Is she his sponsor? She’s deff the AH. I bet her friend likes her too🙄

It's not about his wife not letting him have his dream, it's about making a life changing choice without talking to his wife about it.

When Dusty says “Malfoy bullshit” I cannot help but crack 😂😂😂😂

The words of wisdom that my parents bestowed upon me were, "Want in one hand, shit in the other. See which one fills up first."

Please keep posting I can’t do my home chores unless I’m listening to this

I understand why he didn't tell her. Rejection from NASA would be understandably better than the rejection he expected from wife. He knew she wouldn't be happy about it and will cut his wings of hope. NTA. I feel sorry for him and I think he should do everything to reach this dream.

Story 2: Jeez, I can't imagine why Jane has no friends 🙄 I sincerely hope she takes the loss of her only friend as a wake-up call and realises how much damage her parents have done

NTA. He said the project he and his wife were gonna be done before this whole thing started. And she was gonna retire after her project was done. He did nothing wrong. He wants to do something for himself. He put his own wants and desires on hold for his family. She was totally wrong. OP NTA, Wife YTA

I mean he's turning 60. And this is leaving orbit??? I'm sorry but yeah if you made the call bys instead of with your family

You should create a bullsh*t animation for your videos.

I would never let the person call me a girlfriend or celebrate anything BUT, to me, if no one asked or made it official, IT ISN'T. I can make a friendship with benefits work for years easily too, doing couple things and all. Won't be your girlfriend if you never asked me to. Thing is tho, i would make it very clear that we are not in a serious relationship

i hope liz finds this post and runs for the hills, and i hope this guy goes to therapy and achieves a learned level of empathy. the reply ate him up!!

I think it may age me, but your advice @09:41 was highly reminiscient of the song "Popular" by Nada Surf! Anyway.. OP needs to pull his head out of his own rear end, and touch some grass, and perhaps learn what adult relationships look like before he ventures into another relationship.

What a scumbag

That would have been so dope. I would brag to everyone that he was helping NASA. NTA

Just a couple things here. OP’s apology is very reminiscent of when anyone famous tweets something bad, or uses a slur, and apologizes saying my behavior is abhorrent.. blah blah blah. He’s not apologizing for being a certain way, He’s apologizing for getting caught up in his own BS. Secondly perhaps the title should have been “How should my (29m) girlfriend (28F) inform me that we are in a relationship?

Another follower of A Tate

Just throwing it out there, there our programs out there where you can fly a plane in simulated combat. The main pilot has full control of the aircraft if needed, but you are definitely flying the thing no training required. My dad did it and he LOOOOVED it

6:43 Agreed!

As someone who was adopted by my dad, unfortunately a lot of kids who know this have used that line. I said it to my dad (step) and I regretted it immediately. I still apologize for it 20 years later

You mum needs therapy he died. He’s gone. Leave him out. We had the same. But we don’t include him like this

It’s an “Am I the astronaut?” story!

To me this is 3. It sounds like there are still needs from their children. I'd be mad at my husband, and he'd be mad at me. And we don't have kids and I actually would move for him. But I'd want to be consulted.

This came out a week or two ago why do I keep getting updates on old stories

I would watch Candy's true crime podcast!

I'd be ready to find food truck girl "lizz" and warn a girl the dude is delulu!!!!

😅wow that’s was amazing!!

Sounds like you married a drama queen, Karen.

I would have supported my partner 💯.

My husband and I have been together for over 30 years, I would not take that away from someone I love.

Wow. Hippies? You are so right. We worked really hard to raise adults. I always said we were not raising children because I had no desire to have a 30 yo child. Also because my Sister passed and her 2 really struggled because she let them do as they pleased and get away with everything. Thankfully BOTH of mine know consequences and have had hardship they worked through. These poor kids are doomed.

I moved several times for my ex-husband. After 15 yrs of marriage I went back to school and got my degrees, my dream job came up and he let me know, in no uncertain terms, he would not be moving for my career. He is absolutely not NTA and his wife certainly is.

NTA! I don't like cake either. I asked for a cheesecake multiple years instead of a traditional cake and NEVER got one. If the m others want a cake then why the hell should OP have to choose the flavor. OP choosing the flavor is a blatant way for mom to try to force OPs hand. Just make the damn cake and get OP what he actually wants. Why is it so hard to listen to OP? The actions by the parents are selfish and not caring. Making a cake for others just to uphold others expectations? Their own image? What is so wrong about not having cake? I wonder if there has been cake smashing, trick candles or other tricks played on OP or other family members with cake too. OP is definitely wrong for being a brat about the gift at the end but overall is still think NTA. If the parents actually cared about OP they would respect his wishes and grant this simple wish for their birthday.

OP is a scumb bag, like dough type

They already raised their family. Why is she holding him back more?

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Y’all mean to tell me that your partner stops becoming your partner because your kids moved out. You no longer have to discuss potential big changes in your life with your partner?

I've totally been there... Luckily it wasn't that long before he went 'I didn't realise this weas a relationship' after we took weeks away, was at each others places regularly, going to each others individual activites as support... What is it with some men...

There is a Koren show on Netflix that goes along a similar vein where the main character always dreamed of being a ballet dancer, and when he retired he secretly started to learn how to dance. I would not be surprised that there was at least a part of OP that knew his wife would not approve and kill his dream, and that is why he did not tell her.

I’m with Candy.

NTA. I would be thrilled if my husband went for a dream like this. I would only be upset if a commitment had been made without my input and a long-shot application is in no way a commitment in my opinion. I’m sad for OP that his dream got squashed without her really taking the time to consider it. I wonder if it would have been different if it had been a decision they made together to apply?

No reason op couldn't or shouldn't do this & follow his dream. What makes him an AH, is dropping this bomb out of the blue to her. She was God smacked. Zero conversation about being an astronaut for 20 plus years & then just dropping it on her. The woman AKA Grandmother is in shock.

I thought NTA until he said that he withdrew the application when NASA asked for more I for without telling his wife AGAIN. For goodness’s sake, I get that she was mad initially but when it became a real possibility he should’ve kept her updated. So at the end of the story I say YTA or ESH.

No partner gets to unanimously overrule another partner, especially when it involves chasing dreams. Discussions are required to explore available options, potential compromises, and/or offer reasonable explanations on why further pursuit isn't feasible with the option to renegotiate again in the future. You certainly don't throw a huge fit and try to crush someone's dreams with such ferocity. OP was still in the information gathering stage, which is harmless and non-committal. If anything, it's in OP's partner's best interest to let him go through the screening process, especially if the odds are against him. He'll forever shelve the idea if NASA themselves said "no." On the slim chance NASA says "yes", he's at a point in his life where most of his adult obligations are completed, resolved, or can be safely put on hold. The only real issue is OP's partner's discomfort. Partners often endure a little discomfort for the things that matter greatly to one another. OP may want to ask why his partner's discomfort matters more than his pursuit of a dream in a responsible way.

YTA, full stop. 💯. MASSIVE SHOUTOUT TO THE GENTLEMAN WHO WROTE THAT EXTRAORDINARY RESPONSE….W O W👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

NTA, and the wife needs to realize that her reaction might make him resentful towards her for the rest of his life. He's basically given up his dream because she wouldn't have it, that's terrible. I feel awful for him.

It’s sad that he withdrew before finding out more about the project. A year isn’t that long and they’re financially stable. If I was the wife I would’ve asked about how communications with loved ones on the outside would be handled. Would there be conjugal visits, or is physical separation from loved ones a psychological part of the experiment? I would find the whole thing exciting!

11:41 I disagree on politics and interests with some of my best friends in the world. The entire time I’ve been friends with these people, we’ve never held that against each other-you have your worldview, I have mine, don’t force it on me, and we’ll be fine. Having people in your circle who see the world differently than you is a good thing in my eyes because they see things you might not see from your one perspective.

NTA. He helped build her business and now that he wants to do something for himself she shut it down, that's AH move. He did all he was suppose to do for his kids. He is allowed to live his dream at this point....since you both would "retire" before that even began. Hopefully this won't create resentment towards her...because she happy but she made sure to block his moment to shine.

Agree totally wirh Candy. NTA