Real talk

Thank you for sharing what you’ve been through! proud to see you made it out stronger than before! I broke up with my ex one year ago and now he is literally blowing up my phone black mailing me , threatening to leak personal info to my friends and family. I told him I would get a lawyer and restraining order but he still won’t stop…

Girl. So proud of you to share your story and I hope you are far away from that trauma and abuse. I have a version of your story so know that this is out there happening to many people and have faith that you are not alone.

You are such a strong, brave, and inspiring woman, not only for seeing the bad pattern and getting out safely but also for sharing your story with us ❤

That's absolutely appalling that you experienced that. Best wishes and strength.

Laura E - that's hard to read. But I'm glad to see that you moved on. I don't know anyone like this but it's handy to know so one can watch out. I worry about my teens entering a relationship that has negative components like this. Did people close to you recognize/realize his controlling tendencies?

Not just women

@@pauloakes6952 you’re right, I should have said it happens to more people than we think

@@swmrgirl9979 It's okay I get what you meant.

Yeah... I will probably pass this movie for this very reason. It hits too close home :( But I really hope some other people will see it as a warning soon enough.

50 shades without the bs

Very well said. This extends to cognitive dissonance and becoming an extremist, political or otherwise in their world view and of family/personal relationships

do u realize that u have the whole responsability of not leaving him before? it is really easy to blame the rest and not assume that the only person that u really can control is you.

Good luck with that. Her friends will be the ones encouraging her once she's decided to divorce you.

@@JakeBor I mean, good? That's what friends are for. Should he want his fiancé to only be with him because he didn't let her out of his sight or spend time with other people? Things will work out between them, or they won't. That's life. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Just enjoy the time you have with people. Not all relationships last forever, that's fine, doesn't mean they don't have value. If things stop working, or people change, it's okay for the relationship to change too. It's a good thing. Why would anyone want to stay married to someone who no longer wants to be with them?

@@Lurklen No. Not good. It's a sin to encourage another to sin, even if they're a friend.

@@JakeBor I mean is divorce a sin? In which religion? Who was talking about sin anyways, he was talking about supporting his partner and you brought up divorce. But okay lets get religious. You know what else is a sin? Self righteousness and selfishness. "Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4" If she's unhappy, why should he make her stay? Because it pleases him? How selfish. Who are you to judge the pain or blessings of others. Her friends putting her needs above their own concerns is the very opposite of that. You know what else is a sin? Fear and fearmongering. "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10" What good are you putting into the world by trying to taint this person's life with fear? You think you're serving your God by spreading these ideas of the worst outcome to strangers just sharing some part of their lives? Sounds like for someone of faith you're living in fear dude. Another one? Okay, how about pride. "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” ~ James 4:6" "Everyone who is arrogant in heart is an abomination to the Lord; be assured, he will not go unpunished. ~ Proverbs 16:5" This guy is talking about how much he cares and trusts his partner, about the way they try to ensure the welfare of their relationship, their mental wellbeing, and you have the pride to think you know their life better than them. Who are you? What gives you the right? Here's two more for good measure. Gossip and Judgement. "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~ Ephesians 4:29" "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. ~ Proverbs 20:19" and "So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. ~ Romans 14:12-13" It sounds like if you're worrying about sin, the first place you should look is in the mirror. Me, I'm not religious, I don't pretend to be. So I can judge all I want, and I'm saying you're bit of a wazzock, and you should keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say. Take care!

@@Lurklen Too long didn't read.

That's the damn of it. My ex thought after everything he was totally innocent and that he didn't do anything wrong. It was all my fault. I remember him saying to me "you forgive me, right?" Like no buddy after everything you did?!?! Get the f out.

This.

Me too. I felt my heart try to climb out of my mouth watching this. Won't be able to see the full movie.

Me too!

Me three. It’s been 20 years. I am good, but I could feel myself sinking just watching the trailer.

She's really good on season one of "Love Life" on HBOmax

"what am I gonna do without you my beautiful cow"

@@Cashley22 🤣🤣🤣😃

@ Dee Cohen, I'm glad you got away from that person, I will pray for you God loves you

Not all men are like that. You deserve love and to let yourself trust again.

Nobody “makes you” leave a partner of twenty years unless you are literally being taken hostage with a gun to your head.

@@self-publishinghelp8596 In a way you are right but it also shows that you have never been in the grip of a narcissist and how powerful their will can be over your own free will. My ex of 20 years has always been one of my best friends over the years and twice when I moved, he and his partner also moved to be near me. They are my direct neighbours now. I had many reasons to leave him other than the influence of my narcissist, years of domination and control and refusal to have children wore me down so meeting this guy just pushed me over. I cannot regret anything I've done as today I am in a fairly good place, alone since 2006 by choice.

@@JainaTargaryen Love thyself ! I have dogs and honestly they don't hold back, are never grumpy, are always up for a cuddle and don't tell me that my ass is big in these jeans !

@@self-publishinghelp8596 Stephanie is right in her answer, what you've just said is what normal people that do not know about what narcisists are able to do say. Until you know how to detect them and get out as soon as possible, is very easy to fall under their influence and "charm". Once they get you is very very difficult to escape. I'm glad more and more people is learning about these kind of behaviours and that movies like this can rise awareness into the colective consciousness.

She’s not a good actress my friend

@@gcoleman18 she is. She got an Oscar nomination

@@janniklingnau6875 they throw those around like smarties!

She's consistently irritating in everything...

One of my favourite movie ❤

It's such a shame that "healthy relationships" isn't considered an essential part of the education of young people

That is exactly what I was thinking. I saw Sleeping with the Enemy in 1991 and this trailer reminded me of that movie.

lol

What color is the sky in your world, and why would I waste my time, with you.

@@lindaname9413 You have wasted your time with me by replying.

@@EatDrinkAndTravel LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL. RIGHT BACK ATCHA PAL.

And females. We can have sympathy for both. In this case it's a female.

@@snoozyq9576 stop calling women 'a female'. this isn't biology class

ΝΟΤ ALL MEN. Just the toxic , the abusive ones. Abuse can come in various forms and from various people and /or places. It can come from a woman against another woman , from a father to a child, a mother to a child. In this case we have a man and a woman who are in an intimate relationship and the man happens to be the abuser. Simple as that.

@@coach- Well even if they are too dumb to see a person's true nature before falling in love, nothing stops them from leaving afterwards when they do realize.

Let me guess, you consider yourself to be a "nice guy."

@@unkindestcut Ha, no. I'm a prick.

Seriously, you are in deep by the time you realize they have been manipulating you.