Thats what I’m saying 💀

Aaaaaand if they're family?

As a people pleaser, I find it so hard to argue against others even if I thoroughly disagree. It makes me feel helpless because I feel I just let them walk all over me. I really need to somehow show some assertiveness without being over-argumentative.

I like to ARGUE A LOT and dd d d I'm a good friend not fights, ARGUES

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Don’t. Call a jerk a jerk and walk away.

I just try and get away unless i try and state something that is 100% true like earlier when i just said about 2 laws and then someone brought me into the argument and like 30 seconds later i was having a meltdown so thats why i hate arguments 💀

Bruv, this is literally like girl math, but, for how they argue; 😂😂😂 The sky is not blue; That's the fact;

If can do that, u are amazing

@@nosajsamaniego4512 This video is using an obviously very simple and basic concept as an example. Nobody is actually arguing over the color of the sky - the creator used that topic to be a placeholder for things people actually argue about. You trying to defend one of the characters in the videos fake argument is pointless.

Dude are u a scorpio?!😂

Scorpio?

@@Sokdramatic1062 Could be Aries too..They have precious little chill for other people's BS.

@@araeshkigal Sure it can be!!👍

This has nothing to do with a man made new age witch craft idea. Stop with the astrology and horoscope BS.

Same 😂

yeah same xD then thr convo ends. So, we can stand up and create distance from that person.

Exactly!!! I don't have the strength fr

I'd be like wow someone really wants people to know that they were into science as a 12 year old and still remember all the little factoids

I say- good for the sky 😂

If you can't avoid that person like the plague, knowing how to not escalate the situation will definitely help you not get instant verbal abuse. It's obviously not the ideal response, but it can help you survive in certain situations.

Well i agree kinda . But what if you are working and that person is a client, your coworker or even your boss. Knowing how to avoid conflict is useful. Not easy though

I'd just say "ok" cause it's not worth my energy to navigate a normal conversation with someone so argumentative. I don't mind letting them "win" this kind of thing cause I just don't care about it lol.

It is at least a good skill to develop, even if not applied all the time. Even interacting with children or family or someone who is usually lovely but having a bad day can get argumentative surprisingly. And I think this video shows how talking positively without dismissing the other person but redirecting the conversation can help share some positivity :) I think this person is not being walked all over, but rather it's like they're taking control of the conversation and of their reaction to someone else's emotions

@@janetuss6496 Yes, because in this video it felt a lot like explaining why both people are right and having to defend the first "the sky is blue" sentence. If I have to talk to people who want to take apart what I say. I just don't try to defend it but try not to care what they think. Otherwise I will have to work so hard for just a casual brainless sentence. (I know it's just an example but this is very representative of the things people have started arguments with me)

Interesting, thanks

Never thought of it that way. Thanks, that's interesting and sounds helpful.

Yesssss❤❤❤

I agree with you. So people get to be themselves and live stress free lives while I'm taking on all the burdens to artificially create peace? Yeah, not happening. Being sly and all is great when necessary, but as a lifestyle? You know you're surrounding yourself with the WRONG people. Like you can never relax. I don't engage with those who make me feel like I'm walking on a tight rope. One wrong move and boom, it's over or they become petty. Or people who need to be managed so that interactions aren't negative. It's exhausting. Find people with good hearts and minds instead because it's no fun if things fall apart unless you breathe/live a very limited path. Especially if you're free in spirit and value authenticity and choice. Also, if that means going at life alone, or with a few people, so be it.

@@jordanferguson2254 You still do have to address people like that, especially at places like work. A "sincere" person is sometimes also a person who feels they have to do more than other people to be accepted, or not fired, or just to advance themselves bc that is what their "high aspirations" (to escape the pack and survive) makes them want to do. Incidentally this may be seen as excessively ambitious and wanting to do more than is necessary or humanly dignified and sustainable, which in certain work cultures is badly seen. People want to keep things at a certain pace, and if they seem to perceive a certain mix of "inferior/superior", or oversompensating type of complex, they will pick on you, use microagression to push you down and that is why you want to adopt a very "laid back" artitude in certain types of job or with certain types of people. Pretend to be interested in them, which after all could be legitimate, since we are all humans, and don't be ashamed of your own flaws.

That is what i said...i told told him. You always want to debate me, and it's exhasting...he said i had issues..but decided he is no longer one of them

bonus points if you roll your eyes and laugh to yourself a little after. learned that from the mean girlies in high school, the masters of brushing you off and making you feel dumb for saying something😂

^^^^That's not what that does. Just makes you seem like an arrogant person who thinks they know everything. Only insecure people will internalize somebody using their body language to invalidate them like that

​@@commanderwaddles3483not really. I don't like to argue over little things like in the video and if someone actually does that to me I would do the same, say "yeah" or "nice to meet you" and walk away.

Yes, the pretentiousness of someone like that would inspire me to end the conversation real quick.

@@commanderwaddles3483 it's only arrogant if you use it in the wrong context. If they used it in thie video's scenario, it's a passive aggressive but satisfying way to brush them off without causing a fight

^^^

Indeed. Miserable and insufferable people.

I don't think so, seems pretty clear to me that ignorance makes this person angry because the info feels like common sense to them

​@Commander Waddles in this specific scenario ? The person is def looking for a fight i for one know why the sky isnt technically blue but you have to be a special kind of stupid to start an argument over it

​@@commanderwaddles3483 yes they are argumentative and have anger issues, the sky looks blue to both of them so why get mad about it?

That's a horrible thing

What part of her aggressiveness was passive though? ;)

Nope it's called maturity. If someone is being belligerent and disrespectful, that's when you stick up for yourself.

Amen!

Some people do like to debate thought, and I think you could use it on them if u both know how to keep things from getting heated lol

That’s me😬

Aren’t you from new york

True... I was once unfriended in am ugly way.

is that why you don't have friends?

Agreed as ex physics student, people like this are toxic and insecure, i had a fellow student who behaved like this, he failed physics and ghosted the uni

😂😂😂😂

😂😂😂😂"This is why your mom never loved you"

This is what I'm thinking in my head, but on the outside I'm all smiles and head nods

I had to scroll way too far before seeing this 😅

Yes, thank you. I was looking for this

Was about to say this. The ocean is the thing that she should talk about here. The ocean is the thing which is clear, but appears blue because it reflects the sky.

@@xtr4t4r4stri4l thats also not entirely correct. Water is also just slightly blue

​@@theoneandonlyflexo word

And you really don't have to. When people are being this jerks to you, you don't have to smile back and play dumb to make them feel better. Just need talk to them again.

​@@annaagapova3583 Unless it's at work

Good Advice

No. Endless patience is not a good thing. After so long, you become a doormat. By standing up for yourself and telling someone how you are to be treated is healthy.

@lolli3092 yeah there's a fine line. I guess i mean how they didn't rise to being provoked. Tbh I'd have prob just told the provoker to "eff off" 🙈🤣

fr just say "cool"

@@allygachafr or "k"

Who are you calling the narcissist here?

@@thisismetoday I mean if I was having an argument with someone narcissitic, then I would use this "psychological trick" and end the argument.

@@thisismetoday no one in particular basically

If you're not going to interact regularly with them, probably not, but if you can respond in a calm and collected manner, it is advantageous to befriend a wide variety of people and allow them to develop a good rapport with you. They may have connections or leverage or information or insights that they only share with you because you were able to meet them where they are in a way that didn't drain you in the process.

I’d just walk away or look at them like they’re a dumbass.

Is about giving the other person the benefit of the doubt, and asking them - oh really? Then you look curious and they possibly feel bad for being so confrontational or at least feel heard by you, so they love you even more as a friend 😊👌

As the commenter above said, give them the benefit of the doubt. Ask them questions to clarify what they mean, or address the parts that raised concern or confusion in you. Also, realizing that you misunderstood (or that you both agree to the same thing but were talking in circles w/ one another) and pointing it out in a lighthearted manner can help diffuse the situation. Even make you realize how silly it was. Only if neither one of you has gotten hostile yet, otherwise you’d have to approach it more sincerely.

@@cpaewai thanks!

@@runway5338 ty! 🙂

Your comment proves that you're not doing it on purpose, so forgive yourself and let go, for sure not everything needs to be debated and you'll gain energy and ease in your relationships, in your life, even in your health, and you'll be able to focus more on you, when you don't focus on "the truth". I am proud of you for taking note, and of the maker of this short for making the effort. Isn't the Universe wonderful? 😌

same here :DDD

Being capable of giving good comebacks in the moment is all I’ve aspired for in my life 😭

LOL

​@@anneeliselaurent3454I THOUGHT THE SAME THING FOR A LONG TIME😭

Really? My initial reaction would be to assume that they're probably a crackpot. Some sort of flat earther who thinks a blue sky is a conspiracy. It is blue after all.

​@@AGreasedMonkeydid you even watch the video

@@AGreasedMonkeywaitwaitwait…what do flat earthers and conspiracy theorists have anything to do with the sky being blue?

@@-Tia- anyone who aggressively claims the sky isn't blue sounds like they're insane.

@@YumWater yeah, and having to explain that the sky technically isn't blue is dumb. Insisting that it's not just to make yourself sound smarter is an asshole move, same as saying polar bears aren't white. It's blue, and everyone knows it's blue.

This is a really good response

Same. Not worth the energy to be cordial to people like that.

Right?

Yeah, I agree with you. I like mostly all of her stuff but this one missed the boat. Good intentions though. Don't doormat yourself for someone who is determined to have an argument about something so anodyne. You don't have to pander to their ego to keep the peace.

@@pingu3984 I don't really mind though since this seems like nothing to argue over

@gameypiettvgamergames7463 yeah. I get what you're saying. Somethings just aren't. I think I like the "ok then" response a lot of people have.

At night!

For anyone interested in reading more it's called rayleigh scattering and it's the same cause that makes the sunsets red

Blue colour scatters the most

If we’re going that route, Rayleigh scattering scatters shorter wavelengths more effectively than longer wavelengths. Hence the blue colour. That leave als with the question, why doesn’t the sky look violet? Which has an even shorter wavelength? (The answer is that our eyes are simply more sensitive to blue light, so it appears blue to us)

You do not have to. Communicate with an open heart no matter what the others do

Nah keep those thoughts to yourself. From personal experience the thoughts in my head should probably stay in my head. 😂

Guys 😂

@@AdviceWithErin What makes you think I'm a guy?

​@@younscrafter7372 lol

​@@younscrafter7372 "guys" is just a generalising term, has nothing to do with gender

@@younscrafter7372 Wow you are literally the evil person in the video.

true, you dont have to, but you can choose to. i personally wouldnt have the patience, but plenty of people just prefer this form of communication. some people prefer to defuse an obnoxious person rather than blow them up

It's your choice what to do but it's a pretty immature way to handle the situation. No one will care who started the argument or how you were treated, if it's your coworker, you're both problematic and create an unfriendly atmosphere. It's good to learn how to avoid confrontation so you don't look like the bad guy. It's not that important to "win" the fight anyway.

@@Vescilla i don't think it's immature, I think it's just better to not deal with a person who's disrespectful when it isn't our fault and just ignore them rather than waste your time with it but yes it's everyone's own choice.

@@g0desq From my perspective it is, I understand why you'd rather just walk away but it's in your best interest to handle such situations in a way that doesn't harm your reputation. Of course, there will be people who would take your side in this conflict because in reality you didn't do anything wrong but from some people's perspective you might come off as the rude one because you ignored someone who was merely disagreeing with you.

@@Vescilla there's difference between "mere disagreement" and criticism. A disagreement is simply saying "i don't like the blue sky" when someone says they like blue sky, but When you're trynna show how you're feeling about something (in this case, it's the beautiful blue sky) & someone is just so immature that they make that beautiful feeling a matter of criticism then they aren't worth anyone's time and no one will take it as a rude gesture to simply ignore someone so impolite and inhumane to criticize someone's likings & and their shared feelings

ok pretentious know it all!! 🤪

Lol

How so? (About the sky being violet instead)

@@shanellemurrey9300 humans dont actually see violet very well, its picked up very weakly by the blue and red colour receptor (hence why violet looks purple). So even though the sky is more violet than blue, the blue is picked up more than your eyes and the violet is less picked up, making the sky look blue

@@Yatagurusu noice 👍 Don’t quote me on this, I learned it ages ago and I forgot, but wasn’t the sky like some kinda purple/ violety colour as well before the atmosphere got more oxygen in it? Again, I can’t remember if it was true or not, it might’ve been a different colour if anything

@@shanellemurrey9300 maybe at a specific time? But the earths atmosphere isnt actually caused by the chemistry of the molecules in the atmosphere. Its cause by the fact blue light is scattered way more than red light when light travels through a transparent fluid. More or less oxygen shouldnt change that. Feel free to contradict me.

@@Yatagurusu oh yeah sorry I forgot to mention I was talking about like, billions of years ago. And I was probably still wrong about it lol, I can’t remember it fully

If the person disagreeing had been all "yeah, it is pretty.. hey did you know its not actually blue? It's clear and *explanation*! Isn't that crazy?", it could be a pleasant interaction all round.. but yeah as you say, people who go all confrontational over facts they have picked up almost certainly just want to feel superior rather than actually share something they are passionate about/interested in.

And i love you for your response ❤❤

So you're the pretentious know it all in this clip, huh? (I'm trying to show curiosity)

At sunset the light does travel further through the atmosphere, but it's not so much that the sun is further away. The significant thing is the distance of light travelling through the atmosphere is much longer, because of the angle of incidence. And what we perceive is somewhat a result of which wavelengths our cones are sensitive to, and the uneven distribution of wavelengths that the sun emits.

I was looking for this comment

Yes, I agree. I think she mixed it up with why clear water in lakes or the ocean appears blue - because it reflects the sky. The sky looks blue because this color is strongest after all the light scattering in the atmosphere. If I got in an argument about this I would just suggest to google it together instead of argueing.

I think it's the way people say things because I never understood people getting mad at someone for telling them how something actually works.

@@gameypiettvgamergames7463 I guess it depends on their goal of the conversation. In this case saying the sky is blue is just an attempt at making light casual conversation. And the sky is blue is a pretty universally accepted experience even if it isn’t “scientifically accurate” But then science person comes at them with all this heavy complicated science that the average person just doesn’t think about and whether intentionally or unintentionally they make them feel kind of stupid for not knowing that even though most people don’t even think about that. I can definitely see how it would come off as really rude.

Have FUN!!!! Enjoy it! Make lots of friends, listen to your gut, say yes to things!