2o 9 ай бұрын
I appreciate your videos more than I can even say. I have pelvic floor disorder and since watching your videos my fear and pain have improved. For that I say THANK YOU!!
@davidless57 11 ай бұрын
add another one to your list for getting better by your coaching videos!!!
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
Love it. If you should ever wish to do a success story interview for me to share with my audience, get on my calendar at: TalkWithDan.com
@davidless57 11 ай бұрын
@@PainFreeYou Its only been two days, lets give it a few weeks. I'll know better this week if the pain resides. I expect some up and down days just not sure when and how severe. But so far watching your stuff has started to give me my life back!!!! I was actually thinking on the best way to check outta of here if I had to live with this pain. Thanks again
@PainFreeYou 11 ай бұрын
@@davidless57 You ARE on the right path and this stuff does work. Keep at it brother.
@ShirleyMartin-lp2or Жыл бұрын
The best advice, as always. Love it. Many thanks!!!
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
You are very welcome.
@Bachconcertos 11 ай бұрын
I get extremely lonely - my family is abusive & friends are just acquaintances - it's been like this for decades even way before CFS. It's hard to make close friends over age 40 and now I'm 63 -
@ilo1362 Жыл бұрын
💖🙏💯
@HobzyMcRuse 10 ай бұрын
Hey Dan, - just curious but what is the ground behind you made of? Is it soil? gravel? chocolate chips? Ground coffee? I'm always fixated on it when watching your videos. Am I nuts?
@PainFreeYou 10 ай бұрын
Haha - not chocolate chips. It's a red gravel.
@Bachconcertos 11 ай бұрын
Baby Steps like the movie What about Bob? With Bill Murray.
@A-Trainz Жыл бұрын
Hey Dan, TMS warrior here, have you seen TMS cause knee pain? Or is it mostly shoulders, back, trunk etc.? Thanks in advance and thank you for everything you do. Much love 🙏🏼
@kathy.7475 Жыл бұрын
I have had knee pain that I determined was TMS. The pain is gone now. I stopped believing in it or giving it attention. Pain anywhere can be TMS in my opinion.
@A-Trainz Жыл бұрын
@@kathy.7475 Thank you Kathy. I’m happy to hear that. And I agree 100%, it’s just sometimes in those low moments I fall into the old google bad habits. 🤦🏼♂️ I know better, thank you again for the reply! All the best!
@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын
My knees too
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Yes I have. TMS can cause pain anywhere in the body.
@Fresh-qc3zn Жыл бұрын
Watching this while relaxing taking a huge dump.
@nancyrussell6598 Жыл бұрын
WHAT DOES A DUMP MEAN?
@Fresh-qc3zn Жыл бұрын
@@nancyrussell6598 A poo.
@kimmiebowers5248 Жыл бұрын
To much information ‼️
@sheryl318 Жыл бұрын
I want to be the active person I used to be. I love swimming and we have a pool here at the condo. I usually go in every day during the summer. But I haven't this year. Today I got off the fence. I swam from one side to the other several times. I also smiled at someone in the pool; he smiled back at me. So if I let go of the fear will I let go of the pain??
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Yes, When your brain feels safe, the pain can go. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e-BpeN1lnrOceZs.html
@Waynes_Travels Ай бұрын
Hi Dan, is there a danger that if you smile to yourself whilst in pain your body may think you are happy being in pain and associate the pain with happiness?
@ariannesmakman5639 Жыл бұрын
Dear Dan..i am getting outside even though i feel so weird when i am, for instance walking my dog. I feel delay all the time, in my head...i dont want to fear it...but it feels so scary when walking....i go and keep going, but i dont really succeed in feeling safe while i do it. Doubts get to me, like, will my brain be able to work normal again...if i experience this as i do now...i dont know how to feel safe with it...but than maybe it will never get better😢
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
Telling yourself it will never get better guarantees your brain will stay in high alert. I would recommend you change that story to, I'm feeling more and more safe every day and things will go back to balance. I am already well. Create safety. Not despair. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e-BpeN1lnrOceZs.html
@ariannesmakman5639 Жыл бұрын
@@PainFreeYou Thank you Dan i will watch this...so...you really think this all can really change with the change of thinking? And acting that you are safe? I will try to change this thinking for sure... And what about flight sensations...i keep going and going but the flight really comes and goes...now...i try to not DO or fight them and accept as they are there...but feel a bit exhausted bu knowing that they are there so much as long as i deal with these other symptoms of delay and unbalance...😅🥰
@PainFreeYou Жыл бұрын
@@ariannesmakman5639 I know this sounds challenging, but fueling the fear is not the way forward. Safety is. Think, act, behave and KNOW you are safe. The body will return to balance. Challenging? Absolutely. But recovery from fear is the main goal. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jLmdh8hp37a8mGQ.html