Am I Lazy, Depressed, or Burnt Out?
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Жыл бұрынHonestly, I'm not always certain about this question as it pertains to my life. Sometimes I'm like Kati, you're just burned out and you need a break. And other times I can find myself beating myself up for being too lazy or unmotivated and getting stuck into the compare and despair cycle. And then sometimes I'm like Kati are you depressed? Or Kati are you sad in your life right now or sad in general? Or Kati are you simply burned out on life? What is it? Am I lazy? Am I sad? Am I depressed? Am I burnt out? Do I need a break? Let's talk about this some more... because I see a lot of comments with people confusing and unsure what they really are. The truth is we may be depressed or sad and that may lead us to feeling lazy or overwhelmed - but let's talk about what those signs and symptoms are. Because, we can also be so hard on ourselves sometimes, or at least I know that I can, and I hope that this video helps you better understand that just because someone else looks like they're doing X, Y, Z we may be doing a different version of X, Y, Z or our personality type may not act that way.
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@Katimorton Жыл бұрын
Sharing my burn out and depression stories at the links in the description. Sending you all ❤️.
@shakurwonders5216 Жыл бұрын
Thanks. I just feel like i have a hole in my heart that never gets filled however much i try. i didn't grow up with health family. i faced trauma and felt unlovable and probably my social awkwardness is due to past bullying and being treated shitty.
@shakurwonders5216 Жыл бұрын
Hope u feel better Kati
@josieseeger8387 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for how you phrased this. I was having so much mom guilt i have been a single mom since i found out i was pregnant during my second trimester, thats how i realised i had been baby trapped. I also have very strong ADHD and then a pregnant single mom to be at 23 and now im almost 30 and im still doing it all alone full-time and i finished my care aid certification without help and i was feeling guilty for not giving my son 110% of my time anymore and that i was getting snippy and feeling bad that i have no friends that a local my son's god mom comes to visit twice a year for 2 days and i drive 5hrs to get her and 5hr to bring her to our house and this is the entirety of my social life. I guess i was just used to it but couldn't see that it was burning me out because i kept telling myself things like be grateful you dont have his dad in your life, be grateful he is healthy, be grateful that you can scrounge enough to give him every thing he wants i one time ate one package of ramen a day and gave him fresh local fruit and veg for 4 months so i could make a payment plan to get him the bike get really wanted so he could be like grandpa. I guess it never occurred to me that this was not enough to fuel me😅
@SurferJoe1 Жыл бұрын
I've discovered you fairly recently, and I know I'm not the only person here who worries about you. I wish we were all able to give back to you any part of what you've given of yourself for more than ten years. But I know you have access to the greatest support person in the world, which is Kati Morton. You are utterly extraordinary. Re-learn that every day and you'll be fine.
@j0.ZEF-Who Жыл бұрын
enjoy BBQ country
@user-ti3wk6zs1r Жыл бұрын
Am I lazy, depressed, or burnt out? Me: Yes.
@taylorschahn5596 Жыл бұрын
You are the best therapist I've ever had and you're not even my therapist. 😂
@nikkimckay860 Жыл бұрын
Taylor Schahn. I completely agree with you Kati is an amazing therapist caring and supportive very open-minded and vulnerable at the same time she dose such helpful and interesting important mental health video s and also shares her own struggles and life issues with us I haven't had a therapist like her ❤
@Pentax47 Жыл бұрын
this! I feel like these videos are so often perfectly timed for when I need to hear them.
@kenrickbautista6141 Жыл бұрын
I'm never lazy. I just believe I'm either depressed or burnt out, but sadly, nobody, not even my own parents, can see that.
@MonicaAtkins Жыл бұрын
My family is same way, nothing wrong with me to them, talked about getting medicated and they got mad at me.
@talithialee9608 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@brittanywilcox7377 Жыл бұрын
My brother was diagnosed with the most severe form of major depressive disorder there is, and my parents STILL called him lazy everyday growing up. I feel like I have second hand trauma just from that
@kenrickbautista6141 Жыл бұрын
@@brittanywilcox7377 it's like Will Smith says: "Parents just don't understand".
@MalMotorDedo Жыл бұрын
Idk your age nor your parents age, but they don't know everything. They're also behind the curve when it comes to this type of stuff, because, most of the times, older ppl don't really care or even think this is "real". They also may be frustrated w the things that are happening. At the end of the day, it's all in your hands. You don't need your parents validation. Do your thing, if it works, they won't doubt anything you say afterwards.
@user-sf7fm1bi1p Жыл бұрын
I'm burnt out to a crisp, yet I'm not willing to do anything rewarding because it fills me with overwhelming guilt. "How can I do this enjoyable thing when I need to be doing all these urgent/important things I've been putting off for months!?" is what it feels like, and despite me knowing that this makes zero sense because if I don't do anything enjoyable I'll just keep being burnt out and will put off the important stuff for even longer, I'm still not willing to do anything rewarding. It's so frustrating.
@Solonneysa Жыл бұрын
Hey, I can relate. For me, I'll try to do something rewarding, and won't be fully "present" for it, so it isn't restful, and then I'm even more upset that I wasted my time. Something I've tried to do for myself (and yeah it doesn't always work, but it does work most of the time): I have a monthly planner/calendar. It's a private book. I write down 3-5 things I want to get done that day. Sometimes I have more than 5. I pick minimum of 3 to complete. The rest get moved to the next day. I check off each one I complete. It helps me feel of that "I'm not getting anywhere" feeling. Sometimes all I get are "3 loads of laundry, mop the house, cook a meal." But hey, it's something. I did get some things done.
@polinanikulina Жыл бұрын
How about the tiniest thing? Something quick and simple, just enough to breathe in and out. When I went through something similar, watering the plants was something I looked forward to. It had to get done anyway, but I made it a "productive break."
@seekermoonwolf Жыл бұрын
Small things truthfully help the most. I tend to have a checklist of stuff I need to do and I was able to just start with the simplest, even if it was brush my hair in the morning, kinda made it domino into other things.
@user-sf7fm1bi1p Жыл бұрын
@@Solonneysa That's a good idea! I should probably start writing down things again, maybe it'll make me feel like I'm making progress at least. I do usually manage to cook something and brush my teeth on most days, at least.
@user-sf7fm1bi1p Жыл бұрын
@@polinanikulina Well, for me even the thought of doing something is too much to bear, usually, so I have to block out my thoughts with distractions. Tiny things take almost as much effort to start as big things, but feel less rewarding when you finish them, so that usually doesn't work for me :((
@yolandapedraza115 Жыл бұрын
For me, it's just being overwhelmed. Ever since I was little, my parents told me that if I got good grades, that the universities would pay me to study for them (scholarships). And so I got the good grades. I graduated in the top 7% of my class with a 3.7 gpa. Well, I started applying for scholarships just like they always said I would be able to do, but I kept getting rejected for each and every single one. The only one I got was an academic scholarship for 4k a year that I didnt even apply for. So I went to college and I again, graduated at the top of my class 3.8 gpa.. but now I have a bunch of student bebt that my good grades during high school were supposed to eliminate completely. And yall know adults always said that if you go to college, you'll be able to find a good job.. that it's the only way that people find good jobs. Well now I'm applying to job after job after job and getting rejected from every single one. 16 years of hard work and absolutely no reward at all.
@zr1129 Жыл бұрын
I am going through the same thing. Good grades, was involved in academic extra-curriculars in college yet no job.
@krembryle7903 Жыл бұрын
@@stratelite1337 what can you do with SQL knowing person? Having them write various SQL selects for 8 hour straight?
@Jalentheuntold Жыл бұрын
Same and I have a masters :/. I got a scholarship but it was one they give to everyone with good grades and another one was a place I worked and college costs so much so I still had to take out loans. I have a job but I’m not making the pay I thought I would be making. Well I am but the cost of living changed so I’m really living paycheck to paycheck and I hate my job. Love the company but not the work so I’m having a quarter life crisis although I’m 26.
@alannaiscoolio Жыл бұрын
You will. Student debt definitely sucks and you're definitely not alone. Hopefully moving forward you can find a life you enjoy, not one your parents push you towards! I think that's a worthy goal to move toward.
@Heyu7her3 Жыл бұрын
It worked when they went to college, which is unfortunate for us. That's why it's important to lower the cost of school. It's also important to ensure that all high school students have multiple access points to knowledgeable and licensed adults who know the nuances.
@alischi4858 Жыл бұрын
as a therapist specialized in burnout, I love this video and your reccomendations. I would just add one thing: if you are experiencing burnout, the first thing you experience is exhaustion, so you might not have the cognitive energy to start thinking about your situation, identifying the risk factors, looking for solutions, etc... before starting to look for a therapist or a psychiatrist or all the answers you need, please REST. This is the first reccommendation in burnout clinic. Intense therapy can burn you out even more when you're exhausted... please rest first, get some energy back, and then when you have some mental and physical energy back, then go get active help
@karinapena1567 Жыл бұрын
is it possible to be emotionally burnt out? I think I may be experiencing that but I can't be certain. I feel so tired, emotional about a situation, stuck etc... I want to get out of it but I feel so tired!
@realtalk4994 5 ай бұрын
What if rest does nothing?
@user-iv2ms2zq6c 2 ай бұрын
@@realtalk4994you're not resting properly
@Auntmona Ай бұрын
What is rest?
@laurapriedite4951 Жыл бұрын
Why did this make me cry? I was holding it together pretty well. But "do I suck at life?"... I don't know what happened and now I can't stop crying
@KishBish Жыл бұрын
Felt.. I really wish I had made better choices in my youth which would have prevented some of what I'm facing now.. I see others thriving, and I'm like wow.. maybe I do just kinda suck at this 😔🙏🏽
@eRoTiCCrEaTiOnS Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I was crying about this at work on my break literally yesterday. You are not the only one feeling this way. And thank you Kati for this video because I am realizing that I am incredibly burned out from work and my coping mechanisms are putting me in a downward spiral. So, there are two things I need to address 😅
@polinanikulina Жыл бұрын
It's okay to cry, you probably needed to. I can only speak for myself. So for me it's the fact there's something to "hold together" in the first place. Self-doubt and judgement are a symptom, but they're only really helpful as red flags.
@fifteenbyfive Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you've been feeling hard on yourself lately Laura. People who cry, people who are hard on themselves sometimes, those are the kind of people I'd want as friends. A few of the videos on this channel melted my face off. I guess it was the sight of someone else answering profound questions in my life that I could never answer myself. I think though that even asking the right question is all it might take.
@ElinoraMilanesi Жыл бұрын
*virtual hug* Cry if you need to, it's part of healing.
@DrMacca Жыл бұрын
"Am I Lazy, Depressed, or Burnt Out?" Yes
@kazzhulse Жыл бұрын
I think I've had burn out for years, but growing up was always called lazy from my own family... so I never took my needs seriously. I worked 70 hour weeks at times in the film industry, but there was always that voice telling me if I stopped and took care of my needs, I was lazy. Finally said to work I had to do a doctors appointment this week and took the time for me. Took me a long time to learn that taking basic care of my health needs isn't being selfish or attention seeking.. or lazy.
@RoyaleOpalite 15 күн бұрын
“You’re not unwilling. You’re just unable” Literally made me cry 😭
@Jewels_8404 Жыл бұрын
Listening to you saying how you want to get up earlier and then you came to the conclusion that you’re just not a early morning person. This made me think about how I buy a lot of makeup and hair products because I want to do my makeup and hair everyday and look like I’m put together…. But I’m just not that person who’s going to do makeup and hair everyday let alone once a week. I’ve been trying to be someone I’m not for years now and I’m down on my self because I never accomplish it. I’ve been working against myself.
@Solonneysa Жыл бұрын
I refuse to wear makeup. Especially after all this stuff coming out about heavy metals in products. I used to play with it for fun, and now I just won't touch it. If someone wants to wear it because they love it, then that's great! But if you don't love it, my gosh, Jodi, please don't feel like you need to wear it to look, "put together." If a person thinks you need to wear makeup, and would judge you for it, they aren't going to be happy no matter what makeup you wear, anyway. We spend money we don't have, to do things we don't want to do, to try to make other people (that we don't like) happy.
@jkgarri Жыл бұрын
65 years old and never knew what was wrong with me in relationships, depression, overeating, etc, until I watched your video on childhood emotional neglect. Thank you.
@EscenceOfEvan Жыл бұрын
This is definitely an area I've been struggling with a lot lately. I could time my meals right through the day, go the bed super early, set myself up as much as possible and even be happy about it, and then I'm still constantly fighting myself to get out of bed. It can just be so aggravating trying to wake up and feel good and find purpose, and to be struggling to do that when I set that intention. I could even have a bad dream I don't want to fall back into, but I'll still end up snoozing because I'm just so tired. And I know I struggle with depression. I feel like I'm always fighting myself on whether I'm unable or unwilling. Even if I get the right amount of sleep, going to bed and waking up are the times my mind is talking shit the most. Thank you for this Kati. Your videos always help me gain perspective on these things.
@siennaprice1351 Жыл бұрын
I have Septo Optic Dysplasia, which caused me to be born totally blind and it caused a few other things. I’ve been told that I was lazy because I can’t find a job. A lot of places in my area don’t have the resources for blind people, and that’s why I don’t have a job. I’ve been told that I’m just using blindness as an excuse. In other words, I’m hearing, “get a life. Oh, you’re blind? Cry me a river. You can still get a job.” Which some of this may be true, what people really need to realize is that there aren’t a lot of resources at places for those who are blind. My dream is to be a musician, which I know I can get that. I’m working on that one.
@Mountain-Man-3000 Жыл бұрын
Holy hell, the people that said that to you need a swift kick in the head.
@elodiepollock7326 Жыл бұрын
That must be really frustrating :( good luck on your musical endeavours!
@venessajoy7970 Жыл бұрын
My heart goes out for you♥️. You don't need to prove your worth by what you do anyway, you are so much worthy of all good things! Do what you love.
@ellebee3998 Жыл бұрын
Your state has a Dept of Rehabilitation for the Blind. They got me a job.
@siennaprice1351 Жыл бұрын
@@ellebee3998 are you talking about Bosma? If so, I’ve been there before. The only problem is, it’s like an hour drive from where I live. And my mom Hass to work throughout the week. But I’ve heard of the hotel that you can stay in. My friend knows a lot about it. My husband and I are both totally blind.
@SurferJoe1 Жыл бұрын
I'm an extreme night person (autism spectrum), and I've spent a lifetime having people tell me that's a wrong way to be, lecturing me: being up and at 'em at seven A.M. is morally superior. When I've worked on staff and needed to be in at eight or earlier, I've been able to do it, but if I'm freelancing I'll gravitate towards all-nighters. One client decided to "teach me a lesson" about this by calling- insistently- at eight sharp every morning for a progress report on work that was not due for days. I had a loud antique phone right by my bed, which was very hard to unplug from my answering system, and this became a severe torture as I had often just gone to sleep and also have really bad insomnia. I asked him to move that call (if it was even necessary) to the afternoon and he lectured me about the virtue of being like him and his wife. He said he would continue to call bright and early, every morning, for my own good. Finally I got the phone unplugged. When I delivered the job- right on time and nicely done- he revealed that since I was missing his wake-up calls he had given the assignment to someone else, without telling me, and I would not be paid. To teach me a lesson. But now that he had made his point, he had more work for me. He was astonished when I declined it, and more so when he brought up future work and I asked him to never call me again. To him, I was a bad apple.
@dustydew Жыл бұрын
You described my life. Thank you for showing us we're not alone.
@SurferJoe1 Жыл бұрын
@@dustydew We all have that feeling- 'it's just me, I'm the only one'- and it never is.
@stp8745 Жыл бұрын
that is so stupid of him; how is your sleep schedule any of his business? all he needs to worry about is the work that you give him, it's not his place to lecture you and project his own way of life onto you. i'm sorry you had to deal with that, how shitty.
@SurferJoe1 Жыл бұрын
@@stp8745 Yeah, absolutely. When you freelance work for people, they think they rent your dignity and autonomy too, but also, morning people think they are superior and need to be emulated, don't they? Thanks for reading/listening. It felt good to tell that story to people who get it.
@badcaseofstripes Жыл бұрын
I work freelance as an autistic artist as well and one thing I learned from the very beginning, is that I have to stand up for myself no matter what, because nobody else will. I do not accept unruly clients who want to micromanage me or change the plans without my consent, or people that want to be overly involved in the process that I take, I give them a timeframe and I deliver on said timeframe every time. I have very good clients that have supported me for a long time. I've also had my fair share of clients that are just assholes and don't even appreciate what it takes to do what I do. Or who have rushed me and tried to get me to show them the piece before it's even close to done, so I gave them an unfinished work. I do not accept people stressing me out for money. So if someone comes to me with an idea I just don't like, or I feel I wouldn't be motivated/able to deliver what they want I just decline. Even if I like the idea and can easily deliver, if they treat me poorly I will cut it off immediately and refund them. I have always taken payment in full before I ever even lift my finger for the client. I'm definitely not going to work for 2-4 weeks straight on a piece that someone isn't going to pay for, and I built up a trust system with my clients where they know the kind of work I can deliver and they can trust that I will get back to them with what they wanted and communicate effectively. I hope you find better clients, they are out there! Don't accept poor treatment from mean and nasty people! I'm sorry for what you experienced, nobody deserves that kind of bullying!! The glory of working from home or as your own boss is that you get to dictate your own schedule and nobody can tell you shit! Best of luck.
@Mifititi Жыл бұрын
The lazy part rang true to me, and it's a word that people always view in a negative light. I like how you brought up the "why". Why am I being lazy? Why am I unwilling to do things? I never thought about the reasons for it, but it seems like that is exactly what I need to do. Thank you for that suggestion!
@capdan68 Жыл бұрын
I'm severely depressed, unmotivated and lazy. I just can't find anything inside me that I care enough to make an effort to achieve anymore. It's over for me and there's nothing to look forward to.
@lauramarzen7081 3 ай бұрын
I'm the same way..i can't afford to enjoy anything and have no interest in " free" things like libraries..i wake up to the same brick wall everyday. just wanted you to know you're not alone❤
@polinanikulina Жыл бұрын
The definitions were really helpful! Growing up, laziness wasn't a feeling or a behavior, it was a character flaw. So I didn't recognize my burnout until I couldn't function because it didn't make sense: I was motivated and I liked the things I studied but undiagnosed ADD made me do loads of extra inefficient work. I only recognized the depressive stage because that's what I knew from biology class.
@laurawallace8227 Жыл бұрын
This made so much sense to me! I had a similar childhood
@sunflowerfields4409 Жыл бұрын
I have found that when there are a lot of things that overwhelm me, it's not just ONE thing, it's everything all together. If it were one of those things by itself, (and nothing else were going on) it would still be overwhelming, but wouldn't send me spiraling out. Suddenly, nothing makes me happy. It's SO hard to juggle so many things at once. Thank you for differentiating between unwilling and unwanting.
@robertstanley9633 Жыл бұрын
Oof! Literally me earlier this year. I realized a change in my body and energy, I was no longer motivated to go to the gym and do all the upkeep I did previous year. It feels like the five stages of grief. I finally came to an acceptance stage where I prioritize rest more ( Rest Is Resistance ) and that my body will go through some changes, but to be at peace with it. Anywho, thank you for coming to my TedTalk lol smh
@angelcollina Жыл бұрын
Weirdly sometimes I feel like if my problem is a problem that lots of people have then it’s… not valid? in some way? Like I’m feeling burned out at work (pharm tech) because I’m just not making the money I need to to make ends meet. But I feel like everyone is dealing with this to some degree and it makes me feel like “See… I just gotta make it work then!”
@kristinyaekelnegley3978 4 күн бұрын
It’s hard to balance everything in life. There is so much. And if we don’t take care of ourselves, we will get burned out, and then we really won’t be able to do more. I wish the whole world would just slow down a little.
@oksanacrane8644 Жыл бұрын
Also make sure you don't have a sleep apnea. Lots of people have lack of energy, depression and other symptoms because of sleep apnea.
@davewallace5008 Жыл бұрын
I am truly burned out; coming from a violent upbringing, leaving home at 14 to live on the streets. Then getting a 'normal' girlfriend who understood me, we are still married 40+yrs on. I started plastering and had to labour for two plasterers mixing by hand, no machines. To say it was hard work would be a gross understatement! I worked hard every day for 4 solid years before I became a plasterer and then I mixed for myself and laid it on the walls ceilings. After a year or so I managed to get a labourer but he was useless and did not want hard work, just the money, so I got rid of him. Eventually I managed to get a team running with 2 plasterers and three labourers where we would go onto large constructions and take the huge areas, before leaving and going to another. Over 25yrs past and as I grew older my joints wore, muscles began to stiffen and inevitably I ended up completely knackered. By the age of 55 I was hard pushed to do half a days work and so I began to live on savings, my wife works at the local hospital placing cannulars and pic lines and has never complained as she saw how tired I became. It was partly the work but unbeknownst to me it was my nervous system that had taken a beating during my young life as a punching bag. Depression set in and with it came a whole slew of problems. Now at 65 I find it hard to even think of working let alone considering a job, of which I know I could not hold down. I am tired most of the time, hardly doing anything apart from the washing, vacuuming and so on, which my wife is more than thankful for, as she has been my rock. Being an opioid addict I find myself sometimes thinking about the days when I would clear 100 metres square a day and was paid handsomely for it, but no amount of work is worth your health. My back has about had it what with wear and tear over the years and pain relief via drugs brings it's own problems but in general I am happy as far as I can be. You make some good points and it makes sense when explained properly.
@elodiepollock7326 Жыл бұрын
I have recently graduated university and for the longest time i felt i was in a study burnout with all the distance learning. I feel like i am only now slowly coming out of it and feeling better. Its been a though few years indeed
@smoozerish Жыл бұрын
I had that too.....I was in a slump for months after completing my final exams and thesis....brain just needs to recharge i guess
@melholmes9326 11 ай бұрын
It was extremely comforting to read the comments and know that I’m not alone. I literally typed in “I am depressed” looking for someone to understand this fucking emotional turmoil I’m in. But then I got sad for feeling that way because that means there’s a TON of people suffering too.
@anumohanamoorti6728 2 ай бұрын
One of the most realistic talks i have been witnessed for years.
@anumohanamoorti6728 2 ай бұрын
Mine is burnout. Irritable behaviour. ask questions in your journals. Wonderful tips.
@anumohanamoorti6728 2 ай бұрын
Also lazy 😢
@PouthSaw Жыл бұрын
I really needed this. I've been feeling this way for a while now for the same reasons. A bit of a wake up call that I'm not alone and to be easy on myself. Thanks for posting.
@neidacabreragarcia6353 5 ай бұрын
Thank you Katie, I appreciate all the videos you make for us 😊
@smoaro6451 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so real!! Great thoughts today!!
@MattStylesHK Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this. Every single word was spot on. Thank you so much!
@warrengday Жыл бұрын
Thank you. So needed these distinctions right now. Perfect video.
@emmax0000 Жыл бұрын
I needed this today, thank you! 🙏🏼💕
@carlapowell4864 Жыл бұрын
I am learning so much about myself from your posts and I thank you for everything
@Embtic Жыл бұрын
This timing was incredible. Last week I put in an extended notice at work so I would have time to catch-up while also making sure nobody was blindsided when I left and there’s been so much relief since then
@valptn4334 Жыл бұрын
Just what I needed to hear today.. thank you so much for sharing with us!
@mashella9466 Жыл бұрын
I feel so seen! Breaking it down the way that you did is amazing and makes so much sense! I will be using this as a tool moving forward. Thank you
@laureenkarry2856 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Your "check in" suggestions feel very relatable and doable. And I really appreciate you high lighting for us that we do hold our own answers. It's a matter of practicing checking in, and then believing what we discover (not necessarily believing what our "trash talking" thoughts tell us). Very helpful :)
@maddyfox8545 Жыл бұрын
Loved this Katie. Super insightful. Thank you.
@seven2025 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kati. That was indeed helpful. Just what I needed in fact.
@virtualhadi1153 Жыл бұрын
Katie this is so helpful, listening to you made me realize how do therapists think through stuff. Now I feel much better just by listening to your thought process and seeing how similar it is to mine.
@susanpandolfo764 Жыл бұрын
Great video! Thank you Katie! You always make so much sense of things. Your videos are always helpful and appreciated.
@marcusreins6679 Жыл бұрын
I have been debating about these very three topics for me for the last few months and I want to say thank you so much! This was so helpful and really guided me to a place where I can better pinpoint what has made me feel this way
@lisacrow5762 Жыл бұрын
Kati, that was so honest and helpful. It really was lovely to hear about posing questions to ourselves.
@dat7533 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Very timely for me as I'm going through the same thing
@Dblue7753 Жыл бұрын
I'm the sole caregiver for my mom with mild Dementia and mobility issues and I am in physical pain with my knee so yep I'm burnt out. thanks, Kati for the definition of LAZY because that really helped me realize that i am NOT unwilling to do many things i just can't do it. Hugs from Toronto, Ontario, Canada
@brittanywilcox7377 Жыл бұрын
I love this video, Kati! I personally don't believe there's any such thing as laziness- just low motivation. If by definition, laziness means you're unwilling to do something, that sounds like a motivation issue. Looking into what will motivate someone in a healthy way will remedy this issue entirely.
@marenomorgan 10 ай бұрын
This is really helpful. I find myself getting really easily annoyed when people need things from me lately. Like I feel like I have so much on my plate, and I am so easily frustrated by people's requests. I also find myself struggling a lot with motivation and distraction, and on top of it, I'm realizing all of these mental health/trauma things that I know are really getting in the way of my success. It just feels like the work never ever ends. I am absolutely burnt out.
@morphine496 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for speaking about this. Lately I've found it very hard to do some things and you helped me realise I was burnt out because of how much I was stressing myself to reach the targets at my new job.
@ashleycottone9998 Жыл бұрын
This video puts everything I’ve been experiencing into such a clearer perspective. I’ll be sharing and exploring this with my therapist for sure
@siestaden9098 6 ай бұрын
Grateful to you for this video! Many things became more clear for me... so somple and wise. thanks a lot!
@airdnaxela420 8 ай бұрын
This is so validating. I thank you so very very much for sharing, watching your process gives me a lot of perspective on what I should be accepting of my self as a human being. I hope you find all the fulfilling peace you require and be given all the support you want 🌺
@kyliemyers4951 Жыл бұрын
You explained exactly how I feel & what goes on in my head. Thank you for making me feel normal.
@manikmykie Жыл бұрын
This is everything I tell myself. It's more exhausting to put myself down than it is to do all the tasks I wanted to get done. I resonate with everything and journaling is something I wanted to get back into so I'm happy you mentioned it!
@FatiguedButFabulous Жыл бұрын
Love the combo of personal experience story time and some helpful advice, Kati! I often feel similarly bad about getting up early, even though I have chronic fatigue that makes it impossible to feel rested and mornings are the hardest time for me. Society definitely has us all tricked with that one!
@Eco_Hiko Жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this today. Been feeling so bad because I've not been able to do a lot of things because I've injured my foot. Been so self critical and pushed myself to walk on a foot that possibly has a broken bone. I feel enlightened now but also like a bit of a twit.
@Leaves_Whisper Жыл бұрын
Thank you for uploading this! made myself some checklist templates because of this video :)
@deviatedspectrum Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kati. Your description of laziness (complete with foot-stamping) is really helpful. I often have thought I'm just unwilling - and therefore lazy - but really, it appears I'm just "stuck" and can't get myself going.
@crystalbutterfl Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty. It helps to know that I’m not the only person wrestling this lazy/depressed/burnout issue.
@robertstanley9633 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! You pose a lot of good questions that we as viewers could use. Sending much love ❤
@darwinrojas2948 Жыл бұрын
I saw a video that you made 6 years ago. Helped me tremendously and I'm so glad I found it. I recently got medically discharged from Basic Military Training. I had no clue what my diagnosis was or what it meant, and your explanation helped me understand and bring awareness to it. I will look into my coaching resources this Monday and look more forward to it now more than ever!
@megankoomen6167 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. This got me thinking and cued a great journal session. ❤ You are amazing
@nanpanini 2 ай бұрын
What a very honest and insightful video!!! You’re the best Kati! 🤗
@ItsAmena.Z Жыл бұрын
I don't know why I stopped watching your videos for a while, you're really good and I love the things you discuss in your videos! I actually enjoy listening to you explaining stuff :)
@Loganjoshua414 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all you do! Love your honesty! So helpful!❤
@j03150315 Жыл бұрын
This is SO LIBERATING & clarifying!!! Thank you SO MUCH!!
@colleend80 Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU SO MUCH KATI. ANOTHER SUPER HELPFUL VIDEO. MY WHOLE LIFE I'VE BEEN FEELING HORRIBLE FOR BEING LAZY AND WEAK. NOW, I KNOW THAT I AM ON THE AUTISTIC SPECTRUM AND STRUGGLING WITH AUTISTIC BURNOUT AND CLINICAL DEPRESSION 😭💔⛈️
@susanferen3515 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Katie. I needed this today. I'm depressed and trying to do all the things ie take my meds, journal, meditate, take a walk. But it's so hard. I feel like I'm walking through quicksand. I know I'm not lazy and I'm not burnt out. Your video helped me to know how to differentiate.
@Wolfgoddess56 4 ай бұрын
Had a lot of stuff happen in my life. Huge, huge red flags for depression in high school. Never talked about it. Have lived with this for YEARS. finally had enough and told my mom. Now I'm on SSRI's. Hope to feel more like me eventually. Really feel it's important to advocate and speak up when you feel this way. I physically can't cry currently. I feel as if I should but I can't. People always habe an kdea of what depression looks like but it's more about how it feels. I don't enjoy anything anymore and really just want to lay in bed. But I get up and go to work. I have zero problems talking about this with anyone anymore. My past self would never have done this. But I'm tired of being tired and unhappy. So speak up. You're worth it. You deserve happiness.
@koltonjones866 7 ай бұрын
How you described the journal method helped a lot.
@stararrow8645 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I will think about it. ❤
@SunshineSM877 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. This was so helpful. I am a physiotherapist and yes yes I feel so very burnt out sometimes and i have moments when I think maybe I am just lazy. But, now I understand it's just burnout. This was insightful. Just subscribed and going to binge listen on my way to work.
@christopherleathers6427 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video; it has more or less lead me to some much needed insight on burnout. 💚🙏
@ancient87 Жыл бұрын
It's funny you should post this. I have been asking myself these few questions the last couple of months. I really found asking myself questions got me through to being burned out from work. Made me reset boundaries and expectations with my bosses so I could get out of the cycle.
@purplelamington279 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! This video showed up in my recommendations, and it is what I was looking for without realising it. I've been really stressed at work the past couple months and the things I used to enjoy, I no longer do. At first I thought it was depression but ive had depression before and what I have now doesn't really fit that. Your video made me realise that it's burn out, I'm working so hard at work and with my family that it feels like it's never-ending and there's no reward anymore. I think I need a holiday to heal myself because I've been working non stop for a year now
@JoaquinRomolor-hd5lc Жыл бұрын
Thank you Katie, sharing is caring I am not lazy I just want to take a nap and refresh.
@katyalambo Жыл бұрын
Thanks, I really needed this right now. I think I have been burnt out for years and because I had already been treated for anxiety and depression in the past figured it was the same thing and was treating it accordingly (including medication). I stopped taking the meds a couple months back when I realized I’m not depressed I’m just exhausted by everything. Over the past three years I’ve lost all my local friends and social outlets and have been becoming more and more isolated speaking pretty much only to my partner and sisters. I’m currently on leave from work trying to sort this all out and remember the person I used to be, but am often faced with those negative thoughts telling me I’m just being a lazy baby. Anyway, thanks again for making this video and helping to remind me I’m not a complete failure, I just need some time to rest and reset ❤
@martynlegg1042 10 ай бұрын
Thank you, very helpful. You have a very special gift!
@johaniopperman 10 ай бұрын
Wow. Thank you. This opened my eyes to a whole new way of looking at myself and the way i react to situations. I too, will now start asking myself questions. I used to journal from two 'voices' me and then my 'other' me, if that makes sense. I would have full conversations with myself figuring stuff out
@jinetrivera6653 11 ай бұрын
I like listening to you. When you say nobody has to tell you what to do to feel better. Because things don't work that way. They have no idea how or why you feel certain way. Sometimes they don't even care. That is very sad coming from your own family. Thank you.
@Kat-xi4ef Жыл бұрын
love your videos and honesty. I hope you're doing well Katy. I'm feeling burnt out and depressed every day... Taking up artistic school and working till 7pm turned out to be too much :(
@pubculture Жыл бұрын
After finishing my theraphy I took a break from tour videos...I came back recently because what you're doing IS HELPFULL❤ and your videos make me feel less lonely 🥰 I appreciate you 🤗
@Sesso20 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kati, this video was just what I needed, very much to the point. Also the way you have made a point for each, was wonderful. I think I was a little burned out in my last semestre in college, because it was just so much work to do. And I didnt even have time during the semestres because I had also some courses there and then I was sick, three weeks. Wow. And now that I got no real rest and the new semestre started, I got to see my peers a little less and so on, I see whyI got sad and slowly spiraled that depression route. But past-me was thinking all the time "Nooo, you are just lazy!! Get up, there is so much time left for stuff to do". Yeah. Not doing that this time. I just relax, go in slowly into the semestre, not overwhelm myself with courses, keeping my sleep hygiene and so on. Just listening to the sadness and struggles, giving myself some hugs. I really nailed that tough last semestre. I should be proud. 🥰 I hope that you can soirt out your thoughts further and I will try to get into regularly journaling again. Thanks for the helpful reminder. Wish you the best!
@annamay2152 Жыл бұрын
I have been asking myself that question for a while now. I found this video very helpful. Like you, I am still trying to figure it out, although you did help clarify some of the questions to me. Thank you for the video.😊
@kikaurban2466 11 ай бұрын
I can relate to you so much. It is totally me. Thanks for sharing. It does help a lot. Now I know not to beat myself up if I don't feel like to please someone. I can put myself first and rest. It is so freeing! Thank you.
@pmbluemoon Жыл бұрын
It's amazing, I was just thinking about this before I signed on ✌🤯 As for the therapist/metal illness thing, I think that someone that has been through some sort of life hiccup all the way to a crisis makes a better therapist because they understand more instead of just reading it in a book and applying said routes of treatment. Books are great, but experience (unfortunately) leads to better understanding. I wish none of us had to go through any of these things of course! My mind went to "I have a depression cupcake with burnout frosting and lazy sprinkles on top." I hope you're enjoying your new place! Congrats! 🥳 Thank you for this, I never thought about separating them all out like this.
@magdaluvshummers2668 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kati. 💕This was very helpful & informative. Sending much love your way from L.A. ✌
@justv3289 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed it.
@caddyman7725 7 күн бұрын
This was pretty interesting. For nearly a year now I've been struggling to figure this out. I used to enjoy working on and driving my old cars and working on my model planes, but now all I do is go to work, come home and eat and watch TV. I still do minimal chores as needed around the house, but that's it. I got a promotion at work in June last year to manager and I think it's stressed me out so bad I now have depression. Maybe I'm not lazy.....
@deonna_m Жыл бұрын
I love your shirt! I also struggle with feeling lazy for not being a morning person. My natural rhythm is to sleep until 10am or 11am and I often feel ashamed to share that with anyone. The best I can do is 9am and I don't feel as sharp and often don't get as much accomplished unless it's routine things like house chores (things that don't take a lot of cognition). I also have some issues with reward and effort. I've often sacrificed financial rewards for other types of reward, particularly personal satisfaction and positive connection with others. Thank you for your videos! I find them very helpful!
@rachaelharper3778 Жыл бұрын
I have iron deficiency which means I am tired all of the time (couldn’t get up everything felt impossible (even a shower). I was so hard on myself as I wasn’t going out. Going out going to appointments makes me feel more incontrol of my life progress. It felt like it was the point where I was going to die cuz I couldn’t do anything. I went to an appointment today and went for a walk walked by people which I had a massive amount of anxiety but by observing people realise that no one is really looking at you they are all doing their own thing ( I feel rlly awkward doing that. Srry thins is long 😂 thank you for this video Kati ❤❤❤
@mommyteacher2961 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful; thank you! I am definitely burnt out from teaching. I don't know what to do, but I do spend many lunch breaks and drives home crying. Feelings suck sometimes.
@airingcupboard Ай бұрын
That was very refreshing Kati. Very frank. Thanks.
@gabegh1478 Жыл бұрын
It is been a year since I « crashed». This is the worst and the best year in my life. You videos help a lot. I suggest also Mark Manson even if he’s not a licensed therapist. Thank you for your videos, and everything will get back in track eventually 👌🏻
@wordmeaningsforyou 11 ай бұрын
Hi Kati! I find your insights really helpful, thanks for doing what you do.
@bozobarr Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. You had me LOL about trying to find a therapist and whether she would be weird or that you are weird. My heart hurts for you having left California. From where I'm sitting and have seen from you, I think it's been so hard on you. I hope it pays off in the long run - maybe it has for content? My partner, who is a morning person and a run-around-and-can't-sit-still person (very opposite me who is a night person that takes hours to feel ready to go to work), walked in while I was watching this video. She poo-pooed it all because, how I interpret her reaction, this is nothing but a foreign language. She doesn't feel this and when she sees me like this says it's depression straight out. Uggghh
@ColoradoN8CS Жыл бұрын
I thank God that I can have your videos in my life. You are good for my health
@GlasgowKel Жыл бұрын
I slept most the way through the last 48 hrs because I literally tried to get up and COULDN'T. I thought I was lazy but I was literally unable to get up. Thank you for helping me label these needs differently.
@benedixtify Жыл бұрын
Please keep talking to us. It helps those of us dealing with the same issues to be able to empathize. Maybe go through it with you.
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