I tend to think that people that go into a relationship to relationship to relationship are trying find that perfect person and that they are desperate.
@drevolan Жыл бұрын
All of these rebound videos assume they start dating a stranger. But what if they rebounded to a close friend of theirs? Is it still a rebound?
@AlexisFriedlander Жыл бұрын
In that case no I don't consider them as rebounds. Then dating a friend might not be successful but it's a totally different situation.
@drevolan Жыл бұрын
@@AlexisFriedlander well, this just makes me sad. The guy is a complete loser , but she's somehow into him :/
@dmb3428 Жыл бұрын
5-1/2 year relationship, we were close and on the way to marriage...covid kinda messed up our plans and put them on hold, early 2023 was stressful and she took it personal...I tried to explain to her my job was getting to me and I didnt want to discuss it with her. She decided over several months to finally leave in may 2023, she broke down several times stating she didnt want to leave. I think she set herself up for a rebound which finally allowed her to make the decision to leave, we went out after trying to work on things but I didnt see us making progress...ive gone no contact off and on...a week at a time, then i give in to say hello or see hows she's doing. She deleted me on fb but didnt block me, she still has photos of us on her page as do I . She has no idea that I know about the rebound and she has not admitted it to me, I suspect its a person that is long distance and not in our area. I hope she comes around and remembers the good times, I am giving myself 6 months to see what happens.
@jeremiahdiaz243610 ай бұрын
Update
@giancarlomatute81252 ай бұрын
It’s not a smile on my face when I was the rebound…
@Mari-wc6jo4 ай бұрын
He left and was married to the rebound in 4 months. We were together for 8 years. Huh!
@t.lovings3 ай бұрын
I was with my ex husband for 8 years and he jumped into a relationship within’ a month of us being separate. Now they’re “engaged” 🤯😵💫
@Oviraptor10 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Would these things apply if your ex started dating this person very shortly before the breakup and then they came out about it and then broke up?
@AlexisFriedlander Жыл бұрын
No that's called monkey branching and in that case you re in trouble because they did the comparison phase while together
@Oviraptor10 Жыл бұрын
@@AlexisFriedlander Makes sense and I do understand why they chose the other person after a period of inner work. Is there still a chance to get them back after some time though if I play it right? Thank you for your reply!
@flat4wankel Жыл бұрын
@@Oviraptor10 did she ever reach? My ex claim she got with him after we broke up but im sure she was already fuckin him while being withbme
@sleon2528 Жыл бұрын
I wished her well and said “we shouldn’t talk for a while please respect my decision”. She said thank you and “I wish you happiness health and love.” I didn’t know what else to say did I do the wrong thing?
@sleon2528 Жыл бұрын
current day 11 of no contact
@remyd1984 Жыл бұрын
What happened mate?
@dillonshuffle Жыл бұрын
If I run into her and her new bf at the gym is that still considered ‘obstructing’? I have taken the quiz and it is a good chance
@1226summer Жыл бұрын
My ex jumped into a rebound very shortly after breakup cause we became long distance, I couldn’t fly back and he couldn’t come, but now the rebound has ended, he’s single again seeing other people. We have been talking very often since he’s single, I will fly to see him next week, we are both excited, but try to have 0 expectation.
@thomaswilliams801 Жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Am on a no contact since April and now I found out that my ex girlfriend is on the same dating site as me,what should I do?
@AlexisFriedlander Жыл бұрын
Not stay no contact for that long... At the end of the day you are too on the same dating site!
@hannahw90hw Жыл бұрын
My ex rebounded and blocked me. Its been almost 5 months NC at all. Do i still have hope?
@92sport33 Жыл бұрын
Same for me, 6 months since break up, not heard anything from her in last 3 months , no social media presence for either of us
@kr642 Жыл бұрын
How long were you together? Five months is a long time but if your relationship was very long it might still be ok. I am no expert though.
@hannahw90hw Жыл бұрын
@@kr642 over 2.5 years, almost 3. And weve been friends since we were kids
@dillonshuffle Жыл бұрын
My ex and I dated for 2yrs she broke up with me in February 2022 she jumped into a new relationship right away. I went no contact. 2-3 months jnto NC she randomly viewed my SC stories then blocked me (she doesn’t have social media, only SC) at 6 months of NC she reached out. We both happened to be drunk and it didn’t go as planned. She took her BF’s truck to see me lol. After that night I told her to never text me again, I changed my number. I still see her and her new bf in the gym sometimes. It doesn’t look healthy. It’s been 9 months since the initial breakup and about 2-3 months since she reached out and I broke NC. I have my days I think about her but I’m in a much better place now. Started 2 businesses.
@hannahw90hw Жыл бұрын
@@dillonshuffle I appreciate your reply. I don't know anymore if he will reach out or end his rebound any time soon. But i guess ebrryone must have doubts during long NC and yet people do hear from their ex even after 1 year. I'm sorry ur situation didn't work out but it also helps to hear after 9 months you are healed. Thats only 3 months away for me
@edwinmartinez5417 Жыл бұрын
4 year relationship, she detached before dumping through text, and new relationship within a month.. is it still a rebound? She actually worked on herself like gym and starting college again, and it hurts to know she won’t be back. The guys not dumb either, he knows she’s a dime and that she’s fresh out of our relationship and will do everything to keep her plus she doesn’t like being alone so they’re gonna stay for a long time imo :/ moving on feels possible 5 months in now contact now, but i still want her back.
@kr642 Жыл бұрын
I feel that same fear. My ex doesn’t like being alone and I think he may hold on to his new relationship longer than it deserves.
@edwinmartinez5417 Жыл бұрын
@@kr642 I feel like the pros of the rebound are going to outweigh the cons, and therefore making it seem like the ex is going to ride into the sunset w the new one. It makes us feel dumb for letting the relationship slip away
@kr642 Жыл бұрын
@@edwinmartinez5417 sadly, I agree with you. At least we have this lesson to take away from it: maintenance is more important than repair. Good luck to you, either way.