It’s because they’re posting on the aita Reddit page

They're redditors, duh.

I dont think the people who have posted stuff like that have ever been in a healthy relationship to be fair

They devalue marriage to an apocalyptic degree. Society would cease to function if they had their way and then they'd blame everyone else for their bullshit.

Capitalism baby. Everything is a transaction

I had to run to Reddit to solve a serious dispute in my marriage once. Wife claimed Obama said something grammatically incorrect in a speech. I disagreed and calmly explained to her: my house, my grammar rules. If you don't like it, you can leave. But she STILL insisted that The President of The United States AND the emperor of our home were both wrong. I had tried to ignore her egotistical insistence on having her own opinions in the past, but sometimes a man has to put his foot down and instill discipline in the immature. The lack of disregard she showed for me by disagreeing about a rare minor semantic nuance in English grammar, and her continued audacity to disrespect me as the ruling authority of the household (even when I reminder her of her position on the totem pole) was the straw that broke my incredibly resilient tolerance. Of course, it goes without saying that I wasn't going to let this woman who I had sworn to love and protect abuse my continuous and gracious charity. (until this point i had always allowed her to live under MY roof.) Not anymore. This red faced and shrieking (which is how I describe anyone who disagrees with me) disagreer was not the woman married. I wasn't even mad at the disagreement really, but it was really more about the principle: A NON RENT PAYER should NEVER EVER even consider the notion of thinking about dictating OR QUESTIONING the grammar rules of the domicile in which they are so graciously allowed to reside. Don't like it? Well then I hope you like hypothermia and gnawing coyotes, maybe you can try giving THEM such a disrespectful grammar lesson now that they are your roommates. Maybe you can learn a thing or two about how to respect alpha males such as myself while you're at it. Reddit told me I was correct, something about a gerund. But even if I wasn't technically right it wouldn't matter, I had already kicked her out on principle. I drive past her sometimes, she lives under the overpass now shaking and crying and whining about PTSD. She STILL blames everything on me. Suuuure. So traumatizing. A free place to sleep at night and all you had to do is follow a few hundred pages of house rules? Sign me up! Whenever i see her i make sure to get out of my car and yell gerunds at her with my best Barack Obama impersonation. Sometimes I'll even drive down there at night when she's sleeping and shake her tent to remind her what it feels like to be disrespected in your own home. She'll say something like "please stop" or "please leave me alone" and I'll yell "THAT'S GRAMATICALLY INCORRECT" over and over. Or at least that's how I imagine that disagreement would have gone if I was one of the insane people on Reddit.

@@samus598 NTA. Yeah that was a total red flag, your house your rules, kick her out NOW before she takes total control. She DISREGARDED your express wishes and had the AUDACITY to try and gaslight YOU, the paragon of virtue and progress and the MASTER of the household. She seems like she has some mental issues, maybe schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, and is in any case a total control freak and narcissist.

@@samus598 congratulations you wrote the only good KZfaq reply

@@samus598 Too long didn’t read

@@PlanetCapeStudios THAT'S GRAMATICALLY INCORRECT. Plus: my comment, my rules. I forbid you to read it.

Literally 😭😂

powerlifters in a nutshell tbh

@@Drazer012 ill not suffer powerlifter slander in my replies good sir 😤

Well adjusted adult man to not want his 7k equipment damaged by some idiot kid with anger issues and a death wish.

@@w0ykj powerlifters should beef with people less then, my dude.

“So I’m dating this woman, and I don’t like her son. So basically I moved her and her kid that I don’t like into my house and was hostile towards him, and he disrespected me. I’m not even going to consider that he probably dislikes me as much as I dislike him but he’s 14 and has no real option to leave unless he wants to become a homeless child, so then I just let him think he was going to die and mocked him, aren’t I so fantastic.” The dude is a total mouth breather, the kid shouldn’t be smashing locks with a hammer, but why would the dude even invite them to live with him if he knows he doesn’t like the kid? It like he has some weird power fantasy about controlling and limiting a child, truly a pathetic insecure excuse of a man. I can only hope the story is fake, but I’ve definitely seen people that have this sort of mindset.

It makes me so sad man, if a 14 year old wants to workout they should be encouraged and taught. That story legit makes me depressed

Honestly, given the fact that the guy hates the stepson and given the stepson's actions, I'm willing to bet the kid hates his stepfather as well. "I'll show you how to use the gym equipment and work out with you" is probably going to be met with an "f*** off" from the kid, given the fact that he's a misbehaving 14-year-old with a bad relationship with his stepfather. It's a pretty clear ESH - clearly this partnership is doomed - but "just ask the son to work out with you" isn't going to work in this circumstance.

"isn't going to work" you never know unless you try. Breaking people's negative expectations of you is a really good start into having a mutual respect for one another. Like obviously no one can know how things would've played out differently in another timeline but if the guy was just nice to the kid from the get-go then they could be pretty close by now. "I won't call him dad but he lets me work out in the cool basement gym so that's pretty cool" type stuff. Anything would be better than being a dickhead the whole time. Kid sounds like he might have behavioral issues but you don't change that by constantly pushing him around. Also yeah, don't date someone with a kid if you're not up to help raise that kid.

@@rolandliu7194 It doesn't have to be that. It could me as much as showing him some basic exercises and techniques to stay safe, and he can workout on his own. Then they at least have something in common that they can talk about.

Don't date women who already have children. Terrible idea. There's always a reason the last guy didn't stick with her. Even if that guy was an asshole, what kinda POS woman lets that kind of asshole knock her up?

Sane person spotted

@@KASSISHOT 🤝

@Maykon Henrique Mendes When did the kid make it clear he wanted to use it alone? That was never even touched on. And great! Maybe OP shouldn’t have invited people into his home if he didn’t want to share the space with them. That kinda comes with living with somebody.

@Maykon Henrique Mendes Least annoying divorced dad spotted. Don’t you have to go thirst post under teenagers instagram?

It's not his son. It's his girlfriend sons. The son should learn respect for other people property.

@@Moonninja420 I never mentioned he was his son, but if your planning to get with someone long term you can't just pretend like he's not there. If you have issues with him you gotta work it out man to man instead of just putting all the teaching moments onto the mother. Dude shouldn't have broken the lock but I'm surprised the redditors didnt ask for anymore info.

There was definitely some major Bro energy going on.

fr lmao its insane how literally everyone in the story made the most baffling decisions possible. and even crazier i didnt see like a single ESH.

+2 truer words have never been spoken

+2 In fact he should make this series more regular

Sporcle too thoo

+2 true true so true that’s pretty true

+2 many people have said this

Hard to do that when you are 14 and live on the internet.

The kind of person who goes to AITA to try and figure it out, does not have the skill set to work through it

They haven’t, they’re redditors

A lot of people no longer do. Online dating has made it so laughably easy for people, especially women, to dump you if they're not satisfied anymore. You turn into an exchangeable item like a phone. Phone broke? Get new one. BF / GF unsatisfying recently? Fuck them, get a better one.

@@wevegottrouble5891 wow dude that made U sound like a massive incel. Maybe think before you post

It’s like ayn rand is actually every user in the sub. They can’t even conceive of compromise or care. I think their judgement of moral obligations and legal responsibility is conflated with genuine “are you the asshole” judgement. Yeah, I get it, he’s allowed to act like a child and not share (and even potentially endanger the child???? Probably not legal or right here lol), fine. But he’s a colossal asshole who is going to die alone feeling vindicated by a bunch of internet libertarians

You have to remember most of the commenters and upvoters are 15 years old. 15 year olds aren’t thinking “holy shit, that poor child”. They’re thinking “well I’m his age and I’m an adult, so basically he deserves what he got”. Literally all of AITA makes much more sense the moment you realize the average participant is mentally/actually a high schooler.

Sounds like your wife should divorce you

I don't mean to generalize, however if these people are spending their days going through AITA and feeling the need to comment; likelihood is there isn't much else going on beyond facebook, twitter, reddit, repeat.

Reddit is made up of in significant proportion of male, white, young, screen-addicted, left-leaning individuals. Every individual component may not be bad, but the combination is a doozy. I’d wager there are few groups with worse average responsibility/social/family dynamics skills on the planet.

Lmao 🤣

NTA, your viewing habits, your rules!

Why wait? Reddit doesn't know you ain't married.

The best part is that most of the people seeking approval made up their "story" in the first place or atleast retold it in a way were its impossible for them to seem like the asshole.

They just want everyone in the thread to start clapping to make a good end to their "story"

Reddit is full of incels.

Yeah my best hope is that it's a literal 13 year old that thinks all relationships are just like "well, WHAT do I get out of this??" and they'll grow up out of the mindset but it had a disturbing amount of upvotes... Seeing this kind of stuff makes me grateful that my only exposure to Reddit is through React Court

God I hate le epic bacon reddit mentality with the fury of a simultaneous salmonella and campellobacter infection

These people are deranged man hoooly

reddit stop hating women challenge (impossible!)

🤣

Technically, since they are only gf and bf, George is not his stepson, just the girlfriend's son. Not sure if he is just in a casual relationship with Jenny either but it would make sense.

@@Kevin-gt2fg yeah, nl kept on calling the kid OP's stepson when that's definitely not the case. However I think most people would argue that when your girlfriend with a child moves in with you, you are taking a measure of responsibility for the kid. Maybe op and the mother discussed this but op didn't mention it. Whether or not they did it's clear op doesn't care about the kid the way someone in his position should.

@@Kevin-gt2fg Whether or not the child of your partner is truly your stepchild doesn't matter. You have to act like they are all the same and treat them as such.

Same man same

Don't forget the epic come back after the kid made fun of his strength

The slow clap made me question everything lol I don’t think anyone actually unironically slow claps in real life

abusive step-father? Utterly unbelievable.

@@jjwang7597 they do it ironically though, all the time

Not step kid gf kids sucka

Yeah it's legit like... Okay, you're both being a little crazy here. But you're a fucking adult and he's still barely a teenager, you shouldn't be working on the same emotional level

he didnt hurt himself, though. He was just struggling because of his own hubris. Which is HILARIOUS given what the OP said about minecraft/breaking a lock with a hammer. Not how I necessarily would have handled it, but also not insane asshole behavior either. Worth a shot to see if the kid took it as a learning lesson honestly... he clearly didn't as he cried and ran to his Mom but I've had stuff like that work on me before.

@@markkelso871 You are crazy.

@@cutiemonkey why?

@@markkelso871 He could've easily hurt himself if he tried to lift the weight off of him and it fell on his neck instead, and the guy wouldn't be anywhere near enough to help in time. He literally could've died or received permanent damage in his panic. But sure, laugh at the kid instead

brother, it is the same stream split in 2 episodes. But yes, blessed

@@thatguy5493 ah ok, blessed nonetheless

Redditors are terrified about personal compromise.

@@Deggery the kid is a jerk AS A KID. This 30 year old man watching and laughing as that kid thinks he’s gonna die is Joker behavior

@@Deggery He is... but enforcing a boundary on a home gym makes him an asshole.

Sure he is, and his wife/gf shouldn’t have gone behind his back. She definitely sucks, too, but he sucks wayyyy harder. Why set that boundary in the first place? Like NL said, the kid has an interest in exercise and it’s an opportunity for stepdad to be a bro and bond, but instead he’s just a fucking manchild about the whole thing and already has his mind made up that the kid is bad and he doesn’t want to bond with him. He’s a fucking prick and if you can’t see why, you probably are too.

@@Deggery so a grown man is incapable of making a compromise and should instead just endanger a child?

yeah i'll wager that OP has a history of doing the opposite of agreed because they think they know better. it's really annoying when people say they'll do something but decide not to without other's input. sure she may have overreacted a bit but OP's absolutely leaving out context to feel better.

not to project too much, but I often find women don't get absurdly mad about small things like this, and she's likely not "insane"

I might be doing my own head canon, but it kinda feels like he went passive aggressive with the texts which would not help at all

This exact situation happened to me, i was told "i'm gonna wake you up" and then the next day, not only did they turn off my alarm (in case they forgot) so i wouldn't wake up, they didn't fucking wake me up. Thing is when you wake up you are not all there, i rarely get angry but when i just woke up and found out i had the rug pulled from under me i don't know, it was just different, unfiltered anger coming out which calmed down after 30 minutes.

He happily woke her up, to say “i know best” lmao he could’ve woken her up and then if she asked for more sleep, gone on his own. He didn’t need to wake her up just to prove he was up on time and she wasn’t. Redditors love being right more than being good partners

23 is a high number you are giving there. I'm 20 and this shit is uncanny af.

Much has been said about people who look for excuses to justifiably hurt people, even in this video. There seems to be another Type Of Guy who looks for excuses to justify not having to compromise, and r/AITA is a magnet for that sorta guy.

He's an idiot...for dating a single mum. Simple as. That kid is a waste of your resources, time and affection to pour into some inferior man's mistaken nut. And the woman obviously was enough of an idiot to let that inferior man knock her up, so honestly she's not worth your time, not to mention the higher someone's body count, the more likely they'll cheat, dump you for no reason, or domestically abuse you. Don't waste your time. Only legitimate reason to be a single parent is if your partner died.

@@Exarian New guy spotted and he's great for making content

I feel like ESH is the way to go with that one tbh.

man tell me youre not respected and let people walk all over you and never stand up for your self and set boundaries without telling me

@@quickshticksstreaming6539 I don't think you should approach parenting by framing it as a power struggle. In my opinion, a parent(or anyone who voluntarily assumes the role of a parent) has a duty to try their best to support their kid. Even though the kid has done wrong, asserting dominance over a child in a mean and scary way is quite frankly a horrible response.

(expected at 14) bro idk what family you grew up in but busting locks at 14 is NOT "expected" that shit is insane! Not defending the dude but don't downplay how fucked up the kid is acting

You’re the only one I see bringing up that the kid broke and entered the locked room. That’s not normal behavior and the mother is terrible for reinforcing it. It should’ve been ESH.

@@doggo9388 The thing is, the guy is already being completely unreasonable and insane. You can't hold the kid to the same standard as this guy. he should be the bigger man and try to compromise and talk it out.

@@vince8901 you can hold his mother to it though. she's seemingly nonchalant about what should be a serious issue (breaking a lock), but worse than that she's actively contributing to the issue. even if you think the rule is dumb, you don't just help the kid break it, you talk to the other adult. that's why i think it should be esh

@@afsdfsadhasfh this kind of thinking is stupid. Sure, the kid is out of line. You know what won’t make him act better? Mocking his panicked experience and padlocking the house. All these idiot redditors are so self-centered they can’t conceive that being “right” is worthless. It’s 10x more important to make things better than to be have it be “fair”. If the kid is bratty, create a bond and teach respect. If the kid is in your house, you’re the father figure whether you want it or not. If you can’t handle the responsibility of having a child in your house, then you need to break up with the lady so she can go find a better man

it digs heavily into the parenting/childfree life philosophies. many people fall heavily in support of either of the 2 camps, and can't or won't see the other side. while I'm in the childfree side, I recognize that kids need a 2 parent household to have a chance at succeeding at life. that being said, trying to guilt people into doing the "right thing"( parenting isn't inherently moral or amoral, neither is a child free life, this is why family planning is incredibly important and people should be prepared not only individually but collectively at the community level for having children, or for being respected for not having children) never works, backfires and leads to more pathology, not less. it's that guy's choice whether to parent or not, he chose not, and now it's the woman's choice as to whether to continue the relationship with the guy, as being a mother dictates finding a partner for her son. while he's an a hole for how he responded to the kid, he's not an a hole for his choice not to parent, as forcing a relationship can and often does lead to toxic relationships.

W

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I should

nta your girlfriend your rules

me too

The gym stepdad and the one refusing to tattoo his child's name make me really worried for all the step children out there. Not even trying to build a relationship, always viewing them as the "lower priority" child, not even considering them their "own"... no surprise the 14 year old acted like a brat, likely never had a good father figure, he and his mom are in financial troubles and now he's forced to live with a man that ridicules him after he thought he was dying. But redditors don't think that far. "Oh you're 14? You're almost an adult, that means you should behave and be treated like one!"

Wish my mom would’ve divorced my step dad but unfortunately they had 2 children together. Asshole step parents are a big problem

@@cooraa always makes me think of that one internet incel quote "getting together with a mother is like playing someone elses save file". The mindset to come up with such a thought is baffling to me.

didnt know dating someone with kids INSTANTLY makes him the step dad. he didnt owe that kid shit

@@quickshticksstreaming6539 Okay, U/SubstanceOk2416

That’s what I’m thinking !

Now these are the questions that need to be asked.

He has a mirror in his gym and looks out for himself.

He is old enough to know his limit OR what to do if he fail a serie ? Not everyone train hard with weight for 1 - 2 repeat

I was thinking the exact same thing... when NL mentions it and says he thinks it’s “funny” and that’s it, makes me think his child might grow up with boundary issues doing whatever they “desire” because evidently boundaries can just be ignored and that’s A-OK with him.....

@@mnicolaus86 Lmao imagine being on Reddits side on this

@@mnicolaus86 You're insane if that's your take lol. It's obvious that the parent needs to fix that behaviour, but the conversation here isn't George acting the way he's acting, he's a kid, he doesn't know any better. OP's acting probably more immature than the kid tbh, at least the kid has an interest in something healthy as opposed to most other kids.

@Maykon Henrique Mendes clearly not the case. The verdict and comments say otherwise.

@@mtrb335 i meant in the comments

The scary part is that even if it wasnt real 90% of those comments were 😂

I know someone in my life who's this childish and they older than this guy. This people aren't suited for relationships. I seen people go insane because the freezer is full of shit they can't eat right now only for later. Like my brother in christ that's what a fucking Freezer is for! Sure you should have some other food around but fucking come on!

I'm surprised you all think this is fake.... Sounds like something that has happened in thousands of homes tbh

northern lion

so true

so much this

based

Many people are saying this

Also there's like missing context, is the kid just going in there to fuck around and doesn't really care about working out etc. Maybe he's already tried to be like hey let's workout and the kid just wants to fuck around.

Bro its 40kgs, its literally nothing....

​@@SteroidBlackBeltthe kid broke in with hammers, he is a little shit and NL being incredulous up to that point is so silly bad read of the situation to just be like "woah dude, you're 37! dont you know that being 37 means you gotta have your shit broken into 🤔🤔🤔"

no you dont you do realize its a kindness he puts up with the kid right?. in the wild animals kill the offspring of other animals if they are mating with the mom lol

@@stevebob2941 damn, impressive how primitive you are.

Yes just talk to them and it will all work out...When you have to deal with someone elses teenager, your eyes will be opened.

It doesn't matter - the weights don't belong to the kid, they aren't his, he was told not to use them, he can't use them. He's being told that by the head of the household, an adult man who the kid gets to live with for free and needs to obey like a parent figure.

talking to teenagers can be hard, especially if they've grown up without both parents. But the fact that nowhere in ops story does he mention that he even *tried* speaks volumes. Doesn't sound like he even tried to talk to the mother either. He's not even willing to *try* to be a father figure, he just wants the kid to fuck off so he can ego-lift alone like a "REAL man". The guy is a living example of toxic masculinity, and the replies to his post are just mind blowingly abhorrent.

The thing with the first story is that it's the fakest shit on the planet. Like kid just moved in, tells him not to do something, does it anyway, and this can't be solved apparently through like talking to his mother. So he locks the basement and the kid just fucking busts the lock open, again normal reactions like disciplining a 14 year old whose literally breaking down doors are out of the question. Instead he turns his gym into fort knox. But after all this the mother is still like "nah the kid can do what he wants", and the person wants to live with this woman for some reason. But aha huge breakthrough after only ever seeing traces of the kid doing all this, he now catches him red handed and of course the moment he does, the kid almost fucking dies (but obviously not in an actually life threatening manner that's bad for reddit karma). How can you read that and not think it's fake?

I kept seeing you reply he could’ve really hurt himself there and I was wondering what you could’ve meant. You really think he was in serious danger when there was a grown man that could curl that weight standing right there? You really just said he could’ve died

@@passolcso695 I mean obviously it could be fake but weirder stuff has happened

@@macegnarg2467 yeah, is OP the flash? If the kid didn't know he was there he was probably a few meters away, it doesn't take long to crush your windpipe, why not just intervene.

@@mitchellhoward3209 Nah it's 100% fake. It was doubtful at first but when he caught him for the very first time and then the kid just happened to have the accident is too far fetched. Also the slow clap thing. It's a dead giveaway for a made up story.

Yes this would be golden

Dan is too pure for these insane reddit takes 😭

it's reasonable to not invite 'people' to live in your house unless you accept them as family and willing to share your life and possessions with

@@windy8544 straight up I think you are wrong, a large part of relationships is being able to set boundaries with the other person. Should be reasonable to accept these people into his house and also be able to say, "weight room off limits" etc, even though I don't agree with this guy and I think the simple solution is to teach the kid how to lift weights safely and to do it with him as a bonding experience. Sounds like this fella didn't want to do that, so the other option should be totally acceptable as well.

Man it's insane that people think they can do this with teenagers. Boundaries between two adults is fine and good. But if you have a teenager their whole method of growth is breaking your boundaries. Every single teenager does this in different ways. If I meet a adult who says otherwise then it's helpful because I've met a liar. I was way way more well behaved as a teenager then most but I still did this. As a child you mostly keep to the boundaries, as a teenager you break them pointless, as an adult you then know good vs bad boundaries. If you want a teenager to read a book, ban them from reading it.

@@yautjacetanu you make some good points, I didnt think about how teenagers can be like that and you are right. While I still feel some of the blame for the situation we are talking about is on the kid, breaking a lock with a hammer is still a pretty bad thing to do regardless of being a teen. But i do agree with you, it is unreasonable to place any faith in a kid that OP doesnt seem to like, and who doesnt seem to like OP either.

@@emmettrichardson5833 except when you get involved with a parent who has a minor and move him into your house, the minor has no say. And if you are a toxic person like OP, you can really damage a child. A child who is already probably damaged from being from a broken home. So yeah, if you can't accept that you can fuck up someones life by dating their parent and being a toxic step parent you have no business moving a single mom and her kid in your house while you bang the mom.

I love redditors going full blown scorched earth over the mildest hiccup. Wife a little mean? Literally throw all her stuff out and put your son up for adoption

Still nta tho.

Some things you want to do alone,if he made his gym to himself and to spend time alone the other people should respect it. Also letting the boy think is gonna die is harsh, but is pretty effective. The girlfriend is the one at fault in this situation because she had no right to share the key, so it is her fault her son was put into this situation.

@@joaopedrocruz6432 Trying to quarantine off sections of your home from your own family, especially kids, has never and will never work, and does not help to build a healthy relationship.

lion had the brightest white dad mental on the gym tho. this man has no responsibility for a child that's not his and the damn kid is willing to beat down doors and locks to get what he wants. nta and the wife is 100% using the guy. if you are not king of your own home you are king of nothing. imagine letting a child walk on you because he's a minor

@@joaopedrocruz6432 If he wants sole ownership of his home gym and no one to bother him then he shouldn't be in a relationship, on top of that to someone with a child???! That ownership goes out the window when you make that commitment, you don't get to have your cake and fuck it too.

i saw it was NTA so I was waiting to see when the post would flip on who's wrong...but the poster was the asshole the whole time! at the worst you could say ESH because the kid broke a lock, and the girlfriend seemingly didn't think this was a big issue and continued to enable it. but the idea that the poster wasn't an asshole...reddit can be crazy sometimes

@@litapd311 Everyone is an asshole, but the kid is kinda the least asshole-ish because the only bad thing he did is break the lock that shouldn't even be there.

I feel like NL is a bad take machine, but he's incredibly funny about them. But, I don't invest so much into his takes that it frustrates me, though it does make me shake my head sometimes.

Usually I disagree with over half of NLs takes in this serise but in this one I agreed with all of them

if he can pay $7k for gym equipment he can definitely afford to pay for a couple therapy sessions lmao

I'm baffled at these takes. To start, the kid is clearly a very rude and undisciplined young man, making me think the kids biological father may have been a terrible influence. Regardless, I'm sure OP tried opening up to him on several occasions but the kid simply won't accept any help, just chooses to continue the chaos. These types of teenagers are common and quite difficult to deal with especially as a step-parent who wasn't present during the kids childhood. So OP decides to give up on trying too hard with him, but still maintains basic parent-child decency when dealing with him. OP gave him very simple instructions which asked not to visit his gym, which he put a lot of work and energy into (NL's shallow take that it's just "metal" rings, etc. doesn't make any sense when you consider the importance of these items to a former bodybuilder like OP). The hassle is that the kid frequently chooses to disobey very simple instructions which ends up causing financial inconvenience with locks have to be replaced again, and the fact that the mother seemingly refuses to acknowledge this very serious and obvious flaw in character doesn't help. It's not about him using the gym, good for the kid, focusing on his physical health at this age is important and it is an all-around great activity. Rather it's about the principle and concept of respecting someone else's wishes and property especially when none of it belongs to you. The kid was trusted by this older guardian to not use this particular room, so therefore breaking this trust will have serious consequences. These are basic ethics everyone should have internalized by his age. Solution? The kid requires serious therapy at this stage as waiting longer can worsen his cognitive development, and OP needs to have a discussion with the mother regarding this gap in their relationship and ways to balance it moving forward. (That is if he's looking for a longer-term relationship)

@@TheFar95 The guy didn't even mention any specifics about what makes him a troubled kid, besides the lock-smashing which is indeed pretty intense behavior. He made himself sound immature also using his own words, except he's 15-plus years the senior. I mean, slow clap? Really? That's laughable. Anyway, the story is fake.

@@TheFar95 That's a lot of words and assuming for defending someone that's clearly acting crazy on a story that's probably fake. So I'm gonna go ahead and pin you down as a Redditor

@@TheFar95 “i’m baffled at these takes” *gives op the benefit of the doubt for no reason*

I know right. OP is a damn psychopath and the people in the comments made me loose all faith in humanity