What brandon was talking about was correct in definition but he used the wrong term. They arent first responders they are "mandatory reporters" similar to therapists.

not applying sunscreen on little children is NONSENSEEEE

I definitely read the last story as more malicious, I mean seriously they know what they are doing. Making the kids sit separately in the sun until they burn?!? And then doubling down??? Unhinged

2nd story...sharing someone's personal information without permission has LITERALLY gotten people killed. I also have a feeling that if it was a male teacher outing a single mother of 3 there would've been a very different response. She can handle a couple of curse words for her complete stupidity 🙄

The dad in the second story is not even close to being TA. She potentially endangered his children and he had every right to tell her how he felt about it.

That second teacher is WAY out of line for sharing children's names and parent's phone numbers. That is crossing a major line. Being a young teacher isn't an excuse - coming from a young teacher.

I hate how common the last story is. My daughters are multi-racial. Her first year at school, a staff member at school (not her teacher) told her she ‘Didn’t need sunscreen because she was a little brown girl.’ Excuse me, what?

For the second story, I think the father's comment about her not mattering in a few months might mean school will be out and Mrs F won't be the kid's teacher any more.

As a childcare provider and a former daycare worker in the Midwest, the last story was WILD to me. I would’ve been a teacher telling that mom to call the news and make a TikTok and Facebook reel and all the things with my name co-signing because hell to the no.

Its super racist and THEN the people are treating mom like she is crazy when this is so glaringly obviously racist

When I worked at a daycare, we had a chart next to a thermometer on the window, and if the temperature was that a certain degrees the chart will tell you how long the children could stay outside and if it was over a certain temperature, we couldn’t even take the kids outside. Also, our play areas had shade screens, so the kids could hang out in the shade when needed.

okay, 2nd story is 1000000% illegal. And the reporter should have known that. I'm currently in college as a communications major (specifically journalism). One of the first things we talked about in my Intro to Comm course was about private information and privacy laws. A journalist is supposed to get information like this from an official source, such as the Communications Coordinator at the school. The teacher is not only in hot water for giving out the info, but the reporter is in trouble as well for asking for the information to begin with.

SMBC doesn’t mean men don’t matter. It could be they are aesexual or uninteresting in a partner. Intentionally going into single parenthood is a lot better than accidentally doing it. You can build your community and you aren’t carrying your hurt about a failed relationship. Granted if you can have a successful two parent household is preferable, but in this world unrealistic as over 50% of marriages end in divorce and not all parents coparent well or at all.

“youʼre not the asshole, youʼre a criminal” hahaha

Nah they dead wrong in the daycare story and show their ignorance. Yes we have melanin BUT we still have skin. We are humans and they don't see it that just cuz our skin is brown doesn't mean we are invincible. Def NTA they are segregating the kids based on skin even if they don't see it that way

the one guy, I know no ones names, saying first responders instead of mandatory reporters had me giggling a little. I'm imagining a teacher showing up to save a burning house.

The sunscreen one is CRAZY. That lady is on a serious power trip.

Mandatory reporting is for minors in schools. Not her sharing his personal information, which was inappropriate and out of line. He didn’t need to curse her out, but I probably would have too if someone came at me sideways. She should have asked him before giving out his information… but he’s only a little bit of an asshole. Other mandatory reports are priests, daycare providers, and therapists.

Holy shit that 3rd story is so awful. Fuck man, the fact that they doubled down on their stance so many times. They should be out of business. Blast that shit to the news! I know when I taught preschool we were required by law to provide sunscreen to ALL children. And they couldn't spend more than like 15 minutes in direct sunlight in the heat.

In 2nd story, his ending line was saying she wouldn't matter in a few months is probably because the school year is ending soon.

First story No, you're not the AH, but you're going to lose your daycare provider.

Ive taught in several daycares and never would i deny a parent their child to leave because they didnt pick up all their mess or tell the parent off like that. The parents and kids are the reason you have a job and if you take out your frustration from working w kids all day on them or their parents then you shouldnt be in the profession.

Yooo that last story had me seeing red! That is so disrespectful, glad they got fired.

First Story: NTA. Parent had made it clear from previous communication that she expected the child to be ready to go as soon as she arrived and she had asked that the child be kept from engaging in activities that might take extra time to clean up, aware that the teacher required students to clean up prior to leaving . The teacher is TA for not honoring the parents very reasonable request. As for "poor planning," yes parent was running a little late, but she was also under the assumption that her child would be ready to go instead of cleaning up a mess that the teacher should not have allowed the child to make in the first place. Second Story: NTA. At all. She did not have the right to release that kind of information. Third Story: NTA. Even if the teacher genuinely thought that POCs couldn't get sunburnt, once the child began to peel and show signs of skin damage, teacher should have immediately corrected her actions. Chances are the other black children are also experiencing similar symptoms and going public about the situation will not only protect your child but others as well. Do your worst.

It’s worth noting that a lot of the concerning statistics about kids who come from single parent households are directly correlated with poverty and other connected issues. Typically people who go through the process of surrogacy or adoption or IVF, etc. to be a single parent have significantly more resources than people who become single parents not by their own choice. There needs to be more research into the developmental trajectory of children from SMBC and SFBC households, because our current data on single parent households is not representative of that group. It’s very complex and dependent on resources and access to resources, not necessarily an inherent shortcoming of single parents.

My dads a single dad but it wasn’t on purpose my mom just managed to escape before he could 😭

Brandon is so stoned in this episode idc. It’s a mandatory reporter not a first responder 😂

Third story! She needs to drop her friends cause wtf! And she needs to call the authorities that’s child neglect/abuse! Plus racist!!!!

For the first story I used to be a daycare teacher and let me tell you we would teach clean up before nap time and then when the parents came I ROCKETED their child back to them begone crotch goblin the faster they leave the faster my day is over 😭 why prolong that when you can teach the same standard at other parts of the day and have a small clean up when all the kids are gone and there’s no potential for them to mess up the cleaning process

just because you dont burn doesn’t mean that you arent at risk for melanoma by staying out in the sun for hours on end with no uv protection. my nana is a white woman who could sit out in the sun for hours and just get tan but shes still had spots on her face from not properly protecting her skin. the fact that they could treat any child like that let alone multiple they need a new profession.

5:39 I love the idea that blowing off an entire household’s plans and errands for a day in order to watch their kid do someone else’s job - that’ll teach them responsibility

Undermining what AUTHORITY exactly? Controlling a childs life because the bricks haven't been put away? Sucks to suck that your power trip doesn't exist... Time to report her for being drunk on power that has zero hold over OP's family

I think your comments about the second story regarding the "Men/Women Don't Matter" is ridiculous. I've seen a lot of couples who marry for children and also saw a lot break up because they can't have that because they either found out that the other party is infertile or just didnt want to have kids. What I'm trying to say here is that, marriage comes with stress and there are people who does wants to have kids but not have a marriage partner that will probably stress you out. Of course there are ideal couples out there that makes it seem like marriage is not a bad thing but seriously, just how many good people are out there right now? There are a lot of people who leaves their family for several reasons: mistresses, not wanting to become a parent anymore, missing their "free lifestyle" or feeling trapped in their marriage. Would you, as a person who solely just wants to have a child, want to take a risk and marry someone who might end up stressing you for a lifetime or if we talk about extreme scenarios, killing you because they don't want you anymore. For me, if I were to have the financial means to bring up and care for a child. I would definitely choose what the OP did. Become a single parent to a child. There's nothing wrong with becoming a single parent by choice. In fact, I think they're awesome for owning up to such a huge responsibility! As long as you can raise him in a healthy environment, provide him his needs and give him the love and care he deserves, I think it's okay to raise a child on your own. I know for sure that I would not want him to have another parent who might end up hurting him or abusing him.

My middle school has had multiple teachers quit. My sophomore year homeroom teacher was an old teacher from the middle school who had quit working at the middle school after being bullied out by the students

I went to a multicultural school where every kid was provided sunscreen. 2 of 3 Aussies get skin cancer and slowly people are taking it more seriously. That daycare acted insane, those poor babies.

I'm 8 months late to the party, but I make a living as a journalist and the proper practice in that situation would be that once you find out that your mutual friend knows someone who would be a good source for your story (in this case, the man who sought out surrogacy to have three kids), you tell your friend to pass YOUR information on to the source and tell them about the opportunity for an article, if they are interested. While the topic is interesting, it should entirely be up to the source to make an informed decision on whether or not they want to share their story instead of being ambushed with it.

For me in the 1st story Why is the teacher letting the kids do a big projects when parents are coming to pick them up. Let them color on paper or read and make it easier for the parents

❤ thank you---from a middle school teacher

Sunscreen story made me want to punch my screen... on top of everything since they are worried about sunburn, and they are in the south im assuming its hot af. So even if they truly believed the children couldnt get sunburn thats still no excuse for not letting them come be in the shade and cool down. She needs to get her daughter out of that daycare asap and i hope she does go to the news and warn the other parents of whats going on. They are gaslighting tf out of her , shes not blowing it out of proportion, not even close.

3:14 NTA, but your daycare teacher sure is. If we're running late for an appointment, we have to hurry up and get out of here! Do not hold us up!

For the second story he is talking about Mandated Reporting.

They’re mandated reporters for the second story 😂

For the last story ive heard that all out during my life some people genuinely thinking we cant get sunburned its idiotic if you have exposed skin you can be sunburned end of story

Im curious if the surrogates are involved in some form in their children's lives in this scenario?

As a mum, the thirds story makes me so mad! I would have pulled her out straight away! Wtf

Having had been in that daycare teacher position many times, you still need to teach your kids to clean up.Putting away her part isn’t the end of the world. Even if you’re in a rush, putting away 5 things isn’t a long wait. Also if the care giver had to text the parent, the tone of telling her no may have been aggressive. No one is the A hole but someone is being a jerk.

The daycare story: if poc take longer time to sunburn and the kid can home PEELING jus imagine how long they had that poor baby in direct sunlight. Then to go as far as taking the sunscreen provided by mom. Shit man I'd go to prison 😂

Hey, I just came across this channel and found the conversation very interesting. But I'm sorry I just have to point this out 😂. For the first two stories I was staring at the guy all the way to right's microphone bc it looked like it was floating in the air without being attached to anything. I realized afterwards that it was connected to something behind the couch 🤣 I cannot believe how slow and confused I was looking at that and listening to the stories! I even started to think the microphone was part of a green screen background. smh

First Responders= Mandatory reporters

trauma dump: I have a scar IN my eyebrow because of my 5th grade teach. I think it was 50/50 accidentally on purpose 😹 she yanked out the charging cord to the laptop station that held all the laptops, hitting my in my eyebrow. I played it off cool like I wasn’t shoving my face in my book bag to cry. I saw something above my eye, touched it, and it was blood. the scar is still obvious to this day. she bribed me w a candy bar. ILL NEVER FORGET YOU MISS WIEBER

Story 2: she for sure violated FERPA. You cannot share that level of info with anyone. I’m a first year teacher and I know that. 🤦🏻‍♀️

You’re talking about mandatory reporters - anyone who has professional contact with children is a mandated reporter, meaning you can face prison time for not reporting child abuse when you suspect it in a child you have professional contact with. I’ve had to call CPS as a mandated reporter and it’s the worst - especially when they call you back saying “your report is unfounded but they have several cases open against them. Have a nice day” and then the mom comes to scream at your boss for the report …. And then removes her child from your program… Being a mandated reporter has nothing to do with media release, except where it concerns suspected child abuse. You can’t share that info with anyone but people involved in the reporting process/your colleagues who have contact with the children. Schools can still share photos and school info, but basically doxxing a family to the media does certainly violate some laws - that’s a government employee handing out the private info of a child to a member of the public - and that info was handed out without consent and based on the demographics of the family (family status is a protected class). Totally illegal.

18:33 I know that was probably a pretty unpopular take but honestly Sam makes a ton of sense there. We hear so much from kids who grow up in single parent homes as adults feeling like they missed something. No matter how good or bad their childhood is. Two parents are definitely meaningful (I say two parents because I think a lgbtq couple is just as valid and capable as a two parent straight household)

Whoa Cartman runs a day care now respect my Authorita

It’s called mandated reporters they have to let the police know if anything happens like child abuse and like mental Illnesses

Another take on the first story: she has to get that kid ready to leave early EVERY time. Probably she is not cleaning with the other kids regularly anyway. Also, depending on how it was delivered, if the parent told off the babysitter IN FRONT of the kids, that could mean hell from them the rest of the week. I feel like I need more info, sometimes parents are hard on childcare workers; they feel like their kid is always the exeption.

Blast that last story everywhere. Black people can absolutely get skin cancer.

For the first story, if it’s important for the child’s development for them to learn to consistently do something then I can see her point but at the same time that means both people should’ve factored in time management. The mother should be able to take her child him regardless of what’s left to finish for the day. Like they said it’s only one day it’s not a pattern. Even as adults you should let the person leave because it. Benefits the team overall. Especially for emergencies or appointments. It shows who would be reliable. They may not be able to finish the work this week but maybe the next project you have their full attention maybe they do more work the next time to make it up maybe they assist other teammates. It gives space and opportunity to fulfill future commitments without pressure.

TLDR: Parent of Non-Cleaning Dayschool Student - not AH * Teacher Giving Parent Info to Reporter - not AH, kinda * Parent Giving Bad Yelp Review Calling 'em Racist - not AH, and worthy of rallying behind * I wouldn't even teach adults. Humans are incredibly diappointing, except in small snippets, and never in the classroom setting was I ever inspired the way I was by some of the influencers I find in Social Media and books/movies/tv that I've read/watched myself. Telling the Dayschool Teacher that the Daughter won't be cleaning up - not an AH. Preschool/Dayschool is incredibly expensive, and it's not like this is a daily occurrence [Brenden making excellent points on this]. Not that 'paying' makes it okay, but yeah, it's typically a private service, not a public one, and you gotta let it go as a teacher (and yes, I'd be more in support if this was an unpaid/low-paid family member getting upset). Again, I will admit that we're not hearing both sides of the sitch, but still... you're being paid for this service, please get over it. I think giving out anyone's private info is incredibly invasive, especially as a teacher, unless that person is posing a danger to other persons or themselves. However, they don't have a right to speak to the public without express content. Surrogacy is incredibly private, and no body should have the right. However, OP is now putting his personal info online (regardless of reddit anonymity) and seriously, stop seeking sympathy and don't curse out someone (though I do get the outrage). However, not initially an AH based on the premise, but an AH on aggro response (like that low-key threat even if it's with just the assumption of changing faculty.) [Also, it's easier to just say SPBC (Single Parents By Choice.) 'cause it's more inclusive.] Also, I think raising any child requires a village, and am pro- every family dynamic that leads to a happy/(physically and mentally)healthy child. Bad Yelp Review - This made me throw up, physically. Who in the world lets children (regardless of their melanin) sit in the sun to boil? Especially after the attempt to educate? Holy smokes, I'm so upset about this. No one deserves to be radiated, and I hope this parent removes their children from this childcare institution (or at least stops giving 'em money, 'cause this $hi+ is ridiculous). [Again, Brenden hits alotta points by speaking to the sunscreen and angst that I feel about this] Also, apply suncreen and take supplements if you wanna maintain the elasticity your beautiful skin (no matter your melanin, 'cause even indoor lighting and lighting from screen monitors can have an affect. Please google)

30:53 don't just write a review sue the school

Insane the to hear the first comment. 'Using the f... language' bla bla bla. Seriously, everyone does use tge f word all the time. What's this 'teacher' did, in my country should be in the court room. I'd personally do the same. Beside, she's being gossiping about the parents, that's a breach of sensitive data, and is a lack of morals. If raising a child as single parent was a issue, half of the humans out there at least would be a fruit of this issue. Ate least being a solo patent by choice, those kids won't go through parental alienation or even worse experiences when there are 2 parents that don't get along and are constantly fighting over silly stuff.

1st story, I think mom is the AH. Why not jump in and help clean? Daycare workers are over worked and underpaid- Sasha could be more lenient, maybe all adults help clean up so she could get her daughter out, but I think mom could’ve handled it better.

Why are all of the sunscreen story's comments downvoted so low? There's one with over 100 likes down voted under something with less than 20! 🤬

This is the episode with the worse stories ever... education system has failed huge with society.

7:16 she’s 100% lying

2nd story: I’ve heard that before and was firmly on OP’s side, but hearing it again I feel like how that dude handle the situation wasn’t mature at all. Too much menacing undertones throughout it all. I’m on VP’s side that OP was out of line but the teacher was way more out of line.

I think Sam was getting strangely defensive about single mothers by choice. I think in most situations the idea behind doing that isn’t at all to do with the thought that men don’t matter. If you are someone who is having trouble finding a partner who you feel confident that you can be with long term and raise children with, you shouldn’t be locked out of being able to have children. Like if you’re unlucky and can’t find the right someone to be with or if everyone you’ve dated has been a bad person and you’re getting to the age where having children is more difficult, you should be allowed to still have that life experience even if you can’t find the right partner to do it with. Even if it’s not a biological clock thing, there are many reasons someone might want to be a single mother (or just a single parent in general) like if you’ve had really negative experiences in dating that’s turned you off to the whole thing, or if you’re someone who is aromantic and you don’t want a partner but you still want kids. And in a sense, sometimes men don’t matter in certain relationships. Having a positive father figure is always a good thing, but if you were to be raised by two sisters, or a lesbian couple, a father may not be necessary, just like a kid being raised by brothers or a gay couple wouldn’t need a mother. And you can find positive male and female influences in other relatives or community members like teachers and coaches. The most important factor is having a support system that can help raise a child rather than having just a single person having to take care of children and themself all alone, which Sam is correct about. Community is important. But yeah I just wanted to mention how someone deciding to be a single mother isn’t about men.

Bro in the middle is tarded. The other two are cool though.

For the sunscreen story, when I was younger I didn’t understand melanin at all, and I had friends that didn’t wear sunscreen because they didn’t burn and as a kid I just assumed it was every black person. But as I grew older I know white people who also don’t believe they burn and it is a preference to their body. Part of me is like it’s bad enough to make a mistake like this. Than for the person with the actual Melanin in their skin not only say I do burn but have to like provide some articles as proof. It’s not a mistake it’s not ignorance it’s pure racism. And I feel like as the parent I would feel gaslit. I have never in my life believed as a white person that I know more about what it means to be black than a black person. And to me that side of racist still baffles me. Absolutely go to the news, to protect any kid going to that organization. Sunburns aren’t the only issue, kids that young could also get sunstroke, and dehydrated etc