Can we clone OP? What a great man!

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We are christian. We love Jesus. We are also all nerds. We watch Harry Potter every christmas, love halloween, and star wars, scary movies, magic and imagination. Your kids can’t create if they have no outlet to foster creativity. These stories show them heroism and sacrifice, perseverance, honesty and doing the right thing. All things Jesus expects from us, kids don’t like sermons, but they like action and fun. It’s more easily digestible and gives us wonderful examples to tie to bible stories and acts of humanity. We’ve met people like that, my husband and I are veterans who are covered in tattoos and my daughter wears clothes with her shoulders showing ( we live in hawai’i) it’s not our fault they aren’t good at history and can’t understand which rules and laws from God pertain to certain people in the bible at certain times. Sucks to sucks, hope God blesses. Only he can judge you, even idiot 20 year old boys who get that tattooed on them and don’t live by that at least understand that. Sad.

Absolutely the best podcast so far! I laughed so much.

The husband is a major problem too. He figured he only had to put up with the rule a little bit and got mad at OP because she meant it. OP needs to stand her ground in her own house. Pick up the baby and tell MIL you said no and make her see that you mean it. You shouldn’t leave your house. It’s your house.

If I were OP, I would tell him I would make the appt if and only if he will tell me exactly why he is questioning the paternity of this child and provide absolute proof that he has a right to question me. If it is only his mom and/or sister buzzing in his ear, he can tell them to mind their own business. If he says no to any or all of that, he can make the damn appt himself and to never bring up the subject again!

I highly recommend op look up "using gentle parenting on adults" for ideas on how to deal with MIL

NTA. Also, this OP is pregnant now. She'll have to have the amniotic fluid tested, right? It's a major procedure for her, I think he just has a buccal swab on his end. For someone who "Isn't questioning paternity" this is a tremendously big ask. I wonder if he's been secretly questioning his own fertility and then she becomes pregnant; and he's suddenly questioning whether she slept with someone else and that's why she's pregnant. Dusty is right though...there is no putting this to rest without actual closure or possibly divorce. He'd better spill the beans, whatever those beans are and tell her what the hell he's questioning.

Sounds like it's is all about her, her and her!!

You are teaching her how to treat you. Get up and go every single time. Hubby can deal with that or he can grow a pair. Good for you picking up and leaving. Do it again and again. She'll get the message.

When did kid free weddings start being a thing? My personal opinion is that it makes you look selfish to not want family members there. To expect people to trust strangers with their kids when “it’s always someone you know” is a thing. To just want to party and have fun, it feels like people who just want and expensive party, aren’t mature enough to get married because they don’t understand what marriage is. It’s about becoming a family, with the other family. Nothing makes me feel more alone as a veteran and spouse than not being able to attend events because there are so few family friendly military events. I’ve been to one ball and it was so incrediably stressful, we’d never done babysitting before, never again. of course my mother and grandparents have babysat for running to the store or the birth of our second, but we are military and never around family. I feel like child free is a very new, chronically online, self obsessed, self indulgant, shallow behavior. There can’t be true appreciation for family and tradition, kindness in your heart and value in other people, if you truley want to have an even that people put money, time and effort into for you, to be all about you. A wedding is just for you, your guests are to be honored for supporting you. It’s not for them to sacrifice for you because you’re getting married. It’s about family, families have kids and pregnant women etc. There are young people who get married and people who get married to young… and everyone can tell the difference by the invite.

He can’t schedule his own appointments? OP you are having a baby with a baby.

OP is WAAYYY nicer than I would be! Watch MIL ignore me when I'm throwing things at her! Soft things to start, like balled up socks or a kitchen towel, but harder things the longer she tries to pull THAT shit in MY house!

Op doesn’t have a MIL problem. She has a husband problem.

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Need to have them on here again.

If the ex and her dad are signing off on their behavior, then whether they actually behave that way themselves, they suck, then they are also Asscon 1. Especially the ex: She blamed the "poor service," not her mother's behavior. Maybe the dad did as well, but we don't have confirmation of that.

I have the WORST MIL. She would pull stunts, lie, insult me whenever we were together but husband out of ear shot. We spent YEARS arguing because he literally would never say anything to his parents; even when MIL picked on the kids. Finally, in one argument where he was talking about my need for "respect" (which was f*cking insane) I asked him if he could respect a man who lets his mom treat his wife and children terribly, and then comes after his wife for not being ok with it. I think that's when he started getting it. It's disgusting for a grown man to side with his mom over his wife and allow his mom to be terrible to the family he chose to create. Seriously. Any man that chooses his mom over his wife is beyond unattractive.

Learning to deal with MIL will be good practice, because her daughter will also one day have selective hearing, as most kids do. Taking parenting classes, joining parent groups, or reading some books on the subject may help. Walking away may work for now, but it will not help when it is her daughter doing the selective hearing.

NTA! OP, your response should have been that not only would you do a paternity test, but you would also speak to a lawyer to file for divorce, demand full custody of your child regardless of the paternity results as well as a hefty amount of child support and alimony. But he would STILL have to set up the paternity test appointment. As for the sister, if her brother is so damned incompetent that HE can't figure out how to schedule it, then the SISTER should do it for him if she's so bothered by it.

Op nta and I'm happy she got some sleep❤

This is my favorite video yet 😂😂😂 I am laughing so hard!!! Definitely need more like this 🤩

Is MIL a dumb arse? Feeding a breastfeeding, teething baby cake? Husband is a total knob. Tell him family therapy or divorce as this was an ongoing issue with MIL and this time it was at your CHILD'S expense.

Every time Dusty channels the bizzo MIL voice in these stories, I lose it! 🤣🤣🤣 SO GOOD!! I may have to borrow this character voice when I tell my own stories about encountering people like this in the world. 😄

Run OP... husband lied about leaving you alone with mil. Husband should've had your back and didn't.

I hope you send this to MIL so she can see it’s ALL MOTHER IN LAWS FAULT. The husband is a whimp

His "parents" aren't disappointed - FIL noped out of there to check out a broken lawnmower instead of spending time with his grandchild. MIL is upset that OP wouldn't tolerate her disrespect, and FIL and husband are tired of listening to her bitch. Hubby broke the agreement of not leaving OP alone with his mother, so OP did what she needed to do. But I'll tell you what - MIL wouldn't have gotten a third chance to try and feed my child something I said they couldn't have. I'd have picked up the baby, or the plate of cake (depending on how petty I was feeling) and then gone outside to announce that the visit was ober, and FIL could take MIL home - and preferably to an audiology clinic to get her *&#%ing ears checked. Bless OP, she's a gentler soul than I.

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Not excusing his behavior in the least but… one perspective may be that he is from money and she is not. He may have mom, dad or lawyers in his ear insisting on the test. He doesn’t sound like he has much of a backbone or work ethic so I wouldn’t put it past them to demand the test. SIL may also be from that money and that’s why she thinks it’s acceptable to ask for it. It’s no excuse to be that ignorant at their ages but if that’s how they were raised?

Not excusing his behavior in the least but… one perspective may be that he is from money and she is not. He may have mom, dad or lawyers in his ear insisting on the test. He doesn’t sound like he has much of a backbone or work ethic so I wouldn’t put it past them to demand the test. SIL may also be from that money and that’s why she thinks it’s acceptable to ask for it. It’s no excuse to be that ignorant at their ages but if that’s how they were raised?

No wonder women are deciding NOT to marry or have children… UN…REAL

NTA. MIL tried to kill the baby. I would have laid hands on her if that were my baby.

I would be questioning the 'everything' SIL apparently knows. There's more going on t

Story 1: I think he could have talked with his wife, but you have every right to apply. I think your wife is the ahole for making you give up your dream! Your kids are grown, and it is one year.

I mean...MIL did OP a favor. Can you imagine having to deal with that until you divorce?!

I'm possibly too old and crotchety, but the second time she tried to feed the baby, that damn spoon gets slapped out of her hand, accompanied by, 'I said NO!' in her face. Either she listens or she can take her happy behind right back home and cry on FB that her DIL is just so mean, and how she never sees the baby. Until the doctor says it is okay for solids and such, grandma does NOT know best. Hubby can be on board or not, but anything to do with baby and anyone allowed in the house is a two yes situation!

OP is the asscanaut and a thief of joy. Grandma was having some bandage time with the child, and OP decided that was unacceptable because she has a personal vendetta against grandma. The child was not in any danger and was probably having fun. OP just refuses to let that happen with grandma for petty and vindictive reasons. What OP should have done was allow grandma and child to bond, and if she was really that bothered, ask the husband for permission to take the baby and go out and respect the husbands choice.

Absolutely NTA! Boundaries were violated, those were the results, husband can deal with it.

She would be out of my house so fast she'd get whiplash! And I wouldn't even be the only one throwing her out- my partner loves his mother to death, but there's no chance in hell he would let her disrespect me and put our baby at risk (we don't have kids, but if we did, he would not play these games. Dude's a papa bear around his nieces and nephew, I can imagine he'd be even moreso with his own child)

I don't care who is "in his ear" he's a grown man and husband who just accused his wife of having an affair and having another man's baby with no proof what so ever. I'd give the paternity test ( because it is legally accepted) and hand him divorce papers. See how much he likes child support payments. I'd divorce him regardless, throwing around accusations and being too lazy to do the work, that's not a man I want to be with.

Why didn’t she pick the baby up after she told her to stop but it took her 3 times of saying stop. Just wondering.

This marriage isn't going to last. Hubby & his family have zero respect for you!

Think of the mind job he's doing to her. He questions paternity and stalls on making an appointment. No one deserves that kind of torture....

A lot of states will offer a paternity test at the time of birth. So that could be an option since I don't see him making the appointment or letting it go. Sounds like someone is saying stuff to him and he doesn't want to tell her so he says he doesn't question her and if he makes the appointment it makes him look like a bad guy/jerk but if he guilts her into doing it (hence having his sister come "talk" to op) then he can save face in the situation