The fact that he quit therapy because he thinks he's fixed but still behaves like this concerns me. I really hope I'm reading too far into this, but this doesn't seem like someone whose heart is in the right place. He's been told about at least some of the harm of his behavior, but he doesn't want to change.

In my country, a personal size pizza is an 8" circle. So small. It's kinda an unwritten rule that personal pan pizza is not for sharing.

I have PTSD and severe anxiety. The husban's behavior over this pizza has nothing to do with anxiety. People love to make mental health challenges the scapegoat for bad behavior. That's what this seems like to me.

OP is glossing over her experience w/this complete AH. He's controlling, petty, thoughtless and thinks he's HER teacher? And no, it won't "be funny" when he sees that post. I hate that everyone overuses the word narcissist becuz when it's actually true, it's a huge problem. OP's husband uses "anxiety" as an excuse to control, but ppl w/anxiety don't purposely cause problems + try to control people, the exact opposite. They want things to go smoothly in their relationships and don't try to induce anxious situations. It seems to be a thing, that men don't reveal themselves until the woman is pregnant. I'm disgusted by that.

As a celiac, this makes me so angry -- getting gluten free food is hard, keeping gluten free food gluten free is hard (eg it's so easy for people to mess up and get gluten on a gluten free pizza). If we're ordering pizzas, I get in first, take my gluten free pizza, and nobody else is touching my pizza thank you very much

She is not just Gluten Free by choice. She has celiac disease which is extremely serious. It sounds like he doesn’t care what happens to her.

Mental health is never an excuse to abuse others. He is not just controlling, that would be bad enough, he goes way further. Steam Rolling your partners dietary restrictions, restricting your partner food intake as a result...big big no no. Making a thing about things not being hers, wft is wrong with this dude.

Husband is extremely toxic.

Wife and first born both have food allergies. Their food is off limits to me. I can eat most anything anywhere. We make sure they have what they need. If they push I will sample theirs but otherwise…. He’s being selfish and controlling

WOW the husband is a complete AH. Run OP run Husband is full of red flags. This can't be the only time he's acted this way. Run

She needs to ditch her denial. He is only going to get worse and deep down, she knows it.

Wow this husband is a real piece of work... and to hear she's pregnant makes it even worse, somehow!!

I understand. I'm an extreme diabetic and order accordingly. It drives me crazy when someone else wants to eat my food.

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The fact that he’s willing to bully her out of her food when he knows she absolutely cannot have Gluten or she’s going to be sick is awful. It sounds like he’s emotionally abusive and doesn’t like when she stands up for herself. The fact that he quit therapy meant that he didn’t want to fix himself not that he decided he was fixed.

Putting the pizza incidence aside, "you can buy it yourself"??? I know that some couples have two bank accounts and split the bills, but unless there's a trust issue I've found that one joint account should be used for everything - food, electric, mortgage, etc. There's no you or I in a joint account. Only "us".

I've had Generalized Anxiety Disorder for over a decade, does not make me act like OP's husband. He knows better and either OP or he is using "anxiety" as an excuse for controlling behavior. He knows it's wrong, that's why he stopped going to therapy - he was not having his BS views reinforced.

Someone get this woman to google coercive control 🤦‍♀️

If someone is this big of an asshole over something a pizza (not even getting into the multiple points about the pizza), I have zero hope for the future for her. And fuck his anxiety and control issues. I have anxiety and like things organized- I don’t use it like a weapon towards my children and husband.

This is abuse that could have a serious consequence. Is there any chance he might slip you something with gluten in it and wait to see if you have a reaction to it? I have a friend that is real sensitive to gluten. It does not take but a tiny bit to cause a reaction.