Thank you for the callout; I hope it's a wakeup call for those who need to hear it. I definitely went through a period of latching onto the "could have been" once I realized that I had ADHD, and how it affected my brain. (Still no official diagnosis, due to the cost and lack of local medical experts in the field of adult ADHD, but it's blatantly obvious to anyone even remotely familiar with the signs and symptoms that I have it.) However, I eventually came to realize that having ADHD does NOT absolve you of personal responsibility. I have a responsibility to do the best I can with what I have now, not with what I could have had. So even though almost every day is a struggle, I refuse to give up. My current mantra is, "Something is always better than nothing." If I don't have the motivation to do a full workout, I'll do one rep. If I don't have the mental energy to practice my arts and crafts, I'll do a single doodle or get out the supplies for my next project. Of course, the upside is that once I do the bare minimum, that's usually enough to get me motivated to keep going. But even on the days where I only do the bare minimum, I let myself be okay with that. Because even the bare minimum is better than absolutely nothing. A family friend once told me, "The rudder can't steer a ship that isn't moving forward." If I'm at least making progress, I'll eventually end up where I need to be. Maybe not as quickly or as smoothly as someone without ADHD, but it will happen.

I watched the Andrew Huberman video 2 weeks ago and it's already changing my life. Now I train my willpower whenever I can and doing things i wanted to do but didn't until now

I've read two of David Goggins books before my ADHD diagnosis so I was reading them through a different lens. I was interested in long distance hiking and Ultras and reading a lot of memoirs about those types of events. Now I see his hyperfocus and determination in high gear as I recall the books. I was experiencing the same type of hyperocus towards long distance hiking, it was consuming me the same way Goggins was focussed on his seal goal and ultra marathon training. I finally understand how it can used to excel at something.

I've read a classic by Dr Ari Tuckman, specifically on the four stages of accepting an ADHD diagnosis. What I've understand is this very simple but empowering thought - "Embracing your ADHD must necessarily come with some form self-responsibility". We have no control over the mechanics of our ADHD brain but we have control over the systems and habits we develop to work FOR our ADHD brain.

The problem is having to collaborate with other people to reach goals and those people expecting more “efficient” ways of doing things which as you know our way might not necessarily be “efficient” but work for us to get things done, again while sacrificing consistency

I so needed to hear this today. I don't usually get stuck with my ADHD anymore but the last year has been challenging.

Dang! You give us one lesson and then you’re like - “and another thing you ADHDers!”.😮 ADHD level progression unlocked! 🤯

Paper and notes everywhere. Seems I feel I must see my life written where I can see it. Don't have confidence to try different things. Like what works for my brain? Striving at 66 to overcome mom's negative parenting. Just stuck.

David Goggins is an animal. If anyone is interested, read Can't Hurt Me...incredible. Also, Living with a Seal.

I’m 56, and diagnosed. ….. this makes complete sense. Learning to ride the mixed emotions will be super important.

David Goggins has an amazing story - his audio book "Can't Hurt Me" is one of the all time best audio books I've ever listened to. It's a combination of audio book and podcast. At various times throughout the reading, the reading stops and David himself comes into the stream and he talks with the narrator to expand upon points, to clarify things and to add so much detail about what he's gone through. It's really unique and compelling way to tell his story and I HIGHLY recommend it. And you're soo right, you don't have to be a hardcore as Goggins is but you can use his principles to achieve things that you want to achieve, even seemingly impossible things.

I got diagnosed in childhood. The hardest thing for me is finding the right medication. (Concerta, Adderal and Wellbutrin haven't been very helpful) I've been stagnant for a few years. (And I'm tired of it) I'm going to continue looking for a better medication. Even if I hit another roadblock. Please keep making videos. You've helped so many people feel heard! :)

Great vid, as usual. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago, and I still get caught in "I can't" mode from time to time. Sometimes for a few weeks. Nice to know I'm not the only one going through it. I've seen David Goggins book on Overdrive/Libby and just assumed it was more advice for neurotypicals. Now I'm really curious about what he has to say.

I am trying so hard to keep myself motivated and do everything, but due to financial crunch I can not take medication nor therapy, and no matter how harder I try some days are so low energy that how much I try I can not do anything, and I hate it.

Thank you for this it’s paramount for those of us who wants to use adhd as our superpower. 🎉

Thank you Caren for posting this video. It comes at a time when I needed to remind myself that the failure associated with ADHD is not the end of my goals and dreams. This video is a good reminder to work with what your mommy gave you. My ADHD gives me the ability and the upper hand to hyper focus (I just have to pay attention to my wellbeing, so I don't get burn out). X

Love your content and new perspective on ADHD! However, Goggins' quote about ADD/ADHD (he also didn't discern between the two) made me wince. Describing these conditions as being synonymous with not being smart or able to retain information and being bottom of the barrel is a harmful stereotype. I know many brilliant people of all ages with these diagnoses who manage its challenges.

YOU ROCK!! THANKS for everything you do!! Appreciate you so much!

Wow. Thanks Karen. I have been thinking a lot about not being a victim and moving forward with my late diagnosis and the positives and the sparkly parts of me and my gifts. Going to check this out. ❤

I need to get past my chronic fatigue syndrome on top of adhd, I cannot seem to be consistent for more than two weeks.

One step at a time, slowly and surely.

great timing. I like the point of getting a job you don't HATE to pursue something you love. I'm getting stuck finding what that job is. I'm stuck and not starting on things I need to

Very helpful insights. This just nails somethings that I've been thinking about, and it connected the dots between them, giving me a clearer path to focus on. Thank you, Carin.

Ma boy goggins 🔥🔥🔥

So very very glad I stumbled across this channel.

Yet again, thankyou. You have been able to metaphorically shut me up and get me thinking positively 😮😮😊....

Helpful but also unhelpful for me. "What if my ideal path isn't about making money? ". That's another big decision I have to make on top of the decision on what to even start, out of the 20 or so options that seem appealing. I can't even choose the first thing. Haha.. oh well

I've been really struggling for a while now and I just want to say thank you so much for making these videos- I really resonate with them and the way you communicate is really clear and inspirational to me so thank you. P.s. you remind me of claire from modern family haha ❤

Thank you! This is truly "juicy" 🙌🙌

(it was hard to find where today's short video came from but fortunately I did 😊... as I will search right away for that Andrew Huberman's episode. Let's go! Thank you. There's also an interesting one about "purpose", with Robert Greene ... I already started David's podcast and I'm... shocked! The first chapter, about learning, is not only exactly as I am but... he speaks about what I just felt like writing here. "I knew my life will be a struggle, and that's why I'm not even trying (about how to read...)". Exactly like me. And the worse, in my case, is that I already tasted the "other side", devouring a book and a half during a whole 15-days period. This will be very good!) Again, this one was very interesting. I don't relate much with that "victimizing" state of "I can't, I can't, I can't". Once, a hypnotherapist defined me perfectly in one word (because I was incapable of finding it). "Resignation". Perfect indeed! Yeah, I might be in-between those states you mentioned (between putting aside the struggles and going manically after a goal). "Today is a new day" indeed (I think Buddhism helps a lot in simplifying the mind) but... I feel I just gave up. For example: I just applied to a Coding/Programming/Software Developer course. "You didn't give up after all", you might say? But I didn't do anything. I just put "fate" in the hands of someone. So, this time... "Universe" answered the call. I don't know what to expect, although I already tried a different course of this subject (and quit). I know it might not go well, as it might turn out to be very interesting. I'm "following the curiosity" conscious that now I have to put in the work. This time there's not even competition... but just me against myself during the process... and I hope it goes well. So I know realistically what to expect (the good and the bad). I hope it supports that creativity of mine. But while David went maniac towards his goal... I'm just resignatingly waiting for it to start, curious and expecting something unknown... as if expecting that Christ, God or Superman land on this planet and save us all 😁. That's a bad way to put it, to put all of the responsibilities on something else. I'm not doing that, putting fate on an invisible entity. I'm not even religious... but... as my resignation implies... I always lacked that drive David had just now. Everyone know about it: that thing that one day... just "clicks" inside us. And magically everything changes, and we turn out so inspiring to everyone. Should I buy a cardiac stroke (that never happens) or a aneurysm because of my sleep deprivation practice once and a while... or most of the times? And then I'd "wake up" (if I'd survive) and change my life. No. I'm not expecting that either. I'm not a believer. I'm just a resigned nobody.

I assume that Andrew Huberman also has an ADHD Brain. He is doing the same thing: He is extremely dedicated to the thing that interests him the most: Neuroscience. I heard some stories about his childhood and apparently he had a turning point in his life, too which makes it even more plausible.

I’m in the assessment phase rn, and I’m terrified that I will NOT be diagnosed because if I don’t have ADHD, then wth is wrong with me and how will I find that out??

Watched the first 2 minutes and thought to myself "damn, I would have been screwed if I didn't watch this video" -unstuck

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You’re so cool. ♥️

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Hi Caren, first thank you for your vidéos. Love thé motivation and positive vibes of yours. I live in France and have an ADHD. But in m'y country it IS not easily known as a disability condition for an adult. So thank you for sharing about ADHD + being a woman + entrepreneur. My turn to share smthg with you and i'd be interested to know what you think about that (if you wants so) : kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jrNlpL2J1rq1Y6c.htmlsi=RVgaoFS2sdGdiMWI Merci

I love the way you talk about adhd diagnosis! The first two minutes of this video are so validating. That "mourning" phase is so real but GAWD am i so over it. Thank you. 🤍