I have a friend who lost his fiancé in a car accident, he gave her mother back the wedding dress because he thought It would mean more to her mother than for him to keep it and his mother gave him pictures from the day they went dress shopping together. They both cried together. About Two years later his late fiancé’s mother asked him if he would be OK with it if she offered the dress to his late fiancé’s little sister, he said that he thinks that she would’ve liked to that. The little sister wore the dress and he felt like it was a very respectful way to honor her memory. The thing is everybody was respectful of each other‘s feelings in that story.

Asking to wear the dress is okay, but the “No” should have been accepted immediately. If was really about bonding, she could ask the new stepmother to go dress shopping with her. But I’m most appalled by the husband’s behavior. Inexcusable for him to try to guilt his wife into giving his daughter her dead daughter’s dress.

The first story really makes my blood boil. The manipulation, gaslighting, and guilt tripping to get a wedding dress that has indescribable sentimental value to a grieving mom... Absolutely disgusting. Shame on the stepdaughter and husband. I hope the mom will find new people that respect her and what she went through. She deserves better.

"her dad doesn't see why I'm against it." He. . .can't see why his daughter mutilating the dress of his wife's deceased daughter would make her. . .not okay??? Someone get this man a copy of 27 dresses, right now.

The fact the step-mom is still grieving over her daughter passing away AND YET THIS STEP DAUGHTER HAS THE AUDACITY TO BE SO THICK FACED FOR A WEDDING DRESS SHE DIDN'T EVEN WEAR AND BUY AT THE FIRST PLACE!! ASDFGHJKL I'm so heated over that step-daughter and father saying there shouldn't be a problem WTFFFFF. I would divorce the dad ASAP if they still continue to insist. so insensitive

So stepdaughter's response is basically "you met me when I was a grown-ass adult, but you don't love me more than the deceased daughter you raised from birth?" Damn straight. There is not a mother daughter relationship, there is just an "I am OK with you marrying my dad. If stepmom had done something like "that is against my rules", I am sure she would have been met with some version of "it's my life" and "you're not my mom".

Someone made me cry when they asked if I was going to have another kid. We had two miscarriages that they didn't know about. We ended up having our second kid and that same person asked when we were going to have another kid while I was pregnant. Some people don't learn and they should stay out of other people's business.

If I was the woman with the pregnancy jar, when the mother started talking about how everyone was worried cause she was in her thirties. I would’ve just pulled the jar out.

Handicap one: my brother was run over and lost his leg in the ‘accident’ (it was his ex who did it). He now needs those parking spots and it pisses me off so much when people assume that he doesn’t because he’s young and ‘walks fine’. He’s lifted his jeans to tell people to eff off multiple times, jumped around without a leg to embarrass people trying to make him move, etc. and it’s hilarious every time. We support him and stand by the pettiness.

DEFINITELY a HUGE NO on the dress! The audacity of her even asking....smh. Get your own damned dress!!!!

One time, my Dad parked in a handicap spot, and a Karen approached him and proceeded to yell at him for parking in a handicap spot while being perfectly healthy. A lot of people were staring at the spectacle she was making. My Dad calmly unbuttoned his shirt and the lady was freaking out seeing his scar from his triple bypass and his catheter protruding from the bottom part of his stomach.

Stepdaughter sounds awful. When someone tells you how they feel about something, "No, it's actually fine" is never a good response. And that bs about "do you love me?" is manipulation 101. Her dad not recognizing this and encouraging this behavior is worrying. I'd be telling him I'm going into therapy, and he can simultaneously decide if it's couple's therapy and if he's still in a relationship.

I swear Reddit is great for this. A lot of people have toxic families and it's so great they can get validation when needed - or trashed when they're the toxic ones

It would be extremely hard for Mom to see step daughter wearing the dress. It would make her relive her daughters death all over again.

This reminds me of my friends family who kept asking her to give them grandkids so she told them "If you want grandkids then pay me to have them." She gave them a estimated price for 18 yrs and sent them a email requesting a down payment of 10,000. They haven't asked her since. Though she keeps reminding them about it.

My dad once had the pregnancy talk with me. He simply said: “Having children is a wonderful experience that changes your life. There is no pressure, I just want you to make an informed decision about what you might or mightn’t miss out on, and not have that choice taken from you by the passage of time. Your mother and I were older when we had kids, which had both advantages and drawbacks. We were well settled with jobs, but it was also harder to keep up physically with you as we got older.” And then my mom said: “I wouldn’t pressure you to have children, but I do have some information I hope you will think about. I was older when I had you, and even older when your brother came. It was hard. The older you are the more physically demanding having children is. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t waited so long. Remember my first birth lasted 16h. It was not fun. Nor was being a decade older than the other parents of the kids in your class. So if you are going to do it, don’t wait til the last minute.” Honestly that is pretty useful info, and I thought fairly respectfully done.

The stepdaughter is just trying to get a free dress. If she was actually the sister of her recently deceased daughter and wanted to wear it as a way to honor her, that would be nice. But it seems like they barely knew each other.

As a person with an invisible disability, I respond to anyone who questions my parking placard by loudly stating “I’m so glad I live in a country where I am not required to discuss my health issues with strangers” and then walk away 🙂

So, not the same really, but I lost a baby due to prematurity. She lived for two hours. My next baby is alive and well, but there are some clothing items I had been given for my first baby that I can not bring myself to put my living baby in. They've never been worn, but I can't do it. They're hers. Particularly the one I used to announce my first pregnancy. I rummaged through some of them when I was desperate because clothes were being outgrown, and STILL couldn't do it. And it had been 4 years. Honestly, even if there WASN'T a plan to alter the dress and this was a blood child, I'd still call it justified. YOU DON'T GET OVER THAT KIND OF LOSS. EVER. You just learn to live with it.

I relate to the asking about kids story! My husband and I tried for years and went through several losses. I wish I'd though of having a 'pregnancy jar' cause my family would not stop asking. Especially my parents who would always say "We want grandkids you know!" After my third miscarriage when my parents asked I ended up blowing up at them, shouting that I want a child more than they want a grandchild and the pressure they are putting on timing is just making everything more difficult, and if they didn't stop asking they wouldn't get to meet any grandkids whether or not we had any. They stopped asking. Happy ending, we had our rainbow baby this February, he's my whole world and his grandparents dote upon him.

The pregnancy one: my solution is usually TMI. Once you start getting into the reasons and start talking about uteruses people generally feel weird and want to stop talking. This is when you don’t. You talk louder and more about periods and ovulation. Trust me. No one asks again ha ha!

As mother of a dead adult child I say it was not right to ask/demand. If mum had a good relationship with stepdaughter and OFFERED it would have been so sweet. And "changing it's look" NO. Oh my goodness what a messy family dynamic.

9:00 Exactly! Not all physical disabilities involve a wheelchair, walker, cane, etc. I’ve read so many entitled people stories like this. Never assume the person doesn’t have a disability just because it’s not obvious to your eyes.

Regarding that last one, I went to my friend's wedding some time ago. Super cute couple so happy for them and their future. Years later we happened to all be going to a mutual friend's wedding and touched base for a little bit during dinner. I was joking a with them, asking if they were going to have a bunch of kids. Her face immediately fell. Her whole body slumped down into such a sad state and her husband looked very sad too. I did a lot of growing up in that moment. Just because it's the "norm" in society to tease newlyweds about having kids, doesn't mean we actually should. Now I don't say anything about kids if the couple doesn't have any or isn't expecting.

The girl that took her leg off is not the a hole, she's my hero!

Wow the emotional blackmailing of the stepdaughter. The audacity!

As someone who also looks “normal” but has a handicap placard and uses it for my MS/fatigue/pain…. You’re amazing and I freaking LOVE that you did this!

As someone who has had arthritis since I was 14 have had sepsis 3 times, countless operations and a knee replacement and am only 38. I constantly get judged for being 'too young to be disabled' so I get how she was feeling. My petty ass would have acted the same and have in the past. Prejudice is ugly and not your fault for someone and the actions they choose to take. Most definitely NOT the AH. 💜 Love your videos Charlotte 🧡 Much love from London, England 🇬🇧 ❤️

I feel like the only way to get people to stop asking about pregnancy is to make it as uncomfortable for them as it is for you... and the pregnancy jar achieved that. A total win for that lady, a great idea

The moment Charlotte read that the daughter passed the same month as her wedding... nah that dress would be in a glass shrine with lights and flowers Also that whole "im you're daughter too" bs. Well in that case she was her sister and that should automatically make her respect the fact OP doesn't want someone else wearing the dress

Thank you for covering the pregnancy jar one, its made me wanna get a stutter jar for everytime someone tells me to “slow down” or “think about what im gonna say” because ive recently developed a VERY bad stutter and “slowing down” and “thinking about what im gonna say” isnt how it works, maybe now they will finally stop

Girl, taking your leg off sounds incredible funny! I would have cheered for her there! Am chronically ill, too. Also thank you for sharing this stories. My life feels easier now.

I have a slightly similar story as the first one. My husband was upset that I told him I wanted to pass on my grandmother's pearls to my baby cousin when she gets married. He wanted me to give them to his daughter (not biological) and by me saying no, he tried to use that to justify how I don't like her. That is far from true. I do like her, but those pearls were the only inheritance I received and I want them to stay in my family. I didn't like feeling that I had to justify my reason as to who I wanted to give my pearls to.

I'm a mom, stepmom, daughter, and stepdaughter, and from every single angle, that's a big fat no from me, dawg. Dress shopping for THIS DRESS was the last happy, cherished memory from her daughter's life, and no, you may not disregard her grief and try to gaslight her into compliance. Not happening. SD can go find a copy or similar to cut up.

It's crazy to me that the friends of the disabled lady didn't treat her like a obliterating the other guy, like there was nothing more perfect she could have done.

As a step daughter of two really wonderful, and very loving people, I would never assume they love me the same way they have loved the kids they actually had and raised. Especially not if one of their kids had died tragically, at a young age, right before their wedding. That's just audacious

Re: taking off the prosthetic leg - my best friend (rest her soul) used to do this to people all the time when they picked on her for using disabled facilities; she had a prosthetic leg from the age of 19 because she had to have it amputated (cancerous lump in her knee). My favourite time was when we were on a bus, and an old lady sitting behind us was not-so-quietly complaining about two 'healthy young people' using the disabled seats. My friend turned to me and said "my leg is itchy", then rolled up her leggings, pulled off her leg and handed it to me. I've never seen anyone shut up so quick in my life - this old lady went as white as her hair when she saw it. I suffer with osteoarthritis myself (broke my hip in a car accident) and often feel judged when I use accessible facilities. I look perfectly fine, but the pain is horrific and I wish people wouldn't be so quick to judge just because they can't see it.

The girl who took her fake leg off is a LEGEND!!!! I died😂😂😂 If I was there and part of her group I would’ve pissed myself laughing😂 she’s got a decent sense of humour and humiliated that guy in front of everyone, exposing him as the prick he is. A LEGEND!!!!!

The stepdaughter should’ve just got a custom dress to look like it instead and NEVER ASKED TO WEAR THE DAUGHTER’S DRESS IN THE FIRST PLACE. If she liked it that much to be that insensitive, she should’ve just had her own custom gown made. Then she’d get everything she wanted and wouldn’t have to alter HER STEPSISTER’S dress. I could never imagine asking one of my parents for anything that belongs to my siblings and they’re still alive!

As a young married woman who was infertile, I wish I had thought of that "when are you going to have a baby" jar. Might have made tiny dent in the infertility tests and treatments that we paid for? I also should have had a "when is the baby due?" jar when I was going through menopause and looked way younger than I am. Not having known about the jars, I just chose to burst into tears and say "I'm infertile!" or "I'm too old for that, and I was infertile when I was in my reproductive years thanks to hereditary birth defects, thank you for bringing up my emotional pain of being barren!"

A guy told me I needed to start thinking of marriage as I'm 30. He explained that for women in their 30 things become much more difficult. Started questioning him about why hasn't he gotten married yet. As he is still single. He asked me to stop as the conversation was making him uncomfortable. Only asked the same questions he did.

Pregnancy jar. Standing ovation. That is genius. I am doing this for my sister-in-law. She gets asked all the time and yet those that know them know how many times they have tried and it didn't work out for them. So to hear family ask when she brought herself to a gathering even though she was mourning has even upset me for her. This is genius.

I appreciate you saying "just because you cannot see someone's disability doesn't mean they don't have a disability". I have a disability you cannot see. Love your videos!! 🤗🤗❤️❤️

I come from a culture where a woman without a family is useless/nothing/sick. I have been described these way many times. I had so many miscarriages, last one almost killed me out of bleeding. Stay strong sisters, i know i am not alone ❤

I can completely relate to "Pregnancy Jar". You cannot believe how many people feel obligated to discuss your childbearing (or non-childbearing) choices/issues with you. The OP should keep the money she collects in the jar to provide the payers visual proof of how often she is cross examined over this very topic.

“I think that people need to stop assuming that because you don't see a disability it’s not there” THIS 10000000 times 👍🏼 As someone with an invisible, yet devastating disability, I want you to be our ally poster child!!!!! This happens all the time. There are people who don't understand disability and don't have a placard that patrol parking spots like they are our saviors. This will not get them into heaven! It only makes them look dumb. Most disabilities are invisible. It’s only the assistive devices that are visible. The fact the OP felt the need to describe her disability in detail for the post is an example of how we always feel like we have to justify. I LOVE that she waved her prosthetic like a badge of honor.

Rule no. 1 about asking people about their baby plans: DON'T You don't know if they're having infertility issues, disagreements between themselves as to when to have kids (or maybe one spouse doesn't want them at all) and so it's probably a sore spot. They know they're getting older!!! Don't remind them!!!!!!!

Cheers for the comment about invisible illness/disabilities! People need to stop assuming they can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there. I have fibromyalgia and suffer from chronic migraine. I have often been accused of faking my pain to get out of things, which isn't true. I take medication to manage my pain but it can only do so much. I really wish that everyone could understand that. I have always enjoyed your vids and your comment about people needing to stop assuming they can't see a disability doesn't mean it's not there. Thank you for this.

I can't understand how it must feel to loose a child. And then get told by your loved one, who has a child of a similar age, that you're being too harsh and should get over the last important possession of your child. The thing you both spend time one and have memories of together. A symbol of a last wish that never came true...

I literally SCREAMED "THANK YOU!" When that gal with the injury said, "I'm tired of people assuming that just because I'm young, I'm not in pain." As a young woman who also suffers from a back/spine/shoulder injury (I was 21 when the event occurred and 25 now) I COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY understand what she has to endure. The embarrassment and shame inflicted on young people with injuries is unbelievable. Thank you for sharing that one Charlotte, it's so wonderful to have some representation for someone in my predicament. God bless you and God bless that girl for her bravery and tenacity in that situation. Someone's got to stand up, and I love how she did it.

Charlotte screaming NO! In response to wedding dress!! My instant reaction too! I laughed so hard when we screamed it together!

Boah, this makes me tear. I would never give the dress out of my hands. On the time being with this discussion, I would rent a safe at the nearest bank and put the dress there. If they are pushing, I would tell husband that if he comes again with that that I will leave him. If they are pushy like this, they will do it again at other occassions //. The pregnancy jar is just so clever.

My friend has Crohn’s disease and had an ostomy bag and had most of her intestines removed so she had a handicap parking placard. Once I went to Walmart with her and she drove and we parked and when we got out of the car some older guy started yelling at her for parking there and saying she didn’t need to park there. Instead of arguing with the guy she lifted up her shirt to show all the scars from surgeries on her stomach and pulled her pants down enough to show her ostomy bag. The guy just said sorry and drove away real quick. Think before you speak. Just because you can’t see something wrong doesn’t mean there isn’t.

I remember the first story. I could never, EVER imagine the AUDACITY to ask for her deceased daughter's wedding dress.

I am a dialysis tech and when my son was 3 he came to work to see me and I was wheeling a patient out when he came in and I hugged him and introduced him to my pt a very nice older man with no kids. My son kept looking at my pts legs due to the prosthetics I bent down and was explaining why his legs were different to help my pt took his leg off and handed it to my son the look on his face was priceless and he bonded with that pt and to this day my son still helps people everywhere he goes.

Thank you so much for saying that people shouldn't assume that someone doesn't have a disability just because you can't see it. You are a queen, and I just subscribed.

LIVING for the disability one! I have Multiple Sclerosis, and even tho I "look" extremely healthy, sometimes something as simple as walking from my car to the store to the grocery shop is EXHAUSTING and painful. BELIEVE me if I could SHOW my condition I would. SO GOOD ON HER!! So sick of people assuming just because "we don't look sick" that we don't deserve to use specific parking.

The wedding dress thing makes me so mad! Can they not understand her grief and that she wants to preserve a momento of her daughter?! Also, why does she want *that* wedding dress so badly if she wants to change it? And the person who replied about the husband and step daughter not respecting her feelings and boundaries is SOOOO true

This is why used to have etiquette books! 📚 I'm so happy, and grateful that I was taught not to ask for things if those things haven't been offered, and not to ask to visit, but to wait to be invited. Honestly, I can't stand people who ask for money, or things and or who try to invite themselves to my home, or parties if they haven't been invited. So many entitled people in this world need to just bugger off!

As someone with invisable disabilities I 100% agree we need to stop judging people who look healthy if they need to use the priority seating or handicap spots etc. However, there are a lot of selfish people out there who are healthy and do not care if they take that away from someone who needs it. Which at the end of the day hurts us even more because thats why we have to prove we're disabled. I avoid using priority seats etc now because of that, I dont want to explain my illnesses to a stranger who may not believe me anyway.

I feel for the lady with the prosthetic leg. My mom was a double amputee with 2 prosthetic legs and people gave her grief all the time for taking handicap spots or seats because she was young. Handicap people include more than just old farts! You go girl!

When we first got married, straight away people kept asking that question, we were building a house & a business, decided we would try in 4 years, but it didn't stop. After hundreds of that same question I decided to say "oh we just found out we can't have children", it shut them up & we divorced without having kids, so they must have thought it was true. Got married again & had 4

One thing I've realised about people with disabilities being an "a-hole" is that it comes from a place of deep exasperation. Whether they're actually an a-hole in their everyday lives or not, if they happen to behave like a jerk when they're asked/said something regarding their disability, it's because they've heard the same questions/suspicions countless times before & they're genuinely just tired of engaging in such discussions anymore.

Love the pregnancy jar. I'm 19 and luckily people still just ask about a couple, I never had one and I'm not actually looking for one. My family knows there's two main reasons why I wouldn't have a child: 1- I don't like children, I can take care of them and enjoy with them but I just like them if they are good kids and for a few hours, more and I start to get really irritated. 2- I'm lesbian, and unless I failed Biology, I'm pretty sure you can't get pregnant by having lesbian sx, there's other ways of course but if I ever have the intention to have a child it's probably going to be adopted or a robot. That's why when they ask about my future they go directly to studies and work, not couple and children bc for years I showed how angry it make me every time they asked and my response was always the same "I hate children" with a very disgusted face and a disdain in my voice so they would have it clear. Another reason that only my friends know is that I have a lot of sh1t in my mind, a lot of trauma from the past, some of them bc of my family and my own family project their traumas on us, the youngest, so at the end I just don't want another traumatized child in this damn family, I have my own problems and I don't want them to be theirs. Nowadays having children is very expensive and stressful, with my friend's we all agree that having kids is a 30-35 years old project, once you already had your life, you healed a lot of scars, you have the money, the time, not when you are 20, still deciding which career or which work would be better and living with your parents. Also having an adult life, alone, is expensive, every year it gets more impossible to live whiteout your parents, couple or roommates, you just can't live alone bc it's so expensive and it gives you so little in exchange that it's not worth it.

For the pregnancy jar one, the person asking could say, "what are you gonna do with the money?" And the couple can say, "for the baby y'all want us to have so badly."

I absolutely love the lady in the car accident. ABSOLUTELY NOT THE A HOLE. Being a young disabled lady I've been in a similar situation. She handled it perfectly. I would have done the same. 👏👏👏 it sucks having 2 prove that u have an illness. It's hard enough getting a blue badge never mind dealing w a-holes making u feel bad about it.

I cannot imagine greater pain than when a parent loses a child. No one has to right to tell a grieving parent what is the right way to grieve. That dress clearly meant a lot to that poor woman, why would they insist on it? Ugh, this made me so mad.

She should have the dress stored somewhere else and inform them it’s gone… so there’s no dress to pressure her about.

I'm about to do the pregnancy jar thing! I had cancer in my baby oven and had to get a hysterectomy. I still get asked when my husband and I will have kids, and EVERYONE KNOWS I had cancer and can't! I had 8 miscarriages before we found out the cause of them and am so over the thought of having kids especially since we will never be able to afford it and I don't want to be a mother anymore from the sheer trauma of all of it. Pregnancy Jar is my new weapon of choice!

For the artificial leg story…I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at the age of 18. This has happened to me countless times. Public shaming in the correct circumstances is a powerful deterrent to stupid behavior. I’m literally standing and clapping for OP.

Scenario 2: I knew of a young woman when I lived in Boston that developed bone cancer (only early 20's). She was at a doctor's appt. feeling very ill but amazingly went alone and was stoic. Same thing. Some guy was giving her crap for parking in handicapped parking. She pulled off her WIG! He was horrified. People were horrified. Well, Guess What? Things aren't always as they appear to be. I don't know how she made out because I moved months later but BLESS HER and her courage. I admire people's strength. They are special. They are extraordinary. ♥♥♥

You know what I hate? (Last story) I hate people who assume/think that thier kids (infertility or not) actually owe them grandkids. I knew before I found out I was infertile that I wouldn't be giving my parents any grandkids. Nobody needs to have to deal with them as grandparents, being thier kid is bad enough. My brother isn't planning on having kids either, for the same reasons.

Story one,: just... no! You never ask something like that. Story two: Queen! Absolute queen! My disability is visible, but I know so many who get attacked over theirs. It is disgusting. Story three: whether they don't want kids, can't have kids, or it just hasn't happened... our society needs to change the expectation. Unorthodox way to handle it, but it is their choice to ask and actually pay.

I got asked a lot in my 30s when I was going to have kids. I had lost 4 pregnancies. Just think before you ask. It can be sensitive and really sad for some people. Sometimes I would feel hurt/mad and want to lash out with, “as soon as they stop dying inside me,” but I realize people usually have good intentions when they ask. They didn’t want to hurt me. We have a healthy 4-month-old now and we are over the moon in love.

The way I got my mom to stop asking “when am I going to become a grandmother?”: I told her on April 1st I was expecting. She got all excited and then I said “April Fool’s.” She stopped asking after that. (We ended up having two sons, but on OUR timetable. We had been married five years and were in our mid-30s before we got pregnant.)

Such a queen for always spilling the tea while being honest about people’s stories on Reddit, and you always got to have that judge Judy once in a while.

The mother was just not ready for giving the dress. Had this happened 10 years after her daughter passing maybe just maybe if asked nicely, it would have been a nice tribute. But the lack of empathy is appalling

I had exactly the same problem as the girl with the amputation. I’m disabled as is my daughter. I parked in a disabled spot (as they’re called in the UK). A elderly woman walked over to me & said that we we (myself and my daughter) was too young, to be needing a disabled space and we needed to move, so that an elderly person could park there. I got out of my car, got my daughter’s wheelchair out & my crutches, she just stood there, stuttering and not knowing what to say! We went into the shopping centre and I swear we didn’t try to, but we kept seeing her, in various shops, she blushed and turned away, every time we saw her. I’d love to say that, that was a one off event, but sadly variations of it, happened quite frequently sadly!

I once went with my SIL who had MS to Target. She had the handicap sticker. She parked in the handicap spot and was walking around to the back of her SUV (no cane, but she walked stiffly). We were getting her scooter out of the back of her SUV when someone came up and started to chastise her for taking the space and then saw the scooter. He actually apologized and walked on. She said she deals with that a lot. There was a lot of no eye contact in the store when he'd run into us. He was the AH. On another occasion with a friend, whose son has CP and is in a wheelchair and so they have a handicap sticker, she parked in the handicap spot in front of the store, her son was not with us. I told her this was not right and she needed to move the van as I was not comfortable with it. She said she does it all the time, I said 'not with me'. To her credit she moved to a more appropriate parking spot.

My 19 year old son died 7 years ago and I can not believe how her husband and SD are acting. She is definitely not the a hole. I am disabled and have bren since I was 31 from an accident. I have had older people scream at me when I park with my placard saying I borrowed it. I would finally flash my medicare card and ask if people my age usually had that. Once I ended up in a wheelchair the BS stopped. It is infuriating people do that!!

About a year after I got married my moms bestie kept asking when I was gonna have a baby, my husband and I weren’t quite ready yet, but she wouldn’t stop. I finally pulled her aside and whispered conspiratorially “ I don’t want my mom to know I’m having sex yet, so no babies yet”. She never asked again!

The girl who showed her leg: NTA!!!! My partner’s father lost his leg almost exactly a year ago today. The amount of grief and pain he and his family have been through could never compare to him sitting down and showing someone his stump and prosthetic to make them feel bad for assuming the ability of others. The woman who caused his accident (basically tore his leg off with her car; he was riding his motorcycle) literally never suffered any consequences, despite driving with a suspended license, 3 young and unrestrained children in the car, a long list of crimes (many violent), as well as these same crimes I mentioned in that list multiple times. He’s the one that’s suffered for someone else’s.. well, basically, bad character, and therefore, bad decisions. Same with OP. I’m sure it was beyond a nightmare for her at first and for a long time. The girl’s group that felt awkward-maybe you’re just uncomfortable with her disability. She’s been through so much more than you could imagine, so… screw off. Let her stand up for herself. She wasn’t able to for a while 😉 but fr though. She’s NOT disgusting, and she’s NOT the a-hole

I have two preschool age sons with autism. If you didn’t know them you wouldn’t know. There are no visible markers that they have this disorder. Because they are considered run risks and can put themselves in danger’s way we were provided a handicapped placard. Other than once, I have not used it and often regret not using it but it’s happened before where I was berated for parking in a handicapped spot. What I wouldn’t give to be able present people with a visual of their needs. People can be cruel and ignorant and I think what OP#2 did was not only brave but amazing. A wonderful way to reveal an otherwise invisible disability. Bravo!

My husband and I were asked why we aren’t having kids or adopting. I guess that’s progress for LGBTQ+ couples but it still was annoying. I ended up asking people why they had kids. Much to their own surprise they didn’t have an answer or gave one that was very self-serving. It’s fine to ask if a couple wants kids but once you hear ‘no’ that’s where it stops.

It's grinds my gears when ppl assume you don't have illness or pain because you are young. I constantly get "but you are too young to have arthritis...you are lying" 🙄. I think the young lady was amazing and brave for standing up to the parking space bully.

Charlotte, exactly, if the step daughter had said, “ I want to honor my half sister and wear her bridal dress just as it is with no changes at my wedding, and if you aren’t comfortable with it then I’ll never mention it again”. Not the a-hole!!!! Thanks!!!!

In my twenty plus years of marriage, I have been asked that question a hundred thousand million times. At the beginning of my marriage, it was hurtful. But as I grew in my understanding of the situation, I realized people ask out of genuine curiosity, and there is nothing wrong with that. I realized they were not trying to hurt my feelings. I was in control of my feelings, and it didn't have to hurt. So I gave a simple explanation. "We tried, and it didn't work."

As someone who used to be asked constantly if we are having another baby I totally love the "swear jar" idea lol seriously my son is turning nine and I still get asked every once in a while!

The guy saying someone is “too young” to have a disability is just insulting and stupid. I’d say ignorant, but claiming someone is too young to be disabled is just stupidity. There are people who are BORN deaf and blind, and with missing limbs, among other disabilities. My sister was born with a literal hole in her hip, something that she had no control over and has been dealing with her entire life. There’s no age limit on either end for disabilities.

I am definitely 100% stealing the idea of the "Pregnancy" jar lady, that's absolutely brilliant! 😎 I will be turning it into a WEDDING jar for myself since I'm almost in my mid-30s and unmarried (Oh my god! I know right??!! 😱🤪🤣). To all my Indian family members, relatives and other intrusive people who have no sense of personal boundary, ready your pockets, HERE I COME!! 😂

My heart goes out to the Mom in Scenario 1. All the love. I lost my only daughter (she has 3 brothers) at age 21, two months before her wedding. Even years later, I can't imagine anything worse. I have also remained close to her fiance. I consider him one of my boys, and would have discussed anything around her dress with him. One of my sons got engaged to his long-time girlfriend only a few months after losing my daughter. His girlfriend/fiancee asked me to help her plan the wedding. Having spent a year helping my daughter plan her wedding as a single mom, I knew prices, where to get the best deals, what we could easily do ourselves, etc. I wanted to help her. I loved her, and of course loved my son. But she was nothing like my daughter, or me. Her tastes were very different, her personality was different, and it was very painful and difficult to go through any of that with her, when I didn't get to see my own daughter walk down the aisle. I was afraid she would ask for her dress the entire time. I knew she'd have to alter it, and I kept going through whether I could do that. They ended up postponing the wedding, somewhat to my relief. Although I also felt a lot of guilt. I wanted them to have a beautiful, happy wedding. I felt awful for feeling so terrible. (I did not tell them, of course). Nothing compares to losing a child. Someone here mentioned a younger sister wearing the dress in a similar situation. I have since remarried and have a stepdaughter. I could not let her wear my daughter's dress. It is one of the last pieces of her that I have, something we spent hours looking for together. If I had a younger daughter, who felt similar grief to mine, that might be a different situation, and something we could consider. But I don't. I'm so sorry for the stress from your husband and stepdaughter. I've learned that unfortunately, no one understands your personal grief, and no one can begin to grasp it who hasn't been through it. You are NOT the AH. Hold your ground, and keep your daughter's memory close. It doesn't mean you don't love anyone else, in their own way. They should love you too, and try to have some empathy. Even if she didn't have to alter the dress in any way (which she intends to), only a parent who has lost a child knows what would be lost - the scent of your child on an article of clothing they were the last ones to wear, and on a dress she loved and looked forward to looking her most beautiful in on a day she had dreamed about for her whole life. Perhaps she left a precious stray strand of hair on it. Or an almost imperceptible fingerprint. These things are worth more than gold, and would be sacrificed to someone who couldn't begin to understand.

I love watching you Charlotte. I have no family or friends and watching your vids makes me feel like joking around with a friend.

I'm so fed up of people treating young people with invisible disabilities like they don't exist. The amount of times people have been rude to me for parking in a disabled spot (even though I had a valid disability card). The amount of times I've been shouted at for "walking too slow" at crossings or in shopping aisles. I was even once pressured by the instructor to jump off a horse during a trip FOR DISABLED PEOPLE to the local stables when everyone else was allowed to use a block to get down. My legs couldn't take it, I fell to the floor and was in pain for the next 3 days. My health has improved a lot since those days, but I'll never forget the way people treat you differently.

There is always the possebility you ask a person about children, who lost their pregnancy the day before. Its quite common, and if you don't like rubbing salt in someone elses wounds, just don't ask

That last one I feel soo hard! My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 3 years and I've been asked way too many times (for only being 22) "are you pregnant yet" "when are yall having kids" it's exhausting and we aren't even married (something I prefer personally) and live in a no so good neighborhood! Why would I have kids at this sage in my life?! 😅 just very tiring all the way around

I'm 22 and have a handicap placard in Canada, I've gotten a lot of looks from people when I'm sitting in my car before I get out because I look young. Then when I grab my forearm crutches, people look so unnerved and agitated like they're mad that I proved their judgemental thoughts wrong (aka, that I am disabled even though I'm young).

Charlotte's sheer joy about a bottle of flower soap is adorable! Now i NEED some!🤣🤣🤣

Story one: Incredibly sad and emotional. Charlotte: "I'm going to lighten the mode here..." Story two: Incredibly sad and emotional. Classic Charlotte! Story three: It's no one's business and she's totally in the right for embarrassing people who ask. Hopefully people will learn to mind their own business but probably not.

I made a "wedding jar" joke when we were getting married. We got engaged right before COVID, and opted to put off the ceremony until it was safe for my spouse's grandmother to travel. Every time someone asked (like there wasn't a pandemic!) I joked that I'm putting five dollars in a jar, and if I get enough saved to just elope we're doing that. We ended up having a very nice, very small wedding once everyone could be well-vaccinated (including the kids!) and had a lovely time.

These are great! I'm only on my second story and am in love with op!!! I've been disabled since I was 24 and have dealt with older disabled people and parking. I show them my super deformed hands and tell them my feet are worse, if they need proof... I've done that twice and both times been with someone who supported me. I just wish her group was supportive and laughed it all away with her. 😢