How I Stopped Overthinking

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Overthinking has nearly stopped me starting a business, starting a channel and asking my future wife out on a first date. In this video, I'm going to be going through 5 practical strategies that helped me stop overthinking. Enjoy 😃
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@ZoeysMusings Жыл бұрын

Future wife?! We're going to have a "how to have a productive bachelor party/wedding" series soon 😁🎉So true that social threats get us all wound up. Viewing things as an experiment takes off a lot of pressure because you're focusing more on the process than the end result. I like that mental board of advisors thinking. Great video, Ali 🙂

@abigailmate5155 Жыл бұрын

episode 1, how to date productively 😂😂

@drealdavidj Жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😊

@drealdavidj Жыл бұрын

@@abigailmate5155 that would be a nice topic to talk about.

@buckyducky2581 Жыл бұрын

how to have a productive child making session

@abigailmate5155 Жыл бұрын

@Alice I have to search for it lol I need it desperately

@time4psychology Жыл бұрын

1:17 Facts " the problem is that we struggle with acting too slow because we are stuck in our heads trying to overthink all the time " Thank you Ali

@m.vignesh3186 Жыл бұрын

Me overthinking while watching this video^

@khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

😭😭 same

@jessiej5765 Жыл бұрын

Me loool the struggle is real 🙈

@COMMENTER_XD Жыл бұрын

Same

@Robert-qm4dm Жыл бұрын

Same problem😂

@Sariimura Жыл бұрын

😂😭 Inception of the overthinking

@yousr9847 Жыл бұрын

“Good is better than perfect, because perfect is never done”

@kitokid86400 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the excellent tips, Ali! 0:33 - What is Overthinking? 4:32 - Thinking in terms of "Experiments" 5:48 - Thinking in terms of "Expected Value" 7:58 - Fear is Your Compass 8:52 - The Foundation of Consistent Action 10:49 - Mental Board Advisors (MBA)

@iMak01 Жыл бұрын

The commenter we don't deserve: saving the day with the chapter outlines. Ty sm!

@ThreeTwentyTech Жыл бұрын

The best way to stop overthinking is understanding that no amount of overthinking will lead to positive results. In fact, all it will do is cause more stress and anxiety for yourself, more likely leading to the problem only getting worse.

@channiedhillon Жыл бұрын

Worry will not end worry.

@jamesis360 Жыл бұрын

Good one

@JanetLee-wh1if 11 ай бұрын

Now I'm overthinking about how much overthinking is too much .. and what is the desired result of stopping the overthinking

@QamarAftabVohra 11 ай бұрын

Gn CPCb

@Fahodinho 8 ай бұрын

wow omg how did i not think of that. thank you for solving this problem.

@FinancialShinanigan Жыл бұрын

"Perfection is the enemy of process" Hope this quote makes sense, I didn't think too much before typing it

@channiedhillon Жыл бұрын

Progress

@varunmahajan8703 Жыл бұрын

This happen with me

@roselinededua Жыл бұрын

Fear is a compass! I’ve never thought of this that way but I think it’s brilliant

@lailafayed9743 Жыл бұрын

I received the notification just after finishing writing my daily morning pages where I made a promise to my self to stop over thinking and start the project I wanted to start a month ago. And because of over thinking I kept procrastinating and telling myself I'm still not good enough and I need more time to work on the project, despite knowing that I only get better when I do a certain thing multiple times, but I was afraid of starting anyhow. Thank you so much for this video, it gave me a huge push and made me realize that I won't gain anything by over thinking. Thanks again ☺️☺️

@manishchitre5130 Жыл бұрын

Awesome! Having been suffered from anxiety I know the root cause of it is overthinking to get to the exact outcome when in turn we actually don't have control over our results.

@khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

I’ve been an overthinker my whole life too so it’s really cool to see someone I look up to discuss this and explain how to move through it. I’ve been talking myself through these moments of paralysis but these tips seem much more helpful so thank you! I’ll give them a try 🙏🏽

@avidhossanmansur9830 Жыл бұрын

You are everywhere!

@mondler1366 Жыл бұрын

I literally see u everywhere

@Tejaswi-oo9vy Жыл бұрын

Yeah u r everywhere girl!!!!!!

@niyatsiyum4774 Жыл бұрын

@@avidhossanmansur9830 so are you lmaooo.

@k4rim799 Жыл бұрын

Check if you have adhd.

@SpawnPoiint Жыл бұрын

This is very valuable advice. It’s easy to overthink and completely lose track of your end goal. This can be detrimental to your future. Thanks Ali!

@vergil2 4 ай бұрын

I overthink the things that dont matter and dont think enough about the things that do. Im stuck in a miserable loop socially

@RCB1823 Ай бұрын

That's the exact problem I'm facing 🤦🥲

@kalam_29 Ай бұрын

What’s the solution for it?

@vergil2 Ай бұрын

@@kalam_29 stoicism is a good way to help. Ive been feeling better after learning some stoicism (im like 30% better im getting there) Stoicism requires dedication to learn so unless youre serious

@aminiacreativedesign2700 Жыл бұрын

Hello Ali! I've missed your chill videos that start like this... You walking in, with a mug, seeing the plants and such. Thank you Ali for this... This truly feels like hanging out with a pal in the living room chatting it up about personal experiences a.k.a. Overthinking

@zohalarbabzada9654 Жыл бұрын

This video came at a perfect moment where I've gone down a spiral of overthinking. This video and these comments have helped!

@alifarhat5193 Жыл бұрын

Love the way you formatted this video where you are just causally walking around as for me it sort of helps me stay in tune with the video. The idea of expected value is something I'm going to definitely try to implement because looking back I think if I had use this idea in the past then I would have done a lot more things that I currently have. Thank you !

@jamiekoh6113 Жыл бұрын

Ali, you always make the perfect videos when I need them most. I've been dealing with bad anxiety after closing new deals that put me in the best monthly financials I've ever had. However, I do client-related work so everything can go away instantly if I'm not performing well enough. It's really frustrating, like I feel incapable of relaxing and needing to work 24/7 to help me feel comfortable I'll wake up with a good monthly income still.

@kairitukeeru Жыл бұрын

As usual, Ali brings the gold. I've gotten so much value from this channel I can't believe it's free

@imrankhanmac Жыл бұрын

Usually I watch subscribed channels whenever I am free. But now I have made it a habit to watch yours daily. Sharing with friends and family as well. Thanks. You are awesome bro

@lamya9168 Жыл бұрын

Ali, you one of a kind! My personality changed since I discovered your channel👌. Thank you.

@alimariwankamal1937 Жыл бұрын

The one about experiment really resonated with me because I do it already. Whenever I do it, the results are very wonderful

@theaburtofamily9398 Жыл бұрын

As per usual, your videos always show up at times I need it most. Bravo!

@sonu5002 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Ali ! ❤️ I really appreciate every single word you said

@Dara-Favour Жыл бұрын

Really love the new style of video production I can see your growth mindset, keep it up Mr Ali 👏🏾

@srohitthakur Жыл бұрын

Man thank you so much for the video and the way you explained and helped me to get over it!! thank you so so much! I am pretty now, I will not overthink about getting started with my business now!

@The_Reductionist Жыл бұрын

Really enjoying these new walking around the office videos. seem a lot more chill - less educational vibes and more 'friend giving you advice' vibes

@okokbyebye273 Жыл бұрын

omggg this is my biggest problem. today when i was overthinking so much i thought i might have a psychosis episode, i thought to myself about how this problem messed up my mind. AND now i came across this video!!! this is defo a sign of the universe. thank you Ali!!!

@mehditate Жыл бұрын

I always wanted to start a KZfaq channel and kept overthinking it to the point that I never started until 3 months ago. Now i am glad I’m in the space 🙏🏽

@OliviaHarrison731 Жыл бұрын

I loved the background music and feel to this video, it was very calming and great to help keep me in the present moment. It was also great advice but I already knew it would be :) thank you!

@RacetasClub Жыл бұрын

Brilliant video as always, I will now make sure to try and not overthink everything you said, top notch :)

@iwillgetayorkie3262 Жыл бұрын

I love this so much ❤️ ive always overthinked about contributing in class and tis has made my grades be average but now im not afraid, im smart anyways

@jellystrawberry9183 Жыл бұрын

Ali, your videos have been FIRE lately!! Keep up the good work, sending lots of love!

@carmenmaria.sp.br. Жыл бұрын

Your videos are incredibly dynamic even when the subject is overthinking. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

@Akta Жыл бұрын

I can’t even imagine you being an overthinker because of how chilled you are (vs me being super neurotic and overthinking everything) so it’s good to hear you talk about this 😊 also future wife, that is so cute 🥹🥹

@HollyJaneYT Жыл бұрын

Good golly, I needed this. Great video, Ali. Loved the chill vibes, really felt like having a chat with a friend!

@JoyceKao Жыл бұрын

love the tips! very similar to the book "the courage to be disliked" which speaks on a lot of these points

@robjorgit Жыл бұрын

started to build my channel and indeed i notice my own overthinking on not only subjects but what to include and not to include in a video. did just release video that did better then expected. happy with that.

@zac99991 Жыл бұрын

The walking around was great, a dynamic change was nice, like to see how this change pans out.

@lucam7790 Жыл бұрын

Thankfully, KZfaq reads my mind and browser history so I can get recommendations like this. Just what I needed. In under 15 minutes. Thank you.

@reemked1908 6 ай бұрын

Fantastic advice! I just applied it 2 mins after I listened to the video. I was so apprehensive about a job role that I might be considered for. It was completely out of my comfort zone and experience. But then I thought it could be a great Experiment! Suddenly my anxiety got replaced by curiosity!

@shivanibhargava6607 Жыл бұрын

Future wife!!!!! I’ve been celebrating all your milestones through the years and look up to you as an elder brother, and this makes me so happy from the core of my heart ahhhh a massive massive congratulations to you and her Ali! ❤️

@Prin.c24 Жыл бұрын

Watching a single video every week is amazing 🌻

@mcmaschio Жыл бұрын

Insane Production quality as usual Ali 🔥💯 Inspiring stuff 🔥 Much Love ❤️

@mrnobody3665 Жыл бұрын

Exactly why we follow Ali. Content is so pragmatic and applicable.

@kendrick1410 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely obsessed with your channel and wtf! This video was amazing 😭

@galateamiscelanea Жыл бұрын

I feel very inspired by you, I have been struggling with things inside for a long time, this year I separated from the person I loved the most in my life and I am trying to change

@galateamiscelanea Жыл бұрын

I left my studies at 17 due to anxieties that I had due to previous insecurities and abuses,I try to fight again but I'm scared

@BortPimpson Жыл бұрын

Thinking of decision making as a sort of EV really helps to put things into the perspective of possibilities of positives rather than the negatives. That actually helped me a lot today.

@abfinances Жыл бұрын

Keep making these informative videos because they really help me & everyone else keep their mental in check💙💙💙

@samk_jg Жыл бұрын

I really need that , thanks alot for putting that up !

@AyeshMedic Жыл бұрын

Amazing Content! Now I'm never gonna lag cuz of overthinking, like I did today. I love that Fear is your Compass part because I always thought it the other way around. I bet you found ways to keep your audience interacted with your video hence the walk. But your videos are always Interactive. Amazing to see you Grow! -Ayesha from Pakistan (Started my Med Channel, inspired by you)

@mohamedaakil8123 Жыл бұрын

Thnkz brother that's really helpful to me. Bcz last few days I'm over thinking a lot about my higher studies this give me a relief 😌 thank a lot for that ❤️

@apl7090 Жыл бұрын

Great to see you with life changing thoughts 💜

@drdentrepair5530 Жыл бұрын

Thinking in terms of its an experiment is GOLDEN!

@sahithakarapitiya Жыл бұрын

This is very timely and one of the needed topics

@nonisoul Жыл бұрын

I like the idea of "Experiment", it really removes all that pressure. Thanks!

@incianali Жыл бұрын

Amazing video Ali!!! Thanks for the tips. :)) Along with treating things as experiments, sometimes treating them as checkpoints in a game is also helpful.

@morningstar4816 Жыл бұрын

My man this is just what I needed

@bsewall 5 ай бұрын

Great information and I love this conversational filming style. It's very engaging!

@hugueneaufontus732 Жыл бұрын

I love your videos, Ali! Thank you for inspiring me!

@akinjude Жыл бұрын

Thanks Ali, you're really loaded with wisdom 😘

@BeingIntegrated Жыл бұрын

Hi just want to say that many times ruminating is emotionally driven… there can be an uncomfortable feeling and our mind jumps in to try to either make us feel better or dwell on that feeling and feed more into it. So shifting from our mind and into our body sensations can actually be really helpful and grounding and even illuminating. When we ignore our feelings our body often starts shouting at us to get our attention, so just listening to what our body is saying, acknowledging the feelings and fears, can be very clarifying and soothing.

@alanCandanedo Жыл бұрын

thank u Ali, theses advices are really great and I will take into account in my future decisions . 😁

@rayandsammy Жыл бұрын

Wow right on time. I am an overthinker and these are valuable lessons. Thank you

@rebeccabeecoaching Жыл бұрын

Beautiful! I also recommend getting connected to body awareness - overthinking is driven by nervous system dysregulation.

@PerfumegirlAdaeze Жыл бұрын

I just couldn’t STOP thinking about where next you’d go to in your studio 😅 I’m definitely distracted by it

@etherprince Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I have found it hugely helpful. Much appreciated!!

@ayshadiyaah7917 4 ай бұрын

I love how candid this video is 💚

@ItsDeveshA Жыл бұрын

Really Great Video Ali-this to me, seemed as a Great Video that I honestly liked and felt like sharing to almost all sorta people; keep creating these sorta great vids man

@FrameCrafts Жыл бұрын

Thank you Ali for this video. Loved it

@doctoryousefpersonalimprov7970 Жыл бұрын

Really it's one of my favorite videos , I like it so much that's why because of you encourage I have opened my self improvement channel thanks bro

@arjunkhandelwal9174 Жыл бұрын

This video really helped me start *not overthinking*

@healthy_palace 5 ай бұрын

Glad KZfaq recommend me to watch this video today! I need this!

@saroz9090 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this!!!

@mgbeats2025 Жыл бұрын

Bro, your videos are amazing! Thank you for what you do!

@theliteraturecoach Жыл бұрын

Emma Gannon's book on Sabotage also explores perfectionism. Through the help of your videos and her book I've finally leaned into the process and started my KZfaq channel!

@mannaphilip8631 Жыл бұрын

it was really helpful for a overthinker like me . especially the idea of experiments is great!!

@Bhagyashreesharmaofficial Жыл бұрын

Thanks Ali for this video... the tips you shared are practical and I am going to implement this for my content on my youtube channel. Because even I overthink when I have to post content on KZfaq specially the topics which are not trending but which i love to make

@scottwible1532 Жыл бұрын

Great ideas. I also like to use fear setting, as described by Tim Ferris, to pull the trigger on scary decisions.

@psychicmasteredwin8562 Жыл бұрын

Great video, Ali. Blessed Be

@stephaniakossman2923 7 ай бұрын

Always explained is such a clear way 😊 Love it! ❤

@nipun_surnilla Жыл бұрын

I see that Ali is trying to move around in the video which makes it more interesting! Ali had tweeted a typeform for suggestions and I had suggested that moving around and changing the background will make the audience wanting to watch the video... Happy to see a change!

@himanshuhimansh1447 Жыл бұрын

GREAT WAY OF EXPLANATION,ALSO AWAITED TOPIC DISCUSSED BY YOU TODAY

@annaforanna595 Жыл бұрын

I love this new filming type

@theIndividualStar Жыл бұрын

This talking while walking around style is working magic 👍

@legendofchrono 4 ай бұрын

I'm making some changes recently and taking some (what I perceive to be) risks. I've never been happy about overthinking and paralyzing myself out of doing something, it's always made me feel worse. There hasn't been one situation I can think of where I've backed out of something because of fear or overthinking and been like "Man, I'm so much better off!". This was an incredibly helpful video. Thinking in terms of experiments and positive EV kind of blows my mind a bit. I've also recently heard from others how fear of something generally means that's the thing you want to be paying attention to, not running from. Awesome video, thank you.

@farkhadof6500 Жыл бұрын

thank you for everything 🙌

@epickid1064 Жыл бұрын

I am only in year 8 and I feel motivated by you to work hard and go to cambridge.

@rockabillyrevolution Жыл бұрын

timely video for me Ali many thanks!

@cristinalee3138 Жыл бұрын

1. Treat new experiences like an experiment 2. What is the worst that can happen if x doesn’t work out vs the best that can happen if it does 3. Over thinking is okay as long as it’s on top of consistent action (back 2 basics)

@KinnalaO Жыл бұрын

Overthinkingky good production quality, great job everyone in the team! Starts to look like an apple show 👌

@roselinededua Жыл бұрын

I’m excited for today’s video

@sahi_loch Жыл бұрын

Most of us hinder from expressing our creativity and getting head-on to many things due to overthinking. Managing overthinking benefits us in many ways. Ali this topic is timely. Undoubtedly this will resonate with many of us in the audience

@randtard Жыл бұрын

Hey Ali, long time viewer here, and I have really been enjoying the content lately. Cheers

@kaijukingz5446 Жыл бұрын

Ali my take on overthinking is whatever is going on or is going to happen is just for a short period of time and it ease my stress and helps me stop overthinking

@LaughingOutLoudMeme Жыл бұрын

This is what I've needed 😭

@gavinbrinck Жыл бұрын

thank you ! you're amazing *peace*

@nattynoodlenutkin Жыл бұрын

Are you reading my mind? I was literally sat here thinking I need to work out how to stop overthinking when your video popped up. I need to watch intently now! Thank you!

@markzuckerberg7043 Жыл бұрын

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@shinthantwinminthu Жыл бұрын

My biggest inspiration ever 🙌

@TheCreatorsAttorney Жыл бұрын

Hahah. Love the wink Ali! I had to go back to catch it. You’re so clever and congratulations on finding her!! ❤️

@simonwalton8434 8 ай бұрын

Really nice advice I’ve been in the struggle for so long without realising it until I started talking about the thoughts I was having I really didn’t know I had a problem I will for certain try the board of advisors idea I love I thank you for making the video